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Welcome

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back to What Have You, I'm

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Rachel Jankovic. I'm

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Becca Merkel. And here we are

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driving around in the hopes of

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keeping Ezra the snotty baby asleep

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in his car seat. So

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we're just rushing around on the highway

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right now. Yep.

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Yes. We have a

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pre-spring here. It's really... It's very exciting.

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It's good. Every sunny day right now

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feels a little more hopeful. It does.

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And every day is a little bit sunnier

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than the last if you think about just

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the amount of daylight. I know. Which

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is really noticeable now because it's still light at 5. I

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noticed it was light this morning before 7am.

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And these are really important. Great tidings. Yeah.

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These are the kinds of things that

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are important. I probably said this

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before but this is the time of year where

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if it is sunny you get out in it

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and go put your face in it, put your

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arms in it, get a moment. And

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then as I always tell my kids, and then

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when it's not a pretty day we don't notice

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it at all. We just... You

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only notice the things that look

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good. Don't

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notice that it's three days in a row

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of dreary gray rain. We don't notice that.

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But every day there's some new little exciting

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something. I mean my snowdrops are blooming

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and I

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saw little tips of tulips coming

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up. Oh that's fun. Not any

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of the hundreds that I planted

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though last fall. I planted so

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many bulbs under my waterbed of sod

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that I have seen no signs of

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any of them. And

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I'm really hoping that they actually can get

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out from under the sod. What if I

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suffocated them? Well,

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yeah, they're pretty. They're pretty. Well,

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but what if they aren't? If

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I put them under a pelt they can't

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bloom from under a pelt. I don't

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think it's really interesting when the tulips come up

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through a leaf. Through a leaf and the

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leaf is like a collar, like an Elizabethan

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rump going around. I don't know how they

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do that. I mean, because it

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doesn't make sense to me. You'd even think it would

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just slowly lift the whole leaf rather

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than punch through.

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But she does punch through.

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She sure does. I'm in a great

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cluster of trying to plant

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seeds and you'll

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all be in real time. In

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your early years. This morning

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was the first time of any of them coming

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up. But it was funny because I

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had a lot of time to plant it, but I

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haven't been having a little bit because it's quite chilly

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around. And some

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of the food was more like schooled

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and out of the show. So, you're going

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to take one of those stuff

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off and go, oh, when I

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woke up there was a

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tiny little order where you're like,

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hey, something's happening. And then by

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9 in the morning two little

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leaves. Like, shocking how

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fast it goes once it

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kicks off. I love that. It was very

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fun. Very fun to watch. I already

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told my goodness, but I'll

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tell all of the rest of you so that you can laugh

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at me in your heart. Which

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is that long stretch

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of life here where I have not been able

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to find any time to work out. And

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through my life I've had moments of

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you get in a different routine and this works for right

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now. But then somehow the

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situation changes and you just can't do

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that anymore. And

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since having Ezra, it's really not.

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There's not a lot of...I'm

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struggling with the full-time jobs

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I already have. So

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I haven't been to another

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one. But what really is extra of

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me is that I have started doing an

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hour a day. in

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the house of just

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cleaning up at a high speed. And

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because I'm Apple Watch, I'm just making

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sure that

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my heart rate is elevated and I'm like, so

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I'm running up and down the stairs. And I'll

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tell you, you guys, that's like

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a little look-see at

4:23

your life in a different

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way because typically, if

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I'm thinking I'm cleaning the house, like

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all day, I'm kind of trying

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to clean the house because everything in the

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house needs to be cleaned. And

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it's a lot of house. So all day, whatever

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you're doing, I was always

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on kind of a rhythm of, you know, you're like,

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today I cleaned out a bunch of drawers in the

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kitchen and you kind of, you know, you're just always

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doing that kind of thing. But when

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you give yourself an hour and you won't stop

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anywhere, so there's no going deep

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in any location because the

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not like, I'll check my email really

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quick or not like, oh, that reminds

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me that I meant to order this

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or I'm going to add this to my

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to do list. Now

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I should Google Dishmuth. Dishmuth

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or, you know, now I

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should quickly get my Walmart order

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going and then I'll do, there's a lot

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of things that you just can get distracted

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by. But when you're like, no, this hour,

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I'm actually just hoofing it

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around the house. And the thing is,

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it's incredibly wasteful energy

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wise. But not nearly as

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wasteful as getting on a treadmill because. Yeah,

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but also, did you know, did

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you know that it is actually a

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pretty decent heart elevating workout to

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walk at high speeds while trying

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to fold a queen duvet? And

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I had highlights making

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myself laugh because I am like so

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silly, like popping in to hang up

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when I lose shirts and

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doing it. and

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some jumping jacks. Running

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back out, doing the world's

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least efficient movements in

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truck, because laundry slows me down way too

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much because you just end up standing in one

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place. So I

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had all the mismatched socks all over the bed

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and I'd like run in there and grab two

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and match them and take them to someone's room.

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Super wasteful. However, after

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hardly any time, our house

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is so much cleaner because,

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because, at

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no other time would I be like, I

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happened into the living room, here's a Rubik's

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Cube. I would never be like, you know

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what I'm gonna do? I'm gonna run this

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up a flight of stairs and go put

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it on someone's bed, but lo, now I

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do. Now when I find a Rubik's Cube,

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I'm all over it. I'm gonna use the trademark

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just because, you know how like there was that

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prancer size? And then you

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had, this is like a cleanser size?

