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Champion bachelors Craig and Greg present

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a myriad of topics centering on relationships

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and addictions in the positive lights

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of experience , strength and hope

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. Both have struggled with

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the strongholds of addiction and with relationships

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that went awry , and both have emerged on the

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other side stronger , wiser

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and better prepared to become what they

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once set out to be . You're

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listening to the solution .

1:05

Welcome to the solution . I'm your host , craig Dahlin

1:07

, sitting here with my co-host , greg

1:10

Carter and Josh Goading , and

1:12

we're getting ready to have us a heck of a show

1:14

tonight , and so welcome

1:17

, men .

1:18

Welcome , hello , yeah , welcome .

1:20

We're having a great show tonight . We're going to be talking about

1:22

ED . It's

1:25

not ed , but it's ED erectile dysfunction

1:28

. It's ED is in the house .

1:31

God , I hope not .

1:31

We hope not , hey Well .

1:32

Show on the door . Show on

1:34

the door . That's what

1:37

she said .

1:40

Well we got three guys in a building

1:42

. We don't I'm not really checking

1:44

out ED , but yeah , but we're going to be talking about

1:46

ED tonight , solution

1:50

people , and this is going to be a good one . So

1:53

, guys , let's just start this right

1:55

off . We're going to , we're going to make this a two part

1:57

show . You know , we

1:59

were talking about this earlier and

2:02

we looked at all the info on it and we thought , hey

2:04

, man , we got , we got two shows here , possibly

2:06

three , but we're going to bust it down into two . So

2:09

we're going to talk tonight about when

2:12

it starts , when you notice that erectile

2:15

dysfunction hit you , and

2:17

then we're going to talk about , well , basically , what

2:19

happens after that . A little bit . It's

2:22

about a four part deal . We're going to hit about two parts

2:24

tonight of it , but there's a lot of info

2:26

. There's a lot of info . So

2:28

we're going to talk slow , we're going to , we're going to . We're

2:30

going to go over these points two

2:33

, three , four times , because

2:35

I think they're that important and

2:37

I think the rectile dysfunction

2:40

is something that's really set into

2:42

our culture , it's

2:44

really taken hold and

2:47

it's not good , you

2:50

know , and there's reasons why this is happening and

2:53

Western medicine says

2:56

well , the answer is in a little blue pill

2:58

, or it's in a pill . Well

3:00

, maybe it is , maybe it isn't

3:03

. I do know

3:05

, though , that it

3:07

starts with low

3:10

testosterone . They say Of

3:13

course , I believe that . But how

3:15

does the low testosterone get there ? You

3:18

know , there's various

3:20

ways they're going to say one way

3:22

they're going to say well , as you age

3:24

it says in the books as you age , you

3:26

get you . Obviously

3:29

you do you start to develop low testosterone

3:31

levels . They just say as you

3:34

age . Well

3:36

, there's many of other schools of thought too

3:38

. They say that

3:40

does not have to be that way . Okay

3:42

. Then they'll say well , how do you keep up your

3:45

testosterone levels ? How do you keep them high ? Well

3:48

, us three

3:50

guys hit sitting here right here , we

3:53

know a little something more than that

3:55

, and others do too , but

3:58

I'm just saying I think the answer , I

4:02

think the answer is possibly

4:05

it's not about testosterone levels , but

4:07

it's about do we have too

4:09

much cortisol in our body ? You

4:13

know how's cortisol made , guys .

4:16

Stress that's the first thing that comes

4:18

to mind . Stress , yeah

4:20

, and that's a fat . When

4:23

your cortisol levels raise , that's a fat

4:25

producing hormone . A lot of people don't

4:27

know that cortisol is a fat producing hormone

4:30

. See somebody sit around stressed

4:32

, walking on eggshells for a

4:35

period of time . During that period of time , they're

4:37

probably going to gain some weight , gain

4:39

a few pounds .

