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It's either like hype city or you're kind of like, Hey, Hey everybody, that just feels wrong.

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I know, I know. I feel like a lot of podcasts start organically, which I do like that too.

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But the fact of the matter is that, you know, normally the way the, what you and I start talking about beforehand, wouldn't make any sense to what's going on.

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Or it's like very private. It's extremely T in our own personal lives.

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Like, listen, I'm willing to get vulnerable, but sometimes conversations that I have with my parents shouldn't be, but you Know,

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if I want to get invited back to be like, Oh my God.

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So can you believe that? Sarah said that to me, dude.

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So fucked up. Can you, Oh, I mean, we did, I had her bachelorette recap on Tuesday, but how have you been, I saw that your, your hubby was LARPing.

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This was the weekend of LARPing.

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Did that turn you on?

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my, made my week, like for this week, because I had been, I went off the gram for like, you know, 48, 72 hours ish.

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And I went back on and I was like, how in God's name?

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Did I miss this of all weekends that I take off the bachelor party?

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Oh my God, I couldn't have, it was, You

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know, I wouldn't say turned me on, but it was more Like,

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I was like proud. I was like, Oh, out of all, the eight, there was 18 of those guys on a 40 acre plot in big bear.

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That Is well, okay.

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Well, first of all, a large bit of land and then, but a lot of people too, it's a lot of LARPers friends For,

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to invite to the bachelor party, 18 people.

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I don't know if I could, I, it Here's

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the truth of the matter. I have like maybe three really close friends And

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you have all the friends and then I could invite the Friends

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that the friends that also add, you know, the stress friends where you're like, I don't know if these people are going to get along.

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And so is it worth the anxiety to invite these Like

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hosting for that reason? Because I'm just like, I hope no one feels Out

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or one or two people don't know anyone.

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And then I have to hang out with them To

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have to host a bonfire at our house because I get so nervous.

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Like Evan is the King of Lake. Let's invite everybody over and have a bonfire.

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And I'm always like, what if it gets awkward?

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And then I'm the one who has to stay here.

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I like to bounce around and peace when I want to peace.

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Not to mention you. There's no, like I said, there's no pressure.

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Cause if you're, if you're the host, then you have to make sure, like, if there's someone that's a little lonely or isn't getting along, you have to like talk to Them.

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I heard he feel that pressure when I'm like at a public.

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Absolutely. If I go to, if I go to a restaurant and I see someone sitting by themselves, I'm a little bit like, Like,

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I'm like, should we go talk to them?

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I literally Did it the other day.

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When I was with two friends, there was a girl sitting by herself.

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She looked sad at a restaurant and I'm like, I have to go talk to her.

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And my friends were like, we haven't seen you for a minute.

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And I'm like, I just feel like I have to.

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Okay. Doesn't that like, it's kind of the good thing, but then also To

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sort of make it worse because then that person knows that you're noticing them being alone.

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I know I had the internal Battle.

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I had the internal battle that you have to use your intuition.

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I'm like, I Don't want to go up to this person and make them feel shamed.

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You seem like really sad.

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You seem so sad. So I legit sat in my seat with my other girlfriend and I tried to get eye contact with her for as long as possible until she finally made eye contact with me.

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And then I saw there were tears in her.

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So

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I

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went

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and

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talked

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to

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her,

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spill

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the

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tea. She was having a fight with her boyfriend, her fiance, excuse me, having a fight with her fiance.

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And we were worried because Palm Springs, I guess It

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was like, do we go by herself with the restaurant?

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No, she was her girlfriends were also there with her, but they kind of ditched her because she wasn't being a good time.

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Oh yeah. Because her and her boyfriend were fighting now.

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No, the, yeah, yeah.

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Now I had a combined feelings about this because on one hand I go, how fucking dare these girls leave you in the dust.

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Dah, dah, dah, dah. But on the other hand, I've been in situations before where you do have the friend who always has an eternal problem and you're like, I need boundaries.

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And we're on this getaway for the first time in however long, your toxic Boyfriend

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are always fighting and I'm not going to sit around and deal with this for my bachelorette party.

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Exactly. Exactly. So I, Oh my gosh.

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I'm so sorry. Boris is literally losing his mind.

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Okay. Sorry. I put Boris away.

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He was just trying to protect people from breaking it.

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That's sweet. AKA the delivery man.

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No, but yeah.

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It's It's it's but then yeah. There's that boundaries thing.

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So I was like, I really didn't know.

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You know where, yeah.

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I didn't know. I couldn't quite gather what The

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vibe was because I did to one side of the story, I talked To

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her for a minute. Yeah.

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And

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I,

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yeah,

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I

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couldn't

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quite

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get

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heard

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about

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Her parents divorced when she was seven.

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Yeah. It was a little bit that energy.

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Luckily, luckily the, The

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BF call or the, excuse me, the fiance called like 10 minutes into the conversation.

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She was like, I have to get this. I'm like ran off.

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And it was like a whole thing. It was like an open air restaurant, you know, where you can like go in and out.

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Cause it was like at the hotel or whatever. I'm sorry, is this Going

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to be insensitive? But like, if I'm on a weekend trip with my girls and even if grey and I have a serious fight, you know what you do, I'm sorry.

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You know what you do, You

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go, you fake it.

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You text Him furiously in the bathroom in between drinks.

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No, You

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got to set a boundary with your partner and Be

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like, we're going to deal with this when you get home. This is about Sarah

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This weekend. So absolutely. Absolutely.

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I'll talk to you when we get home. Sorry.

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And you shut off your phone and You

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fucking throw back some martinis and have a good time.

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I'm Honestly, I up, I completely with you and that is the mature thing to do.

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And the fight will be there when you get home.

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Like truly it will, it will be there.

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And I also think it's kind of, it's kind of a power move to just be like, we can't talk about this right now.

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Like this is a boundary and you know, I, and even if you know, let's just say, it's your boyfriend or your partner.

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And you're like, he's the one who's in the wrong.

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And I'm mad at him. Like, like a way to take care of yourself is to honestly be like, ignore that out all is assholery and enjoy your friends.

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Get it, like have a moment at one side, got broken up with right before, like, you know, hanging out with friends.

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So everyone's like cry and do that.

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But then you're like put the phone away.

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I've also been on, been in situations where I did have to last minute be like, I can't go on the trip, you know, because you're like, Oh, there's something came up and I'm just, I am going to be a bummer.

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Like I CA I do not want to show up and be the one to drag everybody down and their good times or yeah.

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But yeah, it's, it's, I couldn't quite tell, but I, and now this is, this is my own problem that I could not, I couldn't let it go.

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I was just like, I couldn't let it go.

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I could not talk to her as soon as I see someone with like tears in their eyes sitting by themselves.

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But again, you know, I, part of it might be sweet.

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Part of it might also be like my control, like whatever codependency, perhaps.

10:24

Yeah. Like this person Needs

10:26

me. I was imagining It being something like, she got a devastating call from her family and she's on this like vacation.

10:33

Yeah. I mean, To see a stranger, reach out to them and care about them.

10:37

So, But then I, but then as soon as I sat and kind of got the energy, I was like, eh, okay,

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quite

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a

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pickle

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Party where I go talk to the person who's standing alone.

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And then before, you know, it you're like I can't get, Oh, and you're sitting in the corner.

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And like, I think you and I both have both a gift and a curse to be able to make anything into a conversation with anyone.

11:08

Yes. It can be a beautiful thing and it can be a nightmare.

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And what I'm saying, nightmare, I mean, bathroom or a party and getting cornered because sometimes at the end of the day, you know, it's good to be a good friend, but sometimes you need to go out and have a good time.

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You're bopping around that.

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That, that is self-care. To me, there is no greater form of self-care to me than putting on a cute outfit and going out and having superficial conversations with 17 different types of people.

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I just, my energy is going up that helps my bottom line Doing.

11:45

You want to do. And if you're stuck in a conversation with someone you don't want to talk to you, that's not doing what you want to do.

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That's, that's, that's releasing emotional energy To

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someone else. And I truly believe that LA because where we live is there's a lot of fake people here.

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There's a lot of people who use each other to climb a social ladder.

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So I think as soon as maybe some people identify, someone that they met is actually is like, Oh, how really looks at them and says, how are you?

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And isn't just trying to jump to the most famous person in a room or whatever.

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Sometimes people will have a tendency to trauma dub.

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I Got into some toxic kind of like leech ish relationships.

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When I first moved to LA, It

12:39

is, and I was like, Oh my gosh, new friends in a new city.

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And I was like, Oh my gosh, I need to block you from my phone.

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It's Tough. Because it's like, like I said, I'm sure that these, these girls could sense that like, Oh, she's a genuine person who actually doesn't give a shit if I'm like famous or not, or like how many, you know, whatever.

13:00

And then you can also take advantage of you.

13:05

Yeah. And so it's like sometimes not even trauma dumping, sometimes it's just like, you know, like, Oh my gosh, why don't you come here and do this with me and do this with me and do this with me and like do that.

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And then I'm like, wait, Whoa. And this is not what I signed up for.

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Why won't you answer my call? We're like besties.

13:17

Now, Mama

13:20

struggles. When you put pressure, That's

13:23

not a good friend.

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I tell you like, Ooh, I'll

13:27

text you back for like eight hours. Now I, if, if someone is like wanting to me to respond to everything very quickly and wants to hang out with me 24 seven, if it's like any time that a person needs to do an errand, they like want me to come.

13:43

I start to get a little panicky because I am a hermit.

13:47

Other than God, That was like this front, when to first moved to LA, she's like, Oh, I have to go run some errands, like to the bank, to this and this.

13:52

Like, why don't you come with me? I'm like, Nope.

13:55

Oh my God. Look what ends up on, I don't want to do that for myself, moon.

14:00

Like, you know, if like we have a couple hours Go

14:04

grab a juice. You want to go?

14:06

Yeah, you got to go. You're shopping. Cheryl, come with you. We'll chat about what's going on.

14:09

But I'm like, but like, if I'm like, I just saw you all day yesterday, and now you want to like run errands with me.

14:15

Woo, woo.

14:16

I don't do good with a cleaner.

14:17

Don't do well.

14:19

He Needs it.

14:21

That's when I started to do mean things myself.

14:23

Right. And like, can I just, I might block You.

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I just, yeah.

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I just get very, I shouldn't say ghosty and no, but I, I make myself unavailable.

14:37

I truly do.

14:39

I just gotta go see, I

14:41

do it too. Where it's like you going to be, don't text you back for like eight or nine hours intentionally.

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I, I should say this. I become ghosty as a mother and a wife before I was married and had a kid, what I would do.

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Oh my God, this is the worst thing ever.

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It's okay. What I would do is I would, because I was so concerned with people pleasing is that I would just literally do anything the person wanted.

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And so when the person was like, we need to run all these errands together and calling me every five seconds, I would answer the call.

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I would go on all the errands and I would resent the shit out of the person.

15:22

And they point where you can't handle it anymore until I would explode.

15:26

Yeah. I'd explode. And it, and it would be like the poor person would have no idea because I would not be communicating that I was miserable in this relationship and feeling like, you know, they just would, they thought that I was good and I would just be like, resent the person and be like, can you believe this person?

15:43

It's like the course. You're not saying anything.

15:45

Otherwise what I used to do.

15:47

And you Know what? I've gotten a lot better now.

15:49

I just don't even get into these kinds of friendships with people anymore.

15:51

But what I, what I did is I would do like the gradual slip away where it'd be like, you know, you start only responding to every other thing.

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And then you will start. We only get it.

16:02

You make excuses. So you can only hang out once every three times they invite you in once every four times.

16:06

And then eventually, you know, that maybe they give up.

16:09

But then I had someone call me and I had to tell her, like, I just think we're different people going in different directions.

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And then she was, but then she I've talked about this in the podcast before.

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I know, but I'm still kind of traumatized from it. She's like, no, but like, we're so similar.

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And like, and she was like trying to fight for our relationship for our friendship.

16:23

And I was just like, He

16:29

was like, let me pass please. Do you want me to say just, I don't like you, so take the kid what I said, we're going in different directions.

16:36

And I don't think our friendship has value to either of us.

16:39

I feel like We've talked about this before, but I, I do.

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I

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do

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think

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that

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sometimes

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the

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a

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And I was like, you know what? It's okay.

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But you know what, what, honestly, I wouldn't have wanted, it would have hurt if like, it would have been more painful if the person who looked at me and been like, I just don't like you anymore.

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Like

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with

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the

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I

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hit

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then

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I

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just

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stopped. Yeah. But then some people don't take the hint. And then you're also projecting what you like on the other people And

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like making assumptions about what might be best for them, which is not quite right Anyway.

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I tried to do it like last week and the week before, but they'd gotten to like three, They,

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I think they talked about three of them legitimately.

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It's summertime now. And I am ready to get weird and wild.

22:09

Like I am feeling it in my bones, like, Well,

22:13

I actually, I hopefully I'm not obviating cause I'm on birth control, but it feels like I

22:17

am okay. And that's, that's always the time.

22:19

I always am all sorts of horned up, fall in love with anybody.

22:22

I see when I'm ovulating. After yesterday, after we Were

22:25

just doing the, talking about all the men on the bachelorette, I was like, Ooh, I'm feeling some type of way for the rest of the day.

22:31

And I'm like talking About

22:33

these fucking freaks on the back.

22:34

Should I slide into some Diaz?

22:37

You always know, always know That

22:40

you're like that it's like that time of time of the month when you're like driving down the street.

22:44

And you're like trying to like, like glance and make eyes at the person like in the car next to you.

22:48

And You're like, what the fuck am I doing? And then the rest of the time in the month, I'm just like, literally the look over, I did it yesterday.

23:00

Oh my God.

23:01

We're fully sinked up.

23:03

I did it Yesterday.

23:05

I was driving and I just saw that face.

23:07

And I was just like, and I kind of did a little, like push my hair back to make sure I caught like, you know, and I turned in just pure hopes that it was just someone gorgeous.

23:16

And it was just this like weird old man looking at me like this.

23:19

And I'm like, but I'm also like, hello, Straight

23:26

up. I did the same thing, a guy, a guy who was walking Down

23:29

the street with like his earphones in.

23:31

And I was just like, wow, look at what he's just strutting confidently down the sidewalk.

23:35

And I was just at the stoplight. Like

23:36

he

23:36

was

23:36

just

23:36

like,

23:36

he

23:36

didn't

23:36

notice

23:36

me,

23:36

but

23:36

how

23:36

dare

23:42

he? I know I like, I am in such an obvious place right now that last night I watched the most recent episode of Handmaid's tale and the guy who plays a Nick on Handmaid's tale can absolutely get it.

23:57

He will, you know where we're at because we were just going on and on about Christian.

24:02

But

24:02

for

24:02

Nick,

24:02

Nick

24:02

from

24:02

Handmaid's

24:02

tale,

24:02

I

24:02

don't

24:02

even

24:09

know. I can tell you this. I know, I know for a fact that I'm going to think he's ugly.

24:14

Oh, I don't know if you will find him to be attractive just via photos, but I can tell you if you watch the show, I know you and you and I would be on the same page.

24:24

Okay. And I will.

24:27

No,

24:27

I

24:29

don't. He's not one of those guys.

24:30

It's an energy. I remember when I first saw him first episode of the show, I was kind of like, eh, and then the more like that you get to know him.

24:38

And the episode from last night's Handmaid's tale, there was a moment that was so romantic.

24:43

And so like emotional to me, hot because I'm ovulating that I, then that I then saw on Dumas that he lives, the actual actor lives in silver Lake, near where I live.

24:56

And I considered like going to silver Lake and like driving by the coffee place that he was spotted at and just being like, should I just wait?

25:06

And I told Evan, I'm like, I feel like maybe it's my long lost love.

25:10

And I should just be like sitting outside this coffee shop and wait for him.

25:13

And Evan's just like, don't you think half of Americans.

25:19

Yeah. And I was like, but things are different with us.

25:22

I

25:22

always

25:22

know

25:22

I'm

25:22

ovulating

25:22

when

25:28

I'm like that, I'm like, Hmm. Maybe it's time to consider an open relationship.

25:31

And then the rest of the month, I'm like, As

25:35

if I have the time and energy and even desire to just try to coordinate having sex with someone else.

25:43

It's always it's. I, I feel, I feel you wholeheartedly.

25:46

Yeah. I, in my ovulating time went away with some of our old high school friends this past weekend to Palm Springs.

25:52

And you know, your girl over here was like foursome, lecturing.

25:57

No, definitely not.

25:58

God bless love you guys.

26:00

But you know, your girl was a lecturing, all of them because all of them have been married like us since we were.

26:06

And I was literally cornering all of them and being like, do you think that you have a healthy relationship right now?

26:11

Like, can I talk to you about non-monogamy?

26:12

And I was just, I was like, preaching.

26:17

I love that because, You

26:19

know, I was, I was also like, I'm watching some of my old friends relationships kind of fall apart in certain ways.

26:26

And I think that there's a lot of people, again, who have the desire for non-monogamy, but haven't felt free to talk openly about it because they're coming from purity culture and the church culture and all that.

26:41

So I was, I, it, my destiny this weekend to have comfortable conversations with the people that I knew had kind of been thinking about it and internalizing it.

26:52

I love that, but it was a definitely my level of passion was coming from ovulating And

26:58

your defensiveness, you're just like there's no, She

27:01

was getting there at one point, there was a jacuzzi moment that was like, I need to calm him down.

27:06

It was, I literally like, I would've, I should've had a podium in front of you and I would've been owned stoppable.

27:11

Oh, it would have been, if you would have been there that wouldn't have been bad.

27:15

They probably wouldn't have wanted to go on another weekend getaway with you guys.

27:17

No, probably We

27:20

would have been too much.

27:20

It would have been like, what have you involved yourself?

27:23

It's just like, you can make your relationship, whatever you want.

27:27

And isn't that amazing. That's what I was saying. And I was literally like, I'm like, you know, it's like, if you're so happy in a monogamous relationship, that's amazing.

27:33

But like, there are things about a non-monogamy and talking about the jealousy, Even

27:37

if you're just exploring that. And I was just, I

27:39

was preaching and I was, I was on one.

27:41

So I apologize if you're with me, it was too much. But I feel like they enjoyed it.

27:44

Yeah. I mean, it's good to hear different perspectives, But

27:47

to tell myself it's good to be right.

27:48

It's good to, it's good to be right.

27:51

Isn't it.

27:53

I mean, come on.

27:55

I have a really good one to Start

27:57

off with. Let's dive in because it's just hilarious and such a nightmare to me.

28:01

Yeah. I got it.

28:05

My first night living in a new city, I took home a guy twice my age who had been buying me drinks all night.

28:09

He was having trouble getting hard.

28:11

So he started begging me to pee on him and he said that, okay.

28:15

I

28:15

kicked

28:15

the

28:15

dude

28:15

out

28:15

of

28:15

my

28:15

apartment

28:15

only

28:15

to

28:15

find

28:15

out

28:15

he

28:15

lived

28:15

next

28:21

door. Oh my God.

28:25

I

28:25

was

28:25

like,

28:25

okay,

28:25

I

28:25

get

28:25

a

28:25

lot

28:25

of

28:29

those.

28:29

Oh

28:29

my

28:29

God,

28:36

Dude. That's worst case scenario.

28:38

Like if it's like a, no, get the fuck outta here.

28:42

Like I don't want to pee on you.

28:46

Oh my God. Imagine the anxiety every day, having to get your mail, having to, you know, almost to pick up the newspaper, this that's something we'll do.

