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Well, here's the thing. I have two narratives I create when someone
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doesn't get back to me. Number one, they're mad at
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me, but number two in this, I go to this one
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more often is All my friends must be
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planning me a surprise party nobody's
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answering. So they're all
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together planning me a surprise party.
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That is not what I expected as
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Hello again, my friends.
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friends.
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Hi.
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special friend today here that we're so
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excited about always having every
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single day of our life in our life. Cheryl,
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do the honors.
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Welcome Susie Adamson back
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to the podcast
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Thank you.
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flyer.
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Thank you.
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We're so happy to have you. We talk about you every day, every
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minute. We're obsessed with you. You're our mentor.
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friend, and we love you.
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I'm here every time, just lurking
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in the background in.
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I wish you would text us. I, I know
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the feeling because my other friend has podcasts
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and I'll be listening and I'm like, no. Oh,
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and I'll text her. I text both of the hosts
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all the time. Like as I'm listening,
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I'm like, I realize you recorded this three weeks ago,
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but here I am.
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Doesn't matter if I text you because it's
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Susie, for those people who
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are, maybe this is the first time they're listening to
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us. This is the first episode they're listening to.
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Can you tell us who you are? Tell
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us what you do.
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Sure. Well, both
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of your BI
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live in Pennsylvania. I'm a mom
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to two college boys. I
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am a wife. I'm a dog mom,
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and I am a realtor
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and I'm a coach. So I
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moved to Pennsylvania last summer
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and starting up a new real estate
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team to be announced in
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short order. And that I'm also
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a process and systems coach, which
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is.
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She's made me passionate about it too. Ladies and
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gentlemen,
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I don't think I made you passionate about it. You
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were already passionate about it.
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I was,
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She has made me.
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the spreadsheet.
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Much more interested in processes
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where prior I was like, I don't even,
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but wasn't even in my universe to be honest.
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And now I feel like it's the thing that I talk about
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all the time and to so many people,
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like, I'm like, okay, well
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was literally, excited.
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I was in a parent's association meeting
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yesterday morning and
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you
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would be so proud. We were talking about, and
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the athletic department or whatever and you
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know, modifications that are needed there. And I
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was like, okay, we don't need to reinvent
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the wheel here. Like where can we go
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to find the processes and the efficiencies that
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other schools are using? And everyone
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looked at me like, oh wow.
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Wow. You are just so
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smart. I was
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like,
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I love that and isn't that
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the best compliment is to help someone
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else look, you know, really great
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and shine when you're not
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there. That makes me so proud. But
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you know, getting people excited about processes
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and systems is akin to my
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lifetime mission to have
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everyone love Brussels sprouts. I
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love to take the things that historically
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people have shunned or
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said no to, and
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find a way, get.
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Well, I.
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That's wonderful. I do love Brussel Sprout and
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I. Processes.
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You did it for me, girl. Okay.
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So today we're gonna talk about something
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incredible female friendships.
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And we're so excited because we
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have a lot of friends. You guys are our friends
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and we are friends with each other. And
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I know Susie feels passionately about this, do
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I. Well,
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I wanna start with this baller statistic
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that I came across this morning, and
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it's. Related to the professional
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advantages that women have from having
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a strong personal network, especially
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those who have one to three friends in
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leadership positions are
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more likely to have higher authority and pay.
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This suggests a significant professional advantage
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from strong female friendships, and
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that comes from the well by Northwell,
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which isn't dot edu. So it must be
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That seems legit.
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smart
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Yeah.
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Yes. Legit. So
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I just, I look at this and then I
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think about like our Compass Mom collective group,
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and I
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know that I have felt so
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inspired and I feel like I've really risen while
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we've worked together and collaborated together
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and built our friendships over the last year and a half,
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almost two years. How do you guys feel?
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Same.
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Yeah, absolutely. I mean, I think
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that. And I've
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said this many times,
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but I feel like that group
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of women, one was like
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a magical unicorn of women that came
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together at the right time
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in everybody's right place in their life
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to really support each other and really
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add value. And it has probably been.
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One of the most important things in my career
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in the last year and a half, the thing that has expanded
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my business, my life,
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my everything, my
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bank account, all of it. And
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it, and it comes down to the fact that
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like, yes, we're all professionals,
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we're all, you know, have, are
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entrepreneurs, but also like, and
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we're all women.
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But we also just really like each
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other and really like there
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is a real friendship there, and
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that doesn't always happen in every
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networking group that you're in or every situation
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that you're in.
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I feel similarly with my
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Bunco group that that started a year ago.
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Like those friendships really. Improved
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the quality of my life over
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the last year. And I'm not
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a person. I'm not like I, I often will see
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like in the mom Facebook groups where women are like,
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I need friends. Is anybody looking for a friend?
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I'm not that person. I have friends.
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I have many, many, many
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dear friends. actually rebranding
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best friend to dear friend because
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I don't want to rate
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or like what's the word? Like, yeah, I don't want to
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like.
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Of friendship.
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Yeah, there's no hierarchy. I just have many, many dear
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friends and I'm very fortunate
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in that I've got dear friends that came
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from my childhood and I still talk to
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regularly. I have new friends, I
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have medium friends, I have situational
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friends, activity friends. I
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enjoy people a lot, which is why I've chosen
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the professions that I've chosen. But, just having
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these connections with like regular
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communication with these people has
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really, really, really improved
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my quality of life, and I'm very happy.
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With that, which actually
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those two groups has motivated a new
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endeavor. Colleen and I are working on the InspireHER
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Collective which I've created one in
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San Luis Obispo. She's opening a chapter in Indianapolis,
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and we're fine tuning how we can push
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this out to. More
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people to help them establish
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these groups that hopefully will uplift and
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bring more value to your lives as well. Kind of around
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this talking point of like surround yourself
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with the women in authority, the leaders
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so that you can rise because God,
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I have felt so much confidence. Rising
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and I'm in a room reiterating
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what Susie's told me or what Jen has said or what
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Colleen said, I'm in a room here
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saying these things and people are looking at me like, smokes,
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you're so smart. You're so amazing. And I'm like,
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I'm just ripping off and duplicating at this point,
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and amazing
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that I have surrounded myself with these people
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that have given me so much knowledge
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and
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insights.
