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you . Greetings

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, hi and hello everyone . My

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name is jason pizzi flair . I'm

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a speaker , I'm a podcaster and my life's

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work is centered around allowing the world to

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meet the true you by helping

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you think , speak and eventually live

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better than yesterday . We

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do this , first , by establishing a good

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reason why , a strong

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and powerful motivation to keep going when

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the going gets rough . Second , we

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need awareness and acknowledgement

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of what's holding us back . And

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third , we need scalable steps forward

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as a reliable bridge between who we are right

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now and who we need to be tomorrow

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and the day after that , and

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the day after that and the day after that

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. This , my friends , is how

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you go from stuck to thinking

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as , speaking as and living

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as the true you . The

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True

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you is called True

1:12

Perspective , and well , I think

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that's pretty self-explanatory . We're

1:30

just talking about perspective today and it's not extremely scripted

1:32

. There is still a script , but I did want much

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of this to be just organically

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my thoughts in the moment as I'm

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recording this . It's

1:41

a part of my initiative to transition to

1:43

something more of the like in the future

1:45

and a bit more long form as well , but

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I don't think this particular episode is

1:50

going to be too too long , but anyway , let's

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get into it . Google

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defines perspective as

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a particular attitude toward

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or way of regarding

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something , a point of view

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, and the reason why I

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want to talk about this today is because

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my goal with each and every single one of these

2:10

episodes is , just like in the

2:12

motto , to help you to think , speak

2:14

and live as your true self . A

2:17

lot of that takes root

2:19

in perspective , because

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you're not always going to have

2:24

influence over the circumstances

2:26

that you find yourself in . You're

2:28

not always going to have the power or

2:30

the ability to change people's

2:32

minds or to change what has happened

2:35

to you or around you , but

2:38

you can change how you see

2:40

it . You can change how you label

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that experience within your own

2:45

mind . You can shift

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your perspective

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, and

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I want to help you to change your

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perspective today , because

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speaker and entrepreneur Pat Flynn

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said if you want to change someone's life

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, start by changing their

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day first . If you

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want to change someone's life , start by changing

3:08

their day first . So I hope that what I supply you

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with today helps to change your day and tomorrow , and the

3:12

day after that , and the day after that and

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the day after that , which

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will then inevitably

3:18

change the whole course

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and trajectory of your

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life . Now I want to go

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over three points , three

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different action steps that

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you need to , or boxes that you need

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to check that can help you

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be that much more accurate

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in changing your perspective on things but

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also taking it a step further and

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garnering results for

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those things that you're trying to change in your

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life . Let's start with point number one . Being

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self-aware will serve

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you better than being self-conscious

3:53

. Now , why

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is this important ? A lot

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of this , I would think , is , you

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know , kind of obvious , but that's only because

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of the place that I'm at right now . I realized that you know kind of obvious , but that's only because of the place that I'm at right now

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. I realized that you

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know . Several years back or in

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my adolescence , none of this was

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obvious to me . I just thought

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my problems were my world

4:17

, my whole world . But

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now it's kind

4:22

of become second nature . But I want

4:24

to be cognizant of not speaking to you as

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if it's also completely . All

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this is second nature to you as well , and

4:31

it's not because I'm better . It's simply

4:33

because I'm at the stage of life

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where I have this information readily

4:37

available and I want to get you to

4:39

that same place as well if you're not there

4:41

already , so again

4:43

, being self-aware will serve

4:45

you better than being self-conscious

4:48

. So being self-aware

4:50

is like being in tune with the things that

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make you you in such a way that

4:54

you leverage your weaknesses

4:56

by maximizing your strengths

4:59

. But being self-conscious

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is like being in tune with the things that

5:03

make you you in such a way that severely

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limits your strengths by

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amplifying focus on

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your weaknesses . Self-awareness

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and self-consciousness are just two

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different ways to use the exact

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same data about yourself

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. So

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let me give you a real life story

5:26

example . For me , here's

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something completely superficial that

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I , for a long time

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, have been self-conscious of

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, but only until

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the recent probably year

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and a half , two years ago that

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I transitioned to being

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more self-aware of it

5:46

and started using the new knowledge

5:48

that I gained , or the new perspective

5:50

that I gained on this same old data

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to serve me rather than

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hurt me . Now again

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, I warned you this is completely a

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superficial thing that doesn't

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really super matter

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, but it did affect my own

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image to a large degree

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, quite literally , and it is how

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I smiled for pictures . Somehow

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, for some reason , when I smile in pictures

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, I think it's my right eye , the

6:18

way that my , my , the corners of my

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mouth come up or that my cheeks come

