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Why did you want to be a police officer? I
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wanted to help people that
2:13
couldn't help themselves and to actually
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work in the community I grew up in was cool.
2:20
I was attracted to just being a part of the community,
2:22
being able to get involved in stuff and
2:25
make a difference.
2:26
So before this happened, what's the day
2:28
in the life of a police officer? For
2:31
you? I don't think every day was
2:34
the same. It was different. You pretty much
2:36
get a whole gamut of calls.
2:39
You could be answering a false
2:41
alarm to a
2:44
bank robbery, to a
2:47
child abuse case, to... I
2:49
mean, it just all depends.
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How did you feel about wearing the uniform? Great.
2:57
Did you take pride in it when you put it on?
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Oh, absolutely. You
3:02
have authority. You walk in a room,
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people know who you are, but they
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don't know why you're there, but they're looking at you
3:09
for direction.
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What did it feel like to have that kind of power?
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I guess entitlement.
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I got to do
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whatever I wanted, pretty
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much. I
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had the car, I got a badge, I got
3:44
a gun. I
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could basically coerce you with my words
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to have you do
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what I want you to do. And
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what does that do to someone's ego? It
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could be a dangerous thing.
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Erlon. Hey. This is
4:13
a pretty tough episode. That's right, Nij. So
4:15
please use discretion while listening. And
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take care. I'm Nigel Poor. I'm
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Erlon Woods. And this is Ear Hustle
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from PRX's Radio-Topia. Hey,
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New York. What's up, E? What's
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up, Nij? Hey, good to see you. We
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brought producer Rahsaan New York Thomas
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into the studio because New York,
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you're the one who first introduced us to
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Ed Wardo. Want to tell us how you met
4:43
him? When
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I was incarcerated at San Quentin, we both
4:46
lived on the fifth tier. So I used to see him all the time.
4:48
But I really noticed him when I saw a
4:51
big crowd around him on the yard. And he was preaching.
4:53
Yeah, I remember you told us, like,
4:56
there's this new preacher at San Quentin. And
4:58
you might want to talk to him. Exactly.
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All right, so one of the things that impressed
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me about you is that I would see you preaching
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on the yard. And there'd be, like, this loud, large
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crowd around you.
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How did that get started? So
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we gathered on the yard. We grabbed our Bibles.
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And we just started preaching to whoever
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showed up. And before
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you know it, it just started growing and growing each week.
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And we ended up implementing some
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worship in there. We did communion
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out there. We
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made a space for people to come and get prayer. And
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we functioned like that for a little bit.
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You said you did communion on the yard. How
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did you do that? Well,
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we had someone bring crackers. And we had
5:42
someone bring kool-aid. And we had
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communion. And who administered
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it? That's the sacrament, right? Wait
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a minute. He just said he
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did communion with rich crackers and kool-aid. Rich
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crackers and kool-aid. Well,
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it stands for the body and the blood of Christ. Yeah.
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Yeah. How
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did you change when you were in front of the congregation?
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Like what would change in your body or your face
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or your voice or the feelings inside?
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Certain times
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and certain messages, like I'd start to weep
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because of what the passage actually really meant
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to me. Especially when you
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start speaking about what Christ did for us, you know. And
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in your mind, you already know like the worst of the worst,
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who you are, what you've done. And then
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to think of a God who came down
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to die for all that sin. I mean, sometimes
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that gets really overwhelming, talking about it and
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you're recalling your life. And it's just it
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puts you in such a humble and broken place.
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How did you get started preaching? Like when did you first
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become a Christian? I knew church.
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I just didn't know Jesus. So it wasn't
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until I got to county jail and
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I
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didn't have anything. I mean, I lost everything. Family,
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friends, possessions, everything was
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gone. And this deputy,
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he asked me if I had anything to read. I'm like, no. And
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so he slid a Bible on my door and I
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was like, well, it's better than nothing.
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Being alone with your thoughts is torment.
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So I just started reading the Bible and
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I just kept reading and reading. And I made
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a commitment to God. I said, you know, Lord, if you could
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do something with this life, you could take all this brokenness
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and do something with it. Then it's yours.
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Listeners should know that Eduardo is not
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his real name. State prison officials
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asked us to use an alias. Ten
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years ago, before Eduardo came
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to San Quentin State Prison and started preaching,
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he was a police officer working a night
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shift in Sacramento, California.