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Well, I think you can take credit for the fact that you
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have surrounded yourself with those people and that you
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recognize the strengths that are
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around you and. This
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is where, you know, I feel like I
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can add some, a dimension for
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you youngins, because the
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older I get, the more I, the
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more I just appreciate,
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frankly appreciate and surrender to
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how little I know. You
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know, and I think when you
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can grow in your humility about
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that, not a like, and I,
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I love the definition of humility that
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CS Lewis says,
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humility is not thinking less
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of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.
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That when we think about ourselves less,
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the more you can really appreciate
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and absorb and. Just
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suck up like a sponge. All the strengths
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of the people around you, because it
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really is that beautiful,
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you know, multifaceted life that we
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can need that just helps us get
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through this very difficult
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existence. No matter what you're going
9:39
through, we, you know, it just,
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it's hard, man. Life is hard
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and it. Surrounding
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yourself with at least a handful
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of people you can trust and
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lean on who can bolster
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you up. I mean, I've called each of you
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and I've been like, uh,
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Yeah.
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not gonna make any money. Or,
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you know, I call their friends
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and when I'm really in
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a dark place and say, I don't want live
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anymore, you know, those are, if you
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don't have anybody there, which. I
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know there are a lot of people in that circumstance,
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and that just makes me really
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overwhelmingly emotional because what
10:23
a sad life when you don't have people
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you can trust and.
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Yeah, and I, I really love what
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you said about. Intentionally
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putting yourself in those places and intentionally
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choosing those people. Because
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sometimes, we'll we will be like,
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oh, well I'm in this group and I just happen
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to be in this group. And you know,
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you kind of like think,
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oh, well it's just chance, but no,
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like, it's very intentional
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and it can be very intentional Who.
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It should be who you're choosing to
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spend your time with. And we talked
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to Despi Mayes about like energy management,
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and I think that is so important.
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You know, I leave every time I talk to you
11:06
guys or every time I leave one of our CMC
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meetings or, or this podcast
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or whatever, and I am fulfilled
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and I am happy and I'm
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confident I might leave
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going, oh wow, I can be better or
11:21
whatever.
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But. I never leave
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feeling like shit. And
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I think we need to really use
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that as a barometer of how we're spending our time
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and who we're spending our time with. Like
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if you're leaving a situation or
11:36
a conversation or whatever,
11:38
with with, with the feeling
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of. Low
11:43
self-worth or ugliness
11:45
or ickiness. Like, sometimes
11:47
you can't even put a word to it and you're just like, I
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didn't feel, I don't feel great
11:52
after that interaction. Like, talk
11:55
about this, but like, it's okay to just not
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hang out with those people. I'm having
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a situation right now where.
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A friendship where I feel like that friendship is evolving
12:06
as I evolve and,
12:09
and sometimes, and I'm having, and I've been talking to
12:11
Cheryl about this and, and she was just like,
12:13
is this, is this friendship
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serving you anymore? And I
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think sometimes it's hard to.
12:20
I also mentioned to my husband, he's like, well, maybe
12:22
you just don't need to be friends with that person anymore. I was like, yeah,
12:25
I can see that. But it's also, I feel like I've invested
12:27
so much time and energy into
12:29
this friendship that I should hold
12:31
onto it. And so it's not easy
12:34
to let those things go, but I think,
12:36
you know, when you, and it might
12:38
take time, but you know when you need to.
12:41
When it might not be, like, you don't need to
12:43
break up necessarily. Maybe you just take
12:45
a step back and you like slowly let it fizzle.
12:48
And if you realize
12:50
you miss it, then you can reignite
12:54
it. And if you don't, or
12:56
maybe you'll see that that person really isn't even
12:58
putting in effort. That's the other thing, like is
13:00
it a mutual, know,
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there's, the friendships aren't always mutual the
13:05
way. But you might need it
13:07
to be, I can't. I mean, there's so many
13:10
serving like people that just
13:12
come from a place of service and like they want
13:15
to pour into their friendships and they give
13:17
and give and give and then that person
13:19
needs something and they just, I. Don't
13:22
get the same back. That's
13:24
so heartbreaking. Like one of my very dear friends
13:27
is that person where she will give and give and give
13:29
and give and give and give. And then I
13:31
watch and I try to give and give and give
13:33
to her because I can see that's her love language.
13:36
And I so often see other friends
13:38
in her life that aren't, and she very often
13:41
feels taken advantage of. And it's like heartbreaking
13:44
to see that. To your point, Colleen,
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it's the, you know, the
13:49
cliche quote, like, people come into your life for
13:51
a reason, a season or a lifetime.
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Not every friend is gonna be a lifetime friend.
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are, some are, and some are gonna serve
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a season, and some are gonna be there
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for a lesson.
14:03
Yeah.
14:04
I think the older I get, the more I, I
14:06
see the seasons of my life, you
14:08
know, that like people do.
14:13
Serve you and you serve them during
14:15
certain seasons, and
14:17
they're going to be the people who ride out
14:20
the seasons, and then they're going to be the people
14:22
who don't. And that's
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okay. I think that that's the, like,
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you know, I've had a couple of friendships recently that
14:29
I've had to just let go of lot
14:31
long time friendships and
14:34
they have evolved to a new stage
14:37
or a different place. I
14:41
take the time to mourn that because
14:43
it is a, a death of
14:45
a sort, right? It's an it takes
14:48
adjusting and
14:50
then to like really welcome the next
14:53
season of whatever my life is
14:55
gonna be. But especially in
14:57
this move from
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New Jersey to Pennsylvania, I have really
15:02
embraced the opportunity to let
15:04
go of a. Energy
15:07
draining relationships and it has
15:09
been the highlight
15:12
of this particular season. I,
15:14
I didn't even realize how it's
15:17
very akin to actually, when I moved from
15:19
New Northern New Jersey at one point to
15:21
North Carolina years and years ago, it
15:24
took a good six months or so to
15:27
adjust to. Absence
15:30
of the stress that comes from living in
15:32
a metro area, right? So like when
15:34
you live in a very congested
15:36
area and you deal with simple
15:39
things like the tyranny of parking,
15:42
I would call it, you know, like
15:44
that, driving around for half an hour
15:46
and wanting to leave your car in the street and cry
15:48
because you. Moving
15:52
to a place where there's just parking lots everywhere.
