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Welcome to the 13th episode of
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who needs school today. We're going to
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take a little, little twist in our conversation
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and talk about. The first
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educators are parents and the role
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of parenting in education. Our
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guest today is Kerry Cahill
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LaRosa. She has an advanced degree
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in clinical social work is the founder
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of LaRosa parent coach. But
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before we get to our, my chat with her, I
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tell a little story about my
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first educators, my parents in particularly.
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I'm the oldest of six kids and
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we were growing up. Our birthday was a, was
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a big deal and we'd get the one gift
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from mom and dad. That was always
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the big gift. And for my 18th birthday, as I was
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may of my senior year of high school,
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and I was going to head off to Santa Clara for college
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and for my 18th birthday, my mom
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gets me this, this package, they open
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up and of course I'm thinking when I get a car
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or something, And I
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open it up and it's this green
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apron and she's on
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the opposite end of the table for me to
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celebrate my birthday. And she
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says, okay, stand up. I want you to hold it up. So I,
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I hold up the screen apron and she
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stands up and she's wearing her apron. She
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comes around the table and she says, all right, hold
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it up and hold it up in the strings
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in the back of the apron are tiny. I'm thinking,
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man, this is, I mean, come
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on. This is what a weird gift
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for an 18 year old had enough. And
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she comes up and she grabs
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the apron strings and
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takes a pair of scissors out of the pocket of her
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apron. And she cuts
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my apron, spray apron Springs,
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and says you're free to go.
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And so for my 18th birthday, she
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gave me my freedom in
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some respects that made it very helpful to come back.
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Alright, enjoy our conversations with Carrie
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LaRosa. well,
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a warm welcome to Carrie LaRosa
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to who needs school carry. Uh, where does
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this podcast find you?
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Hi, Joe. Thanks so much for having me. I am
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currently in Rockville, Maryland, just outside
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of DC.
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Awesome. Well, thank you so much for, uh, for doing
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this. I really appreciate it. And I thought we'd just
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dive right in and if you could. Talk
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a little bit about what you're doing now and
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your path, to get there and you know, what
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were the experiences and why are you
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doing.
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All right. Well, currently
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I am a parent coach.
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I have a degree in social work and
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what I do is I work with parents
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to understand child development,
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to strengthen their relationships with their
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children and help them
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to raise children who
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are confident, independent,
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and emotionally.
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Hmm. And then, so how
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did how'd you get there? What was your path
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to starting this.
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So I went to social
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work school and there's some background to that,
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which I can share in a moment. Uh,
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and I studied clinical social work with
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children and families. And,
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then I was working with, um,
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children. And, uh, providing
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individual therapy for them. But of
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course, you know, there's the work
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with the parents, right? To, to
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support the therapeutic work and
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to help with the progress in between
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the therapy sessions. And
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what I discovered in
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working with children and families is that there
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was another way, uh, to help. Support
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families. Um, and that was to
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work directly with parents to
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help equip them with the knowledge
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and the skills to be able to
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be the best parent that they could be for
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their specific child. And
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so I started my own business and gradually that
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became, um, the work
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that I have been continuing to
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do for over 10 years.
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And I bet there's no, no lack of work. I mean, we
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always talk about parents as being the first teachers
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and, um, there's certainly
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a lot about parenting
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and over-parenting, and probably a lot of
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anxiety about what parents should do and love
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for you to talk to talk to that in a minute.
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But before that, I just want to peel back a little
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bit. What, you know, what prompted
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you to do this? What is this something you thought about
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when you were growing up in school
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or did something inspire
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you to do.
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So I've always been interested in
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and helping people and, um,
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kind of how the mind works. And, but
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I went to say nations S I
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as you know, and the
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part of SSI, one of the reasons I love
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it so much is that there's an aspect
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of character development. It's not just academics.
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It is about how do you support,
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you know, the development of the. Person.
