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Ten, eight, five, six, seven,
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differently here on True Crime Conversations. I'm
1:39
Gemma Bath, your host, and
1:41
I want to talk to you about men's violence against women.
1:45
Because right now it's so
1:47
alarming and so terrifying, the rate at
1:49
which we are losing women, that
1:52
it's pertinent that we do everything we
1:54
can to progress this conversation towards actual
1:56
change in our country. This
1:59
week is the end. the start of domestic
2:01
and family violence prevention months. It's
2:03
only May, and by the end of April, 32 women
2:07
had been murdered in Australia in 2024 alone.
2:12
Of course, all of these deaths weren't domestic.
2:15
Five women died recently at the Bondi Westfield
2:17
stabbing attack in Sydney. We
2:19
know the attacker didn't know them personally, but
2:21
we know he targeted women when he started
2:24
stabbing people on a Saturday afternoon. But
2:27
most female deaths at the hands of men
2:30
are domestic. On
2:32
April 22, 28-year-old child care
2:35
professional and mum-of-one Molly Teishurst
2:37
was killed in her Forbes home in New South
2:40
Wales. Her former partner,
2:42
who had recently been bailed for an assault on
2:44
Molly, has been charged with
2:46
her murder. On
2:48
April 14, 67-year-old
2:51
palliative care volunteer and mum-of-four Leslie
2:53
Stillman was murdered by her former
2:55
partner in her Karama home in
2:57
Western Australia. He killed
2:59
himself too, but not before
3:01
leaving a note which read, won't get
3:04
justice, we'll die with her. On
3:07
April 5, the body
3:09
of 23-year-old Hannah McGuire was found
3:11
in a burnt-out car in Scarsdale,
3:13
Victoria. Her former partner
3:15
has been charged with murder. A
3:18
domestic violence disorder had recently been placed
3:20
against him. Set
3:23
up with the horrific stories of women's lives
3:25
being cut short, 100,000 people,
3:29
men, women and children, marched
3:31
the streets in 17 towns
3:33
and cities across the country last weekend. Stay
3:36
the one, stay again, take care
3:38
of the people of Ireland. It
3:41
is exhausting, we are exhausted. The
3:44
20th serving system of women in this
3:46
country has experienced violence or abuse at
3:48
the hands of a partner. The numbers
3:50
and the reality are so much
3:52
higher. They demanded more to be
3:55
done to stop the violence. Our
3:57
government has a 10-year plan, but what about today?
4:00
Tomorrow, next week, how
4:03
many women do we have to lose before
4:05
that plan comes to fruition? This
4:09
month on True Crime Conversations, we're
4:11
revisiting stories from our archives to
4:14
highlight crimes involving male violence against
4:16
women in our country. Stories
4:19
that should have been the case that stopped the
4:21
country and forced change. Stories
4:23
that are shocking to relive but important
4:25
to understand. But
4:27
before we get to that, we wanted
4:29
to talk to someone who lives and
4:31
breathes violence against women every single day.
4:35
Shirel Moody is a journalist, an
4:37
Our Watch fellow and the founder
4:40
of the Red Heart Campaign and the Australian
4:42
Femicide Watch. She
4:44
has created a moving and chilling
4:46
memorial online that tracks every
4:48
known Australian woman and child killed as a
4:51
result of murder, manslaughter or
4:53
neglect from white settlement to
4:55
now. Visually,
4:57
that looks like dozens upon dozens
4:59
of hearts on a page. Big
5:02
hearts for women, little hearts
5:04
for kids. Every
5:06
image tells you a different heartbreaking story
5:08
with the hover of your mouth. Shirel
5:12
joins us now to talk about her work, the
5:14
state of the world and what we can actually
5:16
do to see change. I
5:26
want to start with your own story
5:28
because you are no stranger to violence
5:30
in your own life and family. Can
5:33
you tell us about that as much as you feel comfortable
5:35
sharing? Absolutely. When
5:38
I was about 14 or 15 years old, my
5:40
mum married a guy up in
5:42
Queensland and we knew very little
5:45
about him. After
5:47
they married, he told us that he'd been in
5:49
jail for manslaughter and that he had king hit
5:51
a man and the man died. About
5:54
three or four years later, out at
5:56
Roamer, a little girl went missing. She was nine years
5:58
old and her name was Stacy. The
6:02
man that my mother married, my
6:04
stepfather, was the person who abducted,
6:06
raped and murdered her very
6:08
early in the police investigations when they first
6:10
spoke to me. I think
6:13
it was about 24 hours, maybe 48
6:15
hours after Stacy-Ann had disappeared and they
6:17
told me my stepfather's background and that in
6:19
fact he hadn't killed a man.
6:21
He had raped, abducted
6:23
and murdered another little girl
6:26
for 20 or so years
6:28
previously. He spent time
6:30
in jail obviously for the murder of
6:32
Sandra Bacon who he killed in Townsville.