15:54
And like all those micro stresses that
15:56
you get used to, it's like going to the doctor and they
15:58
say, what's your level of pain? You
16:00
say, oh, it's normal. It's six.
16:02
You know, and they're like, that's not normal.
16:05
So I realized after being in North Carolina
16:07
for a while, everyone was so nice
16:09
and everyone was just at a slower pace.
16:12
And you know, I deal with
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and. And
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I feel like it's the same way here where
16:20
I am now, just
16:23
kind of breathing in a different air
16:25
of relationships. You know, like
16:27
only allowing the people
16:30
that are, I don't think
16:32
the, for me, it's about serving
16:34
me, but the relationships
16:37
that are fruitful and productive
16:40
and healthy, the
16:42
relationships where it's not unbalanced,
16:45
where it. Just
16:48
a drain, like you were saying, Colleen,
16:50
like that, it's that I leave a conversation
16:53
or where I feel
16:55
like someone just asked me the other day what my
16:57
Achilles heel is, and my
16:59
Achilles heel is not being understood,
17:02
not feeling understood, or being misunderstood,
17:05
Yeah.
17:06
especially when you're in a relationship and
17:08
the two of you know this about me. What
17:12
you see is what you get. I'm all out there.
17:14
I'm super willing to be vulnerable.
17:17
I give of myself really freely. And so
17:19
when people don't receive that in
17:22
the spirit that I offer
17:24
it and you know, if they
17:26
take my forthrightness
17:29
to be something other than it
17:31
is, or, you know get
17:34
hurt when I say things
17:36
that I don't mean to be hurtful or whatever
17:38
the case may be, that I feel. That's
17:41
so painful and like I
17:45
just, I don't really want those people in
17:47
my life anymore. I don't want people, I
17:49
absolutely want to grow and learn,
17:52
right? All of us should. It's
17:54
not fun. I don't wanna see, get
17:56
criticism, but when I
17:58
receive it in love, I re I
18:00
respect that. I want, that. I wanna
18:02
grow all day long. But
18:05
if it's a, like, you
18:07
know. I
18:09
wish you hadn't done that. That was really mean, or
18:12
that was not nice. What?
18:16
You know, why did you do that? I
18:18
think that happens what, even in our marriages,
18:20
right? Like, I've been married now
18:23
for 24 years
18:25
in a couple weeks and. I
18:27
still have to say to my husband like, stop
18:30
getting so defensive. I'm not
18:32
trying to hurt your feelings. I'm just
18:34
speaking the truth. And like, I want you to
18:37
grow. Right? And of course I can
18:39
learn to say things differently, but
18:42
anyway, now I'm rambling. But I just, I
18:44
really think there's a beauty in
18:47
filtering your friendships.
18:49
and I think there is also
18:53
this, like we've said, said it now a couple times,
18:56
like just how you continue to grow and evolve.
19:00
You can decide whether your friendships,
19:02
and this is a perfect example with a marriage,
19:05
right? Like you see marriages
19:07
fall apart because of people grow apart, right?
19:10
Or you see marriages stay together because
19:12
the people evolve
19:14
with each other and are willing to have those conversations
19:17
and willing to have, you
19:20
know, that friendship. Like when it
19:22
comes down to marriage, I love
19:24
my husband so much, but what I say is that, that
19:26
we are really good friends too,
19:29
right? And, and
19:31
that takes work and that takes.
19:34
Evolution and that takes conversations
19:37
that are not always right?
19:41
And that, but that's all real friendship. And I think
19:43
one of the things that I heard years
19:45
ago about relationships, and I think it, it was about,
19:48
you know, like romantic relationships, but also
19:50
I think it has a lot to do with friendships
19:52
is don't
19:55
expect one person to
19:57
fulfill all of your needs.
20:00
Like, that's unrealistic.
20:02
My therapist had to tell me that. When
20:05
Alex and I were in early in couples therapy,
20:08
and because Alex and I started.
20:10
Therapy together when we were together
20:12
for six months. Not because we had a problem really,
20:15
but I, that's when I was diagnosed with the kidney disease,
20:17
we did terminate the pregnancy. We went
20:19
through a lot of grief and loss together things
20:21
got really hard. And so we started therapy
20:24
so that we could have tools
20:26
to get through the next hard part rather
20:28
than waiting till the fucking wheels were falling
20:30
off. Which, you know, they eventually did,
20:32
but at least we had some tools to get through it. But
20:34
she told me, she's like, he can't be everything.
20:37
Like he can't be, he can't be
20:39
all those things for you, Cheryl. You need more
20:41
people. And I didn't under, I
20:43
guess I, I don't know why I thought that my
20:46
partner was supposed to be that,
20:48
Yeah. And.
20:49
now I, he is one of my closest
20:52
dearest friends. I mean, I want
20:54
to spend all my time with him if I could.
20:57
And. But sometimes I
20:59
forget to tell 'em things 'cause I've told all my other friends things
21:02
and I'm like, oh yeah, we not talking about that. I
21:04
have put other people in place
21:06
And sometimes you have to have those other people
21:09
just like you would.
21:10
I don't,
21:10
I, it's a ugly metaphor, but like a
21:12
toolbox, right? When you're like,
21:14
listen, I really need somebody to like
21:17
encourage me. I. It might not
21:19
be your spouse. It, it could be,
21:21
but it might not be. It might be your girlfriend that you call up
21:23
and you're like, listen, I just nailed
21:26
this photo.
21:26
Shoot. Check out my photos, X, Y,
21:29
and Z. And they're gonna be like, yes, girl, you freaking
21:31
killed it. your husband's like, wow,
21:33
those look really nice. And you're like, Hmm, that's
21:35
not exactly the response I wanted. Or
21:38
you know, like, it
21:40
was so funny. We did this Cheryl and I did our
21:42
first webinar and Susie was on
21:44
and I texted her afterwards and I was like. I'm
21:47
super confident person. Right. And
21:50
I texted her afterwards, I was like, Hey, how'd I do? Did I sound
21:52
smart? Because I felt nervous
21:54
about that, you know? And,
21:56
but I knew that, I knew that if I texted
21:58
Susie, she'd be like, she'd
22:02
gimme the real deal. But in like the kindest,
22:04
most productive way,
22:06
you know? And I think, you
22:08
know, as we get older
22:10
and. the answer was yes. You totally
22:12
smart just to.