4:40

Yeah , Right , you

4:43

know , and the reason for

4:45

being and it was I

4:47

was developed a long time ago when a person

4:49

got stressed if they were being attacked by a wild animal

4:51

.

4:51

Yes .

4:53

You , your body , to respond

4:55

to that stress , to protect

4:58

the body . This

5:00

is there as a protection . Actually , cortisol

5:02

is yeah , so it didn't start as

5:04

an enemy and it doesn't have to be an enemy

5:06

if we learn how

5:08

to handle our stress levels Right . We've

5:11

kind of gotten away from that . Yes

5:13

, and that's . That's a bad

5:16

thing when you get away from handling your

5:18

stress levels , because I

5:21

mean , you know , we're all just like one

5:23

big Mac away from you

5:25

know whatever killing over

5:27

, you know you know , the big thing is

5:29

is is is our diet in

5:31

the United States . It's not

5:34

the best , poor diet .

5:36

Poor diet . I'm only medically obese .

5:39

Yeah , but you know , there's technically yeah

5:41

and there's , you know , there's these cities . There's just so

5:43

much going on . You well , you look at the media , you

5:46

look at television . What do they try to

5:48

pump at us ? You know , crime

5:50

, crime , crime , death , death , death . All

5:52

this stuff , what does it do

5:54

? It raises everybody's stress levels

5:56

.

5:57

Yes .

5:58

Resulting in everybody having too much cortisol

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in their body , which , in men , it

6:03

lowers their testosterone level . Now

6:06

, men have testosterone

6:08

and we have estrogen . Women

6:10

have testosterone and they have estrogen , but

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it just happens to be they have . They

6:15

have a lot more estrogen

6:18

than they do testosterone . We have a lot more testosterone

6:20

than we , than we do estrogen , and

6:23

if we're at the correct levels , we have 10 times

6:25

more testosterone in us than

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a woman does , and a woman has 10

6:29

times more estrogen in them than

6:32

a man does . Just to give you an idea a little

6:34

illustration there . So

6:37

that's what we're looking at . I

6:41

don't think we're looking at a this epidemic

6:44

where the testosterone

6:46

is getting wiped out . I think we're

6:48

looking at a situation where

6:50

the um Cortisol

6:53

levels are just driving

6:55

too high because of stress . Yes

6:57

, the end result is a call

6:59

a limp rhymes with ick

7:01

you know right , okay

7:04

, yep Flaccid

7:07

. That's a way Flaccid yeah that's

7:09

okay .

7:09

Flaccid , that's probably better way , not

7:11

like flaccid , flaccid . Flaccid

7:14

, that's probably a better way of putting it .

7:15

It is , but

7:18

unable to enlarge

7:21

, yeah .

7:22

Yeah .

7:23

Unable .

7:24

And well , let's Greg talk

7:26

about . You know one of the solutions

7:29

to this in Cedar Rapids .

7:31

Oh yes , there's a clinic

7:34

up there . What they do . They do laser

7:37

techniques where they go

7:39

around , you know , treating

7:41

the outside of your organ , the

7:43

male organ , with shots

7:46

of laser and it's supposed to break

7:48

up the , like

7:50

, the little plaque that's inside the blood vessels

7:52

and veins inside a man's genitalia

7:55

, you know , yeah , and that'll promote

7:57

more blood flow because , like , like are

7:59

the rest of our veins and arteries , that can clog

8:01

with plaque . Yep , that can clog with

8:03

plaque down below too . Absolutely

8:06

yes .

8:07

Yeah , there's an instrument called the Phoenix . That's been

8:10

advertised for what ? A

8:12

year or two , or three , I don't know , yeah , yeah , I've

8:14

heard of it , that's something you can use on your

8:16

apparatus too , and it blows out the pipes

8:18

, yeah , you know

8:20

. And safe , wow . Well

8:22

, that's actually something you can

8:24

buy and use at home .

8:26

Yeah , it'd have to be safe .