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I was married, had children, nice house,
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car. I
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got really good at compartmentalizing. Like
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once I got off of work and
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I shaded all my uniform, then
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it's like.
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okay, now I'm the family guy. I'm
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wondering if there's like when you put on the uniform,
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if it somehow allows
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us to become a different personality?
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Because you just said like you'd go home, take off the uniform
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and then you were the dad and the
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husband and all that stuff. People
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I worked with, they had no idea what was going on either. So
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I was able to make
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it look like I was doing my job, but then when
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there was a lot of downtime, I'd
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go out and commit
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crime.
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Obviously there's a progression
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to why you commit your crime, but
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there's just
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a one day, one opportunity. And
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I chose to say yes. Did
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you see it coming, that change that was going
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to happen in your life? Was it something you've tried
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to push down or did it take
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you by
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surprise? I
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don't think it was a fell on a surprise. I
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think it was something that was always in front of me and
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maybe I was before, but I said
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no. And then one day I just
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gave myself permission to be like,
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no, okay.
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I wanna jump in here to warn people
9:24
that this crime he's gonna talk about is
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sexual assault. And there are graphic
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descriptions throughout this episode.
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I guess I could take
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you back to the day that
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I crossed that line. I
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was on duty. It was at night, it
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was the middle of the night. And
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I seen a female walking down the street. She
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was covered in a blanket. And
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so I stopped, asked what she was doing out
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there. Obviously around that time,
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they're only out there for a couple of things.
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So while
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I was talking with her, I found some
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drug paraphernalia and stuff. I placed her
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in the back of the car and she was arrestable.
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Usually at night, if you find someone to have
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a minor crime,
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you might want to ask them for some information. You
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could let some things go with the warning. You
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have some discretion. She
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said that she didn't
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want to go to jail. She
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was on drugs. She didn't want to get sick.
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So I kept asking her about information. She said she wasn't a snitch. And
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I think she felt like that I wasn't going to
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let her go unless she gave me something. So she offered,
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hey, I'll have sex with
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you if you let me go. And
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I shut her door and I said, I'm going to get back to you. And
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I thought about it and ended up
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opening the door and I said, all right. We
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can do
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this. And we drove to a secluded area
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and we
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engaged in sex, dropped her back off.
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And that was it.
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Being in law enforcement and having that
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authority, that power, that presence is
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too easy. Once
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you make that decision across that line, then that's it.
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Of
11:28
course, it can give me what I want because they don't want to go to jail. So
11:31
I'm actually doing them a favor like this is how I thought
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back then. And
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did it escalate once you realized,
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okay, I can do this. Did
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it become really like
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obsessive behavior? You
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can call it that because I
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found myself at night when
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I was working, I would basically seek out
11:55
women that were walking. I
11:57
would stop them. I would try to find something across
11:59
the street. criminal on them and basically
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lead them down the line of questions that would lead to
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them performing sex
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acts. And
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I was doing that. I was a predator.
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How long did this go on before
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you were arrested? It
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went on for a year. And
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do you think your colleagues suspected what was
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going on? No. No?
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No, I got good at lying to
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them too. There were suspicions
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at one time, but obviously
12:37
I denied it and they backed me up.
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Did you live in fear of it coming out? Pretty
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much after the first time I did it, I knew that
12:45
I was done. It's just a matter of time. Because
12:48
if they found out about Juan, then for
12:51
some reason I just didn't stop. So...
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We knew going in that this was going to be a hard interview.
13:04
I had read a little bit about his crime,
13:07
which I actually never do before interviews.
13:10
And it was rough. I remember coming to New
13:12
York and being like, this is going to be tough.
13:15
It's really hard to deal with sex crimes.
13:18
It's hard to think about them. It's
13:20
hard to talk to people about them. And
13:22
you really have to check your emotions going
13:25
into the
13:25
conversation. Yeah, there's this
13:27
philosophy where they say, hate the crime and not
13:29
the person. And that's a lot easier
13:31
to do when you know the person and you don't know
13:33
the crime. When you know what the crime
13:36
is, you kind of look at the person differently. Like, are you fooling
13:38
me dude? Are you the crime?
13:40
It's really hard to separate the two.