22:14
Yeah, thank you. But I think as we get, as
22:16
you, I don't wanna keep saying
22:18
older, like as you continue to grow as a person,
22:20
and by the way, everyone who's listening, Susie
22:22
keeps saying she's old. She's not
22:24
old at all. Like I don't want people thinking
22:27
here, like you're sort of like
22:29
elderly
22:30
I mean, I'm 54 and
22:32
totally proud of it, but just saying,
22:34
you know, with age comes experience
22:37
and wisdom and so like, you know, there is something
22:39
to it.
22:40
but it's.
22:40
I don't downplay
22:41
Putting
22:42
all those tools together as you continue
22:44
to go through life, right? Like
22:46
we are
22:47
often expected to have
22:49
it all together
22:51
right away,
22:53
and
22:54
I wanna, I wanna touch on something you
22:56
said Colleen, about actually
22:58
both of you, about just having other people around
23:01
you, not just your husband, because it makes
23:03
me think of another CS Lewis quote or
23:05
why I'm quoting him so much today. But this is part
23:08
of a sermon that I heard years and years
23:10
ago about why we need to be in community.
23:14
Our faith walk because
23:16
he was talking about how his friendships with
23:18
like JR Tolkien and his, what
23:21
they called the inklings, this group of writers
23:23
said when one of them died, they
23:26
expected that they would get to spend more
23:28
time with the other people and then get to know them
23:30
better. But in fact, they
23:32
knew them less because the perspective
23:34
that that person brought about
23:37
each other was unique.
23:39
And I just think that's such a beautiful
23:42
reminder that. The
23:44
more we surround ourselves with people
23:46
who give us different perspectives, the
23:48
better we learn about our, you know, the more we
23:50
learn about ourselves and about the people around
23:53
us, right? Because they, they just see different
23:55
things. They see different aspects
23:57
of you and bring out different things in you.
24:00
But I do find that like the, you know, this,
24:03
it also made me think just to get off on another.
24:06
Tangent makes me think that this is also
24:08
why we all need a personal
24:10
mission statement. Like, you know, I'm always talking
24:13
in my coaching about how important it's to have
24:15
your mission statement for work. I
24:17
think the more you know yourself
24:20
and what your purpose is and what your
24:22
values are, the better
24:25
you can filter the people around you
24:27
so that you can actually
24:29
have people that are. In
24:32
the same lane, you know, in the same, at least
24:34
in the same street, not
24:36
going to multiple different destinations.
24:38
And I think we do this sort of subconsciously,
24:42
but sometimes we don't. Sometimes
24:44
because of circumstances, like we're in the same
24:46
dorm or we're in the same job, or we're
24:48
all moms. We collect
24:50
people that are not in that same.
24:54
Right. And then it's hard to let
24:56
them go. And I have found
24:58
that like when I moved here, I said to my sister,
25:01
you may just be my only friend here because
25:04
my criteria has now become, if
25:07
you aren't super substantive
25:10
and or super funny. Then
25:13
I'm not gonna spend time with you because
25:16
I just don't have the energy anymore. You
25:18
know, like I don't, I don't want that. I don't
25:20
wanna just collect people in my life and
25:23
fill up my nights. That's not interesting to me.
25:25
So, you know, I've been able to like
25:27
whittle down to what's really important. I do
25:29
have friends, not local
25:32
like you guys who are just so
25:34
substantive. Right? That's the other thing, like
25:36
the more meaningful
25:39
relations you have, the C Chos,
25:41
you
25:41
Yeah.
25:43
You let in.
25:44
For sure. Cheryl mentioned
25:46
this analogy the other night in our webinar
25:48
about like a sieve and like filtering
25:51
out stuff. And so
25:53
I had a similar situation where obviously I moved
25:55
from California to here. Right. And
25:57
I had two friends here. Two
26:00
friends, and that's it. No family,
26:02
two friends. And I really
26:04
had to. You
26:06
know, as much as as, as an as
26:09
enthusiastic as I am and outgoing
26:12
as I am at
26:14
my core, I'm really like an introverted person,
26:16
which I think is, or like an introvert, like I think
26:19
that that is something people would never think about me. But
26:21
as a child, I was very shy
26:23
and whatever. But I really
26:25
had to go out and I've had this
26:27
conversation with a friend of mine. She's like, I, why
26:29
don't people. Call me or
26:31
whatever, you know? And I'm like, sometimes you just
26:33
have to be the person that,
26:35
that puts yourself out there constantly
26:39
at the start. And
26:41
then through your sieve you
26:44
start to filter out, right?
26:47
So you open up, like if you're in a new place. 'cause there's
26:49
gonna be, there's lots of people who are like, I don't have any friends.
26:51
How do I make friends? And it's like.
26:53
Well, you gotta go out there and you gotta
26:55
talk to people and you have to be the one that's initiating
26:58
the conversations. And you have to be the one who
27:00
is interested enough in other people
27:02
to ask them about themselves. And
27:05
then you start to see like,
27:07
who are my people?
27:09
And, and I really believe this 'cause I'm
27:11
a kid who moved around a lot when
27:14
I was growing up and I became like an expert
27:16
at friend making because of that. And
27:19
the first person that you connect with
27:21
may not be. Your
27:23
best friend, right? But that might
27:25
be the starting point. And they might be
27:27
a really lovely person, but you
27:29
know, they might not be the person who's
27:31
going to be your person.
27:33
So you just keep evolving and you keep
27:36
kind of finding people and finding
27:38
friends. And until you get to the point where,
27:40
where you're at, Susie, where you're like, I, no,
27:43
not you. I know. I know you already. No, not
27:45
you already. I know not you already, but you,
27:47
you look interesting. I'm gonna feel you
27:49
out.
