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Hey everybody, welcome to Your Move, where we help you make better

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decisions and live with fewer regrets. I'm Andy Stanley

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and I'll be your guide. Now here's something to think about.

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By the time we reach adulthood, we

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are all really good at monitoring our behavior in

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order to get what we want, right? But

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there's something more important for us to monitor, our

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hearts, because what's in there doesn't stay there. And

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that's why we're talking about it today, right here

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on Your Move. Stick around. Stick

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around. Growing

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up in our home, and I bet your home

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was similar, there were certain words that were off

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limits in our home. And

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again, I grew up in a different generation than some of you,

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but here was one of the big ones. In

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fact, it's hard for me to even

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say this out loud in church, okay? Darn,

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I was like, oh, you know. This

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was like not being able to say this

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word was a fence rule. A fence rule

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is a rule that keeps you from breaking

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a worse rule. And so in

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our home, we didn't wanna say the word that

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sounded kind of like darn, not

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yarn, start with a D anyway.

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And so if my parents thought of, if

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we don't say this word, the kids won't

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drift over to another word because the ultimate

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rule was no cursing or we didn't say

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cussing. I don't know if that's a Southern

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thing or not, but no cursing or cussing,

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either one. So we had kind of these

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fence rules around some words. And

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the threat was, this is

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really gonna show you something. So the threat

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was if you cuss or curse, if you say

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one of these words, especially that word, you're

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gonna get your mouth washed out. Well, so sure

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enough, we lived in Miami at the times. That meant I

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was in the fourth grade or younger. We

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had a little tiny house, little sidewalk that went out to

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the sidewalk that connected all the houses in the row. And

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I'm standing out there, I still remember this. And my

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friend had knocked his bicycle over and I'm on my bicycle,

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we're just riding up and down the little sidewalk there. And

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I stopped and I said, get

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that darn bicycle out of my

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way. And I looked up

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and literally. I don't know how moms

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do this. She was standing on the front porch.

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I know why, she's standing on the front porch. I

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look up and she gave me that thing. Now

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later she confessed to me, she had no idea

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what it meant to wash a child's mouth out

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with soap. This was just a thing people said,

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since the bad words come out, we're gonna wash

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the mouth out. So she took me in our

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little tiny bathroom and she took my toothbrush and

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rubbed it in a bar of soap and she

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brushed my teeth with soap. And

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so thus began my lesson or continued my

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lesson with what

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we call these days, behavior modification. She

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was modifying my behavior. It was cause

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and effect, right? I learned to monitor

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my behavior to avoid certain unpleasant effects.

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And I continue to do that through

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my childhood and we've never met in

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most cases, but you continue to do

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that through your childhood as well. You've

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modified your behavior. We all have, why?

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Well, because we wanna get dates and we wanna

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get second dates and we wanna get invitations and

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we wanna be invited back and we wanna get

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jobs. So we modify our behavior

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for job interviews and

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we're gonna go through some of the things that goes on and on and on and

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on. But as it turns out, that is not enough. And

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we're gonna come right back to that in just a minute. Today

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we are in part two of our series. If

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you've been keeping up or if you haven't

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been keeping up, living with yourself three habits to

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safeguard your soul. Three habits to ensure, and this

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is kind of the theme, three

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habits to ensure that the self you're living with internally

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is the self that's on display to everybody else. These

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are habits to ensure that what people see and

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what they're getting, that there's integrity between who you are

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on the inside and who you are on the

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outside. And we set this up last time

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by saying we've all had the experience of

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hearing about somebody in culture, somebody popular, or

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maybe someone we know, who

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they've been living a double life and suddenly it

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comes out that they've

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been living a double life. They got something

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else going on. They were not the person

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everyone thought they were and they get caught

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and they get caught in a lie and

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the family's devastated, maybe a career's devastated. And

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when that happens and we hear about, wow,

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this has been... going on for years and

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nobody knew, we either think or

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say, how could they

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live with themselves? How could they carry

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on for so long with that going

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on in the background? And the

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assumption of course is, hey, if it was

4:14

me, I couldn't live with myself. I could

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not have the double life and keep it

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a secret or have such variation on the

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themes of my life the way that they

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did that, that my conscience or my integrity

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would not allow me to do that. We

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think I couldn't do that. But

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the truth is, you

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could, you could do that.

