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Hello friends, crystal here, your vibrant

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BF. And I am back today

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with an episode that has been brewing

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for several weeks now.

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Today's episode, we are talking about

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the power of silence.

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I was debating on naming it, the power of silence

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or shut up. I

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think you might've resonated more with shut up. I

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wonder what I'll end up with. Anyway,

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it's the power of keeping your mouth.

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Close. It's the power in

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the pause. It's just

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observing. It's the power

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with. Okay. If

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that's how you see it. Okay.

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If that's what you want to do. The

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power, the power, the power. Now.

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Disclaimer, I have not yet mastered

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this. I don't know if I ever will, but

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I have become extremely more

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intentional with shutting

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up. I don't always do it.

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I usually fall short with my family.

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As many of you will attest to as

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well. But the power of

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silence is a real thing.

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And we're going to talk about why that is. So

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for those of you who are back. Welcome. I'm so happy

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to have you back again. If this is your first time

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here. I am so happy that

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you decided to join me over here in

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my little space of the internet.

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So. When you think of silence,

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when you hear the word shut up? They

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essentially are the same things, but they definitely have

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different energies behind them. So

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what resonates with you? I

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feel like there are times that we may hear our

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higher self saying, shut up,

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stop talking. Don't say anything

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else. Or you

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may hear your higher self saying, just

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be quiet. Just stay silent.

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And whatever the situation is

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and what may be going on. The main point

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is to listen. To that

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intuition listen to your higher self.

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And just stay. Silent.

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One of the greatest lessons is understanding

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when to speak and when to stay silent.

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You will know that you really hit a next level

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of maturity when you're not trying to force

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people to see your point of view.

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To get your point of cross and

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just letting it be. Allowing

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people to stay in whatever paradigm

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they want to stay in. You cannot

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force someone to see your point of

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view. You can live by example,

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you can share asked otherwise

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everybody's going to come to their own level

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of consciousness and their own timeline.

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And you continually talking and

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trying to get your point across and

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drilling it in or yelling

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or whatever it may look like. It's

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not the way to do it. I talk

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about a saying, I think it's a Chinese proverb

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that says when the student is ready,

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the teacher will appear. And

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for so many years, I thought

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I was everyone's teacher. Does anybody

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feel like that? I felt like if

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something was said in my presence,

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Then I was there to correct them. If

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you didn't already know, I have a lot

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of Virgo placements. Now

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I would consider myself a healed Virgo.

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There's always different levels to attain,

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but overall I do feel. Like

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a healthy Virgo. I do stay

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in a higher vibration of the Virgo.

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So when I would hear people talk.

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And they would say something that made

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really no sense. I would want

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to correct them. I would want to

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tell them why they were wrong. I would want to show

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them where they were wrong. I would want to give them receipts.

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Uh, when they did that wrong. I

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mean all the things again, Virgo.

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And of course I was always valid because

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again, Fargo. And it didn't work that

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way. And it usually went

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even far left, especially with my

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children. Family friends,

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whoever it was that I was talking with that I was

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like, no, just see it my way, because

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this is the right way. And oh,

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you don't know what you're talking about. And this is why you don't

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know what you're talking about. What was that doing?

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Was that for my ego or was I really

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trying to help them where they really trying

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to evolve? What was it really? Well,

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obviously I know what it was about now. It

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was about me. It was about me

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showing them where they could be better,

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where they were wrong,. It wasn't about

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them. And as you continue

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to grow and evolve and heal,

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immature. You understand it's

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about the person you become of

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service to other people

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you want to become a light. You

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want to help them. Understand what

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it is. They need not what you

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think they need. Or the route they

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need to take to get to where you think

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they should go, but you check in with

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them You first want to see what it is

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that they need from you? Are they looking for

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advice or are they looking

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for just someone to listen?

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And staying silent. And

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here's the thing more times than not

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people just want someone to listen.

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And to hold that space for them. Now

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as I continually grow and evolve and heal.

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People do seek my advice more because

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I really am looking out for them.