6:35
He was released with support
6:37
of a Christian community who
6:39
lobbied for his parole. He
6:41
met my mother, he married and consequently they
6:43
moved to Roma and he
6:45
came across Stacy-Ann the day before he
6:48
killed her. She was visiting a friend
6:51
at the units that my mother and stepfather
6:53
lived in and the next day he saw
6:55
her, he followed her as she dropped her
6:57
little sister to school and then picked her
6:59
up and took her before she
7:01
was able to safely arrive at her own school
7:03
and within a couple of hours she was dead.
7:06
How old were you when you found this out? Gosh,
7:09
I was 19. Yeah,
7:12
so I pretty much knew when
7:14
the police came and knocked on the door and
7:16
said they had a warrant. There was obviously a
7:19
sinking feeling. We knew a child had
7:21
gone missing and in fact he had talked about the
7:23
child being missing and he was an
7:25
SES volunteer, so a state emergency volunteer.
7:28
He actually attended one of the
7:30
searches for her as he
7:32
had done with Sandra when he killed her.
7:35
So when the police knocked on the door
7:37
with that warrant there was
7:39
definitely a knowledge that something was amiss and
7:41
that someone in our household had done something
7:43
to her and that
7:45
likely became evident as the police
7:48
were searching the house and speaking to
7:50
us and speaking to him privately. What
7:54
kind of effect did something like
7:56
that have on your formative years?
7:58
You're only 19 when you find that out. that out
8:00
on your young adulthood? Oh
8:03
my gosh. I spend a lot of time
8:05
being angry about this. You
8:07
can't have something like that happen and
8:09
not feel a real
8:11
level of guilt, a real level of anger,
8:14
a real level of sadness. And
8:16
it was something that sat with
8:18
me for a very long time and then
8:21
about eight or nine years ago, I started
8:23
the Red Heart campaign off the back of
8:25
doing a fairly big domestic violence
8:27
campaign as part of my employment
8:30
in the media industry back in the day
8:32
and the Red Heart campaign came from that
8:34
and I just really felt like that was
8:36
a space to put my anger into and
8:39
you can't turn something like this into a positive.
8:41
You just can't do that but to turn
8:44
it into something useful and something
8:46
that makes change for other people's
8:48
lives and perhaps makes up in
8:51
some small way for
8:53
Stacey's family and for Sandra's family.
8:57
Going back to the start of the creation
8:59
of Red Hearts, how
9:01
did you come up with this idea? Because
9:03
obviously in this space you
9:06
would have been trying to think of something to
9:08
actually make people stop
9:10
and listen. How did
9:12
you end up on this idea? So
9:14
initially it started as the idea was that
9:16
people would share a heart if they
9:19
were impacted by violence, in particular
9:21
domestic violence. And after a
9:23
while I became extremely aware from
9:25
conversations I was having with women that
9:27
women were being impacted by violence outside
9:30
of the domestic and intimate partner
9:33
sphere. So people were suffering
9:35
sexual violence or physical violence
9:37
at the hands of people
9:39
who weren't not always their
9:41
family. So maybe neighbours,
9:43
friends, colleagues
9:46
and sometimes strangers. Then
9:48
I kind of thought
9:50
there's no real documentation of lives
9:52
lost in Australia. There's
9:55
no memorial for lives lost.
9:57
There's no online database where
9:59
you can and look up people
10:01
who have been murdered. And so I'd
10:03
started with obviously Stacy and Sandra as
10:05
the first two people that
10:07
I added to, I guess the femicide
10:09
watch, as it is now known. And
10:12
since then I've just been adding women
10:14
and children as they are killed and
10:17
also women and children who were killed
10:19
in previous years. So going back to
10:21
white settlement in Australia. Hiral,
10:24
that is a huge task because- Yes,
10:26
that's it. It's not like a
10:28
few women die. We're talking hundreds,
10:31
we're talking thousands. How much time
10:33
have you spent on this? A
10:35
lot. Some weeks I might spend 10 hours.
10:38
The thing is that you can't just add them.
10:40
In terms of adding current deaths, obviously
10:43
cases are still going through the court process and
10:45
there are cases going through the coronal
10:47
process. And so those need to
10:49
be completely updated as they happen.
10:51
I need to do updates at
10:53
least once a year. Send back
10:55
track and check every case that's there
10:57
and make sure that it's up to date
10:59
in terms of the court's or coronal. So
11:01
it's not just adding new deaths
11:04
and it's not just adding historical deaths,
11:06
it's the constant updating as well. How
11:08
much of your personal and professional time do you
11:10
spend doing this? Are you getting messages through at
11:13
3 a.m. in the morning? Are
11:15
you doing it in the middle of a
11:17
dinner with your partner? Basically
11:19
this is how my day operates. I
11:22
get up, the first thing I do
11:24
is I check my messages and then
11:26
I check police media releases and then
11:28
I check a news site. So that's
11:31
a good half hour coffee doing that.
