In this episode of The Relationship Success U Podcast we continue to discuss Husbands/Wives biblical roles and responsibilities from the inventor of marriage himself! We talk about what happened after ‘the fall’ and the punishment that came with it taken from Genesis 3:14-16.
Adam’s sin unleashed the clash of female disobedience and the destructive curse of male domination. Your “desire” shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” Genesis 3:16. This has nothing to do with your wife physically desiring you. This is not a good thing!
The “fall” or “curse” unleashes the woman’s rebellion to the headship of man, and man instead of leading, now has a “bent” to dominate. The woman’s desire will be to usurp her husband’s authority or another way to look at it “you will desire your husband’s position”! Because of the fall/curse there will be a clash between husband and wife, a clash for “control”, but even in the midst of the clash the God ordained order will not be dismissed, the husband will still remain in authority- he will rule over you, albeit in a fallen sense, not as God had originally designed. The fall “perverted” God’s original design.
Only where true Christianity flourishes is there any real easing of this curse. Ephesians 5:22-33 teaches how we can decrease its effects within our marriages—by emulating the virtues of Christ's relationship with the church. Thus, wives are told to submit rather than contend, and husbands are commanded to love rather than dominate. It takes conscious effort to overcome the effort to overcome evil, ingrained habits of 6,000 years of misguided practice.
This is the illustration part. Just like Jesus and God are one. We are called to be one in our marriages: Genesis 2:24
There is to be obedience in marriage. Women are to follow their husband’s leadership with respect, choosing to submit to that leadership (Titus 2:5, 1 Pet. 3:1-4). 1 Peter states that when wives submit to their husband’s leadership, they are doing it as service to God (1 Pet. 3:1-4).
Husbands are to follow God’s instruction and Christ’s example to be a servant leader, not passive as Adam was in Genesis 3:6 and not domineering as men have a tendency to do, but as a service unto God. So what happens in a marriage?- THREE become ONE.
A great marriage is only great if the husband is submitting to the leadership of God, the wife is submitting to the leadership of the husband. You have a submitted husband, a submitted wife, and a Supreme God! Men and women were created with distinct abilities to fulfill these biblical roles, and when husbands and wives follow the biblical pattern within the home, they bring glory to God as a picture of Christ and His church, thus the illustration.
Helpful Resource on the Biblical Roles from Marnatha Life by Deborah Murphy
THE BELIEVING WIFE
1. Sex - Sexual Intimacy / One Flesh Relationship - Cor 7:2-5; Eph 5:31; Gen 2:24-25
2 Submission - submit to his authority and leadership as her covering, with heartfelt obedience
3. Reverence - give respect and honor to her husband - Eph 5:33
4. Godly behavior - chaste and respectful speech - 1 Pt 3:1-6
5. Support - a helpmeet - Gen 2:18
THE BELIEVING HUSBAND
1. Sex - Nurture their sexual relationship / Their Oneness - 1 Cor 7:2-5; Eph 5:31; Gen 2:24
2. Headship / Covering / Leadership / Authority delegated by God - Eph 5:23-24
3. Haceed Love - Love her with Haceed/Agape Love - Eph 5:25-33
4. Honor - Give honor to her, ask God for wisdom to understand her, pray with her- 1 Pet 3:7
5. Provide for her and your children (financially, emotionally, and spiritually)
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Genesis 3:14-16
14 So the Lord God said to the serpent, “Because you have done this, “Cursed are you above all livestock and all wild animals! You will crawl on your belly and you will eat dust all the days of your life. 15 And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring[a] and hers; he will crush[b] your head, and you will strike his heel.” 16 To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”
The punishment is because of the fall did not dictate their roles; it simply complicated the already existing roles.
Genesis 4:7
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