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Wind down with trailer and Michael
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Colin and I'm her radio podcast.
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We have two more
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days until we're free. But
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as you're saying earlier, well,
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no, they don't know what I was saying earlier affair,
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it's going quick offair, it
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was like doom and gloom, and
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I'm like, what do you mean we're doing
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this? Once? We said the first three days
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were really hard, and
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then it was like we need to,
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like because I was talking to my friend pamelin back home and
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I said, once we set a schedule
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for each day, like, it just helps everything.
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I think it helps my anxiety too. I'm like, okay, I know from
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ten to eleven we're outside, eleven to twelve is lunchs
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goes down, you know. And I
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feel like it's made the days go by
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a lot faster. It has what I'm
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realizing, or
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my tape job on my headphones, it's coming off.
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What is going on. What I'm
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realizing is I'm like, why does this feel so different
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because we've spent so much the last year like not leaving,
1:04
not doing anything. But I'm like, well,
1:06
last year we could still technically leave
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the house, Like I still went to the grocery
1:11
store and you went to home
1:13
depot. I'm like, honey, is that essential going
1:15
down She's like building
1:17
this thing for the kids. Absolutely? Absolutely,
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And but I'm like, now, these two
1:22
weeks, we weren't allowed to go anywhere.
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I mean, it's not it's not a
1:28
recommended, it's a you're staying
1:30
or you'll go to jail for six
1:32
months. It's like, if we want to run
1:35
the risk I'm
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dying. Do you drink some money? Oh
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my consus Okay,
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yeah, we run the risk of someone actually
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coming to the house and doing like a house call and checking
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if we're here. Yeah. Oh
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which, sorry, that just scared me. I'm like, I think
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they just showed up. That's your wardrobe
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guy. Um
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so yeah, it's it's been in that
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part. That part it was what was giving me anxaetty.
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But at the same time, there's people online that were
2:05
like stopped complaining, like we're all in a pandemic
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right now, We're all can't we all can't leave. And I'm like,
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that's technically now,
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I mean in California you can't really, but you're
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still go somewhere, right, No
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one, here's the thing again, here's the difference. No
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one's gonna possibly show up at your door to make
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sure you're at home. You have the freedom to
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leave. Yeah, in theory, we
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could, but we run the risk of getting like a
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set dollar fine
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or possible imprisonment. I really don't
2:31
want to do that. No, and we've already
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done it like we're used to. I think what I said
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to someone, I was like, honestly, it's just about the
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comfort of your own home. Yeah.
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Um, I know we talked about that last week, but I
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uh, yeah, I feel like wherever I
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am with y'all is home. All.
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We do a good job at making that happen for
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ourselves and for the kids. And I'm sorry
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to Pete that was where the heart is. But Wednesday,
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we're going to the zoo. I got us lined
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up to go to the vank Uber Zoo on
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Wednesday, nice little tour.
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I'm like, well, if you know, it's so
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ironically sad about that. I
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just thought of it. This is terrible. We're
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free that day, but the
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animals are not free, you
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know. We're like,
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we're basically the caged animals right now.
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So what you're saying when we get to the zoo and we're casts
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a lion we're free. No,
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but I feel bad. No, but
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I genuinely feel bad now Now I get
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it, like I'm a we're zoo
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goers. We are, we are, and
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now I'm oh my god. They lived
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that life every day. They can't roam free.
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They can't. I feel terrible
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all of a sudden become a non zoo goer. Peter,
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Yeah, I feel terrible
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now after we got to Banco, Yeah, after, because
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I need to get out. Um.
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So we celebrated Valentine's Day
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and lockdown quarantine
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and we made the most of it. Last
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Valentine's Day, we were also well,
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it was pretty much like well, we weren't locked down yet
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because that was March. But we spend it at home.
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Remember, we made homemade pasta and we
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ended up having to so
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last Valentine's Day, Mike
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was really wanting wanting it to be special
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because we just kind of went through a little thing
4:22
last January, and
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and he was just he was putting so much pressure
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to make homemade
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and basically it ended up looking
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like yogurt.
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Well, no, I just I second
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guest myself because I was going by this recipe in the resciper
4:40
was like, oh, basically you don't have
4:42
to boil the pasta before
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you put it in the pot with the sauce. I was like, what
4:46
that doesn't make freaking sense. But all right,
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like who am I to say otherwise? And
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then it's just like Doughey limp noodles.
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So it wasn't it was one big ball. Yeah,
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it was like noodles. The noodles back
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to their home, which became one big ball of dough over
5:02
those things that my grandma used to make dumplings,
5:05
dumplings. It looked like one big dumpling. Yeah.
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So we ended up ordering food.
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No, we ended up making well yeah,
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so yeah, we ended up making or do we
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end up ordering from a place in Nashville. But this so this
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Valentine's Day, I was like, bab let's just get
5:19
pre made noodles, let's
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get some fasta sauce, and you're lucky
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we're not at home. I'll totally try to redo it and
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do it right this time. But it was great,
5:28
a little bath, a little It
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was a good day. I wonder
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though, because a lot of people don't like
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to celebrate Valentin's Day because
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they called like a hallmark holiday it is.
