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Hey friends . So one of the things that is an underlying
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kind of core principle and something that is
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subtly taught inside of everything
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I teach in regards to time management and planning
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for women is the idea
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and the core principle that
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we all deserve to plan and prioritize
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time in our lives
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for the things that are important to us , for our
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goals , for our dreams , for our desires , and to not
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put things on the back burner . Along
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with that is also the recognition that
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there's no , there's no time limit
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, there's no point in life in which we
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ever need to say , well , I guess I can't do
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that anymore . And that's really one
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of the messages that I have here today inside
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of the Work Life Harmony podcast with
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the best guest ever , my
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mom , because you're going to hear about her new book
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that she has just published as
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she's approaching her 80th birthday and
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the journey of getting there Along
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with a really powerful message from her as
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well , and you're going to see why , growing up
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, I never felt like I
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had to put limits on my life when you get to hear
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about all the things my mom has done . So I'm
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excited to reintroduce my mom
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to all of you here today . Welcome
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to the Work Life Harmony podcast . I'm your host
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, megan Somerle . I'm the creator of the top program
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and top planner teaching all things
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time management , organization and productivity for women . I'm
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also a mom and wife and , just like you , I'm
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juggling hashtag all the things while
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running multiple businesses and a family . Guess
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what ? You don't have to feel constantly overwhelmed
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, exhausted and stressed out . There is another
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way . When you have the right systems
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and tools to plan and manage your time , you
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can live a life of harmony . This is your
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show to learn from me and other amazing women
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how to master your time , planning an
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organization to skyrocket
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your productivity so you can have work life
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harmony . If you're ready to stop feeling
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overwhelmed , this is the show for you , and
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if you're new here , I'd love to get you started with
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Megan Somerle with the word harmony
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and my team will send it right over
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. Hey
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, everyone , welcome back to Work Life Harmony
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. I have , hands down , the
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best guest I was about to say
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the best guest I've ever had on the show , but I've actually
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had her on the show before , so it's just
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a repeat . So thank you for being
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here , mom , I'm delighted Today
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we're going to take a little bit of a pivot from our
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usual really tactical , pragmatic
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tip strategies and all of that on
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planning and saving time . But
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this really is focusing for me on
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the conversation of the harmony part
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of life , and
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I know so many of us as
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I shared . I recently turned 50 . The
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older we get , it's almost like we feel like
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we'd get more and more disconnected from
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our dreams , our desires . We think we've
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missed the window to do amazing things , and
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so I wanted to have my mom on today because
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she has been an amazing example
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for me on
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ages , just a number and
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we have tons of time to
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do the things that we desire to do . So
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again , welcome to the show , mom , thank
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you , I'm delighted to be here . So the
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big news that we have to share is
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and the timing of this that
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I wanted to record this now here today . Can
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I share about your birthday ?
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Yes .
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Okay , well , some people are funny about . So
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my mom is about to have a big milestone birthday . She
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is turning 80 . And here
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we are just a few weeks before
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her birthday and her second
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book was just published
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. I want you to sit on that for a minute , right
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? We don't usually hear about
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, I know I would certainly never have considered
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for myself of doing something big and huge and
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amazing at that age . So , mom
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, I would love for you to first share
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but kind of your background
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about writing , your passion for writing when
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you got into writing .
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Well , I think I've always enjoyed
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writing . I can remember
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as young as first grade writing
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what I thought would be a book which was three
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pages long and it had something
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to do with a mouse . I'm a little unclear on
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it now . Do you still have ? No , I don't
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, oh , shoot , I don't . But
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I remember being very pleased at the end that I had this book of
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three pages . And I've also got
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tired of it and I stopped . So I've
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always enjoyed writing , but
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I think maybe I got serious
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about it after I
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had a class my freshman
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year in college and
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the English professor was wonderful and he said
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you can't write a paper or
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anything until you learn to write a paragraph
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. And that's
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all we did all semester was read
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a poem and then write a paragraph
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about it . And the final exam
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was a point that he put up on the blackboard
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and we had to write one paragraph
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about this point and
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the exam . They left four hours for it and
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not one of us left the room before the four
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hours was up . Exam was one
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paragraph , but
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it made me realize that every
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single word is important and
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you have to have a vocabulary to be
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able to express those words . And
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that was sort of the beginning of , I think , my
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great desire to write Now
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, did you ?
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know at that time you wanted to write a book .
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No , I started out with short stories
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. Quite frankly , life
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was confusing and you married and
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you have a husband in the Marine Corps and
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three children and a short story was what
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I could sort of compass . So
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it was a while before I thought about a book .
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Do you remember what age range you were when you
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thought I think I'd like to write a book ?
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Probably in my 40s , and I'm glad the first
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book wasn't published , though I tremendously
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desired that it be so but I look at it
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now and I think , no , this wasn't
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good enough . I realize
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what you have to bring to your writing is
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experience , and
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the first book that was published really
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came out of my experience .
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So we're going to come back to the first book that
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was published , because that was about 14
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years ago . When did
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you start writing this
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book , the new book that just came out
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?
