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is mckenzie start the closest thing we have

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someone i think she is absolutely

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the closest thing to a good billionaire we

1:01

will ever see yet in addition

1:03

to doing things like peggy

1:05

fifty five million dollar mansion and donate

1:08

it to the fight

1:10

against homelessness in

1:12

los angeles provide people for

1:14

a low low cost housing, i was amazing and

1:17

giving money to art

1:19

centers that facilitate the art of

1:21

marginalized communities she

1:24

also, i love

1:26

the way she doesn't or she like, organizations

1:28

that have gotten money from her will be like, yeah, one

1:30

day, we just feel like like

1:33

got giving us 50 million dollars yes,

1:35

she doesn't seem to like let's have a press

1:37

conference with some lovely

1:40

examples of the people who are helping

1:42

so the rest of the world can pat me on the head and

1:44

feel like, what a good lady just

1:46

like that, man, kind of except

1:48

not with money but

1:51

she's using or money to like, give it away not

1:53

just like by herself gizmos and get into fistfights

1:56

also,

1:58

i gotta say,

1:59

really appreciate it says

2:02

to which

2:03

the can be thought of making her ex

2:05

husband jeff a does look like the clown

2:07

was a literal slab laos

2:09

errand it is back to school season

2:11

how many times have we said it weird getting

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just raises the best advice season ever

2:16

get which is clear the list

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son amazon your old also lists

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seizes price it would be

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you see a fuckin hero it

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would be a drop in the boss it clear

