Darcy Lockman is a journalist and a practicing psychologist. Lockman's writing has appeared in The New York Times and the Washington Post. She is the author of "All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership." Lockman received her B.A. in American culture from the University of Michigan. Later, she received her M.A. in psychology from Hunter College, and then her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Adelphi University.
In this episode of Talk Nerdy, Cara is joined by clinical psychologist, journalist, and author of the new book, "All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership," Dr. Darcy Lockman. They discuss the inequities of gendered labor that persist to this day, as well as the physical and psychological burden wives and mothers are all too often forced to carry. Follow Darcy: @Darcy_Lockman.
Guests: Darcy Lockman, Claire Kamp Dush If you are living with a significant other, who does the laundry? Who cooks dinner? Who drives the kids to soccer practice? Who cuts the grass? Dividing up the chores equally can be key to a healthy relationship. But, despite the fight for gender equality, studies have shown that women are still doing the bulk of the household duties including childcare, even when they are working outside the home. In same-sex couples, chores are divvied up more equitably. This hour, we look at the division of household labor, the strain unequal duties can put on relationships, and how to divide housework fairly. Our guests are CLAIRE KAMP DUSH, a professor at Ohio State University and DARCY LOCKMAN, a clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership.
Today we connect with Darcy Lockman, clinical psychologist and author of All The Rage, a book that explores how egalitarian relationships become traditional ones when children are introduced to the household. We loved connecting with Darcy about the mother load, the myth of maternal instinct, why we struggle with relationship expectations, the complications of socialization vs biology, and how we can best raise children of any gender to be both communal helpers and independent doers. Interview begins: 1:53H&K After Show begins: 41:42Ask Us Anything begins: 1:03:45Relevant links:- Darcy Lockman’s website- Buy All The Rage on Amazon, B&N, Powells- Darcy on Twitter and Instagram- Therapist Terry Real- Terry Real on Goop Podcast: It’s normal to occasionally hate your spouse- How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn- American Time Use Survey- Sarah Blaffer Hrdy, anthropologist & primatologist- Testosterone Rex: Myths of Sex, Science, and Society by Cordelia Fine- DABDA Grief Cycle- Having It All: How Equally Shared Parenting Works by Francine Deutsch- Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents by Marc Vachon & Amy Vachon- Dr. Toni Schmaeder - An article on HEED Domains- Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate ManneToday’s episode is supported by Artifact Uprising, a sister-owned company helping us honor the meaningful moments in our lives through printed photo gifts, books, and more. Their beautiful, minimalist products are made from recycled papers, reclaimed materials -- all in the USA. Learn more about Artifact Uprising and support Upbringing by visiting their website our Partner’s page at www.upbringing.co/partners.Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.Email us: info@upbringing.coFollow Upbringing on:Instagram: @up_bringingFacebook: @jointheupbringing
Biz and Theresa explore the limits of our power as parents. Kids have pretty big ideas about what we can do and it's a life lesson learned that we can’t take them to Ancient Egypt to dine with cats. But what about the more realistic needs and wishes we can’t meet, like that must have outfit, guitar lessons, or that birthday gift they really want? How does all this crushing disappointment make us feel? Hint: Not the best. Plus, nature comes to Biz, Theresa has too much on her brain and we talk to clinical psychologist Darcy Lockman about the Myth of Equal Partnership. It's a doozy of a show. Follow Dr. Darcy Lockman on Twitter @Darcy_Lockman and on her website Darcylockman.com. Her book All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership is available now. Check out Theresa's book! It Feels Good To Be Yourself is available now wherever books are sold.  Our book You're Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You're Winning at Parenting! is available wherever books are sold. Thank you to all our listeners who support the show as monthly members of MaximumFun.org. Our sponsors this week are Michelin and Postmates. Next time when you’re looking for new tires for the family car, consider Michelin Premier® All Season tires. Michelin, performance EVERY time! For a limited time, Postmates is giving our listeners $100 of free delivery credit for your first 7 days. To start your free deliveries, download the Postmates app and use code . Share your genius and fail moments! Call 206-350-9485 Be sure to tell us at the top of your message whether you're leaving a genius moment, a fail, or a rant! Thanks!! Share a personal or commercial message on the show! Details at MaximumFun.org/Jumbotron. Subscribe to One Bad Mother in iTunes Join our mailing list Join the amazing community that is our private One Bad Mother Facebook group Follow One Bad Mother on Twitter Follow Biz on Twitter Follow Theresa on Twitter Like us on Facebook! Get a OBM tee, tank, baby shirt, or mug from the MaxFunStore You can suggest a topic or a guest for an upcoming show by sending an email to onebadmother@maximumfun.org. Show Music Opening theme: Summon the Rawk, Kevin MacLeod (http://incompetech.com) Ones and Zeros, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes) Mom Song, Adira Amram, Hot Jams For Teens (http://adiraamram.com, avail on iTunes) Telephone, Awesome, Beehive Sessions (http://awesomeinquotes.com, also avail on iTunes) Closing music: Mama Blues, Cornbread Ted and the Butterbeans
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Location
New York, New York, United States of America
Episode Count
25
Podcast Count
22
Total Airtime
22 hours, 11 minutes