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Now you couldn't live with your current

4:36

self, but it's left

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unattended as we said last time,

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your current self may not be

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your future self and your future

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self might be someone that

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you wouldn't even recognize, that you

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wouldn't even respect. In fact, maybe

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that's the situation you're in today.

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You have slowly over time become

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someone you never intended to be

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and you're carrying a secret that no

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one knows you're carrying and you're thinking

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to yourself, how did I get here?

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Well, the reason nobody thinks this will happen

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to them is because nobody thinks this will

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happen to them. And the reason people, this

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happens to people is because the assumption is,

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well, it can't happen, but it does

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and it happens all the time. And I hate to be the

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bearer of bad news, but it can happen to you and

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it can happen to me. And the best way

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to keep it from happening is to number one,

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assume that it can and number two, to take steps

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to ensure that it doesn't. And that's what this

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series is all about. Three habits to safeguard your soul.

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And when I say soul, I mean your inner life,

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your interior life, that part of you that no

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one sees, but the part of you that you go

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to bed with every night and wake up to

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every single morning and that you face every single morning

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in the mirror. Now,

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the theme or kind of the big overarching

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principle and whether you're a religious person

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or not, this is just true. So

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this is something to take into consideration

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is simply this, that the health of

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your soul or the health of your

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interior life, the health of your soul

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determines your capacity. for duplicity.

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Now, duplicity is, you know, the traditional way

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of thinking about duplicity is somebody is someone

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with this group of people and there's someone

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entirely different with another group of people. And

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if those two groups of people ever got

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together to discuss that person, they would think

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they're talking about two different people. There's duplicity.

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But the other

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version of duplicity is when someone is

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something publicly and something

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entirely different privately. And

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the health of your soul, what's going

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on on the inside day in and

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day out determines your capacity for

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duplicity. Here's what I mean

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specifically. It determines how wide

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the gap between who you

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are and who you pretend to

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be. It determines how wide the gap

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between who you are and who you

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pretend to be grows or can expand

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before your conscience just can't take it

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anymore. Before your guilt just can't take

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it anymore or between or to

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the point that you're eventually found out that

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the health of your soul determines whether you

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close the gap immediately. That's what we're going

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to talk about today. The health of your

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soul determines whether you close that gap immediately

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or if you decide to manage

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that gap indefinitely. And

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as we manage the gap, it always gets

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wider and wider and wider and wider. So

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I'm suggesting these three habits to ensure that

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that gap gets closed immediately, quickly and steadily.

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Quickly and stays closed. Now last time we

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talked about the first habit. First habit was

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surrender your will, specifically surrender your will to

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your heavenly father to wake up every single

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morning and in some formal way to present

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yourself to God, your hands, what you're going

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to do, your feet where you're going to

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go, your eyes, what you're going to look

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at, your ears, what you're going to listen

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to, your mind, what you're going to think about. Surrender

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your resources, surrender your opportunities, your hopes

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and dreams and say, Heavenly Father, I

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am 100% you. I'm

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giving all of me to all

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of you. I trust you because I know

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you are for me. So today

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we're going to talk about the second habit and to set it up,

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I want to tell you a little story from the life of

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Jesus. So one day Jesus and his disciples,

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and this is a general term for the

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general Jesus followers, they're

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going along and the Pharisees

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who are constantly dogging Jesus and sort

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of in a running conflict or running

8:13

tension with Jesus everywhere he goes, they

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issue a complaint and they say, Jesus,

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your disciples, the people who are following

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you, they don't observe the tradition of

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the elders. They're not observing the tradition

8:23

of the elders. Now I got to

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explain what that is for this to

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make sense. The tradition of the elders

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or the other phrase that you

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sometimes hear the oral Torah was

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a list of fence rules

8:37

that essentially God gave Moses the 10

8:39

commandments and God gave Moses the

8:41

civil law, this detailed civil law for the

8:43

nation of Israel and it was written down.

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But supposedly, supposedly God

8:48

also gave Moses an

8:51

oral law that he did not allow to

8:53

be written down. And Moses

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passed that on to Joshua and Joshua passed

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it on to the priest and this

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got passed along generation after generation after

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generation in parallel with the written law.

