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2:00

Good morning, good morning, happy

2:02

Wednesday. Happy

2:04

Wednesday, I really like a Wednesday. Right,

2:06

we're going to jump into it, we're

2:08

going to have some gully chats and

2:11

we're going to have some catch-ups and then go

2:13

into some dilemma. We both have quite a lot

2:15

to report on, don't we? Number

2:17

one, I think I've got frozen as well, which is

2:19

probably one of the worst effects. Oh yeah, let's talk

2:21

about that. OK, we all know that Melissa and I

2:23

get Botox and I draw now and again because I

2:27

actually wait way longer. We

2:29

used to do it every three to four

2:31

months, right? I wait longer than that, I do. We

2:33

used to. Oh right, when we

2:35

first did it. I never stopped doing it then.

2:38

You made the error, I made the error. It's really

2:40

not that bad. I'm not going to do it because

2:42

I just don't want to draw attention to it but

2:44

that might be happening. I'm going to chew loads of

2:46

gum and I'm just never going to get it done

2:48

again. Do you ever also, when it's cold outside, get

2:50

a really cold, cramped jaw when it comes back to

2:52

in the cold? Because my jaw cramps when it's cold

2:54

outside and when the last one comes back, I would

2:56

go back and forth. No, but my jaw clicks whenever

2:58

I orgasm. Wow,

3:01

that story took another 10. Wait, have I

3:03

not told you this? Clicks. No,

3:05

guys, my jaw dislocate whenever I orgasm. Yeah,

3:09

it goes, oh my

3:11

goodness gracious. I don't know

3:13

if Jamie's worked that out but it does. Does

3:15

it go click, click, click, click? No, it just

3:17

jars. I don't know what happens. It's done it

3:19

from get go. Wow.

3:21

I remember something like that was weird. So faking it must

3:23

be quite tricky. Do you know how to pretend to do

3:25

it? No, I don't pretend to do

3:28

that because pull my jaw, it would get fully

3:30

arthritis in it, wouldn't it? That is weird that

3:32

it does that. I wonder why. I wonder why

3:34

whether Jamie understands that he's doing it either. He's

3:37

never got a problem. He probably doesn't. Boys know.

3:40

They're oblivious to everything. No,

3:42

yeah, they are. No, the better skies,

3:44

obviously. Thank God he does it. Because then otherwise it would

3:46

be like a real schlab every time I have to. Oh,

3:48

God, yeah, you're like, I'm going to have to click my

3:50

jaw again. Yeah. That was really hard. There we

3:53

go. Let's fake it. I'm

3:55

going to be acting face off. Yeah. Come

3:57

on, ow. I'll be walking around with my jaw hanging low. We've

4:04

got some massive, massive, massive news. I've

4:06

been harbouring this, trying to bring it off on. I

4:08

was in a surprise, though, for a bit, but I

4:10

couldn't. So I actually just told her the other day.

4:12

Well, she forgets. And then I was like, you must

4:15

tell me now before you forget and like God almighty.

4:17

Yeah. I just feel upset. So I

4:19

was on FaceTime. No, really was around mine. We were having coffee

4:21

in the morning. This is like five days

4:23

after we had the gorgeous Molly and Tom one from

4:25

Love Island. And I was like, oh,

4:27

we just had lovely Molly and Tom. I was just like gushing

4:29

over how gorgeous they were and how in love they were. She's

4:32

Tom Clare. Oh my God, Tom Clare. Yeah. I

4:35

was talking to him for a bit actually last year and I was like, what?

4:37

This is Tim. If you know Ruby. This

4:40

is Ruby down to 80. She

4:42

tells, she's such a gatekeeper. She keeps her heart

4:44

so close to her freaking chest. And then she'll

4:46

tell you like, she's so blue. I'm like, oh

4:48

yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm going to date with him.

4:50

I'm like, what? Anyway. So she

4:52

said that he's in her DMs. I

4:54

wish I knew this and we had him on because I would have asked him

4:57

about it. This is all right before he went on to Love Island. He

5:01

was talking to her for a bit and then they

5:03

were out in Bluebird, Ruby and her friend. And

5:05

they were still talking and he was like, do you want to

5:07

meet up or something? Anyway, she was like, look, I'm in Bluebird

5:09

right now. Do you want to join us? And he just went

5:11

and joined them for a drink. And there's a photo of both

5:13

of them together. If you know Ruby, she's like, what? 5'3". She's

5:17

the tiniest little bean. No, I'm 5'4". She's maybe

5:19

5'3", 5'2". I don't know actually. She's

5:21

just dinky little. And then he's obviously 6'5". And

5:23

this photo is jump. Are

5:25

you guys ready for this? I mean... I

5:29

know why she's on a date with her dad or all the brothers.

5:31

It's so sweet. Like, she's literally in his arm

5:34

for it. It's so sweet. Anyway,

5:36

so unfortunately for us, we don't

5:38

have Tom Clara in our lives

5:40

because Tom went on Love Island

5:42

and fell in love with Molly and we're very happy for

5:44

them. But you know, what could have been? What

5:47

could have been? What could have been? He could have been

5:49

double dating, Yumi, Jamie and Hope. Oh

5:51

my God, that would have been unreal. On

5:53

the topic of Ruby, Melissa and Ruby. Melissa

5:55

and Ruby had been bleating about me basically.

5:57

They were slacking me off because they were...

5:59

so upset that my nails are... I'm not going to

6:01

say it was bitching. No, I know. It

6:04

was a discussion from love. You had been like, we have to

6:06

tell her. And she had been like, you've got to tell her.

