Thokoza, 

You cannot heal someone who is carrying the incorrect surname. And you can correct the surname without knowledge of their history and the decisions taken their mother and father as well as their grandparents. This is because there are processes which need to be fulfilled for you to be able to use your father's surname. And the women who choose to step out despite being married correctly and fully, going as far as having another man's child - that child is in trouble.