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And part of that was our encouragement
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to think empathically about other
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people, people who are struggling, people
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who are challenged and
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you know, to be people,
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it was for others and then was changed
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to with others. So you're working together
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to. Move forward
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to make progress, to gain those skills that you need
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to do to have to be successful.
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And so that kind of started
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the bug for me of
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thinking about what careers
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I could have, what I could do that
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would, where I could be a professional
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and still work with people
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and advocate for them and support them.
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And I went to the Jesuit volunteer
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Corps which led me down a path
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of doing, um, paralegal
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work for nonprofits. And,
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um, what I found through that work
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was that people kept coming in with a sort
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of saying. Underlying
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issues that kept getting them trapped in the legal system.
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And so I decided
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that I was gonna go to social work
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school to learn more about
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the systems and
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the issues that people face that,
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um, continuing to sort of trap them
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and create barriers to. Being
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successful and making progress
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and being independent. And, I've
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always loved children and have a passion
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for children and child development. And
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so that's why I chose
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to, to focus on clinical work
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with children and families. So a long, long
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road, but
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yeah, but it sounds like you, you know, you really
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paid attention to you know, to some societal
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needs. And gifts that you
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have that could help improve
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the lives of the people that you're dealing with. Now,
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I know that this is a kind of morphed
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into really focusing on parents and
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how they, you know, how they parent and,
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um, we've all been parented, right?
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Some, some fashion or another.
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And certainly, I think a lot of us have opinions
6:47
about parenting. But it's no secret
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that in today's world there's
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a L there's a lot of, um, lack
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of a better word over-parenting or whatnot. I think
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I may have shared with
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you before the story of my son
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was going to be a freshman at Gonzaga university.
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And they told a story about this girl
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who wandered into the housing office and said, Hey, can
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I change my room? And they're like, well, we know. And
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she said, uh, well, my, my roommate's
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mother has been living with us for six weeks
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and sleeping on the floor and getting up every
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morning and taking her to class as a college
7:22
freshman. So it just seemed,
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you know, it's obviously a bit extreme and
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yet there's something there's
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some drive that parents have to
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do that. Absolutely. What
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do you, what do you see in your work with
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parents? You know, what are some of the major. Um,
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themes trends, uh,
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concerns or opportunities.
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Yeah. So I, that is
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an extreme example, but you're right. It,
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it happens. And the
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question I would have is whose need is
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that being filled there is that the parents
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need is that the child's need, and it
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might be a little bit of both, either way,
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not a healthy situation. Right. And
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the reality of it is, is that there are so many.
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Societal stress and
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perceived kind of fear
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about these terrible things that are
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going to come in the future and how terrible our
8:13
world is right now that
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it creates so much fear and anxiety on the part
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of parents and concern
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that if we don't step in as parents,
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if we don't sort of shift
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and drive and shape how our
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kids learn and
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Do sports and extracurriculars.
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If we don't drive them down the right path, they're
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never going to get there and they won't be
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successful and they won't be
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able to go to that top college and they won't
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get that good job. Uh,
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and that's a lot, that's
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a lot of pressure on
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a parent.
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It's a lot of designing, right. You're really trying to
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design the kid in
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and know, create a pathway for their experience.
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So how do you address.
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Well, so let's, let's talk about
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what happens when you parent
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from a place of fear and anxiety.