6:08

I know. It hasn't just been one

6:10

discussion. It was always like, so what was Sophie's nails

6:12

at? I don't know. It was that conversation

6:14

it was from once out of it. She said that it

6:16

was a place of love. And she does. I

6:18

know it does. I know it does. And she sits down and

6:21

she goes, look at me, I know. She goes, see,

6:23

we were just talking about like, it's funny how you

6:25

get all those, you spend all that money on visuals.

6:27

But you know, I've been there for that. And

6:32

you're panicking, as you say. And I'm like, oh,

6:34

and you're like, I think you just need

6:36

to get by. And

6:38

I was like, in my head, I was like, that's

6:40

it. And they've been like, we have to have an

6:42

intervention now. So time's come. I know. Well,

6:45

it was, you know what? Also, those gorgeous rings from

6:47

your fingers and like, I was like, I really appreciate

6:49

it. I really appreciate it. They're all going together nicely.

6:52

And now, thank you. Look how much different that is.

6:55

Do you know what? I'll be forever grateful

6:57

because I firstly just love the honesty. And

6:59

secondly, I've never felt more put together in

7:01

my life. I look down, I look

7:03

up in the morning and I'm like, I

7:05

really feel joyous. You know what stuck in my mind? I've

7:07

told you this before. When we were all really young and

7:09

we used to go out clubbing and we shouldn't have been

7:12

and we were all underage. I remember we were going

7:14

to Drury. Anyone remember Drury? No, I was like 15.

7:17

I was very glad. Mayfair. Yeah.

7:20

That's all I remember. And

7:22

girl in the above me, Amz, quite

7:24

good friends, she is the

7:27

most, you've met her, most polished, gorgeous

7:29

girl ever. Always a blow dry once

7:31

a week. Groom, perfect

7:33

makeup, perfect hair. Everything's steamed.

7:35

You know, like we turn up and I've got like

7:37

a bit of shit on my jeans or like I've

7:39

got fluff on my black coat. There is none of

7:42

that, this girl, like pristine. Do you know who she's

7:44

giving me? And the nutritionist, beautiful,

7:46

pristine girl. So she's like 16, I'm like

7:48

15 and we're going to this club and

7:50

she didn't have her fake ID. And

7:53

the girl on the door was like, show me your nails.

7:56

Obviously Being her, she had perfect gel manicured

7:59

nails. filming hand me as I can the

8:01

and any young girls that andres don't get

8:03

announced on put together girls they're all the

8:05

have their nails done to do something about

8:07

my race and he learns that is something

8:10

know about having clean not to know when

8:12

your time's in the summer that time a

8:14

day behind them manicured and they are like

8:16

the same land but when I was younger

8:18

i when i was a twenty four my

8:21

nails always at Monaco when they with when

8:23

I was on that it's something about getting

8:25

older. Dot You Now says to me and

8:27

I just not like they look great Software

8:30

Five days. Yeah like I use of

8:32

them when I mean Chelsea. Without their special

8:34

I think as you have to than ten the

8:36

key to cool as the be given the

8:38

poor last show like some oil value. Was.

8:42

Says actually a pencil the you can buy

8:44

to get under your nails that colors that

8:46

the white part of your teen male white

8:49

set my granny told me about s eating

8:51

is a mole The mole Malva as easy

8:53

at it from lane get a mom is

8:55

them as nails are like dissident ups or

8:58

she Boise State. Under that the little white

9:00

pants mitt and little bit more rimmed. that

9:02

is funny and they don't think about I

9:05

will say I do love Step aside some

9:07

people like Tommy Haas Care Unit say as

9:09

nice. She always has the most perfect now

9:11

parfitt hands. He and they're just some people

9:13

may. Gas. Morning You just give

9:16

me a constant. It's May I show

9:18

my nails event on every seven old

9:20

and think about when he saw Parfait

9:22

Monica. Now I write. Signed.

9:25

A hillary Any try to admit some on a

9:27

all pop as I don't know why I never

9:30

think of use. and now all. Because

9:32

I never do anything other than I do it. I just like

9:34

that all the time. I. Never going to

9:36

so getting by not a hard or like

9:38

treaty. I am I now I need to.

9:40

That son was like okay with some other

9:43

dramas. only got some good nice and some

9:45

bad knees. Your bad knees as. I.

9:47

Mccall got towed. Really upsetting

9:49

I went see say face to have had

9:51

an appointment than what we walked up with

9:53

anxiety or more time Walked around the corner

9:56

and as I. Can

9:58

have gone. And I was. I. Then

10:00

stolen I local my cctv. It's

10:03

been paid so then had to go either

10:05

time ago. Yeah, I wasn't sure that was

10:07

a legit. takes a lot people to cause

10:10

to steal them at all like as Israel.

10:12

Anyway, it was rail on apart from a

10:14

single yellow. Even. That is right

10:16

outside my house on even though I do

10:18

have a Pa that I thought it was

10:20

final necessity of twelve pm is actually else

10:22

to six and amazon the braves he doing

10:24

in called they would have seen I had

10:26

a permit like to see more ariza say

10:28

I went can pick up and it was

10:30

basically so hundred pounds set up a to

10:32

tickets and then the to charge it was

10:34

like three hundred and ninety something that got

10:36

one.my successor my some mills to me off

10:38

as he drinks and shut me up a

10:40

nice good these as shade me at the

10:42

ripe old age. Thirty five has past his

10:45

or can I get idea. Of hi I'm

10:47

Steve Israel I'm so excited He silhouette

10:49

sketch segment Lcs kids I seen a

10:51

when you're like give us Both and.

