Today we’re unpacking all things sexual wellness alongside Sex & Relationship expert, Dr. Tara! Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton, an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration. 

We asked you on Instagram what sex and mental health questions you wanted answers to and Dr. Tara delivered. We unpack confidence and communication in the bedroom, how to find a sex therapist, tips for healing from sex trauma—this episode is a crash course on sexual wellness. 

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0:00 Intro6:18 Dr. Tara's unpacking12:59 How Dr. Tara's relationship has played a positive role in her sexual journey30:03 "Monogomish" relationship32:34 The most asked question... answered!35:56 Q1: How to balance sex being intimate and connective but also hot and fun?37:50 How to spice it up in the bedroom47:53 Q2: When somebody wants more instruction or direction, how do you actually convey this?50:51 Q3: How to move past bad experiences and how to heal from sex trauma?52:46 How to find a good sex therapist58:37 Q4: Tips for naturally increasing libido?1:04:42 Pumpkin Hours1:08:36 Q5: How to overcome sexual shame from the way you were raised, your culture, etc?1:17:50 Q6: How do I figure out my kinks when I'm not currently partnered or sexually active?

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