2:27

them less it's like tyler perry

2:29

did it in a landslide he clears the layaway

2:31

for everyone in atlanta last christmas or

2:33

business works to sewage of seasons

2:35

yeah i'm good zillionaire but you know

2:37

i kind of appreciate the rules and playing

2:40

in the world which is not as a clown but

2:42

he's zealand as insane clown

2:44

he's a clown that went to say and

2:47

, now grounded and is no consensus

2:49

the secret of faith and more all

2:52

all all way we like

2:55

what mckenzie got

2:55

during an we're glad she's giving them money

2:58

away because notify them with her

3:05

this week we're joined

3:07

by sarah thanks and syrian deals his

3:09

take on the following person's mouth

3:11

can't republicans set up about abortion

3:14

what makes it so difficult to actually

3:16

disconnect of the season and

3:19

what's in of loser adult gets mad

3:21

about the casting of a children's movie about

3:23

a girl with a fish tail all

3:25

this and more

3:26

right now

3:28

okay a lesser we got to get to

3:30

the news there's less news this week than some weeks

3:32

it feels like i agree kind of

3:34

a good thing right yes yes we

3:36

are not lucy and

3:38

on the chocolates can fail see

3:40

an apple just stuff and those truffles

3:43

and our mouth yeah that's normally how

3:45

i feel about the news this week i feel like it's a manageable

3:47

conveyor belts yeah we have

3:49

time to put them in the box as we have to put

3:51

them in the back for sir i also think it was

3:53

too hot in most places to make news these

3:56

last couple of weeks

3:57

hi everyone says it's too much

3:59

it's too

3:59

if everyone like we get it it's all terrible

4:02

will pay attention again but please can we just

4:04

watch the real housewives of for a little while

4:06

that will it was over a hundred degrees for several

4:09

days in a row where i live and

4:11

i just stayed indoors

4:14

mostly like luke skywalker

4:16

in the carcass of his sons on it gets

4:18

really depressing like it really

4:20

like when it was we have like a big stretch of one

4:22

hundred ninety five plus weather and

4:24

all of us and you're like my ever going to be able to go out

4:26

again like it's just unbearable

4:29

yeah it's and when it's cold the

4:31

thing is when it's really cold you can just

4:33

put on more layers your layer up

4:35

but you can't like there's only so many

4:37

clothing items you can take off

4:40

before you're gonna get arrested know

4:42

and it actually gets worse it's like

4:44

you almost need some sort of clothing to

4:46

shield you from whatever heat and humidity

4:49

it is sell you know it's like as linen

4:52

to for level in and coastal

4:55

grammar aesthetic is actually

4:58

a practical lifestyle to it but let's

5:00

start on a good know test you

5:17

just turn with from games you have the w

5:19

n b a finals between the las vegas aces

5:22

and the connecticut son from

5:26

connecticut i'm sure there's a story behind

5:28

it but says that success of yes

5:30

both games one into of the finals

5:33

have sold out i'm fat attendance

5:35

records for the league in the city of sent

5:38

them now because of the way the w n b a plays

5:40

out it's best to five final vegas

5:42

is the higher seed teams are gets the first two

5:44

games at home so the next two

5:46

games will be in connecticut

5:48

so let's see what connecticut fans

5:50

can do if they can show up the end of the las

5:53

vegas ss and i also want to add

5:55

on the women's sports friends women sports

5:57

are attracting a lot

5:59

of this the area so i

6:01

just learned on september seventeenth the san

6:04

diego wave will face angel city fc

6:06

in front of the bigger national

6:08

women's soccer

6:09

the crowd ever

6:10

however as amazing yeah they've already

6:12

sold more than thirty two thousand and six we're

6:15

at a game so that's exciting

6:17

very exciting and i got a drop

6:19

in here that are producer carolina's a season ticket

6:21

holder for angel city fc says

6:23

bad this i had no idea no

6:25

idea i don't know that she was sneaking

6:28

off after we record to just like be

6:30

an angel city fc superfan

6:32

sister caroline contain multitudes

6:35

of i do want to take this opportunity to

6:37

dunk on brett farr fat guy

6:39

or the fuck that guy thought that guy for many

6:41

reasons for many reasons so we

6:43

got all of this like good news

6:45

and positive role models

6:48

and women sports for the most part and

6:50

meanwhile this is like running alongside

6:52

headlines about brett farr i'm

6:55

an investigative report by mississippi today

6:57

found this week that former

7:00

mississippi gov phil bryant and

7:02

act green bay packers quarterback brett

7:04

farr

7:05

you're welfare of fun

7:08

we're supposed to be for poor people to

7:10

build a new volleyball center the

7:12

university of southern mississippi know why would

7:14

brett farr do not now

7:19

i'm putting people in mississippi who don't have clean

7:21

water and the money could have gone

7:23

other places yeah so

7:26

the news organization that report of this mississippi

7:28

today i looked at text messages

7:30

between the two of them okay guys for you to do

7:32

welfare fraud don't do it over texas

7:34

ssssss that's

7:36

it that's another sign that like some of america's

7:39

stupidest men are

7:41

the ones doing these crimes and

7:44

it is a shame i mean just imagine

7:46

how many men slightly smarter than phil

7:48

bryant and brett farr getting

7:50

oil as much worse thing so

7:53

the attacks were filed by an attorney representing

7:56

attorney person named nancy new and

7:58

nancy has already pleaded guilty thirteen

8:00

felony counts of bribery fraud and racketeering

8:03

for her role in the scheme sell

8:05

to call back to i love lucy that

8:07

far have you gotten splaine into the offense

8:09

blaine and to do yeah

8:12

so he sucks and then i also want to shout

8:14

out the best nickname i've ever seen

8:16

for a bad sports

8:18

figure that is something

8:21

that was shown me on twitter so i cannot take credit for

8:23

that grover cleveland

8:25

wow grover cleveland new

8:27

nickname for discern what's incredibly is implicated

8:30

dozens of sexual assaults and suspended

8:32

for eleven games for being a sex pest

8:34

his name is now grover cleveland

8:36

just putting that grover cleveland that's that's that works

8:39

for me okay well we do a little sports minute

8:41

sports five minutes we should do that more often

8:43

i love sports minutes i know

8:46

it's sort of makes me feel like we contain

8:48

multitude yeah exactly

8:50

we can have multiple interests that one so

8:52

let's have it to the twenty

8:54

twenty two elect

8:56

so

8:57

the job he has had a few weeks bad news

9:00

your bad polling unexpectedly

9:02

bad special election results are

9:04

including up there and in new york close you

9:06

alyssa so under

9:08

normal circumstances

9:10

if a party was experiencing you know their messaging

9:13

was bring them to this point the message

9:15

would be abort abort abort but for

9:17

the glp abortion as look at them into this mess

9:19

so they shouldn't be talking about abortion percent

9:21

right now i'm unfortunately for some of the party

9:23

that doesn't seem possible exhibit a south

9:26

carolina sen lindsey graham

9:28

alyssa our favorite southern

9:30

bachelor been up to well iran

9:33

it seems that he couldn't let well enough

9:35

alone and has decided

9:38

read the room

9:41

where has he been for the past couple

9:43

of months he introduced

9:45

legislation to institute of federal

9:48

bore sinbad at sixteen weeks of

9:50

pregnancy which is something mitch

9:52

mcconnell said dates and here's the thing

9:54

it's not like mitch mcconnell was lying to

9:56

us and was like more knife and is when i can

9:59

do that state wanna do that is

10:01

terrible for them why would they do this

10:03

but lindsey graham be single

10:06

white man know uterus know kids

10:08

was like let me get involved here

10:11

and he did and

10:14

fucking stupid yeah truly

10:16

the leo michelle

10:17

the reading the room lindsey graham

10:20

the thing is it is an abortion ban

10:23

and i think that the way that

10:25

republicans are trying to position

10:28

any sort of limitations on abortion

10:31

the

10:32

in january and we shouldn't go with a

10:34

fifteen week abortion ban is an abortion ban

10:36

rife with narrow exceptions

10:38

it would apply nationwide doesn't matter what

10:40

state you live and right this is contrary

10:42

to things that graham himself said right after

10:45

jobs came down on june twenty fourth

10:47

graham himself said that this should be left up to the safe

10:49

now he thing just kidding were going

10:52

institute assisting week abortion bans now

10:54

if you're listening to this a new like you know what fifteen

10:56

weeks as a lot more reasonable than what is currently happening

10:59

in my state says a glitzy live in texas

11:01

the thing is a sixteen we fan does

11:03

not list the feeling

11:06

of places with more restrictive fans

11:08

it only imposes a ceiling

11:10

on places with more permissive

11:13

laws designed to protect abortion access

11:15

so this this

11:18

like you policy bad

11:21

politics i don't know

11:23

what lindsey graham was thinking you know the thing

11:25

and i was really funny about this is on tuesday

11:28

at the end of the day there is something in politico

11:30

that was like glp leaders aren't

11:32

sure what lindsey graham do it yet

11:36

what do you think is doing what is what like

11:39

if we were to sit mr graham down yes

11:42

and see like lindsay walk us through

11:45

what you think you're doing what

11:47

do you think he would say i don't know if it

11:49

was a truly is perplexing because

11:51

the whole c o p response

11:54

to dobbs was like stop

11:57

crying liberals were just sending it

11:59

back to the state that's where it should be decided

12:02

and the what's he doing

12:04

i mean it literally i don't know what he

12:06

could tell us that would make sense

12:08

other then i was lonely because

12:11

know hard to me anymore the flat

12:13

in to introduce legislation

12:15

on the senate floor blake had he not

12:17

made mitch mcconnell mad enough had he not

12:19

like nothing he is doing

12:21

makes sense on their see i don't think you

12:24

could tell us anything that would make of be like

12:26

hey like we don't agree with you about we see where you're coming

12:28

from like there's just there's just nothing

12:30

i think he was lonely you think of

12:33

what it is just like mad at mitch

12:35

mcconnell and this and this his

12:38

version of cutting off his nose

12:40

to spite of says he doesn't want mitch

12:42

the charged anymore he doesn't what mitt six

12:44

it would have wanted to ensure

12:46

it

12:47

like the thing is a be one thing if

12:49

i'm if somehow for some reason

12:51

mcconnell were some you know

12:53

like outlier

12:55

the season i like everything was

12:57

just like the fuck is lindsay do a thing yeah

13:01

so so strange and

13:03

i don't know like you

13:05

know that comparison with made after

13:08

jobs came down that now republicans

13:10

are the dog because the car right you

13:12

know set right after it came down

13:14

most of them

13:15

laid low and they were like aren't cool ah

13:18

here we go

13:19

we want to we don't need to say thing off there's no

13:21

need to say anything of yeah but then we had people like

13:24

mike pence to catch the car and the like

13:26

can cause if i want to keep say like

13:29

they can't resist continuing

13:31

to bring this up even know this

13:33

has it's demonstrably

13:36

harmful for them politically they

13:38

are gonna end up like that

13:41

mitt romney dog know god

13:43

six yeah six mean here's the thing it's

13:45

find out season it's find out season

13:47

it's find out season i wanted to pivot

13:49

to something that was written in the

13:51

new york times this weekend by

13:54

a pulsar named tomboy on yea who

13:56

we have we said it is work before

13:59

i'm he wrote something in the near times

14:01

this weekend titled

14:03

women are so fired up to vote of never see anything

14:05

like it and this is from a pollster

14:07

and this isn't the new york times which like

14:09

have in the past john click bait but

14:11

this is like not right they're not a click

14:13

bait factory

14:15

oh yeah what do you make of women

14:17

been fired up with signs are you seeing of that

14:20

so women are registering

14:22

to vote more they are voting more

14:25

as we have seen in and like i think

14:27

that you and i've like these articles

14:29

are interesting but

14:32

it takes so almost nerve wracking

14:34

to talk about them because you don't want people to

14:36

think going into a midterm like it's all fine

14:38

that women are going to vote are going to be saved and and flag

14:41

let's not forget the white suburban women

14:44

of virginia but women

14:46

are engaged for years we have

14:48

thought this might happen everybody said it wouldn't happen

14:51

and it did happen and so i think that

14:53

endures version of you know

14:55

find out season women are like okay

14:57

we found out think we'd known out they

14:59

will do it they are as extreme

15:02

as we've been told that they are ends

15:05

in general the republican party is utterly

15:07

willing to erode our rights

15:10

as quickly as they can and

15:12

sell in kansas which we

15:14

talked about it was not just how many women

15:16

turned out it was that the ,

15:18

kansas they had almost presidential

15:20

year level turn out which

15:23

is incredible and you

15:25

know so they're saying people are fucking fired

15:27

up they're selling they're going to the polls there registering

15:29

to vote so you know women

15:31

are surging their surging women

15:33

are the hottest new accessory for twenty two

15:35

inches that was so stefan

15:38

from snl type

15:41

that anything here's the thing alyssa we

15:44

have a very recent

15:46

example of republicans fucking

15:48

rounded finding out with female voters when

15:51

a eighteen the morning a teen

15:53

was an extremely find out season

15:55

election for reality like

15:58

it was a bluewave said was

16:00

bigger in degree than anything

16:03

that pundits predicted unless there

16:05

are people like you and me who were like

16:07

paying attention to what we were hearing

16:09

what we're seeing and the way

16:11

that women are talking to each other i'm like

16:14

i'm not a pulsar and so i'm not going to pretend

16:16

that i have like scientific insight here know

16:18

what i can say that

16:20

based on conversation

16:23

interactions i've had with women across

16:25

the spectrum of you know

16:28

socio economic status people i

16:30

grew up with live back in rural wisconsin

16:32

i've seen posts on social media from

16:34

them that are to the effect of like what

16:36

the fuck all the way to people who are like

16:38

living in new york city and have yeah degrees

16:41

and he know and people who are highly

16:43

paid to graduate school you know professional

16:45

it seems like this

16:48

the thing that unite

16:49

no half of the population of this country

16:52

is that we have a biology

16:55

that republicans believe

16:57

they have the authority

17:00

to regulate yeah and

17:02

it doesn't really matter where you

17:04

live now we know that they're trying to do a

17:07

federal ban lindsey graham commander said the

17:09

client or love yeah so the matter where you

17:11

live doesn't matter who you are how rich you are

17:13

all of this is going to impact

17:15

you and i don't understand

17:17

why republicans are like why we have spoken

17:19

around with women again it doesn't end well for

17:22

them it doesn't and especially because

17:24

it's not even like the supports

17:27

expanding different kinds of health care

17:29

i mean up where i spend most of my time

17:31

up near albany you have to travel

17:34

really far to find a hospital where

17:36

you can have a baby let alone

17:39

i mean like and people say oh new york like

17:41

a see now this liberal bluhm bus so

17:43

the funny thing was driving around because

17:46

our primaries where the end of august signs

17:49

everywhere did say you

17:51

know vote democrat if you

17:53

believe in choice votes and i mean even places

17:55

where you would think it was just so understood

17:58

it's not people get it now that playing

18:00

it doesn't matter there are some people

18:02

who are of in far better circumstances

18:04

currently but none of us are

18:06

safe from what their assigned to do exactly

18:09

end this is what we've been saying

18:11

warfare again because it's

18:13

true about for republican

18:16

any republican

18:17

anywhere on the ballot a vote for a republican

18:20

is a boat against abortion

18:22

act that yes of what we're republican is

18:24

a vote for

18:26

abortion ban yeah lindsey

18:28

graham cel nazis telenor he's

18:30

telling us like less listen to them and

18:33

you know it doesn't really matter how low your taxes

18:35

are if you live in a country

18:37

where you have no say over

18:40

when and

18:41

now you give [unk]