10:54

Also plays the volume. I got. maybe

10:56

she can simply place every night is

10:58

just palms I ne ne ne from

11:00

there was a long as he finds

11:02

yeah but if he scans morale Gina

11:04

Isis is so doesn't actually to sleep

11:06

over pogo. she novels that earning her

11:08

nice because what guess is that if

11:10

you have kids. Sorry. No

11:12

gunship for I think you to learn in

11:15

the summer it to eyes she knows how

11:17

to drive same as a me. It's is

11:19

like taking I think the theory but she's

11:21

not a good area we that's an insane.

11:23

much harder than it was. like my day

11:25

funky my day. it was easy as pie.

11:27

I wouldn't say it easy a lot of

11:29

people fails apartments hard and now I. Don't

11:31

necessarily agree past with to I'm I'm

11:34

pretty sure what went on to around

11:36

about like completely. Does I had one minor

11:38

Are not necessity or know the line my God

11:40

given me. The. But the secret just before

11:42

my garden aside, And let

11:44

you into Zebra. So I was put in my

11:46

sunday she must which is basically bad. The tiger

11:48

a dog I see on my god it is

11:50

you next yes to get a sign saying it. as

11:53

far as any given easy for I'm reading is

11:55

I'm not a cable I know how to manifest

11:57

unlike was sixteen of his time and you doing

11:59

it He said yeah. My downside: A

12:01

day while my daughter's set foundation like when

12:03

in school like Per and hides a lot,

12:05

she's not lot. The curriculum like she did. she

12:07

won't know what. This as anyone had of

12:09

we are some lessons outside when and

12:12

just like all guys about of asset

12:14

I saw it I saw his ass

12:16

more the part of like that your

12:18

results someone I got I got a

12:20

son and my and he says he's

12:22

got a D fucking on Sega exams.

12:24

And. Be manifested as google has have as

12:27

i got mine as a my my

12:29

driving cars and i no good driver.

12:31

Or none of us haven't seen. Know that I'm

12:34

going to Guyanese, I'm gonna get an A saw

12:36

I'd be surprised me receiving thing did it will

12:38

know like aws yeah. That's a

12:40

nice eggs on Valium is about

12:42

the driving test sickness day. I'll

12:45

tell you see grin on my land they says with

12:47

a for me that said how driving sought. To

12:49

would eat like sloppy cried. Songs

12:52

like Oil Abnormality, Harangue, see that

12:54

might have the all the signal

12:56

and then she'd have to said

12:58

in my twenty's old a beater

13:00

that the flaky that something I

13:02

brought your i ah that is

13:04

heavier Rabbi size had. A A

13:06

R on. Celebrity Big Brother. I.

13:08

Know watching at a no? Neither am I. I

13:10

was on checked all. The

13:13

blue been to do anything now we will take

13:15

up. probably not a real shame. similar Instagram I

13:17

like just go watch all the trailers and on

13:19

night I've let she seen everything cut down into

13:21

three Minutes is a divorce. Easily foresee the net.

13:24

Again, Said break brothers one thing, but I. Just need

13:26

some for that. Yellow say in Kc

13:28

I K right she loves I started

13:30

a magazine cover. love us on a

13:32

bit slow who tie? It's a limitation.

13:34

I only watch Casey to Kevin Costner

13:37

while he scored. I would. Any

13:40

time day and Casey's obsesses and he will

13:42

ever really not noticeable better than any other

13:44

pretty boy. Be her. I know a soul

13:46

as sick as any form eminence com. He's

13:48

like a rail country boy thing and than

13:50

his sister. Is your idea of. That

13:52

t they had noise not quite

13:54

what eating feels his inability station

13:56

of thing on Cowboy Thursday off.

13:59

The Remi. It's like so not

14:01

the vibe I was expecting. With the big cowboy

14:03

bow. Yeah, and she's like wearing the

14:05

whole cowboy vibe, like going to all his rodeos. Mm,

14:08

yee-haw. I think I toured multiple times that I

14:10

was gonna live on a ranch when I was

14:12

older by a sidekick. Well,

14:15

you're not living on a ranch now, hun. Well,

14:17

my dear, if I meet Kevin Costner or Casey.

14:19

Well, let's hope not, because I don't think Jamie's

14:22

gonna live on a ranch. I know, I know.

14:25

But if you do watch it, you will wanna live

14:27

on a ranch. I am a bit confused, though. People

14:29

get shot all the time, because in those westerns, everyone

14:31

fucking gets shot. Yeah, they're like really powerful and they

14:33

all just get shot and like they fall off the

14:35

horse, break their legs, they're like, get back up, son.

14:38

You know I've been to Yellowstone National Park? Sorry,

14:41

this is the coolest thing ever. Why, doing what? They used to

14:43

live in America. Every summer we used to go, we used to

14:45

get into an RV, because

14:48

we used to have this holiday, and then for an RV, a big

14:50

van that used to live here. Have you ever seen We Are The

14:52

Millers? Yeah. And then

14:54

you stop and then the sides expand, and your

14:56

living room is so fun. It's like a tour

14:58

bus kind of thing, but at a house on

15:01

wheels, it's so fun. You say

15:03

you dream about being, like living another life

15:05

and being that crazy crazy horse girl, you

15:07

did live another life. Honey, going

15:09

on a little holiday with my family is so different

15:11

to me being. It isn't, you were fully back, but

15:13

you were We Are The Millers. Yeah.

