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Welcome to Why I'm Voting, a production
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of I Heart Radio. Listen.
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You already know this, but it's an election year.
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You might already be tired of hearing about it.
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But here's the thing. Democracy
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doesn't work without you. I'm
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Holly Frying, and I'm sitting down with
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many of my fellow podcasters, from Will
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Ferrell to Stephanie Rule, as well as
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other luminaries, to find out about
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their relationships with the ballot box and
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ultimately just to find out why they
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vote. I hope you're
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exercising your right to vote, and if
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you're not, I hope that their stories inspire
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you. Today
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on Why I'm Voting, I am joined by the delightful
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Laurie Gottlieb. Her book Maybe You Should
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Talk to Someone is a New York Times bestseller.
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She also writes the Dear Therapist column
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for The Atlantic, and she is one of the hosts
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of the podcast Dear Therapists
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Plural LORI thank you so much
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for joining me today. Thank you so much for
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having me. So here's the big stumper that involves
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a little bit of mental time travel. Do
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you remember how and
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at what point in your life you learned about voting?
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Yes, I do. Actually, it was in fifth
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grade and we were studying
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American government and
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we learned about how the voting process worked,
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and I was really upset because I felt
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like, Wow, this is so cool and I have to
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wait so long before I can vote.
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I remember talking to my parents about that and being
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why why why are they telling us all this stuff
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and now we can't do it. So I
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always tried to influence my parents in
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terms of how they voted, so they can sort
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of vote by proxy for me. I love this story
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so much. You're like, I'm ready put
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me in um. Does that mean that
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you registered immediately when you were able
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to at a team? Oh? Absolutely yes.
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Do you have any memory so the first time you voted
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and what that felt like when you finally
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got to fulfill your fifth grade dreams. I
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remember it being very different from how I expect
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did. I was very excited to do it. There
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was a long line, which I was excited about
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because it meant that a lot of people were voting. I
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had no idea mechanically how
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to do it. You don't know what teaches
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you, and I was a nubi. It's sort of like
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I felt like they needed to have orientation, you
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know, for people who are first time voters. But
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what was great was there were a lot of volunteers there
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who were willing to help and show me how
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to do this new fangled system,
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and I was really excited. And they
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give you like a little sticker you know, when you leave,
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and I wore that all day. I love those stickers.
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I also, I'm glad that you mentioned the volunteers,
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because we haven't had a lot of shout outs for the people
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that volunteer to go man those polling
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stations all day on election
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day and just put in their time because they want to support
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the process they do. Yeah, shout
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out to everyone who volunteers. I always
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try to thank them on my way out, and sometimes they give me
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a look like I'm a crazy person. We get
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ears and eyes full constantly
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of information about the big elections.
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But I'm wondering, are you a
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big participant in your local elections and
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how do you research candidates for those because they're
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a little harder to find out their information they
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are, so usually I look
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online. We get mailed if you're
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registered to vote in your county
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and in your state, you get mailed
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packets on the various
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issues and the various candidates. Um,
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and I like to read those and sometimes
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they're complicated, you know, now that I'm
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a parent. Once my son became
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old enough, we started talking about them,
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and I think it's really fun to talk about them because he's
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really excited to vote to He's fourteen now,
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but since he was younger, right,
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you know, old enough to understand, Oh,
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here's one side of an issue. Here's another side
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of an issue, and let's talk about it because it's not always
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so clear cut. Yeah, it's interesting too, like ballot
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measures are not always worded in
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a way that makes sense to the layman there.
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Yes, you've really got to pick apart that language.
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Sometimes. Are you a mail in voter,
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an early voter, or a day of pre
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COVID? I was a
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a of but I am definitely
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going to be mailing in. I don't even know if the polls are
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going to be open here in California,
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so I'm I just got my my information
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in the mail. Actually, they were confirming that
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I live where I live, so that they can make sure that I
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am not skipped for these mail
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in paperwork that I'm going to have to mail in. Yeah,
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I feel like this year, and everybody's a mail in voter, or
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most people are. Anyway. You mentioned earlier
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that the first time you voted there was a line, and
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how you were really excited about it. I also
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really enjoy the line. But what is it about
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that the experience that makes it so
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special? I love the line, and
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it's the only line I should say that I love. I
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generally cannot stay on lunch. I will avoid
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them at all costs. So I know it sounds strange
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to say I love the line, But what I love about
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the line is I feel like we are all
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participating in this process,
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and no matter what your views are, no matter what you
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think, everybody's very friendly. Everybody's
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excited to be there. Everyone feels like
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I have a say in what
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happens. And I think some
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people feel removed for it. You know,
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who are not they're voting. Some people feel like, well,
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what is one vote matter? But it matters
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a lot. And when you get in that line, you see
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that it matters. You see that people are passionate about
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how they feel, how they think. Nobody's arguing
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in the line. You know, it's it's very,
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very friendly, but everybody feels
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engaged. Everybody feels like, no, it
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actually does matter, you know, And I think
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that that makes us really excited
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about the opportunity that we have that
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you know, there are lots of places where people don't have this kind
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of opportunity, and I think we take it for granted.
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And I think when you're in that line, you
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start to see, you know what what we see
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on television with a lot of you know, there's
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a lot of polarization, all of that.
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In the line, it's kind of like, no matter what
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you believe, that the fact that we're all participating
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in this process makes us feel really
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good about where We love that you get to see your whole
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community turn out, which is like that never happens
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at any other events. Do you have any
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election day rituals, whether that's
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watching TV, some article of
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clothing you wear for luck for your candidate,
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etcetera. What's her day play out?
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Like? I usually go first
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thing in the morning, and
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it's really fun. There's a lot of energy at that
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time. Um, but I have gone at the end of
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day the day too. If I couldn't make it at
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the end of the day, you know, it's it's totally
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different vibe. I don't really have a
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ritual I go. I just make sure that I find
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a time that I can go. Some
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people do have rituals, like you can see that,
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you know, they wear certain clothing or they
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really they really take it, you know, very
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seriously. In that way. My ritual is simply
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to vote. Here is the last question,
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and really the most important, which is that
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if you were to encounter a human in the wild
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who said that they were not using their
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right to vote, what is the one thing you
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would tell them to try to motivate them
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to make sure to get their voice
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heard. You know, I think about it sort of as
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the therapist that I am, which is that we all have
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agency in our own lives, and I think sometimes
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we forget that. And part
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of what happens is people feel like, well,
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what I do doesn't matter, and then they feel like they're
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not going to do something. And I see, on a very
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micro level in their own lives in a relationship,
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they'll say, well, it doesn't matter what I do because this other
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person does this anyway, And I say, no, Actually,
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how you respond to that matters a
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lot. And the same thing with voting. So
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you might not like what some candidate is
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doing what some person is doing. But how
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are you going to respond to that? Are you going to do nothing?
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Or you're going to make your voice heard? And
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I think that when people say I'm not going
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to pay attention to this because nothing
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I do changes anything, I think they're
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very blind to how much
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impact they actually have. Ah, I love
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it for the therapists perspective. I had not thought
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about that before. Marie. Thank you so
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much for sharing both your time
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and your passionate about voting with us.
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Oh my pleasure. Thank you so much for the conversation.
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Hey, are you not registered to vote yet
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but you think it's something you want to do? You
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may still have time. Voter registration
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deadlines vary by state, so to find
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out the scoop for where you are, check out
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a nonpartisan register raction voting
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site like head count dot org or
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fair vote dot org. Why
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