18:42

it doesn't matter

18:44

no the thing about the republican party that

18:46

is so terrifying as you actually have no idea what

18:48

they believe like no idea it's all

18:50

in service of winning elections and

18:52

so even if all of the master lindsey graham

18:55

i introduce this legislation were like homer

18:58

, backing into the bush you know

19:00

like whoa boy we weren't ethics

19:02

of pass be fucking down

19:04

stages don't wanna lose their election right

19:06

now it's not like they had like they of heart

19:09

in the past three months and they were like you know one

19:11

women should have rights people

19:13

in america should be able to decide what

19:15

happens to their bodies and when or if

19:17

they give birth and so

19:20

you know it's like that's why it's

19:22

all on the ballot all the time every time

19:24

in every state

19:26

exactly and i also want to say on

19:28

your point i don't think

19:31

lindsey graham really believes

19:33

in in anything i could not total

19:35

one hundred percent and one way that

19:37

we can tell he he specifically doesn't believe

19:39

in his proposal on abortion is

19:42

how what in an like

19:44

photo if like he didn't think through

19:46

position before he had a press conference

19:49

on it right you got a question from a

19:51

female journalists had gone

19:53

through a traumatic experience where

19:55

a birth defect

19:57

rand heard i heard child

19:59

like

19:59

they can survive

20:01

and when she brought it up his

20:03

response was like while the rest of the

20:05

world has made a decision

20:08

like what sat up

20:10

since you only practice one

20:12

possible like push back

20:14

right on the slots like lindsey graham

20:17

and republicans are going to say

20:19

that this fan brings us in line with europe

20:21

but we're not in line with your of bullshit

20:24

in almost everything else we're not

20:26

in line with your up when it comes to paid

20:28

parental leave they've got it

20:30

we doubt

20:31

people like lindsey graham have made sure

20:33

that we don't

20:34

we're not in line with your when it comes universal health

20:36

care know they've got it we don't people

20:39

like lindsey graham have made sure

20:40

that

20:41

we don't offer joe lieberman speaking of

20:43

connecticut call back as as they've

20:46

also got low cost or

20:48

government sponsored high quality

20:50

preschool that is taught

20:52

by childcare providers who are

20:55

highly trained and fairly compensated

20:57

yeah we don't have that either thing

20:59

on people like lindsey graham's so you want

21:01

to talk about getting in line with your i give us

21:03

europe i would love to getting on with

21:06

your first

21:08

, i'll sell everything they say

21:10

when they try to make comparisons to

21:12

europe is such bullshit and

21:15

it's so disingenuous because europe

21:17

when it comes to abortion some of the

21:20

sort of they may say that

21:22

abortion shouldn't happen after fourteen weeks

21:24

since one of it's so much more accessible

21:26

in europe than it is here hospitals

21:29

have not turned their backs on abortions because

21:31

they don't want to be stigmatized the

21:33

laws are written in such that

21:35

yes abortion should not happen

21:37

after fourteen weeks accept

21:39

i think germany is a great example

21:42

except it's the life or mental

21:44

health of the mother or fetus

21:47

is in jeopardy from the point

21:49

of view of the pregnant percent

21:51

of the pregnant first that a preserve

21:54

soy and human

21:56

dignity while putting on

21:58

some it's sort of like the bumper

22:00

cars yeah set such a good analogy

22:03

but it's not like they're not

22:05

hard and fast rules like they're proposing the

22:07

here and there certainly not

22:10

wrong that enable people to turn

22:12

in their neighbors for ten thousand dollar bounties

22:14

for violating them such fuckin

22:16

wilde said if anybody comes to

22:18

you if anybody comes to me with some bullshit about

22:20

getting in line with your up enemy like do all

22:22

that other shit first are young you don't know

22:24

what you're talking about and you're relying

22:26

on general ignorance of the rest of the population

22:29

to get away with that bullshit it

22:31

is we're not in any way

22:33

getting in line with your up with a blanket

22:36

fifteen week fan with only exception

22:38

the rape incest and serious

22:40

health jeopardy for the mother as determined by

22:43

some like tbd government

22:45

entity or medical authority

22:48

this is nowhere near what they have in europe

22:50

don't let anybody tell you that it is so yeah

22:52

keep talking about abortion lindsay please love

22:54

love having this conversation is imagine

22:56

or conversations with you look

22:59

, least it was it like marsha blackburn

23:01

oh god i'm sorry i put that on

23:04

into the universe okay

23:06

let's see that's i think a pretty

23:08

much said what much need to said human he told

23:10

cirrhosis week alyssa we

23:13

have some toasts right it was kind of

23:15

a nice week of we

23:17

saw any is largely

23:19

very boring but some great winners and

23:22

one sort of holistic toast

23:24

i think would be to all of abbott elementary

23:27

which we have talked about before quinta

23:29

branson and sheryl lee roth both

23:31

one this but i think the thing that we are most

23:34

excited about is that the cast

23:36

and staff of abbott elementary

23:39

decided to use their

23:41

funds for their emmy consideration

23:44

their marketing money to fund schools

23:47

aren't they gave that money to

23:49

help under fun

23:50

id teacher

23:51

wow til one oh

23:54

man you know why that

23:56

fucking heart like that

23:57

don't the kind of people that you want winning

24:00

it might be opposite of what emily in

24:02

paris said when they just like slew

24:04

of and secret eight hours

24:06

any of your a person it doesn't live like

24:09

in a in a coastal city or and entertainment

24:11

center f y c is no joke

24:13

for your consideration campaigns are no joke there

24:15

are billboards everywhere on

24:17

major thoroughfares there are like

24:19

if you're somebody who had isn't a position to vote

24:21

for these things you get these like gift baskets

24:24

yom get weird i

24:26

know that like this isn't this isn't tv

24:28

but a twenty four gave out like

24:31

promotional fong when

24:33

like spring breakers came out this lake

24:35

yeah ten years ago or whatever oh my god

24:38

when next wednesday ways shelter

24:40

him out it was like sunglasses

24:43

and champagne and i mean it was it

24:45

was a fancy box right it's a huge

24:48

thing f y c funds are huge thing and it's a

24:50

good way to kind of like cut through the noise

24:52

of a lot of entertainment and

24:54

the fact that at abbott elementary was like you know

24:56

what we definitely could use the to

25:00

an award but and several going of teachers i

25:02

, that's really awesome and if i worked

25:04

for any other shall i be like that i feel

25:06

like an asshole now totally

25:08

up to one hundred percent i'd be so embarrassed

25:11

anyway or anyway toast or a

25:14

behind abbott elementary it's a great show can't

25:16

wait to watch a season two and

25:19

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25:21

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and welcome back

30:03

the me

30:04

yeah a podcast where every single

30:06

person involved in it always feels as

30:08

though they have homework even though they

30:10

don't

30:11

up

30:14

alyssa you just took a week

30:16

off you took a yeah you took some time off

30:18

how me how that went for you

30:20

mentally unfit aaron to , up

30:23

a it was stupid and i'll

30:25

have and i'll attitude because it was so stupid

30:27

i'm like as the other on the opposite of refresh

30:30

straight out of nipples what i mean

30:32

is it because you felt as though you

30:34

had things to do

30:36

during the time that you really shouldn't

30:38

have been doing our ultimately when

30:40

i said you'd do i need a week off

30:42

it was because my list of shit was so

30:44

long i'm like i need to hunker down and getting

30:47

stiff and so know because i felt

30:49

the weight of labor day you

30:51

know you circling those emails that are like movie group

30:53

after labor day we'll do this after labor day

30:55

and i was like oh my god i have like five days

30:58

to get myself straight and

31:00

ah you know i got a lot done

31:02

but i wouldn't say that i like had

31:04

leisurely dinners north like day

31:06

dreger and it's like some and were like ron

31:09

swanson on march thirty first

31:11

which is the day that april again didn't think

31:13

existed and so she scheduled all his meetings

31:15

for that day a higher

31:17

exactly that is me in a nutshell

31:19

cs that was my i can't

31:21

complain lucky like lucky to

31:23

have had the time that at relaxing

31:26

it was not yeah so

31:28

here's the thing

31:30

i'm sure you know if it is was way more interesting

31:32

and exciting than that might to do is

31:34

fight

31:35

i i have tried to

31:37

take time off last week

31:38

the didn't record a shell

31:40

and i tried to take time

31:42

where i was like today i'm not doing anything for

31:44

work and it was so

31:47

nerve wracking the whole have i like

31:49

should i be doing that which i the but

31:51

could i be like know i'm just gonna do this i'm

31:53

just gonna read like for articles that have

31:55

something to do you know i'm just gonna like go ahead and

31:58

highlights as saying in the this feeling

32:01

that if you don't use the time the

32:03

you will somehow regret how you used

32:05

your day off in a few days when you have too

32:07

much to do and you're like if i had just done that on

32:09

my day off i wouldn't have all the shit right

32:11

now yeah yeah regret air as

32:14

dumb as yet on it's it is

32:16

it's feel very ominous a dumb

32:18

because i think it's normal but i think

32:20

that it's it's not healthy

32:22

and i want to get into that

32:25

because not i'm not point fingers and of the

32:27

i think you and i have this trade in common

32:29

and i suspect these

32:31

other two women that we have on the show today

32:33

may also have something to say

32:36

the phenomenon i'm going to bring in the rest

32:38

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32:40

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32:42

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32:56

oh thank you for that ssssss

32:59

how are you guys it's good to see it's been

33:01

a minutes good to see you to i feel like you're

33:03

so close but yet so far i know

33:06

because we're always through a screen i now know

33:08

except when it's every so often occasionally

33:10

at a birthday yes every so

33:12

often occasionally at a birthday see a birthdays

33:15

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33:17

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her it's carrick like kara welcome