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What would be the cleanser size?

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Oh, oh, that's what this is.

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Well, you've never felt more foolish

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and also accomplished. It's

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actually the best thing ever, you guys.

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I was speed vacuuming. And

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like running the vacuum from one side of

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the house to the other. And

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it's actually the only way I'm gonna, I mean, at

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least it is actually killing two birds with

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one stone. And

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as I was telling Becca, the accountability for things

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that might be happening in other

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areas of our house has gone through the

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roof because formerly people

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would not assume, not

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that they're trying to hide things from me, but it's

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just not that every day I

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would not be making multiple trips to everyone's

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bedrooms and down to the basement and up

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to the, you know. I just remember, Mom

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had a book when we were kids.

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So we're talking like, we're in the 80s and

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it was called, Do I Dump to Raccoon First?

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And it was all illustrated with. these

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kind of cartoons and housewives doing things,

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but it was all too cute and

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all of it. It was like, how

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do I gain the will of the

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fridge? Yeah, uh-huh. Whatever.

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And it was like answering all of

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these questions about basic

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home making, you know, cleaning

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questions. And, um, but

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this illustration, I remember

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these cartoon ladies with roller

8:26

skates. Sweat bands? Yeah,

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sweat bands and like a... This is me? ...a

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tester in the back pocket. This is my new life. This

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is it. Oh, and I think a Walkman. I feel like

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a walkman. Oh, a Walkman.

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A Walkman on as they

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skated through the house. Well, it's

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outrageous and stupid and marvelous all

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at the same time. And I'm

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not sorry about it, not even

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a little bit. Almost every time

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I have done this, I do it

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for an hour, and I can do it

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pretty much every day. Although I will get

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interrupted some. I have done

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it with Ezra and then Ergo on my back.

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I've done it when he's napping or I'll do

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it in the evening when people are home. And

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it is really funny,

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but at the same time, I...it's

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like, you know what? I'm

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getting things done that I was not going to

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get done. And part of

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the funniest... She presented gym membership. And...

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Your house does. It's actually shocking.

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And there are things that you know when

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you're really...everyone who's a homemaker, you know that

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like, oh, we're in a big hurry because

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people are coming over. You do get

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into an elevated heart rate mode of

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I'm getting around. Yeah.

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And this is just intentionally

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getting into that mode and

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maintaining that for an hour instead

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of stopping when you don't see what's

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next. And it's also like, it's getting

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into that mode but without the stress.

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Yeah, it's bizarre. And the funny thing

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is, it does...it is. It

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is really great. I mean every time I've done it

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I end up walking like two and a two

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over two miles two and a quarter

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miles or something in an hour in indoors. That's

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pretty good. I find that hilarious and

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I it is but it is so

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funny because you're like just don't slow

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down and doing lots of if

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I see a dust bunny I'll just quick get

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down and grab it get back you know

10:23

like where you're like I'll just... You

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should probably incorporate push-ups into your check under

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the bed. Oh, push-ups, yeah. The

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reality is it's very silly but not.

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What is the constant approach to home

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making? It's exactly it's basically

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like do what you can do but

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it still has been so great because

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it is the only way

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that I could do a normal I mean

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this is like parallel to going

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on a walk or something it's

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not like I'm doing a really intense

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workout it's just that... I

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made a deal going on a walk this night and

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I also feel like I cannot prepare the time I

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have way too much to do right now. That's

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my problem and if Ezra's awake and I'm

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taking him on a walk that's fun but

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I can't do it that often because

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we have to be doing a therapy step like

11:13

if he's up and ready to go I have

11:15

work to be doing with him and it's like

11:17

just not we don't actually have this. Anyways,

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that's my new fitness regime

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and I have

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already to add

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to kind of the concept of like the

11:29

headband the everything I have ankle weights.

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You know get yourself hoofing up and

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down the stairs at my house in

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ankle weights and that'll treat anyone to

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an elevated heart rate and since I

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have people since I have people

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who conveniently leave Rubik's Cube around

11:47

the house for me there is always new

11:49

exercise to do today. Yeah

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I'm actually seeking to not

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do that. I'm

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seeking to keep it to myself because I

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don't think you are. Yeah,

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you just found the fuck out. I did. But

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you can do, like, this is

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the thing. There's no reason to

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not just, you know.

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I did this before when I, years and

12:16

years ago in our other house, I did it

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when the kids were littler and they

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had a fitment, tracking your

12:23

steps, you know. And

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I remember it just being like, it was great

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because I'd be like, I'm gonna get to 3,000

12:30

steps before I take a shower or whatever. And

12:32

the reality is it just kicks you into a

12:34

different mode of not... Because

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I think of cleaning the houses being

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one of my main jobs that does

12:43

last a lot of the time, that

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you end up always

12:49

conserving energy on it because

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you're like, I'll make a pile

12:53

of things I'm gonna take upstairs later. I'll

12:56

do, like, let me just get this

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done and whatever. And then I'm realizing I

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don't need to conserve energy in

13:04

this hour because the whole point

13:06

of exercising is spending energy somewhere.