11:33
I go for a run, I'll come back,
11:35
I'll have breakfast and I'll just really go
11:38
through more news websites and follow up any
11:40
tips that I've had. I work
11:42
with Canva to do the She Matters post so
11:44
they just take a couple of minutes. If a
11:46
woman's been killed and I've got information, I might
11:49
spend an hour writing a post and sending that
11:51
out. I try to spend
11:53
about two or three hours a
11:55
week at a minimum updating the
11:57
memorial with the current death. and
12:00
following up any court conclusions that
12:02
might have come through. But,
12:05
yeah, look, an average week,
12:07
it depends. At the moment, I'm off work and
12:09
so half of my time is dedicated to that.
12:12
It's a minimum of two hours a day,
12:14
which doesn't sound like much, but I'm constantly
12:17
checking. So I'm not just checking in the
12:19
morning, I'll check in the middle of the day and later in
12:21
the afternoon and then sometimes I'll be, like, about
12:23
to go to bed and there's the media release
12:25
or there's the headline and it's, you know, I
12:27
have to stay up and do the posts and
12:29
stay alert and be monitoring and stuff like that.
12:32
So, yeah, it's a massive
12:34
gig and sometimes it really feels
12:36
overwhelming, especially when we
12:38
have so many deaths in such a short
12:41
period of time. I feel
12:43
like sometimes you're the first
12:45
person posting. It seems like you know
12:48
about these deaths before a lot of people in Australia do. How
12:50
are you finding out? Is it family reaching out to
12:53
you? Who's telling you? I consider myself
12:55
to be really lucky. I have excellent
12:57
contacts in place across
13:00
the country and that's just something that
13:02
I've built up as a journalist over
13:04
many years and also because a lot
13:07
of police seem to have an admiration for
13:09
the work that we're doing and understand the need
13:11
for it in this space and
13:13
families. The families are really vital
13:15
to this research and very important.
13:18
And often I also get information from
13:20
community members and friends of victims and
13:23
stuff like that. We do
13:25
have some situations where deaths are
13:27
not reported publicly by police. For
13:29
instance, that's quite common in
13:31
Western Australia. There's one case at the
13:33
moment that I'm trying to get information on where
13:36
an Indigenous woman was killed in the past
13:38
two weeks in a house fire, much
13:41
like Erica Hay, but definitely
13:43
not her, in a remote region
13:45
and the police are just not giving
13:47
me the information I need to be able to add
13:49
her and track her. That her
13:51
family have given me the background and so I'm
13:54
sort of stuck in this loop where I know
13:56
it's happened but it's hard to
13:58
kind of add and to put it in. I
14:00
have that sort of official. And
14:03
over the process of doing what you do,
14:05
do you build relationships with families and stay
14:07
in touch with them? Oh my
14:09
God, yeah. You know, that first conversation with
14:12
them is really hard, but I
14:14
have so many friends
14:17
as a result of this work,
14:19
so particularly parents and siblings
14:21
of women who've been murdered. And it
14:23
just... sometimes I can't remember all of
14:25
their names, but they're the kind of
14:27
people that you check in every now
14:29
and then or they check in on
14:31
you. And the friendship
14:34
circle is very big because of this job.
14:37
Do you feel like you're in a unique position because
14:40
you have had violence touch your
14:42
own family, that you are able to
14:44
connect with these people? Yeah,
14:47
coming from that different angle
14:49
of being the relative of
14:51
a killer. It's
14:53
kind of a weird angle to come in
14:55
from, but I know Stacy and
14:57
family, I know really well and I have a
15:00
really strong friendship with them. And
15:02
I've learnt a lot from them
15:04
about how
15:07
murder impacts a person's life and
15:10
I'm able to take those learnings
15:12
and use them to
15:14
inform how I interact with other
15:16
families. Yeah, if it hadn't
15:18
have been for this situation, I would never
15:21
have been able to do this ethically. Or
15:24
morally in a way that fits well. What
15:28
has the response been like to this
15:30
project? Mainly
15:32
it's positive. I would say 95% of
15:35
the response is positive. But of course
15:37
there is that 5% of people who
15:39
feel like by focusing on women and
15:41
children, unnecessarily maligning
15:44
men or deliberately
15:47
choosing not to add
15:49
them because I don't care. And
15:51
both of those things are as far from the truth as
15:53
you can get. You and
15:56
I know why that is not true, but for those
15:58
listening, we do have a lot of male listeners. Can
16:00
you tell us more? Yeah, look,
16:04
on an average year you would expect to
16:06
add 52 women and one
16:08
child per month, so on average, so
16:10
12 children. So
16:13
that's a lot of deaths. We know that
16:15
around four times the number of men
16:17
are killed. I'm one person.
16:19
I just don't have the resources for it.
16:21
I don't have the mental fortitude to
16:24
take on that level of relentless
16:27
violence. I just can't do it.
16:30
And it's also, correct me
16:32
if I'm wrong, but violence against
16:34
women is such an
16:37
important thing to highlight because most of
16:39
the people that are being killed, men
16:41
or women, are being killed by men.
16:44
Absolutely. I've always said this.