33:29

to hysteria hello

33:31

thank you for having me is actually my birthday on tuesday

33:34

virgo he's and a happy

33:36

birthday whatever ago what

33:38

are heard i mean what do what are they supposed

33:41

what that was our say of unlike a pretty

33:43

i don't even on much i believe in astrology but

33:45

i'm a very classic burger like taipei

33:47

make a lot a live loyal

33:49

friend control

33:51

freaky type of thing to say okay

33:54

well then i'm going to start with you and this conversation

33:56

ha ha

33:58

one of the last time you

33:59

troll he took a vacation where

34:02

you didn't work or

34:04

feel bad about working

34:09

mom i won't say

34:11

probably

34:13

my

34:14

a year and a half delayed honeymoon in

34:16

twenty six scene where i went to

34:19

thailand with my has then i would say

34:21

because of i think because

34:23

it was the holidays you went at christmas time

34:26

i didn't feel like i had stop

34:28

coming in you know what i mean i'm not going to say

34:30

didn't check my email or respond to south but

34:32

like that probably feels like the last time

34:34

i took a vacation that was i felt

34:36

pretty disconnected an unplanned was

34:38

also like the time difference to think that

34:41

maybe yeah totally and like

34:43

i was like my honeymoon in the holidays and it was

34:45

like i feel like we did it at a good we

34:47

did it at a good time for people that work in the and he

34:49

meant business cause you know know what nothing's really

34:51

do when the in and

34:53

at the holidays so when's the last

34:56

time you tried to take some time off

34:58

are you

34:59

try to like set aside some time to to not

35:01

work and did you succeeded that

35:03

yeah

35:06

i will i'm gonna go ahead and say that any

35:08

time i am och like off

35:10

but i am with my children i don't count that as

35:12

a vacation you know i'm he hates

35:14

there are no vacations with kids for me

35:17

like yes i can go to places

35:19

that are fun with my kids but i am working

35:21

at as a muslim so i don't

35:23

really feel like there's really at the age is that my kids

35:25

are maybe later down the road when they're

35:28

able to cannonball by themselves on the corner

35:30

the pool and i can have athena kolata some

35:32

that will be a good vacation but

35:34

that's were not there yet so

35:36

i will my i can't say that i

35:38

even remember i don't really do that because

35:41

i am crazy like i'm a virgo

35:43

he control freak person

35:45

that's like while i'm not going to let someone else handle this

35:48

if this just had my phone my phone and i can just do it you

35:50

know what i mean it's it's an illness it's an illness

35:53

i mean i don't think that your

35:55

alone in that though especially for

35:57

people who whose career is

35:59

creative one because

36:01

your job is sort of like yourself

36:04

yourself as yob and your job is yourself

36:07

and anything could inspire you to

36:09

right something or you know

36:12

come up with a joke for your sat or

36:14

whatever and so like it

36:16

seems like especially given the work the you do it would

36:18

be really

36:19

hard to just feel like i'm not gonna work at all

36:21

i mean like when i got

36:24

contact like i think the thing is is that

36:26

so much moves so quickly in our business

36:28

that it's like you you know

36:30

like i'm sure cure and you know to like if you get an audition

36:32

sometimes it's like oh this is you and three hours and

36:34

it's like why like everything is so

36:36

fast like when i got contacted

36:39

about the possibility of a job at ripples drag

36:41

race i was in the hospital

36:43

having just had my baby and i was like well i gotta

36:45

send this resume and and i was like in

36:47

my hospital bed in a diaper sending

36:50

in my resume so thick you

36:52

know you just don't want to like miss any opportunities

36:55

i guess is by where i come from on and

36:57

i think that's also the results of the like

36:59

being and something that's really freelance as

37:02

were in more that quote unquote gig economy

37:04

i think there's a feeling of like yeah

37:07

there's there's coming out of the pandemic

37:09

it's a little bit more like i think it's structurally

37:11

more

37:12

foundry less than what i think about like

37:14

some of my relatives in england or

37:17

in europe where there's a little bit more like

37:19

you know the phone goes off at on friday

37:21

and then you have through monday or like you're

37:23

visiting and in town we have we're gonna

37:26

go on the site and no one's going to contact me

37:28

i think some of these things are structural to

37:30

around like maybe your like specifically

37:32

taipei but it's like if you get a bunch of

37:35

appointment friday at five pm

37:37

and they're due monday am like

37:39

i don't like what are your options

37:41

in a business that are really that's that's

37:43

very competitive you know and i think there

37:46

is it's almost like that we

37:48

protestant american work

37:51

ethic of like work till you die work

37:53

will set you free which i think gens

37:55

he is kind of getting very like

37:58

for example of

37:59

the standard way you know

38:02

yeah i think i think that's really interesting

38:04

alyssa i i wonder what you

38:07

make of what cure and said

38:09

about like the lack of boundaries you're nodding

38:12

oh i'm in a hundred

38:14

percent because i was saying

38:16

we're talking about this little earlier that

38:20

them i am old enough

38:23

that i remember when i got into

38:25

the workforce not cured gear and laughing at me

38:27

and theory has love every time i love every

38:29

time you bring up that you're older you'll

38:31

be like you'll be like back in eighty nine i

38:33

said i'm ,

38:35

snow but it matters because in technology

38:38

a few years makes a difference right so

38:41

in college and my first year as out

38:43

in the workforce we did not not

38:45

only should we now have email there were no black

38:47

berries or i phones or anything like

38:50

that and so when you

38:52

left work you you

38:54

left work and sometimes i think back

38:56

on it and i'm like i used to be so mad

38:59

that i'd leave work at like seven o'clock seven

39:01

thirties but i was fleet

39:03

and sell nine o'clock the next day and

39:06

so i think i underestimated back

39:08

that a man and me that helped once

39:10

for everybody's by the other thing

39:12

i think it's interesting is that because

39:14

i went from spending twenty

39:17

years of my life i guess ah a know

39:19

actual workforce like in a

39:21

structured hierarchical

39:24

place i actually

39:26

did get more free time

39:29

then i do now because now

39:32

i don't have any one who does anything i do everything

39:34

myself for the most part and so it's like

39:37

i can't say i can't

39:39

put on an out of office and be like contact

39:41

so and so like there was

39:43

a period of time after the first couple of years in the

39:45

white house where no one had had of a case

39:47

and everyone was getting really says outs the

39:49

we just like structured at we were like okay

39:52

danielle gets this week off and justice

39:54

gonna stand in for the and yells but then because jessica

39:56

was doing two jobs than the next week just to get

39:58

the we thought and so it was actually

40:01

and and we had a real thing that was like put your out

40:03

of office on you don't need to look at your emails

40:05

like in the automatically forward and so

40:08

i just think now it's like and the one

40:10

hand you know can

40:12

i get a load of laundry done between zooms

40:14

i can and i'm grateful for it but at the same

40:17

time there's no out of

40:19

office reply anymore yeah and i think

40:21

this is a uniquely american

40:23

problem i know there are other countries that emphasize

40:26

ah work to the point that it's

40:28

it's like hurtful to the

40:30

to the actual workers fight you know where

40:32

all coming at this from a from a perspective in the us

40:35

and we have a uniquely like fucks up relationship

40:37

with work and we have no federal

40:40

paid vacation policy so we talk about maternity

40:42

leave not being guaranteed year which is like i

40:44

think the most egregious way that

40:46

we've mistreat workers are one of the most egregious

40:49

with what we also have no federal

40:51

paid vacation policy and

40:54

it's only one of a handful of countries

40:56

that don't have any guaranteed annual

40:58

leave that is paid canada in japan

41:01

the other countries with the least paid

41:04

annual leave watch they

41:06

each get ten days hang

41:08

days of guaranteed

41:10

paid leave five in each country

41:13

of the longer you worked at a place the more they

41:15

kiss and your crew so like ten is

41:17

the minimum number of days paid

41:19

vacation days that you have if you live

41:21

in some of the more restrictive countries

41:24

outside of the us and

41:26

i think that that really puts

41:28

us in a position where we feel as though we

41:31

can't take vacations because

41:34

our vacations even when we're working in like a more

41:36

corporate environment know something that isn't a freelance

41:38

see our vacations or like by the grace

41:41

of our employer and so you almost

41:43

feel like you're asking

41:45

for them to do something even though that's part

41:47

of your compensation package scary you're

41:49

nodding yeah no i just like

41:52

when like lived in italy my italian friends

41:54

were always like wait how much vacation to

41:56

get in the us and i would say people usually take

41:58

like take week or maybe two the vacation a

42:00

year and they were like watched as

42:02

like there are classically a very

42:04

vacation he culture and like

42:06

they were always like i mean

42:08

a my friend was like a police officer that took

42:11

off like a month for what he

42:13

would say we would call the fever i mean

42:15

i think it's

42:18

, believe a good mood of out of mars other night

42:20

and we'd be i did you go back to work today the like now

42:22

i thought the fever and we were like okay

42:24

like maybe it was like lost in

42:26

translation but this do did not go to work for

42:28

like a month and would like it was all paid

42:31

and

42:31

you know

42:32

i just remember that was like the first time

42:34

remember thinking like oh with the way

42:37

we do it's not the way it is everywhere like

42:39

there especially like august

42:41

in europe it's a high more a lot of

42:43

americans like to go there but they are all on vacation

42:45

like they're all gone like you know so

42:48

it's like you would never plan

42:51

anything business related probably in

42:53

europe the whole month of august see

42:56

that is something is think would benefit this country so well

42:58

if there were like in japan it's the same thing

43:00

there is just blocks of time where the country's

43:03

on holiday analogy make it

43:05

so much more enjoyable

43:07

because it's like even know

43:10

like were saying earlier even the last week i

43:12

took last week offer the leap forward ever was

43:14

but , the world's that i live

43:16

in everyone else had taken their vacation like two

43:19

weeks before so it was actually like

43:21

so stupid because i just

43:23

have so many eat me me

43:26

yeah i agree with i also

43:28

notice the first time i was like oh

43:30

yeah it's really fucked up here was

43:33

when i was on when trip

43:36

to peru and i'm not

43:38

one of those seat like it was the first time i'd ever like gone

43:40

i'd ever big international vacation as an adult

43:42

and i was like

43:43

thirty one

43:44

something like that so i went to peru

43:46

to hide

43:48

the inca trail

43:49

and everyone else in the hiking

43:51

group was like from

43:53

ireland and on a six week

43:55

trump through south america and

43:58

they were all like we have like

43:59

ten days were like okay we're in

44:02

peru were doing this scheduled top

44:04

to bottom and then flying out

44:06

going back to worth in excess and

44:08

like everyone else can we do

44:10

to bolivia after this it's and

44:12

it's realize like oh these

44:14

the people have like the opportunity to

44:16

experience other parts of the world

44:19

in ways that leads

44:21

known as americans i feel like that's

44:23

another way

44:25

the people in this country could benefit

44:27

from having more generous the kitchen time

44:29

and i'm not just like suggesting everyone

44:31

just do you fly to south america

44:33

in order to enrich themselves but go

44:35

up to montreal for like that you

44:37

know oh a long weekend and enjoy

44:40

it and enjoy it you know go to a difference

44:42

part of the country and experience

44:44

a different way of life

44:46

you know and and i think that a lack of vacation

44:49

time really gets us like entrenched

44:51

in this in the places we live in the communities

44:53

where we already

44:55

spend all our

44:56

i'm and last week

44:58

a mix of kind of

44:59

the occupied versions of ourselves

45:02

we're where we have a harder time connecting with

45:04

other with other people are understanding

