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something. I haven't done. I don't know if I

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ever done this on the podcast It's been a long time

2:24

if I have but here is

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me on stage giving a keynote speech and

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I hate to say the word Keynote it's really

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a conversation. It's a real conversation a deep conversation

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and I wanted you to experience me in my element

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I know what an impact your life. So bring your notes

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lock in and take some from this

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message, man. Let's get it I

3:30

Think Blued

4:00

I know what

4:02

it feels like

4:07

to go to jail, but I

4:10

also know what it

4:12

feels like to turn that time

4:44

I get it. But do y'all feel good? Here

4:48

we go. I love it. Y'all can sit

4:50

down and we can get right into this. You

4:54

know, first of all, I want to say a shout out

4:56

to Brooke, the whole team for

4:59

putting on an incredible event and

5:02

what's crazy, like, and

5:05

this probably doesn't, you probably don't care about

5:07

this, but I do. This

5:10

same room, man,

5:12

had to be like 2012,

5:15

2013. I did one of my first

5:18

events ever. And just

5:21

to be here, like, I say that because

5:23

I know a lot of you

5:25

are in a place right now in your life where you're trying to

5:27

go get it. You're at your breakthrough.

5:29

And the thing about a breakthrough, I want to say this while it's

5:31

on my heart. In

5:33

order to break through, you have to go through something. In

5:37

order to break through, you have to be at a breaking point. And

5:40

that breaking point, you either can break down or break through. And I know

5:42

each and every one of you are going to break through. But I

5:45

want to let you know, like, don't

5:47

give up on your journey. And I know this

5:49

seems very cliche and motivational. But

5:52

I said that because I've been doing this for,

5:54

it's crazy, for almost 15 years. And

5:57

I remember starting this in literally nobody

6:00

would show up it wasn't claps

6:02

like Trenchdown who was that but

6:06

I had a mission and a reason and I'm

6:09

not gonna get into my mission and even in

6:11

San Antonio it's crazy because if you know my

6:13

story why I started rehab time and speaking with

6:15

my best friend literally this is the same city

6:17

where he committed suicide so

6:23

it's a it's a

6:25

bittersweet thing for me but

6:29

I want to tell you like whatever it is stay

6:31

loyal to your mission and I know it's so easy

6:33

we don't get into this in a minute we'll protect

6:35

your peace I know it's so easy to look online

6:37

and can pay your life and say I don't have

6:39

what they have or I don't have those followers I

6:41

don't have this I don't have that good you're not

6:43

supposed to be them and

6:46

I'm gonna keep it real with you we live in a society and

6:48

I probably shouldn't say this but I'm gonna say it with social media

6:50

we have a lot of people who look like a lot of people

6:54

we have a lot of people following trends and I'm

6:56

not here to tell you don't follow certain trends

6:58

but when you follow trends you blend in but

7:01

some of you are following trends where you were meant to stand out

7:03

some of you are following trends when you are meant to be the

7:05

one and sometimes the one

7:07

doesn't get recognized sometimes the one looks a

7:10

lot different sometimes the one is the outcast

7:12

sometimes the one people don't get people misunderstand

7:14

so I want to just encourage whatever it

7:16

is that you got inside you I want

7:18

to encourage you to own that the

7:21

thing that other people might not celebrate and like and it

7:23

might make you different good but

7:26

lock into that mission that deep-rooted reason I'm sure you've

7:28

heard this in personal development you're why you're why you're

7:31

why but

7:33

that deep-rooted reason what's

7:35

that reason because

7:37

a lot of us even myself at times

7:39

when I started like my reason was was

7:43

a fickle one it wasn't real

7:45

enough so

7:48

when the money doesn't show up are you still gonna stay

7:50

loyal to it because I see a lot of this these

7:52

days I see a lot of people who are professional quitters

7:56

and I'm keeping it straight up with y'all today They

8:01

don't finish because

8:03

they start something today and then they don't

8:05

get the results. They have no no

8:08

faith in the

8:10

seeds that they're planting. They are loyal gardeners as I call

8:12

them. Planting

8:14

seeds all the time like do

8:16

me a favor if anything. I know you got

8:18

so much and you're gonna get so much from

8:20

this event because I know I'll take it from

8:22

her. Be the person that stays loyal to their

8:24

garden. The seeds that you

8:26

plant, you can plant multiple seeds, multiple businesses

8:28

but stay loyal to it. Finish.

8:34

Some of you could be one day away,

8:36

one prayer away, one thing away, one video

8:38

trust me away, one video free to change

8:40

my life. It was one video. So

8:45

please stop worrying

8:47

about the how so much because

8:51

sometimes the how paralyzes us. Like I don't know

8:53

how to get there. I don't mean the

8:56

how reveal itself in the journey. The journey is

8:58

always loyal to revealing the how but you have

9:00

to be relentless in knowing your

9:02

why, knowing your reason, knowing your mission. So

9:07

if I ask what it was

9:09

and you wouldn't be real enough.

9:11

When the things show up I talk about commitment.

9:14

In having a championship mine, we're not talking about that today

9:16

but y'all know me I'm gonna follow my heart. Commitment

9:19

is staying loyal to what you said

9:21

you're gonna do long after the mudra

9:23

center's left you. Commitment

9:26

doesn't work off of convenience. We

9:30

live in a society everybody commits when

9:33

it's convenient but

9:36

when it's inconvenient is your commitment still gonna be

9:38

there? We

9:40

have a lot of strong desires and I'm proud of

9:43

you. We

9:45

have a lot of weak dedication. If

9:51

your desire is strong but your dedication is weak I'm

9:54

gonna just be the bearer of bad news. It ain't gonna happen. Is

9:59

your commitment matching

10:02

your choices. Some of

10:04

you when you leave here, I promise you're gonna

10:06

make a choice. You're gonna be on fire. Emotional

10:08

high. Right? I see some

10:11

of you online right now. I'm like, whoo! Emotional

10:14

high, which I love, but when that leaves

10:16

because it will, are you still gonna stay

10:18

loyal to it? Are you still gonna show

10:20

up for it? That's

10:23

what separates you. If

10:27

y'all got that, say straight up. Say

10:29

straight up. Let's

10:32

get into this right quick. Where

10:35

should I be pointing to turn this slide? Oh,

10:40

is that a joke in here?

10:42

Okay. So I really want to take y'all

10:49

on a journey, just have a conversation. I'm out here to

10:51

speak. I want to have a conversation with

10:53

you. And this conversation might be for

10:55

you now, it might be for you later. You might

10:57

not need none of it. You might need all of

10:59

it. But three

11:01

words changed my life, I would say

11:03

in 2016. And those three words were

11:06

protect your peace. And

11:08

I've been saying this for years and years and

11:10

years and it's so cool because I

11:13

now see the world realizing how

11:15

important peace is. I believe

11:19

a life without peace has

11:22

nothing. No

11:25

matter what everything you might think that you have,

11:27

you don't have peace. If you don't have calm

11:29

in your soul, you have nothing. And

11:33

for a lot of you, is

11:35

this quote, you're

11:37

a choice away from a new beginning. I

11:39

start every speech, I say it probably every

11:41

day if you follow me, you're a choice

11:43

away from a new beginning. Let that sing

11:45

your soul a choice. A

11:49

choice to do different, be different. A choice to

11:51

start, a choice to end, a choice

11:54

to continue, a choice to go harder, a

11:56

choice to rest more this year, a choice

11:58

to prioritize your peace. I don't know

12:01

what you need in this room, but you're a choice away a

12:04

decision away It's

12:11

January what 16th is someone does All

12:16

right. I can go back to the gym now because most New

12:18

Year's resolutions are done, right? The

12:20

cardio machines are over now, right? I Get

12:28

comments on that you should be cheering on every I

12:30

can't say anything that's likely negative. Oh my gosh But

12:34

seriously though like it's

12:37

funny, but a Lot

12:39

of times we have this new year in mindset and

12:41

I love it. I love the intention Incention

12:44

is great. But without application.