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Now, of course there are things, especially

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with my children. You know, loved

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ones that I'm like, no, no, no, please don't

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do that. This is what I see. I really

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feel like this may be better. But at the

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end of the day, I want to

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love you where you are, and I want

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you to get whatever lessons, teachings,

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growth, healing that you need to

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be your best self. And

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that doesn't come with me always talking,

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but that comes with the power of

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silence. So let's talk about

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some ways to actually initiate

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the power of silence, because it's a lot easier

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said than done. One

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of the things. My kindness coach, AKA,

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my sister taught me many, many years

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ago was basically like. What

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is the point of you saying that?

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What is the objective? If you

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were to say X, Y, and Z, what

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is the objective you're looking for? If

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it's not going to make a positive impact on

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the person, then why do you need to

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say it? When you're in a situation,

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whether it be one-on-one and a group,

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whatever it is. I first want you to

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listen and be present with the

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person. I don't want you to listen to

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respond. But I want you to listen

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to understand, to be curious.

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That is number one, with understanding

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the power of silence when

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you are listening and curiosity,

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and to understand. You're not going

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to be thinking of ways of what they

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should be doing or what they could be doing. You're going

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to be listening with empathy. And open

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heart. That's the first thing. Now,

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if it's already been decided, Hey, I'm going

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through this. I would really like your advice again.

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You still want to listen with curiosity and

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an open heart, but then you're going to also

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listen out for cues of what

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may be resonating and what you need to speak about.

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I've guided people before. And

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this is something my own personal intuition

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is I will get downloads and receive channel

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messages for people that I'm in communion with,

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or I'm talking with. And so for me,

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I know how to tap in fairly easy just

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by listening. I will get like little flags

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of things that we want to go deeper into.

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So once you have listened,

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truly listen, and you allow yourself

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the power of silence and

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the power of the pause to digest.

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It's also very powerful, too. Regenerate.

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To give feedback to repeat

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what it is that you heard, because we

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have to understand that we're all coming.

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With our own filters, our own

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paradigms and our own lenses. So

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you always want to say, so what I'm hearing is

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you're feeling like X, Y, and Z. And

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if they say yes, you can go

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into more curiosity, allowing for more

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silence from you. What do you mean

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when you say this? Can you elaborate more

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on that? And allows them

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to start to dig deeper as well.

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It's not you pinpointing it and finding

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it. It's them seeing it for themselves.

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This is where major shifts happen.

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When people are given the space. To really

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think and have the bandwidth

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to look outside of maybe the paradigms

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and the lenses. They were originally seeing it through.

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And you're holding that space for them. This

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is where the transformation takes place.

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So, if you do get a download

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insight intuition that says something

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great, speak. Or maybe

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it's like, That's really tough. That's really

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challenging. I'm going to think about

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that. And just you creating

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that space for them. Lets them

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feel not only heard. But

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validated and seen, and that

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is what people want. That is what people

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need. And maybe during

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that time of you thinking more about

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it while you're staying in your power of silence.

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They will get a revelation and a download,

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or maybe you'll get even a deeper understanding.

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But at the end of the day, it's about understanding

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the magic that happens when you're quiet.

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The magic that happens when you're silent,

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the magic that happens when you just say,

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okay, So another side

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of this. With the silence is just

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agreeing. Okay. If someone

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says, I believe that you don't

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do this because of this. And because of that, because of this.

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Okay. You can just agree. Okay.

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If they have said this is how they view it, and this

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is what they think. What is you telling

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them what you think wrong? Well, that's not it.

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What is that actually going to do? And

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then it becomes this battle and then ego

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start going up and then defenses start going

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up. And people aren't really in a posture

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and a place to receive, to grow,

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to heal, to expand. But

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they're trying to each get their point across.

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Versus just sitting and saying, oh, okay.

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And let people sit with whatever they believe.

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And maybe after a few days, they may come back

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and say, this is actually happened to me. You know, what.

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I want to apologize for the way I responded with

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this. Maybe I should do X, Y, and Z.

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Or after I thought about it more, I think

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you do have a point. And allowing them

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to get to that revelation again. When

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you allow people to space. Because

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you are staying silent. It

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allows them to transform

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within I want you to think about

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yourself? Has there been a time where

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someone allowed space for you?

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Where you were communicating with someone and they were silent

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and they listened and they just held the

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space. They didn't judge it.