27:50
Well, not everybody. Not everybody might
27:52
not end up being like
27:54
Susie, Susie could walk through the house she's living
27:56
in for five minutes and knew she was gonna buy
27:58
it. just a very fast processor
28:01
and that might not be how everybody, where
28:03
everybody gets, but I think when
28:05
like creating these new friendships.
28:08
Making these connections. I think it's
28:10
important to remember that we all need to
28:12
start with an open heart and an
28:14
open mind when we're making these connections.
28:17
And just like, and then just see
28:19
what happens. Like just come
28:22
with your truest intentions and your best intentions
28:24
and have an open mind and understand like this
28:26
new person that you're being exposed to. Like I,
28:29
I literally could be friends
28:31
with anybody because I. I
28:34
am able to understand that like
28:36
that person's unique path took
28:38
them to where they are and has made them that person.
28:40
And I probably have something I could learn
28:42
from them or enjoy. Now
28:45
there are like literally on, I could count
28:47
on one hand the number of people that I'm like, yeah, I don't actually
28:49
would, I don't think I'd really wanna be their friend or I
28:51
couldn't enjoy a friendly conversation
28:54
with them, let's put it that way. But
28:56
it's, it's 'cause I have an open heart and open
28:58
mind and it's not like. I'll
29:00
be best friends with everybody, but I will
29:02
be friendly with like 98%
29:05
of the world. And sometimes
29:07
being friendly leads to like brand new friendships at
29:09
38. Like I'm making new friends constantly
29:12
and hear
29:14
so often how hard it's to make adult
29:16
friendships.
29:18
I'm the opposite in that I really, I'm
29:20
like Colleen, like I, I've only recently
29:23
discovered, I think I am probably
29:25
more of an introvert than I thought.
29:28
I really love being with people who give
29:30
me energy, but I hate
29:32
small talk. You guys probably know that about
29:34
me, and in fact, I have
29:38
little social anxiety about it. Hate
29:42
small talk. I'm just
29:44
I don't think I have a lot of small talk. I
29:46
think I dive right past small
29:48
Well, that's the thing. I think if it's
29:50
like book, I don't like the book
29:53
in the first 20 pages,
29:55
then I'm gonna put it down
29:58
and I kind of feel that way about people.
30:00
If I can't have a real conversation
30:03
with somebody in the first. I
30:06
don't know, 10 minutes, then it's,
30:08
and like you can, you can feel chemistry, right?
30:10
Like, and, and don't get me wrong, I've been wrong
30:13
about a lot of people. My instincts
30:15
are not that great. But and, and
30:17
I would say at the same time, even though
30:19
I'm different from you in that way,
30:21
where ultimately I'm gonna sift out a lot. I
30:25
am constantly surprised and
30:27
you two are a perfect example.
30:30
I'm surprised and I allow my, I love
30:33
being surprised by the friendships that
30:35
I'm making even now. You know, like
30:38
I don't expect to be make, I think
30:40
in my thirties I was like, I don't
30:42
need anymore friends, guys. You
30:44
know? Like, I've got enough and they're really
30:46
good friends. I'm good. And
30:50
I am one of those people who was like, I
30:52
could have just one child because I wanna
30:54
pour into that person and every child
30:56
fractures my attention. You know,
30:59
I do have two kids. I'm grateful for them and
31:01
I love them, but like, I like, I
31:03
like concentration and so
31:05
I'm fine with just having a few friends
31:08
and just in the past
31:10
10 years, I. So
31:17
dear to me. Do you know? And
31:20
I just think that is so delightful.
31:22
Like it's so delightful.
31:25
I, think it's really funny
31:27
that you're like, I can talk to somebody in 10 minutes and
31:29
then be like, bye, because
31:31
I am kind
31:33
of like.
31:34
And I do. I'm like, bye, I gotta
31:36
bye. So I always tell this
31:38
story, my best friend
31:40
Shelby who I've talked about, we've been friends
31:42
for 20 years. She was the one
31:45
friend my, that lived here, one
31:48
of the two.
31:49
And the first time I met her, I tell the story
31:51
all the time. I was 19 years old, and
31:54
so we've been friends longer than 20 years. She's really
31:56
short and blonde. I
31:58
am not either of those things. And
32:01
I met her in the parking lot of our, of my
32:03
sophomore year before we were going into our class,
32:06
and she came up to me and she's like, hi, I'm Shelby.
32:08
Are you going into the class? And I was like, who
32:11
is this bitch Like.
32:14
Yeah, away from me. You
32:17
are a cheerleader girl
32:19
type thing, and I am.
32:21
You're very bubbly. And
32:23
I am really cool and
32:26
not that, and
32:28
I don't like you like,
32:31
and she knows this right. But
32:35
what I will say that I have learned is that I
32:37
will sometimes make a judgment about somebody, or
32:39
have done this in the past, where you make this initial judgment
32:41
about somebody and then they
32:43
start to kind of, I. Peel the
32:45
onion, if you will. Right. And
32:48
you start to kind of peel your onion
32:50
and you realize like, oh, actually, oh
32:53
wow, she's really cool. She's really
32:55
funny. Like,
32:56
mm-Hmm.
32:57
are some social veneers that we put
32:59
on initially, and a lot of people do
33:01
this. And so I,
33:03
I sometimes you have to get. You
33:06
have, Cheryl's great at this.
33:07
She's like, no bullshit. She gets right down to it.
33:10
She's like very real and you are
33:12
too Suzy. Like very real about like
33:14
who they are initially, right? But not
33:16
everybody is like that. And I find
33:19
sometimes if you're willing
33:21
to spend a little
33:23
bit more time, you can find some, some
33:25
really cool people who might have a little bit of like social.
33:28
Awkwardness or social anxiety
33:31
or something like, she was coming
33:33
into being really bubbly 'cause she was so
33:35
nervous. Like we joke all the time that she,
33:38
she always gets like really flustered and nervous
33:40
and like awkward in situations and we're like,
33:42
what are you doing? Like, be cool.
33:45
Like chill out. You're embarrassing because she's
33:47
so cool.
