Attachment styles, secure, anxious, and avoidant are formed early in life during the formation of the parent infant bonding. They are manifested in their more essential forms during long term committed relationships like marriage. The attachmen

Episode 13, What's love?

May 6th, 2018 9m 7s

Most people are confused about what love is. In this episode love is defined not as what one feels but as what one does. As Tina Turner's great song asks, "What's love got to do with it? It's just a second hand emotion."

Episode 12, Forgiveness

May 1st, 2018 10m 55s

What is forgiveness and how does it work? There are two types of forgiveness: spiritual, and psychological. Psychological forgiveness takes four steps: having your say, an explanation, a genuine apology, and amends.

Episode 11, Two adulthoods

Apr 22nd, 2018 11m 54s

With our expanded life expectancy in contemporary times, people are faced with two adulthoods: the period of 20-50, and 50 - 80. The first adulthood we are biologically programmed by Mother Nature to mate and procreate and assure the continuati

Episode 10 - Your life is worth a story

Apr 15th, 2018 8m 44s

Narrative therapy is a powerful model for mapping the process of psychotherapy. In this episode, an introduction to Narrative therapy is provided describing the landscapes of action, meaning, and identity. Also the definition of intimacy from t

Episode 9 No marriage or kids until 40

Apr 12th, 2018 6m 36s

Nobody should get married or have children until they are 40. We first need to achieve a sufficient level of our own happiness, satisfaction and fulfillment and not expect our partner or children to do this for us.

Episode 8, Infidelity and boundary issues

Mar 29th, 2018 11m 19s

Infidelity and boundary issues describes the mutual task of couples to define what infidelity is for their relationship. Long term committed relationships create a "sacred space" which third parties have little, if any knowledge of.

Episode 6, Geographical solutions

Mar 27th, 2018 9m 3s

Geographical solutions describes the desire to run a way when we feel overwhelmed. The question is not what are we running from but what are we running to.Geographical solutions do not address the social, psychological, and spiritual problems

Episode 7, Reactivity vs. responsiveness

Mar 27th, 2018 13m

Reactivity and responsiveness are important phenomenon in our emotional functioning. These phenomenon are a product of individual awareness and skill in emotional expression and also a sign and symptom of the functioning of emotional systems. T

Episode 5, Take The Client Where They're At

Mar 24th, 2018 4m 37s

A fundamental psychotherapy principle is to take the person where (s)he is at, not where the therapist would like them to be, thinks they ought to be, thinks they should be. Carl Rogers called this "unconditional positive regard." This idea

Episode 3, The distancer and the pursuer

Mar 22nd, 2018 7m 2s

Episode 3, "The distancer and the pursuer" describes the dance of intimacy. One partner wants more closeness and the other partner wants more distance. How do couples come to understand this isn't about love but the desired level of attachment?