12:47

It's pointless Application creates transformation You're

12:51

a choice away from a new beginning and you're a

12:53

commitment away from a new life a choice away from

12:55

a new beginning And

12:59

a commitment away from a new life I Don't

13:02

know if you already have this written down in your book, but I

13:04

would challenge each and every one of you To

13:08

make a choice when you leave here And Maybe

13:16

you Conversate with people outside of

13:19

this room about your choice. I will be

13:21

very careful about bringing my dreams to people

13:23

wearing dreamers. I Will

13:26

be very careful and mindful about bringing my vision

13:28

to people who are visionaries I

13:31

would be very careful about bringing what I want to

13:33

do to people who have never done it So

13:36

I know sometimes that can be the closest people to you So

13:40

be careful about sharing these things with other people so

13:42

get the Confirmation to hear but make

13:44

a choice and stay committed to that choice and the

13:46

question I would ask you is why do you have

13:48

to? Stay committed to that choice What's

13:51

the reason? What is it costing

13:53

you to not stay committed? I'll talk about consistency

13:55

all the time and a lot of people say

13:58

they have a consistency problem. The truth is You

14:00

don't have a consistency problem, you have a

14:02

commitment problem. We stay consistent to things that

14:04

we know exactly what it's costing us. You go to a job

14:06

that you hate for some of you? Straight

14:11

up. Yeah, you done,

14:13

right? Yeah. That's

14:20

IB when you come to the, you did it today? Oh,

14:26

man. I'm

14:30

gonna say that myself too. So I made

14:32

you quit? I'm gonna show you

14:35

your boss don't like me,

14:37

right? Your

14:43

boss lost a superstar, but the World Game went right?

14:46

Let's do it. But

14:52

I want you to find, we stay consistent to the

14:54

things that we understand what it's costing us. So if

14:56

I'm you, I'm writing down this. And listen, you can

14:58

make it up. I play

15:00

mind, I call it soul leverage. I play so much soul

15:02

leverage with my life. I literally say, if I don't work

15:05

out today, or if I don't do this, it's costing me

15:07

XYZ. I don't know if it will or it won't, but

15:09

it scares the hell out of me. It's

15:11

something called healthy fear. People think fear is

15:13

not good. Healthy fear is great. A

15:16

healthy fear is, I don't stay committed to this. I'm gonna

15:18

spend the rest of my life living a life that wasn't

15:21

mine to live. And I'm gonna live the life that pain

15:23

forced me to live, this world forced me to live. That's

15:25

a healthy fear. A healthy fear is I'm

15:27

gonna die with my dreams. A healthy fear is that

15:29

I'm gonna leave this earth without writing the bookstore and

15:31

the podcast. That's a healthy fear. A healthy fear is

15:33

I'm not gonna be the one, the example that my

15:35

kids need me to be. That's a healthy fear. So

15:39

what healthy fear is can you write down that

15:41

says this scares the hell out of me? And

15:45

so I wanna stay loyal to it. That's

15:47

how you become consistent. Put a price on it.

15:51

I remember the NFL when I played, like if you, Lord,

15:54

that was a price. If you

15:56

were late for a meeting, you gotta find $2,000. right

16:01

I was never late because I didn't have it like that but

16:05

I showed up because I understood what it was

16:07

cost to me and honestly if I was late

16:09

I was making barely making the team I would

16:11

have got fired so I realized

16:13

in my life the things I say committed to I would

16:15

say I'm not a morning person that's such a lot because

16:17

I would wake up at 5 a.m. in the morning to

16:20

make it to football practice we

16:22

put these limitations on what we're not so much

16:25

can we start focusing on what you are let

16:30

that sit with your soul the

16:34

language you speak to yourself we so good

16:36

at tearing ourselves down

16:41

we're so good at saying I'm not a speaker

16:43

I'm shy that was my

16:45

excuse this

16:48

isn't for me who am I my

16:51

past is too bad there's

16:53

a way more foreign experts in the

16:55

world that went to Toastmasters and took

16:57

I mean I did take speech communication

16:59

at Baylor but so

17:01

I don't know the reason that was the easy

17:03

laser right it's like what's working I'm not fell

17:06

out like speech calm cool it

17:09

worked out but

17:12

seriously though what's the language you tell

17:14

yourself every single day how do you speak

17:16

to yourself and I know for some of us it's like

17:19

corny like I'll speak I know for women it's easier y'all

17:21

have y'all do a great job of affirmation I see it

17:23

every day on social I'm like this

17:25

is amazing right have it on

17:27

the mirror right y'all create up with it but as

17:30

a man like it's like ah where my fella

17:33

I saw some fellas in here right what's up

17:36

what's up y'all

17:40

y'all wanna come here I'll draw here

17:51

get them brownie points big dog give them brownie

17:53

points but

17:56

you're in amazing room with amazing speakers I mean I

17:58

already saw who came here I mean, oh my

18:01

gosh, and what Brooke does is amazing. But

18:04

I really want you, again, to

18:08

start speaking life into your life,

18:10

please. And

18:12

I know it's so hard when you've been trained

18:14

by the society, when you've been trained by your

18:17

pain, when you've been trained by your past to

18:19

not speak that. You know, somebody told me the

18:21

other day, I'm too positive. I said, what else

18:23

do you want me to be? What's

18:27

the alternative? Speak

18:30

deaf into my life? The

18:36

language you speak to yourself

18:38

controls how you feel about yourself. How

18:41

you feel about yourself determines what you do.

18:44

What you do determines what you get, and what you get determines

18:46

the life that you live. That's

18:50

gonna be hard to say again. That

18:54

was downloaded, right? I was like, you gotta, might

18:56

have to watch that on replay. Make that a real, Brooke. Make that

18:59

a real, put it out. Ah. Ah. Ah.

19:02

Ah. Ah. Ah. Ah.

19:06

Ah. Ah. Ah.

19:08

You're a choice away from a new beginning, a commitment away from a

19:10

new life. All right, let's see if we

19:13

can get this. We can go to the

19:15

next slide. Here we go. Ah. So

19:19

a big part of protecting your peace. There's

19:25

three, three

19:27

areas. Protecting your peace, it has

19:30

three foundational principles. The

19:32

first principle is protect your energy. The

19:34

second principle is protect your mind. The

19:36

third principle is protect your soul. This

19:38

is a big part about protecting your energy.

19:40

And in principle one, when

19:43

you get the book, because you guys will, it's a

19:45

gift, you're gonna get it. Woo!