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Well , I've been at this probably for 15
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years . It's a memoir
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and things would sort of recur
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that one had forgotten about , or something
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would happen in life and I'd think , oh , I
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remember about that .
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I thought it . I think it's been longer than it may
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be , but I still remember reading . I
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think I started reading some of that before I moved
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to North Carolina . That's been 20 years
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.
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Okay .
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Well , it might be that long . Okay , so
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you were working on this book . Did
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you go down the process of wanting to get this
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book published before now ?
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No , I haven't . And
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then I got sort of off on the other book
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and this
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book was really just a desire to write
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a thank you note to my grandparents and
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that's why it started , because they were three very
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fabulous people . And it
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just started and I wrote it for the family and
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the other book I really hoped
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would be published .
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So let's go back to your first book
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, which is for Country and Core
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. What , when did
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you know you wanted to write that
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book ?
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Well , I retired from my full-time
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job and I really had at it , and
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my grandfather about this was 50s
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. Well this was
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, I would have been probably
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yeah , 55, . I think
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.
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Yes , I think about 55
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or 60 .
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And I spent three years of research on the book
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. I had letters
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from my grandmother and grandfather . I had
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stuff that he had put down in the Marine
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Corps Library . I spent three years doing
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research and because
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it compassed his entire lifespan
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, I had to know about World War
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I because he was in it . I had to know
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about Haiti because they were stationed
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there . So it took quite a bit of research . But
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also I knew him . I
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had lived in his house and I
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knew him very well , so that it sort of came out of my experience and
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I could write about him in a way that
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I think was as honest as it can be when you're
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a granddaughter .
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So for those you know a lot of
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people probably aren't that up on military history who was your great
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grandfather , who was your
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grandfather , so that they understand
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the importance of that book that you wrote
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.
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My grandfather retired as a four-star
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Marine general . He led
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the Marines in the Korean War . Probably
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people might have heard of the landing in Incheon
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he was running the First Marine
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Division then the recapture of
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Seoul . He was in charge of the First
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Marine Division then and
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then the battle that resonates with Marines
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is the Chosun Reservoir , where they were
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pushed up into North Korea and
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had to fight their way out as
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the Chinese entered the war . That's
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probably what he is most famous for .
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Now just to give you all some perspective
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on that book . So I
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can remember going to
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the big book launch for that
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and I was about
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one month out of being pregnant
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with my daughter , which is—that's
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why I remember the timing of it so well
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the book is available still
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. You can go out on Amazon for Country and Core
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and are
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you willing to tell everyone—because you're probably not going to brag
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about yourself—what General Mattis
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had to say about this book ?
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Well , general Mattis , who was a great reader
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and is known for his library , put
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it on one , the list of his
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top . I think it was 30 books . No
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, it was in the top 10 . Top 10 , was it ? Yeah
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, I knew you were in top . I
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don't know which . I was glad , and he spoke
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about learning about leadership
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from it , which is something that my grandfather
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was known for .
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Now one of the things , as your daughter
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and as a woman , that
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I love about everything
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related to that book . Can
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you say that there is another military-focused
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book written by
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a woman that was not in the military
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?
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No , and every review of the
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book started in spite of the
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fact , but I
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did write it so that anybody
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could understand it . If you
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don't know what a blatoon is , you'll know if
10:31
you read the book . If you don't know how a division
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is organized , you will know when you read
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the book . I wanted everyone to
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appreciate what was involved , and I think
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that's what I could bring to the table
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as a woman writing about this .
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Yeah , so I'm going to be unfeminine
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in front of you . It makes my mom
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a total badass , in my opinion , along
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with my sisters and my dad . We
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all agree . So
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let's talk about this new book that
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has just come out . What is it called ?
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It's called the Smallest
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Tree in the Forest and the subtitle
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is Growing Up with Grandparents and
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what inspired you to write this
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book ?
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What kind of spoke to you to put this together
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?
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Well , they were wonderful people
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. My
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father was killed in World War II
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and so I was raised
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mostly by my mother . But we lived with
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my grandparents quite a bit and
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because she was a working mother which nobody
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was in the 50s I spent every
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summer with them as well . So
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I had a lot of time with them and
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I just it began as a thank you note
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and then I realized
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I wrote down all the happy times and
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the happy memories and I realized
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suddenly halfway through
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it that you don't recognize the
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sunshine unless you have
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the shadows as well . So
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at some point I was able to add
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some of the things that happened to me that were less
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than optimal , that they helped
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me through , and I think my message
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in this was you
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don't have to know everything about
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somebody , you can just be good
12:07
and that's helpful . And
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I realized they had no idea what
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was going on in my life , but they were a
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real wellspring
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of joy and solidity and so
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on to me , and that was
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the purpose of the book .
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Did you have any old materials
12:26
that you pulled from to remember some
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of the stories that you shared ? I mean , you go back . One of
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my favorites is the writing
12:32
of the tricycle At age four . You all are going
12:34
to love that one . Are
12:36
these just moments that popped into your head
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, or did you have a methodical way of
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pulling together ?
