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Hey, there this is Lindsay,
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thanks so much for tuning into
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this episode. I'm excited to
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share it with you. I had the
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chance to talk with Lynne
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Bowman, and she's going to talk
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to us about all things food with
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kids. I know sometimes this can
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be such a sticky topic because
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different kids have different
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preferences. There's so many
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messages we get about food and
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she kind of breaks that down for
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us and her goal is to simplify
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it while also creating a lot of
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opportunities for us to connect
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with our kids in meaningful ways
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around food. So I hope you
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enjoy. Welcome to this Stress
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Nanny podcast. I'm your host
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Lindsay Miller and I'm so glad
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you're here for my conversation
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today with Lynn Bowman. Lynne is
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the author of the Amazon
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bestseller Brownies for
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Breakfast and she has been
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featured at women's expos
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throughout the country. Teaming
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up with actress Deirdre Hall to
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write and publish Dierdre Hall's
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Kitchen Close Up and Deirdre
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Hall's "How does she do it?"
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She's won national awards as a
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creative director for Silicon
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Valley companies, was creative
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director at E and J. Gallo
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Winery, advertising manager at
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Red King laboratories and
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freelanced for agencies in San
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Jose, Los Angeles and New York.
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She's also worked as an actor,
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actress, makeup artist,
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screenwriter, Illustrator, legal
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journalist and television
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weather person. Lynne has three
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grown children, two absolutely
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perfect grandchildren, and is
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president of the Pescadero
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Community Foundation. She and
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her husband have a small farm on
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the coast of Northern
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California. Lynne, thank you so
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much for joining me today.
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Lindsay, this is
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just great, great fun for me, I
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love what you're doing. And I
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relish the opportunity to talk
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to your listeners. So let's do
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this.
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Yeah, I'm
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excited to there are so many
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topics we've kind of already
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talked about diving into. But I
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want to start out with the
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stress that we kind of face
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around feeding our families, I
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mean, feeding ourselves and
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feeding our families. It's a big
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job. And I think sometimes we
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don't maybe recognize all of the
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pieces to it. And like why it's
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such a complicated task.
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It really isn't as
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complicated, I think is we've
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made it Lindsay but you know, I
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think a lot of us are on such
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cognitive overload now, because
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we, okay, we have the gift of
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this amazing information that we
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can get every day is just
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roaring across the transom to
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our debt. We've just got
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hundreds of emails and all this
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information about food and
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health. And you know, dieting
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and weight loss and this and
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that thing, and then kids until
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it just makes you nuts, trying
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to sort out what matters and
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what doesn't matter. You know,
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what do I need to feed my kids?
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What don't I need to feed my
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kids. And, and so I love talking
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about this, because I do believe
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it can be simple for me. I mean,
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hugely simplify. And without
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losing any of the quality of
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what you're doing as a parent.
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And which is why I wrote this
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book Brownies for Breakfast.
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Because it's not, it shouldn't
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be complicated. You know, I
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don't count calories, I don't
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measure anything. I'm a messy
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cook in the kitchen. I mess up
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right, and then I fix it. Like
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all of us. I don't spend even
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though my kids are now grown and
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I'm in the grandparents stage. I
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don't spend all day in the
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kitchen, I don't want to
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sometimes I will sometimes I'll
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really cook. But the rest of the
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time, what we all want to do is
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pull something out of the
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freezer, heat it up, throw
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something in it, and serve it
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and have it be really, really
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good. And know that it's good
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food for ourselves and for our
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family. So I've definitely got
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some tips and tricks about how
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to do that. And you read my bio,
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which is kind of crazy because
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back in the day, you know, we we
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didn't have a plan. We women
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especially we just came out of
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school or you know, quit or
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whatever, and just started doing
4:52
stuff and getting jobs. So
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that's the way I approach life
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and is just, okay, yeah, let's
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do this, whatever it is. And so
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I do not have a degree in
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nutrition. And I don't have an
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MD. And I don't have a reality
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TV show or any other sort of
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what credential for doing this.
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But I'm a grandma. And I think a
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thing that is difficult for all
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of us families now is that so
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many of us are separated from
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family, and separated even from
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friends who would support us,
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throughout history, ancient
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history, women have always had a
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community of other women to
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support them. And kids play in
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the mud in the middle of the
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village or the town square, with
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dogs and cats, and, you know,
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chickens, and the moms were busy
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doing stuff, but they were
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together. And so they were
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watching kids together, they
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were cooking together, and
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learning from each other. And
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then there were the old ladies
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like myself, The babushkas, you
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know, who, who had been there
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and done it and fought the
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battles. And who could say to
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the younger women, you pick that
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herb, and you give it to the
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kid, you know, and so, and we,
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what we have now, are
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professionals, advisors, you're
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a professional, I don't mean to
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make light of that. But I get
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the sense that before you're
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professional, you're a mom, and
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you're an interested woman who
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wants to help other women. And
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I, I feel like that's a bit of a
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missing link today that that we
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need to, whenever possible, kind
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of get back to relying on
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friendship and community and
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communion. But that relates to
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food too Lindsay is we've
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separated food from community.
