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  1. TITLE Overall Struggles & Strengths Highly Sensitive Person (HSPs) GUEST Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC EPISODE OVERVIEW Jen and I talk about perfectionism, self-compassion, boundaries, self-care, HS superpowers, communication, vulnerability, authenticity, demystifying emotions, creating a lifestyle that honors the HSP, and mindfulness. These are some of the things that we notice Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) struggling with.  Our primary intention is to give you an idea of what to expect in our upcoming online courses. Whether you are considering taking a group or not, this episode is a great way to identify your HS strengths and maybe see if there are areas you want to focus on. HIGHLIGHTS Jen explains why working with HSPs is a passion of hers We share our excitement about the groups and why we feel they are important I share the story of my first meeting with Jen Jen shares her initial impression upon our first meeting and the benefit that comes with creating a safe space to openly share our needs We discuss our goal of making the groups a safe space where productive communication can happen, and we create community Setting boundaries in relationships is not about changing the other person; it’s creating a space for yourself by communicating your needs We discuss the plan for our upcoming groups to give you an idea of what to expect: Group culture / Expectations Creating community guidelines Creating and maintaining a safe environment Everyone is seen and heard Everyone is treated respectfully Everyone’s goals for the group Getting to know each other Basic education about the trait Questions and discussion Building pride in HSP Applying the pride Recognizing this is a non-HSP world, and we get to assert our HSP traits/needs Identifying negative messages and turning them into superpowers Things we struggle with Too sensitive Too needy Need to get thicker skin Not social No fun, can’t take a joke, no sense of humor Too picky Overthink things Worry too much Too nice Over responsible for everything Feeling fatally flawed, not good enough Mistfit–I’m the only one; There’s no one like me Deep sense of not belonging and shame Outcomes Embracing our traits Identify and verbalize what traits resonate for us Feeling confident in what our needs are Naming our strengths Seeing comments as being about the other person Identifying when we get triggered, and having tools to manage Proper care and feeding of the HSP Skillfulness around boundaries Finding ways to live peacefully with non-HPSs and honor everyone’s needs Self-care is non-negotiable! Things we struggle with People pleasing Putting others needs ahead of our own Feeling guilty when we take care of ourselves Feeling resentful when we meet other’s needs and not our own Feeling drained Feeling depleted Feeling unappreciated Feeling overwhelmed Feeling irritable, negative, easily annoyed, less patient, more critical of self and others, intolerant Outcomes Becoming comfortable with self-centering It’s ok to be the center of your universe You can’t pour from an empty cup Self-care is an imperative–which is ultimately a selfless act When we take care of ourselves, everyone benefits in the long run (not always immediately, but the overall benefit is for everyone) Listening to what we need and want Trusting what we need and want Wanting to take care of ourselves Knowing that when we take care of ourselves, we have more to offer others Feeling out of balance (or at least aware) when we are ignoring our own needs Having richer deeper relationships because we are fulfilled and coming from a place where we have more to offer Boundaries are an imperative part of self-care Things we struggle with Feeling uncomfortable with conflict Feeling guilty–picking up on other’s feelings that we might disappoint others (or they will get angry or frustrated) The guilt is not necessary (we haven’t done anything wrong–we’re supposed to set boundaries–it’s healthy, and boundaries are a natural and necessary part of any healthy relationship) Guilt is the best word we have in the English language, but it’s not really an accurate description Feeling not seen, not heard or not honored Not expressing our wants and needs Feeling resentful Feeling powerless Feeling taken advantage of Feeling like everyone else gets their needs met or what they want Outcomes Trusting our feelings Boundaries will directly reduce our overwhelm Learning how to set boundaries without emotion Boundaries make you a happy human; When we have an emotional flare, it’s because a boundary has most likely been violated (or a need has not been met) Learning how to compassionately, but kindly state what is and is not acceptable Seeing boundaries as creating safety for ourselves and others Seeing the benefits of setting limits Owning our power and KNOWING that our wants and needs are perfectly acceptable and reasonable Developing flexibility–not about the rule, but about the relationship and the context Perfectionism Things we struggle with Feeling not good enough Comparing Feeling inadequate Not starting things, paralysis Not pursuing dreams Overworking/overdoing trying to get a sense of “enoughness” Constant unease Critical of self and others Perfectionism is a myth Imposter syndrome–if people really saw who I am, they would leave Brene Brown says Whenever you have perfectionism driving, shame is riding shotgun Hustling for your sense of worth “Doing” for a sense of value instead of knowing we have value because we live and breathe Outcomes Knowing done is better than perfect Busting shame Brene Brown–Our vulnerability is what actually connects us Sense of belonging and connection comes from allowing ourselves to be seen imperfectly That’s where connection begins Living from our values–regardless of whether goals are met or not.  