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What ends up happening is when we
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are feeling anxious and stressed
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or fearful, Are
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Roger. Roger are logical
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and rational. Part of our brain is not working very
9:18
well. It's not functioning. Uh, and
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so when we parent from that
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place of fear and anxiety, we
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are not making good
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parenting choices. We
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also then create fearful
9:33
and anxious children. And
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we really prevent
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them from being able to develop the very
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skills that they need to be successful, which
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is to be self-driven
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intrinsically motivated, emotionally
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intelligent, resourceful, independent, and
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have confidence. And
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it's this tough situation and tough
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balance of when do you support, when
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do you step back? When do
9:58
you let them make a mistake? Learn
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how to recover from that mistake. When
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you know that back and forth, that constant
10:06
sort of tension around, when do you step
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in, when do you support? When do you let them figure
10:11
it out on their own? And that's not easy and
10:13
it's going to be different at each developmental
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stage of course, and a little different depending
10:17
on the child. But
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I think being able to reflect as a parent, what
10:22
is driving my decision to
10:25
force my kid to. Do
10:28
the swim team or to
10:31
get this tutor, what
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am, what is the intention behind
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this? Is this something they really need? Or is this a need
10:38
that I have mine
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or a need that I feel like they
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shouldn't have?
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How, and, and how do you find
10:47
the parents you work with to be receptive?
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Or is there this kind of deep seated
10:53
resistance? You're like they hear you, but
10:55
don't really listen. You know,
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how, how has that kind of message.
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I think it's really hard to
11:03
buy into that idea. It's it's it
11:05
feels like a risk, right? If we
11:07
don't try to control what's happening,
11:10
we're leaving it up to chance. And
11:13
so being able to,
11:15
uh, Give parents
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sort of the information and knowledge
11:19
about how things actually
11:22
turn out when you use these strategies or
11:24
parents from a place of fear and anxiety to
11:26
be able to, to give them opportunities to
11:29
learn from parents, who've gone through it, who
11:31
have let their kids gone down their own path
11:34
and how that worked out for them. And it's not always going
11:36
to work out. But,
11:39
you know, forcing them, pushing
11:41
them, designing
11:43
them, as you say, is not
11:45
necessarily going to work out the way we want anyway.
11:47
And the reality of it is, is that without
11:49
our own passions and, um, Motivation.
11:54
We won't be that successful. Anyway, if somebody
11:57
else is our external driving
11:59
force, well, what happens when that goes away?
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Or what happens if it's
12:04
gets quiet or, uh, what
12:06
happens if you just don't want to listen to that external
12:08
motivation anymore? Right? You need to have
12:10
some of that come from within
12:13
we my wife and I raised three kids
12:15
and other adults, we always felt like our
12:17
job was to. Um,
12:20
get them out of the house so
12:22
that they could get, whether it's go away to college or go, you know,
12:25
go live on their own, but they could, they
12:27
could live on their own, you know, they can handle
12:30
life and be able to take care of themselves.
12:33
Um, and it, there, it was, it
12:35
was a very interesting experience because of
12:37
the external pressures, especially around
12:39
sports. Don't. San
12:42
Francisco bay area and the peninsula it's produced,
12:44
you know, some, the world's best baseball
12:46
players, you know, like Barry bonds
12:49
and whatnot. And there's, uh,
12:51
there's a great knowledge about, um,
12:53
an expertise about baseball and there was
12:55
just so much. Um,
12:58
opportunity and kind of fresher
13:01
for our boys to play on these club baseball
13:04
teams. And because you felt
13:06
your, you were like afraid that if you
13:08
didn't give them that opportunity, they may not
13:10
reach their fullest potential. Now,
13:13
um, for us, that blew up. I
13:15
remember vividly a Sunday night, November,
13:18
late November. My son was playing at a baseball
13:20
tournament down a local, uh, local
13:23
place. And they're in the championship on a Sunday night,
13:25
it was like eight 30. We
13:27
were freezing. And
13:30
I just sat there thinking this is,
13:33
I want to be home with my family, having dinner and
13:35
relaxing on a Sunday night and spent
13:37
all day at this baseball park. And I'm thinking, who
13:40
do you have to blame for that? That's your own
13:42
fault. And so after that, we
13:44
just put a kibosh on anything
13:46
that wasn't really in season. Yeah. Also,
13:49
I think part of it is the,
13:51
uh, uh, fame
13:54
and attraction of, uh, what pro athletes
13:56
might, you know, uh, offer.
