Andrea Wachter is a marriage and family therapist, author, and teacher. Wachter is the author of "Getting Over Overeating for Teens," and co-author of "Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the 'I Feel Fat' Spell," and "The Don’t Diet, Live-It Workbook." Wachter is a contributor to The Huffington Post and teaches meditation. Wachter received her Bachelor’s Degree from Boston University and her Master’s Degree in Counseling from the University of San Francisco.
Diets and "healthy" eating fads are a January fixture - but few of us stick to these harsh regimes. And when the dieting ends, we often go back to the "bad" foods we craved during our fasting. Psychotherapist Andrea Wachter says this dieting "roller coaster" makes our minds obsess over food and causes our bodies no end of harm. Andrea stepped off the roller coaster by taking a kinder and calmer approach to the foods she consumed. She tells Dr Laurie Santos the key rule - feed yourself like you'd feed someone you love. Learn more about your ad-choices at
Therapist and author Andrea Wachter joins us to discuss how parents can use mindfulness to help kids of all ages who are struggling with poor body image or their relationship with food. Get our ABC Guide to Body-Positive Parenting. ( Join our body image group for parents. ( Read the full show notes for this episode. (
Download Episode! Hey lovely radicals, podcast alert! This week on the "Life. Unrestricted." podcast, it’s my pleasure to talk to Andrea Wachter from California. Andrea is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the author of "Getting Over Overeating". She is also the co-author of "The Don’t Diet, Live-It Workbook" and "Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the 'I feel fat' Spell", a book for kids who struggle with body image. Andrea is an inspirational counselor, author and speaker who uses professional expertise and her personal recovery to help others overcome their struggles with food, body image, exercise and weight. Today, you’ll hear Andrea talk about: – How she remembers feeling in her body as a child – How her parents related to food and weight – What made her feel ashamed about her body and got her to start dieting – How she hid her struggles with food from her family – Why she compares the way she related to food with the way a drug addict relates to drugs – Why she, as so many, believed "If I just change my body, I will be ok" – How her eating disorder took over her life, and no one had a clue, because she looked so "put together" and pretended everything was fine – Why she eventually did turn to alcohol and drugs to numb her pain from feeling "not enough" – How she found her way back to herself – Why she feels hope that more people are getting help these days – What concerns her about this "age of social media" we are living in today – How she has to deal with younger and younger girls and boys who are already obsessed with their appearance and restricting food – How to avoid the "addiction transfer"-trap – How our emotions (usually the ones we repress the most) play into the way we relate to our bodies – Why body- and weight-obsessing is often a distraction from deeper issues – Why for so many, their struggles with food tend to get overlooked in therapy – What she found out about people’s issues with their bodies when she worked with recovering drug addicts and alcoholics – Why having the "wrong" therapist can do much more harm than good – What to look out for in a therapist, and how to spot it it’s the right one for you – The fallacy of thinking that "staying in the disordered mindset is easier than having to face the pain" – The fallacy of believing that we are supposed to "be happy" all the time – What happens when we try to avoid difficult feelings – Why it is crucial never to forget the reality behind social media and people’s performance of "health", "happiness", "fitness", etc. – How we can all upgrade our unkind mind patterns – How to become aware of the nasty tricks our minds can play with us – How our negative thoughts turn into negative feelings and into negative behaviors – How to find out what the next steps are that you are actually capable of taking that will lead to more and more steps – What she found out about the bad body image legacy that was passed on to her from talking to her parents – How our own beliefs shape our perception, which, in turn, shapes our behavior – How we can break the bad body image legacy – Why never to expect other people to change, but to focus on our own growth instead... ... And so much more! Check out Andrea’s websites: Here’s the link to "The Human Fulfillment Institute": And here’s the link to Andrea Wachter’s books on Amazon: Please consider supporting the podcast by becoming a "Patreon"; so that I can keep producing it. Thank you! Here's the link: If you want this sort of badassery to come to your phone automatically, please DO subscribe on iTunes (Apple): or on Stitcher (Android): ********* Don't forget!********* Make sure to join my tribe and meet some of the most supportive, loving and kind people of all shapes and sizes, including great coaches and leaders! We’re right over here at:
