A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life. — CHRISTOPHER K. GERMER

I recently did a survey to find out where women needed the most support in terms of emotional self care and one response came up again and again- feeling demotivated. There can be many different reasons why we feel demotivated in terms of emotional, spiritual, or physical origins.

But before I go any further I want to dispel one myth that many of us have about motivating ourselves - that by criticizing ourselves and pushing harder we can motivate ourselves when we feel like giving up or when we are lagging behind.

Self criticism is not an effective motivator, self compassion is! 

Our self criticism tends to make us less confident and become afraid of failure. On the other hand, if we are compassionate towards ourselves, we are able to keep moving forward even when we stumble, not because we are any less capable but because we care about ourselves and give ourselves grace.


1:08 Why self criticism as a motivation tool is a myth

3:16 Your inner critic is not your friend!

4:13 I SHOULD....how often do you "should" yourself?

6:34 Why we need to redefine "perfection"!

8:11 We are beautiful, flawed and "whole" all at the same time

9:51 How embracing our imperfect ourselves helps motivate us

Accepting imperfection and practicing self compassion

Once you start accepting your “imperfect” self, you are more likely to see yourself as a “whole” human being rather than a sum of all the discrete parts. Mistakes and failures, challenges are an inevitable part of our lives and once we are able to accept this as a fact, we are motivated to take charge of our lives. We are then able to assess what went wrong, focus on a solution and get on with our lives.

In other words, we are free to operate from a place of “We are all trying to do the best that we can” and are able to appreciate and celebrate every tiny bit of progress that we make. Also, by learning how to be kind to ourselves we are able to stop criticizing ourselves for our flaws and mistakes and become comfortable with being “good enough”. 

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