19:47

Woo! Woo! Woo! Yeah,

19:50

thank you. Man,

19:52

books are hard to write. I'm glad y'all happy.

19:55

Ha ha ha ha. So

19:59

sad. Set boundaries. Set

20:02

boundaries, listen, and I wanna say this

20:04

because I feel like

20:06

a lot of my content, sometimes a big misconception

20:08

is like, I'm not trying to tell you to

20:10

live a lonely life, I'm not trying to tell

20:12

you to keep everything out your life, but I

20:15

want you to set boundaries. Boundaries are beautiful. Boundaries

20:18

aren't some negative thing. When we hear it,

20:20

listen, people always try to say, you're setting

20:22

boundaries, and usually people who wanna manipulate us

20:24

and take advantage of us, they try to

20:26

make us feel guilty for doing these things,

20:29

but boundaries literally can grow every single relationship,

20:31

your team, your wife, your husband, they can

20:33

grow your friends with your kids. You're reading

20:35

the book about a boundary I set with

20:37

Tristan, my son. It definitely needs to be

20:39

set, and now it's great. But

20:41

set boundaries. Boundaries are not walls to keep

20:44

things out. Boundaries

20:47

are bridges to

20:50

let the right things in. They're

20:53

not walls to keep things out, and I know when

20:55

we think about it, and I'll just say this, a

20:57

boundary in my life only becomes a wall when that

20:59

person keeps disrespecting my boundary, and they build the wall

21:01

themselves. A

21:04

boundary is a bridge that's leading you to something.

21:07

So if you say, I want more peace in my life, what's

21:10

the boundary you need to set to

21:12

get more peace in your life? Is

21:15

it a different text or end with your friends? Because

21:19

I know I have to change that, and I love my

21:22

homies, but they were talking about stuff that literally was pointless.

21:26

And I said, I'll respectfully leave the group, and I hate

21:28

the iPhone because they know when you leave, and

21:31

I'm here like, gosh. For so long, I

21:33

put them on the silence, but

21:35

I have to like, man, it was stuff. I

21:37

had to have a conversation with them, and I will say that too. Out

21:40

of respect, a lot of

21:42

times we don't communicate our boundaries, so make

21:44

sure you clearly communicate why you're setting this

21:46

boundary. And boundaries are leading you

21:48

somewhere, so if you're a person that says, man,

21:50

I need more clarity in my life, but

21:53

every single day you have things

21:55

and scrolling social media and all these things that's

21:57

creating more confusion and comparison in your life. boundary.

22:03

If you want to get to your next level

22:05

of life I can tell you this there's boundaries

22:07

that you need to set that says I cannot

22:09

go back to this that that mindset anymore I

22:11

cannot go back to how I was living I

22:14

cannot go back to these old habits set the

22:16

boundary and there's two types

22:18

of boundaries that I need you to set and I'm gonna

22:20

keep it simple number one is an internal boundary point

22:23

the thumb of your self and say it's on me say

22:26

it's on me say it's on me what's

22:31

an internal boundary you need to set with yourself that

22:34

you know if I set this

22:36

boundary is going to lead to more blank

22:38

whatever I need in my life maybe

22:43

it is your cell phone I don't know maybe

22:46

it's a certain environment your

22:49

what your past whoo

22:54

there's a boundary all you just said right to

22:58

stop going back to things because

23:02

truth is big dog our

23:04

past a lot of times keeps us

23:07

from actually living the life that we're

23:09

meant to live because even with myself and I'm just speak

23:11

to you because I don't know if you need this or

23:13

not or somebody in here but my past forced me to

23:15

live in so much shame there's

23:17

a lot of people in this world I never

23:19

walk into their success because they got shame on

23:21

them self pity self shame self guilt who cares

23:23

if you've done it that's

23:26

what happened who cares that people say

23:28

that's who you are that's who you

23:30

were they knew you they don't know you are

23:40

those mistakes that we chained ourselves to we make mistakes

23:42

who cares there's not a soul this earth

23:45

despite what the filter life is showing you

23:47

on social media there's not a soul on

23:49

this earth that lives a mistake free life

23:51

the people that are judging you got they

23:53

stuff almost there's enough got they promise to

23:55

the people that are judging you

23:57

have their imperfections to it's okay And

24:00

I'm not saying continue to make the same mistake because that's

24:02

a choice. But let go. I

24:06

got people in high school that say, Trent, I

24:08

can't believe you're doing this. I remember you in high

24:10

school. I'm like, that was like 20 plus years ago.

24:13

Give my age away. Just

24:17

because you have some bad chapters. Doesn't

24:23

mean your story can't end well. We

24:26

talked about that choice in the beginning. All you got to do is turn

24:28

the page. It creates something

24:30

new. You're the narrator of your life. A

24:34

lot of us, we've given our past, we've

24:36

given people, we've given opinions, we've given social

24:38

media, the society, the pen to write our

24:40

life. You're the narrator of your

24:42

life. Who's been narrating your life? Has

24:44

it been you? And

24:47

be real. Has it

24:49

been you? Or

24:51

has it been something in your past? Let go

24:53

of the shame. You don't deserve to live in shame. I

24:59

told somebody years ago, and I'm trying to remember

25:01

in my brain this quote,

25:04

but I told

25:06

somebody, I'm going

25:08

to forget it. Maybe it'll come back to me. No,

25:11

seriously, I don't even want to, but I told

25:13

somebody, based on what I said to

25:15

you earlier, that's who I was. This

25:19

is what I do. Isn't

25:21

God good? And

25:25

I'm not trying to be Pastor Trent in here,

25:28

but I do want to say this. Like

25:31

when you come, like man, some

25:33

of y'all got some incredible stories, but

25:37

some of us we so addicted to our sad story,

25:42

we never create the story in our life that

25:44

we meant to live. Like

25:47

I'm not trying to undermine any trauma,

25:49

any struggle, but this

25:52

is my ask of every one of

25:54

you in here. This year, let's

25:56

have some healed energy instead of hurt energy. Let's

26:00

not talk about who did this to us what happened

26:02

last year what happened ten years ago That's

26:04

exactly how we don't move into our new when we

26:06

sit here We keep talking about things in our past

26:09

that are no longer a part of your life I

26:11

believe this is true the worst way to live your

26:13

life is allowing things that are no longer a part

26:15

of your life to Continue to control your life You

26:25

can make that a real to With

26:31

the internal boundary that you need to set okay,

26:33

that's one second What's

26:35

the external boundary that

26:38

you need to set meaning is

26:41

something outside of you That

26:44

you can't control that you can't change And

26:48

by setting this boundary is gonna mean more

26:50

peace in your life And I'll even just

26:52

say we're relationships like me and wifey like

26:54

we set a boundary You know

26:56

I mean in at times is difficult because

26:58

I Need my space

27:00

and she needs her space and I want to be

27:03

in her space when she wants her space and vice

27:05

versa right we Know as in a marriage right we

27:07

understand this But I have to realize in order for

27:09

her to be the best woman she can be I

27:11

have to give her her space and let Her do

27:13

her In the

27:15

time that she needed was a boundary in

27:17

the same with me I have a boundary that some

27:19

people might not understand, but I become

27:21

a better man Well, I'm living in that boundary and doing

27:23

what I need to do So what's

27:25

the external boundary right now that you can set

27:27

in your life that will lead to more peace

27:29

more joy more happiness And

27:32

I do believe happiness is a choice by the way

27:34

I don't think happiness always works off of what's happening

27:37

I think happiness is a choice that you literally can

27:39

choose happiness in any moment of your life It's called

27:41

internal happiness, which is a principle that we're not going

27:43

to talk about And

27:46

while we're there how about we start simplifying happiness

27:49

Can we go here right quick? Y'all sure

27:52

y'all still with me. I'm not going

27:54

over the place. I'm sure okay, buddy.