45:06

or other people are coming

45:08

from yeah just breaking

45:10

up the monotony of your weeks

45:12

and months you know is like i would

45:14

say like i just want

45:15

if the kitchen vacation server

45:17

like i told you write about last time i was on

45:19

the show actually and you know

45:22

i have my kids with me the whole time and i was technically

45:24

working for part of it the app is place

45:26

that i went to it was so fun just

45:28

to like

45:29

the in a different place like eat at different

45:31

times like just break up and then i came

45:33

back for like kind of the same schedule

45:35

as always and was like this feels like fresh

45:37

you may have it's like really good for your mental health

45:40

like if any that like even if you're

45:42

not even traveling somewhere

45:44

you're just doing your day in a different way

45:46

and it just breaks up the monotony like life

45:50

the other thing about vacation i know that

45:52

like my entire in

45:54

the summers when i was a kid we used

45:57

to go back to england so like when you're like an

45:59

immigrant and your family of somewhere else like

46:01

a lot of people are using that time when they

46:03

go it's not like this like the whole

46:05

idea the whole concept to me of like

46:08

the pure vacation to a place where i know

46:10

no one truly

46:12

insane i

46:14

did not always i truly it's like

46:16

you use your vacation time to

46:18

go see family you use it to go to the

46:20

wedding that you have to go to it's like the

46:23

idea that it's such a me

46:25

it feels like such a culturally white idea

46:28

that like you would go to vermont if you don't know

46:30

anybody there was like what are you a queen

46:32

of like it's truly

46:35

like truly like do that until

46:37

i did i alaskan mexico and that

46:39

was like a week or ten days and it was like

46:42

i remember the feeling of like the

46:44

luxury of it i was like god

46:46

this is such a privilege like it

46:48

was the first time i think like just

46:51

the gift of how many people globally

46:54

get an opportunity to take out ten

46:56

days of their life to like go

46:58

to somewhere else and like focus on there are like

47:00

spiritual and mental health that's like such

47:02

as just you in a place

47:05

where you know no one else it's like

47:07

that's also like a financial

47:10

a privilege right so that

47:12

was something that really really struck

47:14

me well with i don't think i've ever down

47:17

there before this moment when it

47:19

wasn't to visit family go

47:21

somewhere else i'm curious

47:23

other folks have a similar

47:25

experience because europe is gonna be very different than

47:27

let's say south asia in terms of you know a

47:29

manual labor laws they are yeah just

47:31

and and work hours and all that stuff yeah

47:33

i once you i'm a huge you

47:35

know about this current we both spent time in this

47:37

country i went to nepal wind arm

47:40

and twenty seventeen years in my

47:42

thirties you know i always thought of traveling

47:44

as like a thing that i saw my friends

47:46

and peers doing when they were like younger

47:49

but it was like the first time first could

47:51

for it to do something like that and i was working

47:53

at an employer that allowed

47:55

me

47:56

you take

47:58

we're and like

47:59

back to my job and like keep

48:02

my insurance while it was there it was like the

48:04

the best thing ever i had this trip planned before

48:06

it's it's the jobs anyway i'm

48:08

when i was there

48:10

it felt like the trip

48:13

they've to me and a little bit and i don't wanna

48:15

say it is like i feel like i'm

48:17

good how silly gotta groove back or like eat

48:19

pray love sort of a think it just

48:22

for me to

48:24

not be connected to

48:26

the tic tac news

48:28

and the workday i'm like

48:31

nepal is on like a release the it's

48:33

an awesome time zone i think it's like and

48:35

lox a certain number of hours and forty

48:37

five minutes off so i never knew what

48:39

time it was anywhere that

48:41

any of my

48:43

you know coworkers lives i

48:45

, able to file a few stories from there

48:48

i was sleeping when every

48:50

one of the wig and wig was awake when everyone i knew

48:52

with sleeping and sleeping couldn't connect

48:54

to the internet most of the times of

48:56

because times was literally like

48:59

in on a partner reach think

49:01

you know like there was no internet it

49:03

was like the way it

49:05

was the it was an experience that forced me to disconnect

49:08

and i actually still have my out of office

49:10

message from there and reading it

49:12

has given me flashbacks to just how

49:15

i'm healthy my relationship with work was

49:17

at the time before i left

49:21

the out of office response during

49:23

the weeks and twenty seventeen

49:25

worse i'm currently in the himalayas

49:27

and have no mountain commensurate or and have

49:29

mountain commensurate access the email and the internet

49:32

i'll be back on may seventeen this

49:34

is related to the daily beast sept five hate

49:36

mail it's address please email me via

49:39

my encrypted email if it's an emergency

49:41

sorry i'll have to find out about the

49:43

emergency when i have one i'm

49:46

that of

49:48

i'm curious what your typical out of

49:50

office

49:51

are are they like it here is how to get in touch

49:53

with the inches it's an emergency like you to give

49:55

people contact and folks alyssa i

49:58

haven't done and out of office in

50:01

very long time but the last time i

50:03

did it was how

50:06

detailed into slaves or

50:08

her i will be out of the office

50:10

literally i didn't out of office like thirty

50:12

six hours i will the out of office you know

50:14

when i did it when i got married while

50:17

i think that was the last time i did it's and we got

50:19

married on a friday and sell was like thirty

50:21

two new and i was like i'll be out of office

50:23

for matters related to this please contact

50:25

the annual crutch built for matters related to this please

50:27

contact brad for matters related to this please contact

50:30

eighties it was i it was very

50:32

detailed and people still which

50:35

get my out of office so are the email back

50:37

to me be like others had you back on monday

50:42

no one else to put don't

50:44

stop by off of america darfur

50:48

oh my gosh that's

50:50

that's insane

50:52

yeah but now sometimes i'll be

50:54

like if i'm in the middle of something i might put

50:56

an out of office it's like i'm on a plane i mean

50:59

i would be a lie haven't become complacent about

51:02

where the case i'd you know back then i be like

51:04

a monoplane right now paint now paint not have wife

51:06

i saw get you when i land have you guys heard

51:08

about the camping trip

51:11

now that so you

51:13

, it in a typical typical american

51:15

fashion which is like work around the problem

51:18

and don't fix it a lot of

51:20

people now are exchanging

51:22

tips on how to disconnect from the office by

51:24

saying that they should make their make your out

51:26

of office email response i'm response

51:28

a camping trip

51:29

and have no access to email even

51:32

if you're and like a city because

51:34

if you to yeah oh i'm into

51:36

that that also means that you can't

51:38

post anything on social media well

51:40

that as the other piece of that point post any

51:42

piece of your vacation you can't post in stewart

51:44

you can't post anything also like

51:46

the out of office doesn't block the email

51:49

that you can still read them like it's up to

51:51

you if you want to read them are not right like

51:54

you can put the out of office on and then it's like are

51:56

you checking it or not i'm so

51:58

it's like i know

51:59

there was like oh people are going to wonder where i

52:02

am but i also like alyssa have not done

52:04

a an hour

52:04

robinson like probably ten years

52:06

did you know but the concept of like a gap

52:08

year is so many of my cousins in england

52:10

did this where they like basically they

52:13

work like even they would work in like a factory

52:15

for like six months or whatever they save the money

52:17

and then they spend the other six months just traveling

52:20

and that was just like a thing that a lot

52:22

of people you know

52:24

like that like we don't have that mentality

52:27

in this country in the same way i've noticed home and

52:29

is if like the inbetween high school and college

52:31

here in between high school college or somerset sometimes

52:33

even in between a job in between jobs

52:36

a couple a married couple will do it

52:38

yeah my dad like always

52:40

used to say that when i was a kid he would be like a

52:42

the ones you take a year off after high school

52:44

and before they go to college but that was

52:46

offered me as an option i went to college it

52:48

as as a seventeen year old and

52:51

but he would always be like yeah i really

52:53

think that will be important like just go and travel

52:55

or work or do something to

52:58

a seventeen eighteen too young to start college

53:00

by care i'll have a guy time i

53:03

do you think he was able to promote

53:05

that in theory but not in practice

53:08

maybe my mom my mom was like

53:10

no college a crazy like

53:12

we i started touring colleges when i was fifteen

53:15

like as a sophomore i applied like twelve

53:17

or thirteen she was just really crazy

53:19

about me getting into the bus college possible

53:22

and

53:22

i ended up going to tucker carlson's alma mater

53:24

so it was the furthest scissors

53:27

and you know going to visit dartmouth

53:29

right

53:31

oh no i went to trinity and com get

53:33

a good he's got dartmouth vibes i was

53:35

gonna say if he has a nude

53:38

if you knew trinity you would know how deep

53:40

is trinity by the fact that both i

53:42

is straight out of turn oh man

53:45

well least you got least lot of practice dealing with apple's

53:47

and yeah assess assess jesse watters

53:49

also went there ah a

53:52

terrible a double doesn't

53:55

like young men who old

53:57

people sinker cool

53:59

yeah

54:03

secure and the software about

54:05

the about the year did you take a gap

54:08

year

54:09

i didn't take a gap year but i

54:11

did like it there there are two things that

54:13

came up when cares that she went straight to college like

54:15

i took the masses

54:19

because i had family in england they were like let's go travel

54:21

in between like you know i got to do

54:24

a ton of traveling around college i

54:26

spent a year and nepal with i was working on the documentary

54:28

there you know i i did a thing

54:30

and like south africa for like five

54:32

or six months and it's it's awesome

54:34

it's like it's so it's so dope

54:36

it's so enriching on it

54:39

so good for your brain it's so good to see

54:41

how other people live you know

54:44

your ethers and your mentality culturally

54:46

changes the other thing about work is a

54:48

still like i feel like and i'm guilty

54:50

of this as much as anyone else here

54:52

is that it's like there's this feeling that you'll

54:54

get left behind or you'll miss

54:57

out on something or whatever when

54:59

you're not working but when i think about some of the times

55:01

i've been the most productive it's

55:03

been what i said

55:05

pretty strict work hours

55:07

when i'm working i'm working when i'm not i'm not

55:09

and i'm just really

55:12

the retain about it and

55:15

the and i'm not in competition with

55:17

anyone else i'm not comparing myself

55:19

to anyone else i'm just like trying

55:21

to do my own best work and

55:23

i'm doing you between like these the

55:26

hours that i have and i'm showing

55:28

up every day and like i

55:30

think oftentimes that's when i that's when

55:32

i'm able to do the the most deep

55:35

work like the most meaningful work that isn't

55:38

that , the like the post saying

55:41

you know not to minimize any that has we ought to be on the internet

55:43

but like you know more like either

55:45

like either busy work of having to do your laundry and like

55:47

all of these pieces that are you know

55:49

a little bit more

55:51

you know that like the top of your brain as

55:53

opposed to yeah yeah concrete as opposed

55:55

to like the deeper work of like whatever a deeper

55:58

creative endeavor is right

55:59

and so it like we're kind of stuck doing

56:02

all of these things now we don't live in communities

56:04

in the same way either and i'm sure the

56:07

childcare tip like we've talked about it a little bit

56:09

must also play such a big role in that

56:11

because it's like if in any moment off your

56:13

responsible for your child

56:16

how is that a break i mean the thing about

56:18

the thing that changed for me once

56:20

i had

56:22

my daughter

56:24

why so we're still you know under a year

56:26

and parents have told me that once you hit a year things

56:28

like change a little bit you have like a little bit more

56:30

routine but like where i'm responsible

56:33

for her i'm not like carousel

56:35

like you can't leave work and

56:38

look after a child

56:39