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I mean, well,
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then what's Mother's Day
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to appreciate mother's Well, then what's Valentine's
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Day? A day to appreciate your look for
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making money for all these companies Christmas.
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Remember we learned about Christmas what Christmas was
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when we were watching the Scrooge
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and we looked up when did Christmas actually start?
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And was to make money for
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the company's Remember
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when we looked that up. So it's like the same thing. I mean,
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it's all essentially the same. Well, no, we
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our question was when did Christmas
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become commercialized? Right? But it
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became commercialized because of the money
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and right, but there's still
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you know, the wise men brought gifts. Why are
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men so against Valentine's Day?
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Like you're fighting valid? Because here's the deal. Here's
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the deal. It's not really a if
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you say here's the deal twice or like more serious,
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No, if I say it three times and I'm really serious. So here's the
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deal. It's
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they don't put a name on it, and it's in terms
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of Mother's Day or Father's Day where it's one specific
6:46
person. Right, But the
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way society has been it puts
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the pressure on the mail two
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have a you know, give a great
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gesture of love. And
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the women just naturally or the receivers
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of that. And it's like, wait
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a second. You get your birthday, you get
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Mother's Day if your mother, we get Christmas
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anniversaries. You're telling me that
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we have to take another day out of a month
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and say, hey, honey, here's all this stuff
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to show that I love you. People have to be money.
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You could just write a nice handwritten card
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and say I really value and love you and
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you're my Valentine.
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Yes, I've never asked for any gift
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on Valentine's The only reason why you got me last year
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because you ruined Christmas and got me a bid day
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for Christmas. Right, some
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cultures, that's a win. Mark.
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Can you back me up on this? Do you feel more pressure that's
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next for you? Do you feel
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more pressure as a male for Valentine's
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Day? I do. First of all, I'm very
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much enjoying the show. I was muted, but I was laughing out
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loud, So I just wanted you guys to know that. Um,
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I think that they're all Hallmark holidays.
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All holidays are made up, so I don't see
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why one is more than the other. So I don't know that
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I can go with you on that, Michael. No
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one really knows when Jesus was born. They just
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picked a day. But um,
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yes, there's a lot of pressure. And I have an issue
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because my wife's birthday is two weeks before Valentine's
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Day and it's all right after Christmas. It was like three
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bam bam bament. So I gotta plot it out. I gotta start
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planning, and I gotta, like, you know, I have a list in my
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notes section on my phone reckon, like organize
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what goes to what birthday and what goes to Valentine's
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Day and what goes to Christmas. Otherwise I'm gonna be out of luck.
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Welcome to being a woman. We have that, I have like
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the whole year planned out, like Father's
8:30
Day, this, that his birthday. I mean, that's just what
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a woman does. And I'm proud of you that you even have
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that because I have to be like Mike, write
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it down. I would like it. The last
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time I did that, I got her a day and she hated
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it because I didn't ask for it. You kid,
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Oh my god. I literally said, we're
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going to go back to you, Mark, But I know joke. We
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were at a friend's house, and I was like, oh, this warm
8:51
seat feels really nice, said
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as my main gift for Christmas, you're
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driving pick and cheese. It
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was just the warmth of the sea. It wasn't that I
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don't like. I don't even use the spritzer. I
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don't use the spritzer. I just like a heated seat.
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I like it. I like I like a good old
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heated seat. But I didn't want it for Christmas.
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And so the only a lot of money on that with
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Mike, I don't know, because
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then I ended up paying having to pay for it a
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double down this last Christmas to it needed
9:20
to be spectacular and
9:23
I killed it. So it's okay. But
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that's the thing. And this is what I told him, because we actually got
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into a huge fight about it because he's like, I
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was like, you, what you don't get and what you're missing
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is that it doesn't matter how much
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you spend. I mean, sure, diamonds are
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great. Every woman loves diamonds. I was
9:38
like, it's the intention, the intent
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and the intention behind the gift. He got me
9:42
this thing from probably
9:46
uncommon goods. It probably was like maybe
9:48
a hundred bucks, and it was
9:50
the most thoughtful gift
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I've ever gotten from him. It was like it was a Chicago
9:55
map where we met. It was like a little heart pin
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and it was just like, Wow, that's
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so sweet, and I'm like, I love that
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more than the diamond this
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you gave to me that I wear once, you know. So
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it's truly for women.
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It's about the intention, and I think going back to Valentine's
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Day, it's just about appreciation and
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telling that person you appreciate them and that you love them.
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That you don't have to do grand gestures.
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But sure, I'm so sorry that we get
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four things out of the year to show
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that it should be every day day.
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Of course, that's my point. Well, the defense
10:28
rest No, no, no, you're no no.
