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you . Greetings
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, hi and hello everyone . My
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name is jason pizzi flair . I'm
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a speaker , I'm a podcaster and my life's
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work is centered around allowing the world to
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meet the true you by helping
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you think , speak and eventually live
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better than yesterday . We
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do this , first , by establishing a good
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reason why , a strong
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and powerful motivation to keep going when
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the going gets rough . Second , we
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need awareness and acknowledgement
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of what's holding us back . And
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third , we need scalable steps forward
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as a reliable bridge between who we are right
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now and who we need to be tomorrow
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and the day after that , and
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the day after that and the day after that
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. This , my friends , is how
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you go from stuck to thinking
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as , speaking as and living
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as the true
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you . People
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are often unreasonable , illogical and
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self-centered . Forgive them anyway . If
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you are kind , people may accuse
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you of selfish ulterior motives . Be
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kind anyway . If
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you are successful , you will win some false friends and some true enemies Succeed
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anyway . If you are honest and frank , people
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may cheat you . Be
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honest and frank anyway . What
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you spent years building , building , someone
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could destroy overnight Build
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anyway . If
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you find serenity and happiness
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, they may be jealous . Be
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happy anyway . The
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good you do today , people will often
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forget . Tomorrow . Do good
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anyway . Give
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the world the best you have
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, and it may never be enough . Give
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the world the best you've got anyway
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. You see , in the final
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analysis , it is between you
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and God . It was never
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between you and them anyway
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. It
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was never between you and them anyway . The
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original version of this poem called the Paradoxical Commandment
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was written by Kent M Keith in 1968
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. While
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this altered version of it is credited to Mother Teresa . They both carry the same primary
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idea . My interpretation of this idea is the notion of both knowing
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and doing good purely for
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the sake of doing it , because
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it is good to do so . Now
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, why do we even bother with emphasizing
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that it is important to do good anyway
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? My response to that
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would be a question of my own
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. Is there even
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a point to that emphasis ? If doing good
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was always easy in the first
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place , I would think
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not . So to break
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all that down and simplify these
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thoughts and concepts for easy digestion
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, today we will be talking about
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true strength and
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what that sometimes looks like when faced
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with an ungrateful world or selfish
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people . Before
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I continue , though , allow me to make this one quick
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point . This isn't about pointing
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the finger at people around us just
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for the sake of telling them they're bad
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. Maybe this doesn't apply
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to a tasteful and distinguished individual
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such as yourself , but I know for
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a fact that I've had , and occasionally
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still have , moments
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where , counter to the moral code that I
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follow , I think speak
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or act in a very selfish
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or overly self-serving manner . That's
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it . We may not be pushing
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weights in a purple gym , but I'm trying
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to keep this a judgment free
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zone , if you
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know . You know . So let's start and
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end by plugging in our personal
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growth trio . I
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mention it in every intro you need a
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strong why , a powerful motivation
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to keep going . Next , you need awareness
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of what's preventing you , or what could
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prevent you , from doing what you need
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to do or being who you need to be
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. Then we wrap it all up
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with two simple words scalable
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steps . That's
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it . So for
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your why , only you can really
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determine whether or not a particular reason
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is good enough . Does it motivate
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you ? Does failing to live
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up to it disappoint you ? What
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are the stakes ? Simple
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example someone whose diabetes
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diagnosis was a wake-up
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call will hit the gym a little
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differently than someone who's just trying
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to look good for the summer . It's
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not about one reason being good
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and the other being bad . No , it's
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about digging deep enough that , whatever
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your answer to the why question , you
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give yourself no room for
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excuses . I remind
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you of our previous , one of our past
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mantras
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, if you want to call it , that we let our
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excuses die so
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that our potential , our future , our
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true self can fly
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. Moving on to the
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second point , what's holding us back
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? Why is it that when
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someone puts us in an unfair situation
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, we find it near impossible to be
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kind to that person , to be patient
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with that person , to give grace to that
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person ? Is it just because of that
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one isolated act , or is
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this situation perhaps an unwelcome
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echo of past hurts or traumas
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that are left unaddressed and is therefore
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still an open wound
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? What is holding us back ? Do
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we have some rigid bad habits that got
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developed in a time where we needed to protect
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ourselves , but now that we are no longer
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in danger , those very same habits that
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kept us alive are now choking us
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to death , because that can