13:42
Yeah. So, would you rather
13:44
just not know? I
13:47
don't ask, but
13:50
I don't close my ears when information comes my
13:52
way. So part of me does want to know. That's
13:56
why in most cases, I don't want to know
13:58
what guys have done. I just want
14:00
to, you know, meet them where they are now.
14:03
But
14:03
in a story like this, I
14:06
can't do that.
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What would happen when it was over? Drive them back
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to where I picked them up from. And how
14:15
do you? Just drop them off. And
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how would you feel at that point? Like,
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I don't know, like, was there ever any shame
14:25
or anger or just like,
14:27
oh, what the fuck? I don't know. This is. Yeah,
14:31
probably the last one.
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Like, what am I doing? You know, tell
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myself, man, I got to stop. I'm not going to
14:38
do this again. And.
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Yeah, and I'm going to get caught,
14:46
you know. Yeah.
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Was there some point like during
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the the the
14:52
looking for the person, the yeah,
14:55
the hunt? Where was the thrill? Was it
14:57
in trying to find the woman? Was it getting
14:59
her clothes off? Was it having an orgasm?
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Like, what was the what was the thrill
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for you or the
15:06
the trigger or the addiction
15:08
part of it in the act?
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I don't know. I think it's just having the power of
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over someone else and just having
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them do what I wanted.
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Were they people to you? No,
15:49
no, I did. I dehumanized him. I
15:52
would I would seek them out. I
15:54
know what they would be doing out there. I would
15:57
find a reason for them to
15:59
make a decision. to either lose their
16:01
freedom or do what I asked them to do. Yeah.
16:04
There were nothing more but a means
16:06
to an end for me.
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I didn't have to use like physical
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force. All I had to do is just
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pose them with the question like, what
16:19
do you got for me if you don't want to go
16:21
to jail? Because
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I knew what they were involved in and what they did.
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I know they would lean towards that way. I
16:29
let them ask the question and I was like, okay.
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Do you think they were afraid? Yeah.
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I know that they didn't want to do it, but they did
16:42
what they had to do to stay free. You
16:45
know, I
16:49
took something that didn't belong to me. I
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took their choice. And
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I mean, what do you think it's done to their lives? Man,
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I
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can't even imagine. Probably
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from that day forward, they barely had no trust in
17:18
law enforcement. They probably didn't
17:20
even feel safe in their own community. Probably
17:27
every time they saw a police car, you
17:30
know, I could only imagine like the
17:32
fear that welled up inside of them. Like, is it
17:34
going to happen again? Like who do I trust?
17:37
Who do I call
17:38
for help?
17:40
Erlon said this one time about
17:42
how when you commit a crime,
17:45
you know, you steal money or whatever you
17:47
do, but you're also taking something that's
17:49
intangible, which is someone's sense
17:52
of
17:52
security and safety. And
17:55
it could be worse than the crime because it ripples out
17:57
into the rest of their lives. So
18:01
I wonder when you, when something
18:04
happens to you, like what you did, something
18:07
is gone in them. Like, I wonder if it can ever heal.
18:11
How does someone come back from
18:13
that experience? It's
18:17
like a scar, like the wound's gone, but the scar's
18:19
still there reminding you of what happened. So,
18:24
yeah, I did something that was gonna affect them for
18:27
the rest of their life.
18:30
So, Eduardo, I think you could tell from the
18:34
way he talks, he's
18:39
big into the group thing at San Quentin. And
18:42
basically, that's guys who have committed crimes
18:44
doing a lot of intensive group work to help
18:46
them come to terms with what they did and the
18:48
impact that it had.
18:49
Yeah, and in those groups, they talk a
18:51
lot about trauma and personal growth,
18:54
but I have to say, New York, sometimes I
18:56
don't know when it's real
18:59
or when it's a performance. Yeah,
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I could see what you mean, Nod. You
19:05
seem so sincere, but
19:08
you also seem sincere while you were a cop too, right?
19:10
Like, how do people know that this change is real? Like,
19:13
because if you had this ability to be a
19:15
father in the daytime and then this predator at night,
19:18
like, how do people know if your change is real or not? That's
19:20
a good question. And I've
19:23
asked myself that
19:25
too, because I got really good
19:27
at compartmentalizing, right, who I was
19:30
out there, and I asked
19:32
myself that, and I'm like, man, could I be
19:34
just deceiving myself?
19:36
Am I putting myself through
19:38
the same thing for self-preservation?