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What I'm saying is like we should have we
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should have every day. You should show us that you appreciate
10:35
and love us and write little sweet notes. But can
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you at least do four out of sixty five
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or however many days there are in a year. We don't
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get actually better when we do more than that, Sure
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you do, we're a lot softer
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and nicer. What are you laughing at,
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Mark? I'm
10:52
just enjoying this. This is I mean,
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could you make really good points. You both make a
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really good point, you know, Mark, I'm gonna put that to
10:59
the test in the year where
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Valentine's or you already did Valentine's
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and I had no choice but to be just sentimental
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and cheap. But moving forward to Mother's
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Day, birthday, anniversary
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saying you have to be I'm just saying,
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like there's I'm gonna go super
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inexpensive and just sentimental. And
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you guess what one of those days is gonna be a
11:21
lottery pick where she's going to get the grand slam
11:23
of no material gift. All
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she's gonna get is eye contact, intentional
11:27
words. I'm saying, honey, I love appreciate
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you so much, and that'll
11:33
be your gift. It's got to be written down, like
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you sound kind of like you sound kind of arrogant
11:38
right now, Like you gotta at least like like I said, frame
11:40
it, you know, and I did that and it was amazing.
11:42
It was my favorite gift. And I still haven't.
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You just said, you said, how do I sound arrogant?
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Well, you just sound kind of like like we don't
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deserve I'm gonna write something down
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and make a card. I'm not saying that
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that's part of it. I'm saying, if you really
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think there's no material
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isn't behind it For Valentine's
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Day? No, I don't think so. For a birthday,
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and for Christmas? Yeah, I think you know something
12:05
nice, you know, if that's what we agree on. If
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not for like, hey let's just do the deck next year, then
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we agree on it. But I'm not that
12:12
girl to say I want a deck for Christmas,
12:14
you know, like most couples say, like, that's our
12:16
couch. I don't want a couch for
12:19
Christmas, you know what I mean. I would
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like a nice pair of shoes. I
12:23
don't want to be like, well, well we had we spent
12:25
a lot of money on the couch this year. When
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you buy yourself ten guns, you
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know. Anyways, my
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I rest my case, and now
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we're gonna get comments of how materialistic and
12:40
whatever we are. I
12:42
think you make a good point. I think it's a combination. It's
12:45
got to be sentimental, but gifts are
12:47
nice. Everyone loves getting gifts. Valentine's
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Day, Birthday, Mother's Day, the four days a year, right,
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he's got to come strong him, I agree, and I got it
12:54
to Guys have to step up. I think that's
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the message. Yeah, and that's thing. I have no issue
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with it. It's m I
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don't it sounds like you have an issue, like you get four
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days out of you. Where
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I have the issue is when at
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times women will say, oh,
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it's not about this, it's not about that. I just want to know I'm
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appreciated, no,
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no matter what it is. And or
13:19
even we even said who is it? Your
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brother? Your brother and his fiancee.
13:23
They even said, hey, don't get it. Don't She even
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said, don't get me a gift and he said, okay.
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In the day, come he didn't get her a gift, she said, And
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she got him with she said, what the where's my gift?
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He said, you told me not to get you a gift. Well, that's
13:34
different. I've never told you not to get me something.
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I agree. I'm not saying you have I'm
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just saying women in general, this,
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Yeah, that is a thing out there where.
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If men, if you and I agreed, hey, let's not get any
13:46
any you know, get each other anything for Christmas.
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As a guy, I'll be like, okay, we're not getting each
13:51
other anything for Christmas. You knowing you, you'd
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probably still get me something. Of course I would
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because I appreciate you. That's
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the thing. It's about appreciate and being like I
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appreciate you. Whether it's five or
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five bucks, I app's showing
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appreciation. But what if we agreed
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not to get I
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still think you still get something small. I'm
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sorry, I just think it's I think it's appreciated,
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and it is totally. But a girl
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wants to feel validated
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and appreciated and loved. And
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God, we do so much, like
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we do, we do so much, and we
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all we get our four days, so
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I only get three yor not? A mom
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you know, well two
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weeks their own. I would like
14:41
to start throwing myself. Half birthday is now just approve,
14:43
just to prove my point of appreciation.
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We're going to celebrate my half birthday. Bring
14:50
it. I'm ready, all right, Mike
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intro, our amazing guest for today. All
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right, speaking of doing too much, this is a lady that knows
14:57
how to do too much successfully, Miss
14:59
new Cole Walters. She was a former
15:02
employee for Fortune
15:05
company, decided to leave that company
15:07
and start, you know, her own business and became the
15:09
CEO and founder of her business, which
15:12
is called an Inherent Learning company, um,
15:14
you know, and that she specializes in uh
15:16
business development training, strategic coaching
15:19
for emerging entrepreneurs and established
15:21
business owners. So we're gonna have her on and
15:23
let her teach us all about that and pick her
15:25
brain. Yeah, they also have a show her
15:28
and her family. She's um called she's
15:30
the boss on USA right, and
15:33
the girls that she has they're actually
15:35
adopted. So I'm excited to hear about that story.
