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Jordan. What's going on? Oh my God, what

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an exciting week we have ahead

0:32

of us. Claudia, are you ready for this? I'm

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always ready. Oh my God. This conversation

0:37

is going to keep revisiting

0:39

over and over. And that's

0:42

the 50 50 conversation.

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Should you be going 50 50 in a relationship?

0:47

And what about if that person is a multimillionaire? But

0:49

you're not?

0:50

No, I think you should put a little bit

0:53

more down because I'm probably be making up for it in other

0:55

ways. Really? Well,

0:57

we're going to talk about that because social media was definitely

1:00

in a frenzy this past week when Gabrielle

1:02

Union admitted to splitting

1:05

the bills 50 50 with her former NBA

1:08

player husband, Dwayne

1:10

Wade. And he makes like four. I think he's

1:12

worth four or five times more than her. Yeah, I

1:14

think he I believe he's worth 200 million

1:16

dollars. She's worth about 40. That's good.

1:19

I mean, it's both. They're both in

1:20

a good, you know, good. We'll talk more

1:23

about that later on in the show. So

1:25

we're going to talk about why

1:27

we should rush to get married.

1:29

You did that before I rushed. I only

1:31

knew him. Well, we were only dating a couple of months, but, you know,

1:33

I was so irresistible he couldn't help himself. I

1:36

know that's right. Just couldn't keep his hands off. Yeah,

1:38

but it ended. Well,

1:40

we're definitely

1:41

going to talk about that. You

1:43

know, so Rihanna, she's speaking out. She

1:46

is expecting her second child and

1:49

with her boyfriend, ASAP Rocky,

1:51

who we know and I say boyfriend

1:53

very strongly because

1:55

she doesn't plan on marrying anytime

1:58

soon, even though they have such a great.

1:59

great relationship going. Also, Miss

2:02

Lawrence is here to give us the 411 and

2:04

we'll talk a little bit about other things, but definitely

2:06

here to give us the tips on this summer and how

2:09

we should be looking. And L'Oreal, we're

2:11

gonna get up all up in your business and

2:13

your DMs because I know they be popping. Yeah, well,

2:17

it's starting to get a little dry because I think people

2:19

are starting to realize I'm taking but, well,

2:21

all the sex offenders are coming to mind. I think

2:23

we should dive into our DMs. I definitely

2:26

still, you know what, I have an interesting one

2:28

this week. I want to know what you think

2:29

about it. And also something that we talked about

2:32

last episode that I said we would revisit.

2:35

Let's do it. Okay, so let's get into the Unjust

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Okay, so let's talk about this 50 50 situation.

3:56

Now Gabrielle Union, as we said, she

3:58

sat down and did

3:59

I did an interview with Idea Generation

4:02

and she spoke about her finances

4:04

and maintaining a household and

4:06

saying how she was sometimes

4:09

a little bit hesitant when it came

4:11

to spending money. In this household,

4:14

we split everything 50-50. But

4:16

in the other households that each of us have

4:18

to support, it puts

4:20

this, there's always this like, gorilla

4:23

on your back that is like, you

4:25

better work, bitch, you

4:26

better work, bitch, you better work. You

4:28

gonna sleep in? Mm, you

4:30

know, somebody might not eat. How dare

4:33

Gabrielle Union call the Wayne

4:35

Wade side baby mama gorilla?

4:37

Oh, I'm, I, I, I, I,

4:40

I mean, there was a side baby. There

4:42

was a, you know, I don't, I, I don't know. Did she call that

4:44

a gorilla? I don't know how I feel about her saying

4:46

like, you know, like she's worth like $40 million

4:49

and you're really gonna act like that. Like, like it's

4:51

people that have regular jobs have that

4:53

pressure. I don't know. I don't feel that bad

4:55

for her with that much. That's a great

4:58

amount of

4:58

worth. That's an amazing amount of money,

5:00

but we've seen people lose more, right?

5:03

So we have seen people blow through fortunes

5:05

and I will say in the entertainment industry,

5:07

even me, we just talked about it. I

5:09

said something the other day where it is times

5:12

where you have this great abundance of extra

5:15

money coming in and then for

5:17

a while it could be nothing. It's literally,

5:19

it can be fast or famine. And I understand that. And I

5:21

do believe she was speaking to being

5:23

insecure sometimes and feeling like, you know, I gotta

5:25

get it to, I gotta keep it popping. And I think having

5:28

a really

5:28

wealthy mate, really

5:31

not exaggerates that feeling for you, but it amplifies

5:33

it, you know? Cause I remember I was dating someone

5:36

that was making a lot of money and I wasn't really doing that well

5:38

at the time. I felt a little less value

5:40

in the relationship, you know, like having less of

5:42

a say. I just felt weird. I felt like I was

5:44

just like not useless, but I didn't feel

5:46

good about myself. Don't you think that's your partner's

5:49

fault though? And what I mean by that is

5:51

if we're a team, right? And I'm not saying

5:53

because he has 200 million, I

5:56

got 200 million. But if we're a

5:58

team, if we're a couple, if we're together,

5:59

we decided to say vows to

6:02

each other. That also means like

6:04

we got each other's back 110%. There's

6:07

no reason why I should be daily

6:10

wondering and scared about my finances

6:13

when my person is good. I agree and I

6:15

have a friend that is going through a situation and

6:18

she realized how little she knew about the finances

6:20

of her husband. And she's really literally

6:23

at his mercy. Ah, so sad. And

6:26

I'm just like, damn, how are you married

6:28

with this person and like your finances were totally

6:29

separate. There should be y'alls money. Why

6:32

not? I think you should. Why not? I've

6:34

definitely been in a situation. We've talked about this

6:36

before, but I've never really gone into too much

6:38

detail. But like I dated

6:40

somebody who when I met him,

6:43

I was doing well for myself, but on

6:45

the come up, right? We grew

6:47

a business together and it was good at

6:49

first, you know, and I was making

6:52

my own money. He was already well off.

6:54

And the more I started to make, the

6:57

more he resented it, but

6:59

didn't

6:59

show me. I didn't realize that he had an issue

7:02

with it because he would do it in a way where

7:04

it'd be like, well, you don't have to do that. I mean, look,

7:06

there's a hundred thousand right there. What you going to work

7:09

for? 2,500 for. What are you

7:11

going to do that appearance for? 1,500 for.

7:14

You get what I'm trying to say? And I'm sitting there like, well,

7:16

he's kind of right. There is like, why am

7:18

I doing this? And he's like, well, I got you. I'll take

7:20

it. Like, I got it. I got it. And

7:22

then it got to the point where now I'm not working. I have nothing. So

7:25

that's when he's able to fully control me.

7:28

That's when I'm not going certain places anymore

7:30

because I can't afford to. That's when I got

7:33

to use his gas money

7:35

to go. Like, and that as a grown

7:37

up, a grown woman was

7:39

the most miserable lowest point in my life. But

7:41

I'm driving around moussains and

7:44

supercharged Range Rovers and living in

7:46

Cali and Jersey and this. I'm all over the place.

7:48

I got every bag, every, but I was crying

7:51

every day and I was miserable because I just literally

7:53

had nothing. I've

7:56

heard men speak about how they like women better

7:58

when they need them. And I think.

