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Welcome back , you guys , to the Butterfly Season podcast
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. I have a returning guest , sam
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Harper , one of my best friends . We
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last episode I cried . This
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episode she cried . It's so good
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, it's so vulnerable , it's so authentic
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. We went to places that I didn't think that
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we would even go to or touch on and
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we talk about , like masculine
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femininity , and we get deep on those terms
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, terms . I feel like these terms are thrown out
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and we don't really know what they truly
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mean . We go really deep on that and we talk about what
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it means to show up as your higher self
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and I'm excited for you have you here
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again , happy to be back . Yes
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, it's
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Mercury Retrograde , as we
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are very aware of . We're feeling it
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. So just a heads up for anyone listening , you kind
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of know what's going on . Nova
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, I'm so grateful that you're here today , especially
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under these circumstances , and by circumstances
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I mean you are typically on the side of things where you're here today
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, especially under these circumstances , and by circumstances
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I mean you
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are typically on the side of things where you're helping people facilitate
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their own transformation . Yeah , and now we're at a different side of things
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where I want to talk about your transformation
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and
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what comes with that is the vulnerability
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of all the things that you've worked
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through and the reason why I brought you on is
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because you were one of the first people to allow me
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to test my like framework that
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I had been working on . That I before
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like actually coming to or birthing the
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book 100% .
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Yes .
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So excited . Also , I do want to acknowledge that
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the importance
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of honoring
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all that it is to be so
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vulnerable about the things that
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you unearthed
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. So thank you for that .
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I'm already tearing up . Okay , here we
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go .
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Here we go . I think last time
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I was crying on my podcast
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with you this is fitting , it's fitting
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. So , sam
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, I mean we could just jump right into
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it . That's how we do it . Let's go . That's how we do it
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no lubrication , no warmup , no anything
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. We could just go right into it . Generally
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before we went through
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the framework , before you went through the journal , what
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new awareness or different
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perspective on awareness that
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you might've had ? What
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was new that came up for you in that process
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?
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Well , there was a lot of new things that were surfacing
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for me because , you know , as
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we grow , we learn deeper
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levels of ourselves and I
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am a lifelong student
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of growth and development , and so , for me
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, finding new levels of awareness
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and the inner journey is always
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something going on for me and
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I feel like karmically
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in this lifetime . It's all about
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interpersonal relationships and
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so it's really about that
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. Like I feel like I've got business
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figured out , I've got , I've
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got like certain areas in my life that I'm like , oh , that's
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cinchy as you would say
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, you know like pretty easy , like fluid
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, but relationships in general
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and lots of different relationship
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dynamics , has always been like that thing
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yeah , I'm , why can't I
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figure this out ? Or like what
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is really going on here that I'm not
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seeing . And so it was new layers
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of awareness of deeper parts
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of relationship and coming
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out of like a pretty wounded
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spot into really
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developing self-worth , and then that just takes
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you into deeper parts of that . And so
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that's where we
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landed .
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Yes , so I want to talk about your self-worth
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journey . I feel like there's such a misconception
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on self-worth , self-love
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, confidence
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. These are terms that we use
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often , but I think that self-worth
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and self-love end up being two different terms
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that are not an embodied feeling . The way confidence
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could seem like , whether you have
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it or not , typically we could embody
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that feeling . I feel like that's fake it till
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you make it Right . But when it comes
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to self-worth , it's
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to me feels like felt like
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a mystical word that I would hear and
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didn't understand , cause I'm like I have
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no problem with that , thinking I'm confident
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, right . I would love to hear what
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your self-worth journey has been
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like . What
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was it before ? What did you work ?
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through ? Where was the awareness around that ? And what are you working on now ? That's so beautiful . So
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I think it starts off with self-confidence , right
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, and then that morphs no pun
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intended morphs into the self-worth
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journey . So to
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have confidence , like you said , is just being
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consistent , like showing up for yourself . You
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can be confident and not feel worthy , but
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I don't think you can be worthy and not have confidence
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, like it doesn't work backwards , right . So
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for me it was like really getting through the confidence
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thing of no longer faking it until you make it was
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like really getting through the confidence thing of no longer faking it till
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you make it , like really feeling
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confident about myself and how I show up and being just
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in integrity of who I am . But
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with that I was like wait a second , why is this not enough ? Right , and so similar to how I think people
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think like , okay , if I have X amount of money in the bank account , then I'll
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be happy . Well , if I have this amount of money in the bank account , then I'll be happy . Well , if
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I have this amount of confidence , then that means I'm worthy
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and it's not . It doesn't match up
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that way . And so for me
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it was really understanding , like what self-worth
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meant . And I remember , probably seven
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years ago I was doing like a workshop
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or something and this girl asked me like about
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my self-worth and
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I was just like , hmm , what do you
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what ? I didn't have anything to say to her
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and that was like very striking because
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I had never met myself there
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, right . And so the journey of
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self-worth is like really discovering the parts
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of me that
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feel sovereign and
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like a birthright , and
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coming back to that truth and it not
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being what somebody else deems me
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as , but me
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in myself as my being is worthy
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, yeah , in and of itself . So coming
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to the truth of that by taking
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other people out of the variables
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, and it just being me against
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me essentially . And that's
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again like these interpersonal
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relationships that in and of itself
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with me too , like not just personal
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relationships outside of me , but what's
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my relationship like with myself . And
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so that's like the beginning
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of the journey for me , for
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self-worth at least Can you give me
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a tangible example
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, I'll start with mine .