15:37
And then I also want to ask her to she
15:39
quit her job on like
15:42
online basically I mean in front of people, Yeah,
15:44
just in front of curious
15:47
to ask her that. So, um, we'll
15:50
take one more break and then we'll get her on. Hello.
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Hi, I'm so sorry we made you wait Okay,
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I apologize. I apologize,
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I apologize, don't be,
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don't even. I'm the person who's like, please don't
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send me gifts because I'll never send you thank you notes. Just
16:19
let's just own who we are. It's a pandemic.
16:21
Collect it's fine, you know, it's
16:24
so funny about and
16:26
we can just let's just go right into it. But thank you
16:28
cards. I'm terrible with thank
16:30
you cards? Yes, I
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like, can I just text you them?
16:35
Anymore. No, that's the thing like kid's birthday
16:37
parties. I'm like, I don't have the time. I feel thanks
16:40
for the unicorn for my daughter, right
16:42
right exactly. I'm always like, why are you even
16:44
putting me in this position? I need thank you cardless
16:47
friendships. I need you to understand I
16:49
don't want that pressure, you know, because
16:51
it's it's the layers to a thank you card. It's
16:53
I need stamps. I have to get to
16:55
a post office by stamps.
16:58
Like what is that? Well, and here's
17:00
the thing too with that is I'm like, when
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I get a thank you card, it doesn't do anything
17:04
for me, you know. So I'm like, I
17:07
just I personally, I'm like, well, of course you're
17:10
thankful that I you know, like you don't need I'm like,
17:12
I'm always and I say to my friends, like, you don't need
17:14
to write a thank you card? Like do not write a thank you card?
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Yes, it's pressure because I'm like and I'm
17:18
like, it's just wasteless and like I got time to I got
17:20
to open it up. I compare it to
17:23
ringing the doorbell, right. I always make the joke like if you
17:25
bring our doorbell, that means you don't belong here.
17:29
You walk in. You either know the code
17:31
or you just walk
17:32
so we're
17:34
not friends. You don't know what's exactly
17:36
right. It's like, honestly, whenever I get a card,
17:39
I kind of recondo it. I'm like, I
17:41
hold it to my heart and I'm like, Okay, sentiment
17:43
received, and then I throw it in the trash,
17:45
Like what am I supposed to do with this thing? You
17:47
know? I got it. I know
17:49
we're getting super off topic, but it's
17:51
kind of the same thing. Even like
17:54
I love doing the Christmas cards, but we don't
17:56
have anywhere to put them, so I just feel bad like
17:58
putting people in a drawer, do
18:00
you know what I mean? Like their whole family
18:02
in the drawer, every single piece of it. Yeah,
18:05
that's the one that even this past year, I was like,
18:07
Genna, we need like one of those little decorative
18:10
like trees to put on because that's the one. I do feel
18:12
bad because I know we go and actually take these
18:14
pictures and people put effort and paying money to
18:16
have them professionally done right, And so I'm like, I
18:19
don't want to be thrown in a drawer. We pay
18:21
money and take us about it, like I
18:23
have to buy furniture to display your photo at
18:25
this point, Like, I mean, if you don't put
18:27
me in that position, you know what I mean? This is supposed
18:29
to be a relationship of depth, like what are we
18:31
doing second? Virtually where I can
18:33
then add it to a nice little folder, you
18:35
know what I mean, posted on my page, let the
18:37
world know how cute, and then we move
18:40
on with our lives. It's what it
18:42
is. Um, I get it. You guys, get me to
18:44
listen. Thanks for coming on our show
18:47
already. Like you you're just
18:49
I mean, you're a total boss. Can we just
18:52
back up for a second though, because I mean we introd
18:54
you in the very beginning, but you
18:57
quit your job online.
19:00
I did live in front of ten thousand
19:02
people because were you Just like I'm
19:04
done, drop the mic, like what did you? Like? What
19:06
was your classy? Like I was raised right
19:08
just like I don't show people's houses unannounced,
19:11
you know, Like you know, I was like raised
19:13
right now. It was a situation where I
19:15
already had built a place for me to go, so like
19:17
I was going to hire myself, Like I knew that
19:19
I had a thing myself. Yeah,
19:22
I had a plan. So it was really just um,
19:24
I called my boss and I said, hey,
19:26
you know this is at an alignment. You know, I'm
19:29
it was actually people don't know this. It was right
19:31
before a performance review, so like my
19:33
annual performance review. And he was like, oh, I'm
19:35
so excited to talk to you about all the cool new things
19:37
for that coming year. And I was like, pump the brakes
19:40
on that because I'm not going to be here. And
19:43
that was that I might have been. I was in
19:45
your shoes out to wait for the performance review just
19:48
to get that validation right, because you know, you probably killed
19:50
you know, you probably killed it. Like Nicole,
19:53
you are amazing. We can't future
19:55
with you. Thank you so much. By the way,
19:57
I'm out right right right, it's
19:59
like, oh, well, really funny you say that because I'll be transitioning
20:01
all my loggins because yeah, I'm
20:03
not gonna be here, So what made you want
20:06
to do that in front of ten thousand people?