19:42
But then the one thing that told me that
19:44
I wasn't was, I'm the
19:46
same person that I am in myself, that I
19:49
am out on the tier, on the yard,
19:51
in church, in the cell hall, I'm the same
19:53
person.
19:55
I couldn't say that for myself when I was out there, because
19:58
I was someone different. behind my
20:01
house, closed doors in my house, it
20:03
was volatile. Out
20:06
on the street, I performed, you
20:08
know, with my friends. I partied, you
20:10
know, I just, I compartmentalized, but
20:13
I was in secret. I was
20:15
a horrible human being,
20:17
but I'm not like that today.
20:24
Are you tormented? I
20:28
know what you've done and the consequences
20:30
of it. Yeah, yeah,
20:32
obviously, not as much as I was before,
20:35
not that I'm okay with it now. It's
20:38
just that I'm able, I could sit with it now and
20:40
I could ask myself questions about it and like
20:42
look for answers. And if
20:45
I started talking about it in a group, I mean,
20:48
yeah, it's gonna break me down because of the
20:51
guilt I feel about what I did, you
20:53
know, but I'm understanding that that's not
20:56
who I am, that I'm different now, but
20:58
I could talk about what I did and
21:01
hopefully I'm able to help someone else understand
21:03
or heal or grow from
21:05
what they did also by dealing with my
21:07
stuff. So if I just
21:09
lived in a place of shame and unforgiveness
21:12
and guilt and bitterness and all that stuff, I'm
21:14
no good to anybody.
21:18
I really hear what you're saying and I
21:21
agree with all of it. I don't want
21:23
people to just live in pain, you
21:25
know? Yeah. But I do
21:27
think a lot about victims too and I just wonder
21:29
like who's holding those women. Yeah.
21:32
What would happen if you had
21:35
the opportunity to sit across from one of them? Wow.
21:42
Well.
21:48
Would you take it? I
21:51
would. I would.
21:56
Because
21:58
I want them to truly. Hear
22:00
from me how how sorry and how remorseful
22:03
I was for what I did because they
22:05
didn't get that when I was out there
22:07
They seen they seen the monster in front of them.
22:10
I just took something from him without without
22:12
any care. I Want
22:14
them to sit in front of me and I want to
22:16
tell them that that they're worthy
22:18
and what I did to him was wrong I
22:20
just want to be there from because
22:22
I wasn't for them before I was in a
22:24
position to help them But I hurt
22:26
them instead. Yeah, yeah
22:31
I
22:38
Remember leaving San Quentin that day
22:40
and I was really unsettled I
22:42
mean, I don't think it comes across on the tape
22:45
at all But Eduardo just wasn't
22:47
what I expected him to be. Yeah,
22:49
the me seems very very sincere Mm-hmm.
22:51
And in fact, I could not tell what crime
22:54
is in prison for but I had no
22:56
clue Based on his demeanor
22:58
his daily walk his position in the church
23:01
You just can't see any signs of what he hi
23:04
used to be
23:04
I know like so when he was sitting in the chair,
23:06
he had like really good eye contact He
23:09
wasn't shifty. He was really soft-spoken
23:12
I didn't get any weird vibe from
23:15
him and I expected to have this
23:17
really visceral Negative reaction
23:19
to him and it just didn't happen
23:21
and I have to say I found it really
23:24
confusing Because my assumptions
23:26
and my experience Just
23:29
didn't go together at all.
23:30
But you got to remember This
23:33
is a guy that's drawn to a position of power
23:35
You know what I'm saying first as a police officer and
23:37
now as a preacher
23:39
I know so I keep
23:41
coming back to like where we being manipulated
23:43
and it really nagged at me So
23:46
a few months later we asked Eduardo
23:49
to come back down for another interview
23:51
And we'll be back after the break with
23:54
that conversation
24:14
Nigel, here's something that
24:16
we talk a lot about on our team, good
24:19
talkers. Yes, a good talker is
24:21
someone who you just want to listen
24:23
to. It doesn't necessarily
24:26
matter what story they're telling you, they are so
24:28
good at it. You just want to hang on every
24:30
word.
24:31
I think the podcast, The Mall,
24:33
kind of specializes in those type of characters.
24:36
You remember that one episode, Bodily Autonomy?