28:54

I'm going to walk out to your car.

28:56

Also. Also the, maybe the anxiety on his end being like, I don't want my pee kink shared and shamed and like worrying that she might pass it along.

29:04

She's Just putting posting flyers throughout the neighborhood, apartment 1401 wants people to pee on him.

29:11

Now What a tragic situation that the hookup didn't go well, because I know, I know you had a fun little fuck buddy who lives in the apartment with you where there's like no emotions that that's never happened.

29:27

Do you know? One of our friends had that situation and she would tell me the best stories ever.

29:33

Like we would be, It was truly just friends and lived right by.

29:36

I mean, how nothing On

29:39

either of their parts, no emotional strings attached.

29:42

100% just sex.

29:45

Both of them ended up getting into a relationship and while They

29:48

were living, Oh my God. Great. Good for you.

29:51

Amazing. But like he happened to have like the penthouse apartment at the top.

29:56

So she would just like, you know, when she was feeling it, like we would go out for drinks and she'd be like, perfect.

30:03

Yeah. And then she'd be like, I think I'm going to text such and such.

30:05

And because he lived in the apartment, she could text him at like two in the morning and be like, I'm coming back.

30:09

Like, are you awake? And if he was awake and not with anybody else, he'd be like, yeah, I'm, I'm I'm down, come on up.

30:15

And they will, she would literally go up.

30:16

But they spend the night, each there's apartments where they just go back to, they would just go back down to their own apartments.

30:21

It was, it wasn't romantic at all.

30:23

And it wasn't like, and they weren't even like friends.

30:25

She

30:25

said,

30:25

I

30:25

think

30:25

the

30:25

longest

30:25

that

30:25

she

30:25

ever

30:25

stayed

30:25

in

30:25

his

30:25

apartment,

30:25

like

30:25

after

30:25

sex

30:25

was

30:25

like

30:25

maybe

30:25

an

30:25

hour

30:25

afterwards

30:25

or

30:25

like

30:25

they

30:25

had

30:25

a

30:25

drink

30:25

and

30:25

kind

30:25

of

30:25

like

30:25

laughed

30:25

about

30:25

some

30:36

stuff. And then she just went back down. It was purely sex.

30:38

I feel Like I'm, I feel like I'm so bad at that because I have such an active imagination.

30:43

I feel like whenever I hook up with them and I've kind of just realized, that's what it is.

30:47

I start imagining like how amazing it would be if we were in this like, relationship and lived in the same apartment.

30:53

And like, it'd be like, Yeah,

30:55

I think that's my problem.

30:57

It

30:57

makes

30:57

something

30:57

happen

30:57

that

30:57

I

30:57

know

30:57

deep

30:57

down,

30:57

like

30:57

isn't

30:57

going

30:57

to

30:57

work,

30:57

but

30:57

my

30:57

imagination

31:04

And my fantasizing about like, Oh,

31:06

these wonderful scent, like movie, like scenarios start bubbling up.

31:10

I am such a Sucker for like a movie, like scenario, date.

31:14

You're you know, who are always surprisingly more romantic than I think you're going to be very much so, because you're very like, like blunt.

31:23

So sometimes in my head I'm like, Oh, I feel like Becca would be the type that it kind of be like, ah, you know, we can have sex and we're good.

31:30

And dah, dah, dah. But you are, you are very much Like

31:32

fantastical all about the scenarios and situations.

31:35

I like story.

31:36

Your life is a movie baby.

31:38

I was a movie star.

31:41

I'm the star.

31:42

So I

31:46

told you right about like the best, first date I ever went on.

31:49

I think so. But refresh me.

31:51

I'll just tell it again, because it's my favorite show. Because again, it's a story.

31:54

It's just, I Feel

31:56

like pieces of what I want to hear the whole thing.

31:58

Okay. Okay. Taking on the journey.

32:00

I just love telling about it.

32:02

So me and this guy, actually, I

32:06

went with one of those toxic people. I first met in Hollywood and my first meant to LA went to LA.

32:09

But of course we went to this party on the tallest building, the opening of the tallest building in Los Angeles, in downtown, the chase building.

32:16

And we went to the very top.

32:18

They had like a little slide. I don't know if you've ever seen it.

32:20

They have like a slide on the 24th floor.

32:22

Yeah. So this was like the opening of that. And I went and like, Oh God, all these horrible people who are just ladder climbing and The

32:29

exact people you're talking about is terrible. People Just

32:31

networking without just horrible and boring.

32:34

It's like, there's, there's in LA.

32:36

There's like Fake parties where like, I don't know how else to describe it.

32:40

Like Kendall Jenner was hosting it, but it was a fake partners the way to describe it, but a fake party to One

32:45

of the fake parties. And I was so concerned.

32:47

You're like, wait, no, one's actually having fun.

32:49

Everyone's just pretending like on their social media, like they're having fun, full obligation.

32:52

They have like a beautiful open bar, a beautiful like flower making station, even a little red carpet thing.

33:00

And you literally walk in, no, one's barely talking to anybody.

33:03

You take weird Instagram selfies, and then you leave and you go somewhere else and it's.

33:09

Yeah. And there's an open bar and everything in music. Yeah.

33:11

Like you said, like, I think Travis Scott performed, like, it was like a whole thing, but it was not fun Drinking

33:15

from the open bar. Have you noticed this? It's odd?

33:18

And I'm always like, Oh, there's always a couple of people that are, and then they're like, Oh, well that's me because I'm such a cheap that I'm just like, Oh, if it's an open bar that I, I feel Like

33:26

I feel obligated when I'm like an open Smoothie

33:30

bar, the morning parties. Those were all, I Never

33:32

went to one of those too lazy for those.

33:34

But I mean, we're boring as shit, but free smoothies.

33:37

And I would Do like a fake little yoga session that lasts like 15 minutes.

33:42

It would be a five minute yoga session.

33:44

It'd be like, come and join us on our patio For

33:46

yoga. And you'd be like that yoga session was literally me being in, what is it Shavasana for 15 minutes?

33:54

I was literally just there.

33:55

This doesn't feel like this is how it's supposed To

33:58

be. I big party.

34:00

But then The guy that I went with, he was, he was like a promoter.

34:04

So he brought like 12 girls with him, you know, that's one of those things.

34:07

So then I meet this guy and he's like actually funny and actually interesting.

34:12

And we both conveniently, like, didn't mention that we had, you know, significant others, but we didn't kiss her or anything like that.

34:17

But then he and his friend, just the two of them, like took me out to some other bars at the end.

34:22

They were like, let's get out of here. This is boring. Like, so we went to some other bars, we split an Uber, but we both went back to our own apartments with our own didn't exchange numbers or anything.

34:30

And a year later I liked Nearly

34:33

a year later I had followed Him

34:36

on my Instagram, but he hadn't followed me whatever a year later I liked one of his photos and he instantly messages me and like, Oh my God, like, I've been thinking of you.

34:46

And I couldn't remember what your name was.

34:47

And so we start messaging on Instagram and like kind of flirting, sexting back and forth.

34:54

He's like one day I'm driving like Home

34:56

for my nanny job or something. He's like, why don't you just like, come over?

34:59

I'm like, in my heart, Of

35:02

course it's like, My

35:07

heart is racing. But I'm like, okay, fine.

35:09

And I honestly, I'm so anxious.

35:12

I was never one to do this.

35:14

Like it's just too much for me too much pressure.

35:17

That's nerve wracking to go just straight to someone's house.

35:22

Yeah. Like that you've never hung. Implication was we were like immediately going to have sex.

35:25

And I was just like this, especially because you guys have been sexting and stuff.

35:28

I don't know. Oh, I'm like, I need a week prepare for this.

35:32

I need a week to prepare if you and I had been sexting in the first time we're going to meet up, we're going to have sex.

35:36

I need to be, that's very important to me.

35:41

I need to be feeling fully perfect.

35:43

Oh my God. That's just what we're going to do so much Pressure

35:47

that I probably won't feel very like comfortable and open.

35:50

Cause I'm sure it'd be like there's too much. Sure, sure.

35:52

I, you know, I'm just like, fuck it.

35:54

I'm going to do it. And so I show up at his house and we start talking and then he's like, you know what, like, why don't we get lunch?

35:59

So we don't automatically have sex. I'm like, Oh fuck.

36:01

I, that love that. So He

36:03

takes me in his like old vintage muscle car and we go driving to get lunch.

36:08

And then he's like, Hey, I just bought this piece of property on top of this Hill.

36:11

Like, let's drive up to it. So we drive up to the top of this Hill.

36:14

It was like a really cheap plot of land that he had like dreams of one day building the house on type thing.

36:19

It's like a $50,000 plot of land. I mean, peop he got a loan and he like begged the guy.

36:24

If he could like make him fit. It wasn't actually, his piece of property would go ahead.

36:26

Maybe even better.

36:28

So he takes me up to the top of the property. We're looking out over the city, we're eating lunch.

36:32

Then we see this old abandoned house then he's like, and he, I was like, he's like, I always like wonder what's up with that house.

36:38

And I'm like, let's go check it out.

36:39

So we drive through this windy thing in his old car, up to the house, we break into it.

36:44

I suck his Dick in one of the rooms.

36:46

It's amazing.

36:47

Well, not really, but it was fun.

36:49

We're

36:49

like,

36:49

yeah,

36:49

we,

36:49

we

36:49

started

36:49

making

36:49

out

36:49

of

36:49

the

36:49

house

36:53

yet. Then we did our little sexual thing and to come out of the house and it's surrounded by cops as if you almost get arrested.

36:59

And then he's like, Oh, I'm sorry.

37:02

Like, and then he's just like, I'm sorry.

37:04

We were just having fun. Just like exploring the house.

37:06

They let us go. We find, we see on one of the other little Hills is like an East LA you know, where there's all those like little rolling Hills with houses.

37:14

We see a house with a trampoline. The trampolines got kind of far away from the house.

37:17

So we go and jump on the trampoline and then we lay on it, like looking up at the sunset and we both fall asleep on the trampoline, just cuddling on the trampoline.

37:24

And then for like 30 minutes and then we wake up and I'm like, Oh my God, I can't really just nap on that trampoline.

37:30

And then we went back to his house and we had sex again.

37:33

He was like, Oh, please like, hang out with me tonight. I'm going over to my friend's house.

37:36

And I was just like, no, I can't. I have plans that I left.

37:38

And that was, that was our first date though.

37:40

I mean, now I remember the Dick suck in the abandoned house.

37:44

This is a perfect first date. There is no first date that gets better than that.

37:48

No, the F the, the playfulness and the adventure of that, like childhood, The

37:54

only way that it could get better Is

37:57

literally if it was just completely different, like if it was like a, Oh, my fantasy is to have some fucking baller ass dude, pick me up on a private jet and then that's a different, but that doesn't feel Rome as romantic.

38:12

Right. It was Like a movie, like the rich Shit

38:15

is more like, Oh, this is a crazy story to tell my friends that is pure romance.

38:19

That is an indie rom call.

38:22

It's actually, yes. You've seen that movie. Yeah. That kind of like that music.

38:25

Yeah. Playing In the background and the winds blowing down here in the car That

38:28

is like, or meeting that is the energy of not you're meeting your forever love, but you are meeting the most passionate love of your life, the sex wasn't that good.

38:38

But, but like, that's that energy right?

38:40

Where it's kind of like, that's, that's the person in the movie.

38:43

It won't be the person you end up with, but it's the person that you never stop thinking about that beautiful baby.

38:48

To me, he was, he was the beautiful babe one too, you know?

38:53

Wow. That's a, that's a pretty intense date for a beautiful babe.

38:58

Yeah. Well, later on he did like how much, how many other times did you guys go out?

39:02

Well, so then bachelor And

39:06

he,

39:06

I

39:06

feel

39:06

like

39:06

I've

39:06

talked

39:06

about

39:06

him

39:06

a

39:09

lot. Who cares? Eric? If you think of me, I think of YouTube.

39:13

Cause our romantic first date, I just love it because I pined funny, such a fun story.

39:18

And he's also a really fun person, but yeah, but we love those people, but He

39:22

was when I hooked up right before going on the bachelor.

39:24

Okay. Okay. And then I got back and then I

39:27

see the one that you called right after the bachelor.

39:30

No, no. I called all my ex-boyfriends and hooked up with them after the bachelor.

39:33

No, I mean, he was, he just, I don't know.

39:36

It wasn't, I felt like the chemistry was, I don't know, but regardless, super fun person.

39:42

And he was the one that I, yeah, that I would definitely like hit up.

39:44

So we like hung out like a handful of times, but I feel like I accidentally put like the power move in his court.

39:50

Cause one night when he was like drunk at like 2:00 AM, he invited me over and I drove from Mid-City to Lincoln Heights, which was like 45 minutes at like two in the morning.

40:00

And then I was like, God, I made myself look so desperate then that I feel like he was like less into me.

40:04

Cause he could kind of like Dick me around, you know?

40:07

So then after the bachelor actually, Oh, we spent all, I forgot about this.

40:12

We spent all new year's day together.

40:15

And then he watched my, my episode of the bachelor that night and then like text me this like drunk and texted one in the morning where he was like, Yes

40:27

please. Yes please. Yes, please. Oh my God.

40:29

I love when we start reading old texts.

40:31

DM. Thank you for humoring.

40:33

Me. This is so fun. I live For

40:36

this shit. Okay.

40:37

My Heart's racing again.

40:39

Oblation pounding through my body.

40:42

It's so fun. It's so fun.

40:43

Okay. C he was just texting Me

40:46

texts like sup tonight, like Ugh, gross.

40:49

Oh my God. You have sold the techs. Oh, I don't, I

40:52

don't delete any texts. I have texts from like 2016 on my phone.

40:55

Oh my God. For these reasons, it's very important.

40:58

It's very important to be able to reference, you know, it is important.

41:01

It is important.

41:05

And he would just kind of like, I would have invited, like I invited him to my birthday party and then he would just kind of like, then he just didn't.

41:10

He made some excuse for why he couldn't come.

41:12

It was just like Where you were never quite sure this look At

41:15

this text. Look, I feel like I read this one.

41:17

We're abroad. Sorry if I've already done this.

41:19

I Don't think you have, I don't remember.

41:23

You were reading a text. Okay. Maybe I'm just forgetting about it because I'm excited.

41:28

He is, you really stand out on the show.

41:30

You're going to be a star.

41:31

And I was like, Oh, thanks.

41:33

I'm happy. So it should be congrats.

41:35

Oh,

41:35

cheesy

41:42

text. I said, I want you to know, I was bound about getting sent home until I saw your texts from while my phone was off.

41:48

Oh wait, what would he text me? When my phone was off? I don't even remember.

41:54

every

42:01

day. I don't. He said every day, I don't hear from you.

42:04

I know You're that much closer to finding love.

42:07

LOL. He said every day, I didn't hear from you.

42:09

I was proud. And you did good about the show and He

42:13

was like, good job. Hot stuff. Okay.

42:15

So then the occasional, like a term of endearment.

42:18

Oh, okay. No it's me.

42:21

Okay. So right. Yeah.

42:23

I think that's something he wouldn't do it.

42:25

He's mostly an asshole, but they sent stuff like that to me, I was just like, Huh?

42:28

The occasional like gorgeous or like Beautiful

42:34

baby. Beautiful.

42:35

Also Weird

42:37

ones will bother me. Like one guy will say like sweetheart, and I'm like, I will, I will destroy you.

42:43

And then another one, like the right person will be like, like will answer the phone and be like, Hey sweetheart.

42:48

And I'm like, Oh, Like the person who has been ignoring you, you a and I'm like, Oh my God.

42:52

Yeah,

42:57

exactly. So, so bad. So I was like, Until

42:59

I saw your text from when my phone was off and I was like, wow, thank God.

43:03

I'm not engaged. Cause I get to make wonderful memories with people like you.

43:06

So cheesy. Then listen to what he sent back to 13:00 AM.

43:10

I'm stoked to read this, read this.

43:12

You're an amazing person. You're beautiful and smart and creative, charismatic, funny, fun, athletic, a demon in the sack.

43:18

I could go on forever. I'm glad I met you.

43:21

You're special. I'm happy. You found a platform that lets the world, see that you're destined for so much more than this.

43:26

And I'm excited to watch it unfold and even more excited to be some part of that journey today was great.

43:31

Just like every other day I've spent with you.

43:33

This is going to be a big year for you.

43:35

You have an incredible amount of opportunity ahead of you.

43:37

I'll be here for support and encouragement.

43:39

I'll never bring you drama or get in your way.

43:41

Congrats,

43:43

babe. You nailed it.

43:44

Is

43:44

that

43:44

not

43:44

the

43:44

best

43:44

text

43:49

ever? I'm Like, I don't think I've ever received a text so long from a man ever best texts.

43:58

Actually. I think I've ever, that's an incredible text message.

44:03

Yeah. I don't think I've received that nice of a text from my own parents like that is.

44:10

Yeah. And did you just melt on melted?

44:13

How many times did you read it? Over And over and over again?

44:15

Million.

44:17

Yeah. I love the feeling of when you receive a text that like gives you that feeling in your stomach.

44:24

I love the feeling of when you wake up the next morning and get to read it again.

44:28

You know what I mean? When you just read it over and over, over again, and like you like are randomly like sitting and then you open the text again and you're like, that's Literally

44:35

the nicest text I've ever seen. That's an incredible Text.

44:38

I should prime it.

44:41

Put it over your back. I still keep holding it.

44:43

I have like, I had all these notes that my ex boyfriend wrote to me and I definitely keep them.

44:47

I have Them, one of my drawers. Sometimes I need him to pick me up.

44:49

I do have the most beautiful eyes.

44:51

I am the most fun person hanging out with.

44:53

I have, I definitely have, I have screenshots they're on my old phone, but I have screenshots of like specific.

45:00

This is by the way before screenshots, where I would literally have to like take like my friend's phone and like take a picture and then like send it to myself.

45:10

Like take a picture of my text message of like old texts that like from random guys or Xs or whatever, then like made me feel all sorts of all sorts of ways.

45:23

They're nice to reread. They're wonderful.

45:25

My day's better now.

45:27

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46:54

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46:59

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47:03

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50:01

So,

50:03

okay. I have to ask you one, I think before you start reading one of the things I always see a lot of Confessions

50:09

about like pain.

50:11

Have We talked about that? What's your thing with like P Interesting.

50:14

Okay. I, I, they've never been in a sexual situation where P was involved.

50:21

I have never been asked to pee on someone.

50:24

And honestly, I'm personally, I feel like, do I not give off that vibe I'd like to be asked, you know, it's not my thing, but I do like to know that anyone would think I'd be up for anything.

50:37

Yes. But no, I've never been in that situation.

50:39

Like

50:39

I

50:39

said,

50:39

it's

50:39

not

50:39

a

50:39

turn

50:39

on

50:39

for

50:39

me,

50:39

but

50:39

if

50:39

someone

50:39

asks

50:39

me

50:39

to,

50:39

I,

50:39

it

50:39

would

50:39

not

50:39

be

50:39

like

50:39

a

50:39

hard,

50:39

no,

50:39

it

50:39

would

50:39

kind

50:39

of

50:39

just

50:39

be

50:39

the

50:54

circumstance. Yes. Because like, look, I get turned on by what Turns

50:58

someone else on. So maybe if someone was like going to get rock hard for me, like doing some, some piss play, I don't like saying that Kind

51:08

of throws me out. That's what people say though. I think really piss play.

51:11

Yeah. I've never heard of that. I feel like that's the thing.

51:14

I, a hundred percent believe you.