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out , come up naturally

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, the left eye squints a lot

6:27

more than my

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right eye . So if you cut

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my picture in half , you could see just genuine

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happiness and glee

6:37

and excitement and exuberance

6:39

on the left side . But then

6:41

if you looked at the right side , you

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saw somebody that with his mouth

6:46

was smiling at you but then with his eye was

6:48

staring into your soul , like why are you

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here ? Like who are you

6:52

? It was a different person altogether

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and I did not understand how was

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this happening . Every time

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I became very self-conscious

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of the way that I smiled

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so often . I would just smirk

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with no teeth and that

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it just it

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. It

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created a much lower quality picture overall and I just didn't like seeing

7:17

myself in pictures because of it . But

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one day I

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can't remember when or why or how

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I just decided

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that If the

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right side doesn't naturally come

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up properly as far as my

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eyes is concerned , let

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me just consciously , every

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time I take a picture , bring up

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my right cheek a little bit more so

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as to match the left , take

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pictures when I remember that is I . I bring up that right cheek just a little bit more and

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then throughout both sides , if you cut it in half of the picture , I'm

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looking like I want to be

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there and

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it . It has significantly

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improved the results of every picture that I

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takes that I've taken since then , although

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, although it is something that I have to actively

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and consciously do each time , that

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is a result that is a

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net positive result

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. On self-awareness

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, I realized , hey , this is

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a weak area for me , this is literally a weak

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side of my face . Let

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me leverage that with some intentional

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muscle control or intentional

8:37

, like you know , conscious use

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of my cheek muscles whatever

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you want to call it , I don't know the scientific

8:45

term for them to

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be able to get to a place where I'm not

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holding my own self back in taking

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pictures or in smiling or in my experiences

8:54

with friends or family because I'm

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self-conscious about this

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. Let me be self-aware and

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here's what I'm going to do about it . So

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that's an example , just a real

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life example of mine . It's no crazy

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, major stakes were involved in this

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, but this was something that mattered to

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me for a long time , and

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so I hope this has really helped

9:17

someone realize that perspective

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is super major , as

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it concerns how you tackle every

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single sort of issue in your

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life , big or small . So

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that's point number one self-aware

9:32

, not self-conscious . Point

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number two with the data from point

9:37

number one , practice asking

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the right questions . Now

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let's take an example of being

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late for work every Monday . Because

9:48

you wake up late every Monday

9:50

, I wouldn't

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call this necessarily a wrong question

9:55

, but it's not the

9:57

best question to ask . If , in

9:59

trying to figure this out , you're like why am

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I always late on Monday ? Why

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I say that that's the wrong question to ask

10:07

, or kind of the wrong question to

10:09

ask , is because it's too easy , especially in that state of heightened emotion

10:11

, to ask . Is because it's too easy , especially in that state of

10:13

, you know , heightened emotion , to

10:16

devolve into a self-deprecating conversation

10:19

. Ah , I always

10:21

do this , I always screw up on monday . I

10:23

always this , I always that , all

10:26

from the question why am I quote

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unquote always late on monday

10:30

? And don't even get me started

10:33

on like blanket statements , because you're probably not always late on Monday , and don't even get me started on like blanket statements

10:35

because you're probably not always late

10:37

on Mondays , but you say that because that's how

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you feel anyway . Point

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number two is about asking the right question

10:44

. Here's what that really sounds like

10:46

the right

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question almost always leads

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to an answer that spurs positive

10:53

growth and comes with encouraging

10:55

or uplifting undertones

10:57

. An example of that

10:59

would be for this whole

11:02

Monday thing . Hmm

11:04

, because I'm becoming

11:06

more disciplined , how can I

11:08

, how can I make doing the right thing

11:10

? Or how can I make being early to

11:12

work simpler or easier

11:15

to act on ? Let

11:19

me read that again . Because I'm becoming more

11:21

disciplined , how can I make being

11:23

early simpler or

11:25

easier to act on ? So

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what you'll notice in the if I may use this term phraseology of that sentence or that question is that

11:44

I inserted in the beginning , I primed myself to understand

11:46

my goal . I'm

11:53

, if I may use the term , speaking prophetically to a certain degree about who I want to be