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So let's just be

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really generous with our energy

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expenses at home. And

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having it be an hour obviously makes it

13:18

more realistic because I'm not saying all day

13:20

when I ever find something out of place,

13:22

I run it all the way over the

13:24

house. It's like I just do it. You

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just set a timer and it lasts off. I

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actually do it on my Apple Watch where

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you can actually set a workout.

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I start an indoor walking goal or

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whatever and then it... I don't have

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a goal, I just open the workout

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and then it does, I just go

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for an hour if I can and

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I can keep an eye throughout on my heart

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rate to see if I'm getting...

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You can tell, you know what I mean? It's

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just a zone too where you ought to be able

13:56

to talk, like you could be talking to someone but

13:58

you are also... They would... They would

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know that you are doing something, but they can,

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it's not like you can't breathe or anything.

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It's fitness tips

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for me. Fitness tips for us. Fitness

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tips for us. As the unnamed, you

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were a group. Yeah, spread the love with your

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run around the house. Yeah, I feel like it

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has to be like, prancercise but different. I

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just hope it would be like, prancercise but

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not at all like prancercise. I know. I'm

14:28

not aiming to do anything in the genre,

14:30

so you know. But it pretty

14:32

much is that and it makes it really

14:35

funny that I am doing it, but you

14:37

know what? That's what I'm doing. Also,

14:41

the lower the

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facts that I'm just hustling and trying to keep my

14:45

heart rate up makes you do

14:47

some jobs in a way that

14:49

you would not have done them before. So

14:51

like when I am quickly vacuuming an upstairs

14:54

room and then I'm like, I'm

14:56

just going to pull the couch out right

14:58

now and sweep behind it and underneath it.

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But you're like, you're way faster.

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Usually that would be at a different level of

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I've settled into really getting this room clean and

15:08

I'm in a, you know, just blast through and

15:10

rip a couch out from the wall. Not

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until now. Now I do. That's

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what I do. Anyways. Well, you'll have to report

15:18

back. Well, I'm like

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a good week into doing this every day.

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And the reality is it's

15:24

the house is feeling like a different place.

15:31

I know there are some things that you

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do as a mom that you just. It's

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not that I think I'm scarring my

15:38

children, but you just can see it

15:41

going down in the history, the animals

15:43

of the family. Yeah.

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And it's like, you know, you're signing up for

15:49

them to be like, you might do it for

15:51

10 days total in their old childhood. But I

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do remember when mom was in that phase when

15:55

or they think you did it their own life.

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Remember when mom was always. Yeah. They've

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been very graciously offering to leave

16:02

things all over for me in

16:04

the house. I was

16:07

like, no you don't have to because I can

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do it. I can do it one day. I

16:11

can explain an object making an obstacle for the

16:13

mom. Yeah, getting into it. They

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do that without trying. So I

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hate to think what would happen if they tried.

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Anyways, that's my big tip. My problem solving.

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That's part of the thought. I feel

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like just many times when you can

16:30

hit, you burn for oneself, you should.

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Always. It's such a great thing

16:35

when you can help

16:37

yourself to more than one of your problem

16:39

solutions. Yeah,

16:42

so anyways, something more...

16:44

What is that? What

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is that? I'm sorry, I was trying... Was

16:49

that? I was just trying to figure out what

16:51

that car was. Look at that. Oh, I hope

16:53

so. Um, yeah, so anyways. Alright. Well, that's a

16:55

good... Rachel's been through that. Mm hmm. Also,

16:58

I've been helping, so... Oh, yeah. But

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I'm just saying, I'm

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blasting into all kinds of realms

17:06

that I have gotten to. Should

17:10

I borrow this?

17:22

Well, there are things that go

17:24

in different phases of your life that,

17:27

like, work and then don't work. And

17:30

because I have my sewing machine set up

17:32

in the main area of the house, uh,

17:35

because like behind the couch in the

17:37

loom room. And

17:41

it is actually worked with having

17:43

teenagers hanging around, chatting or whatever. Like

17:46

I'm in the middle of things doing

17:48

that and sometimes you, it makes me

17:50

more, in

17:52

some ways more accessible. Like if Ezra's

17:55

playing right there, instead of like

17:57

after dinner, I can get rolled.