20:08
Like what was that? Wow? The
20:10
incentive? So I mean like, obviously you've
20:12
had the people who are like the flight attendants who like,
20:14
you know, dispatch the emergency
20:17
thing, and it wasn't one of those. Like what
20:19
it was was I've been detailing my journey
20:21
online already, so like people saw me building
20:23
the business and getting clients, and like
20:25
I was already sharing that. And so the truth
20:28
was I wasn't planning on sharing my quick day
20:30
ever, Like that was not a thing. But
20:32
I told everyone, Hey, I'm doing it today.
20:35
I'll be back later to let you know how it
20:37
goes. And everyone was like, no, no, no, no,
20:39
no else, keep us on the line. We've
20:41
been following the journey. We want to watch
20:43
it live. So that's what happened. They end up seeing the whole
20:45
thing. I love that. And
20:49
now you have a show. That's when
20:51
is it airing? It's on USA, right, Yeah, it's
20:53
on USA. It's airing on February
20:56
at ten thirty pm Eastern
20:58
on USA Network. And then you
21:00
have um three three
21:02
kids and they're adopted. We
21:04
read that right, So did you
21:07
did you try to have kids and you
21:09
didn't or was it just adoption? You always wanted
21:12
to do that and that was just your route so
21:14
neither. So, UM, we had pretty
21:16
much said to ourselves, we're not even going to try until
21:18
we're I'm like thirty two. You know, let's
21:20
hang out, let's be married, then you know, get stuff done
21:23
and then um, we actually got our kids
21:25
by We're driving in Baltimore City
21:28
and we met a woman on the side of the street and
21:30
she was panhand I'm so serious, like panhandling
21:34
with her with her three year old and so,
21:36
um we were talking to her and she mentioned she had
21:38
two more kids at home, so we were
21:40
like, well, maybe we can help mentor get
21:42
you guys some groceries. And long story short,
21:45
we found out she was going to jail a year after
21:47
that and are not a year I'm sorry
21:49
a month after that and we said, okay,
21:51
well what's the plan with the kids? And she said I
21:53
don't know, and we said, okay, well we'll take them.
21:56
So from the moment we were on the side
21:58
of the street, thirty days later, we had the
22:00
kids and um, we still have them,
22:02
and now my mom not mentor woe.
22:06
So how old were the three kids? Yeah,
22:09
so we had It was a three year old,
22:11
and eleven year old and a fourteen year old, all
22:13
girls sisters. Oh my goodness,
22:17
Oh no, I'm not. Absolutely I actively
22:19
try to keep them from licking outlet you know, I
22:22
like I criticized even
22:24
the fourteen year old. Right literally, kids are trying
22:26
to kill themselves constantly, and like you know,
22:29
I'm always criticizing their eyebrows because that's like a
22:31
family value. So I'm very
22:34
as a mom. I do the best thing I can. Don't
22:37
like to eat right and make sure your eyebrows are
22:40
you get it? So so you get it clearly?
22:43
Are you? Are you located in Baltimore? No,
22:46
so we moved from Baltimore to Atlanta, Georgia. So
22:48
I'm now like officially Southern. I use y'all
22:50
periodically, you know, are
22:54
you from the Baltimore area? I am
22:56
so like I was born and raised in d C. Went to
22:58
um Hopkins and like you know, my husband's
23:00
University of Maryland, that whole thing. But I'm a
23:02
Southern girl at heart, like entirely
23:05
like love country music, love,
23:07
like like I was the girl at the front
23:10
row of a Chris Young concert in
23:12
Richmond, right, black girl, cowboy hats,
23:14
singing every lyric and people are like, what are you talking about?
23:17
You know, and I'm like, you don't know me. This is my
23:19
life. So give
23:21
our listeners kind of like your elevator pitch
23:23
of of what you have, the business you started and
23:25
created is yeah. So when I quit
23:28
my job, I basically quit because
23:30
what I realized was my friends who were bloggers
23:32
and New York Times bestsellers and on
23:34
TV and all that they were doing a great job
23:36
doing their craft, which was writing books or
23:39
being on TV or writing their blog, but
23:41
they were trash at making money like
23:43
it just they had no corporate skills. They
23:45
and frankly they weren't supposed to be. And
23:47
a lot of people beat themselves up because they're like,
23:49
I don't know how to profit from my skills,
23:51
from my gifts. I just know how to do the thing I do well,
23:54
and I know that I need They're or they're all
23:56
smart enough. Most of us are smart enough to realize
23:58
I need more money coming from different places, but
24:00
we don't know how to do it. So that's what I do.
24:03
I opened up an online school called
24:05
one K One Day Academy, and
24:07
basically that's what I do is I walk people through
24:09
education courses much like college, but it's
24:11
like the stuff you actually need, where I show
24:14
you how to do everything from build an online
24:16
store to sourcing it with products to opening
24:18
up a business bank account, just like the real
24:20
skills you need to have. So that that way, if
24:22
you're an influencer, you're actually getting paid.