the under one year old like and

56:42

i thought before she was she came around

56:45

was like oh yeah you know it or work when she naps

56:47

and i'll hang out with her and she's awake but

56:49

like they don't nap for

56:51

regular amounts of time like

56:54

and anything they can be totally relied on she usually

56:56

naps at this time of the day for this

56:58

amount of time but sometimes she doesn't so i can't plan

57:01

to like get two hours of work done

57:03

during that time because i might not get two hours

57:06

and when she's awake

57:08

flight a combination of

57:11

really stimulating work

57:14

because your anxiety is like your

57:16

ear like a magdalen mom brain is like

57:18

wow wow wow keep you from

57:20

hurting yourself but it's also

57:23

like really

57:24

not stimulating in the

57:26

ways that ah intellectual

57:29

work is simulating like i'm watching

57:32

her

57:33

hagar hammer like a little would and

57:35

hammer

57:36

and

57:37

the for an object

57:39

and watching her do that for fifteen minutes

57:41

and making sure she doesn't it or soften the

57:43

head with it's it like it's very

57:46

i don't know how to describe it it's like soul

57:48

it it's it's

57:51

like repetitive and

57:53

the all but at the same time you can't

57:57

dot like your ear you can't

57:59

stop being attacked

57:59

then because it it's just

58:02

as very on

58:04

then you feel like you're not compare you're not productive

58:07

while i'm watching her i'm like i'm not being

58:09

productive i should be writing i could just get

58:11

my computer and do some writing but i actually can't

58:13

do some writing so that feeling of like

58:16

having things to do kind

58:18

of joined up in my head

58:20

with the feeling of like

58:22

anxiety that comes with wife

58:24

looking after a child and it's like it

58:27

something that is not like sustainable from

58:29

the for like hours and hours and hours and

58:31

i truly don't understand how i

58:34

mean i've seen before she came along

58:36

with like although like work from home some be

58:38

able to like the with her most the time and it's

58:40

like

58:41

really taken care of laughing it's

58:43

really taken some like a fractious

58:45

and time to get to a point where point can do

58:48

anything

58:49

i a carol where you have to add know

58:51

i mean my kids are out of the house now from

58:53

eight to four and i'm still like it's not enough

58:56

of i feel like at the like like

58:58

three forty five what i have to go pick them up like creeps

59:01

up so

59:01

like leaders dislike the ,

59:04

totally agree there's just that

59:07

in that friends that say that they do

59:09

that and i'm like how how

59:11

exactly are use it you don't you could

59:13

build a baby jail you can maybe there's

59:15

a very good at playing alone usually

59:17

them in the baby yeah i don't know people of different ways

59:19

but i also think it's like not

59:21

even just the keeping the baby say it's it's like yeah

59:23

you have to switch your mind to like a different channel

59:26

you know and i

59:28

find it very hard for me to do that like during

59:30

the day with my kids awake at all

59:32

so yeah

59:34

sometimes i'll tell my other like eyes you go back and do some

59:36

work in the bedroom like you need what i can

59:38

still hear them out there and there's the like where's mom

59:41

and i don't know that a states not

59:43

a relaxing then time

59:45

to get a lot of grew to work done by i

59:48

gotta do what i'm going to do it the big my you're in a house

59:50

when you're in a house with them you know there there

59:53

you hear them and like if i hear

59:55

like a some when josh is watching

59:57

her all i get up until i quit

59:59

that even are used i'm he's perfectly

1:00:02

came all taken care

1:00:04

of her on his own she loves him

1:00:06

he knows what he's doing like us

1:00:08

i feel i'm like i have really pay

1:00:10

attention to this a i can't it's

1:00:13

it's really like

1:00:14

if another layer on the feeling

1:00:16

that we're talking about where

1:00:19

even when you're not working yourself

1:00:21

working

1:00:23

and i think with the added like

1:00:25

having a kid is a job whether or not

1:00:27

it is your set your only full time

1:00:29

job and you're a stay at home paris or if

1:00:31

it's one of your many jobs like

1:00:34

we started

1:00:35

talking about preschool for her and

1:00:37

she's like not even a year old but you have to

1:00:39

get a waiting list like eighteen

1:00:41

months in advance and you wanna get in a good

1:00:43

preschool because a good preschool men

1:00:45

to get to go to a good elementary school and

1:00:47

school good elementary school music it's a good with that

1:00:49

middle school and it's like this

1:00:51

whole it's like running a business

1:00:53

and like the ceo of the company

1:00:56

oops their pants you know none

1:00:59

that and ah it just it adds

1:01:01

another layer on to things that

1:01:03

we've been talking about have the ability to

1:01:06

unplug the ability to ever not

1:01:08

working i

1:01:11

wanna like round this conversation out by

1:01:14

hearing what you have to sit like how could you

1:01:17

no me personally be better

1:01:19

at

1:01:20

making space to disconnect

1:01:23

from work only

1:01:24

so complicated for me i feel like

1:01:26

because i am my work like

1:01:29

i don't work for a corporation i work for like you

1:01:31

know carrick like incorporated like

1:01:33

i have to sit you know so it's like ah

1:01:35

but i do like everyone i'm

1:01:37

sure would like to be off

1:01:39

like to get off get off phone more i

1:01:42

don't know that i could do one of these like

1:01:44

a lockdown apps or whatever or

1:01:46

like somebody recently told me about these like boxes

1:01:49

you can get they're like little safe that you can like put

1:01:51

your own and that a timer so

1:01:54

that you like can't get it why

1:01:56

i just i don't know

1:01:58

like that to me the

1:01:59

is the key to all of this the phone is the reason

1:02:02

why we never on blog and i saw i would like

1:02:04

to get away from it a little bit but i

1:02:07

also am like but like need to see

1:02:09

what's going on or i won't be able to

1:02:11

like talk about it more like

1:02:13

be able to get booked for this thing for whatever

1:02:16

thing don't know it's that it's is like a vicious

1:02:18

cycle so

1:02:20

i guess less sonia says but often am alyssa

1:02:22

how bout you i think that's correct

1:02:25

i think less phone uses them for and

1:02:27

and then i also think putting like

1:02:29

real time into planning

1:02:31

when and good time is to

1:02:33

take a vacation and

1:02:36

not set yourself up for failure like

1:02:38

i kind of knew i was setting myself up for failure

1:02:40

this summer and then just got mad at myself

1:02:42

because my was right i fucked up like didn't work

1:02:45

and so i also think when

1:02:47

you work for yourself and the hustle

1:02:49

that you have it's like at some point

1:02:52

i feel like i'm exploring

1:02:55

three or four different things that could be my next

1:02:57

thing and in some point you just gotta be like you

1:02:59

know what to enough

1:03:00

there's enough and that's okay

1:03:02

and or it's for some period of time

1:03:05

you give yourself a break where you only focus on

1:03:07

the things you have to focus on and then you

1:03:09

explore other things and a couple of months and

1:03:11

see if by recharging you still want to do

1:03:13

them or maybe you have better ideas for it but

1:03:15

he added i do think i have i have really

1:03:18

tried to limit twitter was a real

1:03:20

problem for me for a while i would the

1:03:23

new star in than an hour later you're like where

1:03:25

did my day go inside really i

1:03:27

checked twitter and like two minute increments two

1:03:29

or three times a day in that set things up their

1:03:31

allies but saying no to more south

1:03:33

as a great idea i feel i feel like i am

1:03:35

impossible

1:03:36

i'm like i can you and i guess it at all and like

1:03:38

get and then you're just mad you did ya

1:03:41

steer and i've tried to be better about

1:03:43

the reef frame like i like the refrain

1:03:46

of like if

1:03:47

if i'm going to a wedding now

1:03:50

it's like i'm gonna use part of that time

1:03:52

as my vacation ohio if

1:03:54

i'm doing something for someone else or if i'm

1:03:56

going up to like tour like even

1:03:59

for this pacific northwest

1:03:59

tour i added a weekend at the end

1:04:02

of it i stayed with a buddy and like

1:04:04

i just been a couple days just like

1:04:06

enjoying the forest and

1:04:08

it was dope and it was attacked like

1:04:11

soda you're just kind of like

1:04:13

even if you haven't shifted the entire like

1:04:15

mentality how can you you

1:04:17

know oh i did a show for this piece but like

1:04:20

i mean to spend this afternoon on the beach do

1:04:22

not i'm saying like and i found those pieces to

1:04:24

be really helpful and i noticed even

1:04:26

when i was going to have friends event

1:04:28

or i'm going out for something i looked a little

1:04:30

as i was doing something for someone else

1:04:33

and i've tried to refrain those things as like i'm

1:04:35

going to do this if i'm not having fun

1:04:37

and fucking off i'm gonna leave write your name

1:04:39

means treat this as part of your breaker

1:04:42

vacation treat this as the thing that should be fine

1:04:44

like you don't have to do this you get

1:04:46

to do this kind of i you know the

1:04:50

and trying to like i

1:04:52

or know like because i can't change

1:04:54

the entire structure of the way the american workforce

1:04:56

the orient mind my timely really it's

1:04:59

, i'm working on a new got i've heard so

1:05:02

yeah yeah was

1:05:04

well due south particularly

1:05:06

alyssa if i had started back in eighty

1:05:08

ninety seven i stayed alive had a better

1:05:10

a you

1:05:13

know that is i am so disappointed in you

1:05:16

sister oh man

1:05:19

all these a really good points i am going

1:05:21

to close with like an anecdote

1:05:24

and solution to

1:05:26

my feelings after the anecdote of as

1:05:29

at a wedding recently and i ran into somebody that

1:05:31

i hadn't seen in like years

1:05:33

and they had just

1:05:36

published a book another book

1:05:38

they've they've written a few bucks and

1:05:41

we're talking to her and i was

1:05:44

like wow congratulations of a new book of of

1:05:46

glass and she was like what are you working

1:05:48

on right now and as it's was like i

1:05:50

found myself feeling ashamed

1:05:53

when i told her i was doing a

1:05:55

podcast and news letter writing

1:05:57

occasional articles for the daily beast and

1:05:59

working on some other stuff with fuck edge

1:06:02

and that was it like out

1:06:04

at like in my mind

1:06:07

i was like why am i why do

1:06:09

i feel bad i feel lazy she

1:06:11

just put a book out she's got this going

1:06:13

on she just did this she just did this

1:06:15

i think the solution is like i

1:06:17

need to compare myself you

1:06:20

the best that i can do

1:06:22

within the range of things that are

1:06:24

healthy for me not what

1:06:26

other people can do

1:06:28

given circumstances that are invisible

1:06:30

to me you know like i don't

1:06:32

know what support she hides

1:06:34

and i don't know how much time she

1:06:36

gave every day i don't know how she structured her day

1:06:39

i don't know how any of that works and

1:06:41

ice so i can't compare her out so it to

1:06:43

my output by the way i'm happy for her

1:06:45

not jealous of her i was more like of i

1:06:47

suck i sucks i haven't written a book

1:06:49

i suck no i don't suck

1:06:51

i have just chosen to spend

1:06:53

my time in ways that

1:06:56

help me to get through every

1:06:58

day survive everyday and

1:07:01

that's like really like i can

1:07:03

ask for anything it's all really any

1:07:05

of us can ask i think that the comparison

1:07:07

game is is so poisonous and i

1:07:10

am i'm better served when a

1:07:12

hello

1:07:14

i really like eyes on your own paper i

1:07:17

try to remember that like that like do

1:07:19

because the especially in like that you

1:07:21

know a business like a like that

1:07:23

we're all and but like you know you just are constantly

1:07:26

like lot of big as i went away at you know

1:07:28

i could have done that i i have more time

1:07:30

in my day i could be doing what they're doing you know like

1:07:33

gotta just eyes on your no one believing

1:07:35

know

1:07:35

the nine nine year old my mommy say eyes on

1:07:37

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going to do a hybrid

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think city finity thinner a get

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a sandy petty which caroline hate which

1:11:40

i will persevere with her that

1:11:43

ah ah alyssa do want to go first

1:11:45

what are you feeling party or to of sanity corner

1:11:47

to say okay so aaron in spirit

1:11:49

of the new name

1:11:50

hi i'm both this is both sanity and

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petty because and i'm so excited