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So every mom and are dad, but
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I'm talking to moms today, is
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left to sort it out herself, and
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figure out dinner herself and
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figure out shopping herself. And
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she's also I betcha working a
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job of some kind, or two, or
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three. And she is driving for
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hours, sometimes every day. And
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she is this is the part that
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gets really iffy for me, taking
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kids to choir, to sports, to
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language lessons, all this
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stuff. So, my advice my granny
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advice to you wonderful ladies,
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number one, and this relates to
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food, I'll get around to it. But
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number one, what can you throw
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out of the wagon? Because you're
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gonna need to throw something
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out of the wagon? You're doing
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too much. You know that? Right?
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Well, yes, I want I want to back
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you up on the that, you are
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doing too much. So you know,
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make a choice or two. And
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sometimes those choices are
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going to be hard. What I said to
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I had three kids, single mom and
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I was their sole source of
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support. And I had a homicidal
8:20
ex who made our life a living
8:20
hell. But one of the things that
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I did that I look back and go
8:25
that was that was a smart thing
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to do. Sat the kids down one
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night said, Look, how much do
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you really love soccer. And they
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kind of looked at each other and
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looked at me and went, well, we
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don't really love soccer. I
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said, Okay, let's not do that
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anymore. Because it was three
8:44
uniforms, three snack mom
8:44
responsibilities, three
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different sets of games that had
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to be played in different places
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in different brands. So I said,
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each of you can choose two
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activities, one kind of brainy
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activity, and one kind of body
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activity choose and I'll support
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you. So they all went okay. All
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right. And they went off. And
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then I don't know a week or two
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later, my son who at the time
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was maybe I want to say 13 or 14
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came back and said, Okay, I've
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got it. I know what I want to
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do. What? Fencing What? What?
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Yeah, I want to fence. Okay. Do
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some research, find out where
9:32
and get back to me. Oh, I
9:35
already did. Okay. So it turns
9:35
out there was a salt. A school,
9:42
okay. A couple miles from us in
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downtown San Jose, which is
9:46
where we lived at the time. And
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so we went over there to look
9:50
and all three kids ended up
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going yeah, this is for us. We
9:55
signed up. They loved it. It was
9:55
a great it was it was on this
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same place at the same time. And
9:59
my youngest ended up as 15th in
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the country. I mean, she just
10:05
really took to it. And fencing
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is an interesting sport that
10:09
really is very equitable for men
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and women. So all three kids,
10:12
and I tell that story, to let
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you all know that you don't have
10:19
to do it, like everybody else.
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Really don't. And so that
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relieves us of all kinds of
10:30
stress right there. And plus, I
10:30
got to sit indoors, not in the
10:37
rain. It's comfy, which I love.
10:37
No more muddy Saturday mornings
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at six, you know?
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Windy, rainy, we've done a few tournaments this winter, and it's been cold.
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So I hear you indoors,
10:56
taking those
10:56
uniforms back, and you're funny.
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So, that worked for us, and then
11:01
the kids, one daughter took
11:06
piano and, you know, and another
11:06
one took cello for a while, but,
11:10
but getting us off the soccer
11:10
field was major. And I just,
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we're asking too much of
11:17
ourselves, no question about it
11:23
with too little return? And, you
11:23
know, it's the question, we're
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all asking about our kids is
11:28
well, what are they? What are
11:30
they learning? You know, what's,
11:30
what does this team thing mean
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for them? And how important is
11:33
it and all the questions about
11:36
coaches and coaching and parents
11:36
on the field and so on.
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Sometimes you can just opt out.
11:40
And it's okay. It's really okay.
11:47
Because when you're 18, or 20,
11:47
or 23, or 25, or 40, what still
11:54
matters? Did it matter that you
11:54
played lousy soccer on a lousy
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team on a lousy Saturday
12:00
morning, making your mother
12:03
crazy? What I felt my kids
12:03
learned fencing. Actually, they
12:13
retain I think some of those
12:13
values it was it was
12:15
fascinating. And, folks, it
12:15
turned out to be a thing that
12:21
could get you a scholarship into
12:21
a good school, a good college,
12:24
because there weren't a lot of
12:24
kids doing that. So I would just
12:30
ask you to really take a good
12:30
close look at what you're
12:33
whether it's cheer or whatever,
12:33
if you if you love it, and your
12:38
kid loves it. And that's the
12:38
most important thing, good.
12:44
Otherwise, out of the wagon, you
12:44
know, you don't have to do it.