33:49
As I said, I'm often wrong. Like
33:52
I have more than one situation and one
33:54
very recently. So I don't know what the lesson
33:57
is here other than like, you know,
33:59
don't listen to me. But I recently
34:01
met this woman and I was like, oh gosh, not
34:03
my people. Totally. In
34:06
the first five minutes was like, bye-bye,
34:09
gotta go. And over the course
34:11
of the next few days, she
34:13
became one of my favorite people. Right. That happens
34:15
to me a lot. So I
34:17
do think there's, there
34:20
are times when I can sense
34:22
that it's gonna be too awkward, the conversation
34:25
isn't flowing, it's gonna be difficult, but
34:27
then yeah, like everybody's got a story.
34:29
And so that's why I say
34:32
like, you. While I do feel
34:34
like I can make quick judgements
34:36
about people, I'm also in the camp
34:38
of stay open and have
34:41
an open heart and mind because people
34:43
surprise you all the time
34:45
there's no science
34:46
And that's delightful.
34:48
There's no science to this. There's no rule book.
34:51
Is.
34:52
No
34:53
She just hasn't researched it yet.
34:55
There's.
34:56
Ask everything
35:03
I love,
35:03
do think though, just even in that story that
35:06
I just told about this person I just met,
35:08
it ultimately gets down to once I
35:10
found the Venn diagram
35:13
of our values and our
35:16
personalities, then it made sense.
35:18
Do you know what I mean? Like you
35:20
just ha, like you said, you have to peel
35:22
back enough. You have to allow that
35:24
enough, and sometimes it doesn't happen. But
35:28
yeah, just being open to that possibility
35:30
is. Is really
35:32
lovely. I think no matter
35:35
what age or stage you're in, you
35:38
can always be finding people that
35:40
add something to your life and vice
35:42
versa.
35:45
Well, and let's talk about friendships in
35:47
like very busy seasons of life, because
35:50
I often see. people
35:53
like it's a good friendship and then people
35:56
get busy and it's like three weeks go by and they
35:58
haven't responded to your text and like how
36:00
easy it is. I guess going back to
36:02
our episode about taking things personally, how
36:04
easy it is to take it personally and be like, oh,
36:06
they're just, they don't wanna be my friend
36:08
anymore, or I don't know what I did to them. Like all
36:10
of a sudden I'm creating this narrative in my head
36:12
that this person's mad at me. Well, here's the thing. I
36:14
have two narratives I create when someone doesn't get back to me.
36:17
Number one, they're mad at me, but number two
36:19
in this, I go to this one more often is All
36:21
my friends must be planning me a surprise party nobody's
36:25
answering. So they're all
36:27
together planning me a surprise party.
36:29
That is not what I expected as your second
36:32
scenario.
36:32
And you know what,
36:33
That is the filter that I generally go to
36:35
first as like probably just
36:37
to protect myself.
36:38
and I hate a surprise party, by
36:41
the way. I don't wa
36:43
I don't,
36:44
I don't think I've ever had one. I know why. I think
36:46
everybody's planning me. One, I don't think I've ever
36:47
well, maybe you're gonna get one now, but
36:50
it's, that is.
36:51
Well, good luck trying to surprise me, though. I'm
36:53
very intuitive. Like I smell bullshit
36:56
a mile away. I can, I can kind of read
36:58
what's going on, but it's
37:01
very easy and I think most people
37:03
fall into the camp where they're like, I must have done something
37:05
wrong. And they start creating a story in their head where
37:07
we're in a fight, you know, for lack
37:09
of a, a better, more eloquent way of putting
37:12
it. Like, oh, they must be mad at me. We're in a fight
37:14
where if we could all stop. And
37:16
give our friends, these people that we've chosen
37:19
as our friends, the benefit of the doubt
37:22
that like, oh, maybe they've even typed a response
37:25
and they just didn't hit send. Like, how often
37:27
does that happen? You know? Or
37:29
it's just like if we could slow down and
37:31
realize, like look at the life
37:33
that I'm like, I look at the life I have right now,
37:36
like it's fucking chaos all of
37:38
the time. Of course,
37:40
that person is the main character
37:42
in their story, and they're probably having chaos
37:44
too, so. To like slow
37:46
down and give that person the benefit of the doubt
37:48
and realize like while maybe this friendship
37:50
isn't feeling balanced right at this moment, I
37:53
maybe need some grace for that person who may
37:55
be having chaos over there on their
37:57
side of the, the story. So, I
38:00
would definitely encourage people to slow
38:03
down and give the benefit of the doubt
38:05
to people when you start to feel like the
38:08
victim. I also don't want you guys to feel
38:10
like the victim take control of your life.
38:12
I also think it would be nice if we could all
38:14
agree to, um, be
38:17
people who tell people when there's something
38:19
wrong. So like, you
38:21
know, I have a, a relatively new friendship
38:23
where she is.
38:26
It does jump to those conclusions. But
38:28
then she said to me, but I'm really
38:31
receiving that If there's something
38:33
wrong, you'll tell me. I was like, oh
38:35
yes, I'll, because I'm physically
38:38
incapable of not telling
38:40
you like it is a, it
38:42
is a strength and a weakness
38:45
of mine that I cannot not
38:48
tell you if something's bothering me. So
38:51
I think if we can all like, not
38:54
just to get it off our chest, but. In
38:56
the spirit of making sure that we're all
38:58
breeding healthy relationships, if we as
39:00
women can agree
39:04
to not be so afraid of
39:07
any potential conflict, like people say to
39:09
me all the time, oh, you like conflict. Nobody
39:11
likes conflict. That's just ridiculous.
39:14
But I'm not afraid of it. I'm not
39:16
afraid of it, and I don't avoid it because
39:20
I. There's no point
39:22
in that, right? Like if you do avoid the conflict,
39:24
it's gonna come out some other way. So
39:28
Worse.
39:28
all I, I just really hope that we
39:31
can grow in like, especially
39:33
women, but I know this is true for men
39:35
too, but it would be great if we could
39:37
just teach our children too. Like this is
39:39
another thing I try to teach
39:42
my kids to not hold on to things
39:46
and of course, express them in healthy and
39:48
productive ways. But also
39:50
don't fall into the societal
39:52
trap of just avoiding conflict
39:55
at all costs.
