Our rational mind just loves it when things get nicely wrapped in a convenient package. Our brains get a good hit of dopamine – that feel-good chemical – anytime we’re able to categorise, predict or label an experience into a rational, coherent narrative.

However, incoherent events occur in our lives all the time, and that’s hard for our logical mind to accept. If something unwanted happens to us, such as losing a job, a loved one dying, or a relationship breaking down, we may find ourselves asking the question, ‘Why did this happen?’ or ‘What did I do to deserve this?’ We also might find ourselves saying things like, ‘This just doesn’t make sense..."

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