24:38
I know, so we were in the car driving together
24:40
listening to it, and it was about women
24:43
having to make really tough decisions
24:45
about their bodies. Right. A
24:47
heavy topic, but the two storytellers
24:50
were intense and funny
24:52
and surprising. Right. They
24:55
make you think about stuff that's not always easy
24:57
to think about. Draw you in and hold on to it. Yes.
25:01
The Moth was one of the first podcasts
25:03
to bring listeners true stories from people
25:06
all around the world, helping to launch the
25:08
modern storytelling movement.
25:09
If you don't know The Moth, they have
25:11
been at it for 25 years, allowing
25:14
everyday people to tell their true stories,
25:16
usually on stage at live
25:18
storytelling events.
25:19
If you're not already listening to The Moth,
25:22
definitely check it out. Check it out for
25:24
sure.
25:38
I know last time we started by praying. I
25:40
don't know if you want to do that again before we talk. It
25:43
seemed like a nice way to get into
25:45
the conversation. It's up to you. Sure.
25:47
Yeah, if you like me to. Yeah, let's
25:49
do that. Yeah, sure. So,
25:53
Father God, Lord, I appreciate
25:55
this responsibility of being
25:57
here. I pray that you bless this
25:59
time.
25:59
we have together. Lord everything
26:02
that come out of my mouth, Lord God let it be real,
26:04
authentic and let it glorify your name. I thank
26:07
you for the people who do this, the lives
26:09
that he touched and I
26:12
just pray that you bless them for the work that they do. In Jesus
26:14
name I pray, Amen.
26:17
Do you remember how you felt after you
26:20
spoke with us? It
26:23
felt like a blur, like I don't even remember
26:25
nothing I said. It's just
26:29
like firing off questions and answers and
26:31
I know I know it was intense
26:34
and I was kind of like drained afterwards.
26:36
Did you leave with any regrets or
26:39
things that you wish you said or didn't
26:41
say? No, the
26:46
only thing that like really weighed on my mind was
26:49
when I do something like this and something's
26:51
gonna be basically
26:53
outside these walls. Like my own concern is
26:55
like who I don't want to re-injure,
26:58
who I injured. I don't want to cause
27:00
more harm to like my family or
27:02
the the families of the victims. That
27:05
was like where my concern was and I
27:08
just recently got in contact with my daughter again
27:10
after 10 years and it's like
27:14
these are things that are out
27:14
there now. She was 12 when I left so she's
27:17
a 22-year-old woman now and it's
27:19
like I don't
27:21
know she's ready to hear something like that but she
27:24
is she's mature. I'll
27:26
give her that.
27:27
Does she know why you're in prison? Oh yeah,
27:30
yeah. Yeah that's got to
27:32
be a hard conversation. Right.
27:35
Yeah.
27:41
Were you prepared for prison? Absolutely
27:45
not. Well considering
27:48
what my occupation was and my crime, the
27:52
prison system was not something
27:54
that was very gentle to me. I was
27:58
able to
27:59
keep it quiet for a long time.
28:04
I was scared for my life. People
28:07
would ask me how much time you got, you
28:09
know, where you from and all
28:11
this stuff and they could kind of put together like what
28:14
you might be in here for. With
28:16
my sentence, it
28:18
was 205 years with nine
28:21
consecutive life sentences. People
28:24
thought, well, you had to have killed somebody or
28:26
multiple people. Also like, oh, hey,
28:28
what are you in for? I'm like, yeah,
28:30
sure. You know, I'd admit to
28:33
a murder, multiple murders in
28:35
order so they wouldn't find this out. So
28:38
I was in fear for a long time.
28:44
After the first interview, I had
28:46
felt kind of unsettled because Eduardo
28:49
just sounded so sincere when
28:51
he was talking about what he had done and the impact
28:54
of it.
28:54
But we couldn't tell if he was being honest about
28:57
the extent of what he did. The
29:00
way he described it in the first
29:02
interview, he sort of implied that
29:04
he felt the women had a choice.
29:06
Right, and obviously, Erlon,
29:09
they didn't have a choice. And
29:11
the more we read about it and the people we
29:14
talked to, it seemed to me
29:16
that in the first interview, he kind
29:18
of, what can I say, like diminished
29:21
the violence of what he had done to those women.
29:24
And so in the second interview,
29:26
we pressed him on that. And
29:28
he told us this story. So
29:31
a warning to listeners, this next
29:33
part is graphic.
