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Hey guys, welcome back to the what said

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podcast. We

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have an elevated Edition podcast

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iconic. It's

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been so long since you've been on over.

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I

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didn't even know that was pregnant with cold yet.

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Oh my god, when we went to

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your cabin, but you were pregnant on a

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trip. You just didn't know Yeah, I didn't know yet, oh,

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really? In and I'm not. One

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three. Hey, that's pretty crazy.

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A very long time so lot has changed,

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we you have to say no, I

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keep trying to like having less like how it is

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I'm not even worth it in.

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Two years I I. i do good citizens

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are thinking It's really crazy,

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but time also just flies because.

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I feel like haven't heard wasn't that

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long ago my life has changed so much yes

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so incensed if so fine we need to go back

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know we always yelling for they have a say no

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it. wasn't easy wasn't i forget the they've played

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own it yeah and then i'm like oh like

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can both to this out "Whenever

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I want, mean, it's kind of books that so need

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to plan in advance. We.

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Didn't need to do not the cap, yeah, not even trying

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subtle hints like though the so far

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have interests me, that this a

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certain weekend that I have on my. Calendar Asia

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is now we definitely said and it's

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actually fun in the summer or winter, but feel like

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you just told me to like. Snow'so so employee

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don't like to live in the snowball, go visit over

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the of ass, and also Arizona isn't

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as cold as yeah, isn't quite so

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silly gets a different. Winter experience of

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max planck yeah year one of our most

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requested maybe the most of my really

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i'm an old i'm think i know every

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my favorite podcast yes he's

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Very entertaining.

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the as entertaining the

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and please, please it's like Borderline threatened

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new whenever I come to Utah like within two

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seconds. Ah, they just lay the diapers, and your

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it takes off a it was know was

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an overnight she's coming to meet

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honorary see identified as it's

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funny. Because it's feel like on social media

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is you have public friendships

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are like your friends of other influences. or something

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if you don't i really lazy don't

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post together really the time or

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guess climax anita the stuff like people have multiple

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my Oliver laugh when, as you as like, read

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a story and use or to give you advice and

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I'm like thinking the opposite. Thing and I'm like oh say

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that advice for but then

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I'm like I'm wrong see.

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i know it's so hard will also

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When advice sometimes is so

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sore and they give like, know, yeah? You

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just for like one.

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I. Don't know, yeah, I mean, are they didn't know any

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direction he used a lot more details and

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ends and users and are some of them are just like short

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like. Oh yeah kind of girl questions

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that you would like ask an older sister but,

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the no one else has given them the so we're going to give

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them. All that he sees silly human body older

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sister energy I do because

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am an older sister. and i

3:37

I'm an annoying one, many the same way, like

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whenever your sister seen anything alien.

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i counted drugs my sister just moved to l

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a this past weekend so i'm already late

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like an alarm system like a security system",

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he said on the horror as she went on date

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the other day, and I was like, "He will do like face, mean

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the whole time" The new.

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are crazy, one knows he will also protect

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him by Emily Nosy, yeah, I'm gonna

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say I mean, we're older sister

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actually even a Chelsea are not. The oldest,

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but you still have the older sister five

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yes, and I feel like it is

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just saw hands that the oldest scissors

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usually bossy and the levant more like.

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Then. Older, sister especially firstborn

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yes first born girl and that's how

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I was just asking life because he had another sister in a

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lake was she bossy and

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plans and. Right now but yes boss

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the Aussie as recall this isn't in Boston,

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and anyway as again this is how old

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is to soothe are you know you gotta? It. becomes

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cheaper and we keep him in

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tip top shape which is great i think

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that this will be fun let's talk about will

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because life has changed yamato silly

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for use specifically even

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How are they going from having no children having one

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and have going from one to having to which

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was harder for? sure

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one to two and i knew that it would

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be harder because

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From zero to one is actually pretty easy, obviously,

5:06

a really know like what has factor was gonna be like

5:08

and when you're pregnant. Maybe

5:10

his neighbor, I literally, if they were like

5:13

a year at ten.

5:14

Then. Polish and I was just like nothing

5:17

is gonna come out like don't understand how their

5:19

to be easy in here and I'm like about to have a child

5:21

and I. Didn't couldn't wrap your my rounded

5:23

out wrap my mind around and like processor,

5:25

and then she came out and like.

5:28

So I kind of confused like have a baby

5:30

like it so wild but.

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we are super lucky into the really good baby

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she was

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Great sweeper agree eater like Bessie and came

5:38

easy sell journal on I would say was

5:40

like, "Really easy as it could be obviously, it's

5:42

a huge life changed to have baby" Especially.

5:46

Parker almost me because we work together that

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the made by. All the difference

5:50

because I'm still able to. You don't have

5:52

some lot of like normal. Life

5:54

because there was another person with the whole time to take

5:57

care of calls but. going from

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one

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The to was so much

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harder because it's literally twice.

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The amount of work.

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The take care of to people and,

6:08

my pregnancy was pregnancy lot harder my girls are like two

6:10

years and years month apart so pretty much like two

6:12

years apart so

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I I. know. Sometimes I'm sad. feel didn't get enough like,

6:16

with Cove just on her own, especially cuz

6:18

my pregnancy was so much harder. The second

6:21

time. had a A really easy pregnancy, the first time

6:23

and the second time with so much harder, like,

6:25

you were just more sick and I was more sick.

6:27

never threw like threw up. So always in like

6:29

can't even say that. was sick, but

6:31

was super nauseous in the beginning, was Cove. wasn't

6:33

really very nauseous at all. It was for,

6:35

like, a week or two dinner time. And then that was

6:37

it. But I had, think had

6:40

SPD, which is, think

6:42

stands for symphysis pubis dysfunction. function

6:44

or something like that, but it's like. Something

6:46

with your pelvis is just messed up and everything.

6:50

hurt so, bad down there

6:52

that your body's not aligned right and

6:54

so it was so painful. and

6:56

it just with working so much and then having like

6:58

a toddler like would literally just do

7:00

The bare minimum of like what I had to do to survive

7:03

and then was just like in my bed needing to lay down

7:05

South Coast always been it a girl, but.

7:08

The very close during that time and then

7:10

when I had lola, it'so so

7:12

having to dessalines as you so much

7:14

because.

7:16

You wouldn't have two kids are determined set of wood

7:18

and everyone was like oh you like know what to expect

7:20

now so. what i'm going

7:22

from wanted he was so much easier than zero to one

7:24

by i feel like wanted she would definitely

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A. "LOT harder and low's still like she's

7:29

a really good baby, we had little bit of when

7:31

she, like four to six weeks, was kind of fuzzy",

7:33

said put her on. A probiotic and that helps alot

7:36

and Jewish same thing with her tummy, but

7:38

they were both think overall, really easy, dead

7:40

babies bet. The I had been

7:42

super crazy to have to

7:45

especially so close in age which at

7:47

like us know in Utah everyone has like

7:49

two under two an unknowing pregnant with a third line and

7:51

it's standard for years and I'm like how

7:54

are they doing that know.