18:00

tired

18:04

and not be a ball of

18:06

fun if you're sitting around in the kitchen with me

18:08

you know I mean like you kind of in

18:11

the it's a it's a good zone

18:13

it's like how I used to knit in the

18:15

evening so my I could do that now too if

18:17

I was sitting in the same

18:20

place doing it but anyways these

18:22

are all the things I've been doing how

18:32

to have a legitimate actual garden this

18:34

year but solve that and do it

18:37

at my

18:41

house too yeah

19:05

yeah I

19:15

don't know if you remember but I

19:18

was gonna really hit the landscaping

19:20

hard the year that I was

19:22

actually morning sick oh yeah and then

19:24

the next oh yeah that was chaos

19:27

and then the next year I

19:29

had a newborn and then this is a

19:31

year after that and I'm not sure that

19:33

I'm gonna really be pulling out much either

19:38

no this is a leisure garden everything you know

19:40

cost more probably by the

19:42

time all

19:53

is done it will be smaller

19:55

it will be less impressive so

19:58

basically what I'm trying to do is

20:00

only grow fun stuff that I

20:02

can't get at the grocery store

20:04

or some little variety of

20:07

something that you can't get. You know,

20:09

just so that if it does grow

20:12

it will be I will be excited

20:14

about it because if I tried to

20:16

grow for instance an ice-burnt lettuce when

20:20

I could go buy one for how much money? 78

20:22

cents or something? I don't know I would

20:24

be interested in growing an ice-burnt lettuce

20:26

because I bet through one it would

20:28

be smaller the slugs would have been at

20:31

it and I probably would have spent

20:33

more money on water and pain

20:35

than you will. I'm wondering yeah

20:37

this is I can't buy at

20:39

the grocery store. Yeah. This is

20:41

what I'm saying. The kind that

20:43

you can't get. I get that. So

20:46

we're not, no one is pretending

20:48

that I'm gonna be self-sufficient but

20:50

we are pretending that I'll be immensely

20:53

arrogant if I get anything to

20:55

actually grow. That's

20:57

like me and my when my tortilla puffed

20:59

and I was like it's going straight to

21:02

my head. It's like it's just I'm feeling

21:04

full of power right now. So yesterday

21:08

I finished the quilt top

21:10

for a little baby quilt and made

21:13

Shad hold it outside off the back.

21:15

It's a little it's pink.

21:18

It's very girly little baby quilt. Shad's

21:21

holding it up and it's kind of blowing

21:23

in the breeze. Shad being a sixth grade boy

21:25

and and he

21:27

says Merka.

21:32

He's guessing

21:35

Merka. Like a

21:38

little pink baby quilt

21:41

in the breeze and I was

21:43

like it's kind of you know uh-oh

21:45

my dad baby is now making a I

21:48

think I'll just stop by your

21:51

house and have him get up. Yeah

21:53

so guys we're gonna help Ezra not be

21:56

sad in a minute. Yeah. So

21:58

don't give up on it. Anyways,

22:00

I was enjoying the boy

22:02

baby quilt holding model and

22:05

how he felt about it Anyways,

22:11

um, so gardening quilting

22:14

running around the house like a

22:16

fool. Yeah. Yeah Spring

22:19

that's the guy we're doing I do have

22:21

some rhubarb coming up which I am Covered

22:27

it all with I didn't Did

22:30

because I had to get the leaves off of the path Oh,

22:35

I fucked all the leaves off then I put

22:37

a bunch of compost on the But

22:42

I also had taken

22:44

my one driving room or Now

22:51

I might not have any room at all. Uh-huh.

22:53

I played it some real hecticly by

22:56

the back door I have and But

22:59

it seems to really like the

23:01

spot that we put it so and

23:04

it's all coming up right now. So I'm I'm Hopeful,

23:09

I would like more rhubarb. I want rhubarb

23:11

everywhere. I love it.

23:13

I love a rhubarb Really

23:21

I'm surprised he doesn't even like a

23:23

strawberry rhubarb. No, no, he's very adamant

23:25

that he feels like it's silvery I

23:33

Keep telling him like you're misled by the

23:35

shape nothing like a sorry That's

23:42

funny I love it I love

23:44

it I think it's what

23:48

I think it's one of the only ones that like

23:51

a Pies like

23:54

blueberry Huckleberry Huckleberry

23:58

because it's a real waste

24:00

of a brilliant fruit. The thing that

24:03

I like about rhubarb is that it

24:05

it only achieves greatness being

24:09

faked or used in something and

24:12

that to me is different than taking

24:14

something as magical as it is and

24:16

putting it into a sugar syrup. That

24:19

I feel I feel like is an

24:22

unnecessary

24:24

move for a lot of fruit. Well,

24:30

I just, yes,

24:33

my little bad

24:35

dreams are big right

24:37

now. But everyone who's listened very long

24:40

is aware that my dreams

24:42

are big every year at this

24:44

particular time of year. Hi!

24:47

Alright, we're getting them out. Isn't

24:49

it bad having a snotty old head? It's

24:52

difficult. It's

24:57

like magically happier already.

24:59

Hi, easy. Well,

25:03

let's get this. What? Your nose

25:05

blows. This spring always brings it

25:07

out that you have high hopes about what you're

25:09

going to actually pull out. I'll

25:12

report back in August and see if I

25:14

have anything growing in my garden at all.

25:16

Sorry about your little snotty, snotty,

25:19

snotty. Problem. It's

25:22

always sad when a kid has their relt.

25:24

They're really aware. He

25:26

kind of wanes at his

25:28

nose and distressed like, why is

25:30

it doing this? You

25:32

want to play with that? You can shake that.

25:35

Oh, you're... Yeah. Alright,

25:38

well, I can see the baby flower

25:40

in here. Um,

25:43

yeah. So

25:46

I'm getting a mom today and I was thinking

25:49

how important this is to

25:51

reflect on. Which is that even

25:54

though we're living in times where things

25:56

are really crazy, oh, I told Becca

25:58

this already and realized that. I

26:00

have to update the listeners,

26:02

which is that I showed some

26:04

of my kids a video of

26:06

Biden making no sense the other day.