29:38
If you want, I could give you an example of
29:42
one of my victims. So
29:47
I seen her walking down the
29:49
street. Is that the time
29:52
of night when women
29:54
would normally walk, either they're looking for
29:56
drugs or they're
29:58
involved in prostitution.
30:02
I pull over and in
30:05
my mind I'm already thinking like what can I get
30:07
on her so I could hold it over her to
30:09
get her to do what I want to do. I
30:14
already had in my mind that I was going to rape her so
30:16
I did everything I could to get information. I
30:20
manipulated her. I said I will give you a ride somewhere
30:22
so you could pick
30:25
up an item that you wanted to buy. She
30:28
got in my car. I drove halfway
30:30
to the designation. I
30:32
parked on the street and
30:34
I still looked for information on
30:36
my computer. I was looking for stuff
30:38
to pin on her so I could
30:41
coerce her to doing what I wanted her to do.
30:46
At one point
30:51
she was just saying just
30:53
take me to jail. She
30:58
couldn't leave the car. The back doors were
31:00
locked. She
31:03
was screaming. She said just let me go. Let
31:06
me go. I said
31:10
not until you give me something. Not until you give me
31:12
something. I
31:14
kind of posed it as like
31:16
give me some information. Give me somebody.
31:19
Give me something.
31:21
I kept asking
31:24
her like did you ever work in the street? Did you
31:26
ever do this? I was kind of pointing her to
31:28
what I wanted without saying it. Finally
31:34
she just agreed
31:37
to whatever I wanted. We drove to this
31:39
crude location where
31:44
I fortunate to have sex. When
31:47
she was in the back of my car she
31:49
was scared.
31:51
She didn't want to do
31:54
what I wanted her to do. Even
31:59
after her death. and her cries and her screams, I
32:02
didn't hear her. I
32:04
said, you're just gonna stay confined. I'm just
32:06
gonna keep you in this space until you agree what I want
32:08
you to do. That
32:11
one right there sticks to me a lot because I could still hear her.
32:16
Yeah, I mean, when
32:19
someone's screaming like that and asking
32:21
for mercy, how do you
32:24
get to a point where you can just tune that out? Because
32:31
I didn't see her. I just see what I wanted.
32:38
And for that, I am truly sorry. You
32:51
know, Nudge, I'm sure there
32:53
are gonna be some that
32:55
says, why are
32:58
we giving it water? A
33:01
platform. Right, and I
33:03
mean, there's a lot of ways to respond
33:05
to that. But I
33:08
think the first is, it's just important
33:11
to try to understand how
33:14
somebody does this. And the only way you're
33:16
gonna get there is by having a conversation
33:18
with them. Right. Can
33:21
you be a victim and ask them, why
33:23
did he do that? And what would your response be? Like,
33:26
if she just said, why didn't you do that? Why?
33:29
Ask the question too. And that's
33:31
the thing I'm working on. But what I can
33:33
tell you right now from what I know is
33:35
that I
33:37
was a poor manager
33:39
of my emotions. I did everything
33:41
I could not to address my problem but find
33:43
the easy way out. Instead
33:46
of like truly meeting my needs, I
33:48
created more chaos in my life. And
33:51
it wasn't just my crime. I did it in
33:55
my regular life too. I was
33:57
unfaithful and I used sex as a
33:59
way to. I needed to
34:01
do this so I could feel better. And
34:04
it got to the point where it was unmanageable.
34:07
I started hurting so many people,
34:09
and I wasn't stopping by myself.
34:12
Someone had to stop me. You
34:16
know, if I were the victim and I heard that, I'd
34:19
be so mad because you're
34:22
saying it like you're just reading a list. Like, I don't
34:24
feel your pain. I don't feel your shame.
34:29
I don't feel that you
34:32
want to die, which I think you should. I'm not saying
34:34
I want you to die, but it's a bit like I would be
34:36
so angry right now. I
34:39
don't know if you're saying that way because you've thought about
34:41
it a lot or because it's an interview and it's
34:43
not real, but I don't feel
34:46
anything from you right now. And maybe we're
34:48
asking you to do something that you can't possibly do. But
34:51
that's my immediate reaction right
34:53
now is I would just want to scream and
34:55
be like, what the fuck? Do you know how
34:57
much you tore me apart?