15:16

Why do you always want to get drugs

15:18

taking them across fucking Mexico, though? That's not

15:20

always a good feel, that. I love that

15:22

movie. Anything with Jan and Aaron. Hey

15:28

guys, my friend and I have been going

15:30

to Pilates every week together, and

15:32

my friend has a huge crush on the

15:35

instructor. I've never got a Male

15:37

Pilates instructor. He's really tall and sexy. She's

15:39

giving him the eyes and big cheesy smiles

15:41

throughout the class. I'm so no for me,

15:43

I couldn't. Like me bending upside down with

15:45

my tits hanging over my face. Not that

15:48

they do that, but that's what I'm picturing.

15:50

Or like my asshole in his face. Yeah,

15:52

you also just do some quite unflattering things.

15:54

And like, well, you're just no. You know

15:56

what I'm envisioning? What's that? I think it's

15:59

actually in sex. He would love to yoga

16:01

cities as she starts I can and. Know

16:04

c Santa but he doesn't ever have

16:06

sex and she's like a month is

16:08

obviously very a holy cow. mm he

16:11

never gives up the sec. What of

16:13

the who? Let speculation really she's talking

16:15

about herself her because site be very

16:17

sexy and very tool and or anywhere.

16:20

Near the elder would guess the

16:22

early thirties. Oh away. twenty putting

16:25

a says number. Eight. Is

16:27

the cinema but then again me if

16:29

I'm twenty nine if I was with

16:31

was forty five I would probably say

16:33

somebody then see I'm going on. you

16:35

know enough at them and ah how

16:37

can she makes me without embarrassing has

16:39

off we have disgusting excises, wrong on

16:42

passes to say he'll come over and

16:44

correct any advice my friends on rabbi

16:46

I said laughing. Far as I remember

16:48

having to people he wasn't a pt

16:50

but that's dangerous territory. He. Sells is

16:52

your Pc know? why didn't bet? I think you've on the

16:54

and. Ago that. I

16:57

guess we had a cover model mean

16:59

Chelsea to a. Guy

17:01

that was it's gorgeous. Gorgeous. I'm ready to

17:03

them. I thought vaccines are a million not

17:05

like I read about. Like Keepers Combat that

17:08

uses her to rarely preseason. Game Boy

17:10

liner. He was not my type it be

17:12

like audible the cameramen they were all that much

17:14

older than ours. he was quite young go away

17:16

like he would come in and he was ice

17:18

occasion he wants he dropped food dropped hints from

17:21

season he had a postman he says I knew

17:23

the want and then every time she bites fancy

17:25

meal but he's married with kids and nervy dublin

17:27

me I go out of me still remember this

17:30

this guy he he was i'm I'm a he

17:32

said he speaks in the sole had come off

17:34

anywhere left them and cobbles his drive me home

17:36

and he comes to my house with. A week

17:38

later to bring my be. Funny

17:41

and sold. By

17:43

reminiscent of back of a holiday or

17:45

I remember is that when he says

17:47

trash me. It. was like

17:50

growing on vagina are used to be like a

17:52

lie lie yeah i would be like this is

17:54

onyx at school maybe she just asked him to

17:56

structure around you know will also i think there's

17:58

a things which has been Just

18:01

flirt with him at the end and see what vibe is back. We

18:04

need to make sure how much do we love this

18:06

Pilates place? If it doesn't work out

18:08

and he rejects you, is it going to be awkward you going back there? Can

18:10

we sacrifice the Pilates studio and find another one

18:12

if all goes to shit? That's number one we

18:14

have to think about. Let's get a back up

18:16

plan for the Pilates studio. Right, this

18:19

is true. Ask him out, see what he says

18:21

and if he says no and you're like, shit, don't

18:23

think I could bear going back there whilst he's teaching.

18:25

I'm going to have to go somewhere else. Fine. You

18:27

never have to see him again. There's a lot of

18:29

the Pilates studios. Sweet.

18:31

But how would you go up to him? Do you want

18:33

to go out like, that's not in my bones or in

18:35

my nature? I think it's not. I would flirt after the

18:37

day and be like, God, that was really good. Touch his

18:39

arm. He's obviously got an Instagram

18:42

page, right, because everything does now. Slide into

18:44

the DMs and be like, oh my God,

18:46

we asked for a private lesson. I asked

18:48

for a private lesson. Boom, Jacka Laka. I

18:50

asked for a private lesson. And

18:52

perfume yourself up. Oh my God. Everyone would look really gorgeous and

18:54

then be like, oh my God, you know what? What are you

18:56

doing later? We might go out for a few drinks if you

18:59

want to join us. I personally find

19:01

it really, really brave that you're wanting, like, I

19:03

would feel like, if I fancy someone in Pilates,

19:06

I would not be going to the studio. I

19:08

would just feel too exposed. You know what I

19:10

would do? Always look

19:12

at him a little bit too long and you should and then

19:14

look away. So he's like, hmm, she's looking at me. Follow

19:18

him on Instagram, but don't do anything. You'll like

19:20

some photos, like some photos, don't say anything. Like

19:22

some photos. I know you're a private story. And

19:24

then you know what? You're really just opening up

19:26

that door. Yeah, but you could also just be

19:28

a pal. So, you know, you're never going

19:31

to embarrass yourself, but you will show him and then leave

19:33

it to him. And then, you know what?

19:36

Down the line is definitely ask for a private session and you can talk about

19:38

all sorts of stuff. Then ask him if he's single. Just

19:40

start and you're going to be like, that was a normal conversation, hon, if

19:42

he's like, yeah. Do

19:45

you know what I mean? Like, he's like, no, I've got a girlfriend.