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Now nobody knows if this is true or not.

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There's no way to prove it or disprove it because, well,

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it wasn't written down. But

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what we do know is that these

9:13

unwritten laws were generally fence laws to

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protect the written law so people didn't

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accidentally break the law of God and

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defile themselves and put themselves at odds

9:23

with God. This became so

9:26

onerous. The law was

9:28

difficult enough to keep, we know from the

9:30

testimony of first century Jews, but

9:32

to add to it this oral Torah that

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you were never really sure if you were

9:37

doing something wrong until the Pharisees showed up

9:39

and said, oh yeah, that's in the oral

9:41

Torah. You can't do that. That's

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the tradition of the elders. So that's

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the tension that Jesus finds himself in

9:47

with the Pharisees. And on this

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particular, in this particular instance, this

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had to do with

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how they washed their hands. The written

9:56

law, as you know, for Jews, had

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very strict dietary. Their

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mouths are what comes out of a person's

12:02

mouth. That is what puts them at odds.

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With. God and in this is the coolest

12:07

parks average gonna drop says bomb attack cells

12:09

as as as a matter and mark his

12:11

walks off. Listen. And learn

12:14

I just said something that is so offensive and

12:16

is going to drive affairs is crazy and it's

12:18

has. Come on guys. I just literally walks off.

12:21

And the view of the for Apple's

12:23

iphone where the Apostles diseases did you

12:25

really offended the fair season Jesus is

12:27

like this is my concern Luca Yamato

12:29

care Because and here's why this is

12:31

so important if you're not a christian

12:34

or Jesus' followers. This is so important

12:36

is the Jesus understood something to they

12:38

had missed in the first century that

12:40

the law was not given an order

12:42

to please God. The law was given

12:44

to protect people. The law was for

12:46

people and. Affairs, He's got it backwards

12:48

and he was cited and looks the

12:50

law gets. People are not for the

12:52

law. The. Law is for

12:55

people and when you use the

12:57

law. To hurt people

12:59

divide. People. And to create

13:01

enmity between God and people

13:03

you are misusing. You are

13:05

abusing the law of God.

13:08

Helps. When God establish the

13:10

law rule, it was for the good.

13:13

Of. The people he establish the rule or the

13:15

law. For so. Anyway, so

13:17

Jesus walks off of samples following as

13:19

in and and and they're like Jesus

13:21

you. Just send a

13:23

dumb as in one of his apostles as

13:26

a by the way on that. Might have

13:28

been clear you but what listener

13:30

cleared us either? So Jesus

13:32

decides to have another teachable moments. It's a

13:35

mile down. This is kind of funny that

13:37

this is diseases humor. Were afraid the last

13:39

because it's seasons, but this was meant to

13:41

be funny. So. Maybe. You'll get

13:43

this. This isn't down he says.

13:46

are you still so dull? When

13:48

it's kind of funny, isn't it about disease?

13:51

The same to use Uber with me for

13:53

a years? You still don't get it. Are

13:55

you still so dull? Jesus asked him, don't

13:57

you see. that whatever as there's

13:59

a mouth goes into the

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stomach and out of the body. They're

14:05

like, we see that

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every single day. Okay,

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what? We're dull,

14:12

but we're not that dull. What

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is your point? And then Jesus

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goes a little deeper. He says,

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what comes out of a person

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is what defiles them, not

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what goes in, what comes out is what

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puts them at odds with God, which

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they're thinking. So using

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the bathroom is offensive to

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God. I mean, what are you talking

14:34

about? You know, he's got their undivided

14:37

attention. He says,

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for it is from within out

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of a person's heart that

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evil thoughts come. It's

14:46

not what goes in that defiles you. It's what

14:48

comes out of you that defiles you. It's what

14:50

comes out of you that puts you at odds

14:52

with God. And so then

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they're like, wait, evil

14:57

thoughts? Wait, an

14:59

evil, this was a new idea. An

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evil thought can put us at odds

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with God and Jesus would say

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yes, because everything harmful

15:07

and everything harmful to other people

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begins as a thought. And

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then he gives them a list of examples. Here's

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the kinds of things that come from