34:58
Right. And I don't
35:00
see any emotion. That's
35:04
fair. I
35:08
don't know how I tore you apart. I
35:12
don't think I'll able to understand
35:14
how much I tore you apart. What
35:17
I'm speaking on right now is I'm speaking from a
35:19
place where I'm at right now. I'm
35:21
trying to figure out why I did what
35:23
I did and
35:26
if I could learn how to articulate it the best I can so
35:28
you could feel that you
35:31
believe what I'm saying, then
35:33
that's my goal. That's
35:36
what
35:36
I'm trying to do. I want you to know that
35:38
what I did was wrong and I know what I did was wrong
35:41
and I want you to heal from that.
35:44
I'm sorry for what I did.
35:49
And my
35:51
life is committed to making amends and
35:54
to making sure that I do not ever do that again.
35:58
I just don't think that's true. any way for you to
36:00
make me believe that. I
36:04
understand.
36:09
Do you believe them?
36:13
I think that's
36:15
what makes this story so
36:17
difficult and so important, is
36:20
that it
36:23
forces us to ask questions and hear
36:26
answers that we can never count on.
36:29
I have no idea. He
36:32
had so much integrity in front of us, and
36:35
my heart was so open
36:37
to believing him. I
36:39
don't know. I don't know. Yeah.
36:46
I think that he and
36:48
his victims are in an impossible situation
36:52
to ever really know what's
36:54
in somebody's heart. It's just not
36:56
answerable,
36:57
and I think we want things to be
36:59
easier, and that there
37:01
can be a resolution. And I'm
37:03
just worried
37:04
that there never really can be for anyone.
37:08
Or I think you have to be pretty extraordinary
37:10
to really
37:13
be able to forgive and move on, to
37:15
really accept the most horrible thing that you've
37:17
done and figure it out and move on.
37:20
It's really hard for everybody. It
37:23
is.
37:26
I
37:26
mean, how do you find the words
37:28
to describe
37:31
how you feel, how horrible something is? I
37:35
can only tell you the words that I know.
37:38
But like he says, it's
37:41
almost something impossible to explain. How do
37:44
you articulate that?
37:46
I was thinking if I wanted to describe
37:48
my pain to you, if I was
37:51
one of the victims, I could scream,
37:53
I could cry, I could
37:55
pound my fists, I could lunge
37:57
at you. There's all these... physical
38:00
cues that we understand, rage
38:03
and deep sorrow. When
38:06
you're trying to explain
38:07
that I've changed
38:09
or that I feel this deep shame,
38:12
there aren't the same physical cues. Like
38:15
I just said to you, like I wanna see you be emotional,
38:17
but I realize that we don't have a physical
38:20
language
38:20
for showing remorse.
38:23
Showing rage and distress
38:26
is so physical.
38:30
But it occurs to me that it's very hard to physically
38:32
show remorse and have someone
38:34
understand it through their
38:37
body, but it's easy to understand rage.
38:41
The woman that I victimized expressed
38:46
however you feel. If you need to lunge at me,
38:48
punch me, scream, do whatever you can.
38:51
I wanna make myself feel able to actually really hear
38:53
you because I didn't hear you
38:55
before. I didn't see you before,
38:58
but now I'm here in front of you and I will
39:00
hear you, I will see you. And
39:03
I wanna understand.
39:06
That's all I can do. There
39:13
was another thing we knew we had to ask
39:15
him about Erlon and that was
39:17
about being a preacher. Yeah, for
39:20
a man whose crime was about
39:22
an extreme abuse of power,
39:25
the preaching thing was like, oh.
39:30
When you're preaching, do you feel like a power over
39:32
people? To
39:35
be honest, I feel like a nervous wreck up there. I'm
39:38
just like shivering
39:40
me timbers up there, man. Because
39:43
at a reverence of the word of God, I don't wanna
39:47
do nothing that's not gonna honor
39:49
God.
39:50
There is definitely a power in preaching. Does it ever
39:52
trouble you? Because it seems to me your crime was
39:54
also about power and powerlessness. Do
39:57
you ever worry that there's a crossover
39:59
that feeling of power being satisfied
40:02
by preaching? It
40:08
hasn't yet.
40:10
It's not like they said, okay,
40:13
you're a preacher, just get up there and start speaking. And
40:16
then I'll say, I'm that.
