Popular Reviews of Betrayal

Okay now, sit down...I am one of the people referenced in this podcast. I was friends with Spencer for about 8 years. After he separated from his first wife, we hooked up a few times. During these times, he confided to me that he was attracted to young girls. I was really into the kink scene in Atlanta at the time, and proposed Daddy/daughter roleplay as a safe alternative. I am pretty sure that I am the person that he asked to punch him, but I don't have emails to confirm that. I know that we talked a lot on a chat app as well as texting and emails. Honestly, the young girl thing creeped me out. He was very focused on it. I think that the thing about him wanting partners to call him "Daddy" was a part of that. I think that he may have asked me to do that. I'm foggy on that, but I wouldn't have had a problem with it.My point is that the while podcast ( so far, on ep 3) is focused on, "How could my husband have been living this secret life that I wasn't aware of? Poor me!" Well, you've got an email I sent him with a quote from "Lolita," referencing his fantasies. This is from 2010-ish. What exactly do you think that is referring to? Point here is that Jenifer Faison has my name and that email, yet she never contacted me to inquire about it. I think that this is because it doesn't fit her narrative of how Spencer was vicitimizing everyone, and we all had "no idea!" What else could you expect from someone who produced "Jersey Shore."Look; the real story is that this is a teacher who groomed and sexually abused his students, not a dude who was living a "secret life." I can understand the feelings of betrayal, but the real story is about these kids that he sexually abused, not you, Lady. And so far the podcast really minimizes this. And, once again, I can tell you that he told me way back in 2010 that he was sexually attracted to younger girls but that doesn't fit the narrative, so these interactions were not included. I find it repellent that Ms. Faison has made a self-indulgent podcast about the breakdown of her marriage, when the real issue here is a man who abused his position as a teacher to manipulate, groom, and abuse his students.

The series started off well, after the first few episodes I was totally engaged. However the series goes downhill and fast. During one episode a comparison is made between one of the adult women who engaged in an affair and of the victim of child sexual exploitation and I couldn't bring myself to listen to the last episode after the speakers rambled on and implied that this man was a victim of sex addiction.

I thought this podcast was exploitative of the s.a. victim. Why did she need to speak to the abuser’s wife? Why record it?Also, it’s particularly uninteresting and unhelpful to hear someone whine about how their husband betrayed them and how tough their life was when he was arrested. Then she supported him for some time.Also someone says the wife was not like the women her husband was texting, as if she’s somehow above them for some reason. I listened to 2.5 episodes and I’ll never get the time back. I thought I’d hear about her becoming an advocate for abuse victims but that wasn’t the case at all. All around icky. We get it she was a successful producer (they beat that post Mortem horse) so if it happens to her it can happen to peons like us?? AVOID!

Curious about the negative reviews - lots of judgment there. I can’t imagine how hard it was for these women to tell their story. Episode 9 is excellent - very informative.

This podcast is just sooooooo problematic and harmful in so many ways. So much subtle victim shaming, power abuse, and confusing rhetoric. This should not exist.

this is a self indulgent, abusive nightmare of a podcast....dissapointed

terrible

I really don't understand the negative reviews. I think this was an excellent podcast and it seems that those who didn't like it were more offended by the fact that much of the focus was on Jenifer's experience. I guess she isn't allowed to have been shocked or hurt by her former husband's actions. I listened to the whole thing (unlike some who passed judgement on her for having felt anything at all) and feel that she was more than appropriately supportive and compassionate of her husband's victims. She went out of her way to express outrage over his atrocious acts and let every single person she spoke with know that her heart was aching for them.I would recommend this podcast to anyone who's willing to take a deep dive into such a horribly abhorant experience without becoming so triggered by the subject matter that they end up discounting the material itself.

phew

I absolutely loved the first 2 episodes and was immediately pulled in. Then....it got weird. The wife trying to commiserate with someone who was an underage victim! That poor child. The other women, however....trying to say they were groomed and it's all Spence's fault....they just straight up had an affair. People have affairs for all sorts of reasons - like these women even said, "I had low self esteem", "my husband was always out of town"....okay? You still had an affair. I just felt really gross after the first couple of episodes.

Compelling and well done.

This podcast started out good but I soon found myself cheering for “Spence “ gag! I do feel sorry for the high school girl but the wife was the most annoying person on the planet .

Easily the worst mainstream larger budget podcast I've listened to. I don't buy anyone's viewpoint and the hosts seem to be so disingenuous. I feel sorry for the underage victims but everyone else is so unlikable.

Awful. I understand the wife felt betrayed but the real victim here is the young girl her husband sexually assaulted. This podcast is gross.

Too American soap opera... Trying to be a documentary but fails due to typical American "coming up next" and "previously"...

Raw and real!

Jenifer is a good producer. It's how she makes a living, period. Her ex husband reluctantly agreed to a phone interview and stated partly because of the production aspect and outcome. Fortunately, I listened to what he said withan open mind. All things considered, this is an extremely sensitive situationand I believed his "intent" to change when he married a second time. Thatphone exchange between them spoke volumes in so many different ways.With that said, I'm no fan of Spencer!....don't misunderstand. He successfullydefined betrayal.....as a husband, educator, co worker....the list goes on.Again "all things considered" most States use Age or Unable to consent whendetermining if a crime has occurred. High School students are Teenagers......not child/children. Many movies havestorylines about sexuality and relationships in High School flicks.Some sitcoms use fantasy role plays between married couples, e.g. wifedressed up in seductive school uniform.Reality shows are produced about teenage pregnancy.So yes, I liked this pod cast but not the path of destruction. Maybe Jenknew something was off in their marriage and ignored the warning signs?

I think the story might be good but it's hard to stay focused when they are so many commercial breaks during the podcast.

I loved it! Really moving.