24:25
That's awesome. Thanks. It
24:27
makes a lot of sense, it does. It's
24:29
like you know the fact that you know
24:32
it's attainable to you
24:34
know totally. It's helping
24:36
people the steps
24:38
of what they need to do to you know, um,
24:41
forget a hat to get a hat from.
24:43
From a motivational standpoint, let
24:45
me ask this kind of asking for a friend here,
24:47
someone who who wants to start
24:50
you know, more of a passion project
24:52
business. And but
24:54
I find myself where my friend finds themselves,
24:57
Um, questioning, like having days
24:59
where it's like day you're more motivated than other days. You're
25:01
like, are people really going to get this? Do they? Is
25:03
this really something I want to do? You know?
25:06
What what do you tell? You know, your clients
25:08
with people you work with like, yes, believe, could
25:10
continue to believe and get it going. Yeah.
25:13
So I know that for a lot of people. The way my
25:15
brain works as it works corporate style, right, so it's
25:17
more tactical and less emotional.
25:19
But what's great is that translates
25:21
into action. So like odds are
25:23
for you or your friend, like
25:27
you know, it's a situation where I wonder
25:29
if our idea is good enough all The reality is all
25:32
ideas usually have a home. I mean,
25:34
if you think about it, Steve Jobs when
25:36
he held up the iPhone, he didn't invent something new
25:38
phones existed, He just took buttons off of it,
25:40
you know, like little tweaks can make a whole
25:42
new thing. So what I would tell that person is, instead
25:45
of comparing yourself to somebody with big brand
25:47
ideas who super accomplished
25:49
and has already hit a million dollars, just realize
25:52
you can start small, like you literally, just
25:54
launch it small, see how it goes, then
25:56
expand and make it bigger. Oftentimes
25:58
we just say to ourselves in our and it's not going to be successful
26:01
if it doesn't blow up right away. But the reality
26:03
is that's not how and of stuff
26:05
in business doesn't work out that way. Everything starts
26:07
small first. So so odds
26:10
are you can do it. If you think you can get what a
26:12
hundred sales, ten sales, you can probably
26:14
get a million of them. So start small. I
26:17
love it. What's so the
26:19
show that you're doing? What what can people expect
26:21
with that? I mean, especially like you're dynamic
26:24
with your husband and tell us all
26:26
about that. Well, so my husband's
26:28
not a cool kid, right, Like, he doesn't look like this in
26:30
a hat. He's a round Jewish lawyer, kind of shaped like
26:32
a bowling bin. But I'm into that. So it works,
26:34
you know, it's like it works out well, very
26:37
hot. I'm into his brain. So um. So
26:39
that said, our show is a
26:42
little bit of both sides. You know, I'm a working mom,
26:44
right so I'm spending time in the office.
26:46
Um, I'm on stage. I have these top
26:49
celebrity clients. I'm building
26:51
businesses, making a multimillions.
26:54
But then I go home and I can't
26:56
get my kids to shower regularly. You know, I
26:58
can't get them to get their i's together.
27:00
I can't get my you know, eighteen year old to
27:02
move out of my house. You know. I mean, these are all
27:05
the things that every mom deals with. And
27:07
it's hilarious to watch.
27:09
You know, someone who people think as a boss, you know,
27:12
not being charge of anything. So get home and
27:14
just get owned by everybody else totally.
27:17
Ot. I mean I go in and I was
27:19
just joking. Yesterday my nine
27:22
year old comes to me and she's like, so, I have to
27:24
write an article about a famous African
27:26
American for Black History Month.
27:29
And so I'm of course, coughing, like famous,
27:32
I'm black, you
27:36
know. She looks at me and she's like, yeah,
27:38
no, I know, Like I know you're an
27:40
African American, you're you know, but what
27:42
what are you even famous for? Like what would you even
27:45
be famous for? Like she was really
27:47
like in my face, and I was like, you know
27:49
what, it's fine, it's fine. What's famous? She was
27:51
like, well, you don't even have a billboard. Even the kid at the dentist
27:54
has a billboard. I was like, you know what, you
27:56
know what, that's fine. So this
27:58
is what my life is like. It's
28:00
like that, well I can't wait to watch it, just
28:02
to see my future because
28:07
the other day, Jolie just turned five and she's like, I'm
28:09
five, I can do whatever I want. And I'm like, oh god,
28:11
here we go. And that's
28:14
the reality of it. It's like a regular they
28:16
get into this I know, that phase where
28:18
it's like I know things because in their brain
28:21
they've been here forever at this point, like it's
28:23
not a baby is three, you know what I
28:25
mean? A baby is not five. But I'm like, I literally
28:27
was fishing your turns out of the bathtub like
28:29
five minutes ago to ask yesterday.