51:15

I trust your knowledge, but that's okay.

51:20

Maybe not. I don't know. I'm not into it.

51:22

Right. I'm not with someone who's into it, but like yeah. If

51:24

someone I was in was just like, that was their thing.

51:26

I could get super into it.

51:28

I feel like that was a lot. I Th I think the only thing for me that would really put a stop on it, if my partner really wanted, it would be the situation again, that it's in.

51:40

Like I'm not looking to pee on a bed or on the ground, like, like I'd have to be in like a shower Situation.

51:50

You know what I could see being hot.

51:52

I could do it in like outdoor scenario.

51:56

Yeah. Yeah. Like maybe I

51:58

could see this being sexy if you're like, well, you know, I'm a little, maybe a little more of a nature.

52:03

Galvanneal just a smidgy.

52:05

But I could see it being hot.

52:07

If it's something where you're like peeing in the forest and then some, the guy is like, sees you.

52:13

And then it's like in, you're like all like butt naked from the waist down.

52:17

And then that's kind of tend to do a second.

52:19

I peed on the side of so many houses in my life.

52:22

I'm like, if you want to just, if you want to just join because the bathroom is too full at this house party, then you can just come on.

52:30

Yeah. Yeah. I think for me it would definitely like, I need to have a quick washing available for me.

52:37

So the idea of being in the shower, what if you were really, really hydrated?

52:41

It might be better.

52:42

That's true, but it's, yeah.

52:45

It's not even that it's the digital diluted versus whatever.

52:49

It's just more like, you know, I don't love staying wet.

52:52

And so I don't want the pee to dry on me.

52:56

Oh no. Oh no. It's

52:58

the same way that I feel like after I'm with someone who finishes and if they finish, you know, not in a condom or inside me, if they finish like on my stomach or whatever, it needs to be off of me immediately, I'm

53:09

like, Oh, you know what I mean? Like, I don't like God.

53:12

Yeah. But I'm just saying some people are like down to just, you know, have it get all dried Hardest

53:20

thing in the world to get off though. Like if you've inadvertently done that, Oh my God.

53:26

I'm just, I'm getting my God.

53:27

This is A confession.

53:29

Have you ever been in a situation where you missed a spot and went out in public?

53:34

Oh, 100% or like on a piece of clothing accidentally Monica Lewinsky style, you know?

53:38

And it's just like, I've, I've

53:40

done it so many times or somehow I like missed it.

53:42

And it's like on the top of my hand or it's like across my chest, over your mouth, it's dripping Out

53:49

of my hair. No, straight up. Like, I've been like where I've gotten, come in your eyes.

53:56

Yeah. The worst thing in the world.

53:58

See, I, I shouldn't say that it's gotten like the corner and I was able to kind of get it out pretty quick.

54:02

I haven't gotten it like proper, like in it.

54:05

I don't know if someone's like come in my eyes, but like inadvertently got in my eye and that is, you might as well just pour bleach in your eyes.

54:14

Oh, it hurts so bad. Oh my God.

54:16

I don't know why Now I just am curious, but I dare.

54:21

You dare you bitch.

54:22

But my contacts, I

54:26

never got the face thing. Not that I'm against it, but I'm just like, that's not hot to me.

54:29

And also like, if you're super, super into that, I might like be like, are you really into degrading women?

54:35

Yeah. I don't mind it, but I'm also not like The

54:39

hair. I mean, that's no, that's A no, for me, that's a no with my alopecia.

54:42

If you know This for me, for me, once I have to cut that shit out, it's like, once I wash the hair, Like

54:49

I'm putting dry shampoo in because I'm not trying to wash it constantly because of the LOPH because then more falls out when I wash it.

54:55

So I'm not looking for you to like do that in my hair.

54:57

Okay. So I have to say that going through a lot of these confessions there isn't, there is one that is a common theme.

55:03

It's kind of like a, both and a lot of broads talking about how they, how they, you know, quote unquote, just like constantly follow their ex on social media, even though they're married and happier, whatever.

55:17

And then the other one is talking about having sex dreams, even though they're in a happy relationship.

55:22

And I just wanted to say something to free.

55:24

All of you, if you feel any sort of, any sort of guilt about this, where it feels like it has to be a confession that you've been making anonymously, pretty much, most people have sex dreams about random people all the time About

55:41

your partner. You cannot like you can't Control

55:44

your sex dreams. Like you cannot control them.

55:47

Like do not feel any sort of, you know, guilt or anything, like I'd know truly.

55:53

I don't, I can maybe think of one time I've had a sex dream about Evan.

55:57

That's it?

55:59

Everything everyone else is either random.

56:03

My old Youth pastor straight up, like it's literally like an old Navy.

56:08

One

56:08

of

56:08

like

56:08

my,

56:08

my

56:08

parents'

56:08

friends,

56:14

A lot of faceless individuals, a lot of, kind of just bodies, Nick Crowell.

56:20

What

56:20

a

56:20

dream

56:20

now

56:20

is,

56:20

you

56:20

know,

56:20

just

56:26

random. And then also you still like following up with your ex, even Though

56:32

you're in a happy relationship, I've talked about this before.

56:35

I used to have sex Dreams. Like for, I'm not talking, I'm talking for years about my ex Or

56:40

dreams or sex dreams, but I'm even just talking About

56:43

like, like following on like, like checking up on social media.

56:45

Like I think, I think most of us know internally w if it's unhealthy, like, if it's an obsession, like we're not talking about that.

56:55

But like, if you are like on a regular basis being like, what is this motherfucker up to completely normal?

57:03

I still do it all the time.

57:04

I do it with the people I cared about. And I do it with people who I literally went on like two dates with who I just, for some reason, like, it's good, fun shits and giggles out of just following on social media.

57:15

Yeah. You know? Yeah. I think that's normal.

57:18

Right. I feel like it is yeah.

57:19

Too much into It. And I think sometimes like obsessing over it can cause even more issues than just being like a dream is a dream and a dream is not always, it doesn't mean you're secretly unhappy with the person you're with or that you, or that you belong with the, with the ex that you're having dreams about.

57:34

You know? No, don't worry.

57:37

Don't read too much into it. So here I know how to serving.

57:40

It can be. Yeah, of course. Like, Literally

57:41

I'm telling you for years, I would have dreams About

57:43

my ex and his girlfriend and sex.

57:47

And you're like, why am I to be elaborate?

57:50

Like, you know, like I'm heartbroken my dream over him.

57:54

Or he chooses me over his girlfriend and like, Hmm.

57:59

It can be very confusing. Yeah.

58:01

I'm

58:01

about

58:01

to

58:01

piss

58:01

my

58:03

pants. I'm going to go into, Okay.

58:06

So let me read a couple of these, these two, I'm going to read it kind of together because similar energy.

58:13

Okay. So one says, got very drunk in Hawaii on vacation with two best girlfriends and our husband confessions.

58:24

Okay. So got very drunk in Hawaii on a vacation with two best friends and our husbands, just the girls snuck into the community, hot tub and turned it into a foam party with bubble bath and all made out.

58:35

Never told her.

58:37

I mean, I was telling my husbands though, I'd be like, guess what?

58:39

I wouldn't be able to resist And just be like, get sweat a little trouble.

58:42

We got it. I know. I would definitely.

58:44

I mean, maybe there was, you know, maybe one of the friends did not feel comfortable because maybe one of the husbands she thinks would not handle it so well, or They

58:54

want to be their little secret warm. I

58:55

forget that's also kind of hot, but like, or my friends, maybe one of these husbands is one of those guys where she knows that if he finds out, he's going to be like, so like, can we make this a whole group thing?

59:06

And like, isn't going to try to then like, you know, insert himself in the make-out session where we're like, we don't want you here.

59:15

Good cert. Yeah. This was just for us.

59:17

Well, look, Greyston my progressive King

59:19

is like, what's the difference from you hooking up with a girl or a guy?

59:23

Like I want Mike he's like, I want you to ask if it's okay with me before you make out with anyone girl or man that's, that's a sexual boundary being crossed in our relationship.

59:32

Oh, for Sure. Evan is the exact same.

59:35

Well, and I feel like, you know, a lot Of people are like, it doesn't count because it's a girl, but it's like, Dude,

59:39

if we think that, that, you know, as Being

59:42

relationships, bisexual relationships are legitimate, then why do we have, you know?

59:47

Yeah. Unless that's communicated with what's your partner and maybe, and maybe that's why they haven't shared because they know that maybe.

59:57

So that's an interesting one.

1:00:00

I'd like to hear it people's opinions because I know a lot of people, it's just like a given that it's like, okay, for them to make out with girls, but I wouldn't be interested how many people have had that conversation or haven't or what they would assume their partner would think.

1:00:10

And if they would, you Know?

1:00:12

Yeah. I definitely, I know in my relationship, it's definitely something that he would consider cheating because it is interesting How

1:00:23

much we fetishized, like lesbian relationships were like Casually,

1:00:28

like yeah, we made out in the bar, you know, it'd be like, I'd be like, Oh my God.

1:00:38

Whereas me and you, if we made out people were like, Oh my God, Queens, that's very true.

1:00:42

Something to think about Some

1:00:45

fairy trick about also the next one is I had a threesome with my BFF and her BF.

1:00:53

It ruined our friendship and their relationship.

1:00:56

And

1:00:56

what

1:00:56

that

1:00:56

says,

1:00:56

what

1:00:56

that

1:00:56

says

1:00:56

to

1:00:56

me,

1:00:56

and

1:00:56

I

1:00:56

could

1:00:56

be

1:00:56

wrong

1:00:56

on

1:00:56

this

1:01:05

one. But my, my guess is that maybe your best friend ended up finding out that her boyfriend had the hots for you.

1:01:14

And it went beyond a consensual threesome encounter.

1:01:19

And that he potentially, after the threesome happened, was wanting to bring it up a lot and wanting to like, that's my guess.

1:01:31

I think Also, like, I think I told you this about the one time where I had my little group sex situation with my ex, I think there's sometimes something that people can't articulate after seeing their partner have sex with someone else or whatever, that, that is difficult to articulate.

1:01:49

Like I think that it ultimately led to us breaking up within a week for whatever reason.

1:01:54

And it wasn't, I had no issue with it, but there was something like, I remember the next day, like he like cried about something randomly.

1:02:02

And I was like, Whoa, like it was, it was just brought up a lot of emotion.

1:02:05

I think sometimes it can be just like very people don't realize what's going to come up until it happens.

1:02:12

Yeah. Yeah. No, that's very true.

1:02:14

I just, I don't know. Maybe I'm maybe I'm personalizing this, but I just, like, she Might

1:02:20

not have ever, ever been able to get the image of like her partner having sex with her friend out.

1:02:25

And if he was even if he is, was maybe frequently bringing it up to let's just say, I'm just kept, I had a, okay.

1:02:35

I had a situation once where I was living with a friend of mine.

1:02:42

Yeah. And she started dating this guy and it was like, I was always hanging out with them.

1:02:48

Like I was always third wheeling it, I was always around and I think she considered me like, like safe.

1:02:56

Right? So she tended to be a kind of jealous person, but I was a little bit of like a safe place.

1:03:01

Cause I have known her for forever. And she was one of my best friends and she knows I would never do anything weird.

1:03:06

I don't know how she felt about her boyfriend, but whatever one day I went away for the weekend to go stay with my parents and visit them.

1:03:14

And I came home and something was different.

1:03:18

She was being really weird with me.

1:03:20

He was being cold with me and I ended up finding like a day or two later this book that was like a game book that they had where you filled in answers.

1:03:34

And one of the questions was who, which one of my friends are you most sexually attracted to?

1:03:41

And he had written in my name.

1:03:43

So

1:03:43

it

1:03:43

like,

1:03:43

it

1:03:43

fucked

1:03:43

up

1:03:49

everything. And we didn't even have a damn three seven, which by the way, I would have absolutely never.

1:03:54

She was, he is. So was so not my type, but it was just the idea of her feeling.

1:04:00

Like there was a safety between the three of us and now all of a sudden she lives with me.

1:04:06

She I'm her roommate and he literally practically lives with us.

1:04:10

Cause he's here 24 hours a day. Well guess what?

1:04:12

They were not over at the house very often.

1:04:14

I pretty much have it up to my house, to myself for a year, Which

1:04:18

I did not hate, but it made everything so beyond weird.

1:04:23

And I never told them that I saw that book because I'm like, this is going to be even weirder.

1:04:29

If I bring this up to her and say, Hey, just so you know, I know that your boyfriend's the most sexually attracted to me out of all your friends, which for the love of God, I'll never know why, again, jealous person.

1:04:46

Why would you, why would you put yourself in that position and ask that question of a partner?

1:04:51

That's just wild.

1:04:52

If you don't want to know, don't ask if you don't know, I want to know.

1:04:56

Don't have, I think where people don't think it's going to upset them until it does.

1:05:01

Yeah. I just, I, this is, it's kind of what, remember Lisa Vanderbilt Was

1:05:05

saying where she was just like, it's not going to be the same once it actually Happens.

1:05:09

True. I try to live by that. This role in my relationships are just, I

1:05:14

know, I know that I maybe tend to not get as jealous.

1:05:20

I'd used to be so jealous, but just in general, I tend not to pose questions to my partner that I think there's even a small chance that I am going to get defensive about or not ready to hear.

1:05:35

Like I'm not, you can't put your partner in those situations and put the pressure on your partner and try to create a safe space for your partner.

1:05:42

To be honest, knowing that there's a chance that you might not have a great reaction.

1:05:48

Well drunk And see you're like, come on.

1:05:50

Who did you fuck? Most of all of our friends.

1:05:52

And then you're like, ah, I would highly Suggest

1:05:55

asking that question unless you are going to get turned on by it, unless you like the idea of having that conversation.

1:06:03

And like, but I don't get Turned

1:06:06

on, but like I've asked her that question before.

1:06:08

I don't actually even remember who he said, don't remember.

1:06:12

Yeah,

1:06:12

I

1:06:12

have

1:06:12

no

1:06:12

idea,

1:06:16

But it, like, it didn't turn Me

1:06:19

on, but it just also didn't bother me. Cause I just feel like sexual attraction is something you just can't help.

1:06:23

It's like, there's going to be like, he asked me about which one of his friends and I was like, yep.

1:06:28

I know exactly who it is.

1:06:31

Yeah. There, there is it.

1:06:32

I should say there's a different conversation between sexually attracted to it, like emotionally attracted to, would you be most likely to be in a relationship with my friends?

1:06:43

That's definitely a different question.

1:06:44

The fact of the matter is this, is that the book that they filled out, there were numerous questions.

1:06:50

You didn't have an answer to this too, to each other.

1:06:52

Yeah. Yeah. Okay. It doesn't bother you.

1:06:53

No, it doesn't bother Me, but it would've. It would have absolutely used to bother me.

1:06:58

D and honestly, I, I will say this I'll

1:07:00

be vulnerable with you. It would have depended on who he said, if there was a chance that I felt like there was mutual attraction, it wouldn't have gotten me upset, but I probably would have felt a little uncomfortable, like in group settings, like, or it would have been in the back of my head and maybe watching their dynamic a little bit, especially because the person that he said was someone that like, they have a very playful relationship.

1:07:26

So

1:07:26

I

1:07:26

would

1:07:26

have

1:07:26

been

1:07:26

like,

1:07:26

it

1:07:26

just

1:07:26

would

1:07:26

have,

1:07:26

it

1:07:26

wouldn't

1:07:26

have

1:07:26

upset

1:07:31

me. It just would have been more like it would have bummed me out that I would have been more aware of it because I love their relationship.

1:07:36

They have such a great friendship. And then I'm like, I feel like I'm like, I would've just been gotten in my head too much.

1:07:42

That wasn't who he said, or it wasn't.

1:07:43

It was, Oh, it was. But that it didn't bother you.

1:07:46

It didn't because I don't feel like, yeah, I just don't feel threatened for some reason.

1:07:52

Like I said, they're playful and they're flirty and they've always been like that, but it's just, the person doesn't bother me.

1:08:00

But I, there, there is that unspeakable thing that for some reason, if maybe it would have been someone else, it might have bothered.

1:08:07

You, you think maybe it's because she feels you trust her.

1:08:09

That's probably what it is. You trust her and she's going to be, She

1:08:12

would never do. And that's true. That's true.

1:08:15

You know, maybe a little more, keep it at ball on.

1:08:21

I'm just like, great. I thought that I'd be like, when, When

1:08:24

you guys went to go, you know, grab dinner with some friends and I wasn't there that I felt, you know?

1:08:29

Yeah.

1:08:31

Do you, is there a question of, if Evan asked you, you know exactly who it is?

1:08:35

I mean, for me, yeah. You know, what's really funny is I literally his friends there is no.

1:08:45

And when I say no one, I can tell you people.

1:08:50

I know that I'm absolutely sexually attracted to, but his friends, no one, like, I literally have to think of like some random person from the past that I'd be like, I guess, and it's not even like a friend of his it's like, eh, you know, it's, it's, it's, it's honestly, it's, it's upsetting because I'm

1:09:13

like, I wish there were a little more, that would be a little fun, But

1:09:16

there's nobody, there's definitely people like I've told him, you know, who I know that I'm very attracted to.

1:09:25

Yeah. Would you, are You,

1:09:27

are you into like the two, like the two guys, three, some were like the kind of more leaning towards the, the gang bang basically when you're the only girl with like two guys or three guys.

1:09:37

Sure. Yeah. I know it doesn't that sound like, just so fun.

1:09:41

So fun. The idea, the idea of a threesome sounds so fun to me in any, in any way, but like this person said that it ruined her relationship with her best friend and her boyfriend.

1:09:54

I, I would, you know, I think we've talked about this before, but if I were to ever engage in a threesome, like I would anonymous, it would have to be anonymous.

1:10:04

Or like I said, I've said it before. I would love to bring someone who is like a sex worker and, and like have someone who is professional.

1:10:11

I know it'd be fun. It'd be so fun.

1:10:14

I think. But not someone I know.

1:10:16

I feel Like we, I think that that's just fair and safe.

1:10:19

Yeah. It's just safer you Get her bed.

1:10:20

I don't want to, I don't want to do that also to like put someone who I'm friends with in a position where it could, like, I wouldn't think it would ruin the relationship, but I've also never experienced a sexual intercourse with that person in that setting before.

1:10:38

So I don't necessarily want to put that person in a situation where I'm like, Oh no, we're going to be good.

1:10:43

And then I feel strange afterwards.

1:10:46

And then there's, Should

1:10:48

we cancel the plans we made for this weekend?

1:10:50

Do you think that's best?

1:10:52

Let's just leave him tentative, Pencil

1:10:55

me in. Let's just, just don't Cancel

1:10:59

it. But maybe like, yeah, we'll catch you.

1:11:02

We'll we'll, we'll check In a couple hours before and see how we're feeling.

1:11:05

I agree with the friend thing, like I would have sex with, like, I

1:11:09

would feel much more comfortable if it was like a man on my partner's side of friendship.

1:11:13

I'm like, you guys deal with that drama, you know, But

1:11:17

I wouldn't want To involve, I don't think any of my friends either.

1:11:20

That's just, Yeah,

1:11:21

I don't know. I just, it just feels like it could get cut.

1:11:24

Like it could be really good, but it also feels like I could get complicated.

1:11:28

Yeah. I would love to have like a threesome or force in though with some of Grayson's male friends.

1:11:32

Oh, For

1:11:34

sure. I mean, shoot me a call.

1:11:36

Hit me up.