19:47

You can be like, oh my God, gorgeous. How long have you been

19:49

together? You've got your answer. But if he's

19:51

like, I'm single, what do you type then? And

19:54

you're just planting that seed without waiting for me. Yeah,

19:56

I'm thinking, yeah, yeah. You got it. You listened. You

19:58

heard it from her. I'm

20:00

so invested I need to know what happens. I want

20:03

photos of him like she's sent us his Instagram We

20:05

need to see him. I want to go

20:07

to the party studio myself and check him

20:09

out. Absolutely. We should go on a Wrecking

20:12

to the Pilates. We should go to Wrecking. If it's

20:14

in London, I will do it. I will take one

20:16

from the team I will put in I will burn

20:19

my booty for you. I will say Melissa's really good

20:22

We'll see. We'll go and have

20:24

a look. If you want us, we will ask him what

20:26

his type is If he says blondes and you're

20:28

brunette, we know you're not the one I also

20:31

would just love to know if you actually go haven't Do

20:34

anything about this sometimes the girls write back with the

20:36

follow-ups and I like you know What I just asked

20:38

him out and it worked out So like there is

20:40

a also felt something to be said for just being

20:43

fucking brave and asking the question like it's not that

20:45

deep If they say no, they say no, you know,

20:47

but I think boys really aren't turned off by it

20:49

But I think I'm just not brave. We've got a

20:51

fear of rejection. That's why we've got fear of

20:53

rejection And so do boys that's why boys don't

20:55

ask our girls It's just taking me all living

20:57

in a sick sick septical like one person needs

20:59

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22:17

Okay, I'm really excited about this one. One

22:19

of my best guy friends, let's call him

22:21

Jay, has been dating a girl on the

22:23

outskirts of our friendship group. This

22:26

girl has an ex who she was with for

22:28

over two years, who's also in our friendship group,

22:30

but like her, he's a bit on the outside

22:32

too. Jay's

22:35

not been stepping on anyone's toes by dating her

22:37

as a not close guy, mate. You

22:39

follow? Yeah. Before this girl dated Jay,

22:41

she also sat with another guy in our group.

22:43

Let's call him Ollie. Fucking hell,

22:45

this girl in this group. So

22:47

right, let's work it out. So ex is in

22:49

the group, all on the outskirts, two

22:52

boys in the group, she's dating them both. She's dating one

22:54

and slept with the other. Right,

22:56

how about in the friendship group? So you all

22:58

fancy her. I found this out, but

23:01

I didn't tell Jay as I didn't want to look like

23:03

I was staring things up during the early parts of that

23:05

relationship. This weekend, all of our friendship

23:07

group went on a big night out and took our

23:09

long story short. She made a move

23:11

on Ollie and they ended up sleeping with each other. Okay.

23:14

But she's excused them with Jay. She cheated

23:16

them. Now Jay, my best

23:18

guy friend, is devastated. He's confided in me

23:20

about how hurt he is. I also told

23:22

him about the first time the two

23:25

of them slept together, as I thought that would be the end of

23:27

that fling. However, he told me he wants to

23:29

get back with her. I don't

23:31

want to be called a snake or look

23:33

like I'm interfering in my friend's relationship, but she's bad

23:35

news, what do I do? Well,

23:37

you can't say anything, really. As you said, you say it

23:39

once and then you have to let it be. Yeah, you

23:41

have to let it be. So if

23:44

I would give my opinion and then just

23:46

be like, look, but ultimately anything you want

23:48

to do, I'll support you. It's really hard

23:51

though to then like, I'm finding this, there's

23:53

a similar situation with me. I'm

23:55

finding it quite hard to ever imagine myself

23:57

being friendly towards this girl now. Okay, then

23:59

get away. well, how would I know? Because

24:03

in like the scenario that's going on in my friendship group,

24:06

like very similar, they were, they were

24:08

like exclusive, but it was quite specific

24:10

to this person. I think she had

24:12

had things within the past. They'd been

24:15

with each other a few times on a few occasions.

24:17

And she

24:21

promised him that she wouldn't

24:23

sleep with this specific guy

24:26

and she did. So

24:29

it was like, they were exclusive, but only purely about

24:31

this one guy. If that makes sense. It was like,

24:33

don't sleep with this one guy cause he's in a

24:35

friendship group and you're going away with him on this

24:37

like holiday. And then she ended up sleeping with him

24:39

anyway. So to be that game over,

24:41

I'm like, you're dead to me. Like, I don't want

24:43

to make an effort with you. I don't also, all

24:45

these other stories and I know this is assuming I'm

24:47

talking about this, all these other stories are coming out

24:49

about her. Okay. Look like this. She's done bad things

24:52

in the friendship group. I stand

24:54

a bit by the fact if you're exclusive, the boy

24:56

should have fucking asked you to be his girlfriend because

24:58

you don't know what's going on. I stand by that.

25:00

Like when I was in, if someone says to you,

25:02

please categorically do not go and sleep with this person,

25:04

it would be the end of it. It

25:07

would be the end of this. And I will promise I

25:09

won't. Is

25:11

that really weird? Like,

25:13

so then I'm going to go and do

25:15

it even cause then I'm going to go

25:17

and do it right. But it's not like

25:19

technically it's like he should have made her

25:22

his girlfriend. I don't think what she's done

25:24

is right. But there's a gray area being

25:26

called exclusive. Like what are you? If you're

25:28

just like dating and you're not boyfriend and

25:30

girlfriend, there's a significant difference of being boyfriend

25:33

and girlfriend. You meet the parents. You are

25:35

boyfriend and girlfriend to being exclusive. To me,

25:37

exclusive, you're just dating that person. And I

25:39

don't think that was gray areas of me

25:41

and Jamie when we were just exclusive. And

25:44

look, we're married now. At the beginning of

25:46

your thing was very messy and secretive and

25:48

it was different scenario, completely different. This

25:50

is okay. So let me just say, so Toby and

25:52

I've been dating for a week. We're really obsessed with

25:54

each other, right? Then I go

25:56

and sleep with, or he goes and sleeps with this girl

25:59

that he's had a. with before. A week.

