Recently Texas SBC megachurch pastor Josh Howerton told brides that on the wedding night, they should "stand where he wants you to stand, wear what he wants you to wear, and do what he wants you to do." Sex was presented as something that HE has been waiting for his whole life, and that she has to provide.  There was no emphasis on how she actually has greater need to be cared for sexually, if you're going to begin well, than he does. Jay Stringer joins us today to talk about how the conversation around sex often leads to couples starting off badly--and also allows men to not have to grow up or do the work of being mature, emotionally healthy people.

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About Jay Stringer:

• Check out Jay's book Unwanted
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Links We Mentioned:

• Jay's first podcast with us on his book Unwanted
• Our book The Great Sex Rescue, with the stats on vaginismus and sexual pain
• Our books for engaged couples, The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
• Our podcast looking at Josh and Jana's Howerton's sex talk
• The podcast showing how Josh Howerton plagiarizes in his sermons
• The Orgasm Course
• The Marriage Night at Lakepointe Church Howerton was referring to 
• The study on the effects of orgasm the first time you have sex

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• The Great Sex Rescue
• She Deserves Better
• The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
• and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

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