7:56

you is crazy were hard it's

7:58

been really fun but it is

8:00

Play been like a very big change in

8:02

really hard. Did you feel scared

8:04

at all? When you were about to have

8:06

Lola that you would be like, oh my gosh.

8:08

What if I don't love her as much as love

8:10

Cove like, cuz you can't even picture yet?

8:12

Or you rather feel like that during pregnancy? Cuz I've

8:14

had a couple people like, I

8:16

mean, that comes on my Tik-Tok. Sometimes like was scared

8:19

about, like, how would feel at my second because

8:21

like, so obsessed. My first, what was like experience?

8:23

If feel like everyone has those thoughts,

8:26

but then, when you ask anyone, who has

8:28

more than one, kid,

8:30

have a group of home. Mom, friends

8:32

who like five less and they all have. More.

8:34

Than one and so I would just talk

8:36

to them and they were all like honestly like

8:39

the second one more like,

8:42

don't know obviously have you on their. See, are like, yeah,

8:44

like a taller versus new baby when I'm obviously

8:46

depends on the baby, but I had pretty calm,

8:49

easy babies both times, so as executive

8:51

see like. devoted a lot easier to take care

8:53

of in this moment, it's so

8:56

nice it is scene the diaper and they're not

8:58

like little prick an alligator during the of. You

9:00

get away from you like wrestling baby alligator

9:02

disunity their diaper and he just snuggle

9:04

you and it's so cute. so

9:07

up and definitely was like

9:08

You. Know had a thought they like everyone does,

9:10

but then when I had asked anyone, they all

9:13

that kind of just reassure you that yeah, he well,

9:15

he love them, but. Are we we're just talking about

9:17

honor his podcast house and saying,

9:20

"You know, feel that people have, like, six kids and

9:22

five kids, were like, oh, my gosh,

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didn't?" Own crazy yeah I'm even think

9:27

three under three mean like more. per

9:29

i think it's like gear a rock star ledger amazing

9:31

that people can do that but it's so

9:34

it's can imagine how much work like Yeah

9:36

I was so set on for kids X my

9:38

whole life I have for my husband has for

9:40

like in our families and.

9:43

are not making any decisions now that i'm

9:45

like or

9:47

Are we gonna like I don't know, and I'm obviously

9:50

in the sick of it was having, like, to like, I'll never

9:52

be harder than.

9:53

I hope he will never be hard isn't it is now that

9:56

I? don't i just and in the hospital have

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so many amazing Then when they have. How

10:01

many lives? I'd heard.

10:04

That one to do is a hard as even harder

10:06

than, like, two to three, three to four elderly

10:09

as soon as you have or. My mom, I says

10:11

like as soon as. Then. Console I'm the

10:13

middle of sex and she was like, by the time

10:15

like had Abby, which is the fourth and

10:17

net you kids were so old that it was

10:20

like. You are outside of, we're a help

10:22

like, yeah, you would tire the baby out for

10:24

naptime and so like they would fall right to sleep

10:26

you kind of help out with. Different things, but I'd love

10:29

one to two, was just like because I mean

10:31

of the only have one and I'm like, oh, this is nice

10:33

agonist Bremer of why he's. Not moving,

10:35

yes, it's so my game's place and somewhere,

10:37

and he's still there, come back, you know, so can

10:39

only imagine having someone like Chased around

10:42

and yeah, he. Watches the albino I'm sure

10:44

it'll be easier when. They're.

10:46

"Like older was, wanted to close

10:48

and then a gap and into more so

10:50

than in Utah, the gap is like three years

10:52

suggests is like nothing says of"

10:54

Like normal or anywhere else, I thought I'd also

10:56

there's like a piece of the puzzle missing here

10:59

where when you grow up in this culture and stuff and

11:01

not super common. Like I don't want to come

11:03

across the wrong way because it's like not

11:05

that it's good or bad or like to suspect either

11:07

way but feel like if.

11:09

you are a woman running woman full time basis and

11:11

your the breadwinner that's like an

11:13

additional massive responsibility

11:15

cia and i'm not saying oh you're just

11:17

mom like apple in i think that's like the

11:19

has his job of all the we're doing both

11:22

at the same time think that like super

11:24

it would be almost like unrealistic to be like

11:27

i'm going to be like building this empire and

11:30

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11:33

that I don't know how that would even

11:35

be possible, unless and think anyone who

11:37

does that like. Third behind the scenes

11:39

stuff worth like, "They have a nanny, they have housekeeper like

11:41

all the women I know that are full time job

11:43

over the silliest, rather than her without him,

11:46

yeah, exactly so on

11:48

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11:50

or worse, just feel like yeah, there's

11:52

that's a peace because I always think that

11:54

I'm like. Like having

11:57

five kids, that's what grew up around yet I'm

11:59

like is that you. In. Doable: If

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12:03

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12:05

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it's like I like. To work, like to have my own business,

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you know, maybe everything will just totally

12:12

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12:19

okay, what else are we have, a housekeeper,

12:21

we have nanny?

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Just. Fine, Parker, we have to get lawn people and

12:25

his lawn is like his passion in

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I guess that my it's by easier when you're already have one

16:56

for we. Though. And

16:58

whole was probably like six months old, maybe we hired

17:00

and assistance as she just helped us with, like, any

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random tasks that we have

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the she wasn't a nanny, but. See if we need it if

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we needed her to babysit for something, then she

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was so nice is like, have that person

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even depend on, but she didn't really help A. Ton

17:13

with like childcare so we

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didn't have any intel lola was I think

17:17

that two months old so.

17:20

i can wanted to decide get things figured out

17:22

with her and get and little bit of or jean and then have someone

17:24

so we didn't have one until we had two

17:26

kids and since purpose home oh gotcha

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and we had the assistant before but she

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would mostly due to help with like work things and

17:32

then parker was

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Like, stay at home, Dad, that he still does work

17:36

things to but his primary job.

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The usually film dad, yeah, that worked

17:40

well with the one kid, and then with the to, it's

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just nice, could even just like run us like

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17:58

all that kind of stuff and like us and.

18:00

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I guess I'm talking to toddlers all day and

18:04

yeah little time by myself, so that's good,

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that's a good point too because. You.