27:56

Just slow down. Just let me know I

28:00

asked you guys, in

28:02

order to protect your peace, simplify

28:04

happiness. What

28:06

does this mean? If

28:10

I looked at some of your happiness

28:13

checklists on

28:15

what it takes to be happy, no wonder

28:17

why you're not happy. Literally,

28:21

the Starbucks line got to be short, right?

28:26

The kids can't be tripping, right? It's like

28:28

all these things that you have to, you

28:31

have this checklist on, basically,

28:33

it's perfection in order for me to be

28:35

happy. That is missionally impossible. How about you

28:37

simplify happiness? Who has kids in here? Oh,

28:39

man. We got a room full of kids,

28:42

right?

28:45

What's the thing about kids that

28:47

they do so easily? Joy

28:50

and happiness, right? I can get,

28:52

I hate you, daddy, in like 30 seconds. It's like, daddy,

28:54

I love you the best, right? I get it. They

28:57

simplify happiness. I talk about this in the book called

28:59

Morning Marlies. Marlies is my daughter, and I won't get

29:01

too much into it, but it

29:04

was crazy because she came into

29:06

the room and she woke me up before the

29:09

Lord woke me up. She's

29:12

like, daddy, daddy, it's morning, it's morning. I'm like,

29:14

I wanted to be like, be quiet and go

29:16

back to sleep, right? But I couldn't. She's

29:18

three at the time. Before

29:21

I wanted to respond like that, I caught myself. I

29:23

said, wow. This little

29:25

girl is happy that it's morning. And

29:32

I'm sitting here complaining that it's Monday. She's

29:36

happy that it's morning and she is for real

29:38

happy. Y'all know what I'm talking about. When

29:44

I'm gonna

29:47

say this. When

29:49

did we get so uptight as adults? At

29:52

what part of our journey did

29:56

we make happiness so hard? where

30:00

we can't be really grateful that

30:03

it's morning. That

30:06

I got my family around

30:08

because I've had moments that were close in the

30:11

last few years. I've had moments that I've dealt with that people.

30:13

I mean, we all have these

30:15

moments, but I realize how important these blessings are.

30:17

Like some of us need to break through in

30:19

our perspective to actually understand that, man, I'm spending

30:21

too much time focusing on what I don't have

30:23

that I don't realize what I do have. And

30:29

it's so easy to complain, but I want you guys

30:31

to start celebrating your life. Simplify

30:34

it. Somebody give me some right

30:37

now. What's something simple that you can be happy about

30:39

that is a guaranteed success to be happy when you

30:41

wake up? Somebody tell me. You

30:43

say what? That you're here. I

30:46

love it. You

30:48

got a bed to sleep in. What else? You

30:50

can walk. What else? It's

30:53

warm. Y'all from Texas? Y'all

30:55

gotta be, because yeah. We need to eat. I

30:57

know up north it's so funny, because people are

31:00

like, Trent, it's negative 50 in Minnesota. I'm like,

31:02

that's why I live there. It's cold

31:04

here. I live in Texas. 13

31:09

degrees is like you're negative 50, right? But

31:13

when you leave here as an action item, just say,

31:15

man, one thing, you don't have to be a wholeness,

31:18

but like what's the one thing that's my non-negotiable that

31:21

I'm going to use to create happiness in my life where

31:23

I'm going to choose happiness? And

31:25

I want you to set that boundary with yourself, because

31:29

happiness is available to you. I

31:31

don't know if this is foreign here, but it's on my heart to

31:33

say this. Like some of us, we've been in pain so long that we

31:35

forgot happiness is still optional. Still

31:38

option for you. Greatness,

31:40

my friend, is still option for you. Joy,

31:44

peace, still

31:48

option for you. Choose

31:53

it. And don't

31:55

let anybody take it away from you. Y'all got that. Say straight up.

31:58

We'll go to the next slide. Man,

32:03

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32:06

and I always made a promise to myself. Once

32:09

I started my brand, I would come out

32:11

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32:13

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32:15

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35:58

is something you will never. If

36:02

you keep allowing the things you

36:04

can't control. To.

36:08

Control you. Everybody.

36:12

Right a circle on your page or the

36:14

big surface. Go.

36:16

To you, the paper for quite a big circle for me.

36:21

And. My able to get down his. Cycle

36:24

says Mark was better. Are definitely be doing

36:26

that now. Have a book published last I'm

36:28

are barely how was this? Summer

36:31

to the right on your page

36:34

are just a big circle I

36:36

when the season we are artistic

36:38

expression states. Who so in

36:40

that sort of at the top? I

36:43

want you to write things I can

36:45

seem so. Things.

36:52

Are taken from. Ours.

36:56

Am right now is some I raise their

36:58

hand for me was one thing to do

37:00

it this in your control. Nobody else can

37:03

you tell somebody. Revanchism are. You.

37:05

Okay right, the don't. And.

37:08

Write your version of whatever it is you

37:10

some I resumed us. Your

37:13

thoughts to control. Cause

37:18

allergic reaction type of yeah for

37:20

sure I you respond or love

37:22

it was up. Would.

37:24

You be sure honey to help on

37:27

us will. Pass.

37:30

Your Innocence. That

37:33

cannabis. Yup, Yup, I'm.

37:38

Breathing. For sure. So I know

37:40

this is com and says and I'm

37:42

just making a lot of promises to

37:44

you. But in the circle when you

37:46

leave here to be an easy ride.

37:48

A million things but. Get.

37:50

Bad. So. Controlling what

37:52

you can control. This is what

37:54

I see a massive seniors dorner

37:57

Some are thousands of thousand messages

37:59

is. Most people are complaining about

38:01

things that they said central. And

38:04

would they do? As a point? no effort into

38:06

the things they take control. They complain

38:08

about people. They complain about society. They complain

38:11

about all these things. I take control and

38:13

ourselves. Or you take control. Those things. Where

38:15

do you know and how you control your

38:17

thoughts Are you respond is what would you

38:19

even when you door neighbor? Oh well in

38:22

there aren't living the things. I take control.

38:26

And I can just say this is true when I

38:28

know some saw this looks sort of crap and of

38:30

always excessive every rules, but if you see. Be

38:35

committed to the things that you can

38:37

control. How you

38:39

will get a like this out here from from what

38:41

I mean by the Uk. Console a people fall You

38:43

are not. Enough you know how

38:45

people I know know buddy bob me not deal with

38:48

ourselves as are using system everyday opposed to know. That's.

38:50

We can control how you significance to sisters.

38:52

You take control of people like you, our

38:55

hearts. You are sir. You get insulted You

38:57

can ask ask every day. Which.