7:59

I think when you become a woman that's extremely

8:02

successful or popular or popular or

8:04

all of the above, a lot of men don't really like

8:06

women like that. They say they do. They say

8:08

I want someone equally yoked and oh, I would have no

8:11

problem with my woman being more successful. That

8:13

is complete BS. And so when you're in

8:15

it, you'll see that they don't, a lot of, it takes a

8:17

very special man

8:19

to be able to be okay with it. They get

8:21

their worth from feeling needed. Yeah. We

8:23

want you though. I'd rather you want, I want

8:26

you than need you. That's what I would think too. I

8:28

think that's sexier. The problem with

8:30

that is when you need somebody,

8:33

you know, they're not going anywhere. So

8:35

that's what I saw. He was trying to

8:37

create a space where it was like,

8:40

literally dependent on him, I can't go anywhere

8:42

and I don't want to go anywhere. He wants both.

8:45

That's a major red flag because if you're worried,

8:47

if you're doing something to me to make me stay, that

8:49

means you plan on doing antics to me

8:51

that would make me stay under other circumstances.

8:54

If you are confident in her, what you bring into your woman,

8:56

how you treat her, you ain't gonna worry about her leaving

8:58

you because you're like, I know no one's gonna be treating you as good as

9:01

I am. Well, that's why that's the kind of guy as

9:03

a woman that I believe you should strive

9:05

for is a guy that also wants to see

9:08

you be successful and see you do things,

9:10

not just when it's beneficial

9:13

to him or not just when it

9:16

benefits anyone else. Like they

9:18

just strictly for you

9:19

to see you do better for yourself.

9:21

And that's the problem. Like, yes, we could grow together, but

9:23

you should want to see a person do good alone. Absolutely.

9:27

You know, the problem is, there's way too many insecure people in

9:29

the dating pool. They need to get the hell out the water,

9:31

you're in the way, you're cluttering it, you're dirty, you're

9:33

making it filthy and you're making it wack.

9:35

Because what are they saying though? They're like, listen, if

9:37

you could do it alone, what the hell do you need me

9:40

for? And I've heard women say that too.

9:42

Like if he has her

9:44

that does this or his mother does this, well, what is

9:46

he gonna need me for? It's like, well, that means you bring

9:48

nothing to the table and you need to reevaluate your own

9:50

self. What about people like valuing

9:53

how well they're treated? What do you mean? Like

9:56

instead of like, it's always about the money and

9:58

now I'm gonna break you down so you don't work.

9:59

that much anymore so you're gonna need me? How about

10:02

me just being a dope ass partner so I know

10:04

you'll never leave me because you like the way I treat you not because

10:06

I held you financially hostage? Yeah

10:08

well that's what you strive for right but some people

10:11

have problems and they need help

10:13

with it and they don't you know so if they're holding

10:15

money over your head it's because they

10:18

either lost somebody

10:20

by not having the money over the like not

10:22

having money at the time or whatever they're

10:24

doing they're trying to prevent from happening

10:27

again from them getting hurt right? So

10:29

even when I think about like my ex that did

10:31

that I think because he didn't have money in

10:33

the situations that he was in when he was younger

10:36

he felt now like the people were able to

10:38

leave him when he was younger or nobody

10:40

didn't have to watch him he in the house by himself no

10:43

food no this no that so when you get money like

10:45

I'm gonna make sure no nobody don't leave me now you

10:48

get what I'm trying to say and it's really a trauma so

10:50

it's sad and it's unfortunate so so

10:53

people look at someone like me and they be like oh you're always trying

10:55

to fix somebody it's not that it's that

10:57

I've been through things like you said you're

11:00

misunderstood sometimes and I

11:02

felt misunderstood so I look

11:04

for that person and I give compassion

11:06

not look for but I find the

11:09

issue in that person to be

11:12

sad

11:12

instead of where other people

11:14

be like oh they're toxic get away from them I'm

11:16

more so like damn like why is this

11:18

person like that you know um

11:20

especially if I care about them in any kind of capacity

11:23

we became friends and then I see you have this toxic

11:25

trait non-stop that attempt people will run

11:27

me I'm like let's try to fix it and figure it out

11:30

I'm all for a good fixing I'm a fixer-upper as

11:32

well to a fault sometimes yeah

11:34

because I I feel like the only one person

11:36

is getting fixed usually and I'm like what

11:38

about you can you help me too yeah no

11:41

no it's not it's not like

11:42

now okay yeah but sometimes people are

11:44

that damaged that they can't find and

11:46

see to help anybody else so maybe you just with the

11:48

blessing and when you get yours it's gonna come

11:50

from somewhere else look you definitely blessed

11:52

so your blessings might come in other ways I'm

11:55

tired though sometimes I'm like I'm tired

11:57

of saving the world and that's what I feel

11:59

like sometimes I feel

11:59

I feel like I'm always trying to think about, oh, how can I help this

12:02

person get my money? How can I help them get their job

12:04

back? How can I help them get in shape? How can I help

12:06

them with this? And I wonder, like, is there anyone

12:08

out there that's thinking that for me? You don't think

12:10

that you get opportunities and blessed as well?

12:12

Oh, I think I- It's because of what you've done for others. I

12:15

think I get opportunities and blessings 1000% for

12:17

being a good person. But sometimes

12:19

I want my soul to be tended to

12:22

where there's someone that's wondering, you

12:24

know, did I eat today

12:25

or are you good? But sometimes you're looking

12:27

over here and people are

12:29

making sure of that. But you're so busy looking

12:32

maybe for the mate and it might be your friends

12:34

that's making sure you're good, making sure you ate, making

12:36

sure. Some people don't got no friends. No,

12:38

I- So you get what I'm trying to say? I have a lot of friends and

12:41

sometimes I just wish in some departments

12:43

a couple of them would- Be better friends? I wish I had

12:45

a me when it comes to treating. Like there's

12:48

nothing I won't do for the guy I got. You're never gonna find

12:50

a you, so you know that. No, I'm pretty

12:52

amazing, so you're lucky to have me, Laura Yup. You're never

12:54

gonna, you're lucky to have me too, Kalani.

12:56

I am, shout out to you. No, no,

12:58

cause that's

12:59

true. I think sometimes we, and I

13:01

did this the other day, to be honest, and that's

13:04

why I even bring it up. Cause sometimes

13:06

I do that and I be like, how come I won't

13:08

get this? I'm not getting this out of this situation. Then

13:10

I had to stop and really think about it. I'm like,

13:13

oh my God, I'm complaining about

13:15

this to the person that's actually helping me

13:17

with this stuff. So I actually called

13:19

the person I was talking to and I apologized to them.

13:22

And I was like, listen, I know that I said I'd be doing

13:24

all this stuff by myself, but I don't want

13:26

you to think that I don't appreciate the

13:28

this, the this,

13:29

and the that that you did for me. And

13:31

as a matter of fact, while I'm saying this

13:33

to you, I'm gonna call up two other people that

13:35

I know has really been helping me. They ain't hear

13:37

this conversation of me saying, no, don't nobody help

13:40

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13:42

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So I think sometimes

14:23

we take things like that for granted. So I wanted

14:25

to make sure. And the reason why I did

14:27

that is because actually a person

14:29

that I helped a lot, a whole lot. And

14:32

she helped me as well. But she was talking

14:34

in front of me one day and she was like, nobody helps me

14:36

with anything. And I'm like, I like literally

14:38

be using all my favorites for

14:40

her. And it was like, like somebody

14:42

like I literally put on my neck on

14:45

the line and for her to say that to me, my feelings

14:47

was hurt. No, I would definitely feel the way.

14:49

I don't really mean more. She didn't look at it like that though.

14:51

I don't really need more doing stuff for her. But like, I'm

14:53

big on like checking on people. Yeah.