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Okay , so , because I love what
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you said and I think that at least
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my journey has been . I hear
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a lot of people say these things . I
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can logically understand
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it , but why is it working for them and not
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for me ? And what
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I didn't realize , that , in
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terms of worthiness , where
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I was feeling like I wasn't worthy
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is by giving all of my stuff away
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to try to get something . Yeah , so
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I would . Someone would ask
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me even for
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help and I would be like
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, oh , I can do this , I can do this , I can do this , I can
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do this , I can do this , I can do this , I can do this . Until I'm
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like I actually , if I did
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all of those things , it would be so out of integrity
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, not just generally , but I would be
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stretching myself thin as fuck to do
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that . Right , right , right . But I would still do it
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because I feel like my worth is
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attached to my self-worth , is attached to
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how well I can help you at the
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thing . And so if it's attached to
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how well I can help you with a thing , I will pull
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out the gambit of things that I can do to
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help you , exactly Right , but then I've
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just self-abandoned myself because I
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did 50,000 things . You literally
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asked for one thing yeah , but
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because I've attached my worth to it and my worth
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is infinite , I am just worthy as a human
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being , because I am , because
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you just not because you said it , but you also said it , yeah , and that's how I
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would . That is where I realized
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, oh , my self-worth is low
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.
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Yeah , wrapped up in like the giving right , so
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mine would be in love
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of . Okay , if I
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is similar , like if I do this inside of a
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relationship , then that means I'm
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lovable , and if I'm lovable then that
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means I'm worthy . And so that's
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how it showed up over and over and over again
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throughout my life with my parents who were emotionally
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unavailable , physically unavailable
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, like just not around . And so as
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a child it was like , okay , can I perform
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? Or like be the A student or , you
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know , be a good girl , and then if
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I do that , then they'll love me and then that
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means I'm worthy , right , like I'm worth
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being here on this planet , right
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, if I don't have that , then who am I ? Right
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? And
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then that showed up in a lot of ways , a lot in college , you know , like giving away my
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time , my energy , my attention
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, everything all
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of it right In this
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, like almost desperate way
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of like love me , love me , love me , love me . Like
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just look at me , love me , you know . And
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now I look back and I'm like , oh , sweet
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girl , like I'm sorry , I'm
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sorry I didn't catch this earlier , but
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it still was showing up in my life
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, like not that long ago , of
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like , okay , if
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I , if I sacrifice it
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usually comes down to sacrifice for me is
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, if I sacrifice this part of me , then
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they'll love me more , then I'm worthy
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, then that's what I'm bringing you
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know how much can I sacrifice
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, and it's like now that I'm
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speaking this out loud um my aunt
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on my dad's side , you know , very
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Catholic and the more you sacrifice
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, the more heavenly
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you are the you know like all
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of that , and so it was like it
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was a good thing to sacrifice .
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Right , and I almost feel like
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in in my journey and I
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feel like you might be able to see your version of this , but
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in my journey the
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giving everything away was
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on the outside , things that
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were praised . So if I , even
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just because my worth would be tied to all of the things
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, right , like when you're on a self-worth journey
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, you realize your worth is tied
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to everything except for yourself , right
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? And so in the version in the
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lane of business , I would tie my worth
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to my doing and what I would do . And I remember
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, even back when I had my agency , I
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, I have a creative
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brain , but I'm not the person that's like in Adobe
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, doing the thing Right . I'm the person that's like
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these three things . This is the vibe try to move it
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like this and morph it and whatever . And I
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felt like having
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a graphic designer on our team made
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me . I kept feeling like this , but I didn't understand
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what it meant . I felt like I was unworthy
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Unworthy is the wrong word . I felt
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like why do I feel like I'm not valued
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? Or why do I feel like , if I have her here
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or him here in this role , why
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do I feel like the client's
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going to fire us and just try to work with them
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. Right , like those were the feelings . It was
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never oh , self-worth , because I had no
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real idea about that , but
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it was always the feeling of , oh , the
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client is going to work with
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them , and then what's my use
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, what's my role ? So what I would
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do is I would take
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on so much of the work
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because I felt like , well
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, that's how I really have value in this situation
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. Yeah , how did self-worth
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show up for you in relationships
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? It could be for the romantic lane
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, the friendship lane , the acquaint , acquaintance lane
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. How has that showed up for you before you had
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the awareness , and what did it feel like ?
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so if I
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had what
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looked like on the outside
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as something that looked
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really good , then that
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means I'm worthy right like
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I Like . I have this partner , it
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looks great . I have this
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business , it looks great . I
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have like , well
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, I can't really count Quinn , he is the best
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but like my son , you know , like
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, and he's like a cutie pie and
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so it's like the , the facade
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of things looking good , but really none
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of it is super great , Right
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? So it was like well , if it looks good
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, then that means I'm worthy . Right
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. And if it doesn't , then I
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don't have anything to provide . I remember
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a friend of mine , probably
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five years ago . She had called me and she's
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like Sam , why do you always have to look
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, look good or like be on
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or like always dress up ? You know , and
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I was just like at the time I was just like that's
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who ? So I am , I like to like , I like
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to look good , I like to present myself
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in a certain way , and then
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now , years later , I'm like oh , I
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wasn't even allowing myself to be messy , because
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if I looked messy or
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undone or not perfect
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, then I didn't feel worthy . And
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now I'm like I'm showing up everywhere
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like really undone , and we were like kind of joking
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right before we started recording about outing
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myself on TikTok , and I'm
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like that was a really messy , really
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really messy part of my life . Yeah
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, and it's because now I
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don't depend on other people accepting
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it or not , it just is what it is
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and like I know that I'm worthy regardless
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.
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Yeah , and so would you
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. Do you remember the feeling
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that you would use to define worth ? I
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know your background is therapy . Yeah
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, I know that you have so
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much to your repertoire so you have
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the verbiage . But for somebody who doesn't have
13:49
the verbiage to know that it's worthiness
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is the core issue , because
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I remember tell
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me .