11:55

. I'm trying to quote , unquote manifest this version of

11:57

myself , this true , truer

11:59

version of myself . Because

12:02

I'm becoming more disciplined , how can I make

12:04

being early easier

12:07

or simpler to act on ? Here's

12:10

another example about , just you

12:12

know , dealing with people that you don't want to deal

12:14

with . Because I am

12:16

becoming more patient , how

12:19

, how could I have responded

12:22

better to this person's instigations ? Let

12:25

me read that again . Because I'm becoming more

12:27

patient , or because being patient is

12:29

my goal , how could I have responded

12:31

better to this person's instigations . How

12:37

can I better prepare for such situations in the future ? Do you see how , by

12:39

saying I am becoming so

12:42

and so , or I am becoming this or

12:44

that , you're telling yourself

12:46

in a positive way the direction

12:48

that you are heading ? You're

12:53

telling your conscious and your subconscious mind what your goal is , or what

12:55

to look forward to or what to focus

12:58

on . I've mentioned before the RAS

13:00

, the reticular activated system , or

13:02

activating system . Hold on , let me Google this

13:04

, like literally right now

13:07

, to make sure that

13:09

I'm saying the right

13:11

thing . Yes

13:13

, I am Reticular activating

13:15

system . Let

13:18

me just read this . I guess the reticular activating

13:20

system is a network of neurons located in the

13:22

brainstem that project anteriorly

13:25

to the hypothalamus to mediate

13:28

behavior as well as both . Okay , well

13:30

, we don't need all that right now , but what

13:33

it does is bring to the

13:35

forefront what you've

13:38

told it to focus on in

13:40

the background . I

13:43

already explained this in a previous episode , so

13:45

I won't break it down right now . But

13:47

my point in bringing all this up is to

13:49

tell you to be prophetic about

13:52

the good you wish to see in your

13:54

life , because you're already

13:56

more than proficient at negative

13:58

prophecy . Now

14:01

I don't want all the saints in the chat

14:03

all going crazy right now saying

14:06

want

14:09

. All the saints in the chat all going crazy right now saying , oh , negative prophecy , my