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within. They're exhibited in the real world, but

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they begin from within. They begin with the

15:21

heart. He says, for example, here's some of

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the things that come out of a person's

15:25

heart. Sexual immorality, theft, murder,

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adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander,

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erry, I mean, he's just listing these

15:32

things off. And your English

15:34

text says folly. We don't even use

15:36

that word anymore, but essentially it means

15:38

bad judgment. It's making bad decisions that

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impact yourself and impact other people. And

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here's what they thought. This is so important. When

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they hear this list, they think, wait

15:48

a minute, those

15:50

are behaviors directed toward other people,

15:53

not God. I thought we were talking about being

15:55

at odds with God. I thought we were talking

15:57

about what defiles a person or puts a person.

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and bad relationship with God, to what

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Jesus would say, is exactly

16:04

what we're talking about. Because hurting

16:08

another person, disadvantaging

16:11

another person puts

16:13

you at odds with God. You

16:17

cannot be right with God and mistreat

16:19

another person. This isn't about this kind

16:21

of vertical thing I have going on and I can

16:23

treat all my horizontal relationships any way I want to,

16:26

but boy, me and God, we're cool, God's going, I

16:28

don't know where you got that. That's

16:30

not in the old covenant, that's not going to be in

16:32

the new covenant, you just made that up. That's what the

16:34

Pharisees think. They

16:36

think they can be right with God and

16:38

mistreat people at the same time. But

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you are defiled, you are at odds with

16:43

God when you mistreat another person. And

16:45

anything on the inside of you that begins as

16:48

a thought that becomes a

16:50

behavior that undermines the integrity of or

16:52

hurts or diminishes the value of another

16:54

person, you are not right with

16:57

God. This was a huge, huge

17:00

shift. But this

17:02

would characterize or was

17:04

supposed to characterize the new kingdom

17:07

that Jesus had come to

17:09

establish. All these evils, he says, all

17:11

these evils come from inside and

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that's what defiles a person.

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But eating with unwashed hands

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does not. Now,

17:21

the implication of this hopefully is so obvious,

17:23

I don't even need to state it, but

17:25

I'll state it anyway. Here's what he was saying. Here's

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what he's saying to you, to me. He's

17:30

saying, pay attention. Pay

17:32

attention to what's within. Pay

17:36

attention to what's going on inside of

17:38

you because it doesn't

17:40

stay there. We

17:42

leak, you leak, I

17:44

leak. And most of the time, we

17:46

don't even know that other people know what's

17:48

inside of us because we leak in such a way that

17:50

we're not aware of it, we think we've covered it. But

17:53

people walk away and go, wow, what's up with

17:55

her? And the reason I know that is because

17:58

you do that all the time about people. It's

18:00

like he or she thinks that we think they're

18:02

fine, but they are not finding it is obvious

18:04

to us because we all leak

18:06

our behavior will eventually reflect here's

18:09

a Jesus point our behavior will

18:11

eventually reflect the condition of our

18:13

hearts or souls

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So just for an uncomfortable minute. I want us to

18:19

look at that list again I kind of spread it

18:21

out look at it a little different in morality adultery

18:23

staff. Just look at that list a second I'm gonna

18:25

ask you a question Do

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you know anyone or know

18:30

of anyone and certainly you've

18:32

read of someone who lost

18:34

their family? lost a job

18:37

lost a career lost a reputation Maybe

18:40

over time lost their mind over

18:43

any of these things The

18:46

answer is yes And

18:49

in some instances not all in some

18:51

instances remember how shocked you were like

18:53

not them I mean they

18:55

were so kind that they were so nice

18:57

and this whole time and I mean

19:00

how did that come out of them? I mean when they

19:02

were just like the nicest people who's the nicest

19:04

guy nicest woman I grew up with him. I grew up

19:06

with her went to school with them You know what the grad

19:08

school with them used to work with them What

19:11

happened and how did they live with themselves

19:14

and the answer is simple They

19:17

just did not tend to their

19:19

soul They ignored what was going on in

19:21

their heart because whatever it was that embarrassed

19:24

them and wreck their home and caused such

19:26

damage It

19:28

came from within These

19:30

were people or that's a person who was managing

19:33

the gap Instead

19:35

of determining to close it and

19:38

they became a different Self

19:40

a self they never intended to

19:43

have to live with so the second habit again

19:45

I don't even need to say it now You know

19:47

what it is just to monitor your heart to

19:50

monitor your heart Pay

19:52

attention to what's going on inside. I don't

19:54

have to tell you to pay attention to

19:57

what's going on on the outside We're really

19:59

good at that Jesus says,

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look, hey, congratulations on your modified behavior, everybody's