16:47
If we can end or reduce
16:49
violence against women, we automatically reduce
16:52
violence against men because the
16:54
main perpetrators in the country are
16:56
male and the main
16:59
drivers and factors also underpin
17:01
those deaths in many ways, especially
17:03
the domestic violence deaths, that sense
17:05
of ownership, that sense of control,
17:08
that sense of toxicity, you know, they're
17:10
all still there in male deaths. If
17:12
we can eliminate violence against women, we
17:15
will save many, many male lives and
17:17
a lot of people don't realise that.
17:24
You're listening to True Crime Conversations
17:26
with me, Gemma Bath. I'm
17:29
speaking with journalist Shirel Moody about
17:31
Australia's epidemic of violence against women.
17:41
You have to do a new heart every
17:44
few days, really, especially at the moment.
17:47
We're 30 days into April
17:49
and I've done 12 new
17:52
hearts plus two children. So actually I've
17:54
done 14 hearts, so 12
17:56
women and two children. Obviously...
18:00
these statistics are
18:02
much higher this year due to
18:05
Bondi Junction. But
18:07
if we take those deaths out, we
18:09
are still tracking higher than
18:12
previous years at
18:14
this point. How do
18:16
you mentally deal with this? Because that's a lot.
18:18
It's a lot to take on. You
18:21
just do it. Look, any kind of
18:24
emotional or mental fatigue I feel is
18:26
nothing compared to the
18:28
impact on their families and their loved ones
18:30
and their communities. It is absolutely nothing. And
18:33
the reality is someone has to do it
18:35
and someone has to do it properly. Like
18:38
we can't have a project like this eliminating
18:41
women because they don't meet
18:43
a certain criteria. For instance,
18:45
I document Australian women killed
18:47
overseas and I refuse to
18:50
not add them because who
18:53
am I to say to their family that because
18:55
your person was killed overseas they're
18:57
not relevant to us. Of course
18:59
they're relevant. So we need
19:01
to be really aware of that and also
19:03
in the case of murder suicide, if there's
19:05
strong confirmation from the family that a woman
19:08
has been killed by her partner, then I'm
19:10
adding her. I'm not saying to
19:12
them, look, you're lying to me.
19:14
That's not a conversation I'm going to have with them. The
19:17
reality is that a murder
19:19
suicide is still the erasure of a woman.
19:23
What are the similarities in the stories
19:25
that you see? One that comes to
19:27
mind for me, is this a
19:29
similarity that a lot of women are killed
19:31
when they actually leave a relationship? Oh
19:34
yeah, totally. So many times I've written
19:37
for the memorial, she had only recently
19:39
left her partner or she was talking
19:41
to him, she was going to see
19:43
him to talk about future arrangements after
19:45
having left or she had indicated to
19:47
someone that she was on the verge
19:49
of leaving. Do you know what I
19:51
mean? It is a really common theme. Obviously
19:53
in the intimate partner of violence deaths that
19:56
are either on the verge of leaving or
19:58
having left. Are
20:00
there any other similarities like that that you've
20:03
noticed trends over time? There's
20:05
almost always an act
20:07
of violence or coercive control
20:09
beforehand for sure. There
20:12
are always people who say we knew this was
20:14
going to happen. And one of
20:16
the common themes is families saying, look, we have no
20:18
idea that this was ever going to happen. The
20:21
other significant person in this never showed
20:23
any acts of violence. If
20:25
you sort of pull away
20:28
the layers, you can see the
20:30
acts of coercion. So it might
20:32
be financial control, emotional control, just
20:34
the basics. What
20:37
about AVOs or DVOs? Yeah,
20:40
so DVOs and AVOs can
20:42
often be present in the
20:44
intimate partner violence deaths, particularly
20:47
in some cases there have been AVOs and
20:49
DVOs where a child has killed
20:51
their mother or grandmother. Not
20:54
as common, but definitely there.
20:58
As well as being the host of this podcast, I
21:00
am a writer and an editor here at Mamma Mia.
21:03
And so I talk about violence against women in my
21:05
day to day a lot. And
21:08
I find December the hardest month when it
21:10
comes to this topic, because it's the time
21:12
when you reflect back, you see how many
21:14
deaths there have been this year, you compare
21:16
it to the years past.
21:19
And I think it's the
21:21
sheer number of stories by that point. And the
21:23
fact that you know that the count is about
21:25
to reset. What's your
21:27
relationship with knowing that the year
21:29
is about to start again and that we're going to
21:31
be doing the same thing again? Yeah,
21:33
look, I mean, obviously I've got a count.
21:36
I've got an offline database with all of
21:38
the information there. So it's something that I
21:40
see every day. But one of
21:42
the things I do find about hitting December
21:44
is the emotional exhaustion is pretty heavy. And
21:47
it always feels like there's not much of a
21:50
reprieve between the end of December and the
21:52
start of January. It's just it is pretty fast.
21:55
And I think the other thing is like
21:57
when we reset the count, I
21:59
feel like in. many ways we're kind of saying
22:04
that the discussion about the women killed
22:06
last year is over. It's
22:08
kind of a hard one. Like you want to reset the count.