14:11

word , how could I , how could you claim such a thing ? Nah

14:13

, I'll prove it to you right now

14:15

. With , even with this whole

14:18

late on monday thing , I'll

14:20

bet anybody here listening

14:22

right now that has ever been late to something like

14:25

that , or late to work or done something

14:27

negative consistently . You've

14:30

said to yourself in some

14:32

way , shape or form oh man

14:34

, I'm a failure , or

14:36

I'm a screw-up , or I'm a klutz

14:38

, or um , I'm

14:41

washed up , or I'm

14:43

a has-been or I'm irrelevant

14:46

. Are

14:49

all those things true ? No

14:51

, they are not , because

14:54

if you truly were a failure

14:56

, then there would be no

14:58

future for you , there

15:02

would be no tomorrow for you , there would be no scenario

15:04

in which you are allowed

15:06

even a smidgen of success

15:08

. If you are truly the definition

15:10

of a failure , then success

15:13

would be the opposite of what you'd ever be exposed

15:15

to . But

15:18

let's look at your life , let's look at your day-to-day . Are

15:20

there any sort of mini successes

15:22

that you experience every day , like

15:25

, oh , I don't know . Know , maybe putting on

15:27

your pants in the right direction , in

15:30

the right orientation . I

15:32

don't know , maybe drinking a cup of water

15:35

without choking yourself to death ? I

15:37

don't know , maybe successfully operating

15:40

a motor vehicle in traffic . Now

15:43

, for some of you , that may be not

15:45

the best example to take , because

15:48

you know , some of y'all

15:50

I can't , some

15:52

of y'all should not be driving , but

15:55

if you made it

15:57

, it's kind of like that friend that

15:59

drives crazy . But did you die though

16:01

? But did you die ? If

16:03

you didn't die

16:06

, then in some

16:08

way , shape or form , you were successful

16:11

. Therefore , that quote unquote

16:13

prophecy of

16:15

being a failure does

16:18

not apply to you . Yes

16:27

, did you fail at this task ? Maybe For sure , perhaps . But are you

16:29

a failure ? Does that define you ? No

16:32

, it does not . So

16:40

why is it so easy for us to just keep talking to ourselves

16:42

like that ? I

16:45

hope I've proven to you that you already participate in negative

16:47

prophecy . I'm just trying to get you to participate in

16:49

positive prophecy . Be prophetic about

16:51

the things you want in your

16:53

life . Be prophetic

16:56

about the good you wish to see . So

16:58

again , number two , with

17:00

the data from point number one , practice asking

17:02

the right questions . Prime yourself

17:04

with , because I am becoming more

17:07

blank . How could I

17:09

have blank to do this

17:11

better ? Does

17:13

that make sense ? Hopefully so

17:15

. Let's wrap it up with number three Execute

17:22

on whatever plan

17:24

you come up with , whatever answer you

17:26

get from number two , with

17:29

both fervor and grace

17:32

. Not just grace

17:34

, not just fervor , with

17:37

both fervor and grace

17:39

. Fervor is defined

17:41

as an intense and passionate

17:44

feeling . The

17:47

reason why you want fervor

17:49

is because , in any sort of situation

17:51

where you're changing habitual

17:53

behavior , you are going to need a crazy

17:56

amount of momentum , and building

17:58

momentum is the hardest thing . The

18:01

hardest part of launching a rocket is the launch

18:03

, not the sustained

18:05

flight . Once you've broken orbit , once

18:08

you've passed you know orbit

18:10

or gravitational pull , it's

18:12

the beginning . It's getting off

18:14

the ground because you're fighting the , the

18:16

highest amount of gravity

18:18

, if I'm saying that correctly

18:21

, you're fighting gravity . Let's just say that . So

18:24

when you're trying to build good habits

18:26

, the gravity that you're fighting are the bad

18:28

habits that are already there . You're

18:31

going to need fervor and intense

18:33

and passionate feeling to do that

18:35

, and I tell you

18:37

a little bit about how to do that , or

18:40

a little bit about the important

18:43

steps that you need to take in doing

18:45

that , by creating a strong

18:47

why , a powerful motivation to keep going

18:49

. Now the reason why the

18:51

second one is important to have and

18:54

that these two need to be walking

18:56

in combination is

18:58

because if you have an intense

19:00

and passionate feeling about

19:02

changing yourself but

19:05

you walk around with zero grace for

19:07

yourself , you're just going

19:09

to devolve right back into that

19:11

whole negative self-talk , that negative

19:14

prophecy , that holding

19:16

yourself to an impossible standard

19:19

type of shtick . You don't

19:21

want that . It destroys you . But

19:24

what also destroys you is having

19:26

just plenty of grace for yourself

19:28

but no intense

19:30

and passionate feeling to do anything different

19:32

. That is called

19:34

well , what

19:37

is it called ? That's , I

19:40

don't know , being too lax , just

19:42

being like

19:45

floating through life , I guess . Like you

19:47

have no structure , you can't walk around

19:49

with grace and no structure . Merriam-webster

19:52

defines grace as approval , favor

19:54

, mercy , pardon , a special favor , privilege

19:57

, disposition to , or an act or

19:59

instance of kindness , courtesy or clemency

20:01

, a temporary exemption reprieve

20:04

. So a temporary

20:08

exemption

20:10

reprieve . So in conclusion

20:12

yeah , you get it

20:14

A quote by Ashley Hetherington

20:16

. We need to trust that

20:19

the world is not going to crash and

20:21

burn if we fall short . We

20:23

are simply not powerful enough to

20:25

mess up God's plan for our life . I

20:29

love this quote because to me it has

20:31

a grounding feeling to it , kind

20:34

of like reminding you that the sun will rise

20:36

and fall , even if you miss a

20:38

certain quota . So don't ruin

20:40

the roots of your hair follicles over it

20:42

. Acknowledge the mistake absolutely

20:45

Be aware of and process how it made

20:47

you feel for sure , but

20:49

then get up , dust

20:52

yourself off and get back on

20:54

that horse tomorrow . Just

20:56

don't forget to rub some tiger

20:58

balm and stretch first , because all that's

21:00

important , but get back on that dang horse

21:02

. I

21:05

hope that all of this has served

21:07

you in some way , shape or form , or in

21:10

all the shapes , in all the forms

21:12

, and , believe

21:14

it or not , there was more that I wanted to say

21:16

, especially about the whole grace

21:18

spiel , but I didn't

21:21

want to overwhelm this one singular

21:23

episode . So this

21:25

marks the first of

21:28

the true you podcast

21:30

, btm series , which

21:32

stands for behind the mind . You'll

21:34

find that right after this episode

21:37

. But understand that all of

21:39

this mindset

21:41

talk is

21:44

to really get at the root of how

21:46

you're living , because

21:49

your life is a direct result , not

21:52

just the circumstances , but how

21:54

you experience your life . Let me put it that way

21:56

how you experience your life is a direct

21:58

result of how you talk about

22:01

your life , and

22:03

you wouldn't be talking about your life in a

22:05

certain way if you didn't think about

22:07

your life in a certain way . So

22:10

all this mindset talk is really to target

22:12

your thinking processes

22:15

. My

22:17

hope is to help you to change your day

22:19

first , so that your life

22:22

can eventually be changed , and

22:24

we do that by giving you principles

22:26

, like I'd mentioned throughout this episode number

22:29

one , two and three to

22:32

help you to now think as

22:34

, speak as and

22:37

eventually live as the

22:40

true you . Thanks

22:42

for listening .