14:56

You know what I mean? Like when I'm, whenever I'm driving, I'm in traffic, I always

14:58

go through my phone and I call a few people. I'm

15:00

like, let me see what's happening with her

15:03

child custody case. Let me just see if she, my

15:05

other girl got that movie. Let me, I always think

15:07

of them and like just reach out and like, I do

15:10

be checking on people. See, but that's your gift

15:12

to the world. Cause to me, I'm more

15:14

so the person that now if you are at

15:16

the end of your wish, you need somebody

15:18

or something, now you could call me, I'll talk to you for two

15:21

hours. I'll talk you off the ledge. But if

15:23

it comes to like the regular small talk, I'm not that

15:25

person. And I think mostly because

15:27

for a living we talk. I got at this point

15:29

four shows. I'm talking for five,

15:31

six hours at a time. Look how long we've been

15:33

talking since you've been here. I'm drained. I don't

15:36

want to talk on the phone. I get it. I

15:38

lost a friend to suicide. Yeah. And

15:41

I was one of the last people to talk to her. And I wonder

15:43

like, it just made me look at things differently like,

15:45

you know, when we ignore, when our moms be blowing up our

15:47

phones sometimes, I don't want to talk to her right now.

15:49

You're annoying friend.

15:51

But I just kind of think like, what if that you

15:53

were the last person at the end of their rope that they reach

15:55

out to? Yeah. You know what I

15:57

mean? And I don't know. I'm at that

15:59

age now where I'm.

15:59

I'm trying to lose people, more people. So

16:02

I just want to like just do a little temperature check. They don't even

16:04

have to be long. I'm like that because

16:06

I lost people early in my life. You know what

16:08

I mean? Like I did, the guy that

16:11

I was in love with passed away. You

16:13

know, me childhood friends, I

16:15

had a friend that committed suicide

16:17

when I was in the ninth grade. You know

16:20

what I mean? Like just my uncle, like

16:22

just so many, I lost a lot of people early

16:24

on in my life. So I feel like death affects

16:26

me in a total different way. It's almost

16:29

like it. I don't want

16:29

to say it does matter to me. Obviously

16:32

I'm scared of it and everything. But

16:34

like at the same time, like when you just witnessed

16:37

that so much so young, I just think you're kind

16:39

of, it's like PTSD, a little numb. Oh,

16:41

you're good to decide. So this all

16:43

came from us talking about Gabrielle. 50 50. 50 50.

16:46

50 50. So, hey, Gabrielle,

16:49

yeah, you make bread and your husband makes a lot more. I

16:51

think you can take care of a lot of bills with your money, but

16:53

I'm still a little traditional. Like I still would like

16:55

a man to take a little

16:56

bit more of the weight. I spoke

16:58

to Jeezy on Moana Hussle's show and

17:01

we know Jeannie Mai, she has a job

17:04

or had one because that was at the time when

17:06

they both were working. And I

17:08

asked him about this, and this is way before the 50 50 talk.

17:11

I said, does Jeannie have to pay any bills in

17:13

the house? And he damn near laughed in my

17:15

face.

17:16

No, is basically the answer. So

17:19

I do still, I have a lot of respect

17:21

for the Jeezy's of the world that,

17:24

you know, he's aware that she makes her own

17:26

money, but he's taking care of the household. But

17:29

it's weird because how I was raised, my

17:31

mother was the sole provider for my

17:34

household. She's a single mom,

17:36

took care of three girls.

17:37

My father always

17:39

instilled in my mind to never depend

17:41

on a man, never. And

17:43

if he is a man I'm supposed to be

17:46

depending on, I think about him too, never

17:48

depend on your ass. You give it up, so you keep telling

17:50

me, never depend on me, never depend on a man. So

17:52

I don't, and the one time that I did, abusive,

17:56

problem, got my ass whooped, got stomped

17:59

out by him.

17:59

He acts like it never happened, you

18:02

know what I mean? And I would never in my

18:05

life solely

18:05

depend on anyone, let alone

18:07

a man. Never give that power up, ladies. 50-50, nothing

18:10

wrong. I see nothing

18:12

wrong with 50-50. Let me just, I don't care if you

18:14

take the money I give you and put it into

18:16

account for our children. Let's figure

18:18

that out. Because that's our child,

18:20

50-50 together, okay? And 100% of

18:23

that money could go to our child if you feel like I'm

18:25

cool with that. Even if he makes five times more

18:27

than you? I want to give something. I

18:29

don't know, give something about 50-50 is the percentage.

18:31

50-50 to what? Yeah, like if we buying a

18:33

house, let's go. Yeah, because when it's

18:35

time to go, like who's gonna do? The monthly

18:38

bills, the food, the electricity. I

18:40

think monthly bills might be even a little petty

18:42

for millionaires. And what I mean by that

18:44

is, I'm talking about big purchase. If we buying this house?

18:47

I'm thinking it is that, because she said

18:49

we split everything. But bro, if you got

18:51

me splitting a water bill with you, that's a little

18:53

weird. 50-50, like what are we supposed to

18:55

do? I'm not doing that. He

18:58

expect her to pay for his mani-pedis, what

19:00

do you think? See, but that's the thing. I

19:02

book a appointment for nails for me and my man

19:04

to get our nails and feet done in the crib. He

19:07

gets the polish though. You're annoying, because you're

19:09

being very facetious.

19:11

No, he posts the picture up. Dwayne

19:14

Wade posts, y'all remember fellas, he posts

19:16

the picture. Nobody's agreeing what you call him because

19:18

you're being a troll. That's not true, no, no. You're being, we

19:20

know the troll that you are. First of all, I don't

19:22

know when you got in the media. It was a very

19:25

big story, he was wearing black nail polish

19:27

and he showed it. It was when he's playing ball. Okay,

19:29

you wanna make it back? He wears nail polish all

19:31

the time. But you're being shady with your

19:33

time. No I'm not, I just said that she paid for his mani- Everybody's

19:35

shaking their head, y'all shade. She pays for his mani-pedis,

19:38

so they- I will say that. They bruz.

19:41

She do give a little masculine energy.

19:43

She does. She does. She gets masculine,

19:45

he gets feminine. See, I didn't say he gets feminine.

19:47

Oh my God, are we gonna be real here or not?

19:50

We be real, but I'll say that, I

19:52

don't think wearing nail polish is masculine-

19:56

1000% feminine. Okay, shout out to Nal

19:58

Raja's from Chic. He wears-

21:59

Right when you find out about the

22:02

baby now you got to pay all the bills and

22:04

everybody acts like it didn't happen. Where is that? Where's

22:08

that baby you guys where's the baby? How much

22:10

do you think see so is he so maybe he's not

22:12

worth 200 million He gave them

22:14

a lot of money to stay quiet. I might hide

22:16

a baby Because let me tell you that

22:18

if that was my baby. We'd be at every

22:20

game go daddy He's don't play no

22:23

other day if you met as a side, baby. You

22:25

ain't paying 50-50 now That's the rule see

22:27

you could be 50-50 until he

22:30

has a side baby You

22:32

better than this

22:33

she is She'd use that

22:35

baby for some broad money. I'm sure

22:37

I'm saying she's a talented beautiful woman who does not

22:40

age You know I mean I would have probably

22:42

made her feel guilty another 15 years I'm not

22:44

paying for nothing if you got another baby.

