In this episode, Lauren and Katie discuss The Gottman Institute's principles of "accepting your partner's influence" and "yielding to win." HEAD'S UP: Parts of this episode feature summery hum of our neighbors' lawn mowers (the day we recorde

Episode 22: On Reviewing Marriage Advice (Part 2)

Jun 3rd, 2019 1h 4m

This week your hosts tackle the research behind the advice "When in doubt, say 'yes, dear" and "Communication is key!"Recommendations:Voting for common sense gun laws.Netflix Movies: Wine Country & Always Be My Maybe

Episode 21: On Reviewing Marriage Advice (Part 1)

May 27th, 2019 49m 10s

Your hosts consider the research on common marriage advice. Today we begin with "Never go to bed angry," and "Don't keep score."

Spousing Shorts : Episode 2

May 20th, 2019 28m 26s

Spousing: A pro-marriage podcast for the rest of us. Lauren is an elementary school teacher, queer lady and IPA enthusiast. Katie is a psychotherapist who never uses her inside voice. We're best friends, newly(ish) weds and totally would ha

Spousing Shorts: Episode 2

May 13th, 2019 34m 23s

Spousing: A pro-marriage podcast for the rest of us.Lauren is an elementary school teacher, queer lady and IPA enthusiast. Katie is a psychotherapist who never uses her inside voice. We're best friends, newly(ish) weds and totally would hav

Episode 20: On Celebrating Your Spouse

May 6th, 2019 34m 23s

Birthdays, graduations, new jobs - when you have a lifelong partner, the list of things to celebrate is endless! How do you mark your partner's milestones? How can you manage the stress of expectations? In this episode, we explore the ups an

Episode 19: On Travel

Apr 29th, 2019 47m 54s

Spousing: A pro-marriage podcast for the rest of us.Lauren is an elementary school teacher, queer lady, and IPA enthusiast. Katie is a psychotherapist who never uses her inside voice. We're best friends, newly(ish) weds, and totally would ha

Episode 18: On Play

Apr 22nd, 2019 37m 38s

"You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation." - Plato*In this exciting episode RECORDED IN KATIE'S KITCHEN; your hosts dig into the importance of play in relationships. Recommendations:Katie: M

Episode 17- On Weathering Storms

Apr 15th, 2019 1h 18m

As Katie's Floridian grandfather used to say, "Life is just waiting for another hurricane." This both was literally true for Katie's grandfather, and metaphorically true for all relationships. On today's episode, Lauren & Katie discuss how to b

Spousing Shorts: Episode 1

Apr 1st, 2019 35m 39s

Your hosts dig into some listener questions about date nights, what we like about each other's marriages and what we've learned from past relationships. Check out this artist for all your reproductive organ / body part art needs: https://desi

Episode 16: On Emotional Intelligence

Mar 25th, 2019 1h 7m

Emotional intelligence: What is it? Who has it? What do you do when your partner doesn't use it? In this episode, we address the perils of both emotional and physical infidelity before diving into the research on emotional intelligence.Art

Episode 15: On Support

Mar 18th, 2019 1h 21m

Your hosts respond to a listener Q about the politics of name-changing. Next, we dissect the 4 types of support identified by the research.Recommendations:Sushi Go (card game)Leaving Neverland (HBO Documentary)Armchair Expert: Johann Hari

Episode 14: On Attachment

Mar 11th, 2019 1h 13m

Your hosts dig into the research about attachment styles, the fascinating interpersonal relationship patterns that form in the early years of your life... and then (SURPRISE) show up in all kinds of mysterious ways in your adult relationships.

Episode 13: On Love Languages

Mar 4th, 2019 56m 42s

This week, Lauren and Katie are processing the helpful framework of Love Languages and how knowing how to "speak" your partner's Love Language can improve your groove.Recommendations:One Day at a Time on Netflix (a rare double endorsement!)

Episode 12: The Enneagram

Feb 25th, 2019 1h 28m

Our hosts dive into the world of The Enneagram! From Reformers to Peacemakers, there's something in this episode for everyone.Recommendations: Broadchurch (Netflix); SubReddit r/skincareaddiction .

Episode 11: On the Honeymoon Phase

Feb 19th, 2019 1h 5m

In this (slightly tardy) episode, your intrepid hosts tackle the oh-so-blissful and short-lived honeymoon phase of every long-term relationship. Recommendations:1. Brisket2. Married at First Sight on Lifetime3. Pen15 on Hulu4. Brisket

Episode 10- On Wedding Reflections

Feb 11th, 2019 1h 13m

In this week's episode, your hosts are getting all mushy in honor of Valentine's Day. That's right, we're throwing it back to the days we became spouses-- our wedding days!

Episode 9: On Mental Health

Feb 4th, 2019 1h 22m

This week, your hosts discuss our relationships with mental health and offer some resources to be conversation starters.Check them out here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Dq9eQE_QSVA5pd3QvUQbiWkhzI1hfMqs/view?usp=sharing Additionally, w

Episode 8- On Preparation for Procreation

Jan 28th, 2019 1h 1m

In this episode, your hosts take a listener question about the complexities of same-sex partnerships, get (lovingly) shamed for their bad taste in alcohol, and discuss daunting considerations for the pre-parenthood set. THINGS YOU SHOULD LOVE

Episode 7: On Cohabitation

Jan 21st, 2019 1h 21m

In this episode we tackle what it's like to have a spouse as a roommate. We also answer a listener question and fall in love with some seriously beautiful prose.Sources:https://www.brainpickings.org/2018/09/03/rilke-love-marriage/mc_cid=a499

Episode 6: On Resolutions

Jan 14th, 2019 1h 20m

It's that time of the year... In this episode, Katie and Lauren are discussing resolutions. We take a look at 2018, and we look forward to a whole new year. How do we set goals as a couple? How do we hold our spouse accountable without triggeri

Episode 5: On Religion

Jan 7th, 2019 1h 13m

We're talking about religion in polite company, y'all. Lauren and Katie are discussing the gifts and struggles an interfaith marriage, and ways to make them work. We also take our first ever listener question and (as always) discuss the state o

Episode 4: On Quality Time

Dec 30th, 2018 1h 27m

Your trusty hosts catch up on the state of their unions, discuss how quality time with your spouse can make you feel #BLESSED and #STRESSED, and (as always) try to get you into the stuff they're into right now.The Love Language of Quality Tim

Episode 3: On Money

Dec 24th, 2018 1h 12m

In this episode, Lauren and Katie talk about the leading killer of marriages everywhere: money issues.They also recommend some stuff, including pot roast breakfast burritos and Lin Manuel Miranda's "21 Chump Street."