1:11:39

I mean like you, you know, you know, they're safe and you trust them and all of that.

1:11:42

And then like, yeah. If it fucks up your guys' relationship on that's that's on you.

1:11:46

Yeah. Yeah. That's your guys is I'm, I'm

1:11:50

just an outsider coming In. That's your guys's hole situation.

1:11:56

Well, I'm seeing him, but I'm also, I'm seeing a couple, I'm seeing a couple situations here that involve hooking up with friends and most of them are saying it under the relationship.

1:12:07

So take it as you will.

1:12:09

Obviously it's a deep, deep amount of communication is needed before.

1:12:13

It seems anything involving a friend and a threesome is involved.

1:12:21

What about, what about, what do you think about the ones that, what do you think about the ones that guys taught?

1:12:29

I don't even know if I want to open this can of worms, but the boys talked about the girls who like, you know, purposely got pregnant and like their boyfriends didn't know.

1:12:37

Cause I've seen some of that. Like now, like I'm trying to get pregnant right now.

1:12:40

My fiance doesn't know he does want kids, but not for another two years.

1:12:43

I'm not okay with that.

1:12:46

It's totally non-consecutive Oh, completely Nonconsensual.

1:12:49

And unless, yeah, it's completely nonconsensual.

1:12:52

I,

1:12:52

yeah,

1:12:52

that's

1:12:52

going

1:12:52

to

1:12:52

be

1:12:52

a

1:12:52

no

1:12:52

for

1:12:56

me.

1:12:56

You

1:12:56

can't

1:12:56

do

1:12:59

that. I feel like I subconsciously did it when Greg and I got pregnant with Ruth About

1:13:05

that. Yeah. But it was definitely not intentional.

1:13:07

Like it was subconscious.

1:13:08

You felt like it was intentional that you got pregnant.

1:13:12

You feel Like it was like, I want to get pregnant with him.

1:13:15

I feel like in the back of my head, I was like, but what if like, it happens?

1:13:19

Like this would be interesting. Let's do it. Just like, yeah, everything's fine.

1:13:22

And in my head I was like, okay, Maybe

1:13:24

I'm going to that's maybe your, I Don't

1:13:28

think that's right. By the way, I want to clarify, Like

1:13:30

I don't, I I'm not saying that's right. But I also Think

1:13:32

that that's, that there was a part of that where it's like, you're also, you're thinking constantly.

1:13:37

And I think you map out potential scenarios about everything that's yes.

1:13:45

Welcome to my life. Right. So like when you're having a sexual encounter, you're thinking about every scenario, a possible scenario in a sexual encounter is getting pregnant.

1:13:54

So to me, that's just, you're processing everything versus I am with someone who does not want to be pregnant and I'm going to secretly try to get pregnant.

1:14:06

Well, that's The thing. Okay. Friends too.

1:14:08

Like, I feel like I told him like, okay, just ejaculate in me.

1:14:11

Even though I knew, like I might be ovulating and he made that choice to do that anyway, which is like, that's not right.

1:14:18

But I also think like that's not right period.

1:14:21

And we, he and I have talked about that, but I feel like that is different than being like, I'm taking my birth control, babe.

1:14:27

I'm like poking holes in the condom.

1:14:29

Like that's pretty Diabolical.

1:14:31

He was, he knew he was taking birth control.

1:14:36

Yes. That's what I'm saying. It was communicated. You're not on birth control.

1:14:38

You are taking a risk.

1:14:40

He could have pulled out. You said do it.

1:14:43

And he consented.

1:14:45

Yeah.

1:14:45

Versus

1:14:45

I

1:14:45

am

1:14:45

taking

1:14:45

birth

1:14:45

control

1:14:45

and

1:14:45

you're

1:14:45

actually

1:14:45

taking

1:14:45

like

1:14:45

a

1:14:45

filter

1:14:45

a

1:14:51

pill. He's like, we're good, baby. You're like, we're good.

1:14:53

He's like, show me your tongue.

1:14:55

And then you just literally have a sugar pill on it.

1:14:56

This is like in prison. We're going to put the, you show me a list of your time at okay.

1:15:02

All right. I'm taking it.

1:15:04

No, that, that to me.

1:15:06

No, no, I truly don't want to get pregnant right now, by the way.

1:15:09

I just Wanna make that clear to everyone. Sure.

1:15:11

I'm really not drying. That's A cutting, cutting a hole in a condom.

1:15:14

Like, I mean, come on. Like that is it's so it's so wrong.

1:15:17

It's so wrong.

1:15:20

They almost have, Oh, as this is A

1:15:23

controversial take, but I almost have a little bit more like this guy says he doesn't want to do it for two more years, but he does want to have kids with her.

1:15:32

And like, I Got

1:15:34

a little bit more grace for that. I know that's kind of fucked up, but I Do

1:15:37

have a little more grace for that.

1:15:38

Who you Mean? Just because he's, he's saying like, I want To

1:15:41

have kids with you, but he's doing that whole thing where like it's not the right time right now.

1:15:45

Yeah, no, to me it says, I mean, I think it is wrong.

1:15:48

It is wrong. It's All wrong.

1:15:50

Now. Now granted, if someone's like, I never want children.

1:15:53

And you do that. That is, that feels more extreme because Of

1:15:57

just having kids with you. Like, you know, that's a different scenario other than this person, I want To

1:16:02

have children with you. One's more extreme.

1:16:05

Right. But all, all wrong. You're right. You know what I mean?

1:16:07

100% true. It's all wrong.

1:16:08

But one feels More

1:16:12

terrible.

1:16:12

That's

1:16:15

that? Yeah, that, that, that was some wild shit then.

1:16:19

Ah, I've also seen a lot saying Like, Oh, I can't like, I didn't think I was able to come with guys.

1:16:24

Or like, I never able was with like three guys or only two guys that for me come and neither of my boyfriends have, like, I just want to throw out some stats, throw out those stats, baby.

1:16:35

I'm probably gonna fuck up all of them. I could look them up right now.

1:16:38

But I saw a stat the other day that was like 90 something percent of women can come on their own.

1:16:41

And it's like only something like 40 something or 60 something anyway, way less of a percentage can come with a partner.

1:16:47

I'm like, honey, there's nothing wrong with you.

1:16:50

No, no.

1:16:53

Who's the common denominator.

1:16:54

Well, I guess you're the common denominator, but who's the, well, how was this scenario?

1:17:01

15. It's the other person, which I don't.

1:17:05

And also when people say that, I feel like they're like tell your boyfriend to try harder.

1:17:08

Just a little thing from, from Becca's corner.

1:17:11

From my opinion, generally that shows me is that one-year boyfriend actually might be trying too Hard.

1:17:18

He shore.

1:17:20

And My

1:17:24

advice is one, bring a toy and to take everything 10 times slower, Take

1:17:32

10 Times. As long before you allow someone to touch your genitals.

1:17:36

And

1:17:36

cause

1:17:36

that's

1:17:36

the

1:17:36

thing

1:17:36

that

1:17:36

guys

1:17:36

always

1:17:42

do. They're like here, we've been making it for two minutes and we finger you sometimes.

1:17:44

It's great. But if you're someone who that is having a hard time coming during sex, I would recommend maybe setting a rule like let's you have to wait at least this amount of time before you're allowed to, because that can really arouse you to have like a little bit more of a tease, as long as you take everything slower.

1:18:01

And remember that there's nothing wrong with you.

1:18:03

It's just, you might not be.

1:18:04

There might be too much pressure on you or you might not be comfortable enough to amen blocks with enough for this person to come in.

1:18:12

Amen. Self exploration is also always wonderful and figuring out maybe the way that you can make yourself come via, you know, whether it be That's

1:18:24

the thing, it says 90 something percent of women can already Come

1:18:26

on their own. No, I know. So I'm saying if you, if you can find different ways to make yourself come on your own and maybe find the one that you feel most relaxed in, that you can then bring your partner in on it too.

1:18:40

Because I know there are some ways that like I can get off that, that feel more complex or even more like, I don't know if I'm fully relaxed having a partner do this to me, but there are other ways that it's like, Oh, I can come this way and I can easily kind of feel comfortable directing a partner, like literally hold this toy.

1:19:02

And we're good, you know, and it's not this whole like, okay, well, You

1:19:06

know, cause there's some ways where you're like, okay, if I put a finger Here

1:19:08

and then I put another out and I do it, it's just like a whole thing that it's like, you don't necessarily want to have to explain all of that to someone because it just feels like, yeah.

1:19:16

And I can speak from experience. Just like with my, like when I was younger too, I always felt a lot of pressure.

1:19:22

If someone was like watching me, I could literally be doing the exact same thing that I would be doing and having someone else there and feeling the pressure of them being there would be enough where I could be doing the exact same thing.

1:19:32

I'd be doing alone, but I'd be like, I'm not feeling any kind of like turned on sensation.

1:19:36

Cause I get so much pressure.

1:19:37

So, you know, I feel like it all comes down to relaxation, Be

1:19:43

something as simple as, and by the way, this is, this sounds like the most ridiculous thing ever.

1:19:48

But I was having a conversation with a friend the other day.

1:19:51

It could be as simple as turning the goddamn lights off because my girlfriend was like, has been struggling, you know, like orgasming with, with her partner.

1:20:01

And, and I ended up finding out that they tend to always have sex mid day.

1:20:07

So the natural light is coming in.

1:20:09

So, you know, There's

1:20:11

so much awareness expose. And so yeah, if you're trying to relax.

1:20:16

Yeah. A lot of people cannot relax.

1:20:18

Cause I know I, I have to be, I have to very specific mood to have like the light pouring in and being sensual and sexual and like orgasm freely.

1:20:32

I have to be in a very specific place.

1:20:34

I do much better when the lights at least are when it's dimmed or it's dark or whatever so that you can just exactly like what you're saying when it doesn't feel like someone's watching you.

1:20:46

Yeah. I also think like for people, like for me having like a little bit of sexual trauma, what really helps me is to set boundaries.

1:20:52

So I know what to expect.

1:20:53

So sometimes like something that could be really helpful for you is talking before with your partner and be like, next time I have sex, I actually don't want you to do any penetration or like touch me with your hands at all.

1:21:04

But I would love if you massage my breasts while making out with me and maybe you could be touching yourself, meanwhile, I would be touching myself or using a vibrator.

1:21:13

And that could still be like a really hot sexual encounter that doesn't have to be this thing where you're like laying on your back, getting penetrated and trying to make yourself come and doing all of that.

1:21:22

That can be so too much.

1:21:24

That can be like really central ways.

1:21:26

Him sitting behind you while he's massaging your nipples and kissing your neck while you're using a vibrator on yourself.

1:21:32

There's like a lot of things that you can do.

1:21:35

And I think a lot of times there's just, that's something that's just really helped me because sometimes you can feel really out of control with someone on top or with someone doing penetration or someone is just going to be too much.

1:21:47

So good. I, yeah. I, I like the idea too, when you're, when you're talking about exploring different ways and also like slowing down, like there's also just like no rush.

1:21:58

There's also no rush to do anything more than what you're comfortable with ever.

1:22:04

Like if you're, especially if you're with a partner, you have an infinite amount of time to have sexual encounters.

1:22:14

Yeah. Take it from someone who's been with the same person for 14 years.

1:22:21

I've been with the same person for 14 years.

1:22:23

Okay. Like there you have, if, if, if you Don't

1:22:28

feel comfortable with like more than making out and someone massaging, like you were saying, like massaging your breasts and that's just where you are over and over and over again, don't put pressure on yourself to do anything more than that.

1:22:41

You will have plenty.

1:22:42

Like, I mean, that's what I just feel like.

1:22:45

I feel like there's a lot of times this rush in our, especially in our culture of like, you know, penetration.

1:22:52

Yeah. Yes, exactly. Yeah. It's okay.

1:22:55

Yep. You'd have plenty of time. Just ease your way into whatever you're comfortable with.

1:22:59

Hmm, amen.

1:23:02

Amen. Holy Someone

1:23:04

said, I can't find, it said something was like, I had anal in a subway, like enough said, they said I had anal on a gravestone.

1:23:14

Who's

1:23:14

is

1:23:14

that,

1:23:14

do

1:23:14

you

1:23:14

think

1:23:14

that's

1:23:19

wrong? Oh, Oh

1:23:22

golly. I Feel all sorts of way about all sorts of ways about that.

1:23:25

I am dead anal on migraine.

1:23:28

That's just me.

1:23:30

Yeah. I, I mean, I'm dead.

1:23:33

I'm I, there, there is no awareness to me, but like I know some people would be like, like don't do not disrespect.

1:23:38

Like that's like my family's my grandfather's tombstone.

1:23:42

It would Be really mad if someone had anal on my grandpa's tombstone, like really mad, but He

1:23:49

doesn't know my grandfather, but like, I wouldn't care.

1:23:52

I'd be a little bit like Bobby loved Some,

1:23:54

you know, loved peanuts enjoying themselves.

1:23:56

I'm not sure If

1:24:01

you love the romance. So yeah.

1:24:04

Appearance is bliss. Right. If you don't know if the dead person doesn't know who gives a fuck.

1:24:07

Yeah. I mean, I mean, technically I guess it is your property.

1:24:11

You own that.

1:24:12

So it's like, but I wouldn't mind that's for sure.

1:24:18

I don't know.

1:24:19

Even if I did, if I had awareness after death, I'd be like, go for it.

1:24:23

Enjoy, enjoy your youth Your

1:24:29

time of the day. I remember the days when I was alive, you know what I mean?

1:24:34

Like, let's see If I can just find one or one or two more.

1:24:37

I know I have a few.

1:24:40

I have, I like this one. It's just fun.

1:24:43

Someone said, well, having sex. I imagined myself as someone, my husband is cheating with and I just, I think that's fun.

1:24:49

Yeah. I think that that's fun.

1:24:51

That's a great way to introduce some sort of like, you know, fun, Fun,

1:24:55

internal role-play a little bit.

1:24:57

I love it. I was really pushing role-play this weekend with all of My

1:25:01

friends.

1:25:01

I

1:25:01

think

1:25:01

people,

1:25:04

And I know we've talked about before. I see we have the same conversation conversations again and again, but cause they're fun.

1:25:08

So sorry, Queens

1:25:14

down at these everyone's wrong. This person's like y'all gonna do Talk

1:25:17

about me, fucking a cop on the police boat in the middle of the Lake.

1:25:23

They said, fuck the police. She took that literally, literally.

1:25:27

And she did it on the water.

1:25:28

I want this story.

1:25:30

God, Anything

1:25:34

honestly, even not see, I don't care.

1:25:36

I never had sex at cm on Lake Cops.

1:25:38

They sound alike.

1:25:40

Cops seem on problematic. I feel like that sounds fucking you doing on the Lake.

1:25:44

It feels like it's a lifeguard, but I could be very wrong.

1:25:47

I really don't. There's like police. I don't really know.

1:25:49

I do know that my mother was recently on a Lake and did get pulled over by a Lake police and didn't have a great experience, but know.

1:25:59

Okay. No, no, no. It wasn't a terrible experience.

1:26:02

It was just kind of a rude experience.

1:26:03

But she, she got a ticket because she didn't have a license to fish and she was fishing.

1:26:09

Oh that they take that very seriously.

1:26:11

And you know what, guys, you should get your Licenses

1:26:13

to fish or hunt because all of that money goes towards these outdoor programs that are very not funded by the government.

1:26:23

So by your fish license and fire hunting license, cause they go to preservation and go to really, really important things that are super, super underrated.

1:26:31

Oh, that's good to know. I'm going to pass onto my mother.

1:26:33

She wasn't upset about the ticket.

1:26:35

She just really Didn't know.

1:26:36

So she's out there with her pull up And

1:26:40

her boyfriend and she's just trying to have some, she's just trying to have something.

1:26:43

They have no idea and they're just trying to fish.

1:26:46

And then the police comes up and my mom was just Like,

1:26:48

I don't understand. And I'm like, Oh God, both my cousins Work

1:26:52

for, you know, life department's in there.

1:26:55

And gray was like, isn't really that big of a deal.

1:26:56

Can't we just go hunting. And they were like, you buy that goddamn license, the amount of underfunding we have, like this, how we get a lot of our funding to make sure these outdoor areas stay accessible.

1:27:06

I didn't know that. That's good to know.

1:27:08

That's really good to know. What I was gonna say was with the role-play like you were saying, I think a lot of people picture role-play as having two.

1:27:14

Sorry, I just saw one. Go ahead. Yeah, I know.

1:27:16

You're like, Oh my God.

1:27:17

People picture As

1:27:19

you being like I'm amazed.

1:27:21

Hello darling. Like, you know, Just

1:27:26

like doing that shit, like, like yeah.

1:27:28

I I'll do it sometime Wrong

1:27:31

idea. I think the much more approachable way to start is when you're making out, you're already having sex time and you're just like, imagine if like we were in this place, like imagine I said this the other day, I was like, imagine if this was our first date, like, how would you kiss me?

1:27:44

Like if we were watching a movie right now and you were trying to make a move, what a fun, so fun.

1:27:50

Even If like you're making out and you could do something as simple as like, you know, if someone's joking around and it was like, Hey, nice to meet you.

1:27:57

That's all. That's the only way that you have to start it.

1:27:59

If you're feeling a little uncomfy, but you want to try role play.

1:28:02

Next time you guys are making out, just kind of joke around or even walk up and kind of just be like, Hey, I'm Jess, nice to meet you.

1:28:08

And it's literally the only, like it's so simple and maybe that's literally where it ends, but there's still kind of this thing in your mind where you're like, Oh, we're kind of like introducing ourselves to each other and you can just let it die there and then see what you're comfortable With.

1:28:22

I can't do that. I personally, really what we do is we just like, We

1:28:27

don't actually talk as the person because the, to me, I just can't.

1:28:30

I just can't. I'm like I'm in theater. No, but I mean, I mean more like, I don't even mean more As

1:28:34

a person, but like I can't talk, I think scenario In

1:28:36

like a, in like a, in a, like a, you know, like in a joking way when you're in a scenario, I get it.

1:28:43

Yeah. And it's a little bit like, you know, someone like you're you're with your partner or whatever.

1:28:49

And you're like, are you going to buy me a drink?

1:28:53

Like kind of joking around in that way.

1:28:55

And then kind of just even, just let it be there.

1:28:58

I think that's wonderful. I was just gonna say, for some reason I can't do that, but, but we just do the whole like, well, what if you were to this?

1:29:05

What if I was this person? What would you do right now?

1:29:07

If I was this person? And that can be like a little bit like more approachable, I think for somebody.

1:29:13

Yeah. See, and I'm a little more, the other way where I'm like, if I'm under the, the, the pressure of trying to come up with a specific beat, be honest about the scenario.

1:29:23

I'm thinking I'm a little more embarrassed of like, is he going to Sparrow?

1:29:28

What are you on?

1:29:31

If I was the octopus, what was the one you glanced over?

1:29:38

Just tell me, just tell me One time. I fucked a priest and it was the kinkiest sex of my life.

1:29:43

Yeah. This is what the guys talked about.

1:29:44

This one.

1:29:46

No, listen to how crazy this is.

1:29:48

They talked about it on a previous episode.

1:29:50

Oh my God. And then someone put that confession down and I don't think they saw it.

1:29:55

They were talking about, are you sure?

1:29:57

I'm only no, they were just talking about a sexy priest.

1:29:59

I think, I think it was the, I think they were to shore almost.

1:30:02

No, I know it was.

1:30:04

I feel like it would, that was like the episode the week before they were telling do it an RV.

