The other thing we get from our families of origin is our relational patterns. Our primary caregivers gave us our templates for relationships and attachments early on in our lives. Though they may have loved us deeply, they were equally broken and so they hurt us alongside that. That gave us a warped view of love and formed our relationship patterns. Discipleship calls us to investigate our relationship patterns and find out where they are not in sync with the way of Jesus and seek healing and growth.

And he passed in front of Moses, proclaiming, “Yahweh, Yahweh, the compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness, maintaining love to thousands, and forgiving wickedness, rebellion, and sin. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children and their children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation.”