26:10

They were like completely not impressed by

26:12

it. And I was like, no, no,

26:14

guys, wait, let me

26:16

explain. He's referencing Mexico,

26:18

which is not what

26:21

he's talking about here. And they were like, yeah,

26:23

but as it comes out that

26:25

my children were not, they were like, well,

26:27

yeah, but mom, he's never made sense. I

26:31

just had a moment of shock and

26:33

awe about the fact that I have children.

26:36

So because even though we did

26:39

more good things, we didn't

26:41

listen to him. He was embarrassing to listen to.

26:43

We did not like he

26:46

hardly spoke a speak with

26:48

with excellence. You know, he

26:51

was he's a little wild and a little. Yeah.

26:55

But I mean, like he wasn't a good. He

26:58

was also a bizarre character. Yes.

27:02

Obama is our last like

27:04

presidential presidential president. Somebody who

27:06

felt like a statesman. Yeah,

27:09

who behaved as

27:11

though he was in office

27:14

of some kind. Jemima told me that

27:16

her students were having to read the

27:18

Lincoln Douglas debate. Yeah. But

27:22

she compared it, pulled up a

27:24

reel of Trump Biden quote,

27:28

and it was her Trump saying, like,

27:30

smart, you know, don't use the word

27:32

smart. You graduated last year. God,

27:35

Biden said, shut up, man. It's

27:39

a bit of a come down since the Lincoln.

27:42

You're like, whoa, whoa, whoa. And

27:46

anyways, it was really weird to me to

27:48

realize that for my children, the

27:51

president of the United States is

27:54

not normally someone who can

27:56

speak coherently. Right. I mean,

27:58

more of a comedic. No, sometimes

28:00

we just watch sort of that clip

28:03

of the president doing some gosh awful

28:05

thing and you

28:07

know in our youth when Clinton did that

28:11

terrible move where he said he

28:13

didn't inhale the marijuana, he

28:15

just put it in his mouth but

28:17

didn't inhale. And the

28:19

whole world had a

28:21

heyday about how dumb that was. And

28:26

now that couldn't get a minute.

28:29

That couldn't get a minute anyway. Like

28:31

nobody cares about that at all. Remember

28:33

I mean like mine took out corn

28:36

pop? Wasn't it? What's the name? What's

28:39

the method? I don't know. Gangster named corn

28:41

pop? Hiding up. I missed this.

28:43

I might have to go fact check

28:46

but I still you know call the boy and say, hey,

28:50

I'm going to get you a drink. I

28:54

don't call the boy, wasn't he called

28:56

somebody the lion dog faced pony soldier?

29:00

And he maintained

29:03

stoutly that that was a quote from a

29:05

John Wayne movie but nobody ever did. But

29:09

a lion dog

29:11

faced pony soldier

29:13

is the truth.

29:16

I forgot about that. But I

29:19

mean like things like this just roll

29:21

by at such a speed that we

29:23

can't keep

29:25

up with it anymore. But

29:27

what really surprised me was just that I

29:29

have kids who are like

29:32

able to vote that don't

29:35

know what to do when the president gets

29:37

off clearly. Like oh shocking.

29:40

Okay so that's what

29:43

reminded me of that is what I was really going to say. That

29:47

there's this temptation to things that

29:49

like we're living in exceptional time. Because

29:52

there are things that are exceptional about

29:55

right now that will historically be

30:00

This is that

30:02

kind of era that we lived

30:04

through the time when these things became normal.

30:06

When it became normal for the

30:08

president, it did not make

30:10

sense. And just forget everything

30:12

and for everyone to know that he's

30:15

not actually doing his job, like somebody

30:17

else's. Basically, that's a

30:19

weird era. But it doesn't

30:21

change at all what

30:24

we're actually... It's not like we still

30:27

don't have our clear energy. And

30:30

we do, but the temptation is to be like,

30:32

oh, we're living in such a special time.

30:35

We need different

30:37

information. Give

30:41

us a new directive.

30:44

Not just

30:46

keep at it. Keep at

30:49

your posts doing these

30:51

things. Anyways, I was talking to a

30:53

mom about that. That situations

30:57

do change, but that

30:59

people continue to

31:02

need to do the basic things. And

31:05

to not get swept up in the

31:08

situational change. I

31:10

think people doing the basic things is

31:12

what keeps us out of the crazy

31:14

times. You know? It's like if

31:17

everyone would behave like a Christian in

31:20

their life.

31:22

Well, a lot would be improved. A lot would be better.

31:25

A lot would be better. Yeah.

31:28

Well, yeah, it's just the

31:30

idea that people are like,

31:32

oh, things are weird or things are,

31:34

you know, like... Sort of desperate times,

31:36

call for desperate measures. Yeah,

31:39

or like, I don't want to have to

31:43

do the things that would be normal,

31:45

good counsel for people. So like, take,

31:48

for instance, single women.

31:52

It is actually a different world

31:55

right now to be a single woman. And that

31:57

it was... Say

32:00

hi to Ambika. Hi

32:02

Evie. Uh, basically

32:07

it's a different world to be

32:09

a single woman in now. And

32:11

situationally, like statistically, things

32:13

are different. There

32:15

are different factors in

32:18

play and people can want to start

32:20

talking about those things all

32:23

the time. Oh, all

32:25

we're going to do is talk about the prevalence

32:27

of porn now. Like

32:30

we can focus on the things that are

32:32

very real but

32:35

like statistical information kind of

32:37

about what's happening now. Instead

32:39

of thinking about yes but

32:41

even so, you're

32:43

just called to be a faithful Christian

32:45

woman. And that it

32:48

doesn't really matter what the

32:50

statistical changes are in the

32:53

world. Like so it's like

32:55

the scriptures counsel to you is

32:59

not different because you're living in a

33:02

time where more people are, you know,

33:05

where hookup culture is. Yeah, but

33:07

you have to remember the New Testament was written

33:09

when temple prostitution was a problem.