1:30:09

Anyway, it doesn't matter. I appreciate they read this one.

1:30:11

Even if they didn't regardless the sexy priests thing.

1:30:17

Hot. I mean, if anyone's seen Fleabag for watching season two, but I guess I should.

1:30:22

It's just so good.

1:30:25

Yeah. Ooh. I like Fleabag.

1:30:27

That's definitely pick one profession Or

1:30:30

like one thing that you're going to like, you're, you're going to want to have sex with this person in this profession.

1:30:38

Scenario, role, Whatever.

1:30:39

Are we talking about?

1:30:41

Like a specific fantasy, like, like priest or are we talking about to find the most like the profession I find to be like the most attractive you Tell

1:30:53

the thing on the scenario. So I want to be like, you know, like you said, a priest in a church or a grocery store manager in the, in the Safeway bathroom.

1:31:04

I

1:31:04

definitely

1:31:10

Kind of am drawn to the idea of like something being abroad, like where it's not near my home.

1:31:15

So it feels Rod

1:31:18

like chatty broad. I feel like it's a broad, I

1:31:22

was like, what? Oh my God. T yeah.

1:31:25

Or just like get somewhere that's like away from my home.

1:31:27

So I'd be thinking I had done that.

1:31:29

No

1:31:29

absolute

1:31:35

Tropical location and just pop it on the back of someone's motorcycle or something at their house.

1:31:40

It is one Of my biggest regrets that I, that I missed.

1:31:43

That that is something that I would love to do.

1:31:46

I was like, Oh God. And that's something I would love to do.

1:31:51

No. So I would say Maybe

1:31:54

like, this is so cheesy, but I don't know why this keeps coming into My

1:31:58

brain is like being on a cruise ship and someone like on the staff, like kind of like randomly walking around, you know, you're always like in your little key and you're flirting with like one of the cute staff members.

1:32:11

Yeah. Like throughout the week. And then like, it's like, you know, it's dark and then you like have sex on like the bow of the ship.

1:32:17

Yeah. I love that. That's fun.

1:32:18

Thank you. When I, when we went on a cruise ship, when I was a teenager, I was definitely like dreaming of having just some other guy, some other guy, my age to like meet on the cruise ship.

1:32:28

And we could just like sneak off and like just do fun things together.

1:32:34

I also in my, in my, coming from a religious background and all of that fun stuff, there is definitely a thing in the back of your head.

1:32:42

That's like, Oh, having sex with like a pastor at like a Christian youth camp.

1:32:48

Oh, I mean, like, as an adult now, like literally going and being like, Oh, Predator,

1:32:54

like,

1:32:54

like

1:32:54

me

1:32:56

Being like, Oh, I, you know, like you're a counselor, I'm also a counselor.

1:33:00

Or like I'm on the worship team or whatever.

1:33:03

And like the hot pastor, like having Sex

1:33:06

with the hot pastor into that.

1:33:08

Right. I'm definitely like, nobody Can

1:33:11

find out because you guys both get like fired or whatever, because like, you can't have sex before marriage.

1:33:19

Okay. We gotta end it there, but Oh, one more question.

1:33:21

One more question.

1:33:22

I saw a couple and it made me think of it.

1:33:25

I saw a couple of confessions about like DM slides and stuff.

1:33:30

Have you ever had a, a DM slide that is like a salacious story or whatever, or something where trying to think like something where like you slid into somebody's Thing

1:33:42

in seven minutes, that's where I've ever woken Ended.

1:33:45

If you just, just ask a real quick. No. If you've ever Slid

1:33:47

into like the DMS of someone, maybe, I don't know someone of celebrity and had like some back and forth.

1:33:57

I'm not a DM slider. Okay.

1:33:58

All right. I'm open to the DM sliding, but no, you're not.

1:34:03

No. Okay. All right.

1:34:04

I Would love to hear the confession. So maybe for a different time, I Have

1:34:09

a DM slide confession. Maybe we'll save for another time.

1:34:12

I can't wait. So excited.

1:34:14

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1:34:26

We love you all and make sure to tune in tomorrow to catch the bros recapping Katie's season.