22:46

I don't care and then we finally agree with something Wait,

22:49

is it the baby that they got cuz she may carry that

22:51

baby. No. No, that's their DNA. No, no, that's their There's

22:55

a Spanish girl. Well. Why did they just take

22:57

that one

22:58

you said I'm gonna get us can't I'm Luria. That's a low down

23:03

Okay, let's move on I want to know

23:05

Gabrielle Union as accomplished as she is

23:08

It's not gonna let the girl that had

23:10

like they got pregnant by her man She could have

23:12

said it was a side baby, and then she takes that

23:14

baby in she probably resents that little lie You

23:16

got to say she was the surrogate. What's wrong

23:18

with you the baby's like Puerto Rican, okay?

23:22

Wait grandmothers grandmothers His

23:30

grandmothers grandmothers grandmothers Irish when

23:32

I see your guy I'm gonna paint his nails pink and see how you like

23:34

okay now Why should we rush to

23:37

get married

23:38

a sap rocky somebody who

23:40

wears nail polish and Rihanna? Do

23:43

you have something to say about a sap he gives a very

23:45

masculine energy? He gives masculine energy He

23:48

does and I think he has to I think to like have Rihanna

23:51

like Rihanna looks very happy She looks

23:53

she's glowing yeah, even when she's not right

23:55

me, but he's not me you

23:58

can't compare the two

23:59

compared to what D-Wade. I'm nail polish is nail

24:02

polish. You said nail polish.

24:04

I don't like nail polish, but here you can get away with it like on

24:06

some Lenny Kravitz. I just said

24:08

that, rock star. Not D-Wade, D-Wade's on a

24:10

rock star. He's a basketball player that probably cuffed

24:12

his jeans. But he's giving Kravitz

24:15

jeans crazy.

24:16

So like

24:18

Cam Newton. Cuff it, cuff it. I'm going

24:20

back to this damn, Cam Newton.

24:23

What, we gonna talk about his style? He wears nail

24:25

polish. And I don't like it. He's

24:28

a good looking man. I

24:31

don't know if he wears nail polish, but

24:33

he looks like he wears it. I do

24:35

know he writes in hieroglyphics on his Instagram.

24:37

Yeah, that's a lot. Who takes that much time

24:40

to write a message? He gives me a headache. It hurts

24:42

my brain, but you know, good looking. I can't read it.

24:44

No. But I guess Jasmine could. They

24:46

are cute together. Jaz.

24:48

Yeah, I like her. I

24:50

like her, she's funny. And she flies, she

24:52

has body. Do you want to join their

24:54

relationship? It doesn't work out

24:56

the next couple of guys, and yes. All right,

24:58

so Rihanna, she is expecting

25:00

her second child with the nail polish

25:03

wearing ASAP Rocky. But

25:05

according to reports, they're saying that she's not

25:07

in a rush to get married. Now people

25:09

that are close to her are allegedly saying

25:11

that she does not want to change things right now because

25:14

financially, speaking of 50-50, it

25:16

would not make sense for

25:18

her to get married. Now she's worth $1.9 billion,

25:20

that's almost two. And

25:24

ASAP Rocky is worth 20 million. Now

25:27

how come this is not a problem when it comes

25:29

to anything else? Do you think that she's

25:31

making him go 50-50? No. But

25:34

I feel like ASAP wouldn't let her pay everything

25:36

either. I think Rihanna's like, listen, I got

25:38

this, we good. And I think he says no. I hope

25:40

that's the case. She has no way. She looks

25:42

happy though, so it's probably like that. You're probably

25:45

right. And I do believe he does have the BDE, like you said. Yeah,

25:47

and to be honest with you, like even making

25:49

more, I wouldn't mind taking care of the bills and

25:51

stuff, but as a man, you would want to take your

25:53

girl out, you would want to do certain things for

25:56

her, you wouldn't buy her stuff. So I just

25:58

couldn't see. And ASAP Rocky don't give a fuck. So

26:01

like I know he doesn't, he's not worth nowhere near

26:03

as much as her, but she wasn't worth that just a

26:05

few years ago. You know, she was bankrupt at one point

26:07

in time. When you get over five, ten million

26:09

dollars, like I think it's a lot of it's the same. Like what more can you buy?

26:12

Like you can buy all the clothes you want, all the jewelry you want. With

26:14

the money he makes, he can buy anything he wants. If

26:16

Rihanna wakes up with Asat Rocky's money,

26:18

she's gonna kill herself. But? Like,

26:21

please believe, because that's Kanye. Right.

26:24

Well, Kanye don't have Kanye. That's

26:26

Kanye. Touche. Touche. Yeah.

26:30

Rihanna Dokim, you don't have to get married just yet. But

26:32

I see people trying to come for her that, oh, she did it backwards.

26:35

She had the kids first and didn't get married. But it's

26:37

not for, marriage is not for everybody. So that's the

26:39

discussion I want to have with you, because I actually had

26:41

that discussion with my boyfriend. It's like, what

26:44

to you? Because nowadays it seems like everybody

26:47

is

26:48

literally having kids first. And

26:50

they feel like that the kids

26:53

is the order. Kids then marriage.

26:55

So do you still believe, because of me, I'm old

26:58

fashioned. I definitely believe marriage

27:00

first. I don't feel like I waited this

27:02

long to be a baby mama. You get what I'm saying?

27:05

Yeah. Do you think marriage

27:07

first or kids first? I think

27:09

marriage first, and that's probably why I never got to the point of

27:11

having them. I was always waiting for the perfect situation,

27:13

which probably never will be perfect. And

27:16

I didn't want to be a baby mama. Not that,

27:18

you know, I'm not shaming anyone else that is. That

27:20

is their decision. And I can have my decision. I

27:23

just was never interested in that. So do you

27:25

do like, but looking back now,

27:28

like when you get older, you start getting, I won't say more desperate, but

27:30

you change your standards like that. You

27:32

do bring them down a little bit.

27:34

Like when you're younger, you're like, I think I'd be this tall

27:36

and this, they look like this and have this

27:38

checklist. That's near 20s. When you are

27:40

at your peak fertility and peak poppiness,

27:43

then your 30s, you're like, all right, well, maybe I'll

27:45

be open if he's not. Okay. So what? I'll throw the tall out

27:47

or the money. You start taking things

27:49

off the list. Then 40s, that

27:51

list

27:52

start looking real endemic. That's crazy.

27:55

I've never been the girl that had a list

27:57

that included looks as you got to look

27:59

like something.

27:59

because I need to be with somebody I'm attracted

28:02

to. And it's more so

28:04

everybody I've ever been with is

28:07

a nice looking guy. But I never

28:09

had a checklist of like, he has to be

28:11

tall. He has to this. He has to that. I know girls

28:13

that have done that. It's more so I'll be like, he

28:15

has to treat me like

28:17

this. Or he has to like, I do think of

28:19

that. I'll be like, he has to dress. That's important to

28:21

me because I'm a dresser. And

28:23

you could get your clothes from Macy's. Either way,

28:26

that's my list. It's more so like success

28:29

level, things like that. But I

28:31

never looked at like physical appearances. It's

28:33

funny because you say that often when you're like,

28:36

girls be like, tall, dark, and handsome. I do

28:38

like an attractive man. Yeah. And I think there's nothing

28:40

wrong with saying that. Some women like ugly men.

28:42

I've had that before. And we had some bomb ass sex. I

28:46

close my eyes the whole time though. He had a sexy voice.

28:48

Like when I tell you like it just won't turn on. But

28:51

like, I mean, we're talking like classically

28:53

attractive, right, like with the standard. No, you got

28:55

to look good. But listen, when you

28:57

like someone and how they think and how they talk,

29:00

they start looking sexy to you. And they start looking good

29:02

to you, I think. I mean,

29:04

I agree. You agree

29:06

with yourself? I agree. I agree. I agree.