12:49
Because all that takes away from
12:49
what you're doing in your
12:54
kitchen. And what you're doing
12:54
in your kitchen is not just
12:58
eating another thing that I want
12:58
to share with you, because of
13:03
being the age that I am, I just
13:03
turned 77 Yay. Is that my kids
13:10
are now saying to me, they're
13:10
all in their late 40s. And
13:14
they're saying things to me,
13:14
like, you know, Ma, what really
13:17
mattered. What I'm so grateful
13:17
for that you did, blah, blah,
13:22
blah, it may surprise you. And
13:22
it surprised me that what my
13:28
kids have said is they feel like
13:28
dinner for us at our table was
13:33
like a grad course in marketing.
13:33
Because my friends were there
13:38
often at the table because that
13:38
had to be my social life. I
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couldn't go out and eat, you
13:41
know, I had to invite people in
13:45
which I don't regret at all that
13:45
was fine. And my kids learn how
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to have that kind of social
13:49
life. They learned how to eat at
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a table with grownups, how to
13:53
have a conversation, about how
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to use utensils. We have raised
13:58
two generations of kids eating
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out of a box or a bag with no
14:03
utensils. So think about that.
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And is that what you want? You
14:12
know, is that okay? It wasn't
14:16
for me. And plus I couldn't
14:16
afford it. I was always broke.
14:21
So cooking fast and cheap. But
14:21
healthy was what we did. And but
14:32
but don't forget the social
14:32
aspect of it because sitting at
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that table with you, with other
14:37
family members with friends,
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ends up being maybe the most
14:43
important education your kids
14:46
get. And when they when it comes
14:46
time for them to interview with
14:52
schools to go and look at
14:52
colleges and to start out their
14:55
life apart from you. Are you
14:55
sending them a way with the
15:01
kitchen skills and dining
15:01
skills, and housekeeping skills
15:07
that matter more, I will argue,
15:07
than the academic skills.
15:12
So this is
15:12
interesting. Well, and it brings
15:19
up I mean, my, my honestly, my
15:19
knee jerk reaction is but wait,
15:23
because I think there's so much
15:23
value in. Like the, the
15:30
realization that like,
15:30
especially for women, I think
15:33
that's what's hitting me is like
15:33
for like to share the load and I
15:37
hear you saying you were a
15:37
single mom doing it. So it had
15:39
to be just you, like, in my
15:39
reality what what that looks
15:43
like more and more is like, I'm
15:43
not the only one responsible for
15:47
those things, right? Like, it's
15:47
the conversations on sharing,
15:50
like, yes, family dinner, I feel
15:50
like it's so important in our
15:53
house. And I value the
15:53
opportunity to sit down and
15:57
connect and eat and, you know,
15:57
teach manners and those kinds of
16:00
things. And also, I found so
16:00
much, like, I don't know if
16:06
liberation is the word, but just
16:06
like being able to team up with
16:09
those tasks, instead of feeling
16:09
like the weight of it felt, you
16:13
know, like, it's only my job to
16:13
make sure these things happen,
16:17
being able to be like, Hey,
16:17
we're, we're like married
16:20
partner team here, you're gonna
16:20
do this piece of it, I'm going
16:24
to do this piece of it. And
16:24
we're going to share the load,
16:26
so that there's space for me to
16:26
be doing other things that I
16:29
want to do or that aren't, you
16:29
know, like we can, we can create
16:32
like a dynamic that has a little
16:32
bit more fluidity than just like
16:37
me feeling shouldered with, you
16:37
know, all of the
16:40
responsibilities.
16:41
Absolutely. And
16:41
that's a whole other what I want
16:47
to focus on particularly is all
16:47
the parents who are being
16:52
servants and not teachers.
16:52
Because, yes, if you have a
16:57
spouse, yeah, deal with it, and
16:57
partner up. But it's equally
17:03
important, maybe more so that
17:03
your kids understand that they
17:07
are part of the team, then you
17:07
have responsibilities in the
17:11
kitchen, that you don't get up
17:11
after a meal and leave never,
17:16
that you don't arrive at a meal
17:16
and just go where is it ever.
17:21
And I see that happening so
17:21
much. Because the the excuses,
17:26
the kids are so busy, they got
17:26
homework, and they have this and
17:29
they have, I'm sorry, I don't
17:29
think anybody should be too busy
17:36
to help out and your most basic
17:36
thing, which is feeding each
17:41
other, eating together. That's,
17:41
I mean, it doesn't get any more
17:46
basic than that does it? And you
17:46
know, from the time your kid is
17:51
on their feet, I want to see
17:51
kids carrying stuff to the
17:56
dishwasher, and knowing how to
17:56
put them in the dishwasher, or
18:00
in the sink and dropped dish,
18:00
what's going to happen all that
18:04
it's okay. But you have to learn
18:04
these things. And the sooner you
18:10
learn them, the sooner they
18:10
become habits with kids, the
18:14
happier your family is, I mean,
18:14
literally, that's what makes a
18:19
happy family. When parents
18:19
aren't sharing sharing the load,
18:23
or when kids aren't sharing a
18:23
load, somebody's doing too much.
18:27
And I'll bet it's you.