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You have to use your intuition. I'm like I'm like, I don't wanna go up to this person and make them feel shame. And just so, you You seem like really you 30 like Why am really sad? You seem so seem so sad. So I legit just sat in my seat with my other girlfriend, and I tried to get eye contact with her for as long as possible until she finally made eye contact with 30. And then I saw there were tears in her eyes. So I went and talked to her spill the 30. She was having a fight with her boyfriend. Okay. Her fiance excuse me. Having a fight with her fiance and 30 were you? Because if all the springs, I guess, this like, 30 weekends. And she why does she 30 she buy herself with the restaurant? No. She was her girlfriends were also there with her, but they kind of ditched her because she wasn't being a good time. Oh, yeah. 30 her and her boyfriend were fighting. Now No. The yeah. Yeah. Now the I had a combined feelings about this because on one hand, I go how fucking dare these girls leave you in the dust. But on the other hand, I've been in situations before where you do have the friend who always has an eternal problem and you're like, I need boundaries and we're on this get away for the first time and however you and your toxic boyfriend are always fighting. Yet I'm not gonna sit around and deal with this for my bachelorette part. Exactly. Exactly. So I, Oh my 30. So I oh my gosh. I'm so I'm so 30. Boris is literally losing his mind. Okay. Sorry. I put Boris away. He was just trying to protect people from breaking in. CHATTY 30, aka, digital 30 man. No. But Yeah. It's it's it's but then the others, that boundaries thing. So I was like, I really didn't know, you know, where Yeah. didn't know. I couldn't quite gather what The vibe was because I did to one side of the story, I talked name it was because I 30 to one side of the STORYWORTH To her for a her for a minute. Yeah. And, yeah, I couldn't quite get hurt about her parents' divorce when she was seven. I heard about yeah. It was a little bit dissynergy. 30, luckily, the the b f call, Bekah the fiance called, like, ten minutes into the conversation. She was, like, I have to get this and, like, ran off and it was like the whole thing. It was like an open air restaurant, you know, where you can like go in and out Bekah it was like at the hotel or whatever. I'm sorry. Is this gonna be insensitive? But like, if I'm on a weekend trip with my girls and even if grand I have a serious fight, you know what you do? I'm sorry. You know what you do? You guys You get to know. Yeah. You've faking. You text him furiously in the bathroom in between drinks. No. You gotta set a boundary with your partner and Be like, we're going to deal with this when you get we're gonna deal with this when we get home. This is about Sarah this weekend. Sarah's my full name. Absolutely. Talk to you when we get home. Sorry. And you shut off your phone and You fucking throw back some martinis and have a good you fucking throw back some martinis and have a good time. Yeah. The I'm 30 I completely agree with you and that is the mature thing to do. And the fight will be there when you get home. Like, oh, really? It will it will be there. And I also think it's kind of it's kind of a power move to just be like, 30 can't talk about this right now. Like, this is a 30. And that's, you know, I and even if, you know, let's just say it's your boyfriend or your partner and you're like, he's the one who's in the wrong, and I'm mad at him. Like like a way to take care of yourself is to honestly 30, like, ignore that asshole, and all this asshole, and enjoy your friends. Yeah. And of course, I Get it, like have a moment at one side, got broken up with right before, like, you know, hanging out with Like, have a moment. Once I got broken up with right before, like, you know, hanging out with friends. So 30 like, cry and do that. But then you're like, put the phone away. I've also been on it been in situations where I did have to last minute 30 like, can't go on the trip. Yeah. You know, because you're like, oh, there's something came out going on. And I'm just and I am going to be a bummer. Like, I can't I do not wanna show up and be the one to drag everybody down and they're good to go. Storey STORYWORTH. But yeah. It's it's I couldn't quite tell, but I and now this is this is my own problem that I cannot I couldn't let it go. I was just, like, I couldn't let it go. I couldn't not talk to her. As soon as I see someone, there's, like, tears in their eyes sitting by the 30. But again, you know, I a part of it might be sweet. Part of it might also 30, like, my control, like, whatever. 266. Perhaps Yeah. Like, this person I was imagining she needs me. I was imagining It being something like, she got a devastating call from her family and she's on this like it being something like she got a devastating call for her 30. And she's on this, like, vacation -- Yeah. -- I mean Or To see a stranger, reach out to them and care about -- to 30 a stranger reach out to them and care about them. So But then I, but then as soon as I sat and kind of got the energy, I was like, eh, okay, But then as I but then as soon as I sat and kinda got the energy, I was like, Okay. I'm not quite sure about this. So I would have gone live on these games. You do quite a pickle. Oh, I've been a 266 a party where I go talk to the person standing alone, and then before you know it, you're like, I can't. Yeah. Out and you're sitting in the corner and, like, mhmm. Mhmm. I think you and and I both have both the gift and the curse to be able to make 30 into a conversation with anyone? Yes. It can be a beautiful thing. And it can be a nightmare. And when I say a nightmare, I mean bathroom or a party in getting cornered. Because sometimes the end of the day, you know, it's good to Bekah good friend, but sometimes you need to go out and have a good time here. BOP and around. That that that is self care to me. There is no greater form of self care to me than putting on a cute outfit and going out and having superficial conversations with seventeen different types of people or I just my energy is going up. That helps my -- Well, bottom line. -- it's doing what you wanna do. And if you're stuck in a conversation with someone you don't wanna talk that's not doing what you want. Yeah. CHATTY that's that's releasing emotional energy to someone else. And I truly believe that LA, because where we live is there's a lot of fake people here. There's lot of people who use each other climb a social ladder. So I think as soon as 30 some people identify someone that they that is outside of all, actually, is like, oh, how like, really looks at them and says, how are you and isn't just trying to jump to the most famous person in a room or whatever, sometimes people will have a tendency to trauma dump. I got into some toxic kind of like 30 ish relationships when I first moved to LA. It is a couple girls. It is and I was like, oh, my gosh. New friends at a new city and then I was like, oh, my gosh. I need to block you from my phone. It's tough because it's like, like I said, I'm sure that these these girls could sense CHATTY, like, oh, she's a genuine person who actually doesn't give a shit if I'm, like, famous or not or, like, how many, you know, whatever. And then you 266 also take advantage of CHATTY yeah. Yeah. And so it's, like, sometimes not even trauma dumping. Sometimes it's just, like, you know, like, oh my gosh. Why don't you come here and do this with me and do this with me 30 do this with me. Like, do that. And then I'm, like, wait. Whoa. No. This is not what I signed up for. Yeah. But what you answer I called? 30, like, besties now. And mom and and momma's struggles, when you put pressure on you. Yeah. That's where I 266 that's where I thought a good friend. That's 30 you're like, oh, no. It would not text you back 266, like, eight hours now. I if if someone is, like, wanting to 30 to respond to everything very quickly and wants to hang out with me twenty four seven, if it's, like, 30 that a person needs to do an errand, they, like, want me to come. I start to get little 30. Bekah I am a hermit other than that. my god. That was, like, this front end was to to, like, I have to go run some errands, like, to the bank to this and this you, like, why don't you come with 30? And, like, Oh. Like, oh my god. No. Look, what's in Tucson? I don't wanna do that for myself. I don't wanna do this with you, Moon. Like, you know, if, like, we a couple hours going on. I'm like, yeah. Sure. You'll grab a juice. Sure. Like, you wanna go? Yeah, you got to You gotta go grocery shopping. Sure. I'll come with you. We'll chat about what's going on. But I'm like, but, like, if I'm like, I just saw you all day yesterday and now you wanna, like, run errands with me. Whoo. woo. I don't do good with a don't do good with clanger. Don't do well. Lean either. That's when I started to do mean things myself. Right? I'm like, yeah. I just I might block I just yeah, I I just get very I shouldn't say 30. No. But I I -- Yeah. -- make myself unavailable. I truly do. Well, I mean, this kinda goes, 30, I do it do it too, where it's like, you know, 30 done text you back for, like, yeah. Eight or nine hours intentionally. 10 I I should say this. I become ghosty now as a mother and wife. Before I was married and had a kid, what I would do? Oh my god. This is the worst thing ever. It's okay. What I would do is I would because I was so concerned with people pleasing, is that I would just literally do anything the person wanted And so when the person was like, we need to run all these errands together and call me every five seconds, I would answer the call. I would go on all the errands and I would sent the shit out of the person. And to the point where you can't handle it 30 Tangential I would explode. Yeah. Yeah. I'd explode. And it and it would be like the poor person would have no idea Bekah I would not be communicating CHATTY I was miserable in this relationship and feeling like, you know, they just would they thought that I was good. And I would just be 30, resent the person. Like, can you believe this person? And it's like, the the course, you're not saying anything otherwise. So what I used do And you know what? what? I've gotten a lot better I've gotten a lot better now. I just don't even get into these kind of friendships with people anymore, but what I what I did is I would do like the gradual slip away where it'd be like, you know, you start only responding to every other thing, and then you will start only get you make excuses so you can only hang out once every three times they invite you. Yeah. Then once every four times. And then eventually, you know, then maybe they give up, but then I had someone call me and I had to tell her, like, I just think we're different people going in different directions. And then she would but then she I've talked about this on the podcast I know, but I'm still kind of compromised from it. She's like, no. But, like, we're so similar. And, like, and she was, like, trying to fight for a 30, for friendship. She's, like, I don't want you to fight. No. I would like I don't like you. I was like, let me pass. I was like, please, do you want me to say just I don't like you? So take the hand when I said 30 going in different directions and I don't think our our friendship has value to either of us. I feel like we've talked about this before, but I I do I do think that sometimes the kind, very slow ghost, and I shouldn't say ghost, this gradual pullback. The gradual pullback is not a bad way sometimes to handle Because sometimes that it's me 30 I'm like, I get it. And I got it. And I was like, you know what? It's okay. Yeah. But you know what? What I what, honestly, I wouldn't have wanted? It would have hurt if, like, it would have been more painful if the person would have looked 266 me and been like, I just don't like you anymore. Like with the gradual pullback, I took the hit and then I just stopped. Yeah. But since some people don't take the hit and then you're also projecting what you like on the other people And like making assumptions about what might be best for them, which is not quite right like, making assumptions about what might be best for them, which is not quite right. 30, but we're not gonna talk about that today. We're going to get into some juicy confessions because the boys tried to do it like last week of the week before, but they got into, like, three. They I think they talked about three of them legitimately. Well, they did you know, they got into Larping. They got into April. They had great conversation. 30 gonna actually But we have to act should talk about the confessions Bekah you BROADS you put these confessions out there and they're they're fantastic. So we gotta actually, like, you know, converse about about the confessions before we converse about the confessions. A word from our sponsors. A word from our sponsors, Broads. 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I see when I'm I see when I'm ovulating. After yesterday, after we were just doing the talking about all the men on the bachelorette, I was like, oh, I'm feeling some type of way for the rest of the day. And I'm like, talking about these fucking freaks on the bachelorette. I was like, Should I slide into some 30? You always know you always know that you're like that it's like that time of time of the month when you're like driving down the street and you're like trying to like like, glance and make eyes at the person, like, in the car next to And you're like, what the fuck am I doing? And then the rest of the time in the month, I'm just, like, back up. Nothing. I can always go on. 30, the look over. I did it. Yes, yesterday. Oh my Are we singed out? We are fully singed out. I did it yesterday. I was driving, and I just felt that face. And I was just like, and I kinda did a little, like, push my hair back to make sure I caught, like, you know, and I turned in just pure hopes that it was just someone gorgeous. And it was just this, like, weird old man looking at me like this. And I'm like, but I'm also like, hello? That's true. Straight 30 up. I did the same thing, a guy, a guy who was walking did the same thing as a guy a guy who was walking down the street with, like, his earphones in. And 30 I was just like, wow. Look at what he's just strutting confidently down the sidewalk, and I was just at the stoplight. 30 just like, 30 didn't notice me. Dear 30 I know. I like, I am in such an obulating place right now that last night watched the most recent episode of Handmaid's Tale. And the guy who plays a Nick on Handmaid's Tale can absolutely get it. He Well, you know where we're at Bekah we were just going on and on about Christian's message. Oh, man. But Nick from Nick Nick from Handmaids tale? I don't even know. I can tell you this. I know for a fact that I'm gonna think he's ugly. Oh, I don't know if you will find him to be attractive just via photos. But I can tell you if you watch the show, I know you and you and I would be on the same day page. Okay. And I He looks weird and he's Yeah. No. I don't he's not one of those who'll go to energy. It's a energy. I remember when I first saw him, first episode of the show I was calling him, and then the more, like, that you get to know him. In the episode from last night's animated tale, there was a moment that was so romantic and so, like, emotional and and to me hot because I'm opulating that I then that I then saw on Dumois CHATTY he lives. The actual actor lives in Silver Lake near where I live, and I considered like, going to Silver Lake and, like, driving by the coffee place that he was spotted at and just 30, like, should I just wait? And I told Evan I'm, like, I feel like maybe It's my long lost loves. Yeah. And I should just be, like, sitting outside this coffee shop and wait him. And Evan's just, like, don't you think half of America? Bekah. I was, like, and but things are different with us. Okay. And you understand. Uh-huh. always know I'm ovulating when I'm like CHATTY I'm like, maybe it's time to consider an open relationship. And then the rest of the month, I'm like, Oh, as if I have the time and energy and even desire to just try to coordinate having sex with someone else, dear girl. It's always it's I I 30 I feel you wholeheartedly. Yeah. I in my ovulating time went away with some of our old high school friends this past weekend 266 Palm Springs and you know your girl over here was -- Like, for some? -- lecturing. No. Definitely. not. God bless love you God God bless. Let you guys. But you know your girl was a lecturing all of them Bekah all of them have been married like us since we were. And I was literally coring all of them and being like, do you think that you have healthy relationship right now? Like, can I talk to you about non monogamy? And I was just I was, like, preaching the whole thing. And Bekah and, you know, I was I was also, like, I'm watching some of my old friend's relationships kind of fall apart in certain ways. And I think that there's a lot of people again who have the desire for non monogamy, but haven't felt free to talk openly about it because they're coming from purity culture in the church culture and all that. So I was I made it my destiny this weekend to have comfortable conversations with the people that I knew had kind of been thinking about it and internalizing it. I love that. But it was 30 my level of passion was coming from like -- Yeah. -- and your defensiveness. You're just like, damn, no. It was it was getting there were at one point. There was a Jacuzzi moment that was, like, I need 266 come down. It was yeah. I literally like, I would've should've had a podium in front of you and I would've been unstoppable. Oh, it would've been if you would've been there CHATTY would've been bad. They probably wouldn't have wanted to go on another 30, get away with you guys. No, probably. We would have been too much. It would have been like, what have you involved yourself? Well, it's just like, you can make your relationship whatever you want, and it's not amazing. CHATTY what I was saying. And I was literally like, I'm like, You know, it's like if you're so happy in a monogamous relationship, that's amazing. But, like, there are things about monogamy 30 talking with the jealousy. Even if you're just exploring that, that was just I was preaching and I was, I was on was 30. I was I was on one, so I apologize if you're with 30. It was too much, but I feel like they enjoyed it. Yeah. I mean, it's good to hear different perspectives. I'm gonna tell my son It's good to be right. It's good to it's good to be right. Isn't it? I mean, come mean Come up. Okay. I have a really good one to start. Yeah. Let's dive. Just because it's this is just hilarious and such a nightmare to me. Yeah. Okay. My first night living in a new city, I took home a guy twice my age who had been buying me drinks all night. Mhmm. He was having trouble getting hard, so he started begging me to pee on him and he said that would help. K? I kicked the dude out of my apartment only to find out he lived next door. Oh, my god. I got this just a 30 store, and I was like, okay, I get a lot of those. No. 30 get out of any living next door. Oh my god. Dude, that's worst case scenario. Because when 30, like, if it's, like, no. Get the fuck out of here. Like, I'm don't wanna pee on you. Oh my god. Imagine the anxiety everyday having to get your mail, having to, you know, almost to pick up the newspaper. That's something we'll do. I'm gonna walk out to your car. Also also then maybe the anxiety on his end 30, like, I don't want my 30 kink shared and shamed and, like, worrying that she might pass it along. She's just putting posting flyers throughout the neighborhood. Apartment fourteen o one wants people to pee on him. Now what a tragic situation that the hookup didn't go well Bekah I know. I know if you had a fun little fuck buddy who lives in the apartment with you where there's, like, no emotions. I'd love that. That's it's it's it's dream. Never. Happened. Do you know one of our friends had that situation? And she would tell me the best stories ever. Like, we would be It was truly just friends and lived right by I mean, how amazing on on either of their parts, no emotional strings attached, one hundred percent just sex. Both of them ended up getting into a relationship while they were living alone. Oh my god. Great for good for you amazing. But, like, he happened to have, like, the penthouse apartment at the top. So she would just, like, you know, when she was feeling it, like, we would go out for drinks. And she'd be like, how perfect? Yeah. And then she'd be like, I think I'm gonna text such and such. And because he lived in the apartment, she could text him like, two in the morning. And be like, I'm coming back. Like, are you awake? And if he was awake and not with anybody else, he'd be like, yeah. I'm I'm down and come on up. And they wish 30 would literally go up. When they spend an hour to their apartments where they just go No. They would just go back down to their own apartments. It was it wasn't romantic at all, and it wasn't like and they weren't 30, like, friends. She said, I think, the longest that she ever stayed in his apartment, like, after sex was, like, maybe an hour afterwards or like had a drink and kinda, like, laughed about some stuff. And then she just went back then she just went back down. It was purely 30. Like I'm, I feel like I'm so bad at that because I have such an active I feel like I'm so bad at that Bekah I have such a active imagination. I feel like whenever I look up with them, I kinda just 30 that's what it is. I start imagining, like, how amazing it would be if we were in this, like, relationship and lived in the same apartment and, like, it'd be, like, the best Yeah. Yeah. I was 30. I think that's my problems. And then sometimes I try to make something happen that I know deep down, like, isn't gonna work, but my imagination And my fantasizing about like, my fantasizing about, like, Oh, these wonderful scent, like movie, like scenarios start bubbling these wonderful, like, movie like scenarios start bubbling up. I I 30 such a sucker for, like, a movie like scenario date. You're you know, who are always surprisingly more romantic than I think you're going to be very much so, because you're very like, like you know, you are always surprisingly more romantic than I think you're gonna be very much so. Because you're very like like blunt. Uh-huh. So sometimes in my head, I'm like, oh, I feel like Becca would be the type, but they'd kinda be like, you know, we could have sex and we're good. But you you are very good. Show, like, tangential. Yeah. For me, it's all about the scenarios and situations. I like I like stories. Your life is a movie, baby. Yeah. Well, I would a 30. I'm a star. I'm a star. So I think I've told you right about, like, the best first date I ever went on. I think so, but refresh my mind. Okay. just tell it again, because it's my favorite. Because, again, it's a story. It's a story. I feel like I remember little piece of it, but I wanna hear that whole thing. Okay. Okay. Taking on the journey. Okay. I just love telling about it. So me and this guy 30, I went with one of those talks people I first met in Hollywood when I first met 266 LA. Went to LA. But of course, we went to this party on the tallest building, the opening of the tallest building in Los Angeles in downtown. The Chase building. Mhmm. And we went to the very top, they had, like, a little slide. I don't know if you ever seen it. They had, like, a slide on the twenty fourth floor. Yeah. So this was, like, the opening of and I went and, like, oh, god. All these horrible people were just laddered climbing. And the exact people you're talking about, 30 people. Just networking without power. Just horrible and boring. It's like a there's there's in LA, there's like fake parties. Where, like, I don't know how to describe it. Like, Kenner was CHATTY 30, but it was a fake part. There's no other way to describe it but a fake 30. No one's actually have my way to one of the fake parties and I was so confused. Like, wait. No one's actually having fun. Everyone's just 10, on their social media, like, they're having fun. Oh, it's full obligation. They have, like, a beautiful open bar, a beautiful, like, flower making station. It should be 30 like a little red carpet thing. And and you literally walk in no one's barely talking to anybody. You take weird Instagram 30, and then you leave, and you go somewhere else. And it's Yeah. -- bizarre. Yeah. And there's an open bar and 30. And yeah. Like you said, like, I think Travis Scott performed, Like, it was like a whole thing, but it was not fun drinking from the open bar. Have you noticed this? It's odd. And I'm always like, oh, there's always a couple people that and then they're, then, well, that's me Bekah I'm such a cheap ass CHATTY 30 like, oh, if it's an open bar CHATTY feel like I feel like, I feel like, oh, like, broke. I was at that point. Yeah. One of my sudden, an open smoothie bar, the morning 30, Those were always fun. I never went to one of those. Too lazy for those. But, I mean, they were boring as shit. 30 smoothies. And I would just, like, feel like a fake yoga session that lasts like, fifteen minutes. For real, it would be a five minute yoga session. It'd 30, like, come join us on our blog for yoga session. Yeah. Yeah. And you'd 30, like, that yoga session was literally me being in, what is Chevaso -- Yeah. Yeah. -- for for fifteen minutes. I was literally just like they're bust. This doesn't feel like this is how it's supposed To Bekah. So it was that big 30. But then the guy that I went with, he was he was like a promoter. So he Broads, like, twelve girls with him, you know. CHATTY one of those things. Uh-huh. So then I meet this guy. And he's like, actually funny and actually interesting. And we both conveniently, like, didn't mention that we had, you know, significant others, but we didn't kiss or anything like that. But then he and his friends, just the two of them, like, took me out 266 some other bars at the end. They're like, let's get out of here. This is boring. Like, so we went to some other bars. 30 split in Uber, but we both went back to our own apartments with our own -- Okay. -- didn't exchange numbers or anything. And a year later, I like Nearly a year later I had followed 30 year Katies, I had followed him on my Instagram, but he hadn't followed me. Okay. Whatever. A year later, I liked one of his photos and he instantly messages me 30 I'm like, oh my god. Like, I've been thinking of you you. And I couldn't remember what your name I couldn't remember what your name was. And so we start messaging on Instagram and like kind of flirting, 30, back and forth. He's like one day I'm driving like He's like one day I'm driving, like, home from my nanny job or something. 30, like, why don't you just, like, come over? I'm, like and my heart, of is, like, oh my god. I don't know if I can do this. My heart is Heart's racing. But I'm like, okay, fine. And I 30 I'm so anxious. I was never one to do this. Like, it's just too much for me too much pressure there. That's nerve wracking to go just straight to someone's house -- Yeah. -- like CHATTY you've never had. On the implication was we were, like, immediately gonna have sex or sex. Yeah. Especially Bekah you guys have been sexting and stuff. No. It's like, I don't know. Oh, I'm like, I need a week to prepare for this. I 30 a week to Oh, here's you and I've been sexting in the first time we're gonna meet up, we're gonna have sex. I need to be CHATTY very important to me. I need to be feeling fully perfect. Oh my gosh. If that's just what we're 266 So much pressure that I probably won't feel very like comfortable and open I'm sure I'd be like, there's too much. Sure, Sure. Sure. You know, I'm just like, fuck it. I'm gonna do it. And so I show up at this house. We start talking. And then he's like, you know what? Like, why don't we get lunch? So don't automatically have sex. We're like, oh, fuck. Fuck. Bekah. CHATTY. that. So So He takes me in his like old vintage muscle car and we go driving to get takes me in his, like, old vintage must a car. Okay. And we go driving to get lunch, and then he's like, hey, I just BROADS this piece of property on top of this hill. Like, let's drive up to it. So we drive up to the PC bridge. Nah. It was like a really cheap plot of land that he had like dreams of one day building the house 10. Okay. It was like a fifty thousand dollar plot of land. I mean, he he got a loan and he, like, begged the guy. If he could like make him he I like to think that it wasn't actually his piece of property, but go ahead. Maybe even better. So he takes me to visit the house. The property we're looking out over the CHATTY. We're eating lunch. Then we see this old abandoned house, then he's like and he I was like he's like I always, like, wonder what's up with that house. I'm like, let's go check it out. So we drive through this windy thing in his old car up to the house. We break into it. I suck his dick in one of the rooms. It's amazing. Well, not 30. But it was fun. We're like, yeah. We we started making out the house. Yeah. Then we that RREE a little sexual thing. And they come out of the house and it's surrounded by cops. And then 30 almost get arrested. And then he's like, oh, I'm like, and and then he's just like, I'm sorry. We're just having fun like exploring house. They let us go. We find we see on one of the other little hills. It's like in East LA, you know, where there's all those, like, little rolling hills of houses. 30 see a house with a trampoline. The trampoline's got kind of far away from the house, so we go and jump on the trampoline. And then we lay on it like looking up at the sunset, and we both fall a sleep on the trampoline, just cuddling on the trampoline. And then for, like, thirty minutes. And then we wake up and I'm like, oh my god. I can't really just nap on trampoline. And then we went back to his house and 30 had sex again. He was like, oh, please, hang out with me tonight. I'm going over to my friend's house I was just like, no, I can't have plans and I left. And that was that was our first date though. I mean, now I remember the the dick's ass in the Inlandin House. This is a perfect FIRSTLEAFget. There's there's no first state that gets better than that. No. The the the playfulness in the adventure of Like childhood. The only way that it could get better The only way that it could get better is literally if it was just completely different. Like, if it was like a, oh, my fantasy is to have some fucking baller ass dude pick me up on a private jet, and then that's a different but that doesn't feel as romantic. Right? It was like a movie like like a The rich shit is more like, oh, this is a crazy story to tell my friends. That is pure romance. That is an indie realm called like RREE romance, actually. Yes. 266 seen that 30? Yeah. That kind of like that kinda let that music playing in the background and the wind's blowing the back inside of the car. That is like, or meeting that is the energy of not you're meeting your forever love, but you are meeting the most passionate love of your life, the sex wasn't that is, like, your meeting CHATTY is the energy of not your meeting, your forever loved, but you are meeting the most passionate love of your life. Right. Text wasn't that good. But but, like, that's that energy. Right? Where it's kinda, like, that's that's the person in the movie. It won't be the person you end up with, but it's the person that you never stopped thinking about. And he's one of the beautiful babes me. He was he was the beautiful babe one 266, you know. Wow. That's a that is a a pretty intense date for a beautiful babe. Yeah. Well, later on, how did Like, how much many other times did you guys go out? Well, so then I went on the bachelor. And And he, I feel like I've talked about him a 30 would I feel like I've talked about him a lot. Who cares? Eric, if you think of me, I think of you 266. I asked him because I'm a romantic first state. I just love it. Because I pined 30 you. He's such a fun story. He's also really fun person, but yeah. But 30 love those people. But he was on hookup right before going on the bachelor. Okay. Okay. And then I got back and then is he the one that you called right after? The branch one? No. No. I called all my ex boyfriends and and hooked up with them after the back one. No. Actually, I mean, he was he just I don't know. It wasn't I felt like the chemistry was I don't know. But regardless, super fun person. And he was the one that I, yeah, that I would definitely like hit And he was the one that I would yeah. That I would definitely, like, hit up. So we, like, hung out, like, a handful of times, but I feel like I accidentally put, like, the power move in his court Bekah one night when he was, like, drunk at, like, two AM, he invited me over and I drove from mid city to Lincoln Heights, which was, like, forty five minutes at like two in the morning. And then I was like, god, I made myself look so desperate then that I feel like he was like less into me Bekah he could kind of like dick me around, you know? Mhmm. So then after the bachelor actually, Oh, we spent all, I forgot about after the bachelor, actually, oh, we spent all I forgot about this. We spent all New Year's Day together. And then he watched my my episode of the Bachelor that night. And then, like, text me this, like, drunk texted one in the morning 30 he was, like, Oh, I wanna I'm glad I'm gonna read it. Can you read it? Can you read it? Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Please. Oh my god. I love when we start reading all texts of DM. Thank you for hearing me. This is so funny. I'm getting my eye out. I live For this for this shit. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. We have my heart's racing. Again, ovulation pounding through my Right? It's so fun. Yeah. It's so fun. Okay. 30 you see he was just texting 30, Me texts like sup tonight, like Ugh, text, like sub 266. Like, ugh. Gross. Oh my God. You have sold the You have sold text? Oh, I don't I don't delete any I don't 266 any text. I have text from, like, two thousand sixteen on phone. Oh my god. For these reasons. It's very important. It is very important. be able to reference Yeah. It it is important. It is important. And he was just kinda, like, I would invite like, I invited him to my birthday party, and then he would just kind of, like and he just didn't he'd made some excuse for why he couldn't It's just like Mhmm. Where you were never quite sure this look were never quite sure. Look at this. Look at this. I feel like I read this little chatty broadly before. Sorry if I've already done this before. I really I really don't think you have. I don't remember you 30 a text. Okay. 30 I'm just forgetting about it because I'm excited. He is, you really stand out on the is. You really stand out on the show. You're gonna be a star. And I was like, oh, thanks. I'm I'm happy so it should be. Congrats. Oh, and I sent him a cheesy text. I sent, I want you to know I was bound about getting sent home until I saw your text from while my phone was off. Oh, wait. What 30 he text me when my phone's off? I don't even remember. It's so funny. It's like it's only so long. 30 day I don't he said 30 day I don't hear from you, I know you're that much closer to finding love, L0L. He said 30 day I didn't hear from you. I was proud. You did good. Like, I'm at the show. He 30 like, good job, hot stuff. Okay. So Oh my gosh. The occasional, like, a term of endearment. Oh, that's okay. helps me. Okay. So right? Yeah. And I think that's something he wouldn't do it. He's mostly an asshole, but they sent stuff like that to me. I was just like, the in the occasional, like, gorgeous or, like, beautiful babe beautiful babe. Oh, also Weird ones will bother ones will bother 30. Like, one guy will say, like, 30, and I'm, like, I will I will destroy you. Got it. And then another one, like, the right person, will 30, like, like, we'll answer the phone 266 the k 30 heart, and I'm, like, Like, the person who had ignoring you, the u verse, and I'm like, oh my god. We're in love to having kind of this baby ignored than having someone yeah. Exactly. So so bad. So I was like, until I saw your text from all my phone was off. And I was like, wow, thank god, I'm not engaged Bekah I get to make wonderful memories with people like you so cheesy. 30, listen, somebody sent back at two thirteen AM. AM. I'm stoked to read this, read I'm stoked to read this. Read this. You're an amazing person. You're beautiful and smart and creative, charismatic, funny, fun athletic, a demon in the sack. I could go on forever. I'm glad I met you. You're special. I'm happy you found a platform that lets the world see CHATTY. destined for so much more than this and I'm excited to watch it unfold and even more excited to be some part of that journey. Today was great just like every other day I've spent with you. This is gonna be a big year for you. You have an incredible amount of opportunity ahead of you. I'll be here for support and encouragement. I'll never bring you drama or get in your way. Congrats 30. You nailed it. Is that not the best text ever? I'm I'm like, I don't think I've ever received a text so long from a man ever. CHATTY was one of the best text actually I think I've ever CHATTY an incredible text message. Yeah. Yeah. I don't think I've received that nice of a text from my own parents like that don't think I've received that nice of a text from my own parents. Like, that is Yeah. And did you just melt on melted? How many times did you read it For an over over again? Million. Oh my god. Yeah. I love the feeling of when you receive a text that like gives you that feeling in your I love the feeling of when you receive a text like, gives you that feeling in your stomach. I love the feeling of when you wake up the next morning to read it again. You know what mean? You just read it over and over and over again. Like, you wake a randomly like sitting and then you open the text again and you're like, it's literally a nicest text I've ever seen. No. CHATTY an incredible text. I should frame it. Put it over your bed. I still keep all the notes. I am, like, I had all these notes that when my ex boyfriend wrote to me. Yeah. And I definitely keep them. I have them on my drawers. Sometimes, I didn't even pick me up. I do have the most beautiful eyes. I am the most fun person hang out with. I have, I definitely have, I have screenshots they're on my old phone, but I have screenshots of like have I definitely have screenshots. They're on my old phone, but I have screenshots of, like, specific this is by the way before screenshots where I would literally have 266, like, take, like, my friend's phone and, like, take a picture and then, like, send it to myself. Like, take a picture of my text message of, like, old text like, from random guys or x's or whatever, then, like, made me feel all sorts of all sorts of ways. They're nice to reread. They're They're wonderful. My day's better now. Okay. So let's get into actual enough of my old dead love life. much. So let's do a break and then why don't you pick out a So let's do a Broads, and then why don't you pick out a competitor? Okay. Sounds 30. Sounds great to me. Sounds great to me. A word from my sponsors first. 266 word from my sponsors. Okay. 