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Yeah , I would say and we've talked
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about this is like outsourcing
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or like depending on
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somebody to fulfill something for you that you
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can fulfill for yourself . And
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so I think it's that of like worthiness really comes down to fulfilling all
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of your needs in yourself , like really truly everything , everything
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, everything , and then everybody on
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the outside . That's just like a cherry on top of it . It's
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a nice additive to
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the sauce you've already got right , you
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know and that's what I was doing
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too . I was like depending
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on other people to fulfill something
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in me that they were never
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going to be able to fulfill , because
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it's not their job . Right
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to create my worthiness , it's mine
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, and so it was like outsourcing
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that to other people . And it was in like
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a really deep breath work with Stefanos a
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couple of weeks ago , maybe a week ago
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where it like really clicked
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for me . I'm like , oh my God , it's always been me , like
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it's always been me to
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be the one to decide , and it really is
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a decision of like I'm worthy
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regardless . If somebody likes me
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doesn't like me if I perform well , if I don't
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perform well , if I'm showing up perfectly
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or if I'm showing up messy , I'm
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worthy regardless . And
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so it's not outsourcing
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that to other people anymore , outsourcing
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my trust , outsourcing like even
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little things you know , and
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now it's's just like it's
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not to the point of like toxic independence
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, because that's not it either like
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we need people in our lives but it's
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like . I'm totally fulfilled
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in myself and anything
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extra is great right .
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What does toxic independence look like ?
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um , that's you know . For for me I'll
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speak for myself is when I get
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like hyper independent and I'm like , no , I can do it all
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myself , I don't need you . And
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I remember , in a relationship being like I don't
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need you , I want you , and realizing
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that actually was not helpful in a relationship
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at all , why People
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want to be wanted , right . And
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it really did dawn on
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me like , oh , I actually do need your help , like
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we cannot do everything by ourselves . You
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know , I can try and I'm pretty good at it , because I've like grown up doing that
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right , but
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I do need people , but not
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in the way that like that phrase comes out , not
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like I need you to survive , but like actually I do need help . It not in the way that like that phrase comes out , right , not like I need you to survive , but like actually
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I do need help , right , it's
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humility , you know .
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So talk
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to me about some of the fears that come
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up now that you are being
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the person to meet your own need For
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me . I'll go first . Because
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I tied my worth to calling
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it a . Let's just call it a performance . It doesn't matter
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what it is . I'm not literally tap dancing Although
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that was one of the ways it started yeah
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, right , like performing
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and my mom not being there . But when I was the best
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, I felt like not . I felt
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when I was the best in the room , then parents would
17:05
tell my mom how great she is , and then I would get
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praise from my mom . Right , performance
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equals love . Some
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of the fears that have come up in my interpersonal
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relationships is if we remove
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the performance , if you remove
17:19
the expectation of performance
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from me , I feel like
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now you're not going to be my friend
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. Now we're not going to be in partnership . Now we're not going to be
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in partnership . Now we're not going to be in relation together , because
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what do I now ? That's just a thing that
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comes up . That is the
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fear that I met with . I literally
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just went through this loop with my husband
17:39
. He had removed expectation on something
17:41
. And I'm like I started
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crying . And he's like why are you crying ? And I was like I
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just feel like . I feel
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like this means you're going to leave me . And he's
17:50
like whoa , how did ? we
17:52
get here and I'm like that's just the fear that comes
17:54
up when you remove the expectation of performance
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of me , right , and it's like so crazy
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because our minds take us to this place where
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if I don't perform
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because my worth is attached to it , then I don't
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get the love . If I don't perform because my worth
18:08
is attached to it , then I don't get the love . If I don't get the love , that means I lose
18:10
everyone around me .
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yeah , what fear comes up for you . Well
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, this is something that we've talked about . Is the void
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right ? If I'm not
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doing x , y
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and z and there's a void
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, there's a space that's left for
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the unknown . That's
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a really scary place for me
18:28
to be , because I like to fill
18:30
the void . I like the
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spaces to be where they're supposed
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to be . I'm sounding like a control
18:37
freak right now .
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But at the end of the day , that is what
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this all is right . For me at
18:43
least , it's control . Right , I will people-please
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to control . I will emotionally monitor
18:47
the room to control . I will outsource
18:50
my safety for perceived
18:52
control . Of course , it's all this like illusion
18:54
of control at the end of the day
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, guised in whatever
18:59
words that we want to call it . Um
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, and the crazy thing about this void
19:03
that you and I talk about is that you're
19:06
leaving room for a different action to
19:08
happen , because all of this is just patterns , right
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, it's just a repeated pattern , right
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? My performance equals love is
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a repeated pattern from my childhood and I just
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bring it into every facet of my life . Now
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and now . I get the exact
19:21
same outcome every time , and the void
19:23
is choosing a different pattern to
19:26
get a different outcome . But what happens
19:28
is , when you choose something different , you leave
19:30
space for something else to happen , but
19:32
the fear will try to fill
19:35
that space .
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Right , and it does . It does fill
19:38
that space , but what
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we should all know is that fear
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is really our companion , and if we can
19:45
collaborate with fear , then
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it's just showing us what's important
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to us , and so it's not something to
19:51
be like fearful
19:53
of , it's like OK , I see you , you're , you're
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showing me that this is important to
19:57
me . How can we collaborate in this experience
19:59
to bring something different ? Right . And
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so for me , the fear right is the
20:03
void of not having somebody with
20:05
me . Fear
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, right is the void of not having somebody with me , um , and because , as I mentioned , like my parents
20:12
weren't really around , I started living on my own when I was 16 and then filling those
20:14
voids with other people to
20:17
either , you know , perceived
20:19
stability , because it was always that , or
20:21
safety , um , or
20:23
somebody loving me , because I was lacking that
20:25
, and and so now the
20:27
void for me is like how much space
20:29
can I have ? And
20:31
just like really fiercely loving
20:34
myself and allowing me
20:36
to fill that void , yeah , and
20:39
so I don't know right now I
20:41
don't feel very fearful of that . I feel really good
20:43
in that , yeah , but two months
20:45
ago it was a different story
20:47
, right , it's so funny I was .
20:49
I was on a walk with a friend and I was like telling
20:51
a story and I'm like , yeah , and I did this and I did that
20:53
, and I was like kind of like poking fun at like the
20:56
version of me that was a week ago and she's like
20:58
that was a week ago and I'm like girl , I am not
21:00
her . No , no , it was a week
21:02
ago and I've been 10 different people since
21:05
then , exactly .