33:12

So, you know, things

33:15

have been bad before. Yeah, and that's,

33:18

they were bad. Right. The

33:20

original. I actually just was

33:22

reading the other day about our

33:24

favorite, you know, the quote we

33:26

always say about Elizabeth Boots or

33:29

pray for me I'm going to the kitchen.

33:31

I was looking her up reading

33:33

about her and they

33:36

had, it's actually wild.

33:39

I had not really thought through this. He

33:41

was one of the first, he

33:45

married Martin, married Elizabeth.

33:47

That was I think the

33:49

first clerical marriage.

33:53

And which made her the first

33:55

pastor's wife. Well,

34:00

before, I don't know,

34:02

there wasn't such a thing, right? Does

34:07

her call to something about Peter's

34:10

wife? Well, but

34:12

that would be a wife of an

34:14

apostle, which is kind of more primary

34:16

in it. But all this is

34:18

to say, she is like the first pastor's

34:20

wife, and the Catholic Church wanted

34:22

to make a big example of

34:25

them to shame. So they were

34:27

just slandered and held

34:29

up, but basically it was really wild.

34:34

In there, like, we will beat this

34:36

out so hard that no one will

34:38

do it again. They ended up basically

34:41

doing a lot of advertising for

34:43

the movement. And this

34:46

was a time when everyone was more okay

34:48

with priests having

34:51

mistresses and tons of

34:53

children outside of marriage than they were

34:55

with someone getting married. Oh, well, it's

34:57

a post-pandemic. Yeah. Quite

35:00

a lot of children that work. But,

35:02

so many of these, Elizabeth is

35:04

their first pastor's wife. They

35:07

have, so they are like all

35:09

over the place being

35:12

slandered, having major conflict and trouble.

35:14

But they also had 12 children,

35:17

and the only one that lived for

35:21

very long at all was severely

35:23

handicapped. So

35:28

throughout her

35:30

life, like, you're

35:32

not talking about someone who

35:36

had an easy-breeding cap. You

35:38

know, like, and just really,

35:40

I thought it was really, it was

35:43

just a really interesting vignette. She asked

35:45

her husband on her deathbed. She

35:47

told him to marry one of her friends, who

35:50

was a widow. Who had been,

35:54

she was a widow and had some kids,

35:56

and he did not, he was very grieved at

35:58

losing her and did not. did

36:01

not marry her friend until

36:03

quite a while later when

36:05

he realized he really did

36:07

need and

36:11

he married her friend and then he wrote

36:13

kind of like like he

36:15

appreciated his second wife but his second

36:17

wife made him think

36:19

about how extraordinary his first wife

36:21

was a lot more but he

36:24

one of the things he said is his second wife

36:26

was much less free with

36:29

her criticism that

36:31

his first wife had been a

36:33

lot more iron sharpening iron but

36:35

she didn't let a lot fly

36:37

apparently she was she was

36:40

always gonna just go ahead and talk about

36:43

what she felt needed to be dealt with

36:47

anyways I don't even now I can't

36:49

remember why I brought them up except for oh

36:51

that plus that plus yes because

36:54

that's the thing that they were

36:56

doing right it's like through an

36:59

extraordinary time through a

37:01

and and it's weird because it

37:04

was such a big deal the month

37:06

that that married

37:08

that was such a

37:10

huge deal except for what

37:12

the huge deal was incredibly

37:14

ordinary right like in

37:16

it we're shaking that

37:19

thing a gum and

37:22

but it was it was like extraordinarily

37:25

ordinary and it

37:27

was faithfulness in just we're gonna

37:30

do the thing where a man marries a

37:32

woman and they have children

37:34

and they keep a home together and

37:36

they try to you know they're

37:38

hospitable and that they serve the

37:40

Lord and anyways

37:43

nothing about Jeremiah Burroughs writing about contentment

37:45

at a time when everyone

37:47

was losing children like disease was

37:50

ran you know just the general

37:52

misery would have been so

37:54

much higher but the

37:57

failure to be content and

37:59

thankful just about the same

38:01

as You

38:03

know like that we're living in way

38:05

easier circumstances I Bring

38:10

all this up to say that as

38:12

extraordinary as our time get now

38:15

It's the ordinary obedience that

38:18

is really

38:20

world-changing And

38:22

it's almost like the worse it gets

38:24

the more important it is that we'd

38:26

be doing Like

38:28

it doesn't mean oh, it's so bad that

38:31

this will never make a difference It's so

38:33

bad that the only things that

38:35

will make a difference is a very

38:37

small Faithful

38:40

obedience. Yeah Do

38:46

you have any words for the podcast Ezra?

38:51

No words Uh

38:55

Anyways, I can think of lots of

38:57

applications of this in all of our

38:59

lives because the thing about

39:02

ordinary obedience Is that there's so much of

39:04

it? There's it's always

39:06

accessible. It's always it's always right

39:08

in front of you. It's today.

