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Back in action here on Waking

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Gods . So

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this follow-up a to the Hello

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experiment number one , the Hello

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Test . What happened

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I'm going to say right now

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? Let me just clear one thing If

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you don't get anything in

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other words , if you get nothing then

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that's your answer and nothing is

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something . So

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if you are looking into nothing

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, what do you see ? Don't

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say nothing . You see a void , you

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see blankness . What

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do you hear ? Don't say nothing

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. You hear quiet . What

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do you feel ? Maybe you feel numb . So

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nothing is something . And

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so let's say that

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you get quiet

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back . I

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personally would say thank you , my

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mind isn't quiet enough . I had thank you . I'm

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going to sit here and enjoy the quiet with you

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for a second . What

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happens next ? So

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you may not get the answer back

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you're expecting . In fact , chances

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are higher . I think you won't get the

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answer back that you're expecting

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because you are talking

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to your mind that

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thinks for itself . You

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don't know what you're going to get . So curiosity is a

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really great , really

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great state of mind to be in while

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we're doing this . But

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let's talk about this as let's assume

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that you got a standard

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hello in return

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. You said hello and then you hear a

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hello in return . What

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kind of big deal is that ? Is that anything

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to write home about ? Are you going to

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go around work going ? Hey , you're

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not going to believe what

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happened . Part of me said hello

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to me . You're not going to do that

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, although

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it's such a miraculous event

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that it warrants some

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celebration . We follow

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our thoughts through life

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. Suppose there's no

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way not to take how our

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mind works for granted , but

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we're going to try to appreciate what's going on

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here . So you say hello , you

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get a hello back . The

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first thing I would do is say thank you for

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responding . So

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let's talk about the rules of engagement on

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the inside , because

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your mind , if

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there's one thing your mind demands

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from you , it's respect

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. If you don't respect

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your mind , then and

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you know it's a little slanted I

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think we have to offer the

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respect First . By the time we come to

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an age of consciousness where we go

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, oh , I have a mind . And

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then we start like , no , I have an unconscious mind

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. We cannot

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always control our

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minds . In fact , really

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, the only option that I think we

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have is to learn to cooperate with

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our minds . We don't

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understand everything it's doing . We don't

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understand all of our own needs

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. We don't understand

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what's going on and what we may be processing

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in other dimensions of our

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thinking . So , like

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we talked about in an earlier episode , the

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first step forward is a humble

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one . Talking

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to our inner world

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is sort of like visiting

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another culture . The rules are a

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little bit different and

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we are a guest there

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. We should consider ourselves a guest there

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. When you go to another culture , if

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you go into that culture not

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really thinking about it , sort of expecting everybody

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to act like they

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act in your culture , you're

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going to find it frustrating . You don't

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understand everything that's going on

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around you , nor the meaning of those

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things , and

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it can be frustrating . And

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so you know , I guess you could double down

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and still insist that this unfamiliar

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culture suddenly be familiar to

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you , but it's not . And

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over time you can learn to expand

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and adapt and accommodate

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and so on and

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so forth to

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a new culture , but it's going

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to take some time

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. And so why don't we complete

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entering

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and communicating with our

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minds ? The

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same way , let's be respectful

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tourists . Let's

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not assume we understand . Let's

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not order our parts

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around . You know , most of us have parts

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which we just want to kill . Just

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get rid of this thing , just get rid of it . Well

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, that's part of you that you can't get rid

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of . Anyways

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, we're going to get into how do you work with difficult

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parts , but

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we're just getting to the point

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of entry . So

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what are the rules ? Well , one , be humble

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. Two always

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act respectfully . So , even

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if you get a part that

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berates , you , act respectfully

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. You don't understand why

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, and then we have the added

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benefit on the inside of it , being our own

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mind , even though we're not familiar with it

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, and we've learned all kinds

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of things in life that suggest we can't trust

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it , and

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we've learned , in a way , systematically

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to ignore it . Okay

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, so we're going to get started again , but , my

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gosh , let's not act like we know

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anything about it . Okay , remember

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your manners . Say please , say

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thank you , say you're welcome , be

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polite , act like

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you're walking into a room

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full of strangers

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who

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, if they recognized

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you and some will

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, some won't they will

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love and respect and

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do everything within their

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power to serve you Incredible

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resources , but often when we meet them

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, they're like who they're . You know what

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are you doing here . You get out I mean oftentimes

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our mind , because we've been rejecting

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it forever . It rejects

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us and then as

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humble , respectful tourists

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who don't really understand

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what's going on . What are we going to do when

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our mind rejects us ? We're going

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to say you know what ? I don't understand

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why you're doing that . I'm sorry if I have

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offended you . Could you tell me what happened

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? Okay

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, so this if there's

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any place anywhere

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to be mature

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and open-minded and

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reasonable , it's when we

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are navigating

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our own inner world . Now

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we often call this navigating

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from your core

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self , the part

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of you that naturally

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is . It's just you , it's calm

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, and when you're

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in your core self , it's sort of like

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a little point of consciousness . In there somewhere

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it's

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the most familiar , safe , wonderful

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place on earth . It

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was the place we were born into and

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it's still intact , even though things

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have been splintered off and we have all these parts

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and so on and so forth . It's still intact

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, no matter what you went through because