13:58
And there's just such a lure.
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And I, I, you know, kind of thought back
14:03
to that and I thought, do I
14:06
really wish that on my
14:07
kid.
14:09
You know, to have that kind of of fame
14:11
and attention. I don't know
14:13
if that's exactly what I'd want for my
14:15
kid. Anyway, I digress because
14:18
parenting is,
14:19
so I have to say
14:22
that I, my husband, I had been struggling
14:24
with. Recently as the kids
14:26
get older and people start moving into
14:28
these travel teams and what's best
14:30
for our kids and our family too,
14:33
you know, is this just because everybody
14:35
else is doing it? And again, this
14:37
fear parenting out of the fear that
14:40
if I don't sign my kid up for this, what's
14:42
going to happen to their soccer career. You know, my
14:44
nine-year-old soccer career what's going
14:46
to happen. If I, you know, do.
14:49
Sign her up for this, you know, $4,000
14:52
a year travel team. Well,
14:55
you know, I've decided that I'm
14:57
willing to take the chance. I want soccer
14:59
to be fun, and I
15:02
want baseball for my son to be fun.
15:04
And hopefully they'll find their own drive
15:06
and passion to. Work hard
15:08
at it or not. That's okay.
15:11
It's really, you know, it, it can impact
15:13
the family both financially and time-wise
15:16
when you push, if the
15:18
children aren't really driving
15:20
it. And it's
15:22
not always the best thing. And then there's burnout
15:25
sometimes as well.
15:27
I, I found out what to be one of the
15:29
fascinating lessons and perhaps
15:31
blessings of this, you know, COVID
15:34
experience that we. In the past
15:36
18 to 19 months, especially
15:38
when things really shut down. There
15:40
were some weekends where we had nothing
15:43
to do. And, um,
15:45
I can't remember that last time that happened.
15:48
And it was took a little getting
15:50
used to, but there, it was also
15:53
very refreshing. It was there. It was.
15:56
Recreational recreation, you know,
15:59
really got a chance to relax
16:01
it. And so we've been kind of conscious
16:03
of trying to build in time like
16:05
that. Almost schedule it so that you have,
16:08
you don't have it, overly planned
16:12
for children. Sorry,
16:14
but no, go ahead.
16:16
I think it's so good for children,
16:18
you know, both young and older
16:22
and adults too, quite frankly, to have that
16:24
downtime, they were uncomfortable
16:26
with it at first, but then, you
16:28
know, my kids ended up doing things that they
16:30
had never felt like they had time
16:32
for, or just didn't even think
16:35
about because their days were
16:37
so planned out and structured,
16:39
but they. We're building,
16:42
you know, forts in the woods and
16:44
going on bike rides and, you know, doing
16:47
things that they just don't normally get
16:49
too much of an opportunity to do. And thankfully, some
16:51
of that has continued. But
16:54
kids need to figure out what to
16:56
do when there's downtime. You know,
16:58
they need to rest. They need to. I have
17:00
some time to think for themselves and have
17:02
quiet thoughts, um,
17:04
and learn how to play right. And not
17:06
have that design for them. Right.
17:09
And that's the whole idea and
17:11
art of play is so important. Let's
17:14
circle back real quick on the sports thing that
17:16
you mentioned. Cause we've been through that. Right.
17:18
And, uh, you
17:21
may or may not know, but my, I had a son
17:23
that played college football and then he spent the last four
17:25
years. On and off, uh, practice
17:27
squads and the NFL he's, you know, he's a high level
17:30
athletes trying to play tight end.
17:33
And, um, he may, you
17:35
know, I, I always say that he's probably gonna curse
17:37
me on my grave when I died. Cause we, when
17:39
he was in high school and had
17:42
a desire to play in college,
17:44
we did nothing. Like we didn't hire
17:46
anybody, didn't do anything.
