What is AgeplayAgeplay (sometimes "Age Play" or "Age-play") generally refers to sexual role play where someone pretends they're a different age, but it's important to note, it's not always sexual. "Who's your daddy" is probably the most common introduction to age play. Even if it's not your go-to for sexy talk, I'm going to assume most sexually active adults are familiar with the cliche. By the way, who ever decided that was sexy, and why do so many people agree? I would love to know how many people just go with it - neither party knowing exactly why, or whether they like it, but just because "that's' what you do".Here's what Wikipedia says about age play:Ageplay is roleplaying between adults, and involves consent from all parties. Ageplay can be sexual or non-sexual, it all depends on what people agree to within their relationship. Portraying any age can be the goal of ageplay, from babies, to the elderly. Usually this involves someone pretending to be younger than they actually are, but more rarely can involve assuming an older role. More here.Whether a person is pretending to be younger or older, play style might include different vocabulary, clothing, and behaviors. Sometimes Ageplay can actually become more about regressive behavior and less about sexual role play. This is often the case with Adult Baby Diaper Lovers (ABDL) who aren't necessarily even playing in a sexual context. Many ABDL enthusiasts enjoy the feeling of being coddled and cared-for like a child. It can be as much about love and nurturing as sex and power dynamics - which might not show up at all. Sometimes ABDL is all about the fetishizing the physical elements of infancy: diapers, onesies, toys and stuffed animals.Is this about incest or pedophilia?This is probably the first point of discomfort for a lot of people when it comes to ageplay. Are we talking about pretending to have sex with children? Sometimes, yes. "Pretending" however is the operative word. It's only incest if you're having sex with a blood relative and it's only pedophilia if you're having sex with a minor child. Whew! I'm glad that's out of the way. It's important to remember that we're talking about consensual role play - whether it's sexual or not - between adults. In this case, those adults are pretending to be someone else, of a different age and likely personality type, race, profession, demographic, etc.It has been noted that sometimes daddy / boy and daddy / girl dynamics can be related to past trauma. Sometimes reenacting past trauma can be therapeutic and beneficial to sexual abuse victims. For more on this topic, check out episode 27 of Family Affairs "What's Your Kink" with Dr. Joe Kort.Generally, however, "Call Me Daddy," isn't about incest or abuse. It's usually just a formal power exchange, like "You're in charge of the sex, Big Man." (or woman, etc...please don't make me spell out all of the variations on this in an effort to be totally inclusive. You get it.)Let's talk about our guest.Dr. Rhoda LipscombYou might recognize sex expert and friend of the show, Dr. Rhoda Lipscomb, from previous episodes on Swinging and Adult Baby Diaper Lovers.She is an expert in Alternative Sexuality (among other things): LGBTQ issues, swinging, polyamory, BDSM, Kink, ABDL, Fetishes, Gender Identity and Cross Dressing. She is a Licensed Professional Counselor, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, ASCH Certification in Clinical Hypnosis, Board Certified Clinical Sexologist and Board Certified Professional Counselor. More here.Dr. Rhoda is very knowledgable and comfortable talking about this stuff. One of the things we love about her, is how much better we feel after discussing challenging topics with her. She's a master of balancing knowledge with empathy and non-judgment.Check out her website and schedule a session!Photo by Tanja Heffner on Unsplash