21:05
Especially right now , like things are moving
21:08
so quickly and awareness is
21:10
coming to the surface very fast and
21:12
answers are coming very like there's a lot of clarity
21:15
and so , yeah , we're
21:17
not the same person . We were in November
21:19
when we were like starting talking about this Right , and
21:21
then I don't know about you , but I've
21:23
had like a million deaths since
21:25
. November . So like I'm
21:28
, new RIP .
21:29
I'm brand new , yes , brand new . A
21:31
million different versions
21:34
, better versions . Yeah , my
21:36
therapist asked me when we were talking
21:38
about what happens for me and I don't know if this happens
21:41
for you , but like what happens for me with this like performance
21:43
equals love is that I'm constantly
21:46
competing with everybody
21:48
at anything . Yeah , Like there was a time
21:50
where I would walk into a room and I
21:52
can , just because I'm great at emotionally
21:55
monitoring which trauma response I
21:57
can also see who's the ? best , yeah , and
22:00
then my whole focus is just beating that
22:02
person . It would . It was a
22:04
lot of the reason why I stopped going to the gym
22:06
that I was going to . I literally could not even help
22:08
myself , wow , and it would be all
22:11
consuming , and I couldn't even run
22:13
my own race because I was so focused on
22:15
beating someone else that the moment I focused
22:17
on myself , I would pick myself apart , and
22:19
it was just like I need tools to navigate
22:21
this . I'm going to leave the gym so that I can work on myself
22:23
, to then go back to the gym . And then
22:25
right Because it's . I mean , it's like
22:27
a high intensity training . We all do it as a collective
22:30
, so you can see who's not
22:32
right . But , like , if you're running your own race
22:34
, you really don't give a fuck about that . You can't
22:37
, there's no room for that . There's no room
22:39
. But because
22:41
I was outsourcing , that was what was coming back to me . The feedback
22:43
was that I was my own worst
22:45
enemy , and I think part of my
22:47
self-love journey is
22:50
loving myself
22:53
in spite of , in
22:55
spite of feeling how bad
22:57
about myself , that I would feel when I would talk about
23:00
myself badly to myself . Right
23:02
, and being able to be like , okay , to your point , allowing
23:04
the fear to be a companion or this like inner critic
23:07
to be a companion . Yeah , um , to show me
23:09
what I really want . And what I really want is , if I
23:11
want to be the best in the room , it's not because I'm competing
23:13
for it , it's because I'm going
23:15
there weekly to this gym , or
23:18
daily or whatever . I'm consistent . Yeah
23:20
, in my own journey , that is how
23:22
I'm the best . And my therapist goes so
23:24
are you the best ? She asked me that are you the
23:26
best ? And I was like well , I
23:29
feel I mean , there's other people like
23:31
in my space that . And
23:33
she was like no , uh-huh . And
23:37
I'm like what do you mean ? No , you asked me if I was the best and
23:39
I was like how could I answer that ? I would need a
23:41
pool of people to tell you if I'm
23:43
the best . I need to know . Right , if
23:45
we're ranking , there has to be someone else . She's like
23:47
no , are you the best version that you've
23:49
ever been today ? And I'm like I
23:52
am the best that I've ever been today . I have the
23:54
most awareness that I've ever had . I have the most
23:56
clarity on the things that I've ever
23:58
had . I am the absolute best
24:00
I've ever been . Let's go . And
24:09
I was like , oh shit , that's what it means to run your own race . So I say I share
24:11
that because I want to know what
24:13
your self-love journey has been Like .
24:14
long and steady and
24:16
lots of like side
24:19
paths to go on and lots of running
24:21
the same lap over and over again , over and over
24:23
again , thinking I would find something new
24:25
. And really right now
24:28
it's about showing
24:30
up for myself and going a lot
24:32
slower . So
24:34
I was talking to my therapist this week or
24:37
a couple weeks ago and I was
24:39
really reflecting . So here
24:41
I am , outing myself I'm
24:43
out of . I was engaged , I'm no longer engaged . You know I'm out
24:45
of I was engaged , I'm no longer engaged . And
24:48
the typical version
24:50
of me would go in guns , a
24:52
blazing and
24:58
fight through it and
25:04
like be hard , and this
25:06
time I'm not . It's like
25:08
soft and like be hard , and
25:11
this time I'm not . It's like
25:14
soft .
25:14
And what's the fear that comes up in the softness ?
25:20
Because this feels like a voyage
25:22
. It's not . It's
25:25
not a well , it is a fear . So an old version of me would have
25:27
just like gone heavy in the fuck
25:30
you , but it ended beautifully
25:32
. So there was no space for that , right . So
25:36
I couldn't do that , right , there was no reason
25:38
to and I wasn't going to make up a reason to , and
25:42
I would have just gone hard into the . Well
25:44
, I'm going to glow up so hard . You're going to regret your
25:46
life . And
26:00
this time I didn't have that desire and
26:03
I wanted to go slow and I didn't necessarily want to have
26:05
the glow up and I thought
26:07
it was actually interesting . I
26:15
spent like three weeks kind of hibernating and not looking pretty
26:17
, looking real
26:19
messy , and not
26:22
going back into like hard workouts
26:24
, like that's what I would do . I'd
26:27
go like CrossFit or like super
26:29
hard in the gym . I would start
26:31
a new business . I would go
26:34
on a really amazing vacation
26:36
. I would literally try to make somebody
26:38
regret their entire existence because
26:41
, like , like , I'm going to show you , I'm going to show you what
26:43
you missed out on , and there was no
26:45
space for that this time . And
26:48
so the fear I think that came up
26:50
initially . I'm not fearful of it anymore
26:52
, because you know , a week ago I was somebody
26:54
different , because you know that's
26:57
older , I mean , I'm a newer now
26:59
but Right . But
27:02
the initial fear was if I don't
27:04
go hard , am
27:06
I going to be able to survive ? Because
27:09
I'm a warrior and that's
27:11
how I have survived . Everything in
27:13
the past is like muscle
27:15
it , you know grit through it . Pull
27:18
your bootstraps up and go Like just
27:20
go . You cannot look backwards , they
27:23
don't deserve your glance back
27:25
, like you just have to go . And
27:27
now it's like I
27:30
can be slow and I'm
27:32
soft and I'm staying in my feminine
27:34
, which is a discipline for me because I'm like really
27:36
good at being in the masculine . And
27:40
so the fear is like can I , is this
27:42
weak If
27:44
I stay soft and open ? Is
27:47
this weak ? No
27:51
, it's not .