22:10
You want to keep that discussion going but also
22:12
have this discussion over here and yeah,
22:16
it's kind of hard for
22:19
that to sit comfortably with me because
22:21
I don't want people to think that
22:23
their person has been forgotten simply because
22:25
of the year that they were killed
22:27
in. But I guess that also
22:29
highlights just how many women we're losing, how
22:31
many women and children we're losing that we
22:34
are having to keep going through the stories
22:36
because we can't keep up. There's so many.
22:39
I hadn't looked at last year's figures for
22:41
a while and obviously, as I said, I'm
22:43
updating deaths as I find them but I
22:45
hadn't actually gone back and did an account for
22:47
last year. I had a media
22:49
request this morning about Indigenous women and I
22:51
checked last year's numbers and I
22:54
was totally not expecting this but
22:56
my research shows that we lost 75 women
22:59
last year. That's much higher. That's
23:03
insane. That's not their children. Right.
23:06
Because there is a portion of deaths based
23:08
10% that we won't
23:10
know about for weeks and months and
23:12
we may not know about until today due
23:14
to charges or whatever that yeah, like
23:17
I was like, oh fuck, that was
23:19
a huge year. That was more than
23:21
I expected. Why? Why
23:23
last year? Why the year
23:25
before or the year before? Why this year?
23:28
There's no rhyme or reason, is there? No.
23:30
No, but I did notice that there
23:32
has been research released showing that intimate
23:35
partner violence deaths increased 30% last year.
23:37
It makes sense that the database for
23:39
last year is significantly higher. Are
23:42
there any stories about
23:45
women and children that have stayed with
23:47
you in particular that you
23:49
find floating back into your mind? This
23:53
is a really tough question to answer
23:55
because, you know, there are ones that
23:57
stand out. But then if I
23:59
think hard. there are other ones that
24:01
stand out. So yeah.
24:05
I guess you've got a head full of so many stories. Yeah,
24:07
there are so many. There are so
24:10
many. The ones that are particularly cruel
24:12
and where the level of violence is
24:15
just beyond comprehension. And
24:18
also the ones where children witness
24:20
their mum being killed. To tell
24:22
you the truth, one that comes to mind when I
24:24
think about this is a woman
24:26
was killed here in Melbourne. The
24:29
husband ripped her eyes out in
24:31
front of her children and flushed them down
24:33
the toilet. Oh my God. I
24:35
don't even remember hearing about that. The
24:38
victim is not identified to protect the
24:41
identity of the children and their futures.
24:43
And the man,
24:45
he would just... The level of cruelty
24:47
and that killing was beyond
24:50
like... It's the kind of stuff
24:52
that you don't expect to
24:54
see in the worst horror movies. But
24:57
the things he did to her in front
24:59
of those children, yeah. I
25:02
just can't even imagine how these kids
25:04
are growing up and being mentally okay.
25:06
I just can't imagine that. What
25:08
a horrendous thing for a human to do to another human.
25:11
I know, right? And do you know
25:13
what? The amazing thing is that that
25:15
story barely made a ripple.
25:19
Why? I think
25:21
when she was first murdered, no one knew
25:23
about it and then it went through trial.
25:25
And that's when the cruelty that
25:27
he subjected her came out. I
25:30
don't recall it making very big headlines. It may
25:32
have just been missed by the media. But
25:35
one of the other things was she was
25:37
a woman from a non-English speaking background. And
25:40
I do find a very recurrent
25:42
theme in, I guess,
25:45
media responses to dead women.
25:48
The more diverse their background, the
25:51
less headlines they get. So,
25:55
yeah, the less media coverage. And it's
25:57
really hard to say that as a journalist because
25:59
it's... saying that my industry
26:01
is letting women down. But for
26:03
sure, if you're white and
26:05
pretty, you'll get a lot of media attention. If
26:08
you're ethnic, say Filipino
26:10
or Muslim and you don't speak English
26:12
and your name is hard to pronounce
26:15
and you have brown skin, then it
26:18
doesn't happen much at all for them. I
26:21
do think it is worth interrogating our own industry here
26:23
because how else is it gonna change unless we talk
26:25
about it? Have you seen
26:28
any improvement in that space or in how we
26:30
report against violence against
26:32
women and children? Yeah,
26:34
look, I've been a journey for about 27, 28 years and
26:38
one of the first jobs that I ever
26:40
did, I was a cadet at the Toowoomba
26:42
Chronicle in Queensland. And
26:45
I was required to cover Magistrates Court
26:47
on this particular day and I
26:50
went along and a
26:52
man was being sentenced for a
26:54
very brutal bashing of his partner.
26:57
And he walked from jail. He didn't go
26:59
to jail, he didn't get a sentence. I
27:01
think it was a no conviction and a bond
27:03
of good order. I went back and
27:06
said to my chief of staff, mate, this guy
27:08
nearly killed this woman and he didn't go to
27:10
jail. Can this be a story? And
27:12
the chief of staff tried to talk me out of it.