18:30
That is probably
18:30
true. Yeah, well, and I
18:33
appreciate the way you brought
18:33
it up in terms of a conversation
18:35
because I think sometimes that
18:35
that like underlying burden of
18:40
stress that can come by doing
18:40
all the things and managing all
18:43
the things and feeling responsible for all the things is one that doesn't necessarily
18:44
get articulated. I know in our
18:48
house, it'll get to like a
18:48
breaking point where I'll be
18:50
like, okay, something's gotta
18:50
give. And then I have the
18:53
conversation instead of you
18:53
know, there have been seasons
18:55
where we've been regularly like
18:55
talking about the workload and
18:58
who's doing what, and how are we
18:58
teaming up. But I find when
19:01
we're not having those regular
19:01
communications, it'll like, all
19:05
kind of overflow and then be
19:05
like, you know, the moment where
19:08
you sit your kids down on the
19:08
couch, you're like, Okay, this
19:10
isn't working. Like what can we
19:10
toss what what can go out of the
19:14
wagon, and like you said, so I
19:14
think that that direct
19:17
communication can be so helpful.
19:17
Because if we do it before we
19:21
get super overwhelmed and
19:21
emotional about it, it can be
19:25
just a really logical, right,
19:25
like basic conversation like,
19:29
Hey, this is what's going on.
19:29
Here are the resources we have
19:31
in terms of time, money and
19:31
energy. Here are the obligations
19:34
that we're currently sitting
19:34
with. They're not a good fit
19:36
right now. How can we
19:36
recalibrate so that we can
19:39
create a scenario that works for
19:39
us?
19:42
And that sentence
19:42
or two right there epitomizes is
19:48
the way I thought about bringing
19:48
my children up, I was in
19:52
business and that and my dad was
19:52
a businessman and that was his
19:56
conversation at the table. So my
19:56
language my love language,
19:59
right? was was just what you're
19:59
talking about. It's like, okay,
20:03
what are our resources? How do
20:03
we use them wisely? How are we
20:07
using our time. And think of
20:07
that, as the best education your
20:13
kids will get, both for how to
20:13
manage their lives, and how to
20:18
function in the real world.
20:18
Because that's how we do
20:21
business folks. That's how we
20:21
build society. That's how we
20:26
build a home, you those skills,
20:26
those negotiation, and planning
20:31
skills are huge. And we can keep
20:31
bringing it back to food. You
20:38
know, it's, it's very natural
20:38
was always quite natural to me
20:41
to plan. Because I had to, I
20:41
mean, I wasn't going to survive
20:45
if I didn't. But when it comes
20:45
to food, of course, you have to
20:49
plan, if you are running out
20:49
every night or two and grabbing
20:54
ingredients for something or
20:54
trying to think of what you
20:56
would have, you'd be wasting an
20:56
enormous amount of time and
21:01
energy, and making you all
21:01
crazy, you will make yourself
21:05
crazy and your kids crazy. So
21:05
unfortunately, what a lot of us
21:09
wind up doing is just giving up
21:09
the whole idea of cooking at
21:13
home and you know, having a
21:13
kitchen table conversation. And
21:18
it's takeout is drive through
21:18
all the time. So I want you and
21:23
your kids cooking, so essential
21:23
that your kids learn how to feel
21:29
competent in the kitchen, that's
21:29
absolutely essential. And it's
21:33
essential that you let them fail
21:33
in the kitchen. Because so many
21:40
things are taught that way. It's
21:40
okay to fail. Huge. Parents
21:45
today, if I had to do a sort of
21:45
blanket criticism of what I see
21:50
going on, it's that parents feel
21:50
that they can't allow their kids
21:55
to fail to flop, either in
21:55
school or in sports or in life.
22:02
And that's how we learn. That's
22:02
how you get tough. That's how
22:06
you get smart is falling on your
22:06
butt. And I'm an expert. Right?
22:18
And, and I'm proud of those
22:18
kinds of, spectacular in some
22:23
cases, failures. But that makes
22:23
you that gives you confidence,
22:28
right? Once you've gotten up
22:28
once or twice and dusted
22:32
yourself off. When your kids see
22:32
you fail and come back from it
22:37
like okay, that was interesting.
22:37
They learn so much. And and so
22:42
all of this you can relate to
22:42
cooking and food and your
22:48
kitchen culture. But from a
22:48
practical point of view, in my
22:53
book, I have some some
22:53
strategies, some recipes. One is
22:58
called genius soup. And I'm
22:58
bringing that up because if
23:01
you're not doing this, I want
23:01
you to do this. It's the soup
23:05
that you make once a week or
23:05
once every couple of weeks. And
23:09
you use up all the kind of sad
23:09
looking greens and stuff that
23:13
you bought very well intention.
23:13
They're in the bottom of the
23:16
crisper and they're gone. Oh
23:16
yeah, pale but I think I'm done.
