LOSS  AND ITS IMPACT ON MARRIAGE

Hello and welcome to episode 8 of When Life Stops, a podcast on finding new meaning after loss. What a journey we have been taking you, our dear listener on. Talking about all things loss and grief. Last week we had a very interesting interview with our guest speaker as we explored the subject of men and grief. So check it out if you missed it.

Today our conversation would center on loss and its impact on marriage. We have already established that so many losses impact marriage. 

We discussed in Episode 3 that there are over 43 losses that are considered to invoke grief but for the purpose of today's discourse we would limit it to death and focus more on child loss and how it affects marriage.

It has been said that it is not the death of a child that leads to parents divorcing but usually the judgement about how each partner is grieving the loss.

In this episode we discuss the skills, coping mechanisms, right support that makes a difference.We talk about how though loss is universal each family experiences loss uniquely and if there is an underlying crisis before the loss, that crisis begets more crisis and it puts a strain on the marriage relationship.

We also go a little in-depth to differentiate how both men and women react to loss too.  Understanding how men and women grieve is so important and crucial. We hope that the insights shared can better inform how men and women relate with regards to navigating through loss, but even so, this is not a one size fits all approach.

We also discuss some of the main problems couples can face

 With the most common being:

(1) Sexual problems, 

(2) Emotional distance,  isolation and preoccupation with self, 

 3) Increased conflict and/or fighting

(4) Drifting

Regardless of the state of the marriage, restoration is possible, recovery of love and affection is possible. Even though life would have changed for the couple and the life they once had might never be the same again we reassure our listeners that the storm and winds that blew were not designed to break but to build and make their homes and marriages stronger. 

We cover a lot in this episode but there is still a lot more to talk about and in episode 9 we shall attempt to delve deeper.

If this episode has triggered questions, please feel free to reach out to us.

We are available to help and support any one who would require our help and you can reach us by sending us an email at 

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God bless you and see you next week.

Detola & Stella