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a week, so on the A on all

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of the other days I. Still have to work on those days, but

18:41

I can usually like condensing sound to work during,

18:43

like nap time or whatever, so just it to spend

18:45

like better time with. them yeah, even

18:47

though it's like technically more time without them, they have help,

18:49

but didn't really liked it than really nice,

18:52

do you feel like having a family

18:54

and like having? Two kids do feel like

18:56

it makes you want to work. Where

18:58

are morally are you like I am more motivated notice

19:01

it runs business, are you tonight just

19:03

love you like would rather to stay home and that yeah

19:06

think for me because I've been doing what

19:08

I'm doing for so long I've literally been

19:10

on you tube for?

19:12

You didn't you my twelve year or my eleven year

19:14

this year, I think it's.

19:15

Maybe twelve in August

19:17

so I've been doing this for a long time like working

19:19

for long time I started when was fourteen

19:22

obviously wasn't doing as like a full

19:24

time job and I was that young but to.

19:26

the have been working for so long and done

19:28

so much since i'm definitely in a series of

19:31

luck honey outsource so that i can spend more

19:33

time with three kids and morning to just like work

19:35

i'm still do what i'm doing i'm couldn't The

19:38

with my personality. I don't

19:40

think I'll be happy if was not doing anything.

19:43

Being a mom. Obviously. They had to pick

19:45

between, like, meet our work or

19:47

being mom, I would choose being a mom, but I like

19:50

to do both, but am trying to do a.

19:52

Little bit less see, cause they're on

19:54

the young ones like that to talk audio that like

19:56

you only have little kids for four years and

19:58

they have is turning three and. I'm like. I'm

20:00

missing it, so it has been hard because.

20:03

There's so many things deal and again, even with

20:05

outsourcing things that.

20:07

Then. Million different things on my to

20:09

do list every day, but we

20:11

have cut back a little bit on at least

20:13

of was like three days week, which is crazy. i

20:15

don't know how we ever did that we see, even like daily

20:17

log, I think for a little bit was still fly

20:20

few years ago my argument on my spine

20:22

like. Oh, my God, I don't will people do,

20:24

can't imagine of evil do this, I'm not that

20:26

entertaining and we're down to once a week and

20:28

I'm like struggling with. That because like what?

20:31

Where do I even like film, so we used

20:33

to two days a week for like quite while and

20:35

then our down to one which I've really liked just because

20:37

we have so many other things going on,

20:40

so have cut back little bit and I definitely am

20:42

trying to like work?

20:44

What about last she's especially when they're so young to

20:46

really get a enjoy them like being little babies,

20:48

yeah? The only one day

20:50

they will the at school and then I am you'll

20:53

have a baby I got a no nonsense.

20:56

to get into these questions yeah

20:58

i'd like the listeners

21:00

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head. or we don't want them to also where your

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21:12

Haider the questions Elazar in direction

21:14

where I always wanted to give us like what's

21:16

your address this is exactly,.

21:20

ah okay can i just also

21:22

say to people talk to people on being on

21:24

the podcast my now my has a my best friend they

21:26

both texas heat The White

21:30

Van, we welcome like not bad

21:32

if can tell me if I'm saying are valid

21:35

or the here not oil you are not

21:37

at all okay the first question is

21:39

should I wait for my a missionary no

21:41

way I see the answer's no, says

21:44

it's gonna. be it i again

21:47

think because you're asking The answer

21:49

is no. The can. The

21:52

think they should I. You know, documented

21:54

anyway, yeah, that's one thing when

21:56

people write a note should I pick up with my boyfriend

21:58

he's doing, they were younger. The her.

22:01

My own and because it's like if you're asking

22:03

the as of, you want to go. The

22:05

opened.

22:06

I. Don't think you should wait for a missionary

22:09

ever like yeah, I don't, put your

22:11

life on hold ever for that for two years, but yeah

22:13

if it's meant to be. It will be definitely you

22:15

should hang out work on yourself,

22:18

go on dates with other people, you should not

22:20

just the way around and sit there, don't

22:22

think That's good for anyone involved either

22:25

really love that person

22:27

and maybe you are meant to be but the relationship

22:30

will be so much better if you

22:32

go out and you experience other thing yeah

22:34

and then always have then regret of oh shoot

22:36

i didn't like the anybody else while he was

22:38

gone and like had the two years and didn't

22:41

do any didn't even like talk to a guy for two years you

22:43

could almost hold resentment about that too because

22:45

it's if you seriously did not even just

22:47

one of them one the got married young

22:50

like parker didn't even

22:51

Go on a mission or anything, but it's like I look back

22:53

and hobbies, they would change anything, but I'm like, oh, didn't

22:55

even yeah, Lily ever take that

22:57

time to like. You me

22:59

or whatever other people like he's literally

23:02

my only boyfriend he's gonna have

23:04

had ever had yes ladder boyfriend

23:06

in seventh grade side you hold on

23:08

to that it is all that have it,.

23:11

does is like really count

23:13

so yeah he's like the only guy that i've ever dated

23:16

wow and

23:18

I disagree to do you think do

23:20

you think of are in a good we're like?

23:22

Obviously he wouldn't change at the I like

23:25

those things wouldn't change it, but like if my

23:27

daughters were dating someone and wind you married

23:29

at nineteen out, be like, "please know,

23:31

like, "please don't do that"

23:33

You're just like to young kid, I

23:35

feel like was a child bride like I really do.

23:38

There. Really aren't any way feel ya

23:40

married Marie twenty one, which still thought he,

23:42

guess that he and that is like at least a little

23:44

bit and again for. The things I might

23:47

wouldn't change anything like look at my life now we've,

23:49

but it's more like got lucky and don't

23:51

have everyone else will get lucky, yeah. Exactly,

23:54

we only works out or canal, but

23:56

not everybody does yeah like and knowing

23:59

that, you know, mean. Like we can either grow together,

24:01

grow par and. No

24:03

way to grow together, yes.

24:05

Exactly I think I'll honestly

24:07

was awesome him the Knights the opposite to.

24:10

some proper it was as it gets that you grow apart

24:12

yeah and you're like assess like don't

24:15

know. was just talking to the scroll by the

24:17

that's actually he has a certain

24:19

someone she got married when she was I think bitcoin

24:22

t in the trunk or six years later and.

24:25

we're just talking about how like when you live

24:28

with you get married and nieto and don't really know each other

24:30

already that while and then if you live like very

24:32

different lives that you have you ever jobs to

24:34

prevent or our it's so easy to grow taxes like

24:36

i don't even really even basing this basing as

24:38

super sunday foundation has ignited

24:41

the for like six You know, and then

24:43

it's just easy if you're not super intentional,

24:45

and if you're may be already not a good match, it's like

24:47

little kid has obviously why you're so

24:50

young as like it's hard to put those intentions.

24:52

The into, like, a marriage or something when you

24:54

haven't even really fully lives like your

24:56

life, yeah, very much exactly.