23:20
So this is a really basic so
23:20
that so many grandmas all over
23:25
the world makes some version of
23:25
it. And what I have in the book
23:29
is you make, you you saute
23:29
onion, and celery and in the
23:38
bottom of and carrots in the
23:38
bottom of a big pot and you
23:43
know, nothing fancy little olive
23:43
oil. And then you dump in a
23:48
bunch of stock if you have it.
23:48
Water, if you don't have stock
23:53
as it will make sort of its own
23:53
stock. And then you clean out
23:56
the fridge and you put in
23:56
spinach and kale and cabbage and
24:02
collard greens, anything that
24:02
that you would call leafy,
24:08
anything, put it in there and
24:08
cook it all afternoon, or put it
24:13
in your Insta pot or put it in
24:13
your crock pot. And it doesn't
24:17
matter. You can't mess it up,
24:17
trust me. And so you're making
24:22
this big pot and tomatoes by the
24:22
way, fresh or boxed tomatoes and
24:28
and then you'll season it up and
24:28
I tell you how. But then the
24:32
next night, you can make a Greek
24:32
soup, and the next night you
24:36
make a pasta and the next night
24:36
you make tortilla soup, a
24:39
Mexican kind of thing. And that
24:39
soup, which is super nutritious,
24:44
takes you through the week, just
24:44
fine. And then you freeze a
24:49
bunch of it and then the next
24:49
week you can pull it out of the
24:51
freezer and make other stuff. So
24:51
it's strategies like that that
24:56
many of you are already using.
24:56
But if you stopped, if you've
25:01
given up as many of us do, and
25:01
just sheer fatigue, go back, try
25:06
it. It's such a great strategy
25:06
to keep your food homemade. And
25:12
nothing is better than a good
25:12
hot soup, by the way, which
25:17
Americans don't eat enough of.
25:17
And soup is cheap. It's super
25:22
nutritious. People love it. But
25:22
American kids are not brought up
25:26
on soup. They're brought up on
25:26
chicken bits up
25:33
You feel strongly about the fast food, I can tell
25:39
And I do have a
25:39
real issue, I'd say with big
25:43
food. Because the more you know
25:43
about it, the more you're
25:47
horrified that anyone could be
25:47
part of that and sleep at night.
25:52
No, I'm serious.
25:55
So I have
25:55
watched the one where they let
25:57
the hamburger sit on the you
25:57
know, counter or whatever, for
26:00
however many days before it
26:00
didn't go bad. I mean, I hear
26:03
you. I also I think my we tend
26:03
toward like salad takeout at my
26:08
house. So we'll go to like the
26:08
there's like a little soup and
26:12
salad place down the street.
26:12
That's our favorite. So when
26:14
you're saying fast food is evil,
26:14
and I'm thinking of like the
26:17
salad that we brought home. And
26:17
like, I mean, I wouldn't call it
26:19
evil. It was convenient, maybe
26:19
more expensive than if I'd made
26:22
it at my house. But I mean, you
26:22
know, I think there's a range of
26:26
choices when it comes to fast
26:26
food that you know, the
26:29
convenience sometimes is
26:29
something that I opt for. So
26:31
that's all.
26:33
You have better
26:33
choices than I did believe me.
26:36
There's a lot of it going on out
26:36
there. I have have two young
26:40
friends who started making
26:40
donuts, from the recipes that I
26:44
put out that are the donuts are
26:44
sugar free, gluten free, high
26:49
protein, because they're made
26:49
with nut butter and really great
26:52
ingredients, you bacon, you
26:52
don't fry them, the recipe is in
26:54
the book. These two ladies in
26:54
two different parts of
26:57
California have made very
26:57
lucrative businesses out of
27:03
making these doughnuts for
27:03
people so that guilt free, you
27:08
take them home, you could treat
27:08
your family, your kids with
27:12
these things made out of good,
27:12
fresh ingredients locally
27:15
artisanal, baked goods, yeah,
27:15
that's different. What I'm
27:20
talking about is the
27:20
craveability industry, that
27:24
designs food that you can't stop
27:24
eating, and it's all salt, and
27:30
bad fats and processed sugar.
27:30
And, you know, yeah,
27:35
Yeah, no, and I
27:35
hear you and I love Well, I love
27:38
what you're saying too, about
27:38
just the like the level of
27:41
intention that you bring to the
27:41
kitchen, you know, in, in all
27:46
the ways that you can bring
27:46
intention to the kitchen,
27:48
whether you know, it's in the
27:48
planning, it's in the, like,
27:51
utilizing ingredients that you
27:51
have in order to make something,
27:54
it's in the teaching, it's in
27:54
the communication, the
27:56
discussion, I mean, so in terms
27:56
of like the richness of
28:00
experience that you can get in
28:00
the kitchen. I mean, I hear you
28:05
that, like there's nothing else
28:05
that kind of can, can match that
28:09
or provide quite as many
28:09
opportunities to engage with the
28:12
kinds of conversations and the
28:12
kind of learning that, you know,
28:15
that goes on when we feed
28:15
ourselves intentionally.