29:09

Now, I understand what you're saying. I've definitely

29:12

like a Jay-Z effect, right? Like some

29:14

people say he's not the most attractive. But

29:16

what did he say? Ain't no such

29:18

thing as an ugly billionaire. I'm cute.

29:21

And at the end of the day, if you think about it, money

29:23

makes you look better not because you

29:26

have the money. It's because you could do things with that

29:28

money to make you look better like Diddy.

29:30

Diddy, did you see Diddy when he first came out? But

29:33

when he got the face, the skin

29:35

clear, the nice hair, you

29:38

get one of them. Steve Harvey. That money

29:40

can transform you into a snack. What would

29:43

you give Steve Harvey on a scale of one to 10? Now,

29:45

shoot. I'd give him a 15 compared

29:47

to that Mr. Potato head he was back

29:50

in the day. Mr. Hottower? So a 15.

29:52

Mr. Hottower to

29:55

Steve Harvey today. If Steve Harvey was single and now

29:57

it's Marjorie, could he get it? I don't like old men.

29:59

I'm not like that.

29:59

You got to be within my age range. Say

30:02

you're the same age. Say

30:04

you're seven, whatever it is. I don't know what I'm

30:06

gonna like when I'm 75. Right now,

30:09

okay, say he was your age. Could Steve

30:11

Harvey get it with his money? I wonder what he looked like. Did

30:14

he have the mustache at my age? Don't worry

30:16

about all that. Nah, I need all that. Did Steve

30:18

Harvey get it? I'm not gonna lie. Marjorie

30:20

saw something, I didn't because... No.

30:24

You want some too old, man? No.

30:27

What's the oldest you've been with? I

30:29

don't do old men. When I was

30:31

younger, I might have had somebody that was in their

30:34

30s when I was like

30:35

maybe 10 years. Okay. Something

30:38

like... I just don't... To this day, everybody that

30:41

I date is the most is like three

30:43

years

30:44

above or below. There's no...

30:46

I'm very funny about age.

30:48

It's crazy because my homegirls are so much older than

30:50

me. Like, you know you. You're

30:53

welcome. I'm

30:56

in your life to guide you. Yeah, do I? But

30:58

really, if you think about it, think about majority of

31:00

my friends are like 10 plus

31:03

years older than me. Yeah. I feel

31:05

like I can learn a lot more from

31:07

my homegirls, but when it comes to the guys, it's

31:10

creepy to me. Even though I'm

31:12

a grown woman, it still gives creep

31:14

to me a little bit. And then it's like,

31:17

there was this one guy I was talking to, oh

31:18

my God, the music choice.

31:22

My ears would be bleep. And I like old school

31:24

music, but just... It was too old. Too old,

31:26

yeah. It went too far. We didn't relate. Like,

31:29

we could've... You got some things in common. Yeah, we didn't

31:31

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32:03

We're getting a lot off topic today, but we're having a good conversation.

32:05

No, we are. So anyway, let's bring Ms.

32:07

Lawrence in. Hi guys. Hi Claudia.

32:09

How you doing? We both in leather.

32:12

We're both giving leather today. Leather looks.

32:13

Listen, leather ain't going nowhere.

32:16

Spring, summer, or fall or winter,

32:18

leather will always be one of those transitional

32:21

things. One of those transitional

32:23

pieces, that third piece that always

32:25

is due to job, you know? Well,

32:26

it's not coming with me to Mexico, Ms. Lawrence.

32:29

So tell me. No, I do

32:31

not suggest you take it to Mexico. However,

32:34

if you're going to Mexico, you're going to have some

32:37

fun in the sun, it is time

32:39

for you to pull out those bikinis, those swimsuits.

32:42

And there's a multitude of new

32:45

trends that's happening with swimwear

32:47

this season. Of course, you can always

32:50

go with your traditional one piece

32:52

bathing suit, but people are getting really,

32:54

really creative and really, really

32:57

forward with the under

32:59

boob. The

33:00

under boob is inevitable. It's never going

33:02

anywhere. I love an under boob. I already saw

33:04

her under boob, and it's already 10 o'clock in the morning. Today

33:06

I showed her my under boob. We

33:09

took some pictures and I had under boob out, Ms.

33:11

Lawrence. Who uses everywhere.

33:12

I love it. I love it, yes. Keep

33:14

the under boob out, honey, because listen,

33:16

bikini tops, for whatever reason, are

33:18

becoming smaller. The thong

33:21

bikinis are becoming skinnier. And

33:23

you know what else I'm noticing people they're

33:26

adding jewels and

33:29

hardware to their bikinis. So,

33:31

you know, like little hardware rings

33:33

and little circles and stuff, as

33:35

opposed to your typical cut out is

33:37

a super, super popular trend. High

33:39

waist bikinis are really,

33:42

really popping right now. And

33:44

that old vintage cut of a bikini

33:47

top and bottom is coming back. I love it.

33:49

I think that works really good, especially for

33:51

those, I'm gonna say those of us,

33:54

myself included, even though I don't wear a bikini, but

33:56

that are still struggling with those last.

33:59

little bits of COVID weight that

34:02

might have come. High-waist bikinis

34:04

and swimsuit bottoms and tops are

34:06

really, really, really

34:07

good. Not just that, Ms. Lawrence, we also

34:09

like food and drink. So

34:12

when we're on these trips, we eat

34:14

that. So the baby suit kind of

34:15

just saves you a little bit. You gotta say

34:18

exactly. It saves the day. You can order

34:21

that margarita and those fries and that burger

34:23

while you lay it out and just pour that bikini

34:25

up, honey. You sound like Claudia. I

34:28

always gain mad. When I go on

34:30

vacation, I work out before I go

34:32

and I get to a good place. And then the first day, I trick

34:34

it all off having four pina coladas, 5,000 calories,

34:37

and then I'm regretting it in the picture. But then you also

34:40

encourage others to do the same because

34:42

actually- You know what happens? It seems like

34:44

when you go on vacation, myself included,

34:46

you go and you be like, I know I

34:48

have always, I'm gonna make a song, you know what? I'm

34:50

gonna bring my sneakers, I'm gonna work

34:52

out, I'm gonna do the- I never

34:55

used my sneakers

34:55

on vacation. None of it.

34:58

I actually do. I work out every single day on vacation.

35:01

Are you kidding me? Because I know I'm gonna

35:03

drink those drinks and I'm older than y'all, so the weight

35:05

don't just go like that. So I feel like I'm

35:07

evening it out a little bit. Nah, nah, when I

35:09

get home or when I, before I get there, it's

35:12

before I add the vacation, it's for vacationing.

35:14

You ain't gonna jog me in Mexico? How? Come

35:17

on, isn't this three miles? I walk with

35:19

my mascalita. Oh

35:20

my God. You do three miles

35:23

every day when you're on vacation? Yes, yep. I

35:25

run on the beach. I get to see the beach, I film

35:28

it, I try to inspire other people. None of my friends ever

35:30

wanna go with me. And me, like I film

35:31

idiots like Claudia while I'm

35:33

drinking my penis. Come on! Who's the idiot

35:35

when you got out of the pooch and I'm gonna be looking snatched?

35:38

Who's the gonna be the idiot? Vacation, I'm sorry, but working

35:40

out is not for vacation. Yes, it is. No,

35:43

it's not. You gotta go back to your real life looking crazy. I'm

35:45

kinda with- Three days? I'm not a L'Oreal.