1:11:55

a carer is on because she is a form a

1:11:57

line or as few experts and

1:11:59

this week

1:12:01

john oliver went on as bit

1:12:03

of a diatribe against

1:12:06

minority or and saying that it was like

1:12:08

a huge a huge part of propaganda

1:12:11

and that it was like not good

1:12:13

for the world and by one

1:12:16

is is hit me horse i love the show i realize

1:12:18

i'm a middle aged white lady but like i

1:12:20

love worth the hargitay and i think that they

1:12:22

have done so much to make the show

1:12:25

not bad that you

1:12:27

know especially in like the last

1:12:29

three years i feel like law and order has

1:12:31

really sort of the head on

1:12:33

and they are there are crooked cops and the route

1:12:35

each other out and the reason

1:12:37

i think i feel such an emotional

1:12:39

connection to the show and why bristled

1:12:41

so much at what he said is like

1:12:43

half the ways i protect myself on the mean

1:12:46

streets of new york city is should i learned from

1:12:48

olivia benson in one hour to flick

1:12:50

some episode some more nurse

1:12:52

and i feel like that

1:12:55

the whole point specifically of as

1:12:57

the you which is the franchise i think at this point

1:12:59

that has lasted the longest is

1:13:01

like try

1:13:04

to change the laws for how like rape

1:13:06

kits are processed and i just i feel like

1:13:08

of all the shows in the universe

1:13:10

the different kind of at least try to do

1:13:12

some good it's and so i felt

1:13:15

stressed fire i target like kind

1:13:17

of personally and i don't know that i should have

1:13:19

but i wanted to know what care thought because she knows she

1:13:21

knows even better than i do okay so

1:13:24

i watch this twice a i and

1:13:26

i definitely i

1:13:28

think that he i don't think he

1:13:30

was

1:13:30

i mean for sv you

1:13:32

i had just been about us the you that

1:13:35

would have been one things i would have thought he was very off

1:13:37

i think he's coming to the entire deck with universe

1:13:40

which we have to remember is

1:13:42

the in law nord a regular criminals

1:13:45

in which is off the air

1:13:46

right combo pd in chicago

1:13:48

med at chicago fire at some new show called

1:13:51

f b i saw i thought

1:13:53

about all those okay see this is why

1:13:55

i needed to talk to you

1:13:56

i think he's going after dick wolf

1:13:58

specifically be the dick wolf is

1:14:01

publicly very pro

1:14:02

and so he's

1:14:04

going after dick was he doesn't try

1:14:07

to to and i agree with you alyssa i was feeling

1:14:09

the same i was like hey that's my so

1:14:12

ah now ah i like

1:14:14

i was getting like a summer gig from another leave

1:14:16

them alone and and i am i

1:14:18

was like i don't really think that he's diving deep

1:14:20

enough into as the you specifically which i

1:14:23

i i just lena my podcast cause liza

1:14:25

is furious that he didn't talk to us for

1:14:27

the segments ah and

1:14:31

but i was like

1:14:32

i would exempt he tried to touch

1:14:35

on the fact like that merchant hard to take said

1:14:37

that some club to her all the time so many people

1:14:39

learn survival skills i mean literally

1:14:41

just a few months ago like a twelve year old

1:14:43

girl was able to outsmart her attacker from subs

1:14:46

she was on a see it as i remember that

1:14:48

if this guy and like am able to get

1:14:50

away from the feather with kidnapping her i mean you can't

1:14:52

but we talk on the podcast all

1:14:55

this isn't about how it is cop again under and how

1:14:57

like but en su every

1:14:59

other cop on as view is a for more

1:15:01

on except for the ones that are in the squad

1:15:03

it's trail so like they're basically

1:15:05

creating this fantasy squad people with

1:15:07

this high closure rates who go after

1:15:10

rapists even when the victim doesn't want to press charges

1:15:12

like literally go above and beyond

1:15:14

in a way that of course is not real but

1:15:16

that is why i think the show with so

1:15:18

comforting to so many women

1:15:20

specifically that in this world usually

1:15:22

the bad guy gets it and they also

1:15:24

have done blm episodes like multiple

1:15:27

yes you know i was talking to a former

1:15:29

writer friend who did say that like trying

1:15:31

to get anything that was like anti

1:15:33

cop on there was a struggle with six

1:15:35

so i think it seems to

1:15:37

me like john oliver you've got to come up

1:15:39

with something every week and he's going he's

1:15:41

was going after like

1:15:43

the dick wolf universe cause i thought

1:15:45

when he compared it to grey's anatomy and south

1:15:47

others like stupid you don't the grey's anatomy is

1:15:49

sending the message like always listen to your dot

1:15:51

rise your doctor's out there for the best in

1:15:53

you like stoppers are racist like

1:15:55

of course the great the not and doing things

1:15:58

that are wrong to of

1:15:59

the trying to compare that like

1:16:01

that he was trying to say that he understands

1:16:04

it's a fantasy but that the

1:16:05

no need to do more

1:16:06

or and i'm like i don't think you're watching

1:16:09

us view because they are doing quite a bit that was

1:16:11

okay they know so much i feel so much

1:16:13

better because i agree i don't watch any of those

1:16:15

other shows but i for some reason i just felt

1:16:17

so sp you attacked and you can

1:16:19

find the right clips to like backup

1:16:21

anything you're saying like that

1:16:24

like they found clips of sam waterston being

1:16:26

like people are against the cops it's bad

1:16:29

and i'm like i you know not

1:16:31

really your like there's twenty five seasons

1:16:33

of this yeah so it's been around since

1:16:35

the first arrival of a trained yeah it has

1:16:37

to be a ninety five with alyssa

1:16:39

that the at more caring maybe you

1:16:42

have just really nailed why

1:16:44

why that got me much because

1:16:46

i'm like yeah just attack all the games

1:16:48

that are all yeah i thought he had points i

1:16:50

thought he had good points and i also thought

1:16:52

if you want a more nuanced view of the please

1:16:54

listen to my episode of my podcasts [unk]