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happen . You know A simple
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example in the military
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. It's no secret that harsh language and
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charged words are often used in either
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conversation or the many
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times aggressive issuing
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of orders . During my time
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in the Navy , I didn't always have the pleasure
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of dealing with leadership that gave me the
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warm and cozy words of encouragement
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that remind me or that
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reminded me of my strengths and
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the fact that I was a name rather than just
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a number to be told what to do . Sometimes
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I got the people who couldn't care
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less what my name was , they just
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cared about getting the job done Well
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. I won't always condone going about
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it that way . I cannot deny that
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the occasional no-nonsense mentality
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is absolutely necessary in an
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organization that so often
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deals with life and death situations
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. I dare say that to claim
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otherwise likely means you've got a bit more life
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to live , a bit more world to see
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before you get it . Anyway
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, my point in bringing this up
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is not to say that I'm a military
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drone with no feelings . I
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very much do have feelings and
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sometimes I did not like how I
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was spoken to . But I
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had to develop the ability to hear unkind
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words with a stone-faced determination to
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execute , regardless of how
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those words made me feel . I'd
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built that habit then because it was needed
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in that season . Cut
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to my life now as a civilian , and
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whether it's with family or friends , I
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occasionally have to hear something Difficult
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, some difficult stuff that doesn't
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always feel great . Although
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they don't contain nearly as many expletives
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, if any , they still
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don't feel great . So I've done
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myself a major disservice many
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a time by defaulting to my old programming
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of stone-faced listening and
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cold execution . It used
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to be how I protected myself
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. Execution
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, it used to be how I protected myself , but now it's what causes the person I care
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about on the other end to feel unheard or even dismissed altogether
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, to feel that I'm unengaged
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. I've decided that that
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no longer needs to hold me back . It
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was a useful tool , so I'll keep it
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, but it needs adjusting so as
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to not send the wrong message to those I
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interact with . Does that make sense
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? Last but not
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least , scalable steps
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. Scalable steps
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, not just steps . Scalable
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steps . Since point number two is a bit
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long , I'll keep this one short and sweet . If
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you guys want a more fleshed out version
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, then be on the lookout for some bonus
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content coming out in the future . But
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here we go . This cheat
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code is also something I learned from the military
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that has served me very well . It's
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called pprs . Ppr
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stands for pre-planned responses
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. I also like to think of them as pre-practiced
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responses . Planning is good
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, but practicing those plans is even
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better . Simple example , drawing
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from point two whenever a friend or
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family member says or does certain things
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that make me feel quote unquote not
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great , I have certain PPRs
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that I've practiced , things that allow
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me to not just express my emotions
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but also to properly
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communicate them , because
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there's a difference , guys . That's important , but that's
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a whole different episode . This was important
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for me to personally create some phrases
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that I could practice any time I thought
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to because I'm naturally
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someone who is used to avoiding
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confrontation , like the plague
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Hashtag recovering
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people , pleaser . Yeah
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, that used to be me . Find
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things that you can either do every
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day or every week or every so
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often , that take you closer
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to your goal of acting like the person
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you know you can become or
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, at the very least , if you don't know you can become
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that person , dream of becoming
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that person and try to become
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that person , and don't you dare
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screw this up by holding yourself back
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with a bunch of self-deprecating talk
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of quote unquote not doing enough
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or not being disciplined enough . By
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the way , I'm talking to myself as well , because I've said
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that many times about myself . We
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aren't at the stage where doing enough
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is our goal . We will get
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there , but that's not now . Right
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now , you need to just commit
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to doing something . That
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one step already begins to
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separate the you now from who
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you used to be . And that's
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what we're after in this season Progress
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, not perfection or even optimization
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, just progress , something
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, anything more
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than yesterday . Dr
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Martin Luther King Jr said if
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you can't fly , then run
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. If you can't run , then
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walk . If you can't walk , then crawl
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. But whatever you do , you
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have to keep moving . Those
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aren't the words of someone expecting change
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overnight , and you shouldn't either
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. Those , my friends , are the passionate
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words of someone who simply wasn't
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willing to settle for the way things were
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. Are you willing
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to settle for the way things are in your life right
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now , or do
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you maybe think it's time to start thinking
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as , speaking as
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, and living as , the
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true you ? Thanks
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for listening .
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