39:57
Yeah.
39:58
I think that this would be really helpful
40:00
framework too, is to tell,
40:02
like to be able to tell someone like I'm
40:05
feeling, I'm feeling upset, I'm feeling overwhelmed.
40:07
I'm feeling like this is an issue
40:09
for me. I'm not ready to talk about
40:11
it right now. Like I need to collect my thoughts on
40:13
it. So I'm gonna take a little bit of space while I do that.
40:15
Like that's also really, and,
40:18
and do take the pause before you
40:20
have the talk. Like don't be
40:22
angry and fly off the handle, like, and
40:24
do irre irreparable
40:26
damage. So
40:29
I think I'm like so fortunate. I dated
40:31
the same guy from the time I was 14 to 21
40:33
on and off. You know, we were obviously had a lot of growing up
40:35
and immaturity in that time. And I remember
40:38
the first fights we had, like when
40:40
we were really young, they were just so hot
40:42
and like angry and we'd
40:44
say things we shouldn't have said. I,
40:47
over that seven year period,
40:49
we really learned to fight more healthfully
40:52
and like disagree and have our conflict better.
40:54
And I feel like it has really, and then obviously
40:57
years of therapy, but it has really, it put
40:59
me ahead of the game. 'cause by 21
41:01
I had spent seven years learning
41:04
how to have conflict and then
41:06
move past it because you
41:08
can move past conflict
41:09
Yep. And you should, I. mean,
41:12
life is conflict, right? Life
41:14
is full of conflict. And if, and
41:16
that's what I like. I was on the board of Ed in our
41:18
old community and I said, part
41:21
I said to my husband one time, it is a good thing
41:23
that I'm not afraid of conflict because
41:25
it is nothing but conflict. Something
41:28
like that, right? And frankly, it's
41:30
nothing but conflict in real estate. It
41:32
nothing but conflict in families.
41:35
So if you don't learn how to deal with conflict,
41:38
then you're always gonna have unhealthy relationships.
41:41
Yeah. And figuring out what works for you too.
41:43
Like this situation that I'm having
41:45
where this person told me this really mean thing
41:47
the other day and I was like, well, why'd you tell
41:49
me that? But for me, I.
41:52
I wasn't ready to talk to her fully about that
41:54
because I was so hurt and I was so angry
41:58
and disappointed. I talked
42:00
to Cheryl about it. I talked to my husband about
42:02
it, and I talked to my friend Shelby about it, and
42:04
I needed to talk through it with people enough
42:07
for myself. I need to talk
42:09
through it and say I'm upset. This hurt
42:11
me this. To a point where
42:14
it didn't bother me anymore, and
42:16
now I feel like I can go back and talk to that person
42:19
and be like, listen, what you said was really hurtful
42:21
to me, but the hurt isn't
42:23
there anymore for me. I'm who
42:26
needs to. Verbally
42:29
say things to other people so
42:31
that I can get my communication across somebody
42:33
who's not gonna judge me, who's not gonna be upset
42:36
by what I'm saying, who can just hear me.
42:38
And you know, it's kind of just like word vomit,
42:41
but I wanna be like, listen, I'm really upset. This really upset
42:43
me and blah, blah, blah. And it took me, it took me
42:45
multiple conversations with, with three different
42:47
people that I trusted to.
42:50
And a lot of them were just like, a lot
42:53
of it was them telling me stuff, but also them
42:55
just listening. And then I think. Again,
42:57
going back to friendships, having those
42:59
people who can do that for
43:01
you and with you in
43:04
your life, and for me, I'm very lucky that I have
43:06
so many people who are willing to do that. Like
43:09
that makes me a better person and that makes
43:11
me a better friend, and that
43:14
makes me a better professional at what I'm
43:16
doing, you know, going. Very first quote
43:18
that Cheryl talked about about, you know,
43:21
having this group of really
43:23
high level executive accomplished
43:26
women is
43:30
the thing that continues to push me
43:32
higher and higher and higher in my career,
43:34
in my life.
43:36
Because the perspective you're getting from those
43:39
women is, is
43:41
different and above. Like, I like think about this
43:43
scenario you've painted, like you talked to three different people
43:45
about this scenario. Let's go back to high school.
43:48
A high school friendship. Like, you know what,
43:50
how that would've been received. Well, she was talking shit.
43:53
She, she talked shit to these three different
43:55
people and she was talking behind my back. 38-year-old,
43:58
Cheryl knows that
44:00
even if say I'm the person in
44:02
the wrong and my friends are discussing me,
44:05
they're processing. And that's fair.
44:08
That is totally fair. And I'm always teaching the au pairs
44:10
that like. You know,
44:12
like they're gonna, like, that person's gonna need to have somebody
44:15
to talk to about this. And it's totally normal.
44:17
And like it's all part of just processing it and
44:19
being okay with it, and then getting to a place where
44:21
you can then deal with it. Like
44:23
you have to, you have to take the sting
44:25
off of it before you're gonna be able to have a productive
44:27
conversation. And it's like in our marriages
44:30
or any friendship, any relationship, when
44:33
it gets. Hot
44:35
and angry, it's time to take a break
44:37
because you physiologically
44:39
need to take that 20 minutes to
44:42
reduce your blood pressure and get out
44:44
of the fight or flight stage and like
44:46
let, like
44:47
I think this is a really great topic for a future
44:51
episode is dealing with conflict, like
44:53
healthy ways to deal with conflict. I know you guys
44:55
have touched on it in various ways in your
44:57
episodes, but I was also thinking,
44:59
Colleen, about what you were saying because I just recently
45:02
had a conversation with somebody hurt my feelings
45:04
and a big aha for
45:06
me, which I feel like I should have learned way before
45:08
this. Is, and this is like
45:10
something what that I say to my husband all the time,
45:12
like, why are you treating me? Like I'm,
45:14
I don't love you. Do you know? Like, you know,
45:16
I'm coming at you from a place of love.
45:18
So when I, when this other person hurt
45:21
me, what I finally was
45:23
able to say to her was, you really hurt
45:25
me, and you're not a hurtful person.