17:49
And all I said to him is if you're going to do
17:51
this, you got it. Because
17:53
to play something like
17:55
that in college or to higher level
17:58
takes tremendous intrinsic
18:01
desire. Um, and
18:03
he's gotten as far as he's gotten, um,
18:06
he's a good athlete, but he's incredibly focused
18:08
and he had a deep desire to be successful
18:11
and to try it, he wasn't trying to, he wasn't
18:13
doing it for me and I, that
18:15
I thought was important. You know, I could care less.
18:17
I just want him to find something
18:19
that he, um, where he really uses.
18:23
But I thought was that was, um, I think
18:25
helpful for him, you know, to getting
18:28
to where he got, you know,
18:31
and I wonder what would've happened if you
18:33
did try to design that. If instead
18:36
you saw you're really good at football. All right.
18:38
Let's figure out how. How we can
18:41
support you and make you the best player possible.
18:45
W we will never know, but I wonder
18:47
if he would have the same drive or passion,
18:51
my guess would be no,
18:53
because you have. It
18:55
would be you, you guys, as the parents
18:58
would take that over, you would take that
19:00
drive and that passion on, and he
19:02
wouldn't even have the space to develop
19:04
that for himself to think about it, whether
19:06
he wants to do it for himself or not. But
19:09
when you let the kids drive their
19:11
passion, when you let them sort
19:13
of take the lead on some of these
19:15
things, it's
19:17
an opportunity for growth in so many
19:19
different aspects. And also. Helps
19:23
to develop that intrinsic motivation. That is
19:25
really so key to committing
19:27
and to staying focused like your son is doing
19:30
without that. And he probably wouldn't be
19:32
doing what he's doing
19:33
right now. Right. And that we're
19:35
not sure where he is in the, if he's done or if he's going
19:37
to have another option. Um, but
19:39
he really doesn't know what he's going to do after
19:42
this football things over, because he's
19:44
been so focused on it, but I'm not worried about
19:46
because the, the same
19:48
gifts and skills that he applied
19:51
and the discipline and the focus and the effort
19:53
that he applied to doing this will translate
19:55
into whatever he tries to do next.
19:58
And so, and he'll be fine because he's developed
20:00
those kind of internal resilience
20:03
and toughness and skills to, you
20:05
know, to do that.
20:07
Absolutely. And I think that's so key.
20:10
Is that such a good point, Joe,
20:12
is that the, those other
20:14
skills, those social, emotional
20:16
skills, the independence, the drive, the
20:18
focus, they do really translate
20:21
to everything else. And, and we're often
20:23
very focused on sort of the
20:25
obvious skill sets of athleticism or
20:29
arts or academics when
20:31
there are these other social, emotional
20:34
skills that are so critical and. Every
20:36
you do in life, you know, at home, in the community
20:39
at work, um, that
20:41
those, you know, of
20:44
course, I mean, my background is in social
20:46
works. Of course, I'm going to think this way, but the research
20:48
is coming out strong that in fact,
20:51
these social, emotional skills and having emotional
20:53
intelligence is so key to,
20:55
you know, success, whatever that looks
20:58
like in the future.
20:59
Yeah, and those take time and it
21:01
takes time to develop those, those skills
21:03
years of development.
21:06
And they're obviously when they're know kids
21:08
of different ages for, you know, different,
21:10
uh, growth opportunities, um,
21:14
pivot just, uh, just a little bit as
21:17
in ask you as a, as a mom you
21:20
know, school aged kids, as you
21:22
anticipate, they're, um, you
21:25
know, they're going into secondary school
21:27
and, and, you know, hopefully, or probably
21:29
to college beyond that, what
21:31
are you, what are your hopes, you know,
21:34
for their experience in school?
21:36
Like, what do you really want their
21:38
experience to be like in
21:40
school? And basically knowing what you know,
21:43
and doing what you do. What should schools,
21:46
especially high schools, what should
21:48
we be doing?
