Losing sucks - Failure sucks
- And we’re not good at it. Esp as Americans.
Tom Brady falling apart this year
- Which is sad
List of famous failures
- Abraham Lincoln
  - Defeated in his run for state legislature (1832), failed in business (1833), had a nervous breakdown (1836), was defeated in his bid for congress (1843), defeated for US senator (1854), defeated as vice presidential candidate (1856) and defeated again as US senator (1858) before finally becoming president (1860) and then was murdered – but he also galvanized the country, abolished slavery and changed the course of US history!
  - Widely considered one of the - if not THE - best US president
- Michael Jordan after switching to baseball (big failure in baseball)
  - Michael had won 3 NBA Championships with the Chicago Bulls, 3 league MVP titles and was considered the best player in the league…THEN he switched to baseball
  - Motivated by his father’s death and his dad’s dream for him to become a baseball player, Jordan joined the White Sox…and he was terrible. Never even played a major league game.
  - After two seasons Jordan sucked it up, admitted he was crap at baseball and went back to the NBA…
  - …and won 3 more championships! He is now considered the greatest basketball player of all time (Sorry you LeBron fans!)
- Tiger Woods
  - Once considered to be the world's greatest golfer - winner of 14 majors titles in golf - Woods was involved in multiple scandals, major back injuries, family disintegration and a mental meltdown. Once #1 in the world, by 2017 Tiger had dropped to 1,199th. Starting the 2018 season, at age 42, after having gone through four back surgeries, including spinal fusion, the question was not whether Tiger could drive a golf ball 300+ yards, but whether he could ever again swing a club again without debilitating pain. He got off to a slow start in 2018, but then began to gather momentum. He almost won the 2018 PGA Championship, finishing second with his best-ever final round score in a major. Then, in what seems like a miracle, or perhaps a fairytale, Tiger did the impossible and came back to win the 2019 Masters for his 15th major title.
- Muhammad Ali
  - Ali had been on the top of the boxing world. In 1960 he won an Olympic gold medal and over the next few years he built his reputation and skill and in 1965 he won the heavyweight championship of the world, in a stunning upset over the seemingly invincible Sonny Liston. But in 1967, after refusing to serve in the US military due to his objections to the Vietnam War, Ali was stripped of his world championship belt and his boxing license. He was convicted of draft evasion, sentenced to five years in prison, and fined $10,000. Although Ali did not serve time, he would not be allowed to fight again until 1970. Ali had been robbed of his prime years and he lost his 1971 bid for the heavyweight crown to Joe Frazier. In 1973 he lost a fight to Ken Norton in which his jaw was broken. He appeared to be washed-up a has-been. But then in quick succession Ali won rematches with Norton and Frazier, earning him the "right" to be knocked out by the reigning heavyweight champion, the hulking George Foreman. But in the celebrated "Rumble in the Jungle" a middle-aged Ali rallied to defeat Foreman and suddenly he was back on top of the boxing world again. Ali would go undefeated until 1978. By the time he retired, Ali was not only the most famous boxer on the planet, but the most famous athlete and probably the most-recognized human being around the world.
  - Side Story: Twenty years later, in 1994 at the age of 45, George Foreman had an amazing comeback of his own, when he went up against heavyweight champion Michael Moorer and won to reclaim the title he had lost to Ali.
- Battle of the Alamo (1836)
  - Mexican Army wiped out the American forces - huge mental loss
  - Turned into rallying cry “Remember the Alamo!”
- Pearl Harbor (1941)
  - Unleashed the US War machine

Learning As An Adult

Aka accepting failure / losing
- So effing hard
Jay’s Fucked Up Back
- Accepting I’m not healthy, re-building it, SO FRUSTRATING!

How Do We Accept Losing And Transcend It?

Realize failure is part of the process
Don’t make it personal
1. Don’t attach your ego to the outcome
Keep making small progress - little wins - to move you towards your goal
1. Small, continuous wins will help offset the failure
Accept the pain
1. It hurts. Don’t deny it. Don’t bury it. Accept it. MAybe even relish it
Learn to break through
1. Once you learn that pain isn’t permanent and failure isn’t fatal, a whole new world of possibility is opened up to you

David Goggins “Never Finished” Quote:

“Nothing in my life has ever happened for me on the first try. It took me three cracks to get through Navy SEAL training. I had to take the ASVAB five times. I failed twice before making the world record for pull ups in 24 hours. But by then failure had long since been neutralized. When I set an unreasonable goal and fall short I don’t even look at it as failure anymore. It is simply my first, second, third or tenth attempt. That is what belief does for you. It takes failure out of the occasion completely because you go in knowing the process will be long and arduous - and that is what the fuck we do.”

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