40:19
It's like a calling that you know for sure that
40:21
God put it on your heart first. It's like,
40:24
man, I'm inadequate.
40:26
There's no way I can do that. But
40:28
it doesn't even fall on you. The consequences don't fall
40:31
on you. It falls on your obedience to God
40:33
and do what He asked you to do.
40:36
Plenty of people hide behind
40:38
religion as a shield
40:41
or a veil or a protection. Have
40:44
you seen that? Have you witnessed that?
40:47
Hide behind. Yeah. Saying
40:49
that they've been redeemed or that God
40:51
has a plan or this or that, but
40:54
they really haven't changed. It's just another con.
40:58
Right. I
41:01
can't, I'm not God, so I
41:03
can't tell you who's truly redeemed
41:05
and who's not. All I know is
41:09
that we're all broken,
41:11
looking to be made whole, right? And it's like, well,
41:13
welcome to church, you know?
41:15
We're all here, you know? It's a place of growth
41:17
and healing. It's the same reason why you go
41:20
to a hospital. But there's also people
41:22
who have become preachers
41:24
or ministers who are predators. There's
41:26
no doubt. What
41:30
if someone accused you of that? How
41:33
would that feel and how would you respond? Well,
41:36
if they accused me of that? I mean, someone could
41:38
hear the story and think, oh yeah, he's just,
41:41
he's the same dude, but
41:44
he's got God now to put
41:47
forward.
41:49
Well, I hope they wouldn't say that because it's not true.
41:52
But
41:54
people are gonna say stuff like that, you
41:56
know? Thanks
41:58
for watching. When
42:05
we were working on this episode, I really
42:07
spent a lot of time thinking about the ripple
42:09
effect. I mean, there were his victims,
42:12
there was his family, there were the family
42:14
of his victims, the organization
42:17
that he worked for. It just like,
42:20
it went so far out, right? All the people
42:22
that were affected. And so I
42:24
have to say I can see why religion
42:27
and Christianity would appeal
42:29
to him because there's,
42:31
you know, in Christianity, this idea
42:34
of forgiveness
42:35
is huge. According
42:38
to my faith, there's nothing that can't be forgiven.
42:42
Everybody's redeemable. You know, God came
42:44
to die for everybody. It's not just certain people. But
42:46
if we don't talk about God, if
42:48
we talk about other people and we talk
42:50
about ourselves, do you
42:52
think that there's some crimes that can't
42:54
be forgiven from that perspective?
43:02
I think everybody's
43:05
redeemable. The forgiveness
43:07
is for everybody. Without
43:09
forgiveness, it's eye for an eye, you know, the whole
43:11
world would go blind.
43:13
What does forgiveness actually mean?
43:15
What does it look like in this? What happens when
43:18
forgiveness is given?
43:19
Well, when
43:21
forgiveness is given, you're basically like releasing
43:24
a debt. You're not
43:27
going to charge something against someone anymore. You're
43:29
released to know that so you could be free
43:31
of that debt as well.
43:32
But does that mean the person just
43:35
lets that go what they did and
43:38
it's just coughing the wind?
43:39
No, but I think it helps
43:41
them move forward. Can
43:45
you see why it's a struggle? Yeah,
43:47
absolutely. Absolutely.
43:52
How do you think about the victims of
43:54
your crime? I think about
43:56
them all the time. I make
43:58
sure I remember their names.
43:59
I remember if I'm doing work
44:02
I make sure that I name them and yeah it's
44:06
it's it is a hard place to go back to
44:09
because when I talk about it I go back
44:11
to that place when it happened it's
44:14
heavy I guess it's something that just doesn't
44:16
easily come out of me but if
44:18
you ask me I'm I'm able to talk about it the
44:21
shame that comes with something that you did it's like
44:24
it's it's heavy
44:27
sometimes I don't know it sounds weird but sometimes
44:30
I get scared that I might forget their names so
44:32
I like repeat them to myself to make
44:34
sure I know that they're always at the forefront of my
44:36
head.
44:41
So if you sitting in your cell and
44:45
you heard something like this happen to your
44:47
child how would
44:49
you feel? I don't
44:53
know if I'd want to feel something like that. What
45:02
would you want from that man? The
45:08
man who... If someone hurt one of your children
45:10
what would you want from him?
45:19
To be honest I would I would
45:23
have wanted anything I want him to go away
45:25
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