24:59

You don't know who you are, really, are what

25:02

you want your future, yeah, be I dunno,

25:04

it's crazy.

25:05

Speaking of marriage, someone said I'm getting

25:07

married soon and I'm really nervous about my first

25:09

time and he advised three MPG thirteen

25:12

up here who don't expect

25:14

it to be guys have a result I say

25:17

know is loaded with higher than the other's

25:19

lives.

25:20

No I didn't wait but as a giveaway

25:24

such. as while yet either way though the

25:26

other ways there honey same time yeah

25:29

Then. Ever spoken about that publicly yards

25:31

and agree that it in of law or can be with you

25:34

that as could put, it in their, views

25:37

snaps of I said. want to talk to he

25:39

says the other way it sounded like no

25:42

like specific place in the US if we waited

25:44

till. marriage who we did not but

25:46

without league something that you

25:49

either of you like either don't know where open about

25:51

your parents or that like parents big secret when you're didn't

25:53

remember that i think

25:55

at another like the next day or

25:58

The couple days later or whatever, but. "I

26:01

had super like really bad period cramps just

26:03

in general", says Windy on Birth Control site

26:05

heard that salt and, so

26:07

as talking to my mom about it and she was like are you

26:09

needing this, last six for

26:11

any other reasons? besides

26:14

like period cramps and whatever and was like

26:16

maybe yeah and i'm super close as

26:19

i'm ominous always like an awkward especially

26:21

when you're like especially scene but yeah so

26:24

John and I swear it was like the

26:26

next day or like.

26:28

Right after that so they can conveniently

26:30

yes I still see still

26:32

yeah yesterday yes last,

26:34

night. he has these i

26:36

know do feel like is lower

26:39

your expectations yeah It's

26:41

also their first time, yeah, you don't

26:43

know what you they'll and but it's not like it's better, such

26:46

as keep your that the same time it's also like

26:48

instinctual in a way. The average

26:50

are not like okay you're both like happily

26:52

lists it's can I?

26:55

Makes sense and it'll get better with time yeah I

26:57

think that's a number and tip is no it will get better uh,huh

26:59

yes don't be sad if you're like this is what I've

27:01

been waiting for my whole life like how.

27:04

to keep things interesting things long

27:06

term relationship

27:09

I think she's keep. The

27:11

day.

27:12

The so hard and like get so busy and especially

27:14

like when you have kids and then, if

27:16

you like to have a good baby sitter. They

27:18

could keep going. The date for making

27:21

time, even if you don't have kids suggest going out

27:23

and doing stuff, it's fun, it's so easy to just

27:25

get caught up in like your normal routine

27:27

or you don't. The ego do anything

27:29

different. Yeah, I mean you and part for

27:31

like to do. It sounds.

27:34

like it you little neighborhood baby sitters so and

27:36

then my friend has a boyfriend now school i go out and doubled

27:38

aids and Go do you actually

27:40

going out to do, especially now that we have two kids

27:43

are going out to do anything without

27:45

them, as is good for us because we don't

27:47

get out like that, Austin, or even

27:49

like if you don't go out? Something

27:51

that think the most simple thing that if

27:53

we watch his show together am I love.

27:56

you this is alpha and yes i know

27:59

it's so nice illegal

28:00

Trying. New things together like

28:02

that, something I'm so bad at, even just like a new restaurant

28:05

or legs, anything he doesn't have to be something crazy,

28:07

bus or new activity that. Neither of

28:09

you have done, I just think it's like something

28:11

that's different, the takes you out of Eerie Teen

28:13

that something you can talk about after that

28:16

such like, oh, you. Go to the same restaurant every

28:18

day, you know, or every time we go on a date,

28:20

and then we have kind of same conversation

28:22

and the other thing I'd say like. Stay interested in

28:24

each other and that's when I've been really thinking

28:27

about lot lately because so ugly now

28:29

we're very like could depend on each other like only

28:31

did things. Together and as Hussey

28:33

years eve really like fun of, you know, he has

28:35

friends, I have friends, we do our own thing a lot me

28:37

bike, our own hobbies. And something I've been

28:39

trying to do is like to stay interested in

28:41

his life and be like, oh, how surfing

28:44

did you catch away like how even though I don't?

28:46

Know they don't really care, but it's like don't really

28:48

knows out that sauce, and

28:50

don't even really know what he's talking about that, oh

28:52

yes, he did this and. Then went decides

28:54

like he sucks the nice, it's nice, but like love

28:57

you, so I'm gonna be interested in like

29:00

thirty meters on, say, "Dude, don't know what" You're talking

29:02

about, but a I feel like. Then.

29:05

When he's really good at doing that for me to

29:07

all, you know, be explaining something that

29:09

I'm doing and I'm like get and I'm like there's

29:11

no way he cares. Displayed sweet

29:13

that he like ask me questions about it you know said,

29:16

as saying interest is in each other even if you're like

29:18

not. even i have a lot

29:20

of other excl fling that he has

29:22

that softly has fourth only is

29:25

it isn't as awesome like i have no idea what's good or bad

29:27

don't know i'm so sorry Then we.

29:30

Everybody right, yeah.

29:32

I don't have any day to you golf tee like know

29:34

you know anything about something like you know got her tell

29:37

me and my new goal as can be

29:39

inferred assists advice, he says

29:42

do is our have JC. have

29:45

i want The masters

29:47

that you watch like off as we are, he watches, he'll

29:49

tell me about saying, "Get ideas" The

29:51

to be better about.

29:52

I have even more is that yeah, I'm always like this

29:55

is the most boring sport of on their quick, why

29:57

would you choose? Then watch the masters

29:59

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30:00

And I was getting invested in I'm like see the

30:02

draw do the job that see the light

30:04

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30:07

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30:14

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30:17

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30:18

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30:20

be online play on only.

30:22

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30:25

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30:49

down a list of like fun. Activities or date nights

30:52

to do because I feel like when the time's hundred

30:54

so is like when meaningless as to eat like

30:56

nothing I'd written down like "go to

30:58

a pottery" Class go to like of magic show

31:01

rent sailboat go. to go

31:03

kayaking and we're obviously we live by the

31:05

beach which is awesome but like even just go to

31:07

barnes and noble rent barnes vintage court

31:10

like i was thinking We can do any

31:12

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31:14

A lot of them are like, you know, just go on a sunset

31:16

hike or go on like five mile morning walk

31:19

with just super long walk through yoga,

31:22

whatever. I have a picnic, get the park

31:24

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35:41

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35:44

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35:46

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35:48

her your thing like all the fun. The

35:50

gate and seven, like I'd love to do that by

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his system, was harder when you have kids or served,

35:55

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35:57

little. That more thin

35:59

so silly.

36:00

Her find the brainchild onto a sailboat so.