27:15
It's a domestic, no one's interested. And I'm
27:17
like, but mate, he's done this to
27:19
this woman and there was no sentence. Like
27:21
he's literally walked out, we've gotta do
27:23
something. That's what the attitude was
27:26
like when I started. I remember
27:28
another time I was sent to cover a horse
27:30
race, horse racing in a small town called
27:33
Dolby, which is out past Brisbane. I
27:36
did the stuff that I had to do and then I got
27:38
talking to the female jockeys and they were telling me
27:40
about the sexual harassment they endured in
27:42
this industry. I was pretty shared. I
27:45
went back to the same chief of staff and said
27:47
to him, you know, we've got
27:49
an issue here. These women are being raped,
27:52
they're being assaulted, they're just doing
27:54
their jobs. Didn't want a bar
27:56
of it. So that's how it was
27:58
when I entered the industry. Now, at least
28:01
we are seeing media cover
28:04
our deaths and we're at least seeing
28:07
a few paragraphs when
28:09
a woman is killed. So they're doing the
28:11
basics. So we have come a long
28:13
way and yet only a
28:15
short way if you understand what I mean.
28:17
Yeah, definitely. Yeah. And also
28:20
I think the rise of women's media like
28:22
Mamma Mia, women's agenda outlets
28:24
where there is a real focus on women,
28:26
it's more than just the beauty and health
28:28
and that sort of stuff. I
28:31
feel like that's actually contributing to this
28:33
and making it a lot better and
28:36
setting a standard. I
28:50
want to talk to you about promises. The
28:53
government loves promises. They have a
28:55
10 year plan that they're rolling out to try
28:58
and fix this issue. And we
29:00
do see little wins. We see things
29:02
like the DV payments recently that have
29:04
been announced or the fact that coercive
29:06
control has been criminalised in Queensland. But
29:09
what's your assessment on the government's
29:11
efforts currently towards this issue? My
29:15
assessment is that violence
29:18
against women is an exceedingly
29:21
complex yet simple problem. We
29:24
know what the main drivers are
29:26
for violence against women. We
29:29
also know that there
29:31
are many,
29:34
many things that are needed that
29:36
need funding, refuges, housing,
29:38
economic assistance, so many
29:40
things. We have some
29:43
safety nets but those safety nets have holes
29:45
in them. So for instance,
29:47
if you have an ethnic woman
29:49
needing support, so say she's from
29:51
a small ethnic community in Melbourne,
29:53
say, I don't know, the Filipino
29:55
community, right? Yep.
29:58
Hold 1-800-RESPATCH. She can't
30:00
speak English. They get her a
30:02
translator. The translator is from that
30:04
community and knows her family. So
30:07
do you know what I mean? So there's this
30:10
communication. The translator can pass
30:12
that information on to her family against
30:14
her wishes. She may not want to
30:16
speak simply because she doesn't want other people
30:18
to know or she fears the translator will
30:20
tell her husband. So
30:22
do you see what I mean? Like that is one small
30:24
hole in a safety net. This woman is not
30:27
going to reach out for help if
30:29
she fears that someone from her community is going
30:31
to know and put her at risk. I
30:34
feel like that's why it feels so overwhelming
30:36
as to say like, well, how do we change
30:38
it? Because throwing money at it just isn't going
30:40
to help. It's about fixing the holes, as you
30:42
say. And how on earth do we do that?
30:45
I mean, you have a woman in a
30:47
wheelchair and minimal
30:50
refuge spaces for women with
30:52
disability. If
30:54
she can't navigate a refuge where
30:56
there is a bed available, she's
30:58
not going to get safety. She
31:01
can't get safety if there's no lift to get
31:03
her in and out. You know what I mean?
31:06
There are so many holes and we see
31:08
them all the time, every day, every
31:11
day. And this is just a domestic
31:13
and family violence part of
31:15
this. We are not talking about
31:17
associate violence and stranger violence. And
31:20
to be fair, stranger violence is exceedingly rare
31:22
in terms of deaths of women in Australia,
31:24
but we have seen a big spike this
31:26
year and we do lose a couple of
31:28
women to stranger violence. After
31:31
intimate partner violence and domestic
31:33
violence, the next context of
31:35
deaths of women is associate
31:37
violence. So women who are
31:39
being killed by their colleagues, their neighbours, their
31:41
friends, the friend of a friend of a
31:44
friend, someone they know but
31:46
they're not in a relationship with and they're
31:48
not familial. First, how do we
31:50
count these women? Are these women being counted? In
31:53
most cases, not being counted. What
31:56
supports do we have for them? So take
31:58
the case of Celeste Mow. who was killed
32:01
by her colleague. She
32:04
spoke to him once as she was helping
32:06
him out the door after he lost his
32:08
job. He became obsessed. He stalked her. He
32:11
broke into her house. He killed her in
32:13
her own bed. Police did
32:15
what they could, but there were no other supports
32:17
here for Celeste and her
32:19
family. The government doesn't allow tracking
32:21
of offenders, of fixated offenders. So
32:24
this is another hole. If you
32:26
don't have supports for women being
32:28
killed outside of this context, outside
32:30
of this narrow domestic and family violence context,
32:32
we're still going to see many women killed.