21:50
Well, I think, you know, my
21:53
kids are very different. I'm sure you having
21:55
three kids that they were all different. They
21:57
learn differently. And I think
21:59
it's so important for.
22:03
Kids to feel like somebody
22:05
sees them for who they are at school.
22:07
Um, that relationship
22:10
in so many aspects of life is so
22:12
key. Um, and particularly
22:15
I think with school, um,
22:17
the relationship that staff
22:19
has with parents and
22:22
that teachers and administrators have
22:24
with students that they make positive
22:26
assumptions about the students and
22:29
that. They truly believe
22:32
that there aren't bad kids,
22:34
but maybe kids who
22:36
make some bad choices at times.
22:39
And, um, that
22:41
they also provide. They're
22:44
not expecting kids to
22:46
always to fit into a box. They allow
22:48
that there's some space. I hope my children
22:50
feel like there's some space for them to be themselves at
22:52
school. Um, that particularly
22:55
as they would move into high school,
22:58
that they feel like there are opportunities
23:00
for them to follow their passions. Whether,
23:02
you know, with the. Some
23:05
hands-on experience, uh,
23:07
some choice in classes,
23:10
um, and
23:12
you know, really being able to have opportunities
23:15
to develop those social,
23:17
emotional skills, being independent so
23:20
that, you know, they are
23:24
expected to,
23:26
they, there are high expectations of them they're
23:29
held accountable and
23:31
that they're also given. Opportunities
23:33
to develop those skills, to recover from mistakes,
23:36
to get the support when they need, uh,
23:38
to follow their passions, to you
23:41
know, advocate for themselves for what they
23:43
may need or want to do. So
23:45
really, you know, to sum that up
23:47
it's about them being able to be themselves
23:49
and have choices and gain,
23:52
you know, the, the social, emotional skills we've been talking
23:55
about and independent. And
23:57
confidence, you know what I mean? Not forget about
23:59
confidence.
24:00
Yeah. And that's, you know, perhaps
24:02
one of the things that was accident during
24:05
uh COVID, you know, we had a
24:07
lot of schools going to re remote learning, which
24:09
we did as well. And
24:11
as technology and the access
24:13
to information has changed over the last
24:15
couple of few decades, we
24:18
realized, I th I think that
24:20
you know, we, we used to see schools as a repository
24:23
of infant. This is where you're going to
24:25
learn and pick stuff up. And
24:28
it doesn't necessarily have
24:30
to do that. We could find that information
24:32
from anywhere and what
24:35
schools, some of the values that
24:37
schools offer is that they are
24:39
a place for socialization. And
24:41
that is so important to human development,
24:44
that they learn the those
24:46
interpersonal relationships and
24:49
social, emotional skills, you
24:51
know, But one of the things
24:53
perhaps highlighted during, uh, during COVID
24:56
any, any other, other thoughts,
24:59
kind of last thoughts on, you
25:01
know, this topic in the, you
25:03
know, the world you've immersed yourself in
25:05
as a parent coach. And as
25:08
it, especially as it pertains to school,
25:10
Yeah. I mean, think one last thing.
25:13
Just kind of piggybacking on what you were just saying,
25:15
that the other
25:17
aspect of wanting,
25:20
you know following the passion, having choice
25:22
and independence, is that
25:24
the reality of it is we can sit down and learn
25:26
something to spit back out on a
25:28
test. Right. But when
25:31
we are interested, when we're
25:33
focused, when we have a passion
25:35
for something. We are able
25:37
to truly learn and develop skills,
25:40
right? So that's why, you know, the two
25:42
year old is able to
25:44
come up with all these. Very
25:47
difficult words for what the
25:50
different dinosaurs are or construction
25:52
vehicles are because they're passionate
25:55
about it. So they want to learn and they immerse themselves
25:57
in it and they read the books and they talk about it.