8:27

Yes , so , and it really has

8:29

some , just a many many good reviews

8:32

, Just imagine loose plaque being

8:34

on the move and going into

8:36

your heart there , I don't know . Well

8:39

, I don't know how all

8:41

that works , totally .

8:42

Yeah .

8:44

But hey

8:47

, at least you wouldn't have ED . Yeah , you don't have to

8:49

worry about that , right .

8:55

Right , you die doing what you love

8:57

.

8:58

Yeah , yep , you're cleared

9:00

for takeoff , but I mean you know

9:02

, right there , that sounds like

9:05

a real , real possible solution

9:07

. It does .

9:09

It does .

9:10

Shoot it with a laser . This is the future . Yeah

9:12

, oops .

9:14

And blew it off . Yeah , and

9:16

also exercise . Yes

9:18

, you can reverse a lot of that stuff

9:21

. You know you can . Just

9:23

a good old cardio workout , you

9:25

know , every , every , whatever other

9:27

day for a good bit of time , and

9:29

you're going to lose some weight . Your body's

9:31

going to get much better

9:34

. Things start to react better .

9:36

Yes .

9:37

You know what

9:39

are some other ideas ? Because

9:42

I think we're right now . We're

9:44

working off the premise that

9:46

cortisol is just it's too high , yes

9:49

, in our bodies , and what that

9:51

does is , when we get stressed

9:54

, that hormone cortisol is released into

9:56

our body and we get too high

9:58

levels of that . That's not

10:00

good . No , it raises , you

10:02

know , we end up gaining weight , among

10:06

other things , and it's

10:09

just not good . But I think that is possibly

10:12

the million dollar word here . I know this

10:15

whole subject , this whole conversation , has

10:17

some famous words in it , and to

10:19

those words that are famous within this

10:21

conversation to me are

10:24

obviously ED and

10:26

testosterone . It's cortisol . Cortisol

10:29

is a big , big word in this conversation . Yes

10:31

, there'll

10:34

be some more coming out and we'll point them out , but

10:37

we're all about getting

10:39

to the bottom of it , because , you know , some

10:42

people shy away from him . The thing that I noticed that's

10:44

been shyed away of the most of and

10:47

I don't want to sound like I'm beating my drum , but the words have

10:49

been shyed away the most from

10:51

his cortisol .

10:53

Yes , you're very subtle when

10:56

we're brought up .

10:57

You don't do you .

10:58

No , no , no . You just hear lifestyle

11:01

change . You know you'd

11:03

never hear why you

11:05

make the lifestyle change .

11:07

Yeah .

11:07

To help lower the cortisol , because , as a

11:09

result of the high cortisol , you

11:13

know , there's all kinds of psychological

11:15

factors . One would be , obviously

11:17

, relationship problems that

11:20

affects intimacy and

11:22

that would make you a little depressed

11:24

. You know , right , that's one of

11:26

them that lowers your self-esteem

11:29

. Right , that would be one

11:31

that would affect your , you

11:34

know , erections , ability to get erections After

11:37

a while you're going to start feeling guilty because you're

11:39

going to remember your past performances or

11:41

not being able to perform in

11:44

difference , you know , usually

11:46

deals with your , you

11:49

or your partner's disinterest . That

11:52

stage fright , you know

11:54

, reluctant to initiate sexual

11:56

contact , because that's very important too , the

11:59

initial to initiate the

12:02

sexual contact

12:04

. You know what I mean . It's stage fright they call

12:06

that . Yeah , yeah . That'd be stage

12:08

fright Like , oh my God

12:10

, I'm going to take my clothes off . And

12:12

for what Is it going to ?

12:14

work this time or not .

