In Episode 14, Zam and Ruhi talk about how they were 'disciplined' as children. Often, the lines were blurred between discipline and punishment. And unfortunately, such frequent and intense punishment has had lifelong effects.

Ruhi and Zam then discuss how they are trying to replace the negative internal dialogue that was cemented in their minds as children; turning down the volume of that crazy-loud inner critic that sounds like our parents and dealing with the damaging effect of perfectionism.

There are countless people around the world recovering from trauma in their childhoods, Brown or not. But it can often happen in quite a specific, yet widespread way in Brown families. Not all, but a lot of us are familiar with shaming and physical punishment, for example. If this is you, please reach out for help. We've now created a private Facebook group so that listeners can interact about sensitive things and support each other. It's free to join and be a part of this community.

We'll try and put up a few links to online, international resources that might be of assistance as well, both on our page and in our community.

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As with the previous episode, there were a few mentions about love languages in this episode. If you're unfamiliar with the concept of love languages, here is the website for more information. Take the online test to find out what your love language is.

Co-hosts: Zam & Ruhi

Music composed by: Aman Dembla

Produced by: Ruhi Lee