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They didn't. Tell you what you should

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be doing, where you were wrong, they just

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let you be. And they were more silent

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than not. How did that feel

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for you? And if that's never happened

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to you, you be that example for

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someone. Allow other people to

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see what it feels like to just

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have space. To be able to communicate

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without judgment and just have

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the other person stay in their power.

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And their knowledge, but stay silent for

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you. To get that revelation or for you

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to dig deeper within, or to ask

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those deeper questions for yourself. This

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is where true healing is. This is

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where growth is. This is what I desire for everyone.

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And as I've continued to grow and heal myself,

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I say, you know, I don't want to get in

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anyone's way. My children's way, my spouse's

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way, my friend's way, my family's way, anybody.

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I don't want to get into anyone's way of

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the lessons and the growth. That

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they need. And I don't know what that

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looks like. So I will stay

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in silence. I will stay with my wisdom.

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I will stay with my power. If my intuition

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tells me to speak and to elaborate

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or to share or to give guidance, then

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that's what I will do. Otherwise, I'm

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going to stay in my silence. I'm going to

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agree if they come out and they tell me,

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this is how they view it. That is their point.

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And that is their lens. I can't take their glasses

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off, clean off their lenses, put a blue

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hue on, put a rose Hugh on put

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a clear view on that is their lens

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that they will hopefully one day will evolve

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and be able to see very

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clearly. and I

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don't know when that is, and I don't know when that will be,

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and that's not for me to know. Everybody

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reaches their level of healing and growth and transformation

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when it's their time. We all develop

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at different stages and really

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getting to that space to allow

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people to be. And to

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evolve and grow at their pace

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is a beautiful, beautiful thing. And

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we can take a note from nature. You're

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not always in blooming season. There

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are multiple stages of our growth.

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And for you to try to make someone.

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Bloom and their winters

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is not how it works. There's deep

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transformation that needs to take place.

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And you forcing it to come forth

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faster or quicker. That's not

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how it works. And this is something I've really

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had to learn. And I tell you what my

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children can attest to this. I was

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very much like, that's not how it's done. Do it like

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this. You need to do this. You can go there.

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Now, of course, there were times where I was like, well, what do

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you think? And what do you think you should do? But more

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often than not. I could see

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what I thought they should be doing and how they

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should be doing it. And I would offer that and tell

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them that. Yes. It's a little bit different

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with your children, but still they are

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still their own beings as well. They still have

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their own autonomy. They still have their own brains.

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They also have their own journeys.

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And as parents, if we can allow that space

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for them to learn that journey and

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to feel confident, to trust their intuition,

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instead of trying to guide and be in control

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of every little thing. It's going to make them

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more. Well-rounded more intuitive.

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They're going to learn how to feel safe in their own bodies.

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you're going to show them how to trust

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themselves and that's truly where we should

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all be. We should all. Learn to trust.

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To feel safe within ourself

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to trust our intuition. And with

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all of that, for those of you who

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may be struggling with, I'm not sure

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how to feel safe in my body. I

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don't know what it feels like to listen to my intuition.

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I'm not even sure if it's my intuition. I

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have created the most incredible

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interactive journal. It has QR

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codes throughout that take you to guided

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courses that I've taught different video

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lessons, somatic techniques,

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there's podcast episodes. It's

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just a beautiful integrative

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journal that is now available

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on Amazon, wherever you may live,

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for those of you who follow me over on IgE

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at. Byron B F The link is also in

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my bio. And I'm telling you what

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she is a one of a kind masterpiece

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and I am so proud of her. But ultimately

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I'm so proud of you. I'm

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so proud of the woman who is learning

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to listen. And to trust

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and to feel safe with her intuition.

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And it's a continual process. It's a muscle,

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it's a lifestyle that we continually grow

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and do. And this journal is going to help

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you integrate these practices, mind,

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body, and spirit. I hope that today

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you understand the power and the pause,

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the power and the okay. And the

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power of letting people grow at

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their own pace and evolve at their own

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levels. And understand that we are all

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truly doing the best we can from our

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level of consciousness. And being kind

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to one another. For people to evolve

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and grow and heal. I

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would love to hear from you drop a comment below.

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friends bye-bye.