26:02

Then a month goes by where we're like properly falling for each

26:07

other at this point where like we're spending a lot of

26:09

time together. At that stage if I

26:11

was him I don't get why he's not going.

26:13

I don't want you to sleep with him. Will

26:15

you be my girlfriend? So he shouldn't, it shouldn't

26:17

even be a conversation like I really would rather

26:19

you not sleep with him because that's giving her

26:22

permission to sleep with someone else but not that

26:24

particular girl. Like there has to be a point

26:26

where boys just be like will you be my

26:28

girlfriend? Yeah but in my opinion this is still

26:30

a saxophone offence. Totally I

26:32

do agree but I do think... No, it's creepy.

26:34

A month after I've stayed in except for

26:37

someone else I would be like done so.

26:39

Done so. Absolutely fucking done

26:41

so. I'm unsure. I'm unsure.

26:43

As the friend I mean... You've got to sit back and

26:45

watch and be here. You just have to let it and

26:47

you know what? Be careful not to say too much. That

26:50

is a problem not yours really. Do you know

26:52

what I mean? I will not say too much

26:54

because if they do end up getting married and

26:57

being happy and you've flagged her off though then

26:59

your friendship with him will be really damaged. Yeah

27:01

I agree. You've got to just go to stay

27:03

a bit. It's really tricky that part. I think

27:05

if they ask for the opinion be honest but

27:07

be light with it. Be like look if it

27:09

was me and I was going through this

27:11

I think you would advise me not to go

27:14

back there because that's probably the case. But

27:17

you know ultimately you have to figure things out for yourself

27:19

and see if you're

27:22

looking at it also from a perspective of having

27:24

no feelings where he's invested but feelings are tough.

27:27

He wants to forgive her by the

27:29

sounds of it. You know what I mean?

27:31

He almost... And there's always... He's like they

27:33

were exclusive. Oh you know what? We weren't

27:36

actually like boyfriend, girlfriend so we'll let her

27:38

off. I think that's like... Don't

27:40

go wrong but I don't think what she sounds

27:42

okay. Like it would definitely be a question whether

27:44

you continue or not but the

27:48

fact they aren't boyfriend and girlfriend isn't like 100%

27:50

clean cut. You know what I mean? That's like

27:52

there's no way back. It's like at least he

27:54

has the option to in front of his friends

27:56

like dignify it to himself and be like we weren't boyfriend

27:59

and girlfriend and maybe get her as second child, if

28:01

he really wants to. And if she fucks up

28:03

them when they're boyfriend and girlfriend, then you know. But

28:05

at least he's like protecting himself in some way that

28:07

he's not going to look like him. I would also

28:09

question does she still have feelings for Ollie? Why is

28:12

she dating you? Dating

28:15

your friend? Also like is Ollie not knowing they're

28:17

dating because he's thinking about me. That's

28:19

true. As the friend you have to flag all

28:21

these things, flag them so he's aware of them

28:24

like why has Ollie done this? Why does that

28:26

happen? Why has she done that? Does she like

28:28

you enough? All of those things and then try

28:30

and close your mouth. Don't say too much because

28:32

ultimately he's going to do what he's going to

28:34

do. He's going to learn his own lessons. He'll

28:36

probably tell the girl and be like she said

28:38

this about you and like is that true? And

28:41

then she's going to bitch about you and it's

28:43

going to get messy. It's going to be a

28:45

vicious vicious circle. I'm

28:50

27 and I'm currently in my

28:52

first ever relationship with the guy who's

28:55

25 and also in his first ever

28:57

relationship. Sweet. We met on Mumble about

28:59

seven months ago and made it official

29:01

two months into dating. All my

29:03

friends and family are asking me has he said

29:05

I love you yet? To which my answer is

29:07

no. Oh but it's his first

29:09

relationship. Give a boy a break. Seven

29:12

months I'd be like oh we're knocking on the

29:14

door. I would be like are you all right?

29:17

But he probably just is a bit nervous. Let's

29:19

just see what else is going to go on

29:21

down here. They then ask

29:23

if I love him to which my answer is I honestly don't

29:25

know. Oh Jesus fucking Christ. Well this

29:27

is a bit of a problem. As

29:30

we've both never had a relationship before we're like the blind

29:32

leading the blind. I can't work out if he's too nervous

29:34

to say it in case I don't say it back or

29:36

if he thinks that stuff is too sloppy or he doesn't

29:38

actually know if he likes it. Oh so

29:40

much I was thinking. We get

29:42

along so well and there's no problems with

29:44

attraction or chemistry. We spend most weekends together

29:47

but aren't always in each other's space as

29:49

we're both used to our own company. This

29:51

sounds like a gorgeous balance. I'm like the

29:53

bottom of it. I know it's super

29:55

unfeminist but I don't want to be the first person to say

29:58

I love you. Kind of embarrassing. The.