35:47

Now I do leave town with

35:49

the intentions on keeping my

35:52

regular workout regimen. For whatever

35:54

reason, I get there and it never happens.

35:57

It just never

35:57

happens. And you know what? I didn't mean to call

35:59

Claudia.

35:59

I know you're so mean to me. Like,

36:02

you're so hard. I was like, I felt offended. I

36:04

felt the way. But you know what? Because you offended

36:06

me when you said you wanted to work out on vacation.

36:09

I offended you because I am prioritizing my cardiovascular

36:11

health and my fitness. I offend

36:13

you because I want to live longer, Laryse. Miss Lawrence, I

36:15

work my arm to my mouth,

36:18

especially on vacation. Vacation?

36:20

You're not by yourself now. You're

36:22

not by yourself now. You're not by yourself now. You're

36:24

not by yourself now. I'm in talking. I cannot

36:27

leave

36:27

out my beautiful

36:29

women of a certain age that may not

36:32

want to be as revealing while they're on vacation. But

36:34

they can't wear a t-shirt, though, Miss Lawrence. Don't

36:36

put the t-shirt on in the pool. No, we're not doing

36:38

t-shirts. But you know what's becoming more

36:40

popular? What's that? And it's on trend,

36:43

long, sheer sleeves with your bathing

36:45

suit. Yeah. I think it's super

36:48

sexy as well. And it gives, you know, again,

36:50

that woman of a certain age, or maybe your,

36:53

you know, can be insecure about it. I don't like my

36:55

arms, but I put them out anyway.

36:57

But you're insecure about your arms or whatever. A

36:59

really thin, sheer sleeve paired

37:02

with your bikini top or your

37:04

bathing suit or your swimsuit or whatever works perfectly.

37:07

And it's super, super cute and on trend like right now.

37:09

And you can get all of that at Macy's. I

37:11

want us to touch on a couple of trending topics really

37:14

quickly. Let's talk about

37:17

Little Meach and Summer Walker. I

37:19

actually saw Little Meach at the airport in

37:21

Atlanta just out of the day. I was

37:23

making sure it wasn't no guns. So I patted

37:25

him down. No, I'm joking. I'm joking. Because

37:28

never he got caught up. Atlanta's the

37:29

airport. You know Atlanta's the airport. Don't play

37:31

that with them guns. They don't care who you are. Nope. They

37:34

got him last time and he was like, you know, I'm a miner and my

37:36

security might have put the other there. He tried

37:38

that miner. He did try it. He woke

37:40

somebody else. He's trying to Summer Walker.

37:43

So they say the two of them are now an item. They're

37:45

dating. She actually blew

37:47

her spot up because they were saying that they messed around.

37:50

But she blew her spot up by trying to make a joke. And when she made a joke,

37:53

she screenshotted her phone and

37:55

she was on FaceTime with him. So she posted

37:58

the screenshot. Not really.

37:59

that he was in the corner of it and

38:02

blew up her own damn spot. Let me say, we

38:04

all know what that is. And we all know what that is.

38:06

I love Summer Walker. I love Meets. I actually

38:08

knew Meets' father. I knew the original

38:10

Beets back in the day. But let me tell

38:12

you something. The girls know what they be doing,

38:14

honey. Taking that screenshot and

38:17

acting like you do it. You know exactly

38:19

what's in your background, and you was letting all

38:21

them DM girls know. She

38:25

was sending a very clear message.

38:28

But I do love her tactics

38:29

to let the people know he's mine.

38:32

Yes. That's cute. I'm here for it.

38:34

It was cute, right? I'm here to let the broads

38:36

know. And she got a brand new project.

38:38

You could tell it's heavily inspired by Erika

38:40

Badu. Y'all should go check that out.

38:43

It's called Soft Life. So

38:45

that's it. I want a soft life for her because she

38:47

went through some things. Soft.

38:48

Clear too. Clear too.

38:51

Soft life. OK, so

38:53

even though she's been outside with sexy red and sukiyana,

38:55

that's not giving a soft life. Maybe

38:58

Misha's going to give her a soft life, like in the restaurant.

39:00

Wait, Summer Walker's been hanging out with sukiyana?

39:02

Sukiyana and sexy red. Pound

39:05

town. Just love pound town. That's my

39:07

girl. I love sexy red. Shout out to

39:09

her. But somebody

39:10

did try to come for Summer Walker's head

39:12

on social media. And they was like, oh, so how

39:14

many dudes you going to let get you pregnant?

39:16

And she was like, as many as I can afford to

39:18

take care of these children.

39:20

I'm rich. You know, it'd be the men that have

39:22

their nerve, have

39:27

had their frequent flyer miles to the Planned

39:29

Parenthood. 11 baby mamas. And got

39:31

mad baby girls around them going to tell

39:33

somebody about their thing. Like, mind your business. Exactly.

39:37

Jay-Z and Beyonce, let's talk about them. They

39:39

purchased a home that was

39:41

originally listed for $296 million. They

39:45

purchased it for $200 million, one

39:48

of the most expensive homes, period,

39:50

in California. And guess what? That's

39:53

not their main residence. It's their weekend

39:54

home. OK. The weekend home. The

39:57

weekday house is right down

39:59

the street, child. It's not by

40:01

and Beverly Young. I am

40:03

here for it. Listen, that lady

40:05

and that man, that's a very, very

40:08

hard working couple. And they

40:10

also work very smart. So listen,

40:13

we are supposed to enjoy the fruits of our labor.

40:15

I can't imagine

40:17

what that's like to own a $200 million. We

40:21

getting home, okay. I

40:24

can't imagine, but it must be nice. With

40:26

them though, like

40:27

that's so, I always talk to my friends

40:30

about the two family income. I mean,

40:32

the two person income, like you can do so much more,

40:34

but they're like next level. And with them, they

40:36

also give back a lot of money. Like they do a lot of, they

40:38

give a lot to a lot of social justice causes under

40:41

the radar without advertising. So you know, it's real.

40:43

Like they pay for like the defense of a lot of people that

40:45

are wrongfully accused or they

40:47

try to, they don't say anything about it. They just do

40:49

it. So they deserve all the blessings that

40:52

are being bestowed upon them. And I like that you said

40:54

that Claudia, because a lot of people have been speaking

40:56

out about that 50-50

40:57

conversation. Oh, I can never do that. I can never.

41:00

But then when they see Beyonce and Jay-Z, they like, oh,

41:02

gold. No, since you said you can never.

41:04

You wasn't bringing no money to the table. So

41:07

that can't be gold for you. You know what I

41:09

mean? You know what's so crazy?

41:10

Because people, speaking of the

41:12

50-50 thing, cause

41:14

I saw that somewhere. It comes up every

41:16

other week at this point, right? Like

41:19

I think that's the new thing. It's like, which

41:22

one is it? Some men, you

41:24

know,

41:25

the super, I guess, misogynistic

41:28

ones, the ones that are extremely, you

41:31

know, wanna

41:33

be in control of everything, you know. It's

41:36

cool for them, but then you also say you want

41:39

a strong black woman. And a woman can be strong

41:41

and be a strong black woman having

41:43

to match their man or whatever the case may

41:45

be. But it's such

41:48

a joy and an

41:49

honor to see women, black

41:53

women who for so long have been,

41:55

you know, not be able to share equitable

41:57

space with their male.

41:59

counterparts and so to see them to be able to

42:02

contribute 50% in

42:04

a household, that's an honorable thing.