27:53
It's actually a really difficult thing to do , it's
27:55
really difficult .
27:56
I'm really proud of myself .
27:58
I'm proud of you . I'm so proud of you . Thanks
28:00
, and self-love is being proud of myself . I'm proud of you . I'm so proud of you . Thanks , and self-love is
28:02
being proud of yourself yeah .
28:05
Yeah , I like , and
28:07
I also like what I like to do for
28:10
kind of like tracking my
28:12
progress and my growth is I like to
28:14
revisit old places
28:16
that I've been Either physically
28:19
or like even go into conversation
28:21
with people from the past and
28:24
just kind of do like a pulse check , like where am I
28:26
at in this dynamic . And
28:28
I had an opportunity to have a conversation
28:30
with somebody from a few worthy and and
28:33
I was like journaling it
28:35
all out and
28:47
I'm like I I
28:49
can provide so much better for myself , and
28:52
so it was like a really beautiful aha moment
28:54
. So that's also like a good pulse check
28:56
of like where your self-worth growth is
28:59
at .
29:00
Right . When you say I'm worthy
29:02
of what , I
29:04
feel like there are people who are listening . I know there's a version
29:07
of me that I had no clue what
29:09
it worthiness meant . I had this friend who like
29:11
have this podcast on worthiness . Her name's Sandra
29:13
Chuma . I voice noted her and was
29:15
like I am
29:17
being told that I need to work on my self-worth
29:20
. I have no clue what that means
29:22
or what that is . And when you say I'm worthy
29:24
of what ? So
29:28
I guess and I know now that that's different
29:30
iterations- but in this moment , when you're like
29:32
, I know I'm worthy . I love myself so much . I'm
29:34
worthy of what ?
29:36
I think for me it's , you know , not
29:38
outsourcing , being
29:41
loved by somebody else to make love
29:44
mean something like
29:46
I love me and for
29:49
, I think , to the like . The point
29:51
, like the root of all of it is we
29:53
all have different versions of what worthy means
29:55
right and what is at the core of that something
29:58
. It's love . Most of the time it's love , but it can . The time it's
30:00
love but it can be safety , it can be acceptance
30:02
, but acceptance means what
30:04
you know , love typically , like
30:06
it all comes back to that . Um , so
30:10
for me it's , it's being
30:13
lovable , having love
30:15
, receiving love , giving love without
30:18
circumstances , without consequences
30:22
, without self-abandoning
30:25
. Worthy
30:27
for me is like just knowing
30:29
who I am .
30:32
What were some ways that you
30:34
would . What
30:36
are some ways that you love yourself , that you're loving
30:38
yourself now , that you were showing yourself love
30:41
now , or showing yourself that you're worthy now that you
30:43
wouldn't typically before it
30:46
really is staying soft , staying
30:49
really soft and feminine
30:51
and keeping my heart open .
30:53
Um , because prior
30:56
it was like I'm gonna
30:58
give you part of me , you're going
31:00
to validate I'm worthy of love
31:02
. That means I have some power
31:05
and control , right , it's like this
31:07
like back and forth thing . It's like very
31:09
codependent and now
31:12
it's like I don't need any of that and
31:15
so I
31:17
don't know I'm I'm actually really interested to see how
31:19
this is going to unfold for me
31:21
, not going into , like the hard
31:24
parts of myself and being
31:26
really strong , like
31:28
quote unquote strong , like
31:37
not keeping the shells and the barricades and the locks
31:39
and like all the things up against me . I still feel
31:41
very open and like literally even the smallest
31:43
parts of my life , like I'm eating differently
31:46
because it feels softer in my body . I'm
31:48
doing Pilates instead of doing
31:50
like a hard hit workout . I'm
31:53
, you know , sleeping in a little
31:55
bit more when before I was like okay , 5
31:57
am club , like we gotta get up and hustle
32:00
, you know it's . It's like small
32:02
iterations in my daily routine
32:04
that really add up to
32:06
make me love myself and
32:08
feel really worthy of my existence
32:10
like purpose and
32:13
deep love of the self
32:15
.
32:16
It's so interesting because I feel like with
32:18
respect to self-worth and
32:20
talking about something from an
32:22
embodied place , and by embodied
32:25
I mean wisdom
32:27
. When I say wisdom , I mean by a lived experience
32:29
. The reason why I'm unpacking
32:32
these words is because I feel like for so long when
32:34
I would hear people talk about I'm in my feminine . I
32:36
need to be in my feminine , I need to be in flow . Yeah
32:38
, I'm worthy , I'm like all of these
32:40
, like I . I get it logically but
32:42
like tangibly what the fuck ? Right
32:44
? Yeah . And so I've
32:47
noticed in my own journey , the
32:50
deeper I get with myself , meaning
32:53
when I meet myself in
32:55
the shadowy parts what do I mean by shadow ? The
32:57
parts that I felt like I didn't love about myself
32:59
and realize okay , why do I feel
33:02
this way ? What is this telling me ? How
33:04
can I be a companion with the fear ? How
33:06
can I take a new action that allows the fear
33:08
to show up , so that I can be in a void to
33:10
allow something new to create in my
33:13
life a new pattern ? I've
33:15
noticed that in that depth , I
33:18
start to feel more
33:20
. By feeling more . I feel
33:22
happiness way more
33:25
, I feel sadness way more
33:27
, I feel love way more
33:29
, and I didn't think that
33:31
there was a more , to more right
33:33
.