39:10

It's always today It's always now

39:13

it's always not your it's always on your own

39:15

to-do list or dinner that has to be made

39:17

tonight or things You know, it's just very uh

39:21

Well, there's always been like right now what

39:23

I could do is not have a bad

39:25

attitude right now what I could do

39:27

is not No

39:34

get swept up in petty grievance Like

39:37

I could I could right now be

39:40

the kind of person who thanks the

39:42

Lord for this difficulty and presses on

39:50

I could but Yeah,

39:58

anyways, these are all like

40:00

I think everybody has. It's like

40:02

the worse it gets, the more

40:04

we need to be real, real

40:06

focused on

40:08

the things that are so very doable right in

40:10

front of us. Because

40:13

it's not like any of us is

40:15

in a position to just go, you

40:18

know, change the public schools today.

40:22

But we are in a position to teach

40:25

our own children, and to love

40:27

our, you know, basically

40:32

we definitely need another monster

40:35

sized reformation and revival. So I

40:37

think we got to look busy

40:39

like those people were. And we

40:41

got to start with what's right

40:43

in front of us for

40:49

sure. And you yourself

40:51

won't get up

40:53

off the couch. They would pray every

40:55

week about... Stop being a snort on

40:57

social media. I know, if we regard

40:59

inequity in our own hearts.

41:02

Yeah. Like if we, oh

41:04

man, we're something in the Bible reading challenge today

41:06

that... I say this a lot.

41:08

I'm sure we've said it on the podcast before, but

41:12

sometimes there's this problem

41:16

people have where you are like, well,

41:18

I have this desire. This desire is

41:20

not bad. So it's probably a desire

41:23

that came from God. And

41:25

I have this desire. And

41:29

so God would never ask me to

41:31

not do it. It would

41:33

never be honoring God for me to not

41:35

be showing hospitality right now. Right?

41:38

Or it would never be honoring God for

41:40

me to whatever little

41:42

desire you have. Oh

41:46

yeah. Oh yeah, buddy.

41:48

And, but today when we were

41:50

listening, where are we? We're in Chronicles,

41:54

but the David and the... When

41:56

he goes to buy the threshing floor and

41:59

he's... says like

42:01

how should I offer to

42:03

the Lord something that cost me nothing and

42:07

it's that obviously that says that

42:09

is a unique

42:11

situation but at the same time

42:14

it's like when you are offering

42:16

something to God when it is

42:18

a sacrifice that's kind

42:20

of that's kind of

42:22

point that it's something you didn't it's

42:25

cost you something it's not something

42:27

that you I

42:31

was thinking about that just because of how often we

42:33

don't want to lay down the things we want

42:35

to lay down the things we weren't going to use

42:37

anyways we don't we don't you know like we want

42:39

to donate the things

42:41

we're sick of is not

42:43

the whole problem in is

42:45

it malachi which

42:48

is the one the minor prophet where

42:50

they always say they're always saying when

42:52

did we ever not do this when

42:54

did we but they're basically they're

42:56

doing the thing you're doing with your house cleaning which

42:58

is two birds with one stone we get rid of

43:00

this blind lame cows that

43:03

we didn't want and that's

43:05

just who could ask us

43:07

for our I wouldn't I

43:09

wouldn't want to say that that's what I'm

43:11

doing in my house cleaning that's exactly

43:15

it Rachel I brought

43:17

it around Rachel you're offering a

43:19

blind lame cow but yes it's

43:21

exactly the same thing the two

43:23

for one the two for one

43:26

situation apart right they're like we

43:28

we weren't going to use this anyways and

43:30

so might as well the Lord

43:32

should definitely be pleased well remember

43:35

hearing those stories about like missionaries

43:38

in Africa the sorts of

43:40

donations they get from back

43:42

home where you have one

43:44

see is you can probably still

43:46

ring us yeah I can I can

43:48

donate to the mission

43:51

work and also not have to talk

43:54

to myself anything I will

43:56

feel godly and

43:59

I will bless them when something

44:01

broke. Something they couldn't have

44:03

had anyways. Yeah, it's like so

44:05

sad. It's so sad. But

44:08

it's true that that's a

44:10

common thing is to think how could we

44:12

do something that wouldn't cost us. The

44:14

application that I make to this often

44:17

with people is just that when

44:20

they get that question of,

44:23

but why would I have this desire?

44:25

It's like sometimes God put

44:27

something in your hand so

44:29

that you might have something to give. And

44:33

so that you might have a thing to

44:35

offer that is a thing

44:37

that you wanted to have. Yes,

44:39

and the reality is

44:43

it is such a gift

44:47

that he does that. That

44:49

he gives us something. It's like

44:51

a parent actually giving you money

44:54

to buy them a gift with.

44:57

Because the initial thing is a

45:00

gift. And then

45:02

it's a gift to let you offer it to

45:05

him. But it

45:07

is funny how often we're like you don't understand.

45:09

I wanted it. Yeah.