12:15

Right , right , I mean , yeah

12:18

, it's crazy . So all that together

12:20

creates stress , which happens

12:22

to be one of

12:24

the symptoms of psychological

12:27

causes of ED . But all

12:29

of those that I just read stresses

12:31

the grandfather of them all , right , yeah

12:33

, because that the godfather

12:35

, because that's all of those will in a turn create stress

12:38

, right , right . And then that's not even

12:40

a mention of pornography addiction , because , like

12:42

that , right there there's , you

12:44

know , courses , as mentioned earlier we talked about

12:47

that in another show causes

12:49

, unrealistic expectations about

12:51

sex itself or sexual

12:53

partners . You know

12:55

, yeah , that's like a guy that I knew several

12:58

years ago . He's no longer with us , but

13:00

he would always go to the strip tease clubs

13:02

and , in effect , is dating , you know

13:04

he . He went to some

13:06

high-end strip tease club and

13:08

so he would compare all the ladies he would date

13:11

With how these high-end

13:13

girls would look like . And it was . They just don't really look

13:16

good . And I had to tell him . I said

13:18

you're , you're

13:20

dating , you're looking to somebody to

13:23

date . You'll want to Date

13:25

somebody who looks like a dancer and prances

13:27

around like a dancer . You know that

13:29

, you know , sort of messes up a lot of

13:31

things .

13:32

Yeah , he couldn't figure that one out . No

13:34

, no , he couldn't figure that out ?

13:35

No , and of course the usual

13:37

.

13:38

I think this girl likes me .

13:39

Yeah , I think this answer likes me keep whipping

13:41

out the money . She's gonna like you all right .

13:43

Yeah , she was smiling at him yeah

13:45

yeah .

13:49

She definitely loves you , yes .

13:50

Yeah , she definitely cares , right

13:52

, yeah , oh yeah

13:55

, it's a great place to go to pick up chicks

13:57

. I

14:00

Know they love you when they look

14:02

at you and smile .

14:11

You stayed with us this far and that shows commitment

14:13

, proving you possess the trait required

14:15

to obtain the solution . Now

14:21

let's rejoin the show already in progress . Obviously

14:25

, right now this function isn't really important

14:27

issue to people because , you know

14:29

us . It can undermine Intimate

14:32

connections and makes people think the

14:34

person doesn't love them or that they're , you

14:37

know , no longer Right viable

14:40

as a couple , or so it's . It's

14:42

deep , you know emotion , it's emotional issue

14:44

. Touchy , a touchy issue .

14:47

Yes , and it's one that can really pull somebody

14:49

down the rabbit hole to can it ? Yes

14:51

, if you're not honest about it right away , because

14:53

, heck , it's probably

14:55

just there's

14:58

, there's solutions to it , you

15:01

know .

15:02

But I think it can often be a symptom of an

15:04

emotional dysfunction . So , yeah , we're saying

15:06

, when there's problems in the relationship

15:09

, then it can . It can be

15:11

symbolized or it can come up as that , as

15:14

as a rectangle , this function . That's just sort of like one warning

15:16

sign . Let's say right of of

15:18

you know maybe some resolved

15:20

issues in the relationship where , if you're

15:23

so so , a

15:25

emotional blockage translates into

15:27

a Blockage

15:29

of sexuality . So we

15:32

it's all kind of interrelated , I think

15:34

.

15:34

I Agree a hundred percent

15:36

. I mean what ? What if you have a bad

15:38

mindset about things in life ? I Mean

15:42

every these thought , the thoughts that

15:44

come into our mind and leave . They're

15:46

going directly , they're going to or through our

15:48

body , and they're you

15:50

mean , that's the way we talk

15:53

to ourselves , the way we do different things . I mean our

15:56

body takes these things on .

15:57

Yes .

15:59

I would think diet plays a big , big part

16:01

. Oh god .

16:01

Yeah , so much that what

16:03

they talk about the high fruit toast corn

16:06

syrup , a lot of foods have that in the

16:08

oh Nasty stuff

16:10

.