28:32
Now, all of a sudden, you can do whatever you want. Like, all
28:34
of a sudden, you can do what everyone That's not how that
28:36
goes, Like are you kidding me? But
28:38
you know, it's the joy of parenting. Where
28:41
can our listeners find you? Because I want
28:43
to see more of you two, so you're
28:45
awesome. You can definitely find
28:47
out more at Nicole Walters
28:49
dot com. But I'm all over socialist
28:51
Nicole Walters, and you can listen to my podcast, the Nicole
28:54
Walter's Podcast. Oh my goodness, I
28:56
love you. I'm excited to watch your show. Thanks
28:58
for coming on and um
29:00
yeah, excited too, excited to
29:02
watch the show. It's gonna be awesome. You're the best
29:04
everyone can watch. Februarym
29:08
on USA Network. Thanks Nicole.
29:10
We appreciate a big times. Bye
29:12
bye, Hey
29:25
Mark. Do we have any emails? We
29:28
do. We have some nice emails here and this first one is from
29:30
I believe it's pronounced Janelle j
29:32
E n I L l A Janelle. Recently
29:35
this past summer, my sister opened up to me about
29:37
her marriage and the issues they were struggling with.
29:39
I thought they were making progress. Come
29:41
to find out, over the summer, my brother in law
29:43
said he could not stay in the marriage any longer and left
29:45
her and the two kids at home. He even
29:47
started speaking to another woman, but he didn't see
29:49
anything wrong with that because he was just trying to find himself.
29:52
Long story short, they've been working on
29:54
their marriage. They've began a couple of therapy, he
29:56
stopped speaking to other women, and he moved back
29:58
into the family home. My struggle
30:00
is, how do I move on from the pain
30:02
he caused my sister? How do I move
30:04
on and forgive him for leaving
30:06
his kids and his family and thinking he was
30:09
doing the right thing? Janna, how did
30:11
your family ever forgive Mike? Did
30:13
he ever have a conversation with your family after
30:15
everything that happened between you two. I'll
30:18
go ahead and start with this, Um.
30:22
Yes, I did have
30:24
many conversations with you know, Jane's
30:26
family, pretty much
30:28
everyone in her family at some point,
30:31
and it was very, very difficult.
30:35
Um. But here's the thing,
30:37
and this is what everyone
30:39
in Jana's family told me. When I
30:41
would talk to them about these things, they
30:44
say, look, we're not happy
30:46
about this right now. Obviously we don't improve of what you
30:48
did, Mike. But at the end
30:50
of the day, we love
30:53
Janna, and if Janna chooses
30:55
to love you, then
30:57
we'll choose to love you too.
30:59
Or world used to support her in loving you.
31:02
So they just watch Channa. They
31:04
just observe her. They feed off of her energy.
31:06
They and you know, as
31:08
the time goes and we have more and more moments
31:11
together around the family gets
31:13
more and more comfortable, people realize, hey,
31:16
you know we can do this. We are doing this. Um,
31:20
I don't have to be defined by my past actions,
31:23
and now my relationship with all of them is fantastic,
31:26
probably better than it's ever been, you
31:28
know, from a connected standpoint, Um,
31:30
for sure, with everybody. Um
31:34
So yeah, that's what I would have to say is just
31:37
look at your sister and feed
31:39
off of her energy. And it's
31:42
your job as your as her sister too. Yeah,
31:44
speak your truth, but also to love
31:46
and support her and her decisions.
31:48
And this is what she wants. Then you've
31:50
got to learn to deal with that. Now, if he hasn't
31:53
talked to you, you do have the right
31:55
to talk to him
31:57
about it and express your feelings. Yeah,
32:00
I think you have a right for that. And
32:03
also on the other side of it, he
32:08
didn't do anything directly,
32:10
like, yes, he hurts your sister and
32:12
that's wrong and that's bad,
32:16
but he is not your husband,
32:18
boyfriend, lover, like
32:20
he didn't hurt you. So sometimes
32:23
if you bring in that negative energy
32:26
to your sister, that's
32:31
going to affect
32:33
your sisters thought
32:36
process with things, and that's
32:38
not fair either. Is this making
32:40
sense? Like it it wasn't a personal
32:42
attack towards her, and so to not
32:45
don't take it on as a personal attack,
32:47
right, But it's almost I make up that it's
32:49
almost harder, right because if you're not directly
32:51
affected, you don't have that
32:55
that confusion of but I love
32:57
this person, but they hurt me type
32:59
of inflix like you you know, like maybe
33:01
you have or you've had in the past
33:03
with me where it's like she just sees
33:06
red or she just sees enemy because she wasn't
33:08
directly right, so you
33:11
know, but it's also not her place. It
33:13
doesn't mean she has to go you know, shooting
33:16
from the hip and causing ship.
33:18
But it's almost easier
33:20
to be anger. It's easier for it's
33:22
almost one thousand percent easier for her to be
33:24
angry. But I just want her to remember that,
33:27
you know, the best
33:29
thing you can do for your sister is just show support.
33:32
And also if you have feelings
33:35
and he hasn't talked to you, then be like,
33:37
hey, is it cool if I have a conversation with him,
33:39
because it is a personal thing, it is your sister.