39:00

Is a controller. And

39:03

then alsop a circle Mississippi want to the

39:05

right things are take control and these are

39:07

things that you need to let go of.

39:09

Like Isis and I know it's hard when

39:11

a lot of was we live here and

39:13

we weren't of our mental health feels like

39:16

we're dream what are we so bird.we want

39:18

to be so stress we wonder why we

39:20

so depleted because all of our problems usually

39:22

our thoughts were route issue of something outside

39:24

of our control for most of the most

39:26

situations. Some. I sell me

39:28

some cases roles my reverse, not

39:30

a progressive forcing other people resort.

39:32

what else? The

39:34

Weather Resources. Exactly

39:37

where the people think are you. Politics.

39:40

For source. Yes,

39:45

He can do you care to troll this

39:48

institution or foods it. Would.

39:51

You can control the last one. To.

39:53

Pass right. Does.

39:55

Saw. Him.

40:00

Donald A cool right? When.

40:02

You try to control your pass. you depress.

40:05

We. Were about due to your Isis. A.

40:07

Most before they leave an app. Pens were like in that

40:10

area. And. They don't

40:12

focus on are now. If

40:14

I can give you one had that would change your life. And

40:16

this is not some. Wow. Sorry.

40:20

Folks and would you take control? And.

40:22

Be committed to that ecosystem with that. You.

40:26

Can throw how you so up. Are.

40:29

Gonna go home ecosystems or a football

40:31

game in the cold or I'm of

40:33

these processes know my rights. That's how

40:35

my boys we means Every monday his

40:37

ability to build a mindset and nods

40:39

his skillset because as and this is

40:41

in zero realize as you get higher

40:43

skill set matches with separate user myself.

40:47

It's also my boys. I

40:50

say which. Your. Console

40:52

of. You. Might not be

40:54

control of. What? Life sized give you

40:56

with his games as a good use with that

40:58

seems off duty which you aren't and soul of

41:00

how you respond. Your.

41:02

To throw it out of some of what we

41:04

have a made up our minds of how are

41:06

going to respond with my mom passed argument of

41:08

them are the piano probably right but I'm not

41:10

quitting on minimum on some a whole boys and

41:12

men committed suicide at his task. Is there? No

41:14

matter what you've ever seen requests you might seem

41:17

a little before but I'm not. I'm about all

41:19

the way Our promise not to say it's on

41:21

a promise of the same are brown and bad.

41:23

Don't. Want

41:27

our for you have at least there's a class for

41:29

me but I want that for you Summer use I

41:31

just i bought some apart as you need to stay

41:33

in your mouth. Stadium.

41:35

I thought about just people. support yourself.

41:38

Because I'm gonna be the bearer of bad

41:40

news, more than likely to plan is not

41:42

go as planned. issue. Is

41:44

Not. Respond

41:47

in this game a sports former athlete Samir

41:49

this is a life lesson so let's see

41:51

now is the game is not have seen

41:53

a dozen that with the best day plants

41:55

is a similar thoughts towards us as have

41:57

some. That's. Always the game. So

42:00

how you are responding to live with your sort

42:02

of thing that ever happened to start a business.

42:04

You are a product, Nobody bothers you. write the

42:07

book. International sales are you will respond. How

42:14

are you going to respond? You have to answer

42:16

this moment I see lived as in your so.

42:19

If you're someone was we are a source in a

42:21

lot of was what we do with we revert back

42:23

to our own habits that are all process of respond

42:25

or we say oh woe is me with so sorry

42:28

for suppose this might not be made from our lives.

42:32

Negatively which are want you to wake up

42:34

right now or same as any they weren't

42:36

happy going to go to a process of

42:38

adopting trials and tribulations the how you found

42:40

about a quarter of gifts for some we

42:43

are not very cold. Out

42:46

in Flagstaff just a few weeks ago.

42:50

A little me on the. Bottom of this know that because

42:52

the bottom of it it was no snow

42:54

as I got higher was twenty degrees or

42:56

degrees colder. Less people our to stay on

42:58

the way were less people A literally was

43:00

no our lives is true that is like

43:02

the hi you both illicit Major Britain seems

43:05

a Muslim I'm a jew overseas with a

43:07

hard you know sometimes the code or injured

43:09

his sometimes you think men on let's not

43:11

be able to wrong path because I'm lonely

43:13

I must not be the wrong path because

43:15

everybody started with me is it would be

43:17

no more It's okay it's supporters are did

43:19

it is what happens look in his room.

43:21

Even though they started with you there might not

43:23

be finished with you. You kinda homes like this

43:25

was around to see like months. This is the

43:27

same thing or your flunked. Is

43:30

the same thing on your farmers you slam.

43:32

I was going to get around like Martha

43:35

as you com o your be people are

43:37

operates before you know how do we are

43:39

totally different across the spectrum. But

43:41

we have a like mine says. In

43:45

order to go there are some things that you

43:47

must lead author wonder things, a Sonic and things

43:49

it's it's about controls letting those are just as

43:51

a straight of. Us

43:53

are sort of. Us. When.

44:02

You get home from other your room literally right

44:04

on our lives in. every time you start to

44:06

feel a certain way just ask yourself. A

44:10

simple question: Cannot control this.

44:15

Month ago. My.

44:18

Say it is. I'm a control. What Arcane, I'm a pram.

44:20

What? Our kids. And

44:25

for some home, where can

44:27

we go? us? For some of

44:29

us in this room and I notice is true for me. Front

44:39

of was my words

44:41

on a last. Look

44:46

for some of us in his room and I'm being

44:48

honest with you a real which instead of which have.

44:54

You. Been. So.

44:57

Tired. So.

44:59

Depleted. You have

45:01

no peace in your life not because

45:03

of the things that are doing that

45:05

because he not do in the habit

45:07

in the meditations and everything like the

45:10

morning routine your pi don't or less.

45:13

But. Some of us are literally. Trying

45:16

to save things that are meant to be

45:18

saved. And

45:22

I would do this so much of my life in the

45:24

past two years. I

45:26

made us I'm never served as was worth. Maybe.

45:29

On my part as soon as everything on here

45:31

but. I would do.

45:36

You have be very careful on the premises that you

45:38

make. My.

45:41

Mom was passed away. A

45:45

made her promise as if I got everybody.

45:50

Saw. Me: A. and

45:53

of me being a leaders that's normally me

45:56

anyway i put everything on soldiers And

46:01

having that mindset

46:03

was breaking me. So

46:08

I didn't want to let my mother down and

46:11

renege on my promise. So

46:14

I was trying to save people that didn't want to be saved

46:16

and I was drowning. I

46:20

was being a lifejacket for people that didn't want to even

46:22

want a lifejacket, kicked me a lifejacket away. You ever try

46:24

to, you know, I know you're in this room. You ever

46:26

try to help people they ask you for help and you

46:28

give them help and they don't listen to you and

46:31

like, what, what, what, who's that? And

46:34

that's hard for me because I know

46:37

this is true for y'all in here. You are so

46:39

gifted at seeing the best in people. You want the

46:41

best in people. And I

46:44

got to say this as we move forward. The thing

46:46

that I did, and

46:50

this is from my spiritual side, you can take

46:53

it how you want to take it, have your own saying, but I

46:56

said, here you go, guys. I

46:59

gave the responsibility to try to change people, try

47:02

to control people in a positive way, try to

47:05

do things for people, try to, here you go,

47:07

God. I had to allow God to do what

47:09

God does for them because I'm gonna be real.

