Hello and welcome to feedback Friday. This is the day when I answer your questions. The issue that’s come up this week is about resentment. I’ve spoken a lot about how my overriding difficult emotion, I’ve had to deal with as a parent has been around resentment, and particularly resenting my husband, who according to me, gets to float out of the house every day and go to work and lead a much easier life.

Now, someone asked me how I actually have gotten over that resentment towards my husband. There’s a couple of things which have really helped me. The first thing is, for me to acknowledge what resentment really is. Often times we can feel resentment and it’s almost like a form of hatred. Often we will feel it towards somebody else, but it’s actually telling us something about ourselves.

What is it that we are resenting in that other person? There’s something within ourselves that we’re not acknowledging that we’re not integrating into ourselves, which is why it’s coming up as in the form of resentment through somebody else. We know it’s an issue, because there is an emotional charge … I never used to go, “Oh, my husband just gets to float out the door.” I used to get really annoyed and upset about it. That’s the emotional charge.

How did I get over it? The first thing is to acknowledge that peace within myself which was, “There’s this part of me that would just love to be able to swan out the door and do my work and just focus on that.” That was a part of myself that was not being acknowledged, so acknowledging that, and sending her a bit of love.

The next part was actually about accepting. I’ve gone into this partnership with my husband. We’ve set up our family life in a particular way, and that’s something we’ve done together. It’s actually accepting that my role, my place is important, but it’s not to go out the door every day, in the way that he does, at the moment. The other thing then that allowed me to do, was to open up to a broader perspective and to see what I actually gain from having this combination of work and being more involved in my children’s lives, and what my husband actually misses out on by going to work every day.

And then, the other two things were about, just bringing in some gratitude and love and respect for what I have. Also, just for acknowledging what I don’t have, but not allowing it to take over, so love, gratitude, self love for what I have, and what’s already in my life. That’s what helped me overcome the resentment.

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