42:06

And FYI, a lot of households

42:08

it's 100% okay, because some of these

42:10

men are bummed. Yeah, no,

42:13

but I'm thinking for the ones

42:15

where there are two pair of households and

42:18

our two person household

42:20

husband and wife or boyfriend, girl, whatever case they

42:22

be. And they're both contributing because it's like,

42:24

yeah, you ain't the only strong one. I'm

42:27

strong and I'm a boss bitch. And

42:29

yeah, you go always be that man. So, you

42:32

know, I'm here for it. You know what I'm saying?

42:34

I'm definitely here for it.

42:35

I like that. To me, the

42:37

ideal situation is knowing I'm able

42:40

to contribute 50 50 offering and

42:42

the man says, I know you got it, but I want

42:44

to take care of you. Like, that's

42:47

cool, too. I like that too. Like, I feel

42:50

like that's sexy. You

42:52

know, I've been in 50 50 situations and

42:54

it's cool,

42:55

but I also don't want someone to just take care of everything. So I

42:57

feel like they have all the control and the power. And it

42:59

just makes me kind of feel bad sometimes.

43:01

I'm just swimming in my

43:03

money and you struggling,

43:05

taking care of me. We're always else. And I don't think anyone

43:08

just let someone just take care of all the girls. We're all

43:10

grown. I

43:10

want to tell y'all something for real though.

43:12

Like when y'all, I don't know what you all's,

43:15

you know, your, your, if y'all have companions

43:18

or I got a boo. But literally,

43:21

literally look after them, like

43:24

make sure they good because they men,

43:26

especially black men, they, they

43:29

will work very hard. Most of them,

43:31

right? Not saying all of them, most of them will work very

43:33

hard to take care of their family and provide

43:35

for their family that they neglect themselves.

43:38

That is for the man to take

43:40

the lead

43:40

and, and, you know, be in control

43:42

of everything. But just as, as

43:44

the, as the companion, as the partner,

43:47

as the suitable helper, as some would

43:50

describe it, just make sure they're okay

43:52

too.

43:52

You know what I mean? Yeah. And Miss

43:55

Lawrence, we want to thank you so much

43:57

for stopping by and dropping your gym.

43:59

on us as you always do.

44:02

Yes. Let the folks know. And we, first

44:04

of all, we're going to give you your flowers really quickly.

44:07

The purpose ball was quite a

44:09

success. Yeah. We saw

44:11

that thing everywhere with some controversies

44:14

around

44:14

it. People was upset. People was happy.

44:17

It was more than I knew

44:20

it was going to be a success. I did it.

44:22

I partnered with, obviously, Marriage Day

44:24

Blinds and the Strength of a Woman Festival. And

44:26

they reached out to me to host

44:28

the ball or to do the ball for them.

44:31

And so I had to work closely

44:34

with Live Nation. Live Nation,

44:36

that's a company or a corporation.

44:38

This was very new for them. It

44:40

was new for Mary's team,

44:43

the heirs agency. Shouts out to

44:46

Ashana. It was very new to all

44:48

of them. Let me send my shana. They

44:51

had no idea what was going on.

44:54

And it's like, I know at one point, we were talking

44:56

about having you all as judges and everything.

44:59

But then when they saw that ticket

45:02

sales originally wasn't doing

45:05

what Live Nation is used to, Live Nation

45:07

is used to saying, oh, so

45:09

and so is coming to concert. And

45:12

then shows are selling out in

45:14

a week or whatever. And I'm like, y'all,

45:16

this is ballroom. It operates

45:18

the complete opposite. They're

45:21

very last minute. Because so what happens is people

45:24

in ballroom, the people that like to compete, they

45:26

find out what the ball is, find out which

45:28

categories they want to walk. And then they start to prepare

45:31

for their category, which means they're spending money

45:33

on their categories and their effects

45:36

and stuff. The last thing they're going to do

45:38

on their list is buy the ticket. They do that

45:40

at the last minute. And so I told them,

45:42

listen, y'all are going to be

45:45

like, oh, we got to stop spending money. We can't spend

45:47

no more money on judges and stuff. Like, OK, whatever.

45:50

But I told them, I said, listen, the day

45:52

of y'all are going to gag.

45:55

And lo and behold,

45:57

it was a crazy day. But I pulled up to the

45:59

top.

45:59

to that venue and the line was literally

46:02

down the street.

46:03

That is crazy. We

46:05

got to capacity and they had to stop

46:08

letting people in. It was insane.

46:10

And I'm so grateful to turn out was

46:12

what it was because the goal of the purpose

46:14

ball was in aiding and

46:17

bridging the gap between the black

46:19

queer and the black spirit and the black LGBTQ

46:21

and the black hetero community. And

46:24

this was one of the first balls, and I've been a

46:26

part of Ballroom almost 20 years. And

46:28

this is the first ball where you have seen a

46:30

huge mixture of hetero

46:33

people and LGBTQ

46:35

people. It has never happened. So we literally

46:37

broke records. And one of my

46:40

most exciting categories

46:42

that we have for that night was mother

46:44

versus mother best dressed. And

46:47

it was the mothers of some of the Ballroom

46:50

competitors that came and they were

46:53

able to dress their mom up since it was on Mother's

46:55

Day. That's so cool. And

46:57

they walked them down a runway. And just to see

46:59

that and to see how we've invited

47:02

our parents in our space so

47:05

that they can see how we've been

47:07

making it all this time without always

47:10

the help of them, it just really warmed

47:12

my heart and it definitely served the

47:13

purpose for the ball. So thank you all for even mentioning

47:16

it. Of course. On the Undressing

47:18

Room podcast. I appreciate it. And y'all

47:20

going to be at

47:20

the next one because we're already planning. Hopefully

47:23

we're not going to have to wait a whole entire year.

47:25

We could do one in between or something

47:27

because we really want to attend. I've

47:30

been wanting to get into the ballroom scene. I've been asking my people

47:32

around Dallas. I want to go

47:34

and just be involved. So I've been hearing a lot about it. My

47:36

friend Trey tells me all the inner

47:38

workings. And it sounds fascinating. I didn't know

47:40

nothing till I watched Pose, to be honest.

47:43

I'm not going to act like I knew of

47:45

everything. And then I saw the show that made

47:47

the stallion was judging.

47:50

Legendary.

47:50

Legendary. That was a good

47:52

show. So I think that got me into

47:55

it. And once I say, I'm my own, this is

47:57

dope. So I know that this is going to be even

47:59

more successful.

47:59

than it already was for you. So we're looking

48:02

forward to that. Where can the people find you, Ms.

48:04

Lawrence? Y'all can find me on

48:06

social media, Ms. Lawrence, M-I-S-S-L-A-W-R-E-N-C-E.

48:11

That is on Instagram, Twitter, and

48:14

Facebook.

48:14

Perfect. And we will see you next time,

48:17

right? Yes, see y'all next week.

48:19

All right, thank you, Ms. Lawrence. Bye.

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48:52

Okay, so now let's dive into the DMs.

48:55

Now, I feel like we need to change the name of

48:57

this segment because we're gonna either get them from my DM,

49:00

the Unjusted From Podcast DM. So we

49:02

just sliding in them. Sliding in anyone's

49:04

DMs. Well, I don't know if you have anything

49:07

over there, but I got one chat. Okay, let's hear it. So

49:09

there's a guy who used to date,

49:10

right? Many, many, many, many, many, many

49:12

moons ago.

49:14

And apparently he still follows me, I don't follow

49:16

him. So I was going through my DMs

49:18

to try to find something interesting and juicy

49:21

for you guys. And he sends me a picture,

49:23

you know the little emoji of the baby?