32:35
We need to be able to address that. We need to
32:37
count it. We need to support it and we need to
32:39
examine it. I feel like before
32:42
we even get to the holes, there
32:45
is another elephant in the room which I know
32:47
that you have a lot to say on which
32:49
is this undercurrent in society
32:51
on how men think about women.
32:53
Oh yes, totally. How
32:55
on earth do we change the way society thinks though?
32:57
Oh my God, it is such a big problem. And
33:00
as I keep saying, the only people who can make
33:02
this change are men because gendered
33:04
violence is a man's problem. It's not a
33:06
woman's problem to fix. We
33:08
women work to pick up the thesis.
33:10
We work to fix it because we're
33:12
the only ones that have the drive to
33:15
it. It's always been something that
33:17
women work to solve, that we
33:19
work to aid, that we work
33:21
to house. So we've always done that.
33:24
It feels like it's always been a burden for
33:26
us to fix and we can't make this change
33:28
without men and we really need them to be
33:31
at the forefront of this. We
33:33
can't force them to think differently or behave
33:36
differently. Nothing we as women
33:38
do will influence that.
33:40
We've tried being kind. We've tried,
33:42
you know, using honey instead of
33:44
vinegar. We've tried yelling. We've tried
33:46
rallies. We've tried begging and
33:48
it doesn't work. The only
33:50
people who can fix it are men and it's
33:53
really awesome that we've seen men like Tarang
33:55
Chawla stepping up and really being vocal
33:57
and sort of pushing against all of
33:59
the and really encouraging men.
34:01
But if we don't get more men like
34:03
him standing up, it's not going to
34:05
work. It is literally a man's
34:08
problem and we women don't
34:10
have the solution for it. We can't do
34:12
it. Part of me thinks it's going to be generational.
34:15
I became a mother last year to
34:17
a son and I am taking that
34:19
really seriously. I plan on raising my
34:22
son to become a good
34:25
feminist man. Part
34:28
of me is like, is that how we
34:30
change this? By raising good men to take
34:33
the place of the
34:35
bad ones? Am I being a bit
34:37
hyperbolic there? No, I don't
34:39
think so. I think that that's always
34:41
been a discussion that women have been
34:43
having wanting to raise sons who are
34:45
good people and who are feminist allies
34:47
and who are women allies and who
34:50
just treat women with basic respect, treat
34:52
other people with basic respect. The
34:55
thing is, if we're going to rely on that
34:57
change, we need all women doing it and again,
34:59
it comes down to women making the
35:01
change. That's the thing. Shocking right. I
35:03
know. Dads need to be part of this
35:05
process as well. My God, dads are dads.
35:07
They're a parent. They're not a babysitter. They
35:10
need to be part of this. They need to
35:12
influence and kids look after their dads and they
35:14
mimic their dads. But as
35:16
long as we also have people
35:18
like Andrew Tate being platformed, those
35:21
kind of people, young men who might
35:23
be a bit disenfranchised or just not
35:25
quite comfortable with where they're at or
35:27
looking for a hero or looking for
35:29
someone who speaks to them, as long
35:31
as they're turning to people like this
35:34
and as long as there are people
35:36
like this with big media platforms and
35:38
big voices, it's really a
35:40
struggle because the dynamic that good parents
35:42
are passing on to their kids can
35:45
be erased by that other dynamic
35:48
in the schoolyard, on social media,
35:50
at the pub, if a
35:53
clash of cultures in a way. But
35:56
as I say, I always say, you know, if
35:59
men can... be the change makers,
36:01
we have a lot more hope
36:03
of success. If men can
36:05
drown out the voices of Andrew Tate with
36:07
positivity. That's the way, Ford. Yeah,
36:09
I don't know the answer. How
36:13
do you feel, because this month is
36:16
domestic and family violence prevention month. We've got a
36:18
lot of these kinds of days and months that
36:20
kind of go throughout the year. How do you
36:22
feel about this? Because it's come at
36:24
a very strange time. We're rallying on
36:26
the streets. We're having an unprecedented number of women
36:29
dying. It kind
36:31
of feels like the month comes around and you're like,
36:33
well, we have this every
36:35
year, but is it actually doing anything? It's not
36:37
changing. Yeah. I'd say
36:39
this for the 16 days against gendered
36:41
violence as well later in the year.
36:44
Every day should be a
36:47
day for the end of
36:49
domestic and family violence, for the end of violence
36:51
against women, for the end of gendered violence. This
36:53
is a thing that we need to work on
36:55
every day. We cannot compartmentalize it to four weeks
36:57
or 16 days or one day.
36:59
It needs to be something that is
37:01
forefront on many minds
37:04
every day. Policymakers, government,
37:06
community leaders, men, women, we
37:08
just all need to be
37:11
working on this every day.
37:15
Do you think it's still important to have these moments
37:17
though, for the people that aren't thinking
37:19
about this every day? Because a lot of
37:21
people don't. It's not front of mind, but
37:23
having something like a DV awareness day, having
37:25
that ad on the TV or having
37:28
that interview on the radio, surely it's
37:30
better to have these days and months
37:32
than not have them. We
37:34
need to take what we can get, right? Yeah. We've
37:37
got to take what we can get.