33:33
Like , you're like yeah .
33:35
I love you , I've capped out . I've capped out . This
33:37
is the max love I could ever feel . And then I'm
33:39
like , wow , I'm loving myself so much more
33:41
and I feel like I have that much more to give
33:43
to someone else . And it ends up being
33:45
um , actually
33:49
heard that this was wrong , but as above , so
33:52
below , or the above is the below
33:54
, however you want to phrase that , but
33:56
it's true . Like the depth in which I
33:58
can meet myself allows
34:00
me to meet other people , and it's not
34:02
lost on me that this is an interpersonal
34:04
relationship . Is what you're talking about ? Relationships
34:07
Worth around , interpersonal
34:09
relationships , whether that be romantic
34:11
friendship , whatever it is
34:13
business . You
34:16
, meeting yourself here and being soft
34:18
here allows you to experience . You
34:20
, meeting yourself here and being soft here allows you to experience the depth of the
34:22
pain , allows you to experience
34:24
the maximum
34:27
, the equal opposite . I mean , it's a universal
34:29
law .
34:30
Yes , it's a universal law , yeah
34:32
, so how that's showing up
34:34
in my life , just to like unpack it a little bit
34:36
more , I'm like the feminine and the softness
34:38
, right . So
34:44
I could go hard and then things would be hard or I could stay soft
34:47
, which I've been in , and what
34:49
I'm receiving by staying
34:51
in the soft is more abundant
34:53
than I've ever had , and
34:56
so I'm receiving at
34:58
a capacity that I didn't even know was available
35:01
to me , because I wouldn't let
35:03
myself stay soft or
35:05
even like explore that , because
35:07
I thought I needed to be hyper-independent
35:09
and strong and masculine and get shit done and
35:11
all that .
35:12
So yeah , to your point is
35:14
being soft has allowed
35:17
me to receive , and then
35:20
I'm not feeling like I have to outsource , I'm just accepting
35:23
, right it's like this
35:25
acceptance which I feel like ends
35:27
up being balance not
35:30
always , but most of the time and
35:32
I , what I'm coming to realize is that
35:34
the pendulum will swing
35:37
, yeah , and it's our purpose
35:40
to be in balance , in harmony
35:42
with this side of the pendulum
35:44
and this side of the pendulum . Because you
35:46
could go back , you could go hyper
35:48
feminine and then , yeah , we foot
35:52
off the gas and the masculine , but then we have
35:54
intention with no action , right
35:56
, right ? Or you can go hyper
35:58
on the masculine and we only have
36:00
action , no intention . We're wondering why
36:02
, like , the morality of it all feels
36:05
off , but the
36:07
balance is where your intentions
36:09
meet , your actions , yeah , and then
36:11
true change happens . How
36:14
are you preventing yourself from allowing the pendulum
36:16
to swing fully ? if you are
36:18
actually , yeah , receiving
36:20
abundance by being in so much
36:22
flow .
36:23
Yeah , so it's a . It could be a slippery
36:25
slope , right , but for me , like
36:27
I truly don't believe in balance . So
36:30
, hot take here and I think that we
36:32
have moments of balance . But
36:34
to be in a state of balance I don't believe
36:36
in , um , because we're oscillating always
36:39
. Like we woke up this morning feeling a certain
36:41
way the day brought us into
36:44
a different part of the pendulum , right , and
36:46
so for me it's really like bringing
36:48
the ends of the pendulum closer
36:51
together , so , rather than them swinging
36:53
from one side to this far
36:55
edge side , it's making
36:57
the pendulum smaller , and so
36:59
the vibration between
37:02
the two is much smaller
37:04
, and then it feels like it's in
37:06
balance but , really like you're not
37:08
drifting too far from one side to the
37:10
other , and so that's where I'm finding
37:12
myself at right now is , how can
37:14
I find those like micro moments
37:16
in between ? I don't want a huge pendulum
37:18
, I want a tiny little , microscopic
37:21
pendulum .
37:22
Controllable pendulum ? It's not about control
37:25
. I'm just joking with you . I'm
37:28
just joking with you but with
37:31
respect to that having
37:33
not much variance , how
37:37
I feel like someone listening might be like that's
37:39
exhausting . I have to , and
37:42
I think it could be because
37:44
I have to be so present to
37:46
be able to flip it back and forth and
37:48
flip it back and forth . You do have to
37:50
be present , you do , but what would you say
37:52
to somebody who's like this , is so exhausting , that
37:54
seems exhausting . It seems more
37:56
exhausting to be right , a
37:59
smaller swivel , cause you're constant
38:01
. It's a constant reframe , there's a constant redirection
38:03
. Um , you're
38:06
being proactive , yes , right , and I
38:08
feel like you get better outcomes when you're proactive , as
38:10
opposed to allowing
38:12
yourself to be in so much flow and receive and
38:14
receive , and receive . And then now you've gotten somewhere
38:16
and you're like wait , I lost myself , right , or
38:19
in so much action and you're like , wait , I lost
38:21
myself . Yeah
38:23
, you're kind of like on cruise control for a little bit and then
38:25
eventually you are . You arrive to the point where
38:27
you're tired of your own shit , yeah , and
38:30
then you make a change . But what would you say to somebody
38:32
who is like that , feels exhausting ?
