In my journey through trauma, I have learned 2 great truths- trauma introduces you to yourself and also, that you cannot give me a hurt and tell me what to do with it but, I've also learned something mind-blowing- girlfriends are great too. Honest ones that is. They tell you through their experiences, how you should do better because your old bag of tricks aren't working and doing same thibgs over and again is just you been too close to the situation to realize it just isn't working!