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of the defense mechanisms

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, because our

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mind creates parts and

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attitudes and feelings that block

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pain and so on and

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so forth . So our core

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is intact . It's just that , if

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we've been through a lot

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in life , our core self , that

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little point of consciousness

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, that is

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the true you . That

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hasn't changed much since

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you can remember , and

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it's just you when you're feeling

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safe and calm and every

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part of you knows

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this core self . Every

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part of you knows you

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. They may not recognize

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you , but

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as soon as they do , they

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offer you the same

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respect in return . So

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you're not going to show up at a foreign

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country and expect everyone

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to know you and treat you wonderfully

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, no matter what , like you're the king or queen

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showing up . But

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that is how your parts will treat you

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if you give them the opportunity

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and you , specifically , don't

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act like a tyrant in

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your own mind . A tyrant in your own

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mind is just like you're squeezing jelly

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, just going to make

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a mess . Now it's also important

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that you go in there with some sort of a plan

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, because if you get in there and say hello and you

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get a hello back or anything back , then it's

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like , okay , now what do you do ? Well

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, it could be . There's a few options

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, so write these down . Maybe

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One you

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could just say I'm

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here to listen and

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it's like I'm coming in , I don't know who you

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are , I'm new around here

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. What

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do you say to visitors ? Right

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, those kinds of things . You're just going

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to say I'm here to listen and

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then listen without

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interrupting until

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this part is said what it has to

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say , then say thank you . You can close off

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and go about your day . So

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just listening is a

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pretty good way

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to go . But also

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it might be important to

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you and I think it's a very , very

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good idea to

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figure out the relationship

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between you and this part . You

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can sort of be wondering what kind

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of relationship do you want to have with

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this part and , in general

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, all of this material

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is all about ? What kind

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of relationship do you want to have with your

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own mind and with my

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mind ? I want a free ticket

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, all access pass

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to

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go everywhere and do everything and ask

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any question , ask

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for any help , whatever

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I need , and if it's within the bounds

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of respect , it's

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okay . But

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we're just getting started here . So what you

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might want to do is go in with

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the intention of just getting

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to know a part of you . It's

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like there's lots

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of questions that we could ask

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, and these are not mysterious

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questions . Just ask yourself

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if you're me , the stranger on a bus

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bench , and you want to get to know

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them because they seem interesting . What

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are you going to say ? What are you going to

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ask ? What's your name ? With

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parts , I always like to ask

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how old are you ? And sometimes

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you get an inner child part , sometimes you get

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an adult , sometimes you get an ageless

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part . Ageless

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parts are often a clue

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that they're an archetypal part , at

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any rate . Maybe the first

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goal really is

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to establish who we both

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are . And if the

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part says , well , who are you ? You say I

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am , I'm

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just the original self , I'm the core

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self , I'm just me . Now

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, at that point the part might say , no

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, you're not . We don't know what's going to happen

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, and it actually can get complicated

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at this point , and

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so it's often . This is why

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the community aspect is so important . In

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the Waking Gods community we

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are going to have a weekly discussion

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group in which I'll

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do some Q&A with

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people , hopefully some demonstrating

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how , the techniques with volunteers

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and and so on and so forth , because

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it's really hard to navigate the

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complexities here over

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, you know , over a , over a podcast

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. So we'll have that community

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to join . We're kind of wrapping

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up the final stages of getting it ready to

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launch . At any

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rate , if everything

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, if you just end up totally

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and completely confused and

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you don't know which way to go with it , consider

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joining the community and getting some help through

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through the process

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. Beyond

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that , once you've said hello and get a response

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, you have a line of communication and

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it's not a write your own rules

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. Do anything you want , because this

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is your mind and you're no . No , no , no

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, no , no . It's humbly

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. Learn how

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to communicate with

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your parts , with

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the thoughts and feelings that come up in

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response to you . Learn

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to communicate while

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holding your own space and

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being respectful , and

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your mind will just open

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right up to you . So , most

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of all , have fun . Have

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fun with it . Take your journal , you know

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. Open up your journal . Close your eyes , say

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hello , uh , get

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the hello back . Ask

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your question . It could just

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be what are you going to say to someone ? No

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, you can say , hey , how you doing , I

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don't know . But the whole idea

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is to begin a process

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of getting to know your

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mind , specifically through

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one part of your mind , which is whichever

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part answered the hello test . And

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, by the way , if you get a deluge in response

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, you

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might just say look , thank you all

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so very much . However , I'd like to

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talk to just one of

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you . Can you appoint

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a spokesperson ? Can

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we narrow this down ? Because I'm learning , just

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learning , how to do this . I don't know what the priorities

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are , and so on and so forth . Just

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like to talk to one of you , if that's okay . In

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other words , this is your

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mind and you

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can't go in and order around , but there's

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a good chance it will cooperate with

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you . What do you know ? If

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you ask , if you enter

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in the right mindset

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. So have

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fun with it , play around with it . The

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community , if you're interested in it , is

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wakinggodsinstitute

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. Wakinggodsinstitute

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it's free to join

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. The discussion group is going to be

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a paid program , but

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the prices are all going to be very , very

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affordable . But go to Wakinggodsinstitute

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and click Request to

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Join and I look forward to meeting

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you there . In the meantime , keep

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going working on your parts . Alright

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, guys , see you in the next episode .