45:14

Like wait a minute. I

45:16

actually wanted to

45:19

not have this, you know, like I was

45:21

not planning to offer this to God. I

45:24

know. Well,

45:29

do you have another tip besides another

45:32

cross that you're honing

45:34

around your house? I

45:37

did buy an ugly

45:40

doormat that was

45:44

inspiring. I know. Let me just, I'm

45:46

gonna look it up for, it's

45:49

actually, I'm just saying I'm not endorsing

45:51

it from the perspective

45:53

of it being beautiful.

46:02

I wonder if I'll ever find it

46:04

though. That's the thing. I

46:07

think I'll never find it. I

46:11

was going

46:15

to come up with the name of it

46:17

because it actually is a spectacularly effective doormat.

46:19

Like it is one that I put inside.

46:22

We have a water hog and then I

46:24

put this in and it really cleans off

46:26

the dog's feet or whatever. It holds tons of stuff in

46:28

it. It's great. I'm like

46:30

I'll never find it. I'm trying to look

46:32

in my email for what was the name

46:35

of this place that

46:38

I purchased it from. I'll never find it.

46:40

I got nothing.

46:44

So you've got no tips

46:46

for it? Yeah.

46:50

Ugly doormat that your guess is as

46:52

good as ours. What they might be.

46:55

Why is it so like this?

46:57

Oh it's just one of those ones. It's like a...

46:59

Oh! Oh!

47:02

He likes it.

47:06

He's making a big

47:08

a laugh with this amount

47:10

of snotty just shot out of his nose.

47:13

No good. There you go.

47:15

It's one of

47:17

those ones that has like a little... I

47:20

guess it's microfiber probably like little... It's like

47:23

a deep pile of stem. It's just

47:25

not a beautiful mat but it's highly

47:27

effective. So I actually feel

47:29

like I'm ready to buy more of them for

47:31

other locations because a mat that works you know.

47:34

Well as we said to that. Yeah I love

47:36

though that I was going to offer it as

47:38

a tip without knowing the name of it. I

47:40

just thought I was going to find it out

47:44

before. You know what I got? This

47:46

is also an equally sort of mystery

47:49

tip since I also don't know what

47:52

it's called. You know those little bottles

47:55

that you basically push

47:57

the top up and down in order to...

48:00

to get a little bit of powder. And

48:02

I do not mean a pump top. I

48:04

mean, it's where you actually fold

48:06

it itself. You like flip open and then you...

48:08

Yeah. Pump it up and down.

48:10

I got a few of those off Amazon,

48:13

just little glass ones, with

48:15

a little silver top, to

48:17

put like, I make it from the ver in. And

48:20

it's just, I really like

48:22

it a lot. It's just, it's

48:24

nicer to have it sitting there rather than fish

48:26

out a bottle and, I

48:28

don't know, open it up and do a thing. It makes

48:31

me happy every time I use it. And

48:33

it's just not, it's not like it's saved a

48:35

lot of time in your life, but

48:39

it's, I appreciate it. I

48:41

don't know what you call those, so everyone else

48:43

would have to do there. Are you

48:46

baptized? Yes, you are. Are you

48:48

baptized? That's just a little trick

48:50

you guys need. You're

48:52

baptized? Yeah, are you baptized? What about,

48:54

what about this? How big is that

48:56

dress? Yes,

48:58

so big. So big. So

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big. So big. Well,

49:06

after that glorious couple of recommends. I

49:09

love that I just have no knowledge of

49:11

what, if I was better at searching,

49:14

I'm like, maybe I could. I

49:21

don't even know. I'm like, what is this?

49:23

I love that this was smiling at me today

49:25

because usually with friends around, we

49:27

will call it Ben and be very

49:29

charming friends, but he kind of just

49:31

gives me the old passive

49:34

look. But today

49:36

he can be in there, so. Are you?

49:38

He'd be in more of a, he

49:41

just likes Ben Beard, I think. He

49:43

feels, baptized. That's right.

49:45

That's right. Let's just

49:47

say, let's see if we do this for you

49:49

too, please. Pat-a-cake, pat-a-cake,

49:51

baker, spin, pick me a cake, pat-a-cake,

49:55

and roll. And

49:58

roll. patty patty

50:00

patty patty patty and pick it pick it pick it pick it

50:02

pick it and And

50:07

you do it He's

50:11

like and Throw

50:15

it to the chickie He

50:19

usually does that last bit himself. He

50:21

usually does. He finds out that we

50:23

have an alternative fatty cake Yeah,

50:26

throw it to the chickies it hails from Oklahoma

50:28

I think really yeah, it's grandma

50:31

Lillian Yeah, well they are great

50:33

grandma You

50:35

know we don't mark it with the

50:37

beat. We pat it pat it pick it pick it I

50:42

remember both Chloe is a fat

50:44

little toddler was very moved by

50:47

The sorrows of things in the songs and

50:49

when I got to the Oak Playmate I

50:51

cannot play with you my dollies got the

50:54

flu Her little fat

50:56

face Very

50:59

sad little eyes turned down and

51:01

she would also do that about the itsy bitsy

51:03

spider She

51:07

was all the rest of my

51:09

kids laughed at the distress of everyone, but

51:12

no Chloe was like oh poor

51:15

dollies got the flu flu

51:17

flu flu flu Anyways,

51:22

all right guys until next time when

51:24

I might remember the name of the

51:27

doormat There's no help from me today,

51:30

but we'll talk to you later