30:01

Harness how do you know you're allowed to do

30:03

like when a you know you are not for

30:05

j sus tongue just know like as a name

30:08

and and your to suck up. I. Still

30:10

get yelled and to the point we are

30:12

like i just wanna say it's he got

30:14

new for my he say rots your like

30:16

getting see been like you just say there

30:19

is hop only new to me is going

30:21

to jump Japan's film or tv show run

30:23

around and love love away so witty yeah

30:25

and I remember the ninth or thinking i

30:28

was like sinking feeling that he was going

30:30

sinking feeling why I remember just feeding i

30:32

say samples the so happy this other over

30:34

the things I love how much you know

30:37

when your life is a lot Married for

30:39

com to. Says your body how long until

30:41

he dies I buy things gallo as they

30:43

thought I think of the pine says he

30:45

was was like honesty are the on So

30:47

this might have been like may. On we

30:49

got together and eight prose a April mother and

30:51

my. Yeah, I think I probably. Need I

30:53

really? ali? But that was like the move where it was like

30:56

full load off after. Him as the April March May.

30:58

It's. Not nice away. Always

31:01

I am I at all like oh my God This

31:03

outlet. Store that?

31:05

that's three months. Rises.

31:07

March, April may say three a small level

31:09

by you. I would

31:12

say I knew I was falling in love

31:14

off like a week know I would. Yeah

31:16

man I fell in I was fully and

31:18

lol I knew I fancied him. They they

31:20

say much about in the mail and I

31:22

know what Man other than the law like

31:24

the Via Ah or the daily life is

31:26

I yeah right yeah.longer nowadays it's not. You

31:30

know is it's not a sinners. It's like

31:32

the stress linked with attraction is like very

31:34

exciting. like a nerve wracking like doesn't feel

31:36

like that because I like funding sources for

31:39

all of you will now but you'll be.

31:41

Getting close to me at the with a your been

31:43

anti military that you're as likely that is enough I

31:45

don't know like a habit and oh my god he's

31:47

a good as good as well as his say much

31:49

but the initial like said yes and I think this

31:52

is what people. mistake the last

31:54

sometimes it's the initial bars and i used to

31:56

get this and this is why i got the

31:58

same food we let us and lala, let

32:00

me explain. I've got this thing called limerants

32:03

where I'm like, I bypass every red

32:05

flag because I've got this initial spike

32:08

in attraction and fancy and caught up with

32:10

it. So I override

32:12

the red flag because I can't see past them.

32:15

Obviously, but who doesn't? I think a lot

32:17

of people are like, the boys are better at being like, nah, red

32:19

flag Tahir. God, I'm not. If

32:21

I fancy someone, I'm like, Gun-ho. Same.

32:24

Gun-ho. All red flags are gone. Almost the

32:26

red flags make it better. I think

32:29

it's a bit concerning that you don't

32:31

know if you love him. But love,

32:33

you just fucking know. Like, love is

32:35

an overwhelming feeling, I'd say. It's a

32:37

fast boyfriend, fast girlfriend. It's all weird.

32:39

You're learning everything. You're learning everything you

32:41

don't know. Like, and also, you know,

32:43

not that being 27 and having your

32:45

fast boyfriends old or 24s, but a

32:47

lot of people have experimented

32:49

at those younger ages where

32:51

you're a little bit more naive. I think there's

32:53

almost more pressure because you've been in your head

32:56

maybe a lot about it and like, seen other

32:58

relationships and then you're comparing and thinking, is this

33:00

right? Is this not? I think

33:02

just go with the flow. I

33:04

think that I love you thinking maybe a little bit something that we

33:06

need to touch on because in my mind, that way. Why didn't you

33:08

just say it? Say it and see how it feels. Why

33:11

didn't you know? Seven months in, he's younger.

33:13

He's probably, my guess is that he's intimidated

33:15

by you. He feels more comfortable in your

33:17

case. He's obviously not like, you know, like

33:19

that big alpha energy would like want him

33:22

in his space and like feel comfortable. He

33:24

doesn't sound like he's that confident within. Yeah.

33:26

Yeah. Yeah. He's learning things on his feet.

33:28

I really think you should just say it.

33:30

I think when you say it, you're going

33:32

to feel great. And if you don't say

33:35

it, it feels right. Just say it when

33:37

it feels right. But also like, if

33:39

you don't think you want to say it, I think

33:41

if you want to say it, I'm

33:43

in love with him and I want to say it to him. I

33:46

love these people. I don't think. Yeah,

33:49

me too. But I don't

33:51

think I really thought I did at the time, but like I obviously

33:53

don't know. You know, if you're enough, the fact that you're like, don't

33:55

really know if I'm in love with him or not, to

33:58

me kind of sounds a bit like. Hmm

34:01

it feels like it's both of your first relationships I don't

34:03

think it's probably gonna be the one that you're with forever

34:05

and ever and ever But

34:07

I feel like it's everyone has them.

34:09

I had a relationship my first facial You

34:12

know, it just gets a lot of them I've a lot

34:15

I think you should just say I just

34:17

say it just say it and let us know what

34:19

it's like I'm hoping for I know

34:22

this is me being soda What do you want to

34:24

lose? I hope that he doesn't truly truly truly

34:26

love you so so so so so much And you're

34:28

just saying it to test the water and then

34:30

he thinks that you're really in love with him But

34:32

you are still with him and you're like actually,

34:34

you know what this is made me realize it's not

34:36

right And then you're like I have to go.