28:18
When you read
28:18
anything, you know, any novels
28:24
or history, what is it that
28:24
people are nostalgic about? What
28:29
is it from their childhoods that
28:29
they remember? With love and
28:35
passion? And, you know, is it?
28:35
What is it? Is it watching TV?
28:40
Well, I guess sometimes it is,
28:40
but in my experience what most
28:43
people wax poetic about is
28:43
sitting in the kitchen with
28:46
their grandma, or their or their
28:46
dad and smelling the smells that
28:53
you can only smell in your
28:53
kitchen. I certainly have those
28:59
memories of my Aunt Frosty
28:59
particularly making stuff for
29:04
me. And another thing that I
29:04
want to talk about a little bit
29:09
and it seems you know, you think
29:09
well, we've all got to much to
29:12
do so don't give me anything
29:12
else to do. But kids will eat
29:16
what kids grow. And kids will
29:16
eat what kids cook. If you're
29:24
not growing anything with your
29:24
kids, I would really encourage
29:28
you to try and sometimes it's
29:28
just a bucket. You know, it's
29:33
sometimes just pots on your sink
29:33
of parsley and basil and
29:37
something that smells good and
29:37
you can just snip up and put
29:39
your food. Kids are so proud
29:39
when they have grown something
29:44
and what you learn by planting a
29:44
seed and watching it grow or die
29:53
Let's be honest.
29:54
Let's be honest.
29:54
You know that, that's the most
30:01
important thing we teach our
30:01
kids is how to make life. Right?
30:06
Yeah. Yeah, no.
30:06
And I think well, and I think
30:09
the, again, the simplicity,
30:09
like, you know, they're the
30:12
upside down tomato pots where
30:12
you just you like hang it off a
30:15
little hook on your back porch
30:15
and it's, you know, growing the
30:18
tomato upside down, or it's,
30:18
there's so many different ways,
30:22
you know, it's the strawberry
30:22
pot, where it's just got those
30:24
little tiny outlets where you
30:24
put the individual plants in
30:27
there, and it's just one pot,
30:27
but you can get the strawberries
30:30
off of it just to get started or
30:30
just engaged with the process of
30:34
growing, there's Yes, so much
30:34
value value there.
30:38
And we gave them
30:38
names. The plant and, and I'm
30:45
still doing it, I mean, here I
30:45
am with pear trees that have
30:49
names and and I had to talk my
30:49
husband into helping me get the
30:54
fiddly fig out of the living
30:54
room yesterday and drain her out
30:57
because she was drowning, she
30:57
had too much water. And Mrs.
31:00
Figgy is her name. And she's
31:00
beautiful. But the relationship
31:05
that you teach your children to
31:05
have with all living things,
31:11
pets, animals, people, friends,
31:11
and plants and birds, I will
31:17
argue that that may be the very
31:17
best education they get from
31:22
you. It, you know that we we
31:22
pile so much on the education
31:30
system. And they're doing the
31:30
best they can but you know, kids
31:37
really do most of their learning
31:37
at home. Like it or not. And
31:42
they're in and that's negative
31:42
and positive. Right. And another
31:47
thing that that I have said over
31:47
and over again to parents. And I
31:52
think we need to remind
31:52
ourselves continually is it's
31:55
not what you say, it's what you
31:55
do. You your parenting is being
32:02
done by example. So look at
32:02
yourself, continually. Am I
32:10
being am I doing what I want my
32:10
children to learn? So am I
32:17
driving myself crazy? Giving
32:17
away too much not having
32:22
boundaries? Is that how I'm
32:22
conducting my grownup life?
32:26
Because that's what I'm teaching
32:26
my kids. That is exactly what
32:31
they're learning. So, I would
32:31
argue that if you are laughing,
32:37
and dancing, and singing, and
32:37
cooking, and having friends then
32:43
that's what you're teaching your
32:43
kids. And I want you to be
32:49
conscious of what you're
32:49
teaching your kids. You know,
32:55
it's not what's in that book. I
32:55
mean, books I love. We all love
32:57
it. It's what they see you being
32:57
Yeah.
33:09
Yeah. And that
33:09
reflection is sometimes
33:11
humbling, sometimes inspiring
33:11
when you see like little parts
33:14
of you that are amazing walking
33:14
around, and you're like, oh, my
33:17
gosh, something about this is
33:17
working. And then other times
33:20
you're like, oh, no, that was
33:20
from Me, too.