36:04

good enough for the sale died

36:06

he gave i like i'm like especially

36:08

because they don't have good should be like picking event like doing

36:11

this say this know all the for you know would you still

36:13

can do as kid he has a semi slurred as

36:15

easy as we live vicariously as vicariously oh

36:17

i see like Balance, you know.

36:20

Not too much, but also not too little

36:22

because his leg if you're not fighting all. There's

36:24

no arguing at all, as it is no. Hashim

36:27

yeah that like they did that era then it's

36:29

like okay him there's no

36:32

issue here is all fishing but,

36:34

if you're. like i think like

36:36

heard this statistic from like

36:38

statistic therapist their thing if three fourths of your interactions

36:40

are negative you want to think your marriage altogether

36:42

as bad

36:43

You wanted to be like less than half a

36:46

younger interaction interaction, good way

36:48

to look at it. The writing

36:50

are negative feeling, yeah. The

36:52

actually very good way to look at it because I feel like, yeah,

36:54

it's like you really think about it, you're like,

36:57

yeah, most of the time things are very

36:59

positive between us, but you there.

37:01

One. Twenty percent of the time, or fifteen percent,

37:03

the time were annoyed as each other like this

37:05

is marriage, you know that life some days

37:08

I feel like three fourths the day.

37:10

I'm like are we fighting all day

37:12

long yeah next outing yesterday as

37:14

a big stressful thing,.

37:18

or yeah they're definitely like those days

37:20

but Yeah, and then some days I'm like oh

37:22

Mass, we're like son loves today, like

37:24

we're just like yes, honey area say

37:26

he sets, yeah, and another days I'm like I

37:28

won two. Leave and just

37:31

leave you alone for their us today.

37:33

The and other and I won't players out there I.

37:36

think definitely balance but there's no

37:38

there's no right answer because

37:40

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37:42

in the month and depends on stage of life as last

37:45

year.

37:46

Not too much, but only fighting over time, it's

37:48

not the by now.

37:50

Okay, d'p p n your tampon stirring

37:52

already has it that p I think a p

37:54

on it you do.

37:57

That I wouldn't,

37:59

it period

38:00

The word so long oh.

38:02

true i have a seven month old and then i was

38:04

pregnant for nine months nine think pull

38:06

think pull my the temple drink forward

38:09

like afford a little to the side Not

38:12

I. don't think it is mine

38:14

It's hard to decide to go out the it's

38:16

forward and like I pull the string and hold it over

38:18

my. You can,

38:21

make sure i melee don't know what do

38:23

because it's been so long definitely

38:26

don't dispute with it Right, and you

38:28

will get p, it will soak up

38:30

the p completely and then you pay and around and.

38:33

Peter. Andre, oh yeah, I,

38:35

if I know that may take it out, I'p on it,

38:38

and yeah, that's what was to the paper

38:40

by, did actually and but? If I'm

38:42

going to leave and like just put it and that yeah

38:44

back, yeah, did the same some,

38:46

how often do you really saved on their

38:49

do very? Often he gets it she like.

38:51

at least once least week of physics place

38:53

like you save a bear Can

38:55

we get it?

38:57

I. Believe that site really don't shave my

38:59

like Bikini line a lot will now I'm getting laser,

39:01

so it's like super nice we get agree

39:03

with laser, yeah, I listen to. Hear you

39:05

talk about it, but did, and did it for a

39:07

while and I feel like it didn't really do

39:09

much for me while you were doing it did.

39:11

It does know okay, blake their

39:14

life. Mike Harris,

39:16

maybe.

39:18

It would also probably four or five years ago that

39:20

I did, as it's been quite a while to the Navy.

39:23

The i don't have.

39:24

Can the U. S. C,

39:29

I see my both my? own

39:33

side of the side don't ever just pointing out that it's

39:35

greatly doing of them when you're not

39:36

Didn't work my way some gonna do all this

39:39

the I'd say thank you very well for me. They.

39:41

The Murray, I don't know anything about laser, but the more

39:43

hear you interact with other people have done,

39:45

saw you have the perfect carry, feel like you,

39:47

I. Think I'm a journalist, can I think am

39:49

very good chance is my skin is very light

39:51

and my heard very bars mine now, really,

39:54

yeah, but your leg hair in? Or or digital on

39:56

really dark know it into my land or

39:58

that, but erm.

40:00

Million. And my armpits, okay, I'm doing that,

40:02

plus my whole legs like everything he

40:04

I wanted to try my legs after he said that, but it

40:06

didn't really work for we've. Hey well tried the first

40:08

same thing while we'll see how

40:10

my journey my journey continues but

40:12

see how dinah my,

40:15

job and looks after this yes

40:17

but. i would see my bikini

40:19

line more often than like

40:21

say that they're isolated is if you

40:24

have let it go for a long time it's like

40:26

freaking swore to see the hearing their boston

40:29

not like shoes but like

40:31

and yeah definitely not

40:33

Nothing, yeah, so I will

40:35

say when was. Right now. want.

40:38

To a table and for of you really

40:40

as cunning re I can even see was

40:43

like was trying as they you know and screw

40:45

this and then had next for.

40:47

me right before right was thinking really those

40:49

who this time that time doubt the doctors turn

40:52

on like i know but care like just

40:54

was on was big deal but i'm like eyes lit up keep

40:56

it a little bit later what i have crazy

40:59

you know what have to though that like is just

41:01

like a tremor

41:02

Tremblay very sore yeah that's a funny,

41:06

show me, yours picking up

41:08

on the vibe of how it can be not bald

41:10

and nice you know i like minds

41:12

a key if minds i think mind if she if mind would say

41:14

this but if see that bear like

41:17

that lot of times if am being too

41:19

lax with and i'm not being super i'm

41:21

intent is all i'm cycle get all razor burn

41:23

and are we so edgy he might have three zero hundred

41:26

like my if it's fully grown now

41:28

It. Won't it's me, but if it's in the middle

41:30

like if it's like a week or two after I saved,

41:33

so either have to keep it up all the time or the. Actually,

41:35

think they keep it up all time because it can

41:37

get, and it's a it's, and it's easy to

41:39

keep it up when it's like.

41:42

Okay, I did it was quite forget her the

41:44

eyes just when you've gone too far in the summer,

41:46

do way more often and winter. Then

41:49

you never know and I'll make the let's head down to the beach

41:51

on the Yeah, right, yeah, have to make sure

41:53

I'm ready for me and certainly time

41:55

okay this.

41:57

One is kinda crazy, how

41:59

do I stop seeking?