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Taking a dip in the CDIPSEA, stories dot com slash chatty. Mhmm. So, okay, I have to ask you one thing before you start reading one of the things. Yes. I always see a lot of confessions about like 30. Have we talked about that? What's your thing with like P What's your thing with like 30? Interesting. Okay. I I actually have never been in a sexual situation where pee was involved. Me neither. I have never been asked to pee on someone And 30, I'm personally offended. I feel like, do I not give off that vibe? Like, I'd like to be asked you. Now, it's not my thing. But I do like to know that 30 would think I'd be up for anything. Yes. Yeah. But, no, I've never been in that situation. Like I said, it's not a turn on for me, but If someone asked me to, I it would not be like a hard no. It would kind of just be the circumstance. Yes. Bekah, like, look, I get turned on by what turns someone else on. So maybe if someone was, like, gonna get rock hard for me, like, doing some some piss play? I don't like saying that. That's the reason it scares me out. That's what people say that, I think. Really piss play? Yeah. I never heard of that. Feel like that's the thing. Okay. Is that what it is? I believe I, a hundred percent believe hundred percent believe you. I trust 30. To acknowledge saying it, but that's okay. Maybe not. I don't know. I'm not into it. don't know. I'm not with somebody who's into it. But, like, yeah, if someone I was in was just like, that was their thing, I could get super into it. Mhmm. I feel like that was lot. I I think the only thing for me that would really put a stop on it if my partner really wanted it, would be the situation again that it's in. Like, I'm not looking to pee on a bed or on the ground. Like, Like, I'd have to be in like a shower situation. You know what could see being hot? I could do it in like a outdoor scenario. Yeah. Yeah. Like, maybe I could see this being sexy if you're like, well, you know, I'm a little, maybe a little more of a could see this being sexy. If you're like, well, you know, well, maybe a little more of a nitrile Galynio. Well, just a 30 But I could see it being hot if it's something where you're, like, 30 in the forest and then some the guys, like, sees you and then it's, like, in your, like, all, like, got naked from, like, the waist down, and then that's kind of 266 to a sexual scene. Yeah. He's on the side of so many houses in my life. I'm, like, if you wanted 266 go away. If you wanna just join because the bathroom is too full at this house party, then you can just come on and yeah. I I think for me it would definitely like I'd need to have a quick washing available for me. So the idea of being in the shower What if you were really really hydrated? It might be Might be better. That's RREE. But it's yeah. It's not even that it's the digital diluted versus It's not even that it's the the the the diluted versus whatever. It's just more like you know, I don't love staying wet. And so I don't want the 30 dry on me. Oh, no. NF0, no. It's the same way that I feel like, after I'm with someone who finishes and if they finish, you know, not in a condom or inside me if they finish, like, on my stomach or whatever, it needs to be off immediately. I'm like, Oh, you know what I oh, you know what I mean? Like, I don't like God. Yeah. Oh, but I'm just saying some people are, like, down to just, you know, have it get all dried. Hardest thing in the world get off, though. Like, if you've Oh, my god. I 30 a bowl. Super Lou. Oh my god. I'm just I'm getting Oh my god. This is a this is a confession. Have you ever been in a situation where you missed a spot and went out in public? Oh, hundred percent or, like, on a piece of clothing accidentally, 30 a kowinski style, you know, and -- Yeah. -- just like there. But I've I've done it so many times. Or somehow, I, like, missed it and it's, like, I'm top of my hand or it's like across my chest or all over your mouth. It's dripping Out of my of my hair. No straight up like I've been Yeah. Like, where I've literally didn't come in your eye? Yeah. That's the worst thing in the world. I I 30, I I shouldn't say that it's gotten, like, the corner and I was able to kinda get it out pretty quick. I haven't gotten it, like, proper, like, in it. it. I don't know if someone's, like, come in my eye. But, like, invertently got in my eye, and that is you might as well just pour bleach in your eyes. Yeah. It hurts so bad. Oh my god. I don't know why. Now I just I'm curious. But I dare you? Okay. 30 you Bekah. my contacts. Never got like the face thing, not that I'm against it, but I'm just like, that's not hot to me. And also, like, if you're super super into that, I might 30 like, are you really into degrading women? Yeah. I don't mind it, but I'm also not like The hair. I 30, that's No. That's a no for me. That's a no. With my alopecia, if you know this. For me for me, once I have to cut that shit out, it's like once I wash the hair, like, I'm putting dry shampoo in because I'm not trying to wash it constantly because of the yellowish Bekah then more falls out when I wash it. So I'm not looking for you 266, like, do that in my hair. Okay. So I have to say that going through a lot of these confessions -- Yeah. -- there is a there is one that is a common theme. It's kinda like a both hand. A lot of Broads about how they how they, you know, quote unquote, just like constantly follow their ex on social media even though they're married and CHATTY or whatever. And then the other one is talking about having sex 30 even though they're in a happy relationship. And I just wanted to say something to free all of you. If you feel any sort of any sort of guilt about this where it feels like it has to be a confession that you make anonymously. Pretty much most people have sex dreams about random people talk about your partner's accent. You cannot. Like, you can't control your sex change. Like, you cannot control them. Like, do not feel any sort of, you know, guilt or 30, like, I know 30, I don't I can maybe think of one time I've had a sex dream about Evan. Mhmm. CHATTY it. 30 everyone else is either 30. random. My old My old youth pounds. No, sir. Right up. Like, it's literally, like, an old neighbor, sir. Cousin. Yeah. Uh-huh. Uh-huh. One of, like, my my parents' friends -- Yes. Yeah. A lot of faceless individuals, a lot of, kind of just bodies, Nick lot of faceless individuals, a lot of kind of just 30. I used to have a lot more crawl. What a great dream that was. You know, just random and then also, you still like following up with your ex 30 though you're in a happy relationship. I've talked about this before. I used to have sex 30, like, for I'm not talking I'm talking for years about my ex Oh, about your ex 30 or sex Broads? But 30 even just talking about, like, like, like, following on, like, like, checking up on social 30. Like, I think I think most of us know internally if it's 30. Like, if it's in obsession, like, we're not talking about that. But, like, if you are, like, on a regular basis, 30, like, what is this motherfucker up 266? Completely normal. I still do it all the time. I do it with the people I cared about and I do it with 30 who I literally went on like two dates with -- Yeah. -- who I just, for some reason, like, it's get fun, shit, and giggles out of just following on social media. Yeah. You know? Yeah. I think that's normal. Right? feel like it is. Yeah. I wouldn't read too much into it and I think sometimes like obsessing over it can cause even more issues than just being like, a dream is a dream and a dream is always doesn't mean you're secretly unhappy with the person you're with or that you or that you belong with the with the x that you're having dreams about? No. You know? No. Don't 30 don't read much into it. So 30, know how disturbing it can be. Of course. Like, literally, I'm talking for years. I would have dreams about my ex and and and his girlfriend and sex and, like and you're, like, why is I think his Broads 266 be elaborate where it'd be, like, you know, like, I'm heartbroken my dream over him and the board. He chooses me over his girlfriend and, like, Hmm. It can be very 30 be very confusing. Yeah. I'm about to piss my pants. I'm gonna go right 30 jail. Okay. So let me read a couple of these. These two I'm gonna read kind of together because similar 30. Yeah. So One says, got very drunk in Hawaii on vacation with two best girlfriends and our husband by my confessions. Okay. Okay. So got very drunk in Hawaii on vacation with two best friends and our BROADS. Just the girls snack into the community hot tub, and turned it into a foam party with bubble bath and all made out. Never told her. Oh, yeah. It's on this one. I mean, I always tell my husband's though, I'd be like, guess what we I mean, I wouldn't be able to resist. Just to guess what little trouble we got it. I know. I would definitely I mean, maybe there was, you know, maybe one of the friends did not feel comfortable because maybe one of the husbands she thinks would not handle it so well, or I mean, maybe there was, you know, maybe one of the friends did not feel comfortable because maybe one of the husband's she thinks would not handle it. So Yes. Or they wanna 30 there little secret. Or my yeah. That's also kinda hot. But, like, or my friends, maybe one of these BROADS is one of those guys eyes where she knows that if he finds out he's gonna be, like, so, like, can we make this a whole group thing? And, like, is he gonna try to then, like, you know, insert himself in the make out set -- Yeah. -- where we're like, we don't want you 30. Good cert. Yeah. This was just for This was just for us. Although, look, Grayson, my progressive king, is like, what's the difference from you hooking up with a girl or a guy? Like, I want I want my he's like, I want you to ask if it's okay with me before you make out with anyone, girl or man. That's a that's a sexual 30, like being crossed in our relationship. Oh, for sure. Evan is the exact same. Well, and I feel like, you know, a lot Well, and I feel like, you know, a lot of people are like, it doesn't count because it's a girl, but it's like, dude, if we think that that, you know, lesbian relationships by true relationships are legitimate, then why do we have, you know Bekah, unless that's communicated with with their partner and maybe and maybe that's why they haven't shared. Because they know that maybe the husband was cheating because he's got cheating. So that's an interesting one. I'd like to hear people's opinions because I know a lot of 30. It's just like a given that it's like okay for them to make out with girls. But I would 30 CHATTY many people have had that conversation or haven't or what they would assume their partner would think and if they would, you know Yeah. I definitely I know in my 30, it's definitely something that he would consider cheating. Because it is interesting how much we 30, like, lesbian relationships where, like, if you were I kept going, Evan, we're casually like, yeah, we made out and we were cooking the bar. You and I would be like, what? But it's you know, it goes through your brain. 30 should be like, oh, my god. Whereas me and you, if we made up people, like, oh, my god. 30? That's very true. Something to think about. Mhmm. Some fairy trick about also the next one is I had a threesome with my BFF and her 30 to think about. Also, the next one is I had a 30 with my BFF and her BFF. It ruined our friendship and their relationship. And what that says what that says to 30, and I could be wrong on this one, but my my guess is. CHATTY maybe your best friend ended up finding out that her boyfriend had the hots for you and it went beyond a consensual threesome encounter and that he potentially after the threesome happened was wanting to bring it up a lot and wanting 266. Like, that's my guess. I think also, like, I think I told you this about the one time where I had my little group sex situation with my ex. Yeah. I think there's sometimes something that people can't articulate after seeing their partner have sex with someone else or whatever that Sure. That is difficult to articulate. Like, I think that it ultimately led to us breaking up within a week for whatever reason and wasn't I had no issue with it, but there was something, like, I remember the next day, like, he, like, cried about something randomly. And I was like, Whoa, like it was, it was just brought up a lot of 30, and I was like, Whoa. Like, it it was 30 was just brought up a lot of emotions. Yeah. think sometimes it can be just, like, very people don't realize what gonna come up until it happens. Yeah. No. That's very true. I just I don't know. Maybe I maybe I'm personalizing this, but I just feel like 30 might not have ever been able to get the image of, like, her partner having sex with her friend out. Yeah. Whatever. And if he was even if he is, was maybe frequently bringing it up to let's just say, I'm just kept, I had a, if he was Even if he was maybe frequently bringing it up 266, let's just say, I'm just k. I had a situation once, Bill. Like, okay. I had a situation once where I was living with a friend of mine. Yeah. And she started dating themselvesand it was like, I was always hanging out with them. Like, I was always third wheeling it. I was always around. Yeah. And I think she considered me like like safe. Right. So she tended to be a kind of jealous person, but I was a little bit of like a safe place because I have known her for forever, and she was one of my best friends. And she knows I would never do anything weird. I don't know how she felt about her boyfriend, but whatever. One day I went away for the weekend to go stay with my parents and visit them. And I came home and something was different. 30 was being really weird with me. Oh, I see. 30. was being kinda cold with 30. And I ended up finding, like, a day or two later, this book that was like a game book that they had, were you filled in answers And one of the questions was who which one of my friends are you most sexually attracted to and he had written in my name? So it, like, it fucked up 30. And we didn't even have a damn threesome, which by the way I would have Absolutely. 30. never. She was, he She wasn't 30 so was so not my type, but it was just the idea of her feeling like there was a safety between the three of us, And now all of a sudden, she lives with me. She I'm her roommate, and he literally practically lives with us Bekah he's here twenty four hours a day. We'll guess what? They were not over at the house very often. I pretty much had a apartment to my house to myself for a year, which I did not hate. But it made everything so beyond weird. And I never told them that I saw that book. Bekah I'm like, this is gonna be even weird or if I bring this up to her and say, hey, just so you know, I know that your boyfriend's the most sexually attractive me out of all your friends, which for the love of God, I'll never know why again, jealous person. Why would you why would you put yourself in that position and ask that question of a partner? That's just wild. If you don't wanna know, don't ask. If you don't wanna know, don't ask. I think where people don't think it's gonna upset them until it does. Yeah. I know. I just I this is a It's kinda what remember 30 Vanderfeld was saying when she was just like, it's not going to be the same once it actually happened. That's true. I I try to live by this role in my relationships are just I know I know that I maybe tend to not get as jealous. I'd used to be so jealous. But just in general, I tend not to pose questions to my partner. That I think there's even a small chance that I am going to get defensive about or not ready to hear. Mhmm. Like, I'm not you can't put your partner in those situations and put the pressure on your partner and try to create a safe space for your partner 266 be honest, knowing that there's a chance that you might not have a RREE 30, should see a little drunk and see if you're like, come on. Who did you fuck most of all the refranchisees? And then you're like, I would highly suggest I'm asking that question. Unless you are going to get turned on by it. At least you like the idea of having that conversation and like but I don't get turned on, but like I've asked Ray that question for. I don't actually even remember who he said. Don't remember. I I have no idea. But it like, it didn't turn me on, but it just also didn't bother me Bekah just feel like sexual attraction is something you just can't help. It's like, they 30 help it. Like, he asked me about which one of his friends. And I was like, yep. I know exactly who is. Right. Yeah. There there's I I should say there's a different conversation between sexually attracted 266 and, like, emotionally. 30 30 you be most likely to be in a relationship with my friends? That's definitely a different definitely a different question. Well, the fact of the matter is this, is that the book that they filled out there were numerous. We haven't even haven't answered this to to each other? Yeah. Okay. It does bother you. Oh, no. It doesn't bother Me, but it 30. But it would've it would've absolutely used to bother me. Did did And 30, I I will say this. I'll be vulnerable with you. It would have depended on who he said if there was a chance that I felt like there was mutual attraction, it wouldn't have gotten me up set, but I probably would have felt a little uncomfortable, like, in group settings, like or it would have been in the back of my 30. Maybe watching this dynamic a little bit. Yeah. I could understand. Especially because the person that he said was someone like, they have a very playful relationship. Yeah. So I would have Bekah, like, It just would've it wouldn't have upset me. It just would've been more like It would've bummed me out that I would've been more aware of it because I love there 30. They have such a great friendship. And then I'm like, I feel like I'm like, I would have just been gotten in my head too much. That wasn't who he said, or it So that was who he said or it wasn't? It was. Oh, it was. But that it didn't 30 bother you? It didn't because I don't feel like yeah. I just don't feel threatened for some reason. Like I said, they're playful. And they're 30, and they've always been like CHATTY. But it's just the person doesn't bother me. But I, there, there is that unspeakable thing that for some reason, if maybe it would have been someone else, it might have 30, but III there there is that unspeakable thing that for some 30, if maybe it would have been someone else, it might have bothered. You think maybe it's because she 30 you trust her. Yeah. That's probably what -- Yeah. -- you trust her and she's gonna be She would never would never do. And that's That's true. That's true. You know, maybe a little more, keep it at ball Yeah. Because 30 some friends are maybe a little more shady. Yeah. We're a little bit, like, to keep an eye on. I'm just like, him just like -- Right. -- great. I thought that I'd be like when when you guys went to go, you know, grab dinner with some friends and I wasn't there that I felt, you know, yeah. Do you like, is there a question of if Evan asked you, you know exactly who it is? What do you mean from me? Yeah. You know what's really funny? Is I literally His friends, there is no one. And when I say no one, I can tell you people I know that I'm absolutely sexually attracted 266, but his friends, no one. Like, I literally have to think of, like, some random person from the past that I'd 30, like, I guess. Yes. And it's not even, like, a friend of his. Yeah. It's, like, you know, it's it's it's 30, it's upsetting Bekah I'm like, I wish there were a little more that would be a little fun. But there's nobody, there's definitely people like I've told him, you know, who I know that I'm very attracted there's nobody. There's definitely people, like, I've told him, you know, who I know that I'm very attractive 266. Yeah. Would you are you are you into, like, the 266, like, the two guys, threesome, or, like, the kind of more leaning towards the the gang bang? Basically, when you're the only girl, like, two guys or three guys? Sure. Yeah. I know. Doesn't that sound like just so fun. Sounds so fun. The idea of the threesome sounds so fun to 30. In any in any way. But like this person said, that it ruined her relationship with her best friend and her boyfriend that. I I would you know, I think we've talked about this before, but if I were to ever engage in a threesome, like, I would anonymous. It would have to be anonymous. Or like I said, I've said it Or like I said, I've said it before, I would love to bring someone who is like a sex worker in and like have someone who is profession channel. I know when it'd be fun. It'd be so fun. I think but not someone I know. I feel like we I think that that's just fair and safe. Yeah. Just safer. Yeah. I'm bed. I don't wanna I don't wanna do that also to like put someone who I'm friends with in a position where it could. Like, I wouldn't think it would ruin the relationship, but I've also never experienced sexual intercourse with that person in that setting before. Yeah. So I don't necessarily wanna put that person in situation where I'm like, oh, no. We're gonna be good. And then I feel strange afterwards, and then there's Should we should we cancel the plans we made for this weekend? Bekah. best. Let's just leave them tentative. Pencil me me in. Let's just I'm gonna have to just just don't cancel it, but 30, like, Yeah. We'll you. We'll we'll, we'll check 30 we'll check-in a couple hours before and see what we're feeling. I agree with the friend thing. Like, III would have sex with, like, I would feel much more comfortable if it was, like, a man on my partner's side of a friendship. I'm, like, you guys deal with that drama. You know? Like, guys deal with my problems, But I wouldn't want but I wouldn't wanna involve. I don't think any of my friends either. That's just Yeah. I don't know. know. I just, it just feels like it could get just it just feels like it could get like, it could be really good but it also feels like I could get complicated. Yeah. I would love to have like three summer force in though with some of Grayson's male FIENDSDownload I mean, shoot me a call. Get me up. I mean, like, you you know, you know, like, know they're safe and you trust them and all CHATTY. And then, like, yeah. If it fucks up your guys' relationship on that's that's on it fucks up your guys' relationship on that's that's that's on you. Yeah. Yeah. That's your guys' vibe. I'm just an outsider coming in. That's your guys' whole situation. What I'm 30, but I'm I'm all I'm seeing a couple I'm seeing a couple situations here that involve hooking up with friends and Most them are saying it ended the 30. So take it as you will. Obviously, a deep a deep amount of communication is needed before it seems anything involving a friend and a threesome is involved. Yeah. What about what about what do you think about the ones that What are you thinking about the ones that guys talk? I don't even know if I open this can of worms, but the boys talked about the girls who, like, you know, purposely got pregnant and, like, their boyfriends didn't know. Because I've seen some of CHATTY, like, no. Like, I'm trying to get pregnant right now and my fiance doesn't know. He does want kids but not for another two years. I'm not okay with that. It's yeah. It's totally non It's completely non tangential. And unless Yeah. It's completely non consensual. Yeah. That's gonna be a no for me. You you can't do that. I feel like I subconsciously did it when Greg and I got pregnant with Ruth 30 like I subconsciously did it when RREE and I got pregnant with Ruth. I came with that list about that. Yeah. But it was definitely not intentional. Like, it was subconscious. Mhmm. You felt like it was intentional that you got pregnant? I know you got like it was, like, I want to get pregnant with him. I 30, like, in the back of my head, I was, like, But what if like, it happens? Like, this would be interesting. Let's do it. Just like, yeah. Everything's fine. And in my head, I was like, you know, Maybe I'm going to that's maybe your, I 30 I'm gonna And I think that that's maybe your I don't think that's right. I think, by the way, I want to clarify. Like, I don't I I'm not saying that's right. But I also think that that's that there was a part of that where that's, like, you're all so you're thinking constantly. And I think you map out potential scenarios Oh. -- about 30. That's Yes. Welcome to my life. Right? So, like, when you're having a sexual encounter, you're thinking about every scenario. A possible scenario in a sexual encounter. Is getting pregnant. So to me, that's just you're processing everything versus I am with someone who does not want to be pregnant, and I'm going to secretly try to get pregnant. Well, that's the thing. So that's the difference too. Like, I feel like I told him, like, okay, just ejaculate in me even though I knew, like, I might be ambulating. Mhmm. And he made that choice to do that anyway, which is I like, that's not right. But I also think, like, that's not right, period. And we and I have talked about CHATTY, but I feel like that is different than being like, I'm taking my birth control babe, like, poking holes in the condom, like, that's pretty eyeballs. He knew he was he knew he was taking a risk. He knew he was taking a 30. He knew he was still under Bekah Yes. What I'm saying. It was communicated. You're not on birth control. You are taking a risk. He could have pulled out. You said do it and he consented. Yeah. Versus I am taking birth control and you're actually taking, like, a shoulder pill. Yeah. He's like, we're good, He's like, we're good, baby. Like, we're good. He's like, show me your tongue. And then you usually literally have a sugar pill on it. Yeah. That's right now. He's like, this is like in prison. We're gonna put that or you're gonna you show me oh, that's every time. She like, Alright. I'm taking it. No. That that 266 me no. I just really don't wanna get pregnant right now, by the way. I just wanna 30 that 266 Like, I'm really not trying. Right. That's that's a cutting cutting a hole in a condom. Like, I mean, come on. Like, that that that is it's so it's so wrong. It's so wrong. I almost have always this is a controversial take, but I almost have a little bit more, like, this guy says he doesn't wanna do it for two more years, but he does wanna have kids with her. And, like, I could just have a little bit more grace for that. Know it's kind of fucked up, but I do have a little more grace for that. Well, you mean just because he's he's saying, like, I wanna have kids with you, but he's doing that whole thing. We're like, it's not the right time right now. Yeah. Now 266 it says, I mean, I I think it is wrong. It wrong. It's all wrong. It's right. Now now granted if someone's like, I never want children, and you do that, that is that feels more extreme. Well, they haven't been connected to having kids with you. Like, you know, that's a different scenario. Other than this person being like, I I just want To have children with have children with you. One's more extreme. Right. But I'll I'll wrong. You're You're right. You know what I mean? 30 percent true. That's all wrong. But one one feels more terrible. Yes. That's that yeah. That that CHATTY some wild shit. When then. Ah, I've also seen a lot saying also seen a lot saying like, oh, I can't like, I was didn't think I was able to come with guys or, like, I never able was with, like, three guys or only two guys for me to come and neither of my boyfriends have, like, I just wanna throw out some stats with you. Throw out those stats, baby. I'm probably gonna fuck up all them. I could look them up right now, but I saw a stat the other day that was like, ninety something percent of women can come on their own. And it's like 30 something like forty something or six something. Anyway, way less of a percentage can come with partner. I'm like, honey, there's nothing wrong with you. No. No. Who's the common denominator? Well, I guess you're common denominator, but who's the How is this scenario shifting? It's the other person. Yeah. Which I don't. And also when people say that, I feel like they're like, tell your boyfriend to try harder. Just little thing from from Becca's corner -- Mhmm. -- from my opinion. Mhmm. Generally, that shows me is that one year boyfriend actually might be trying too hard. Yeah. Sure. And my advice is one, bring in a toy. And two, take everything ten times slower. Mhmm. Take ten times as long before you allow someone to touch your genitals. Mhmm. And because that's the thing that guys always do. They're like, here we've been making out for two minutes. Let me figure you. Sometimes it's great. But if you're someone who that does having a hard time -- Yeah. -- commenting sex, I would recommend maybe setting a like, let's you have to wait at least this amount of time before you're allowed to Bekah that can really arouse you to have, like, a little bit more of a 30 longer. Mhmm. Take everything slower. And remember that there's nothing wrong with you. It's just you might not be there might be too much pressure on you or you might not be comfortable enough to Amen. Black's with enough of this person to come. Amen. Amen. CellFX exploration is also always wonderful in figuring out 30 the way that you can make yourself come via, you know, whether it be CHATTY the thing. It says ninety something percent of women can already come on their own. No. I know. So I'm saying if you if you can find different ways to make yourself come on your own and maybe find the one that you feel most relaxed in that you can then bring your partner in on it too. Because I know there are some ways that like I can get off that, that feel more complex or even more like, I don't know if I'm fully relaxed having a partner do this to me, but there are other ways that it's like, Oh, I can come this way and I can easily kind of feel comfortable directing a partner, like literally hold this 266. Because I know there are some ways that, like, I can get off feel more complex or even more like, I don't know if I'm fully relaxed having a partner do this to me. Oh, yeah. But there other ways CHATTY it's like, oh, I can come this way. And I can easily kind of feel comfortable directing a partner like, literally hold this toy and we're good. Mhmm. You know? And it's not this whole, like, okay. Well, you know, because there's some ways where you're like, okay. If I put a finger here and then I put another finger here and then I do this. It's just like a whole and it's like you don't necessarily wanna have to explain all of that to someone because it just feels like too much. Yeah. And I can speak from experience just like with my like, when I was younger too, I always felt a lot of pressure if someone was, like, watching me. I could literally be doing the exact same thing that I would be doing and having someone else there and feeling the pressure of them being there would be enough where I could be doing the exact same thing I'd be doing alone, but I'd be like I'm not feeling any kind of like turned on sensation Bekah like it's so much pressure So, you know, I feel like it all comes down to relaxation. Yes. It could be something as simple as and by the way, this is This sounds like the most ridiculous thing ever, but I was having a conversation with a friend the other day. It could be as simple as turning the goddamn lights off. Bekah my girlfriend was, like, has been struggling, you know, like, orgasmming with with her partner and and I ended up finding out that they tend to always have sex midday. So the natural light is coming in. So you know, you just If someone's awareness 30 like both. Yes. And so, yeah, if you're trying to relax -- Yes. -- a lot of people cannot relax. I know I I have to be I have to be in a very specific mood to have, like, the light pouring in and being sensual and sexual and like orgasm freely. I have to be in a very specific 30. I have to be in a very specific place. I do much better when the lights CHATTY least aren't when it's dimmed or the it's dark or whatever, so that you can just, like, exactly like what you're saying when it doesn't feel like someone's watching you. Yeah. I also think, like, for 30, like, for me 30, like, a little bit of sexual trauma, what really helps me is to set boundaries so I know what to spec. Mhmm. So sometimes, like, something that could be really helpful for you is talking before with your partner and be like, next time I have sex, I actually don't want you to do any penetration or like touch me with your hands at all. But I would love if you massage my breasts while making out with me and maybe you could be touching yourself. Meanwhile, I would be touching myself or using a vibrator, and that could still be like a really hot sexual encounter that doesn't have to be this thing where you're like, laying on your back getting penetrated and trying to make yourself come and doing all of CHATTY. That can be so too much. There can be like really central ways him sitting behind you while he's massaging your nipples and kissing your neck while you're using a vibrator on yourself. Mhmm. There's like a lot of things that you can do, and I think a lot of times there's just that's something that's just really helped me Bekah sometimes you can feel really out of control -- Yeah. -- with someone on top or with someone doing penetration or someone is just gonna be too much. That's so good. I yeah. And I I like the idea too when you're when you're talking about exploring different ways and also like slowing down. Like, there's also just like no rush. There's also no rush to do anything more than what you're comfortable with also no rush to do anything more than what you're comfortable with ever. Yeah. Like, if you're especially if you're with a partner, you have an infinite amount of time to have sexual encounters -- Yeah. -- take it from someone who's been with the same person for fourteen years. I've been with the same person for fourteen years. Okay? Me. Like, there you have if if if if you don't feel comfortable with, like, more than making out and someone massaging, like, you were saying, like, massaging your BROADS. And that's just where you are over and over and over again. Don't put pressure on yourself to do anything more than that. You all have 30. Like, I mean, that that's what I just feel like. like. I feel like there's a lot of times this rush in our, especially in our culture of like, you know, feel like there's a lot of times this rush in our especially in our culture of, like, you know, penetrations. Yeah. Yes, Exactly. Exactly. Yeah. It's okay. Yep. You'd have plenty of time, just ease your way into whatever you're comfortable with. amen. Amen. Holy will you pray to Lord? So it's I can't find it with someone who said something where it was like, I had anal in the subway like enough said. They said I had anal on a gravestone. Who's? Is that do you think that's wrong? Oh. Oh, golly. I 30. I Feel all sorts of way about all sorts of ways about feel all for to weigh about all for to weigh about that. Honestly, I'm dead. Have, you know, on my grave. Yeah. I'm a little I'm like me. That's just me. For me, I'm like, I I mean, I'm dead. I'm I there there is no awareness to 30. But like I know some people would be like, like, don't do not disrespect. Like that's like my family's my grandfather's like, that's, like, my family's my grandfather's 266, and then I would be really mad if someone had anal and my grandpa's tombstone. Like, really mad. But he doesn't know his fight for my grandfather, but, like, I wouldn't care. I'd be little bit, like, boppy love some, you know, loved people enjoying themselvesand I'm not sure about that. How do you love 30 love relationship? love the romance? So Yeah. I mean, ignorance is bliss. Right? If you don't know if the dead person doesn't know who gives a fuck. Yeah. I mean, I mean, technically, it I guess it is your 30, like, own that. So it's, like, but I wouldn't mind. CHATTY for sure. I don't know. 30. Even if I did, even if I had awareness after death, I'd be like go for it. Enjoy No. Me too. Enjoy your youth. Enjoy your time of the day. I remember the days when I was alive. You know what I mean? Like, let's see if I can just find one or one or two more good ones. I know I have few. I have, have I like this I like this one. It's just fun. Someone said, well, having sex, I imagine myself as someone my husband is cheating with, and I just I think that's fun. Good for you. Yeah. I think CHATTY fun. That's a great way to introduce some sort of like, you know, fun, a great way to introduce some sort of like, you know, fun internal role play. Yeah. I love I love it. I was really pushing RREE play this weekend with all of my friends too. Does that I think people and I know we've talked about before. I see 30 have the same conversation. Conversations again and again, but because they're fun. So sorry. 30 Let me go. I just glanced down at these everyone's wrong. This person's like, y'all gonna talk about me fucking a cop on the police boat in middle of the lake. Or when They said, fuck the said fuck the 30, she took that literally. She took it 30, and she did it on the wall. On a 30 I want this story. I don't believe so. CHATTY lot. God. Anything honestly, even not see, I don't 30, honestly, even 30. I don't think I ever had sex at 30 on lake tops. Sound they sound a late cop 30 unproblematic. I feel like CHATTY sounds fucking you doing on the lake. My brain feels like it's a lifeguard, but I can be very wrong. really don't. There's, like, 30. Okay. I don't really know. I do know that my mother was recently on a lake and did get pulled over by a lake police and didn't have a great experience. Oh. But, you know Okay. No. 30 know 266 day back. No. It wasn't a terrible experience. It was just kind of a rude 30, but she 30 got a ticket because she didn't have a license to fish and she was fishing. Oh, CHATTY take that very seriously. Very seriously. And you know what, guys? You get your licenses to Fisher hunt all of that money goes towards these outdoor programs that are very not funded by the government. So buy your fish license and buy your hunting license because they go to preservation and go to really really important things that are super super underfunded. Oh, that's good to know. I wanna pass on to my mother. Mhmm. She wasn't upset about the ticket. She just really didn't know. So she's out there with her pull ups. People don't know. And her boyfriend, and she was just trying to have some she 30 just trying to have some 30 fun. They have no idea, and they're trying to fish and then the police comes up and my mom was just like, I don't understand and I'm like, oh god. Both my cousins work for, you know, wildlife departments and they're and was like, isn't 30 that like a big of a deal? Can't we just hunting and they were like, you buy that goddamn license. The amount of underfunding we have, like, This is how we get lot of our funding to make sure these outdoor areas stay accessible. didn't know that. That's good to know. Anyway, really good to know. What I was gonna say was with the role play like you were saying. Bekah. think a lot of people picture role play as having to 30. I I just saw saw one go ahead. See, I know when you're looking at it and 30 like, oh my god. 30 picture as you Bekah like, I'm a maid. Hello, darling. Like, you know Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Sure. Yeah. Just, like, not doing that. She's like a like a pirate. Yeah. I I'll do it sometime. Get the wrong idea. think the much more approachable way to start is when you're making out, you're already having sex time and you're just like, imagine if, like, we were in this place, like, imagine I said the say the day, I was like, imagine if this was our first Katies, how would you kiss 30, like, if we were watching a movie right now and you were trying to make a move. Ugh. What a fun news is so fun. Even if, like, you're making out and you could do something as simple as, like, you know, if someone's joking around and was like, hey, nice to meet you. That's all that's the only way that you have to start it. If you're feeling a little uncomfy, but you want to try role If you're feeling a little uncomfortable, but you wanna try role play, next time you guys are making out, just kinda joke around or even walk up, and kinda just be like, hey, I'm just nice to meet you. And it's literally the only it's so simple and maybe that's literally where it ends, but there's still kind of this thing in your mind where you're like, oh, we're kind of like introducing ourselves to each other. And you can just let it die there and then see what you're comfortable with next. See, I can't do that. I personally 30 it. But what we do is we just, like, we don't actually talk as the person and because 266 me, I just can't. I just can't. I'm like I'm in like, I'm in theater. No. But I mean, I mean, more like, I don't even mean more as a person, but, like, I can't talk in a text in there. Like, in, like, in, like, You know, like, in a joking way when you're in a scenario. it. Yeah. And it's a little bit like, you know, someone like you're you're with your partner or it's a little bit, like, you know, someone like, you're you're with a your partner or whatever. Yeah. And you're like, are you gonna buy me a drink? Yeah. Like, how to joke it around in that way. And then kind of just even just let it be there. I think that's wonderful. I was just 266 say for some reason, I can't do CHATTY, but but we just do the whole, like, Well, what if you were this? What if I was this person? What would you do right now? If I was this I was this person? Started. Yeah. And that can be, like, a little bit like, more approachable, I think, for some people. Yeah. 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I was like, Oh God. And that's something I would love to do. No. So I would say Well, hello. How are you today, bro? I have only two speeds now. I only have good morning. Like, I know it or Whoa. This is Donato. Like, I'd be I'm cutting 10 or miss is Donato. I feel like there's only there's really only two ways to start a podcast. It's either like hype 30. Yeah. Like throughout the -- or you're kinda like, hey. Hey, everybody. That just feels wrong. I know. I know. Think a lot of podcasts start organically, which I do like that too. But the fact of the matter is that, you know, normally the way the what you and I talking about beforehand wouldn't make any sense to what's going on. Or it's like very private. Or it's extremely CHATTY in our own personal life. Just like Listen, I'm willing to get vulnerable, but sometimes conversations that I have with my parents shouldn't be able you know, if I wanna get invited Yeah. The orthopedic insurance head. That's like, Oh, having sex with like a pastor at like a Christian youth be like, oh my god. So can you believe CHATTY, said that to me? Dude, so fucked up. Can you be like, hey, hey, bros? Hey, bros. I mean, we did our we had our bachelorette 30 on 266, but Being like, Oh, I, you know, like you're a counselor, I'm also a How have you been? I saw that your your hubby was larping. This was the weekend of larping. Oh. Did that turn you on? If you don't know, by the way, gray was dressed up as an singer. You can And when on my on my Instagram, it's a 30. It's pretty good. He really committed to the role. Your real made my made my week, like, for this week Bekah I had been I went off the ground for, like, yeah, you know, forty eight, seventy two hours ish. And I went back on, and I was like, how in god's name? Did I miss this? Of all 30 that I take off, the bachelor 30, Oh my god. I couldn't handle it. It was you know, I wouldn't have turned me on, but it was more like I was like proud. I was like, oh, out of all the eight There was eighteen of those guys on a forty acre plot in Big Bear. That is well, okay. That's all first of all, a large bit of land. Yeah. And then but a lot of people 266. That's a lot of larpers. A lot of friends for to invite to a bachelor party and, like, the CHATTY and T I don't know if I could honestly I mean, here's the truth of the matter. I have, like, maybe three really close spreads. right. I have all the the confession. So maybe for a different time, I friends And then I could invite the friends CHATTY but the friends that also add, you know, the stress friends where you're like, I don't know if these people are gonna get along. And so is it worth the anxiety to invite these? Don't like hosting for that reason I'm just like, I hope no one feels left out or one or two people don't know anyone, and then I have to hang out with them. I don't even like to have to host a bonfire at our house Bekah I get so nervous like Evan is the king of, like, let's invite everybody over and have a bonfire. And I'm always like, what if it gets awkward? And then I'm the one who has to stay here. I like to bounce around in peace when I want a peace. Not to mention you, there's no like I said, dude, there's no pressure. Because if you're if you're the host, then you have to make like, if there's someone that's a little lonely or isn't getting a I'm Nick vial and I am the host of our files, a podcast that one anonymous reviewer called surprisingly insightful and of people like, talk to them. I already feel that pressure when I'm, like, at a public. Absolutely. 30 I go to if I go to a restaurant and I see someone sitting by themselves, I'm little bit like, like, should we go talk to episodes. Mondays, I take calls from listeners from our popular ass NIC episodes, bachelor fans out I literally did it the other day when I was with two friends. There was a girl sitting by herself, she looked sad there. Check out my breakdown of last night's episodes on at a restaurant. And I'm like, I have to go talk to her. And my friends are like, we haven't seen you for a minute. And I'm like, I just feel like I have to. Okay. Doesn't that like it's kind of the good thing, but then also experts. So tuned into the vial files because relationships are complicated and we have a lot to talk of make it worse because then that person knows that you're noticing them being alone. I know. I I had the internal battle.

