Narcissists aren’t the only people who are manipulative. It’s a primary Codependent Strategy used to control and dominate in a codependent relationship. The use of indirect communication and manipulation to get their own way, including pouting, guilting, becoming outraged or indignant, devaluing and gaslighting to name a few tactics make the other person submit because they feel so bad about themselves.
We don't often think of it this way, but how people behave in relationships is very brain dependent. Our psychological type (for example, our MBTI® type or Striving Style®) plays a large role in determining the self-protective position we're most likely to take in relationships – most of the time we do it without even realizing it! Those who tend to dominate in a codependent relationship, will act out from one of the four Codependent Dominant Strategies: Controlling, Caretaking, Disrupting and Personalizing.
In today's episode, we explore the different Dominant Strategies, talk about how each of them manifests in relationships and reveal that they are actually survival coping strategies that begin in our childhood. We’ll also recount many stories (our own and of our clients') and share tips and tricks for dismantling Dominant Behavioral Strategies used in codependent relationships that you can start implementing today. Tune in to make sure you don’t miss out on the gems we share this week!
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