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Have you ever heard about the elephant story ? And

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if not , today I'm going to talk to you about that

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and how it applies to your

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public speaking career . What's

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up , guys , this is Phillip Sessions , your public

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speaking and communication coach , here

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to teach you all things about

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public speaking and communication

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. But today I want to talk to you about

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the elephant story , and if you've heard

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this before , maybe you have not let me go ahead and explain what to talk to you about the elephant story , and if you've heard this before , maybe you have not

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let me go ahead and explain what it is

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to you . So elephants are

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captured at a very young age

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in certain countries and what happens

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is , once they're captured from the wild , they're

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brought to some kind of civilization

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where there's humans around them , and

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typically what will happen is there's a

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larger stake that's put in the ground and

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some heavy chains that are

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hooked to this chain and then shackled

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on one or multiple

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legs most likely just one

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leg of a baby elephant

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, and at a young age the baby

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elephant cannot break out of that

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chain . It tries

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and , tries and tries , but eventually it is

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beaten into submission and realizes

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that it cannot break that chain

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and , as we

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know , elephants remember everything . Right

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, that's what they say . Elephants remember

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everything . They have the greatest memories of

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all animals out there . And so what happens

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is , after days

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, months , weeks , whatever years

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, so much time and I know I just said some of those out of order

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, but anyways , when

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there's so much time that has elapsed

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and this baby elephant has tried

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and tried and tried and

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it couldn't break the chain , the shackles

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, to be able to get free from its captor

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, from this stake that it

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is tied to with this

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chain , when it becomes an adult

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, when it becomes older and

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you put that chain on it , it

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can easily break

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that chain . But because

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that elephant remembers , I remember when I was

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a baby and I struggled . Maybe

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it hurt him . But because that elephant remembers , I remember

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when I was a baby and I struggled . Maybe it hurt him , we don't know how much those

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animals or what happened to that animal when it was

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shackled , but once it became

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an adult it

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remembers . I couldn't break

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those shackles when I was a baby , I

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couldn't get out of that and

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so I can't get out of today . And

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we as humans , we look from the outside

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and say what Are

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you serious ? No way

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, that elephant is strong enough it

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can break those chains and get out today

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, but because in

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its mind it's told

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itself I can't do it , I

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can't get out . I

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tried when I was a baby and it just didn't

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work out . I got hurt

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, I was stuck here . That

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elephant will never break

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those chains and remember , it's

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all in its mind . It is

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focused in here saying when

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I was a baby I couldn't break these chains

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. And so today , as a strong

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, adult elephant , I

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can't break the chains either . And yet

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in all reality it can . And

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that's the same thing when it comes to you in public

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speaking . Whether you had

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a bad experience with it one time or

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maybe you've never had an experience with it

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, which I bet a lot

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of you listening to this right now have

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never even had a bad experience you

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just feel like you wouldn't be a good

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public speaker . You feel like

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you don't have the capability

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and the story that

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is worth sharing . Nobody's

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going to listen to me . I'm

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not that great of a speaker . I sound

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weird . Who cares about

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me ? I haven't done done that much

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. These are probably questions

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and statements that you probably said

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to yourself when it came to you public

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speaking . And guess what

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you're being like that adult elephant

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that is allowing this chain

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to hold it down , even

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though it can easily break it . And

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that's what your mind is doing right now , because

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you're saying all these things about yourself that I

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can't do this . Because of that , I can't

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be a great speaker . Because of this other reason

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, you're right , because

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you've told yourself in your mind that

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you can't . And so how do you break this ? Simply

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by telling yourself that you can

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, that you will start

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to be a public speaker . The

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only reason why you

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are not into public speaking and you

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are not starting to do it and I'm not saying you're

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going to be a Tony Robbins , you're going to be the best

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public speaker out there just because you

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decide to do it . But

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the reason why you're not good at it , the reason

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why you fear it , is

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this head , your head up here . It's

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your limited mindset

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telling you that you cannot

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do it . You

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haven't even proven whether you could or not

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, and anybody that does anything

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is not good on the first try

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. Look at Elon

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Musk , sometimes the richest

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man in the world , sometimes the second richest man

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in the world . He's on a mission to

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go to Mars and guess what

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? How many of his spaceships have

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made it to Mars , yet Zero

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, zero have made it to Mars . Heck

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, there's a lot of them

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, and I don't know how many , but a lot of them have

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even made it out of Earth's orbit . They

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have went up , exploded , all

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sorts of things have happened with

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the rockets and they've failed

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. And yet he continues to keep going

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. Why ? Because his mind

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is made up that he is going to get to

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Mars , that he is going to

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do that thing that he has set out

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to do . And so if you really want to be a public

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speaker , if you really want

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to make that happen , put

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it in your mind , get rid of

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that old mindset that you can't

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do this , that you're not good enough , whatever

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your reason is for not doing it , and

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start to put in your mind , feed your mind

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, that you can do it , that you are going

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to be a speaker , that you are going

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to help people with

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a certain thing . It

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can't just stop at . You know what ? I'm going to be a

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speaker . I'm going to get out there and speak , because

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that's not enough . Just like doing anything

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in life , you have to have a why . That's

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not enough . Just like doing anything in life , you have

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to have a why . You have to have a reason behind you

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speaking . So when you set your mind to speaking

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, set your mind to what it is that you're going to speak

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about . What is that thing that you're going to do to

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change somebody's life

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and go

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with that . When

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you do that , when you put

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your mind to it , you will

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start to become the speaker that

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you should be , that you can be

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, that you will become and

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that somebody needs . But

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it first starts with you deciding

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in your mind that you're going

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to be that speaker . So

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, just like the elephant , don't allow

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your mind to chain you

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to the stake to never be

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the speaker that somebody

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needs you to be . There's somebody out

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there that needs your

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message . It needs to hear your

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story . So

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stop allowing yourself to

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hold you back and

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go out there and fire up

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the mic .