38:34
it is exhausting , but in that
38:36
journey you , you gain spiritual
38:39
resilience , energetic resilience
38:41
, and that's the whole point . Right is
38:43
to have the capacity
38:45
to hold larger
38:48
space , have a
38:50
wider bandwidth to experience
38:53
yourself , and in
38:55
that is when the pendulum actually gets
38:57
smaller . It's how much
38:59
of you can you hold
39:02
? And so when
39:04
we're used to running away from ourselves
39:06
, that's like the easy way
39:09
out , you know . That's why people who have grown up in trauma
39:11
love chaos . We understand chaos
39:13
. I know what to do in chaos . My body
39:15
knows how to respond in chaos . I'll choose chaos
39:17
because I know i's predictable
39:20
. When you're holding space
39:22
for yourself and loving yourself in the shadow
39:24
and the light and the masculine and the feminine , in
39:26
these micro moments of balance , is
39:29
that's where you're able
39:31
to like , really feel into
39:33
the presence of self and not
39:35
run away from the self . And it's just
39:37
like anything new that you're trying out , like you're
39:40
. It's going to take some time . It's a
39:42
muscle that you have to train a little bit
39:44
, but once you're training it , there's no turning
39:46
back . There's no like when
39:48
you know , you know , yeah , you when you know
39:50
you can't unknow , you cannot
39:52
unknow .
39:53
And now you're making a conscious decision
39:55
to choose the wrong thing , which is the which
39:57
ends up feeling even harder , yeah , than when you were subconsciously choosing the wrong
40:00
thing , which ends up feeling even harder than when you were subconsciously choosing
40:02
the wrong thing .
40:02
I'll say it does come with like
40:05
how
40:08
do I describe this ? Even Like your
40:12
soul signed up for it for one , and
40:14
so you're going to get there eventually
40:16
. But it's like how long do you want to be on the
40:18
journey and imagine the output
40:20
of energy that it takes going from one
40:22
side of the pendulum to the huge other side of the pendulum
40:25
, rather than these micro ones ? Right
40:27
, I would rather use my energy
40:29
and well spent in the
40:31
micro moments , knowing that I'll get a better
40:33
output there , than trying to recalibrate
40:36
every time . So , yes , it's
40:38
hard , but your
40:40
soul is ready and prepared for it . You wouldn't
40:42
even be thinking about it if it wasn't your time
40:44
. And this is maybe just an initiation
40:47
into that , or like a clue , like
40:49
a little breadcrumb of like Hmm , I've heard that a couple of times
40:52
, why does that keep coming up ? And then
40:54
you know rabbit hole .
40:55
Then you're deep . You're deep right
40:57
down there . And then everyone else at the bottom
40:59
like welcome , hello , with tears
41:01
in their eyes , happy and painful ones . I'm
41:06
curious at this version
41:08
of you . What would
41:10
you tell whatever
41:13
version of you ? What would you tell
41:15
them ? And you decide
41:17
the version of you I
41:19
don't know the version that might need to hear what
41:21
this version of Sam has to say , because
41:24
you are so different in
41:26
the best way . Yeah , where you've
41:28
come , where you are right now , is a
41:31
different Sam than I've ever seen .
41:33
Yeah , I would say
41:35
even to myself six months ago oh
41:50
yeah , it's going
41:52
to be scary , but , like I've been through scarier things and
41:58
if this means you get to truly love yourself , then lean all
42:00
the way in . And
42:03
I think that's where a lot of us get hung up is not knowing when the end is going
42:05
to happen , because the end is just the beginning , right , right , it's , it's always
42:07
that way , and so for
42:10
the six month ago
42:12
version of me , there was
42:14
a lot of things that I was scared of
42:16
, because I didn't know what it was going to look like and
42:19
and I had like made this whole vision
42:21
of what my life was going to look like . And
42:23
now it's not that at all , and
42:26
I'm so excited
42:28
for what is to come because I
42:30
do know myself better , I have so
42:32
much more worth and I'm like , oh damn
42:34
, like this is going to get real good
42:36
, because what I thought was going to be good
42:39
is beautiful
42:42
in its own right for that version
42:44
of Sam . But now I'm really excited
42:46
for what's to come . So it's going to be scary
42:48
, but it's going to be worth it .
42:49
Yeah , I , I feel like
42:52
oftentimes , when I'm in a situation
42:54
where I'm like , oh shit , this is the end , and
42:56
it's feeling really chaotic , yeah , but
42:58
I now I know that I'm
43:00
getting into this initiation of transformation
43:03
I'm like I don't know when is the end
43:05
going to stop ? When , in
43:07
this scenario , do I stop reaping
43:09
the repercussions of the
43:11
decisions that I had made , and
43:14
where does the new repercussions
43:17
and the positive start to show up ? I
43:20
feel like that can be really hard to
43:22
stomach , because you don't . You don't have a
43:25
line of sight on when is the end Right
43:27
? What has kept you going down
43:29
the path of still choosing to
43:31
love yourself ? Because autopilot
43:34
, I know you
43:36
know , feels safer .
43:39
I'm , I don't , I don't feel like I have a choice
43:41
in this , honestly , like I
43:44
know too much and
43:47
what ? Am I going to stay stagnant ? I
43:49
don't have that bone in my body , that doesn't
43:51
exist inside of me , and so
43:54
there's just not another option . Like I
43:56
must go forward and for me , you
43:58
know , borrowing confidence from historical
44:01
evidence of myself being able to
44:03
be resilient through things that I thought I was not
44:05
going to make it through , quite literally
44:07
, you know , and knowing
44:10
that , okay , I did it . Then I
44:12
grew from that . I have a stronger
44:15
muscle and resilience . I know that I
44:17
can do it here . I don't like
44:19
it . I will kick and scream
44:22
through the process . My
44:24
inner child is angry , and
44:27
I know that I'm soothing
44:29
a part of her at the same time
44:31
. So it's , you know , like I'm a parent
44:33
, I I tell my son things
44:35
that he can't do for his safety all
44:37
the time , and he's kicking and screaming through it and I'm
44:39
like , baby , I know that you don't like
44:41
hearing this , but I'm protecting you , and
44:44
so the journey is like protecting
44:46
your inner child and helping
44:48
her or him get to the other side
44:51
, and so it's
44:53
not a pretty process at all , um
44:55
, but you've , I know for
44:57
a fact , everybody listening to this has been
45:00
through something hard and you survived
45:02
through it and you came out on the other
45:04
side knowing something deeper
45:06
about yourself , maybe loving yourself more
45:08
or maybe having an opportunity to
45:10
lean into that , and so it
45:13
really is light on the other side . It's hard when
45:15
you're in the middle of it , because it feels really
45:17
dark and you're like we've been here for a long
45:19
time , when is this ride going to be over ? Because it feels really dark and you're
45:21
like we've been here for a long time , when is this ride going to be over ? Um
45:23
, but I would say the quicker that you can surrender to that
45:26
, the quicker you get out of it , and
45:28
surrender is one of those words to like
45:30
, logically , we understand , right
45:32
, and you can be in the middle of
45:34
something . So I'm a sound healer . So people
45:37
often say like I'm in
45:39
session and I'm like , okay , surrender
45:41
, surrender , surrender , release , release , release , just
45:43
let go . And by
45:45
repeating that over and over again
45:48
is not surrendering and
45:50
letting go . It's truly like
45:52
hands wide open
45:54
, I am not going to try anymore
45:57
. Right , and allowing the void to
45:59
do what it's meant
46:02
to do is create space yeah
46:05
, I feel , I'm starting to more and more feel
46:07
like words are not enough .