20:03

behaving, but come on, I love you. I

20:05

want you to pay attention to that part

20:08

of you that has the potential to divide

20:10

you from yourself and

20:12

the people you love the most and the people who love you the

20:15

most. Pay attention to what's going on inside. And

20:18

specifically, I want to give you four things to look at when

20:20

it comes to monitoring your heart. We talked about

20:22

these several years ago. I don't mind coming back to them every once

20:24

in a while. Guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy.

20:27

Guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy. These

20:29

four, because you know exactly what they are,

20:31

and they have the potential as much or

20:34

more than anything to rot your soul.

20:37

They will, to use a Jesus word,

20:39

they will ultimately defile you. They will

20:42

ultimately put you at odds with God.

20:44

And if you don't close the gap,

20:46

these four things have the potential to

20:48

ultimately define you as well

20:51

because you leak, because they

20:53

leak. They hurt the

20:55

people around you. Guilt

20:58

says, you know what Guilt says? Guilt

21:00

says, I owe you. I owe

21:02

you. I got a secret. And

21:05

I owe you the truth. I owe you an

21:08

apology. I owe you restitution for

21:10

what I took. And you may or may not know I took

21:12

it, or you may know I did, but I've argued and made

21:14

excuses. But the truth is I'm living with

21:16

guilt because I owe you. I owe you an apology

21:18

for what I've done. I owe you an apology for

21:20

what I've said. The

21:22

solution. You won't even need to

21:25

write this down. To confess. And

21:28

when you confess, you'll make a mess. We talked about that last

21:30

time. And you don't want to make a mess. Let

21:32

me just say something to you real quick. You've

21:35

already made a mess. There's

21:38

no getting around the mess. It's either

21:40

going to leak, and you're going to

21:42

have to make excuses and eventually fess up. Or

21:46

you can stand up straight, invite your heavenly

21:48

Father into this area of your life and hold Him by

21:50

the hand and say, I'm going in. I'm going to confess.

21:52

I'm going to get this out. I'm going to deal with

21:54

the mess. I want this to end. This is not

21:56

who I want to be. This is not where I

21:58

intended to be. Relationships and

22:00

my marriage work with my reputation, whatever it

22:02

is, You. Confess.

22:05

And. When you do you began. Safeguarding,

22:08

You saw. Anger. The driver

22:11

behind Anger is you owe me. You.

22:14

Owe me. Your. Anger whenever you're angry because

22:16

you know, get your whenever your anger is because something's

22:18

been taken from you. You're not getting what you deserve.

22:20

You're not getting what you want. But.

22:22

In the big anger, the anger that

22:24

seeds that free flowing anger the follows

22:27

people throughout their lives, somebody it's something.

22:30

But. Here's what you know: This isn't

22:32

helpful. They

22:35

can give back to you they took even

22:37

as they want to. Even

22:40

if they the we say go back in time

22:42

can't rewind time You can't be to eighteen again

22:44

you can have a first marriage again. He gets

22:46

you know would bring that first baby over the

22:48

hospital again. Use it is it's gone. So

22:51

you're stuck. And.

22:54

You're angry. And

22:56

you leave. In

22:59

the solution, I'd. We.

23:02

All know the source. To forgive. And

23:06

yes I'll just own. This is easy for me to

23:08

stand up here. Sex: I don't know your story now

23:10

is it was just the two of us were sitting

23:12

across the table and he told me or story. My

23:16

inclination. Would. Be to give you

23:18

a path. So. You know

23:20

what everybody else has to forgive. Not you use you

23:22

Get over here you get a pass at they got

23:24

understands. I've heard your store it's now. I'm angry at

23:27

him. I'm angry them. Unless you're I can forgive. Little

23:29

even do anything to me but based on what

23:31

you been through I'm i give you a pass

23:33

as they say you don't need to forgive you

23:35

for giving them is giving. Them a gift

23:37

they all deserve. What's.

