In this special holiday bonus episode Byron Katie and Nell discuss how to use four questions, which Byron Katie calls "The Work" to forgive someone you love.    We can absolutely use "reframing" questions to help many of us cope with spending time with relatives who may trigger us to either 1) feel bad about ourselves or 2) feel angry towards them.  Byron Katie and I discuss this effective technique.     Byron Katie, for those of you who don't know her, is an American speaker and international bestselling author.  Time magazine describes her as "a spiritual innovator for the 21st century."  Elizabeth Gilbert loves her and Jess Lively personally recommended her to me.     As any therapist will tell you, our phones ring off the hook starting around November 1st and usually don't stop until sometime after the New Year.  That's because, for many of us, "going home" is a stressful experience.  Given the current political climate in America, when family members can really be at idealogical or political odds with one another, this episode may ring true for many of you listening.     If these techniques don't go deep enough for you, I've also included a bit about a forgiveness theory called The Little Soul and the Sun based on the work of Neale Donald Walsch which I've taught in pervious episodes.