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she finally made eye contact with me. And

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then I saw there were tears in her eyes.

1:35:47

So I went and talked to her, spill

1:35:50

the 30. She was having a fight with

1:35:52

her boyfriend. Okay. Her fiance

1:35:54

excuse me. Having a fight with her fiance

1:35:57

and Where were you? It

1:35:59

was all the springs. I guess, it's like 30 weekends.

1:36:01

And she why would she buy herself at the restaurant?

1:36:04

No. She was her girlfriends were

1:36:06

also there with her, but they kind

1:36:08

of ditched her because she wasn't being a good time.

1:36:10

Oh, yeah. 30 her and her boyfriend were fighting.

1:36:12

No. No. The yeah. Yeah.

1:36:15

Now the I had a combined feelings

1:36:17

about this Bekah on one hand, I

1:36:19

go how fucking dare these

1:36:21

girls leave you in the dust.

1:36:25

Sure. But on the other hand, I've been

1:36:27

in situations before where you do have

1:36:29

the friend who always has an eternal problem

1:36:32

and you're like, I need boundaries and we're on this

1:36:34

get away for the first time and however long

1:36:36

you and your toxic boyfriend are always fighting.

1:36:38

Yet I'm not gonna sit around and deal with this

1:36:41

for my bachelorette part. Exactly. Exactly.

1:36:43

So I oh my gosh. I'm so

1:36:45

30, Boris is literally losing his mind.

1:36:48

Okay. Sorry. I put Boris away.

1:36:50

He was just trying to protect people from breaking

1:36:52

in. CHATTY sweet

1:36:54

aka the

1:36:57

delivery man. No.

1:36:59

But Bekah, it's it's it's but then

1:37:01

the others, that boundaries thing. So I was like,

1:37:03

I really didn't know, you

1:37:05

know, where Yeah.

1:37:08

I didn't know. I couldn't quite gather what

1:37:10

the name it was Bekah I talked to one side of the

1:37:12

STORYWORTH to her for a minute. Yeah.

1:37:16

And, yeah, I couldn't quite get hurt about her parents'

1:37:18

divorce when she was seven. I heard about

1:37:21

yeah. A lot it was a little bit of 30.

1:37:24

30 luckily, the the 30 f call excuse

1:37:27

me, the fiance called, like, ten minutes

1:37:29

into the conversation. She was like, I have to get

1:37:31

this and, like, ran off. And it was like the whole

1:37:33

thing. It was like an open air restaurant, you know,

1:37:35

where you can like go in and out Bekah it was like at

1:37:37

hotel or whatever. I'm sorry. Is this gonna be

1:37:39

insensitive? But like, if I'm on a weekend

1:37:42

trip with my girls and even if Grant and

1:37:44

I have a serious fight, you know what you

1:37:46

do? I'm sorry. You know what you do?

1:37:48

You know? You get you know? Yeah.

1:37:50

You've faking. You text him furiously in the bathroom

1:37:53

in between drinks. No.

1:37:56

You gotta set a boundary with

1:37:58

your partner and be like, we're gonna deal with this when

1:38:00

we get home. This is about Sarah

1:38:03

this weekend. Sarah's my full name. Absolutely.

1:38:05

Talk to you when we get home. Sorry. And you shut

1:38:07

off your phone and you fucking throw

1:38:10

back some martinis and have a good

1:38:12

time. Yeah. The I'm 30 I

1:38:14

completely agree with you and that