45:27
So I'm confused, you
45:29
know, like if you're friends with
45:31
this person, then
45:34
you're friends with them. Because
45:37
of their good qualities. Not, you
45:39
know, like they're not, if
45:41
they are hurtful people, then you shouldn't be friends
45:43
with them anyway. They're like,
45:46
you know, people who are going to like stab
45:48
you in the front, then that's not someone
45:50
you want in your life. So
45:53
I think it's just, it was so helpful for me
45:55
because then it really helped me approach the conversation
45:58
in a way it didn't, I don't know that it helped.
46:01
I think it did help her in that
46:03
it. Made her not feel attacked,
46:05
right? Because I said, you are not a person who would
46:08
intentionally hurt me. And
46:10
so I just want you to know that
46:12
you did something that was confusing
46:14
and and contrary to what I think you
46:16
would've intended, but you should
46:19
know that that was hurtful.
46:22
On that same. Yeah, on that
46:24
same avenue like these,
46:27
I've had two, I had two meaningful
46:29
relationships prior to my marriage, and
46:31
those two people are still dear
46:33
friends of mine. And when
46:36
some people, and I went to both of their weddings
46:38
and they both came to my wedding and. That's
46:41
confusing for people to see on the outside, and
46:43
I'm like, these people had qualities
46:45
that I love, I love,
46:47
and just because we decided that like we
46:50
weren't made to do the entire life together
46:53
doesn't mean that they don't still have qualities that
46:55
I absolutely love and, and admire
46:57
and hold dear to my heart. Like. Once
47:00
the pain goes away from a breakup,
47:02
like I want those people back in my
47:04
life. And I've been so fortunate
47:07
that those people also had those,
47:09
that strength that they could do the
47:11
same with me so that we can now carry.
47:13
'cause it is so fun to now, you know,
47:16
as things happen as an adult, like 20
47:18
years ago we were experiencing something like
47:20
this and now I can like send you the message and we can
47:22
have a good laugh about it and. I
47:24
don't wanna say goodbye. I don't like ending friendships
47:27
unless they no longer serve me. That's,
47:30
and that's I guess, when we would end one
47:33
Yeah, I think I, I tend to
47:35
end friendships that are outright
47:37
hurtful, you know, in some
47:39
way. Not that they're trying to hurt you, but
47:41
that it's not, yeah,
47:45
that's not, not serving me, but just.
47:47
It's actually negative in some,
47:49
some way, or if like, trust
47:52
has been broken, Right.
47:54
that's that's a.
47:56
Well, and, and also like we talked
47:58
about this, but like, not the hierarchy,
48:01
but sort of like somebody can be your
48:03
friend and they can, you can be so close to them because
48:05
of a situation like say, work or whatever,
48:08
and your life changes. You
48:11
don't have to stop being friends with them, but you might be
48:13
friends with them on like a different level,
48:16
different, you know, like you're
48:18
maybe not calling them every single day,
48:20
but maybe you're still talking to them
48:22
or you're still setting them funny memes, or you're
48:24
still whatever, they're still your friend,
48:28
but there's harmonics of friendship,
48:30
right?
48:30
Like there's these different levels and
48:33
uh, you know, Shirley's like, I don't wanna.
48:36
Call everyone. You know, you don't wanna say best friend 'cause you don't wanna
48:38
rank them. And I'm like, I
48:41
call everybody my friend. And that bothers some
48:43
people. I'm like, yeah, my friend, blah, blah, blah.
48:45
And I met, uh, yesterday. I am a friend that
48:47
works down at the gas station, my friend at the gas
48:49
station that I take the kids to every day because
48:52
that's just who I am. But
48:54
you know, my friend at the gas station is not
48:56
the person I'm calling when.
48:59
You like a second grader? My
49:01
friend, my friend Bob, like you literally
49:04
call everybody your friend, like, what is
49:06
up with that? And I'm like, yeah, yeah, I'm my friends. Everybody's
49:08
my friend. I love it. What am I, what
49:10
I call this person? Oh, this is my that
49:13
I, you know.
49:16
I agree. Everybody's my friend too. I got friends
49:19
everywhere.
49:19
I use the word acquaintance a lot.
49:22
would
49:25
Listen my friend, if I call you my
49:27
friend, that means
49:29
That's the
49:29
way she is too. She's like, that's a really strong
49:31
word. I don't think you should be using it so often.
49:34
And I'm like, okay, well the other people
49:36
that are really, those are my best friends.
49:41
I used to. I mean, I still, I tell everybody
49:44
like, love you Kay, love you like and I mean it.
49:46
I love you in some capacity. My first
49:48
boyfriend that I was with all those years, he hated
49:50
that. He did not want me telling other people I loved
49:52
them. He was like, what? Why
49:55
do you love everybody? I'm like, well,
49:58
no. I love them differently than I love you,
50:00
but I still love them. I love
50:02
you. You know, but
50:04
I, I also love them.
50:08
It's the tone. It's, it's all in the
50:10
it.
50:10
Yeah. It's on the
50:11
Yeah. I.
50:15
you know? Okay.
50:18
Well thanks friends. That was
50:20
fun. Remind everybody
50:23
where they can, uh, follow along with your life
50:25
or get your coaching or buy real estate
50:27
Well, especially if you're a real
50:29
realtor with Compass, you can go to
50:33
rebusinessessentials.com and see
50:35
all about our programs. We're gonna be launching
50:37
a whole bunch of new, more
50:39
accessible things for people. So
50:43
you can find me there, or I am fighting
50:45
with Google to get my Google Business page back
50:47
up. But you can also find me on LinkedIn and
50:51
on. And
50:53
Facebook.
50:55
Susie, when is your next, you're in North
50:58
Carolina next, right? When is You're in rally. When's
51:00
your next 26th and 20th
51:02
of February in.
51:04
amazing. Everybody who's anywhere
51:06
near there
51:06
should go there. If you're
51:08
with Compass,
51:09
if you're not, you should just bang on the door on the outside
51:11
and like try to like listen because it's so
51:13
good.
51:15
Graduate style.
51:18
All right you guys. Well, thank you. Thank you,
51:20
and I'll
51:21
I love.
51:22
Love.
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