23:40

Your savior who loves you more than I ever

23:43

to it is not going give you a pass.

23:46

Because he knows what that

23:48

resentment is doing to your

23:50

soul. Come

23:52

on. Your. To cancel their

23:54

debt. Gotta. Forgive.

23:58

is riding you so And

24:00

you leak and people

24:02

know something's up and they there's just

24:04

an edge Gotta

24:06

forget Greed this

24:09

is something no one's ever admitted out loud Can't

24:12

even see it in the mirror We have so many excuses we have

24:14

so many other names for this and it's

24:16

greed is fueled by the consumption assumption Did

24:18

we talk about that the consumption assumption is

24:20

this if it comes to me? It's for

24:22

me if it's placed in my hands It's to stay

24:24

in my hands if I earned it if

24:26

I inherited it if it was given to me if it

24:28

comes to me It's for me Greed

24:31

says I owe me I owe

24:33

me everything that comes to me and

24:36

it forces people to compete with your stuff And

24:39

we have so many ways around this we

24:41

say I'm not greedy. I'm just careful. I'm

24:43

not greedy. I'm just responsible I'm not

24:45

greedy. I just like nice stuff. I'm not greedy,

24:48

and I'm just preparing for the future. I'm again.

24:50

I'm responsible And

24:53

what greed does is it actually empowers you

24:55

to excuse a lack of generosity it trickles

24:57

out at a Triangulates with other people and

24:59

other things in your life and impacts people and it

25:01

puts you at odds With God

25:04

you know the solution is it's like

25:06

ripping off a band-aid the solution

25:08

is to give Extravagantly

25:12

Consistently with a plan

25:14

to something that's making a difference in the

25:16

world It's your way of saying greed is

25:19

not gonna reside in my heart is not

25:21

gonna reside from within because eventually it's gonna

25:23

come out And it's gonna come out

25:25

on the people closest to you it always does jealousy This

25:27

is the ugliest one of all You

25:30

celebrate when other people

25:32

fail I mean not out loud just

25:35

like inside You

25:37

feel like you've made me not with you we

25:39

I all of us We feel like

25:41

we're making progress sometimes because somebody else

25:43

fails that is ridiculous That is so ugly

25:45

when you see it in your kids or

25:48

grandkids. It's like it bothers you This

25:50

will rot your soul celebrating other people's failure

25:53

and you know what we do we Compete

25:56

with other people in our head, and

25:59

they don't even know there's a Competition they're just living a

26:01

happy life and we're just mad and

26:03

the more happy they are the more angry we get we're like Yeah,

26:05

but you know and

26:08

you know what drives this is

26:10

this assumption that you need

26:12

to root out It's a lie life life

26:14

owes me life owes me Life

26:17

owes me and then when you scratch beneath

26:19

the surface Do you know what you

26:22

unearth? God

26:26

owes me Because

26:28

he could have made you prettier Taller

26:31

he could have made give you opportunities

26:33

to be richer He could have

26:35

had you born into different kind of family to

26:37

give you more opportunities to

26:39

admit it I Think

26:42

God owes me and

26:44

I don't want to live that way anymore Because God has done

26:46

enough for me and you know what the antidote or the solution

26:48

is But the process that eventually gets

26:51

us to where we need to be is to celebrate

26:54

Celebrate what God has given you and

26:56

celebrate what God has given others so

26:59

bringing guilt anger greed and jealousy into the light it

27:03

diminishes their power over

27:05

you so monitor

27:07

your heart and Root these things

27:10

out be on the lookout for these four

27:12

villains and as soon as you identify

27:14

them You don't manage that tension and

27:16

say nope you talk to them, right?

27:18

You say hey, there is no room for

27:21

you inside of me. I already have

27:23

a boss. I already have a king

27:25

I have a king who is for

27:27

me. The only thing you four guys

27:29

do is take stuff from me So

27:33

monitor your heart and surrender

27:37

your will and Don't

27:39

miss part three where

27:41

we talk about habit three of

27:44

living with yourself three habits the

27:46

safeguard Thanks

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