37:39
Also, during family violence months, there are
37:42
a lot of memorials held and that's
37:44
a really important thing for people who've
37:46
lost a loved one and people impacted
37:48
by abuse. That is really important and
37:50
I would never, ever take away from
37:52
that. But if we were able to
37:54
normalise this as an everyday conversation, especially
37:57
in the media, if it wasn't a
37:59
normal part of our conversation. conversation, a
38:01
part of our media process and we
38:03
could extend the change throughout
38:05
the year and hopefully have a bigger
38:07
impact. So yeah, we should always
38:09
be able to have the special days and the special
38:11
months to focus and
38:14
remembering and calls for change.
38:16
But also let's have these conversations outside
38:19
of those days as well. I
38:21
want to just pick on something that you mentioned
38:23
earlier. You said that we all know
38:25
the drivers behind violence
38:28
against women and children. For those that might
38:30
not be aware of them, can you take us through them? What
38:32
are the main drivers? So the
38:34
main drivers are things like the way
38:36
that men speak about women,
38:39
demeaning them, putting them into
38:41
a really tight kind of
38:43
role like as a mother
38:45
or wife. There's the ownership
38:47
of women, there's the ownership
38:49
of children. So not
38:51
letting women and children be their own people
38:53
and have their own lives and make their
38:56
own decisions. We have things like the control
38:59
factors, financial abuse and stuff like
39:01
that. The drivers are really fairly
39:03
basic and then they're compacted by
39:06
the factors. So we know that when
39:08
people use drugs or alcohol, have
39:11
gambling, addictions, mental health problems, that
39:13
they can be factors in violence
39:15
against women and children. So drivers
39:18
need societal change. Factors need government
39:20
change. I guess is the easiest
39:23
way to put it. You
39:25
do need funding to highlight drivers and
39:27
raise awareness about them and push them,
39:29
but it's actually an all of society
39:31
change that's needed. So the way that
39:33
all of society thinks about women, but
39:36
most importantly, the way that men
39:38
view women. Women are equals, children
39:40
are equals, they're not objects. The
39:42
factors, on the other hand, we
39:44
need more money for mental health
39:47
services. We need obviously more money
39:49
for everything. We need better bail
39:51
laws. We need better criminal legislation.
39:53
There's so much. So there's the tangible
39:56
and the intangible. take
40:00
because I feel like I always need a snappy
40:02
answer to this. You might have
40:04
one. Probably not. Not all
40:06
men. What do you say to
40:09
that? It's not all men. I'm sure you've
40:11
had it said to you before. Oh,
40:13
never. My answer
40:15
to that is most definitely not all
40:17
men, but almost always a man. I
40:20
don't think it can be any clearer than that. Do
40:23
you think we will see tangible
40:26
change in our lifetimes when
40:28
it comes to this issue? I
40:31
think we'll see more younger men stepping
40:33
up and being more aware of what's
40:36
going on and being more respectful and
40:38
kind and that sort of stuff. I
40:40
think we'll see a lot more women being
40:42
angry, but do I think that
40:44
this is going to end in my lifetime? It
40:46
won't. I'm 53 and things are
40:48
much the same as they were when I was
40:51
three. So not a
40:53
lot has changed. I
40:55
know that this is not a topic that has
40:58
a lot of hope, but I'm trying to grasp
41:00
at it. Where
41:02
do listeners go from here? What can
41:04
they actually do today to help? They
41:08
can reach out to organisations,
41:10
see if organisations need support,
41:12
volunteers, funding. They
41:14
can get involved. There's a lot
41:17
of organisations running petitions at the moment, so sign
41:19
a petition if it speaks to your heart. Join
41:21
a rally. Start a social
41:24
media campaign. Speak to your mates. Check
41:26
in on the women in your life. Make sure they're
41:28
okay. Work with children
41:30
in terms of respect and kindness
41:33
and stuff like that. I
41:35
don't think that anyone should give
41:37
up hope, but I think that
41:39
we need to be realistic and
41:41
that we need to really work
41:43
towards finding preventions and support services
41:46
and funding to at least
41:48
try to save some lives.
41:52
And Charelle, do you think you will ever stop counting?
41:55
I don't plan on yet.
41:57
No, I consider it. It's a long-term thing.
42:00
I think it'll be going on for a few
42:02
years. Thank you for
42:04
all of the work you've been doing there. We really
42:06
appreciate it. Thanks so much for having
42:08
me. I appreciate that too. Thanks
42:15
to Shirell for joining us on today's episode.
42:17
You can find a link to her Red
42:19
Hearts campaign and the Australian Femicide Watch in
42:21
our show notes. Stay
42:23
with us this month as we
42:25
revisit stories from our archives highlighting
42:27
some of Australia's most shocking cases
42:29
of domestic and family violence. And
42:32
if this episode has brought up anything for you or
42:34
you just feel like you need to speak to someone,
42:36
please call 1-800-RESPECT-1-800-737-732. True
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42:47
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42:50
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42:52
so much for listening. I'll be back next week. Thank
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you.
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