26:00
And I, you know, that, that doesn't
26:02
stop when we're passionate, what we're interested
26:04
in topic. We are going to absorb
26:07
that information so much better.
26:09
And particularly for feeling that we're
26:11
in a place that is. Safe
26:14
and we are respected and treated
26:16
with respect and, um,
26:18
and that it's a safe learning
26:21
environment where you can make mistakes
26:23
and have the support, or
26:25
at least yeah. Have the support to get back
26:27
up again and learn from them.
26:30
You know, you really touch upon one of the themes
26:32
that has emerged as I've talked to folks
26:34
in this podcast and that's
26:36
the gift and value of curiosity, and
26:39
it's not so much. Designing
26:42
what to learn. Um,
26:45
learning how to learn is important, but,
26:48
you know, somehow designing or inspiring
26:51
this curiosity, because you're
26:53
curious there's, you know, it
26:55
just that perspective of being
26:57
curious as opens up a whole world
27:00
of opportunity and you really I think you
27:02
really touched upon that.
27:04
Yes, absolutely.
27:07
Last bit love to ask if there's
27:09
anything that you'd recommend reading
27:11
wise or something
27:14
to watch, especially if we've got some young
27:16
parents out there that want to raise
27:18
healthy independence, a
27:20
responsible citizen.
27:23
Yes. So a couple things
27:25
check me out on social media
27:27
for online classes and webinars that
27:30
come up. Also some of the
27:32
books that I love permission to feel
27:34
by Marc Brackett. He is the director
27:36
of emotional, the Yale center
27:38
for emotional intelligence the
27:41
self-driven child by
27:43
Ned Johnson and William
27:45
sticks. Rude is excellent.
27:48
It really touches on some of the themes we were talking
27:50
about today about, you know, how do you
27:52
sort of let your child go and make some of those decisions,
27:55
even when it's scary. And then
27:58
if you want to look
28:00
at a really alternative, different perspective on education
28:02
and how children learn Based
28:05
in sort of how they learn naturally and,
28:07
uh, based in child development, anything
28:09
by Peter Gray is great.
28:12
He definitely thinks outside the box. He's
28:14
a little bit about unschooling, but there's a lot of
28:16
nuggets of great information that he
28:18
has about how children really learn.
28:21
And again, sort of tying to these themes of
28:24
developing these social, emotional Skills
28:27
and being becoming self-driven
28:29
and intrinsically motivated. So I would definitely
28:31
check some of his things.
28:34
That's awesome. Those are great recommendations and
28:36
folks can find you, um, it's LaRosa,
28:39
parent coach.com. Is that correct? Correct.
28:42
Yes. Great. And I, and I know you had
28:44
talked about doing some YouTube videos
28:46
and then making some of the work
28:49
that you do a little more. Correct?
28:52
Yes, absolutely. Um,
28:54
COVID has sort of helped me pivot into
28:56
a world of making some of this information
28:58
accessible and affordable, where you
29:00
can listen to, or watch it whenever
29:03
you want. So, you know, check out
29:05
my website, follow me on social media and you'll
29:07
get up to date information on the latest
29:09
and, um, of
29:11
courses. And if there's something that people want to
29:13
learn more about, I am open to it. So
29:16
just shoot me a message.
29:18
That's awesome. Well, I certainly, uh, commend
29:21
you on your, your good work there's perhaps
29:23
no more important thing we do. Uh,
29:25
if we have kids that being parents and
29:27
setting, you know, being the role model for
29:29
them and, uh, helping raise
29:31
them it's a, you know, a very
29:34
important responsibility. Well, Carrie,
29:36
I cannot thank you enough for joining
29:38
us. Just fascinating conversation
29:40
and, and great work. So thank you so much for,
29:43
for being a guest today.
29:44
Thank you so much for having me, Jay. I appreciate
29:46
it.
29:49
Thank you for joining this session of who
29:51
needs school. If you like, what you hear, please
29:53
like us follow us and recommend
29:56
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