42:00

Validation from men that aren't my husband

42:02

I feel like I'm gonna not seeking

42:04

validation from any was not,

42:07

a hair. salon

42:09

only think of i think you are the desire

42:11

to us and i've always said oh my

42:13

This. Girl, she's not even as about the here

42:15

he really doesn't like I can only say

42:17

that about many people like you're,

42:19

like most people it gets

42:21

alone and their site. ,

42:23

yours is actually anything, it's anything that last summer

42:25

and the podcast it's like nintendo huge really

42:27

like, don't let it get you, and I think that's really

42:30

amazing cool. That's a

42:32

great quality great trio teach us

42:34

how yeah hurry like? that

42:37

i'm trying to think specifically about

42:39

She thing man oh. i was gonna

42:42

say think that

42:43

I. Mean again, you anymore context of the is because

42:45

it's like it could either be the marriage or could just

42:47

be an insecurity problem in general,

42:49

we're like you probably are not. Only seeking

42:51

validation from and your pilot also seeking validation

42:54

in general national, yeah, so

42:56

it's probably like, yeah, again, either

42:58

a union has been to navigate really said or

43:00

be huge. Very insecure,

43:03

yeah, your general, yeah.

43:05

Yeah, I'm gonna you really have any other advice

43:07

the head.

43:08

The thinking like why live like in my brain

43:10

I'm not understanding yeah what the need

43:12

is why you need another guy had to

43:14

do we already have your husband is. either

43:17

they he's not like you're lacking

43:19

or something like guy he's not giving that attention

43:21

that you like desire or

43:23

he is but not enough for you because you are feeling

43:25

just insecure see insecure like i have seen

43:27

like also get also never going to be enough yeah

43:30

from anybody also where can say that i'm

43:32

going back to like you not caring think

43:34

your that way either mean mentioned the

43:36

like internet thing just because think it is impressive

43:38

with like how big of a falling you

43:40

do have but i also saw your that way with

43:42

this everything else like believe anyone

43:45

judges your parenting her and winner do

43:47

like oh i'm not that they do but i'm just making

43:49

something up something you'd say like

43:51

say a surfer i would say

43:54

my life motto was so many things as a society

43:57

I can't think can care. Now

44:00

that the.

44:01

And I need as if mention this before,

44:03

but like any one hill, the sky, but everything,

44:05

but like more things like heaters

44:08

or whatever. What are you doing better than you

44:10

is not? Gonna!

44:12

Be criticizing criticize,

44:14

yeah, oh yeah, trying to bring you down, yeah,

44:17

made like a sealed take talks about

44:19

like replying when someone leaves negative

44:21

comment and I click on. Their profile and their have a

44:23

real person I'm like this is so

44:25

finding it seems like who leads

44:27

the school and because they're almost always April accounts

44:30

or whatever. Getting to see like

44:32

this person, yeah, they are

44:34

sad there are doing well,

44:36

definitely it's true, it's projection,

44:39

yeah, hideaway approach telling

44:41

close friend that the person she

44:43

is seeing is very toxic, should I say

44:45

nothing? The

44:47

my brother some time.

44:49

So hard to make a real inherent

44:52

one, yeah.

44:53

The morning or even worse, I isolated search,

44:55

you know, yeah, why is again

44:57

when he more contacts because was like the

45:00

toxic incident? You can't

45:02

figure thinking more like that, said that he

45:04

feel like. The heard you know, like, if

45:06

it's your place. "The

45:08

a good you are wanting to be good friend, but then

45:11

you can be someone's really close friend, and I

45:13

feel know asking them questions,

45:15

not send a manipulative, may be but like thinking

45:18

instead of basically being like"

45:20

Hey. I'm seeing as I don't like a delay

45:22

and just randomly coming to them that I

45:24

feel like the number one thing they're going

45:26

to be as the senses immediately assess if. They

45:28

really like the present, it's almost better

45:30

to just ask questions and just be like,

45:32

decided that the, and are you feeling

45:35

happy most of the time and then if they? Are, like,

45:37

well, as they lack, yeah,

45:39

and then maybe you can get into a conversation if they're like

45:41

Will actually has been hard lately disease than being like

45:43

this and then. Then you again

45:45

we learned this from silly you always

45:48

build them up you don't bring the other

45:50

person down so instead of him like he's loser

45:52

like you. you talk about

45:54

that the girl or whoever you're referring

45:56

to like oh my gosh you deserve the world

45:59

because you are

46:00

Though. Kind and funny and awesome,

46:02

so it's like you to says or someone who's going

46:04

to make you feel like a clean everyday idea,

46:07

you know that I think there's much better.

46:09

than just yeah, it's a bad memory, the best

46:11

way to go about it and the for her remains", he says,

46:14

"You will never let someone like for

46:16

you were funny to" yourself pretty much so

46:18

pretty much going along with advice like

46:20

if you are building someone up,

46:22

your look like increasing their confidence.

46:25

And that will eventually like get more,

46:28

I guess, or higher than the. Artemisia

46:31

abuse, but like them way

46:33

that they're treating them to.

46:35

No they will get more confident here

46:37

for they will not put up with as much any names

46:39

I say that it as say it puts

46:42

more would not. i just always

46:44

think about that exact concept with like me

46:46

dating just have an idiot like when

46:48

like was younger because i'm like oh my gosh with who with am

46:50

now I will you literally.

46:53

Leave in one second, but you know you're actually

46:56

loser like, "Why would ever be last, you have to say that

46:58

did not picture here to give one or two

47:00

ex boyfriend?" This one.

47:02

I heard Mountain in the next event

47:04

in his sixties.

47:06

Learn to talk to his Cincinnati I've had a few

47:08

iterations of your feet all gather all over

47:10

six by the guys, are you find

47:12

these men I known him, for

47:15

me anything now they all they over

47:17

and? but what's and was

47:20

extremely toxic hands

47:22

yeah

47:24

Like good for they are the more to sort,

47:26

on that you're that yale We're

47:29

all marriages we're home made to search teams

47:31

we love that resort and searching for,

47:34

yeah obviously you I would never do that

47:36

president has said so true the higher confidences.

47:40

it is less willing to put up with says like that yeah

47:42

By Tennessee, should see the interests

47:45

of their hopes together.

47:47

I think you're right a cash into such good way

47:49

to get people to self reflect

47:51

and also they don't feel like lot

47:54

of people have their told what to do they don't listen,

47:56

they get want to listen by if you're

47:58

kind of opening it up for them.

48:00

I can make their own decision than a note their own

48:02

decision that they left in the yet everybody have made me leave

48:04

for her okay, as an

48:06

have you been homesick like have I live

48:09

away from like your family for two weeks

48:11

as say I'm three. do we think

48:13

that it is as it was dealing with homesickness

48:16

move for a job love mine is city but miss childhood

48:19

friend

48:21

Yeah, I technically moved to L.

48:23

A. when was like eighteen. Now

48:26

the I'm literally think was there for, like, three.