Hey sister, You’ve probably seen “Instagram models” promoting “fitness” or “detox” tea all over your  feed. Thigh gaps here, big booties there, ab cracks everywhere! Is it then not surprising that at least 30 million people in the United States, of all genders, suffer from some sort of eating disorder? Yeah, not surprising at all. Today we are bringing a whole new topic to the podcast with my new soul sister and inspirational counselor, Andrea Wachter. Andrea is the author of  The Don’t Diet, Live-It Workbook and Mirror, Mirror on the Wall: Breaking the “I Feel Fat” Spell so you can identify disordered behaviors in our loved ones and ourselves. Here’s What We Talked About: Understanding the roots of eating disorders in teens and how to prevent your teen or yourself from catching the “I feel fat spell”. How to recognize the top,very vivid, behavioral patterns in teens and how taking responsibility can change their life for the better. Why your best life is in the present moment and how to catch yourself in the present to create a healthy relationship with your body. Catching The “I Feel Fat Spell”: The biggest root of eating and body image disorders is cultural and (you guessed it) media. Instagram isn’t really helping alleviate this issue #fitspo. We have all had our natural relationship with our body, food, and movement taken away from us because the culture has sooooo many rules on how we should look like, feel like, and what we should be eating. Sister, you know what I am talking about. We’ve all felt “not enough” at least once in our lives. (If you are ready to start loving yourself and end your negative self-talk, check out Ep #150 Overcoming Judgment and Radical Self Love). Andrea calls this “catching the spell” and we catch this spell from the cultural messages regarding perfect bodies and perfect diets. And the culture doesn’t only send you one message, but it is constantly sending these messages. Additionally, we get these messages from family members and friends who also received the same messages from the culture. A mom that is dieting, a dad that is overeating, aunt Susie that just has to drop comments at every family gathering (yes, I am still single aunt Susie). We get it from the culture, our friends, our families, coaches, etc… The culture spreads it around like mono on a college campus. It’s everywhere. Sister, we are all different breeds. We all have different levels of sensitivity. A lot of us that suffer from body image issues just happen to be born a very sensitive breed and maybe are a little more sensitive to criticism and praise than others. We take things differently and this affects how we eat, feel, and connect with people and this makes it very difficult to know how our comments are affecting others. We don’t see their suffering so we don’t think there is a problem. Pay Attention to the Patterns: Does your teenage daughter show signs of disordered body image? Here is how to spot the symptoms: Negative self-talk. Changing how they act around their bodies. Changing their behaviors around food. Extreme behaviors with exercise. There is no set look to an eating or a body image disorder and this makes figuring out whether a loved one needs help and is going through a rough time. Healthy and unhealthy look different on everyone. There is no set weight for an eating disorder and some the healthiest looking of us may be struggling with an eating disorder or negative self image. It has nothing to do with our weight but our relationship with food. If a teen has talked at all, negatively, about their body or food, we can use their language to address the issue and if they are open to talking about their struggle. It really starts with us as an example. We can take the responsibility to have this very important conversation. But how do we actually have this talk? We use their language. "I noticed you ________ and you've been calling yourself_______. Would you be comfortable talking about _________?" You can relate to them and let them know about your own struggle, not too detailed, but enough to let them know they are safe having this conversation. How to Nip These Habits in Your Daily life so Your Teenagers Don’t Pick Up on Them: We often live in our heads. We are thinking about the future or we are thinking about the past. When we have a healthy relationship with our bodies, we spend more time in the present and our mind is silent. It seem simple but it’s difficult to achieve, it is so easy to just get lost in our minds. Catching ourselves in the present moment, here and there, just beginning to catch ourselves in the present moment. It also looks like treating our bodies like we would somebody we love. We wouldn’t starve somebody we love and we wouldn’t call someone we love fat, right? Seeing ourselves as a loved one shifts our attitude toward our body toward positivity. Looking at ourselves with kinder eyes and asking ourselves what we need is so counterintuitive to us in the culture that we live in. But if we can spread the love we have for others or hobbies, or whatever it is we love (coffee), we can bypass the mind and create a feeling of love for ourselves from the inside.   It is rare and radical to find somebody that LOVES their body. Culturally, we are immersed and we to fit in, we engage in fat chat. In this culture, loving ourselves is radical. Be rebellious!   Sister, if you are struggling to train your mind on the way to your transformation and do not ever want to exhaust your mind and body with another diet, then checkout The Sexyfit Method for real results that will keep you happy and full with real foods. With love,  Zlata
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