16:10

Yeah , well , yeah , and I was talking about that earlier the

16:12

the Metabox syndrome it's . Yeah , you

16:14

know that that when high fruit toast corn

16:16

syrup came into being in the United States , it was the

16:18

mid 60s and and then

16:21

at the same time , well , after World War two

16:23

, you know , they did all of the

16:25

preservatives and on the

16:27

meals that they would send around everybody in the World War

16:29

two . And then that's the pre-packaged

16:31

stuff , that's the meals ready to eat . Yeah , the

16:33

meals ready to eat , very ready to throw in the microwave

16:35

. They are full of nasty stuff

16:38

that preserves them . Yes , you

16:40

know , and there the grocery stores are

16:42

full of that stuff . Yes , and

16:44

that's what's going into our body and

16:47

you know how

16:49

you can imagine what that's doing to people .

16:51

Yeah , chickens are coming home to roost my

16:54

late .

16:55

My late mother she used to like watching that

16:57

show . The biggest loser , yeah , and

16:59

it was really funny , because this guy was went

17:02

into this Potential clients

17:04

house on the show because here I can

17:06

look through your coverage . I need to get rid of some food

17:08

and he's just started grabbing . You

17:10

could hear cellophane crunching . He goes why are you throwing all

17:12

this away ? You're not even looking at it . He

17:14

goes if it's in a package , if

17:17

it's in cellophane or plastic bag , he

17:19

goes there's loaded with preservatives . We're getting rid of that

17:21

. I already know that . Yeah , it just started taking

17:23

them and throwing them away . Yeah , and

17:25

I thought that was so funny that he

17:27

didn't have to look at it . He already knew it was bad

17:30

because it was packaged . He knew package

17:32

.

17:32

Yeah , he knew . Yeah , if somebody

17:34

would just go on , you know you could take your

17:36

. If you would just go on a

17:38

nice salad , grit

17:41

some green salad , some green lettuce , some nice

17:43

green lettuce , and chop

17:45

up a carrot in there , throw the onion , whatever

17:47

you want to do , tomato , whatever

17:49

. If you just did that , you like

17:52

, you know , half of the week . Yeah

17:55

, because of the amazing

17:57

change it has on the body .

17:59

Yes .

18:00

Amazing , and they're so . Our

18:02

bodies can change really quick

18:04

if it gets fed the right stuff .

18:06

Yeah , and even frozen vegetables won't lose

18:08

its nutrients . It keeps the

18:10

majority of my thing done this kick lately to where

18:12

? But is it ? Birds

18:14

eye makes it there's a have

18:17

these small bags

18:19

of mixed vegetables that you can microwave

18:22

it right in the bag .

18:23

Yeah .

18:24

Which is very handy you can just microwave it

18:26

, so sometimes that's my meals .

18:28

Oh , yeah , yeah , no , you're

18:30

right , I mean frozen vegetables

18:32

. We can . There's all that

18:34

. There's a good access we have to

18:36

getting the good food . We just have to . Our

18:39

problem is , well

18:41

, I can speak of my problem once in a while . You know

18:43

you , this is a good idea to eat

18:45

what you , what you should eat before you eat

18:47

what you want to eat , right ? Yeah Well

18:50

, I quite , quite often will reverse that

18:52

around I'll eat what I want to eat before

18:54

I eat what I should eat . But by the

18:56

time I get to what I

18:58

, what I should eat , I'm full of eating

19:00

what I want to eat . Yeah , and that's bad

19:02

, that's a bad move .

19:04

Yeah , yeah , I hear you eat my salad at

19:06

the end of the meal .

19:07

Yeah , you know .

19:08

I told my mom ago well , the salad will help clean you

19:10

out . And actually one of the European

19:12

countries , that's their tradition to serve the salad

19:15

at the end of the meal for their last .

19:16

Really , yeah , for that reason , for

19:18

that reason , that's neat

19:20

, yeah , so you start off with dessert

19:22

then .

19:23

It'd be nice , wouldn't it

19:25

? Yeah

19:28

, that's a good point , yeah .