33:41
But I also like try to remember that
33:44
it's not your life. That yes,
33:47
it affected, it's something directly affected,
33:50
directly affected, but it's not you weren't directly
33:52
affected. I
33:54
feel like I'm being insensitive, but I hope you guys know
33:56
what I'm trying to know. It's just being directly versus
33:58
indirectly effective. And end of the day, it's
34:01
not Janelle's life. It's her sister's
34:03
life and decision. So she can
34:05
have her thoughts, she can have her feelings, Janelle
34:08
can she can you
34:10
know, express them in a healthy way. But
34:12
it is her sister's decision. It is her sister's
34:15
life, and you're going to have
34:17
to you know, you don't have to like it, but if
34:19
you want to be comfortable, you're going to have to. You know,
34:21
Like, I'm sure there's plenty of times where my
34:23
mom, you know, did not like Michael, but
34:26
she's still tried, you
34:28
know, when she's still put on the happy face
34:30
because she knew that I needed that of her.
34:33
So now if it continues to happen,
34:36
then of course you have to
34:38
have tough love. If you're like, I can't have
34:40
this in my life anymore, like I you know I have. We
34:42
have a a friend whose
34:44
sister keeps staying in an abusive relationship,
34:47
and she's like, I can't keep watching you go through
34:49
this. That's you know, when it continuously happens,
34:52
that is affecting your life more and you
34:55
sometimes you're like, I can't I can't
34:57
have this. I can't be in front
34:59
of him knowing this is happening. So Mark,
35:01
do you have a Yeah, I'm not even sure this guy
35:04
is that anything wrong at all? We know that they were
35:06
having problems, and we know they split up and
35:08
he moved out. We're not even sure he didn't seem
35:10
to cheat on his wife. Like I think,
35:12
you just got to be nice to him. You've got to follow your sister's
35:14
lead. If she seems good, you're gonna be nice
35:16
to him. You may not mean it, you may not want to, but time
35:19
is going to make it better. That's all you can do for
35:21
sure. Do you have anything else this is
35:23
from Danielle Janna. How
35:26
do you deal with your anxiety and ways
35:29
you cope since the pandemic, I've noticed
35:31
I've been getting more anxiety, and I've been trying
35:33
to find ways to deal with it better. I just
35:35
had my second baby, so I've been home a lot with
35:37
my family and my husband. But I'm longing for
35:39
the days to get back to normalcy, aren't
35:41
we all, Danielle. Yeah,
35:44
I hear you, Danielle. And it's been it's
35:46
been tough. I think what I have to There's
35:48
been a few things that I've done, even
35:50
here in Vancouver, when I started to get anxiety.
35:53
UM. I don't know if
35:55
you're religious, but a lot of times I asked
35:57
for God to take away my anxiety to
36:00
help me with it. I do grounding
36:02
exercises, so, UM,
36:05
I either count um
36:07
five, four, three to one, or I
36:10
literally count my fingers all the way to
36:12
ten. I'll go outside put my feet
36:14
in the grass. US. That's
36:16
a grounding exercise, UM,
36:18
and it just kind of brings your body back
36:20
to reality, back to here, back
36:22
to what's not in
36:25
your brain happening. UM. Also another
36:27
grounding exercises if you're in a room
36:29
listen to things like what's
36:33
something that you notice right now that
36:35
you can hear or that you can see or that you
36:37
can feel, and not again grounds who takes
36:39
you back. Meditation is
36:42
really helpful therapy if
36:44
you do E, M, D R. And it's really good for anxiety
36:47
UM to kind of bring up things that you're
36:51
UM needing to cope with. Maybe that's more trauma
36:53
underneath UM
36:56
and then you know, get
36:58
juju with it and get some oil and lavender
37:00
and yeah, just Danielle, honestly,
37:04
you know, go to Google. Tell someone too, by
37:06
the way, go to Google and just type in
37:09
UM search for like mindfulness exercises
37:12
and that's just a way to again
37:15
kind of like Jana saying, getting grounded, but it's a way
37:17
to take your mind and focus it on things
37:19
are in front of you right in that moment rather
37:22
than things that are outside of your control. And
37:24
just know that I
37:26
was I'm fine, I'm not dying, I
37:28
will be okay. And sometimes
37:31
the best thing that I've ever done for myself
37:33
is when I do have an anxiety attack, I
37:35
say, whoever I'm with right now, I'm having
37:37
an anxiety attack. And the second
37:39
someone comes in and helps me or Mike, and
37:41
he's like, okay, like what you are you? Okay? Like when
37:43
you need sit down? I feel better knowing
37:46
that I'm not alone, So I hope that helps. All
37:49
Right, Well, guys, I'm
37:53
really excited because when we talk
37:55
to them next week, we'll be free. Yeah,
37:57
me too, and the animals will still be stuck
37:59
at this, but we'll go a wave and say
38:01
hi, we'll free them all. Catch
38:04
us on the news. When we frege all the animals, we'll
38:06
be at the Greater Vancouver Zoo letting go of all the monkeys
38:08
and the tigers, and then in prison. So um,
38:11
see you guys next week later
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