46:09
No for embodied
46:12
terms
46:15
or terms that require embodiment
46:17
, like surrender , like
46:20
self-worth , like even self-love
46:22
, yeah , like wisdom
46:27
.
46:27
I agree with you on all of those , because
46:30
it's one thing to say the words , to understand
46:32
the meaning of them , and it's surface
46:34
level , like we understand the surface
46:37
of it , and it's not
46:39
until it can go like deep into
46:41
ourselves , cells , and then there's
46:43
an understanding , rather than understanding
46:46
like right under the surface or in
46:48
to it . Right , yeah , and so
46:50
it's this understanding of what these
46:52
terms really mean , and oftentimes
46:54
it's different than what we think it is . Oh , a hundred
46:57
percent .
46:57
Oh , my gosh , a hundred percent , even
46:59
with grief . And I feel like there are stages
47:02
of grief in relation to realizing
47:05
how you've outsourced , you , fill in the blank
47:07
, to realizing , oh , I'm
47:09
the one that's going to do this . This
47:11
is why I've been outsourcing it , because I need somebody
47:13
to fill me . And the grief
47:16
of what you thought was
47:18
, and then having to deal with all of those things
47:20
, one of the phases of grief
47:22
, my embodied version
47:24
of that , was that , um
47:26
, nothing means anything , like
47:29
nothing means nothing , like there's no
47:31
meaning to anything . What
47:33
is life even ? What's the purpose ? Why are
47:35
we doing this ? Why are we here ? It's
47:37
like grief has given such a beautiful , beautiful
47:40
perspective that
47:42
eventually I started to stumble onto oh
47:44
, this is why , like
47:46
, this is why chaos has
47:49
to happen . It's a refinement . This is
47:51
why you meet
47:53
the same person over and over . It's a refinement
47:55
, this is why you made those choices
47:57
. It's a refinement , like it's given
47:59
such a beautiful perspective on the other end of
48:01
it , but I would have never . That was
48:04
all embodied , an
48:06
embodied emotion that I can put terms
48:08
to , to help someone understand
48:10
the feelings that I felt . But I still feel like words are
48:12
not enough .
48:13
It's lacking it really is
48:16
, and I think that's just a shortcoming
48:18
on the human existence . But that's
48:20
also why we are here is to experience
48:22
all of that and to find understanding
48:25
and remember who
48:27
we are . Remember that feeling it's
48:29
, that it's not that it doesn't exist within
48:31
you . You just have to remember what it feels like
48:33
. So it's like really
48:36
like turning up the notches and like opening
48:38
the gasket and letting things flood through you
48:40
and be like oh oh , I remember this , right
48:42
, this is familiar , right ? I
48:44
?
48:44
want to . I
48:47
want to close with um
48:49
a ton of gratitude for
48:51
you showing up so authentically
48:53
. I feel like being
48:58
at the position that you're in and serving
49:00
in the way that you serve it
49:02
. Not . I feel like there's not a
49:04
lot of grace afforded to people to
49:07
be able to be vulnerable and authentic and go
49:09
through something , because
49:11
everyone looks to you and
49:13
my outsource their knowing and their intuition
49:15
and all the things to you and
49:17
I real and I want to be cognizant
49:19
that . You know that that's like this thing
49:22
that you might bear . It's not yours to bear , but
49:24
I just want to acknowledge how that could
49:27
be really difficult to show up here in
49:29
this space and
49:32
be so vulnerable and so open . So
49:34
I appreciate you for that .
49:35
Thank you , thank you for saying that . And
49:37
it is like it's a big , big thing , like
49:39
people depend on me to
49:42
be a rock and be
49:44
solid and come to for wisdom
49:46
, and when I'm going through my own stuff
49:48
, I'm like I
49:51
give me a pause for a second
49:53
, let me just be human , and
49:56
so thank you for creating space for that
49:58
. And I also think
50:00
like if I can't show
50:02
up this way , I'm really not
50:04
doing what I am preaching .
50:06
So isn't it ? Life is so
50:08
funny . You always make you practice what you preach Better
50:11
do it . Who's the person talking
50:13
about transformation ? Oh me . Oh
50:15
, I have to go through it on my own . Oh interesting
50:17
, yeah , Okay , cool . Well
50:19
, I love you . Thank you so much . Thank you , I love you
50:21
can I
50:23
just say thank you so much for being
50:25
here . It means the world to me that we're growing
50:27
together , so if there's someone that you thought
50:30
of while listening , please share it with them too , and
50:32
when you share it , let them know that they're not on this
50:34
journey alone . But also , if you just
50:36
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50:38
, share it on Instagram and tag me at Aisha
50:41
so I can thank you for hanging with me on this journey . Oh
50:43
, and one more thing Don't forget to rate and
50:45
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50:47
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50:50
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