48:28

Week, maybe for don't know, but

48:31

went home twice in that time in the for

48:33

a second visit me so. That I've

48:35

never. Yeah so yes I was being

48:37

on fish when when. i moved

48:39

there by have a really experiencing

48:41

homesick as homesick hadn't moved away when

48:44

i didn't move away from southern utah up see here but feel

48:46

like it's not really that different and different had friends

48:48

and family up here but me leave as have since you've

48:50

sessa you've have moved Yeah, a

48:52

lot of places, yeah, to you.

48:55

Feel like you're scared of change I

48:57

see a week since. that i like

49:00

it Than. Of

49:02

actually do. The and depends on what

49:04

it is.

49:06

Can you better just realizing leader you

49:08

ever have, like, yeah, I haven't really

49:10

had like some big significant?

49:13

Her child sense of they say I'm definitely

49:16

but Israeli really got away with Israel

49:18

while yes.

49:19

They say I just like I'm a person who needs to

49:21

be by like friends and family to.

49:25

milli be happy like all the same hobbies it's just

49:27

mean parker another we have our kids are what i write that's

49:29

what really truly need but I

49:32

am a person who couldn't just be like

49:34

on, let's go move to this random spot and

49:36

like figure things out and. That

49:38

new friends I like the comfort of.

49:41

The knowing.

49:43

And things I feel like yet the deathly

49:45

depends on your personality and your family

49:48

and just figure relationship with people

49:50

on. i was when we moved would

49:52

never home sick and like

49:55

utah or california for my family and friends in

49:57

arizona because of so close would see them so

49:59

often When we moved to Nashville

50:01

and I was so far from everybody that a

50:03

new friends and family like I was so

50:05

hard, was like can't do this like, even

50:07

if loved it here, don't think that

50:10

could beat that far, he do think

50:12

that any a difference like that.

50:14

The amount of defense even my sister just moved

50:16

to L. A. and I'm sad and I miss her bra my goal was

50:18

she said she so close tell if could drive

50:20

there if wanted to or it's an hour flight exactly

50:23

the findings as far but when and.

50:27

Note to self, I was like a six hour flight and

50:29

they are so are expensive, so it's like. Everyone

50:32

from someone can come out but as I like can

50:34

see everybody all at once of and

50:37

I've. never ride of that's a good

50:39

point though i've also never have moved that

50:41

far away or been completely oh my own

50:43

That have like never have figured to him

50:45

hela hey I'm not joking but.

50:48

i've also lived only in california which is

50:50

yeah so close i always feel like it is just so accessible

50:53

that accessible might if might am feeling well as

50:55

don't ever felt even that feeling

50:57

but if did just I could drive home and five

50:59

hours, no no. Matthew.

51:01

Concerning yeah, but did you see

51:03

if you were yeah across the country or

51:06

across the world like could definitely

51:08

picture myself getting hot sex and send my

51:10

kids it's? A little different, also

51:12

like in your early twenties or, like, in

51:14

that stage of life for your kind of finding

51:16

your independence, I think it make it harder to get

51:18

older. Like, isolate, especially if you have kids,

51:21

and think, especially if you like have a

51:23

group of friends or yeah, like as such as

51:25

community, yeah, community be

51:27

all the sun. Getting like ripped away from them being on your own as

51:29

I could just get harder and harder, yeah, that's like

51:31

minded early in the nashville now would be harder than

51:33

it. Was at that point yeah would have some a friend

51:36

I would have so much Fulmer yeah if

51:38

moved away from am now we.

51:41

gave her not by yeah oh wait what was

51:43

the question just like how to deal with on the edge dealing

51:45

with i'm like the worst person us as the minimum

51:48

wage and i mean don't waste time people yeah

51:50

a same as the radio what else i know there's

51:52

really nothing yeah just like train enjoy

51:54

it for what it is the stage of life you

51:56

know also have you You might you plan

51:58

a don't want to be away from home.

52:00

There's something wrong tack again go home now

52:02

and of, this three weeks

52:04

yeah. i love

52:06

that okay how to be bold Without

52:09

being not classy. When

52:12

talking to a guy.

52:13

Then. Night has this question because

52:15

I feel like you don't have, like,

52:18

being bold doesn't have to the

52:20

quit too much, don't have, like, making the first move

52:22

kind of thing I. Think so, but it's like don't

52:24

think been bolds is not classy,

52:27

didn't I'm Sam, but feel like us as like

52:29

another thing that people put on girls?

52:31

You. Too loud like that's not classy if they enter

52:34

what about all the guys who are extremely loud

52:36

yeah, and I'm saying is she, oh, that

52:38

kind of bold to I. Don't know, I think about that,

52:41

think you'd like kind of being like, "Hey, you wanna come

52:43

over like getting really tailored eater, yeah, mean,

52:45

think all that" Kind of is a casting like going up to someone

52:47

being, hey, can I have your number, it's like kind of that energy

52:50

though of like it's more tech I'm

52:52

just guessing? Like more Muslim energy

52:54

than being like, very like, you know, yes,

52:56

see classy is. By

52:59

the more than it is like action.

53:01

You. Could do the same thing and right have more of a classy,

53:04

are you know, classy means actually yeah earlier,

53:07

but I feel like it's totally find like make

53:09

the first? Nails, yeah, have be bold, some

53:11

says it's funny when we're giving like dating advice

53:13

was just gonna say I'm so I'm super

53:16

horrible on it yet. Oh, not

53:18

relevant to me, it's like.

53:19

Like. I can understand like my sister went on a date

53:21

the other day and I was like, so how does that

53:23

even work life is you talk to the week

53:26

it's? Like did you get us out on a date

53:28

like I just couldn't understand, because again hundred

53:30

my only boyfriend and we were friends before we dated,

53:32

so we didn't even. Like me and then lights

53:34

and a like each other and then he added

53:36

Cassie on day and like made the move and would ever

53:38

it was all super gradual just. Because of

53:41

how our new relationship was but

53:43

yeah I'm like I don't even understand how it felt.

53:46

like picturing getting a dating

53:48

app wasn't being singlet the you know they'd

53:50

run our mainly getting mainly dating app or meeting

53:53

someone through someone i don't know it they are sealed

53:55

didn't wrap my head around it because it's so

53:58

No, in my. The him.

54:00

We are now that yeah, no, I agree

54:02

only now we need to bring on like single people, eat

54:04

always has been married for like what is

54:06

a good movie, they may as well, yeah, yeah we all got

54:09

really twenty rematch, say,

54:11

okay, saw that my fiance was googling his.

54:14

I don't want to fight but should bring it up

54:16

one hundred percent yeah just ask why

54:18

Google like I'm wondering what the government is

54:20

weird feel like a felon or something like.