33:24
And well, as I sit
33:24
back, and it's so interesting to
33:29
have kids who are middle aged,
33:29
who are now saying, you know, my
33:33
when you did this, and when you
33:33
did that, and I go really the
33:37
things they remember, it's so
33:37
interesting, the things that
33:40
really impressed them. Because I
33:40
was just trying to survive. I
33:45
mean, you know, yeah, I mean,
33:45
and it was the 80s Lindsay So, I
33:52
would get up and I was in this
33:52
peculiar professional situation,
33:57
I was usually the only woman in
33:57
the room. And, and it was the
34:01
80s. And so I would get up at
34:01
five in the morning and put on a
34:05
full set of lashes, and the
34:05
whole you know, and, and the
34:09
outfit with the shoulder pads,
34:09
and the hat and the whole thing,
34:13
and then I would get the kids up
34:13
and do the whole breakfast and
34:18
everything and everybody and so
34:18
and then I would drop them at
34:22
daycare. And then I would slide
34:22
into the office but I had to be
34:26
there early. There was no way
34:26
that I was going to be late
34:30
because I was already I had so
34:30
many points against me because
34:32
I'd female parent right? So I
34:32
had to be one of the first ones
34:37
there. And I had to look all
34:37
perky as get out and never have
34:41
a bad attitude. And the men
34:41
would come in going, Oh man, I
34:46
had a rough morning, you know?
34:46
And I'd be thinking Mm hmm.
34:53
Yeah. Who picked out your
34:53
outfit? What is? Anyway, when
35:00
when your kids then reflect back
35:00
on the things that they thought
35:04
were hilarious or heroic or
35:04
stupid, or whatever that you did
35:08
as a parent, that's really
35:08
interesting aren't always what
35:13
you think. And so, as I said, my
35:13
two in my house, the surprise
35:18
for me was when my kids all came
35:18
back and said, You taught us how
35:22
to do business. You taught us
35:22
how to answer the phone. My
35:25
office, I started my own company
35:25
and 87. And so my office was in
35:29
the living room. And there'd be
35:29
an I wanted the kid, I wanted to
35:35
be there, when the kids were
35:35
home from school, when they were
35:38
teens, even more important than
35:38
when they were little. And so
35:42
there'd be fighting and barking
35:42
and just all kinds of chaos
35:46
going on. And the phone would
35:46
ring and go silent. And one of
35:51
them would grab the phone and
35:51
go, Bowman Creative Services.
35:56
Right. And at the time, that was
35:56
just, that was survival. And so
36:02
so I taught them whatever skills
36:02
I could, because I couldn't
36:05
afford to hire people. You know,
36:05
that was my life. But that also,
36:10
they, they learned as teens, how
36:10
to conduct a business, how to do
36:16
a resume, you know, all these
36:16
things that you kind of take for
36:21
granted as an adult. But those
36:21
kids have to learn those skills
36:25
somewhere, somehow. And school
36:25
is not always the place. And
36:32
then there's also the confidence
36:32
that comes with kids who have
36:36
learned those kinds of skills at
36:36
home, and seeing their parents
36:41
have those kinds of skills, and
36:41
seeing that those skills, get
36:45
you somewhere or accomplish
36:45
something. So they they really
36:51
take it in, like, I want to do
36:51
that. I want to be that. And you
36:58
know, my kids have different
36:58
very different lives than than I
37:02
did professionally. But still,
37:02
those basic tools are, I think,
37:09
super important. And let's bring
37:09
it back to the kitchen. If you
37:13
are a neurosurgeon, and none of
37:13
your team want to eat with you
37:18
because you don't know how to
37:18
eat properly. Or you're not good
37:23
at listening and having a
37:23
conversation. Are you a great
37:28
neurosurgeon. I just I want us
37:28
to remember those those things
37:36
that your grandma teaches you.
37:38
The other yeah, I mean, this skills that make you a whole person, right? No,
37:40
and I think yeah, there's been
37:46
so many great things that you've
37:46
pointed out and I've loved the
37:48
snippets that you've shared from
37:48
your book. As we close up I
37:50
would love for you to share like
37:50
another one or two like the
37:53
genius soup you know, just being
37:53
able to be efficient and be you
37:57
know, intentional and then the
37:57
doughnuts like okay, let's just
38:01
do a healthy alternative to
38:01
this. What would be a couple
38:04
other things from the book you'd
38:04
want to share as we go.
38:08
Well, one thing I
38:08
hope people will do is learn how
38:12
to eat more greens. And because
38:12
our culture doesn't really
38:18
promote that particularly and
38:18
and this connects to having the
38:22
pot of greens on the sink, I
38:22
always have scissors handy and
38:28
almost everything that I end up
38:28
cooking or serving gets parsley,
38:34
or oregano or basil or something
38:34
snipped up under it or over it.
38:41
Including, here's a cheat you're
38:41
gonna love this. If you have a
38:45
great taqueria in your
38:45
neighborhood anywhere and I do
38:49
and we're on the coast so they
38:49
have a cheat for me that I love
38:53
is a great shrimp burrito. And I
38:53
I asked them to do it with no
38:59
rice and they always remember
38:59
that they know you know what,
39:02
what we ordered when we come in.
