Love Junkie listener Katy Moore is here today to share her inspiring story of growth. We are going to talk about the intersection between borderline personality disorder and love addiction. Katy is a freelance writer who enjoys writing from the heart and helping people. She is originally from England but now lives in Australia.

Katy knew that she had an issue, but she wasn't sure what it was. Eventually, a therapist told her to look into borderline personality disorder. This struck a chord with Katy, because she was struggling with relationship issues including a fear of abandonment, low self-esteem, and lack of boundaries. Katy shares her journey as she emphasizes being transparent in hopes of helping others.  

• [01:51] Katy is originally from England and now lives in Australia. She struggled with mental health issues that she was 18 years old and she is now 40 years old.
• [02:20] Depression never really fit the mold for her. She always knew there was something else.
• [02:35] She started writing and that really helped her get things out. Katy is a freelance writer who really enjoys writing opinion pieces.
• [03:29] After struggling to find a steady counselor, Katie spun out of control and ended up in a 12 step program for love addiction.
• [04:29] She realized that she had trouble with relationships.
• [05:18] A new therapist finally helped her discover that she was dealing with borderline personality disorder.
• [05:50] Katy had a fear of abandonment. This results in being needy and clingy.
• [06:59] Low self-esteem and always looking to others to get self-worth was also an issue. Lack of boundaries and letting anybody in was also a problem.
• [08:26] Other problems were acting out and having a low self image. All of her behaviors interlocked together between borderline personality disorder and love addiction.
• [13:30] Katy shared her disorder with the world because she's still the same person whether people know about it or not. She wanted to help educate people.
• [15:48] People get very good at playing a role and hiding their mental health issues.
• [18:16] Katy is passionate about not feeling shame and trying to educate people.
• [21:08] Things that help Katy include seeing her psychotherapist on a regular basis.
• [24:25] It's important not to get discouraged and keep looking until you find a therapist that is the right fit.
• [26:08] Katy used sex as a way to prevent being abandoned. For her, it was her love addiction playing out as sex.
• [28:45] Affection would frequently spiral into obsession for Katy.
• [33:12] Katy went to the library looking for some help and a book titled Are You a Love Addict literally fell off the shelf.
• [34:31] Seeking unavailable partners is one of the traits of love addiction.
• [38:33] If something doesn't feel right, trust your gut and take the time to educate yourself.
• [40:54] Katy thinks people should find a good therapist or find people in general to talk to.

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