54:23

googling has actually for her locate you guys feel

54:25

like you confront your husband's on like any

54:27

unlike anything just have you ever doing something

54:30

weird i'm like what are you doing in that

54:32

really set and quite just my personality

54:34

i wouldn't oh so the question

54:36

why when people are gonna be like one Exactly,

54:39

I would am like.

54:42

So, nosy and so what are you

54:44

doing with that like another, he does anything, but

54:46

it's like if I saw he was googling, he likes

54:48

of inquiry doing this, yeah, now also

54:51

had to say this, but again as

54:53

your friend to the girl who wrote the said. I.

54:56

Don't want to fight, but should bring it out is

54:58

kind of a little bit of red flag because

55:00

you're why would it be fight, yeah, it's like

55:02

I? Don't want to fight it either, like the

55:04

way or thing, it makes it sound like you as they all the time

55:06

you're just so sick of fighting or that

55:09

you guys. Can't communicate like

55:11

it just turns into something that's not even solvable

55:13

yeah and if he gets mad at you for

55:15

asking not than that like very concerning

55:17

I think it. that's a

55:19

huge actually huge red flag as

55:21

your they do something sketchy you

55:24

question them and then they burst they back on the you

55:26

apply yeah when you meet no accountability no accountability

55:29

i don't think it's not weird of she googled his feel

55:31

like do random things like that the like oh what's like

55:33

this person from high school doing out what am

55:35

like your sim us on facebook or something back

55:37

for back wedding that's not that's weird but if

55:39

it was in was cause of fight if you ask about

55:41

that's when we're exact one hundred

55:44

percent it is their lives is that a curious

55:46

like curious heard something about her image on image to now

55:48

yeah i gained a lot of weight the past year

55:50

and i'm very insecure i'm afraid that it will keep

55:52

me from hanging out with my friends the summer and

55:54

literally don't want to be in pictures of them because they are

55:56

also skinny and q i love them

55:58

so much but hate how look They don't think I'll

56:00

enjoy spending time with them because I'm always comparing

56:03

mess up to them and reading this summer when

56:05

it's too hot and to hide under my

56:07

hoodies and leggings.

56:09

Really sad eyed I'm hurts

56:12

me I have definitely

56:14

related to the up for in terms of. mean,

56:16

think we are very hard on our.

56:19

No, it doesn't even necessarily matter

56:21

like that much, how

56:23

you actually look the how you feel,

56:25

the I think so too can be detrimental

56:27

where you just like I'd want to be in photos don't

56:29

especially with other people because want people to

56:31

comparison. Now. Think

56:34

like oh, she gained way or she lost weight,

56:36

or she left him as which she gained weight, whatever

56:38

it is vitally rights Atlanta sucks

56:40

so bad, specially during summer because.

56:43

"Years in swimsuits, you wanna just like relax

56:45

and have fun I've had them for, would

56:47

be like one summer we lived in San Diego

56:49

to so like", said a beautiful. Place I

56:52

was so insecure about looked

56:54

and I. The

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beach and so far like looking back, look,

56:59

if only you should have been so much nice on yourself,

57:01

you looked fine and like I'm not looking

57:03

back in the only thing I'm thinking as. Horrible

57:06

or anything like the wish would adjust enjoyed

57:09

the day, yeah.

57:10

Honestly, if you like take some pictures or memories,

57:12

but don't like. It was time looking

57:15

at them, yes, the city, the photo, yeah,

57:17

and also the you're gonna be in that had ceased, it's

57:19

hard to just run at all.

57:21

Then. Result: Time to think the I see the photo, it is

57:23

what it as if don't love it, that's okay, but

57:25

I'm gonna enjoy my day feel like also

57:27

buying. Up other things that you feel comfortable

57:30

in his also key to, like, I've

57:32

had times where I'm like it's weird sinensis,

57:34

I'm feeling insecure about like my buddy or anything

57:37

it's. Like. Almost try too hard

57:39

to like.

57:41

This is an early make any sense that cycle almost

57:43

get is a swimsuit that site. Hello

57:46

know like. make see what's worse

57:49

is something i'm just like i just picked something

57:51

that very comfortable am not trying to be like so

57:53

fascinated me like this is comfortable

57:55

and like can relate to this

57:57

in the way and know this is the fact that like I.

58:00

Honestly, I'm super pale and like all be with

58:02

like a group of friends who are older, six, so

58:04

tan and I've had moments or I'm like

58:06

no want to be and. Pixel, especially high school and stuff

58:08

not as much now, but it's like day I want

58:10

have you any good pictures of all my friends

58:13

with the lake's other organ like. "Percent Instrument be

58:15

so when everyone's like so tan and

58:17

muscular in and I'm sorry. Then. Prepared

58:19

whatever split something that and

58:21

this don't know, this is bad advice for

58:23

the Thomas I'm a toxic, as like I

58:26

sometimes think like for myself a

58:28

guy I know. I'm gonna be comfortable if

58:30

were like each pants because, like, don't, yeah,

58:32

I'm not so incompetent my legs like I'm gonna find

58:34

a cute pair of like slowly pants. That fit me really

58:37

well speeds, I know I'm gonna feel more

58:39

confident in my and therefore I'm gonna

58:41

be more fun to like be around

58:43

and I'm going to have more. Fun you, don't i'm

58:45

saying that i'm just trying to say like pick

58:47

clothing that the as a

58:51

Anything I've ever had fish feel better

58:54

me and I can be Alpha complacency

58:56

compete as if you feel more comfortable

58:58

don't have utterly, so am the if am I. This

59:01

he would have it's because don't see everyday. And

59:04

that makes a big difference yet me if I'm like.

59:06

dress comfortable than i feel more confident

59:09

You're doing those little things make yourself feel better

59:11

instead of focusing on the.

59:13

The go to a look like this or whatever, yeah,

59:16

and I think it's not even a bow. [Hovering]

59:19

yourself up or something, but again it's like if

59:21

you're feeling insecure innocence, it let's say

59:24

than finding really cute white button up shirt that

59:26

like the to bali to put. Others and through, and maybe

59:28

that, you know, give you little busy, I can so

59:30

cute the silver a lot better in ah,

59:32

something like that, yeah, exactly hobby have. Have more

59:34

fun time and do more thing they did you out

59:36

he said like when. your

59:39

The only got the beach is because you're in your head the whole

59:41

time thinking about what you look like the other people

59:43

when in reality. I'd run out as worried

59:45

about what they look like exactly as the at the beach

59:47

so take. No one cares

59:49

as much as you care, but I also understand the feelings

59:52

out this, do more things like if you're at the beach,

59:54

go swim in the ocean, and don't think about what

59:56

you look like, just try and be more present because

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then you won't be thinking about.