1:16:56

was out in two weeks because that's how long are

1:16:58

that's how long are free and recording

1:17:01

process goes but yeah

1:17:04

i was with you though

1:17:04

okay thank you but you really did raise point

1:17:07

i had not really thought about the

1:17:09

all of the default shows which i've

1:17:11

never watched as he was showing clips of old

1:17:13

carry what's her name was married to richard

1:17:15

gere she even showing our old clips

1:17:18

of like law and order regular and

1:17:20

you know stuff like that so you guys might

1:17:22

love this is might be helpful like i we

1:17:24

i've told you i think care they worked on that show

1:17:26

that john stamos episode the one with

1:17:28

the yeah and so oh

1:17:31

the reproductive abuser the reproductive and

1:17:33

i was very big on like getting

1:17:36

actors that were minorities into that one

1:17:38

like there was like an indian chick who was like one of the abusers

1:17:41

into his it epic like i was like consul

1:17:43

of the put an indian and it put in it was either

1:17:45

be an indian at it like they've done a

1:17:47

thing that refrain which was

1:17:49

you know

1:17:50

start small a

1:17:54

but one of the actors on that said one

1:17:56

time to time he goes

1:17:58

they then go his first

1:18:01

name's dick in his last names wall

1:18:03

what else do you need to know yeah

1:18:06

you could go by richard rick well richard

1:18:09

while but he won't be dead i was at night sometimes

1:18:11

they think about that and i think it's hilarious that

1:18:13

he makes me laugh at us like only be the look alike

1:18:16

it's one thing i did one i just add

1:18:18

to that the thing about cop again

1:18:20

die and like dick wolf shows

1:18:22

the thing that i think is kind of problematic

1:18:25

is so way that like every time i

1:18:27

i suspect is like i want a lawyer the top so

1:18:29

like ah minutely

1:18:32

it's like they're so man it's like the i want

1:18:34

a lawyer moment is the moment that it's for sure

1:18:36

that that person is a villain yes in reality

1:18:38

to insists if you ever get arrested

1:18:41

for anything do not talk to the cops

1:18:43

you should not talk to the cop a we say

1:18:45

that on our podcast constantly were like do

1:18:47

not talk to the cops do not let them in do

1:18:49

not like you know but also they

1:18:51

were talking in the john oliver thing about how they constantly

1:18:54

rail against defense attorneys in law and order

1:18:57

and the i eight i'll bet that's

1:18:59

funny because like it's it's

1:19:01

a defense attorney who is there's

1:19:04

like a guy named you can and there's like a bunch

1:19:06

of them that are like sleazy rich people

1:19:08

defense attorney so both i said yes

1:19:10

of course they're trying to get rich people off the it out

1:19:13

then there's other defense attorneys like any pass

1:19:15

who are like are like glenn headley that are

1:19:17

like working for the yeah i so

1:19:19

they to it's more nuanced than like the

1:19:21

clip they showed of olivia benson

1:19:23

going ah had the scum of the earth aka

1:19:26

a defense attorney and it's specs have half

1:19:29

brothers offense attorney brothers works attorney a public

1:19:32

defender's office and one morning my mom

1:19:34

sent me a texas is like month to month the ducks

1:19:36

she's like you should check it on your brother today his

1:19:38

really sad about one of his

1:19:40

client what happened while

1:19:43

you know got convicted of murder and it's gonna

1:19:45

go away for a long time when i was like whoa did

1:19:47

they do it and my mom was like well yes but nevertheless

1:19:50

as such so

1:19:52

cited as cited as defender is

1:19:54

like that you'll have a defense attorney as opposed

1:19:57

to provide the best possible represent is for their

1:19:59

clients a job

1:19:59

the don't really necessarily they're doing

1:20:02

a job you know what i mean and my uncle

1:20:04

is a public defender in florida and

1:20:06

he's like i remember it like being obsessed

1:20:08

with asking questions about and he was like i

1:20:10

wasn't so did he do it and he goes are they always

1:20:12

that i'm just trying to guns and i have like either

1:20:15

the penalty and i'm like okay okay i'm

1:20:18

sure that mack okay and that's the one hundred but

1:20:21

like music most of the time they did in

1:20:23

conclusion guys let's write a strongly

1:20:25

worded letter ah sir john

1:20:28

oliver from hysteria

1:20:31

certain not just like nova see the thing is

1:20:33

thing see it in a difference nuts

1:20:35

different a thanks to care about is why

1:20:37

is didn't rants or tweet on the internet

1:20:39

about it about it my thoughts for

1:20:41

an intelligent discussion i'm so happy

1:20:43

we can have that thank you so much

1:20:45

sorry have been fully devolved into my

1:20:47

podcast

1:20:48

this is what respect

1:20:50

looks like cnn take notes

1:20:52

on kirin are you feeling penny or

1:20:54

to have a sound corny this

1:20:56

i agree listen that's a great question

1:20:58

on it's been really really hot

1:21:01

in los angeles we'd

1:21:03

like a he with i don't have air conditioning watch

1:21:05

you always get any have air

1:21:07

conditioning and arm

1:21:09

i think my sanity corner would be air

1:21:11

conditioning or like whether

1:21:13

that's chill or like can we would

1:21:16

do something about climate change are

1:21:18

no that's like saying but unlike

1:21:20

the are honestly climate

1:21:22

change is gonna save the movie industry

1:21:25

because everybody is going to be like

1:21:27

okay it's a hundred and six degrees

1:21:29

this afternoon

1:21:30

where can i go that is cool and at the

1:21:33

answer is a movie theater in go into a

1:21:35

movie theater and it is cool movie

1:21:37

theaters are going to be re appropriate it is just like

1:21:39

ice box safe spaces and

1:21:41

if you have kids it's just target you know

1:21:44

that's true you can take your kids to target for sure

1:21:46

well i'm glad that you survive they can't believe

1:21:48

that you've made just texted me next time

1:21:50

current you can come over we have air conditioning

1:21:52

normally like my place has like because it's

1:21:54

like an old like by paramount studios and

1:21:56

so it's like a building from the twenties

1:21:58

there's no inter eric and there's no central

1:22:01

air right and it's the way that the

1:22:03

windows are structured is usually

1:22:05

it gets the air so if it's anything under ninety

1:22:07

degrees it's pretty chill fan as

1:22:09

good whatever and i'm pretty good with the heat

1:22:12

one

1:22:12

truly unbearable i was like yeah

1:22:15

and it just was yeah

1:22:17

and are now like ah yes

1:22:19

hampered whether or not only

1:22:21

what is just remember if you're like physically

1:22:24

com dribbles is such a reminder if you are

1:22:26

physically comfortable you're having

1:22:28

you're having today

1:22:30

the good point as a great point i'll go

1:22:33

next

1:22:34

so this week a trailer for the new

1:22:36

live action disney is the little mermaid

1:22:38

hit the internet

1:22:40

any the way that it

1:22:42

has been covered in disgust online

1:22:45

is a real reminder of a few things

1:22:47

first of all disney adults are a menace

1:22:50

and dot fan entitlement is

1:22:52

courage

1:22:53

and we should eliminate people

1:22:55

the ability to down vote

1:22:58

pieces of entertainment online because

1:23:00

that has been abused

1:23:02

your the issue

1:23:04

the new little mermaid is being

1:23:06

played by an actress named holly

1:23:08

bailey holly bailey is a

1:23:10

black woman

1:23:12

and the little mermaid being black or something

1:23:14

that matters a lot to little

1:23:16

black girls who have never seen a black

1:23:18

little worried on screen before it's really exciting

1:23:21

it's exciting to anybody who is

1:23:23

you know interested in in a revamping of

1:23:25

the old hans christian andersen fairy tale

1:23:27

also mermaids we know them to be real

1:23:29

we know them to be real and they are

1:23:31

white was

1:23:34

a yeah so here's here's the

1:23:37

reason the thing that people are saying to defend themselves

1:23:39

because i pulled up i couple like blog

1:23:41

posts from disney adults that were like luck i'm

1:23:43

not racist but i'm don't like the trailer because this

1:23:46

trailer lot of the people were saying like here's the thing

1:23:48

it's not accurate because in the

1:23:50

story of a little mermaid a can christian

1:23:52

andersen yeah described the little mermaid

1:23:54

as having blue eyes and skin

1:23:57

like the pedal of arose and

1:23:59

the things and and he would danish so course

1:24:02

he wrote it of us of white little mermaid

1:24:04

whatever all these people are grasping at straws

1:24:06

good god guys i guess

1:24:09

watch in the hans christian andersen

1:24:11

fairy tale if we're going for accuracy

1:24:13

the little mermaid has to die at the end because

1:24:16

that's what happens in the fairytale the little mermaid

1:24:18

dies so if you're disney

1:24:20

adult mad that the lack

1:24:23

of quote unquote accuracy in

1:24:25

a live action little mermaid that have cast

1:24:27

a black actress as aerial the

1:24:29

little mermaid then you should also be

1:24:31

mad at the little mermaid doesn't die

1:24:33

in the cartoon similar on twitter

1:24:35

to on on on instagram that the

1:24:38

the little mermaid green

1:24:40

like her is a full green creature

1:24:42

so like then we're not even ha

1:24:44

i mean what can a heavy metal poisoning turns

1:24:47

your skin green i know it's one of those

1:24:49

over the one that the tin man used

1:24:51

and and wizard of oz my husband

1:24:54

has a

1:24:54

i joke about these disney adults people

1:24:56

the like where it's like

1:24:58

you just basically glommed onto the first

1:25:00

thing you thought was cool and you've never

1:25:02

changed and so like yeah i guess

1:25:05

that would shatter your entire world if you've never

1:25:07

found something else besides the little mermaid

1:25:09

to be into your entire life like you

1:25:12

know that would be pretty shattering but i

1:25:14

thought the first a visuals i saw that

1:25:16

it was like she looks so beautiful like she

1:25:18

looks like a mermaid link yeah it

1:25:20

didn't even occur to me like that that would

1:25:22

be a for i dunno the visual effects

1:25:25

look amazing they look like they took

1:25:27

a long time and i

1:25:29

think that the experience of watching that movie in

1:25:31

a theater will be really cool for people

1:25:33

who are interested in watching the little mermaid i'm

1:25:35

not a fan of the disney live action the same reboot

1:25:38

period but like cool

1:25:40

not everything is for me genesis for an

1:25:42

audience that i think is really excited

1:25:45

about this story really said it about seen this

1:25:47

reinterpretation on the big screen and

1:25:49

like i just i cannot get

1:25:51

behind adult

1:25:53

the angry at

1:25:54

children's movie and if you have a problem

1:25:56

with it head over to your disney

1:25:59

plus up

1:25:59

hop on the original little mermaid and have

1:26:02

a day i mean like who cares yeah

1:26:04

no one's me i watch this yeah

1:26:07

interesting interesting

1:26:09

so the green skin color

1:26:11

comes from interpretations okay

1:26:13

about whether just when her skin

1:26:16

in the initial a hans

1:26:18

christian andersen is described as delicate

1:26:21

and clear the

1:26:23

rose petal that you could sit see

1:26:26

was clear that she wasn't white

1:26:28

she was clear oh so she's like

1:26:30

trends lu said get it like be

1:26:33

my get like a jellyfish life

1:26:36

i don't know the color translates but see

1:26:38

in this photo i'm selling everyone

1:26:40

has he has more gray green than see

1:26:42

us are

1:26:43

you know

1:26:45

i loved that evil picture of her i've never

1:26:47

seen her looking so evil and that yeah

1:26:51

i think that it is that it's

1:26:54

is i silly to be an adult who's upset about

1:26:56

this it's also one of these things were i start

1:26:58

to think when i hear about these controversies

1:27:00

online like

1:27:01

how many people are actually speaking out about

1:27:03

a thousand percent yap yap

1:27:06

how many blogs are picking it up to be like look

1:27:08

at this controversy because it's like a fun little

1:27:10

what you story announcer

1:27:12

i thought the same thing because i used to work as

1:27:14

part of the outrage machine whether you like three

1:27:16

tweets by like accounts that had five

1:27:18

followers each and people would be like everyone

1:27:20

man that little orphan annie is black

1:27:23

or whatever but this actually

1:27:25

seems to have some form of like online

1:27:27

have behind it the trailer that

1:27:30

disney put up on youtube has

1:27:32

like one point two million down the

1:27:35

flag pin down voted all the how

1:27:37

oh my god that yeah when i

1:27:39

use how many views on the view of it's

1:27:41

it's like a substantial there are substantially

1:27:44

more down votes than a boat and

1:27:47

oh yeah wow so it either

1:27:49

either somebody and the and again you can't really

1:27:51

trust everything you find online because it's so easy

1:27:54

to manipulate online

1:27:56

reality through like five serves scripts

1:27:58

or whatever so it's possible that we have somebody

1:28:00

who just like programmed a bot to just like

1:28:02

download this to how and part of some weird russian

1:28:05

this info sing along the lines

1:28:07

of like the deptford trial fourteen

1:28:09

million views and as fourteen million views

1:28:12

and it's probably going to so smash at the box

1:28:14

office and then like really want to download

1:28:17

mean

1:28:18

you know yeah so i think

1:28:20

that i think that's a good point but you know look

1:28:22

if i were working at disney i would be like

1:28:24

amazing people are talking about this trailer

1:28:27

and the people who seem to not

1:28:29

like it are on kind

1:28:31

of the bad side of the conversation

1:28:33

hm so yeah i i just think

1:28:36

man my kid have their

1:28:38

things like adults don't were

1:28:40

not entitled to dictate what

1:28:42

appeals to children if adults were

1:28:45

then you know peppa pig would have some

1:28:47

changes made and so love

1:28:49

hot abdullah it's just like i wish we i

1:28:52

wish this wasn't like just the same recycled story

1:28:54

it's like little orphan annie the black jedi

1:28:57

the little mermaid like

1:28:59

i guess why i'm people are going to keep being a movies

1:29:01

and are going to keep playing characters that are like classically

1:29:04

white in and you just have to deal with

1:29:06

that like we can't keep adding

1:29:08

that argument it's

1:29:09

so unbelievable it's tiresome

1:29:12

is what it is care i feel like i've this

1:29:14

is round like twelve of this conversation

1:29:17

and that i'm tired of it but i do want to

1:29:19

point out that people who are adults

1:29:21

who are upset about this are weird

1:29:23

we were if i wanted to offer as

1:29:25

my mother would say she would say it's

1:29:27

one point

1:29:29

no you down votes but there's fourteen million

1:29:31

views

1:29:32

they get their like thirteen million people are

1:29:34

like

1:29:35

a

1:29:38

i'm cara what are

1:29:40

you feeling petty are you having insanity going

1:29:42

to sleep oh i'm never at yosemite

1:29:45

corners my hardest one of

1:29:48

us are you crazy i

1:29:50

guess i'll just i'll do and just feel petty like

1:29:52

i watch the emmys on monday

1:29:54

night as you guys watch the any yes

1:29:57

did you do a real a recap on the pod

1:30:00

now i guess i just was

1:30:02

like disappointed that it seems like the same

1:30:05

shows when every year for everything

1:30:07

like i honestly loved some of

1:30:09

the people that one above that was great but like

1:30:11

the about comedy it's like this headline so need

1:30:14

another i mean like do they need it you know any

1:30:16

my god the same thing there and he have

1:30:18

what like norwegian a year that

1:30:20

a show like abbott elementary as thou and acted

1:30:22

like that

1:30:24

you so much like a buyer

1:30:27

we not voting i don't know

1:30:29

i don't watch to last oh so ike i know

1:30:31

that it's a great so now see i agreed

1:30:33

use i feel like it's like what was so different

1:30:35

about this season the last

1:30:38

yeah it's had last else that what they

1:30:40

did this year should be honored additionally

1:30:42

isn't that's how i felt yeah and

1:30:45

like

1:30:46

the like successions one a bunch of times

1:30:48

it's just like with the award shows that flag these

1:30:50

are all bullshit anyway so what's people have one

1:30:53

then we like mix it up i don't know the navy

1:30:55

on be on our success and palm one

1:30:57

can meet winning when nobody else said

1:30:59

that's pretty fucking great

1:31:01

oh and a guy that's the british guy

1:31:03

yeah sam yeah i don't

1:31:05

watch the either feeling

1:31:08

petty going these shows i don't watch won awards

1:31:11

how say i was kinda

1:31:13

ones i watch when i get me that

1:31:16

is annoying when i think it's like the

1:31:18

same ones over and over again whereas i

1:31:20

used to feel like back in the day it's like

1:31:22

was erin brockovich julia roberts best movie

1:31:24

probably not but like it was her turn

1:31:27

you know what i mean like with it was

1:31:29

is sandra bullock blindside not her best

1:31:32

but it was her turn like turn like like it's some other

1:31:34

people's turns we give the other people and turn

1:31:36

us all oh yes but i was obsessed

1:31:38

with shirley ralph winning and

1:31:40

the speech with amazing and i'm sure you

1:31:42

guys

1:31:43

the author jennifer coolidge years when i feel petty

1:31:45

about don't you dare play jennifer coolidge off

1:31:47

the stage when she's ramble

1:31:49

however he told her she swollen from

1:31:51

her lavender basket the woman a breakout

1:31:53

like she's literally writing a better

1:31:55

sit com than probably half the nominees

1:31:57

right now in front of you letter time nasa

1:32:00

has ah yeah

1:32:03

i just i gotta say i agree

1:32:05

with you care about the same shows

1:32:07

winning over and over again over again succession

1:32:09

but i think severance was so weird

1:32:12

and creative and good top to

1:32:14

bottom such a great so and

1:32:16

i wanted to see it when

1:32:18

more stuff i know i gotta get i'm

1:32:21

i gotta get also yellow jackets the so

1:32:23

fucking good

1:32:23

that are now like oh yellow jackets

1:32:26

when of the next season coming out of yellow

1:32:28

i think really soon as it not

1:32:30

this fall a better it needs to

1:32:32

come up during spooky season it is the most

1:32:34

okey vibe so yeah

1:32:37

ah we need to get some yellow jackets

1:32:39

cast members

1:32:39

the show monday morning

1:32:41

first quarter and twenty twenty three

1:32:43

no sorry you

1:32:46

late

1:32:47

fine i guess a real watch

1:32:49

season wondering spooky maybe they want

1:32:51

to keep it that way cause you know the the snow

1:32:53

and

1:32:53

your queen and all that the are queen or whatever

1:32:55

oh man yeah yeah yeah but yeah

1:32:58

okay wow this was a very

1:33:00

robust i feel petty

1:33:02

senate weaknesses a robust

1:33:05

lead to society corner of

1:33:08

thank you to everyone who joined for

1:33:10

the show thanks kara and kieran

1:33:12

for joining thanks illicit for being my riders

1:33:14

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1:33:17

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1:33:19

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1:33:21

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1:33:23

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