47:11

Some of us, we're trying to change and make

47:13

a person be who we want them to become

47:15

instead of who they're meant to be. And

47:18

that's a hard pill to swallow, even with our kids. We

47:22

want the best for our kids. You want to leave them right,

47:24

but sometimes we got to let our kids be who they were

47:26

called to be. Here

47:31

you go, God. And

47:34

that gave me so much more peace in my life.

47:38

A decision to surrender, to try to

47:41

be everything to everybody. And some of you in

47:43

this room, that's what you're trying to be, everything

47:45

to everybody. And you can't be anything to the

47:47

somebody that you need to be somebody to, which

47:49

is yourself. So what

47:51

do you need to surrender? We

47:55

talk a lot about gaming things and... more

48:00

things and more and more and more. That's great, but what

48:02

do you need to surrender because you're holding on to

48:04

so much, you ain't got no room to carry anything else.

48:08

You got so much baggage. You

48:14

don't have anything to carry anything else. You can't

48:16

even allow to be put in your hands because

48:18

you're carrying so much. What do you need to

48:20

surrender and say, can you go? For

48:26

me, I've learned to let people

48:29

be right. You

48:33

know what my favorite saying is? You're right.

48:39

I've learned because I've stopped trying to prove

48:41

my point to people. And

48:44

it doesn't make me like, I'm not trying

48:47

to say, don't, you know, you

48:49

can't have constructive criticism or anything like that.

48:51

But some of us, man, we're using all

48:53

our energy to try to be

48:55

right and prove people wrong. I cannot stand when people

48:57

say this and I was this person. Like, I'm doing

48:59

it to prove them wrong. Why? Go prove yourself right

49:02

and by default, you're going to prove them wrong in

49:04

the process. With what you focus on is where your

49:06

energy goes. So for some of us in this room,

49:08

you've got to learn how to say, you know what?

49:10

I'm going to let them be right. I'm

49:13

going to respect their perspective. Some people say, Trent, especially

49:16

on social media, everybody has an

49:19

opinion on me. And what I should do, what

49:21

I should say, what I ain't doing right, all

49:23

the things I say, you know what? You're right.

49:25

I appreciate your perspective. I don't say this part.

49:27

Sometimes I do. I will never allow

49:29

your perspective to become my truth because I know the truth

49:31

about me. So

49:35

for some of us, we said opinions. You're

49:38

trying to please opinions. The

49:42

first steps of being unhappy is trying to

49:44

please everyone else. And

49:47

I notice it's hitting hard for some of you in here. And

49:51

if you dive deep, you might say, Trent, I don't try

49:53

to please opinions. Think about it. Are

49:56

you really showing up as you? Or

49:58

Before you show up as you think about? We're going on. Think about me.

50:04

The idea that? so yes, Sir

50:06

Yes sir, Yes. He's.

50:08

A some you'll never experienced people out of things

50:10

you can control to control you. We

50:16

talked about this briefly, a big part

50:18

of protecting the thesis: Trusting your business.

50:20

Trusted trust To trust. It's about Saddam.

50:23

Fifteen Thirteen years ago, I was in

50:25

Israel. But I have a business out of. State.

50:30

I want to say about services. You

50:32

guys are missionaries and dreamer so you

50:34

guys have a big mindset. your firearm.

50:36

He said it before but you are

50:38

gorgeous. Stop expecting people would small boxes

50:40

to cooperate. a big visit. It is

50:42

not meant for them to see trusted

50:45

source service. If you know when you

50:47

can see external external validation, do trust.

50:53

Who truly trust services. Division

51:01

I was given to you. And.

51:09

Out of your realize how special it

51:11

is. Nobly

51:15

Dots a good some a

51:17

curated a business. A

51:19

give a talent for you. For

51:24

some of us a here will allow people to make it

51:26

make is the version a special. And

51:28

I gotta say this for months on

51:31

a makes every so negative. But I

51:33

gotta say this like some people are

51:35

supposed to see your greatness. Some.

51:39

People are too familiar with you. To

51:41

see this are incredibly you are your

51:43

normal things will become. Things.

51:46

Will become familiar with we normalize, There's.

51:53

Been a prescription has been given you. A

51:58

prescription that. That.

52:00

Was uniquely designed for you, just like a set

52:03

of eyeglasses. Optometrists,

52:07

Or learn to are finally learn

52:10

how to say it's. Just

52:12

like that sandwiches give you when you

52:14

have. A

52:17

Business Issues. They.

52:19

Said a prescription that is uniquely designed

52:21

for you. Know.

52:25

For anybody else if someone else for

52:27

your glasses they were not see clear

52:29

which you are seeing clear. So.

52:35

When it comes to our lives, we've

52:37

have a business that's been given to

52:39

us allies. visit. And.

52:42

Would a lot of was do I made this mistake plenty

52:44

of times. We. Expect people to

52:46

see clear what we see clear. And

52:50

you give him a dose of your business. it's

52:52

they look. Look. What

52:54

I'm gonna do. What? What

52:56

I'm going to be what I'm going to say

52:58

is that what it looked at least to use

53:00

for your past. Spacey you for your limitations, Spacey

53:02

for your professors. Like see where your flaws. They

53:05

see you for all your. Normal,

53:07

not normality underlined. That's what I see. We'll see

53:09

the superhero er as they see the regular version

53:11

of you. And that's always sell. Be

53:13

re up a business a person to dip your presence

53:16

of the world that the world politics or business. Because

53:19

the water say was a Marcos people it's

53:21

all me trades know what is it was

53:23

strange of across the same his ip businesses

53:25

can I say this.with like stranger like to

53:27

think that are places. That

53:31

have a place trying to visualize

53:33

suicide. You are places that don't be

53:35

supported. Support not familiar. Please open supplier

53:37

so services news sources do you suggest?

53:39

What do you really trust services to

53:41

say? Also I know you don't see

53:43

it is not meant for you to

53:46

see. It's a dilemma to see it

53:48

doesn't want to be given for you

53:50

to. Some of us were busy out

53:52

and we're missing passers. It's a responsibility

53:54

to take the presence of the world

53:56

to let other people see is what

53:58

your family, the man or different. aren't

54:00

bad, it's not their job until you make

54:02

it plain for them to see. Husted.

54:09

But what a lot of us do, we live

54:11

in three type of perspectives. And

54:13

I'm curious, and I know this room, so I'm pretty sure 99.9%

54:15

of you live in the perspective that I'm thinking.

54:19

But I gotta ask, is that okay?

54:23

There's three type of perspectives when

54:25

it comes to trusting your vision. Number

54:27

one is the, as my man said,

54:30

the past perspective. And

54:34

the past perspective is when you look at life

54:38

through your past, you

54:40

see all the reasons why you're not capable, you

54:43

live in shame, you live in guilt, you

54:46

live in all your

54:48

insecurities. And so when

54:50

you hear a message like this, for

54:53

some of you sitting in here, maybe it's one of you, but

54:57

I know statistics is more than one.