34:39

Yeah, but that's great. Then it's cut cut says losses

34:41

and cuts our losses He uses

34:43

no point in both coasting. Just say it see how it

34:45

makes you feel You've got

34:47

absolutely nothing to lose other than feeling

34:49

fantastic You're gonna feel something from

34:51

it and just listen to your body. Listen to

34:53

your feelings Listen to your head and you got

34:55

and go from there. You know what my Jama

34:57

says she loves dorms first So, you know what

35:00

girl power? I Am

35:06

doing the story time and boy buckle your seat

35:08

belt strap yourself in and take a little pew

35:12

Take a little I was dating a guy we

35:14

live with each other and I was taking care

35:16

of his dog almost every day since he Works

35:18

a lot. We were very happy. Also. I thought

35:20

done done done. Where do you think this story

35:22

is going? He's

35:25

shooting last time I got a text from his

35:27

ex She told me that they've

35:29

been sleeping together every other week for an end

35:31

for our entire relationship She

35:34

also told me that he had invited her to go

35:36

to the cinema with her and she had said no

35:38

as she was going With someone else when she got

35:41

to the cinema. She saw my boyfriend now with another

35:43

girl So he's

35:45

seen with three girls at the same

35:47

time So

35:56

Me and her team got to investigate who this

35:58

new girl was. I Love it! Giving

36:00

me my family day as I may be the

36:02

other than we found him or his gun and

36:05

told her everything by see what taking not best

36:07

sounds fucking unreal. Have a drought like that was

36:09

more to uncover. This is

36:11

quite Jones has come a sigh as

36:13

roloff wow as also like Alex misunderstood

36:16

the day you know when I am

36:18

on he got himself in a rail

36:20

pesto. I went through my boyfriends and

36:22

tall and from this and some pets

36:24

of his dog on three. Other.

36:27

Girls, Instagram accounts, Need.

36:32

All the way I was in Gabi

36:34

well you should I wasn't as another

36:36

top of the army others from smoking

36:38

hot dog has been in it's often

36:40

sees him as well. mom is also

36:42

cause if they were seeing him and

36:44

they said just. Set. This point I've

36:46

added out by treating me his actual golf

36:48

and he was sleeping with six guards at

36:50

the time. How the hell does he have

36:52

that tie? Impossible allocate us Fox may that

36:54

things that was. I remember that one time

36:56

when I was walking his dog I will

36:58

pass a gallon. The doctor says I see

37:00

when he saw or off my boyfriend about

37:02

his got this call and he said it

37:04

was his address A. You

37:07

will really close to each other that species six

37:09

of oh no, he's a very risky game, might

37:11

not. Something. Indiana the I was at

37:13

destiny Missouri to the of the lights Israel. And.

37:16

Scalp I messes has also see been

37:18

dating him know cause she had how

37:20

does she find her name. She just

37:22

did some feet I saw. Okay now I. Say

37:25

to conclude you seeking sad that involves own at

37:27

the same time and none of us found any

37:30

sizes and. Cheating up all that time. The.

37:32

He's a skilled skilled All says Ibiza blocks

37:34

him on everything and never saw him again.

37:36

The other.confronted him apparently he is in complete

37:39

denial sides their six months and up my

37:41

trust disenchanted. Is it or we I these

37:43

in a row Steve Any tips A building

37:45

muslims as Afghan by festival on he did

37:48

I say this is on the road. Oh

37:51

very. you've really got

37:53

into a bit as an alien

37:55

while it's s this is a

37:57

unique situation even completely utterly com

38:00

You've been completely at least swindled for

38:02

every skin off your back. This is a code

38:04

red situation I need to see this one. I need to

38:06

see this one a bit. I also want to see. There's

38:08

something I feel like I've walked past him I've crossed paths

38:10

with him. I want to see the pooch. I guess the

38:12

pooch really too. I know it's a cover pooch. It always

38:15

is isn't it? We are a team

38:17

of girls who mean to protect one another and I'm

38:19

at I'm you I've got all of your backs And

38:21

you're all gonna have mine. I'm I'm

38:23

looking for guys You're

38:25

gonna go then if I come across him I

38:27

will step on his fur that's for sure. Sorry

38:30

This is the most mental thing you should feel

38:32

confidence because you left that son of it show it

38:34

away You're out the door. You told all the other guys

38:36

you didn't let him use your walk on you There's

38:39

nothing about you. That's weak. You're strong

38:41

and you are empowered and you left

38:43

that pig on his own Then

38:45

didn't feed him again You're not

38:48

going to laugh at the situation like when

38:50

you're older and you're telling your friends or

38:52

your kids this and your new husband It's

38:54

a great story to tell okay He's given

38:56

you some great bit of content there

38:58

for the rest of your life and don't ever feel

39:00

like it's this is a dung-a-him Problem, it's nothing to

39:02

do with you those poor other girls Jesus

39:10

That was a lot for today. I loved

39:13

every second of it. I feel I'm hot

39:15

and palpitated I feel quite drained and like

39:17

I often do after wedding days In the

39:20

world same we need more of

39:22

it guys. I just like please please send

39:24

us your follow-ups. I want yeah I

39:28

want to know if you told the guy you loved him. I

39:30

want to know if your friend

39:32

You gave that girl whatever I need to know everything.

39:34

I need to know what I need to photo at

39:37

this guy Anyone else

39:39

who's been swindled by the same guy and you're suspicious

39:41

write in and we can try and confirm more

39:43

tonight If you guys also have any good

39:45

opinions or bits of advice that you want to give us

39:48

All the girls on those dilemmas that we've just run

39:51

out Please send them

39:53

in too because I feel like our listeners appreciate the

39:55

other listeners advice No, it's sometimes we just do a

39:57

bit of tangent and we need you level had a

39:59

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40:01

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40:04

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