39:02
So a shrimp burrito if you can
39:06
get really good tortillas,
39:06
spinach or something great, but
39:11
shrimp burrito, no rice, cut it
39:11
in half. Don't eat the whole
39:15
thing. It's two meals worth. Cut
39:15
it in half. Put it on a bed of
39:22
slice cabbage or arugula. And if
39:22
you have radishes, great chop
39:28
them up, they're so beautiful,
39:28
purple cabbage, radishes and
39:32
then this half a burrito and
39:32
then sprinkle some cheese or
39:36
cheese-like substance. You know
39:36
if you've got vegan cheese,
39:39
that's great sprinkles on top,
39:39
put more green salsa, my
39:43
favorite on top of it. So that's
39:43
vegetables, all vegetables. And
39:49
then you get and it's absolutely
39:49
delicious and that's two meals
39:54
instead of one meal. So just
39:54
keep trying to think of ways you
39:59
don't have to be eating solid
39:59
bowls of of salad all the time.
40:06
Just add greens always have
40:06
cabbage and arugula, and a
40:11
couple of other things that are
40:11
green, or purple, and chop them
40:15
up and throw them under an over
40:15
anything you're doing. And they
40:19
make it look better. It looks
40:19
more appetizing. It's got a
40:23
great texture that crunches.
40:23
Good. So that doesn't add
40:28
cooking steps really well. It's
40:28
a step I guess. But it's so
40:33
easy, right. And if you're not,
40:33
you're not taking away you're
40:39
adding, actually, to your
40:39
pleasure and to the taste, and
40:44
the texture of your food. And
40:44
that's what I'm all about. I
40:48
don't want to be deprived of
40:48
anything good. I want all
40:51
wonderful. And, and I think
40:51
you're teaching your kids to
40:56
appreciate the beauty of food,
40:56
you know that you don't just
41:00
narf it down, right? Look what
41:00
you just made. It's purple and
41:04
red and orange is got stuff on
41:04
top and you know, put a flower
41:09
on it and enjoy the whole ritual
41:09
of eating. Even if it starts
41:14
with a takeout burrito. I love
41:14
it.
41:21
I love it. Tell
41:21
us, thank you again for this
41:24
conversation. It's been so fun
41:24
to chat, tell us more where
41:27
people can find you find your
41:27
work at the book.
41:31
If you go on
41:31
LynneBowman.com that tells you
41:34
everything. Because I do on on
41:34
Instagram and I have a YouTube
41:38
channel. It's it's not
41:38
beautifully curated. I just slap
41:41
stuff up there. But you're
41:41
welcome to come on and look at
41:45
it because there's lots of
41:45
parenting advice there for you
41:48
particularly. So and that's just
41:48
the Lynn Bowman, YouTube
41:52
channel. So Lynnebowman.com gets
41:52
you all rest. Just remember my
41:58
name is L-Y-N-N-E B-O-W-M-A-N.
41:58
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42:07
And it's in paperback and
42:07
hardback. And you can download
42:10
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42:10
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42:14
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42:14
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42:17
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42:22
diabetics and the people who
42:22
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42:27
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42:27
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42:31
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42:31
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42:36
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42:36
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42:39
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42:39
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42:43
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42:43
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42:48
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42:54
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43:00
there you go. I hope you will
43:00
check it out. I have very good
43:03
reviews, I'm happy to say. But
43:03
that helps you if you go on
43:06
Amazon, you can read what other
43:06
people have experienced in the
43:10
book. And that that will tell
43:10
you if it's something that
43:12
you're interested in. And I hope
43:12
you are.
43:15
Yeah, yeah.
43:15
Thank you so much.
43:18
Thank you.
43:20
Well, what did
43:20
you think? I really appreciated
43:23
the down to Earth way she
43:23
approaches family meals and just
43:28
food with kids. I liked the
43:28
simplicity of it. And I really
43:32
love the ideas she shared on
43:32
ways to connect around the
43:36
dinner table. And it's gonna
43:36
look different for each of us
43:39
depending on our circumstances.
43:39
But if we bring that mindset of
43:43
being intentional to those
43:43
meals, there's so much that we
43:46
can be gaining from those
43:46
interactions with our kiddos.
43:49
I'd love to hear what your
43:49
favorite part of the show was.
43:52
See you next time. Thanks for
43:52
tuning in. You've just finished
43:56
an episode of The Stress Nanny
43:56
podcast. So hopefully you feel a
43:59
little more empowered when it
43:59
comes to dealing with stress.
44:02
Feel free to take a deep breath
44:02
and let it out slowly as you go
44:06
back to your day. I'm so glad
44:06
you're here. If you're a
44:10
longtime listener, thank you so
44:10
much for your support. It really
44:13
means the world to me. If you're
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new, I'd love to have you follow
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44:25
please do me a favor and go to
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44:30
and leave a review. The link is
44:30
in the show notes. I'm so
44:33
grateful for all my listeners.
44:33
Thank you again for being here.
44:36
Until next time.
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