55:01

You might be sitting there thinking, Brooke,

55:03

Trent, Jamie, Rachel, etc.

55:07

Whoever comes up here says, that's easier,

55:09

says that. You don't understand my situation

55:11

though. And

55:14

I call that the prison perspective, literally, where

55:16

you're finding reasons to justify why you can't

55:19

go get the vision that's meant for you.

55:21

The prison perspective, it sounds a lot like

55:23

easier said than done. It sounds

55:27

a lot like, oh, I'm not them. That's the prison

55:29

perspective. And a lot of us were trapped in our

55:31

prison. Past

55:37

perspective. Anybody living in a past

55:39

right now? Thank

55:41

you for being honest. I've

55:44

been there a lot. And at times,

55:46

you know what? This world makes me want

55:48

to go pick up that past perspective sometimes. The

55:54

second perspective. That's

55:56

where a lot of people live for

55:58

sure. perspective.

56:02

Triple P's, anybody know what that stands for? Professional

56:07

people pleaser. Anybody

56:09

wear that title? Okay,

56:12

somebody, okay, all right. Anybody

56:16

ever wore that title? Pass it? Okay,

56:18

cool. Professional

56:20

people pleaser. A lot of times we live

56:23

in this space of, we look

56:25

at life through pleasing everybody. Listen, that's a sign

56:27

of a good heart and I love your good

56:29

heart, but please don't allow your good heart to

56:31

keep you putting in situations that is breaking your

56:33

heart. Please protect your heart, protect your life, but

56:35

a lot of us, we live like pleasing. That

56:37

means that, okay, I'm doing this to please other

56:40

people. We lose ourselves, we drain our life, we

56:42

keep pouring in everybody. We have nobody to pour

56:44

into our life and we feel drained and we

56:46

feel empty. The pleasing perspective, I think probably 75%

56:48

of people live here. And

56:55

there's no way you can see your vision clearly

56:57

when you're trying to please them and theirs. When

57:01

you're a slave to their perspective of you. And

57:07

I said that with that passion because it's real.

57:09

I see people literally commit suicide because of how

57:11

people feel about them. And I got to tell

57:14

you this, you can write this down. Never let

57:16

how they feel about you change how you feel

57:18

about yourself. Please.

57:23

Then

57:26

the last perspective, which

57:28

is the one that I believe when you leave

57:30

this amazing experience

57:37

on Sunday, you're

57:40

going to live in a power perspective. This

57:44

is when you see the world as your playground. Everything

57:48

is power. You're

57:52

nervous to walk on stage? No,

57:54

I'm excited. This is power. Not

57:56

I have the power over y'all, nothing like that, but

57:58

it's power for me to conquer my fears. It's powerful

58:00

for me to show myself I'm worth it. It's

58:04

powerful me to overcome my insecurities that I'm

58:06

having backstage and ask myself, am I enough?

58:08

Do people care? Yes, it goes through my

58:10

head also. The

58:12

power perspective says, no matter what is trying to

58:14

break me, I'm gonna for sure every time someone's

58:17

sent to break me, every time

58:19

someone's sent to shake my life, I'm gonna

58:21

let it build me. That's the power perspective.

58:23

The power perspective says, no matter what comes

58:25

against me, it will not make me fold.

58:27

No matter what comes against me, I'm gonna

58:29

use it for the betterment of my life.

58:31

That is the power perspective. You can't

58:34

lose when you have that perspective.

58:36

Somebody left my life good. That means that you're making more

58:38

room for the right person to enter. Somebody

58:43

removed me from their table, great. Now I can build

58:45

my own. They

58:48

fired me from the job, great. I didn't like the

58:50

job anyway. The

58:53

power perspective, some people call this optimistic.

58:57

I call it realistic. Everything

59:01

is your power. This is what I do.

59:03

You don't have to do it, but I'll give

59:05

this to you. Every

59:07

time I go through something, I tell

59:10

myself, this is power. What

59:13

you feed my psychiatrist in here

59:16

maybe can verify, but

59:19

I believe what you feed your mind will grow

59:21

in your soul. Anybody

59:24

a psychiatrist? Psychologist,

59:26

oh my bad, it's my bad. I said it wrong.

59:29

Is that right? Yes. But

59:34

what you feed your mind will grow in your soul. So

59:37

what if you just took the title of everything and said,

59:39

this is power. And I know it's hard. When

59:41

I told my Achilles, I said, this is power. And even though I felt

59:43

powerless, I told him, I said, this is power.

59:45

My mom passed away. This is power. And that's crazy, right? How

59:53

would your life change if you made this shift? From

59:58

what does this mean to what is this going to mean? to

1:00:00

me. Now I want to get

1:00:02

a little bit tactical here. For

1:00:05

a lot of us in this room when

1:00:07

something happens in our life we say what does this

1:00:09

mean and usually we come up with a meaning because

1:00:11

we're not in our power perspective. This means my life

1:00:13

is over. This means I'm done. This means I'm not

1:00:16

lovable. I have a failed marriage. This means that nobody's

1:00:18

gonna love me. This means that XYZ we create

1:00:21

all these crazy sad narrative stories that don't serve

1:00:23

our life and I've been there too so I'm

1:00:25

not picking on you. I'm not being

1:00:27

insensitive. But

1:00:30

what if you start saying in your life what

1:00:32

is this going to mean? Can somebody tell me

1:00:34

what that simple shift is? Can somebody tell me

1:00:36

that? From going from

1:00:38

what does this mean to what is

1:00:40

this going to mean? Can somebody tell

1:00:43

me what that does? It's what? Past

1:00:46

of the future? Somebody else? You

1:00:49

choose it? You what? The

1:00:52

lesson you learn? What else? Opportunity.

1:00:54

I love it. Somebody tell me what else? What did it

1:00:57

do? What does this shift you into? Huh?

1:01:03

A paradigm shift. I like that. Write

1:01:06

that down. Mindset

1:01:08

shift. Come on. A few more. Who

1:01:12

said that? No. Who

1:01:14

said the power? Both of y'all. It

1:01:18

shifts you into ownership. It

1:01:22

shifts you into your power. Now

1:01:25

you cannot blame the situation and say,

1:01:27

what does this mean? All this means

1:01:29

when you say what is this going

1:01:31

to mean? Now guess who decides what

1:01:34

happens from here? You.

1:01:37

And I know it's so simple but

1:01:40

these are the things that you must feed your mind

1:01:42

that has to grow in your soul that's become a

1:01:44

part of who you are for your perspective. Your perspective

1:01:46

is how you see the world. I believe this is

1:01:49

true and I'm gonna stand on this. I believe your

1:01:51

perspective is probably the most important thing you have in

1:01:53

your life. It's the thing that you

1:01:55

can control and I will go ahead and say this

1:01:57

on record. The happiest...

1:02:00

People have a healthy as perspective. When

1:02:05

I can see everything worked there for

1:02:07

the good of your life, they'll just

1:02:09

as a yes. Yes,

1:02:15

Yes, the women. Will

1:02:20

about seven more minutes together in? I

1:02:22

want to just talk about fulfillment. You

1:02:25

not to leave you in on on

1:02:27

a book is a perfect example of

1:02:29

this. Live in a perfume me like

1:02:31

I'm amazed at how see like six

1:02:33

kids like city don't have a right.