19:30

But yeah , but

19:32

you know I , everything's

19:35

down there , right there , it's at the middle

19:38

of yours . Well , it's at your waist . I mean , if you

19:40

here's what you do , here's some good exercises

19:42

that are great to do . They call them Kegels .

19:44

Yeah .

19:45

You know we're sit ups , do

19:47

just , you'll get the fire burning in the belly

19:49

. Yeah , if you get the fire burning

19:52

in the belly , work your core and

19:54

lose some weight down there . If

19:56

a person does that , they're probably

19:58

going to be good to go . They're going to be a long way and go

20:01

in and help in themselves .

20:02

Yes , what are the Kegels have

20:04

to do with ?

20:06

the Kegels . They're . They're an exercise you

20:08

do and it's in direct . You're

20:12

exercising that area there , getting

20:15

those muscles down there working , and

20:17

we're going to that way

20:20

. But I think that it's

20:23

an easy thing to do . Maybe just

20:26

to you know , buy the pills

20:28

. But what I'm saying is

20:30

I go out and buy the pills if you want , but be

20:33

ready to just be working on

20:35

the other things at the same time . It's not

20:37

cheap right ? No , and you can wean yourself

20:39

off of the pills and then , before

20:42

you know it , you know , the

20:44

unit is ready to roll . Yeah

20:47

, and mom and mom is happy .

20:49

Yeah , I want to rock rock

20:52

rock . Yeah

20:54

, I want to rock rock

20:56

.

20:56

Yeah .

20:57

You know .

20:58

So yeah , man .

20:59

So reducing stress , is that the ?

21:01

idea to reduce stress Just

21:04

overall . You know , if you reduce , stress is brought on

21:06

and then , once stress is brought on , then you get

21:08

the cortisol , and cortisol

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is a big . It

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will kind of wipe out your testosterone level yeah

21:15

, it will . And people

21:17

nowadays there's a lot of people they'll

21:20

stress and they'll stay stressing . Now

21:23

, like during , maybe , covid , that was

21:25

a lot of stress . Who was throwing that

21:27

stress at us TV News

21:31

? Oh yeah , they had people there was . So

21:34

people were dumping down a lot of cortisol

21:36

.

21:37

Yes .

21:37

And you know that's . It's just , it's

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crazy what they do .

21:42

Yeah , drug use alcohol use and drug

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addiction . That can be a big part of the work

21:46

that was functioned to .

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Oh , absolutely so , addiction

21:51

addiction . Now you're , right .

21:52

That's the Shakespeare said

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. You know , it increases the desire but decreases

21:57

the ability , or something

21:59

like that . Yeah , meaning alcohol .

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No , you're right . Hard on the circulation

22:03

too . Yeah yeah , party , and

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it is just regular partying is hard on

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the circulation .

22:08

I see it is , and that's why

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a good exercise , a good cardio

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exercise , is great for

22:15

your circulation Right .

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Yeah yeah . Sit in a sauna bath

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or a steam room once in a while , if you have access to one . Yeah

22:20

yeah . Sweat the murals

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out , yeah yeah . Yeah

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absolutely yeah , drink some beetroot juice right

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.

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Hey , I'm a big advocate for that

22:30

. I am too . You

22:34

get the powder .

22:35

You get the you can get a powder mix . You can get a powder

22:37

mix .

22:37

actually has some flavor , yeah

22:41

, yeah but I

22:43

think , yeah , just kind of live your life in

22:46

a mindset of that , I'm going to try

22:48

to control my anxieties . Yeah

22:50

, you know that way , to try to control

22:53

the cortisol that gets

22:55

down .

22:55

So just give up , women . I think it's the best way to give

22:57

up women .

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Can't do that , right , yeah , can't do that .

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23:18

with that I

23:20

say good night , fellas . It's been great

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talking .

23:23

Great talking . Good night , y'all Good

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night .

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