49:26

Yeah. And he goes, whenever you're ready, let

49:28

me know. Oh, wow. But

49:30

how do you, like I haven't even heard from this

49:32

person, spoken to this person,

49:34

reached out, or even tried to speak to this person. Is he good

49:36

looking?

49:37

He was a nice looking guy. Would you be a good sperm donor?

49:39

I don't care, I'm in a whole relationship. But

49:41

not just that, it's just crazy that like,

49:43

hi, how you doing? How you been? You

49:46

good? That is, he did skip a few steps. A few?

49:48

Yeah, he went from zero to 100 real quick.

49:50

Well, you're looking for a baby maker. Want me to just slide

49:53

him over to you? I don't know, that shit

49:55

may have failed. Is it? I don't

49:57

know. What do you mean by that? I'm 50.

49:59

Brat is pregnant and I just went to her baby shower

50:02

this weekend. I think she's 48, right? Brat's 48.

50:04

She's close to 50. Either

50:07

way, Jana Jackson had her child at 50 as

50:09

well. Should I try to get pregnant? I

50:11

think so. Isn't this the golden year?

50:14

It is, but... All right, we'll

50:16

see. I'm not gonna lie. Don't invite me. I

50:18

can't go to no more baby showers, no

50:20

more baby... Oh, you're gonna be the godmother. What are you talking

50:22

about? Oh my god, no. Yes, I want gifts.

50:25

My godchild is so expensive.

50:27

Why are coats $600 for kids? Because

50:29

you're going to expensive places. You better think... Well,

50:32

you know, y'all are bougie ass.

50:34

You know... Go to Macy's, get them on sale,

50:36

get the good deals, take advantage of the good value

50:38

you get at Macy's. So I did go to Macy's and

50:42

Macy, she picked the most expensive coat there

50:44

too. Oh, so it's her. It's

50:46

my friend. It's her. It's

50:48

my friend, but it's okay. You know when it's your first child,

50:50

you gotta get all the good stuff. So are you gonna

50:52

respond in closing? Are you gonna respond to this guy?

50:55

I'm gonna say Claudia says she's willing and able.

50:57

Stomach picture. Height, weight, everything. I

50:59

need to see his teeth. He's very athletic,

51:02

nice looking guy. Alright.

51:04

You might like this one. Hey, slide him over.

51:06

I'm not gonna lie, I don't know what his finances is looking like though. That's

51:09

fine, I'm a trick.

51:10

Are you? Yeah. Last time I spoke to him,

51:12

he said his phone got cut off.

51:14

Ooh. Did he have Wi-Fi? Did he

51:16

have Wi-Fi? He had Wi-Fi, that's how he

51:18

was able to hit me. Alright, well,

51:20

there's those free Obama phones out there. Okay,

51:24

what about you? I'm trying to find one that I can read

51:26

on this podcast because someone wanted me to sit somewhere

51:28

and I can't really say where they want me to sit. Okay, alright,

51:30

alright. No, I can't. Or do you want to get

51:32

it ready for the next episode? I will find

51:34

one for the next episode. Okay, so, alright, I got one more

51:37

then. Okay. So I

51:39

told y'all that we would touch on that

51:41

ghosting topic and then I would reach out to that guy, do

51:43

you remember? I'm

51:44

so proud of you. So I did reach out to him and I-

51:47

Why did he ghost, did he tell you? So at first

51:50

he sent me like a whole list of things

51:52

and I didn't want to open the message because I was like,

51:54

oh my God, all this list of things for me. He had a whole list for

51:56

you. Well, because I told him we were

51:58

talking about it on the podcast.

51:59

And I said, I really wanted to know. It

52:02

was interesting, because I didn't care, like, to

52:04

think about it. But when we got to talking about it, then

52:06

I got a little curious. So I asked him. So

52:08

he sent me a whole list. Like, this is the reason why people

52:10

ghost people. I'm like, no, idiot, you. Why did you

52:12

ghost me? Right? So

52:15

basically, so when I met him, and I

52:17

feel like this happens to me all the time, he

52:20

was, like, fresh out of a relationship. But

52:22

we had knew each other already. Like, we were cool

52:24

or whatever, but we started hanging out when he was fresh

52:27

out of a relationship. And, like,

52:29

everything was fine.

52:29

Like, we were cool. So I asked

52:32

him why. And he said

52:34

the

52:35

reason why was because

52:37

he felt like, I'm a lover girl,

52:39

like, you know, and felt like

52:41

things would progress with us very quickly.

52:44

And at the time, that was something I wasn't ready

52:46

for. So to

52:47

me, because he was

52:49

fresh out the relationship or whatever. So to me, I don't see anything

52:52

wrong with that, because I am. I'm the

52:54

type of girl that, like, you're not going to be able to pull one

52:56

over on. So you got a good answer to your ghosting

52:58

question. It wasn't a bad answer. It wasn't. That's

53:01

a good thing. I wish more people would stop ghosting

53:03

and tell the person so you can

53:05

grow from it or learn from it instead of just wondering

53:08

forever what happened. And I,

53:10

you know, I said that to him, too. I was like, well,

53:13

don't you think that's something you should just tell somebody?

53:16

Because we was cool. And then

53:17

it got to the point where I'm like, nah, I don't really rock

53:19

with him because he just

53:21

whatever. And his response

53:23

was, well, I'm not going to try to change

53:26

who you are. Like, that's like

53:28

that's the kind of person that's good that that's who you

53:30

are. But that's just not what

53:32

I was ready for.

53:33

So my thing is this. Why

53:36

do people get involved even

53:38

in situations where

53:41

it's sexual this, that or where feelings

53:43

get involved? If they know they're not ready,

53:45

shouldn't they be in the house? Because people are selfish

53:48

and they would they need to stay home and chill

53:50

and get out of the way and do the work first before they go mess

53:52

with someone else's life. But most people are selfish. Yes,

53:54

I don't get nobody's number. Don't pass

53:56

go. Don't collect two hundred dollars. I don't understand.

54:00

What's the problem? And like people will be like,

54:02

oh what but I told you that this

54:04

is what and it's like no you

54:06

Got my number we went out like you're

54:09

doing all the things to show that you Acting

54:11

just like a year in a relationship or boyfriend and then

54:13

say we're not really together Why do people

54:15

do this

54:16

people like to waste time and people are cowards people

54:18

don't like to tell the truth People

54:21

are afraid of rejection. So I'll just

54:23

tell you what you want to hear or I'll just go see So you

54:25

don't have a chance to reject me. That's my thing Well,

54:27

I did what I said I was gonna do this week. Very

54:29

proud of you. Thank you Do I

54:31

feel any differently? No, I

54:34

thought you could have said that didn't and I probably would have

54:36

like I'll get out of here But sometimes

54:38

people think you want something that you don't even

54:40

ask for fellas Not all women

54:43

want to marry your stinking ass We all

54:45

don't want to marry all of you some of y'all we want to

54:47

have fun with some of you We just want to just talk

54:49

to you or just hang out and go eat

54:51

Stop sweating yourself don't think

54:53

every woman at all if I give her her she don't want to wife

54:55

me up I'll be my wife not always

54:57

the case. Exactly. Don't fly this and FYI

55:00

if you were the woman that Just

55:02

went now you're a hoe.

55:04

So you can't win. We can't win. That's why you could always

55:06

lie and say in numbers three There you go And

55:10

we're gonna get out of here I'm

55:12

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