1:02:36

I am amazed that I look up

1:02:38

to that serious winter Madison our children

1:02:40

I like which he does is incredible

1:02:42

to me. The

1:02:45

family on. And

1:02:55

to protect peace process the last

1:02:57

for the process is protecting your

1:02:59

soul in when I'm going on

1:03:01

farmer really dive into that. Worth

1:03:04

protecting your so. When

1:03:08

the principles is. Live

1:03:12

in fulfillment. And.

1:03:15

I believe fulfillment as individual loss.

1:03:18

I believe that. We.

1:03:20

All have a choice to choose. What?

1:03:23

That means and I would say you to get

1:03:25

clear on what that means to you. I

1:03:31

see so many souls.

1:03:34

And I'm in this industry with the best of the bus.

1:03:37

Aussie. Aussie.

1:03:40

So many. The.

1:03:42

Have everything the to along. But.

1:03:45

I don't have of filming. Up

1:03:49

in a partial? I dunno, Missouri. Ram.

1:03:52

All the sets the bucket list

1:03:54

is checked off. The.

1:03:56

My soul buckle is is. Realized

1:04:00

that I was missing something com fulfill monopolies

1:04:02

the film it's is one of the greatest

1:04:05

medicines where your soul. And

1:04:08

actually live in in a. Super.

1:04:11

Majority of the world. The world was a lot of

1:04:13

some say six. I'm. In nothing

1:04:15

wrong with the know the meaning like I say

1:04:18

say sir, dream soon everything but like I don't

1:04:20

want to say you did say anymore. I

1:04:25

want you to be a magnet. A

1:04:29

nice Things bond you. I

1:04:31

didn't say is this speaking engagements.

1:04:35

The. Things that you see me do. I don't say these

1:04:37

things what I do as I can. products to control

1:04:39

and I make slobbering as much value to the world's

1:04:41

my grandmother told me not let.bless us as a threat.

1:04:43

Whatever you do make so you make it better and

1:04:46

I'm making this room a little bit better. Syria

1:04:49

was is a smear member right? Here is

1:04:51

what is. That's what you his intro. Psyche.

1:04:56

But. I made a similar. Sometimes I make

1:04:59

things worse. So much is my say

1:05:01

that he makes workers' rights three am

1:05:03

I. So many words as various you

1:05:05

have with rents are getting my we're

1:05:07

Not Perfect was. Sodomized.

1:05:09

would ever on come around better. In

1:05:13

that fulfills me. When.

1:05:16

You get his books are going to read a

1:05:19

story. Our go to a story about saw was

1:05:21

abuzz. The. Height of Mods or

1:05:23

thirty two cities or and solves the people in

1:05:25

a room exams us to see me as in

1:05:27

that moment I was it be out of the

1:05:29

press I was hearts and are a lot like

1:05:31

Why the Mid I have everything the world says.

1:05:34

Me: Play football or that some understand that

1:05:36

lot of people know you people all the

1:05:38

things that you think I'm going to fulfill

1:05:41

your life Ahmed So you'd as please hear

1:05:43

me sing se fulfillment. And.

1:05:45

Other people post mates i say life go

1:05:48

to their things because they didn't realize it's

1:05:50

one thing because this is a scary ports

1:05:52

for some of us. Some. Of

1:05:54

us until it was the real stuff. In

1:05:57

the scary part is is that you think that

1:05:59

are missing something. You think you're missing

1:06:01

a boots? Admire your name. You think you miss a

1:06:03

million dollars by your name. You think you're missing a billion

1:06:05

dollars by and I know things are great. Dog It's.

1:06:08

Not so you would you miss of because

1:06:10

once you get your realize as wait a

1:06:12

minute. You.

1:06:14

Know students. But.

1:06:18

It seems to pay bits of didn't deal with.

1:06:22

An estimate Nasa will life becomes. I don't

1:06:25

want to live anymore because I see everyday.

1:06:27

They say when works for me. I'd

1:06:30

see everything they said were made me

1:06:32

happy. With.

1:06:34

else is less. And

1:06:37

I'll get messes everyday. Saw know this is through.

1:06:40

The. Thing that people are missing is for filming. I.

1:06:43

Was at a seminar pi three years

1:06:45

ago. And. I'll say this quick story

1:06:47

where rapid Orcs are that A seminar two years ago

1:06:50

in. Disguise This

1:06:52

is like the top real estate people

1:06:54

in the world. so. It's

1:06:56

millionaires, Even some billionaires A There are.

1:07:01

Some. A visceral which are new but

1:07:03

miserable must have an altogether. Subtle

1:07:07

around the room is this watchable with

1:07:09

this process. There was a young man.

1:07:12

Very. Wealthy. Comes out

1:07:14

about. Asset:

1:07:17

wealthy, not solo. And.

1:07:19

He was very wealthy an awesome. A few questions as

1:07:22

soon as I ask them about a so he broke

1:07:24

down crying. Go. Man, and

1:07:26

it's like the law for me in a crowd of

1:07:28

people bother with which I think is minimal strong things

1:07:30

American to. Fellas. Is

1:07:36

saw walking through this process that I don't

1:07:38

have time really to walk go through but

1:07:40

you can write this down and watch yourself

1:07:42

do it. I want this process that okay

1:07:44

so what's the realizes that I'm a happy

1:07:46

so Geico were why you know happy to

1:07:48

tell me about yourself He said well I'm

1:07:50

I'm I'm a millionaire on the top of

1:07:52

my company Of all the things I was

1:07:54

not happy. He. Was i because

1:07:56

after like something is missing any by

1:07:58

the saliva. So

1:08:02

are both. It is whole process

1:08:04

of submitter bitches of him ask

1:08:06

him as one question. Cities

1:08:09

are kids. Who

1:08:14

can a mass And he bought. Sir

1:08:17

Yes, Sir, how

1:08:20

mean he said one. Seven.

1:08:26

Or says. Policy.

1:08:32

Say. Sixteen. Smoker

1:08:35

him say? well. What's. Going

1:08:38

on. And

1:08:41

I would put doesn't have to cope. And

1:08:46

a perspective that I would say he

1:08:48

said I'm everything to the world. But

1:08:55

I'm nobody. Summer. Every

1:08:59

time he walked into the house, he didn't have a connection with

1:09:01

his daughter. And he got his

1:09:03

daughter every day. He'd

1:09:06

sets off the list a whip.

1:09:08

Been a great parents in society would

1:09:11

say. Flatly simple

1:09:13

questions and okay let's get down to the bottom

1:09:15

of is because it's pretty simple Us: it's somewhat

1:09:17

do you care about baby girl. He

1:09:21

says source got a one the far

1:09:23

from us you care He said five.

1:09:27

So guys, See

1:09:29

source said absolutely going on offense a

1:09:31

bit like absolutely right. So

1:09:35

okay. Well. I

1:09:39

said how much time. Are

1:09:43

you spending would baby girl? From.

1:09:47

Skill for one the far. As

1:09:52

it a point five owner. Says

1:09:54

what he he's the like at night and what. Was

1:09:59

it bro? That's.

1:10:02

Why you're not happy? Because.

1:10:05

For filming works off of. Time.

1:10:09

Divided. By which you love most.

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