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No , they were moments that popped in my head and
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I think I do remember . There
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are people that don't remember and I'm
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a rememberer , so I do have , but
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in some cases I'll say after
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that I don't remember . I have
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little moments that shine from my
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childhood . Obviously , as you get
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older you remember more consistently
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and
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maybe pictures helped a little
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bit too .
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Yeah , there are beautiful photos in the book
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. You will definitely
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the family remember
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our photos . It was alarming to me to see young
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pictures of you , and I see my
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daughter's face in them . I see my niece's face
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in them , I see my sister's faces in them
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. Now , when would
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you say you really dug in on knowing
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you wanted to complete this book
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?
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I think I got pushed into it by my children
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.
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For half . No Well , we pushed
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you into the publishing , but when ? Did you
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really say no , I want to
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go back , because you kind of had this on pause for a little
13:44
while I did .
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I did send out letters to publishers
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. Well , you can't get to a publisher
13:50
, you have to have a literary agent . I
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have a whole filing drawer of this does
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not meet our needs at this time , typed
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by some secretary and signed by I don't
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know who . The nicest comment I
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got was I like the title , but that's
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as far as I got . This was after
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I'd had a book published which I thought would
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open doors for me but
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it didn't seem to in
14:13
the New York publishing business . That did
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you think about just . Thing forget it . No
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, I kept working at it . I
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kept thinking there's something here . My solution
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at first was to just type it all up and put
14:27
it on a Loose Leaf Finder . One
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of my daughters just said I don't want a Loose Leaf
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Finder , I want a book .
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That wasn't me . Is that what that one was ? That was not me . That
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said that . No , we all bought it .
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We all but this daughter knew how to get
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somebody that knew how to do it . What's
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happened since ? The difference between
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my first book and my second is the publishing
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industry has changed . The
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first book , if you were self-published , you couldn't
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get an ISBN number , which is what
14:55
puts you into the Library of Congress . Now
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you can . The publishing business
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has really changed in the last 10 years
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or so . What was the ?
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final push decision
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, etc . To make you say , okay
15:09
, I'm going to publish the book .
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I think my pushy daughters , but
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they just said they come in a book .
15:15
They lead on that , I think , well , I
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think we all cheer a book .
15:19
I think , you know , I've suddenly realized , yes
15:21
, this would be nice to have it in book form
15:23
. And you know , and I
15:25
felt I had finished it , I
15:27
had it quite maybe three
15:29
or four chapters in the last year and
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I looked at it and I thought this is done , I'm
15:34
done , and I sort of made
15:36
the point here and just
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celebrated the fact that
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really it sells
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trite but in the end love conquers all
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and that's the purpose of the book .
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You just answer . My next question is what
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do you hope people will get
15:55
out of reading this ?
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Well , I think , for one thing , if you're a
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grandparent , you realize you have
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a lot of impact . You're somebody
16:03
that knows this child , but
16:05
not in the I have to correct their table
16:07
manners sort of way . You know
16:09
them . You can take them to museums
16:11
, you can see them on the side . Sometimes
16:14
you know things about them that
16:16
their parents haven't recognized
16:18
, that you have something to offer this
16:20
child , and certainly my grandparents
16:22
did , and all three of them offered
16:24
different things to me and
16:27
they were all important . So
16:30
I think that as a grandparent , you realize
16:32
you can have an impact on people
16:34
, and I think for others
16:36
it's an idea that include
16:39
family and your children's lives , because
16:41
they do add something to their lives , no doubt
16:43
about it .
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So good . And for
16:48
those of you that I get questions sometimes
16:50
when I'll share stories
16:52
in my life on things
16:56
that would maybe be considered a failure or things
16:58
that didn't work out well , and people
17:00
ask me well , how do you keep going ? And
17:03
hopefully , hearing my mom talk
17:05
today , you know the answer
17:07
to that . I've had , and
17:09
still have , an incredible
17:11
role model in my life
17:13
that
17:16
shows me there's no time
17:18
limit on our dreams
17:20
. There's no expire
17:23
time to pursue things that
17:26
we love , and sometimes
17:29
it can feel like an uphill battle . I
17:32
know it wasn't easy for you when you weren't getting
17:34
the letters back from agents and all
17:36
of that , and you still kept
17:39
going . So I
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just want all of our listeners to
17:44
hopefully take a couple things out of
17:47
this . Again
17:50
, the window's not gone . You're never too old . If
17:52
you're in the trenches right now with young
17:55
ones and all the things , it
17:57
doesn't mean that you will never
17:59
do the thing . And
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secondly , I hope you
18:05
get an understanding into why
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I treasure
18:09
my relationship with my mom and how
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fortunate my daughter is to
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have you as a grandmother , because
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you are doing for her what your
18:18
grandparents did for you . Well , I
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hope I am . I hope I
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am . Thank you so much , mom , I
18:24
love you .
18:25
Well , thank you too , it's a pleasure .
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