It can be about the process and not the outcome More self-acceptance More ease in relationships because the standards are more realistic Learning how to set goals that are achievable More contentment More satisfaction Actually accomplishing more due to acceptance Communication, vulnerability, authenticity Things we struggle with Afraid to say what you’re thinking Not trusting what you’re thinking Fear of judgment, criticism, being ridiculed Feeling like your point of view is wrong or not popular Afraid to really show up in relationships and allow yourself to be fully seen Being afraid to upset someone Being afraid to stir up problems in the relationship Not trusting that ruptures are repairable, and this actually points at growth We grow in relationships after a rupture Ruptures are a natural part of attachment–it doesn’t mean that there isn’t attachment Outcomes Educate others about the trait Why we need the lights low, Less stimulation Quiet areas Model healthy communication, authenticity, vulnerability More depth, closeness and trust in relationships Marshall Rosenberg’s non-violent communication All behavior is an attempt to get a need met Feelings and needs are never in conflict Strategies to get them met can be in conflict, and that requires creative problem-solving Life is figure out-able Creating a lifestyle that is HSP friendly and honors our HSP needs Things we struggle with Overwhelm Fatigue Resentment Feeling drained Overworking Living in a non-HSP world and trying to live like a non-HSP Outcomes Proper Care and Feeding of HSPs Getting enough rest, down time, quiet time Exercise Spirituality Just enough socializing Feeling a deeper sense of connection More meaning in your life Social justice work HSP style ~ having activist mentors Connecting with nature Learning how to do non-HSP events in manageable chunks Mindfulness & Self-Compassion Things we struggle with Overwhelmed and scattered Urge to numb out (TV, social media, Netflix) Outcomes Basic meditation instruction Formal and informal practices, moving meditation, guided meditation Learning how to curiously observe what comes up and to use it as information instead of reacting to things Self-acceptance More self-compassion and compassion for others Being more emotionally responsive vs emotionally reactive (Pause button) Meeting life on its terms instead of arm wrestling with it Demystifying emotions & Embracing our emotions Things we struggle with My emotions overwhelm me I can’t control my emotions I’m emotionally reactive I’m embarrassed by my emotions Affect-phobia I don’t want to feel my emotions, they won’t go away My feelings will hurt me / others Outcomes Basic education about emotion theory Emotions can’t hurt us Emotions are to be honored and felt Emotions are impermanent Emotions are not something we can control Creating safety to feel our emotions Emotions can inform our actions/behavior but do not need to drive our behavior Mindfulness Feelings come and go – just energy moving through us Deep sense of connection when we get comfortable having our feelings BIO Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping highly sensitive people thrive in love, work, and parenting highly sensitive children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering. She can be reached at jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com  or 215-292-5056. Learn more at heartfulnessconsulting.com or facebook.com/Heartfulnessconsulting. PODCAST HOST Patricia Young works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them in understanding their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online courses for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).   LINKS Jen’s Links Website--www.heartfulnessconsulting.comEmail--jen@heartfulnessconsulting.com Facebook--www.facebook.com/HeartfulnessConsulting Patricia’s Links:   Website--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram-- https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube-- https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/  E-mail-- unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
  2. Here on Mom After Hours, we talk about it ALL: uncertainty about motherhood, sex struggles after kids, and figuring out whether or not climbing the corporate ladder is or isn't for you.We're two 30-something moms here to discuss taboo topics with each other, and sometimes guests, to provoke the conversations that modern moms want and need to have.Think of us as the girlfriends you want to get together with, but life happens, and sometimes it's easier to listen to a podcast than it is to schedule a coffee date. ⁣⁣⁣Moms, get ready for lots of laughs, encouragement, and honest conversations! Subscribe to receive fresh, raw, and real episodes every other Thursday starting January 16, 2020.FACEBOOK: http://www.facebook.com/momafterhourspodcast
  3. Welcome to Grace for Single Parents: to inspire single moms to live their best life with God's grace and love.  Website: Grace for Single Parents Email me: jen@graceforsingleparents.com Sign up for Single Mom Resource Guide
  4. In season 1 of The Introvert’s Bubble, I had an episode about misconceived and preconceived notions of what introverts are like. I thought I would add a couple more that have been popping up lately and I have found particularly strange. These connect to the ones I mentioned last season, but have been added to. They think it makes the sayings more true for some reason. An example: “you’re a woman…” or “you’re a minority,” so you must be blank. These are the type of things that make you go “huh?”To check out the full show notes and blog post head over to Courageous Creativity. And to help out the podcast donate on PatreonSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/introvertsbubble)
  5. Joanne Jarrett MD shares her insights about being a hospital patient from both the patient and doctor's point of view.  Hospitalization comes in different varieties -- planned and unplanned-- and it pays to know how the hospital works to keep the sense of confusion and frustration to minimum.  With so much going on behind the scenes, it is often hard to figure out what the plan is and how close a patient is to being released to go home. But what are hospitals doing to keep patient and their families informed on a real time basis?  Don't forget that device to let you communicate with a loved one in the outside world.  Cozyclothesblog.com
  6. Joanne Jarrett MD is a retired family physician, blogger, mom, wife and entrepreneur and talks with me about her provocative blog post Three Ways We May Be Teaching Our Kids To Be Liars.  Joanne points out that dishonesty is a misguided short-cut when attempting to avoid hurt feelings and that kids need to learn to balance kindness and social grace with authentic response to actions.  This includes telling the truth about bullying, medical conditions, and life style choices in conversations about socially acceptable behavior versus accuracy of feelings. CozyClothesBlog.com
  7. Joanne Jarrett MD, a retired family physician and blogger, has come up with 26 things good doctors wish their patients knew about them as doctors, as human beings, and as patients themselves.  Of particular concern is the need to understand that doctors are juggling busy stressful schedules everyday, that some doctors might suffer from PTSD, how doctors often wonder what happened to patients long after their last visit, and what annoys doctors and patients alike.  As for running into a doctor in a social or public encounter, say hello and don't worry about them remembering your last examination. CozyClothesBlog.com for Things Good Doctors Wish Their Patients Knew    
  8. An ultra-brief intro to the podcast! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/uchenna-lizmay-umeh/support

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