This episode is with Ton van Klaveren, a good Dutch friend, successful head of corporate sales, aspirational business owner and damn strong cyclist.
Highly driven and active, and a self-described impatient, somewhat private and fiercely independent person.
After a car crash, Ton suffered whiplash and was diagnosed with concussion.  But only 8 days later did he start to feel the severe repercussions.  Leaving him incapable of working, socialising and controlling his moods.

Some of the fascinating topics we cover are:

- His struggles to understand the effects of the injuries on his body, the debilitating symptoms and having no clarity as to how long it would take to recover.   
- How he was forced to learn to be patient, vulnerable, and comfortable in his own company. 
- It took him to be at his lowest and a feeling of being ‘broken’ to accept help from his wife.  And that thus then became the turning point to start to get his life back. 
- The dilemma of the need to rest yet keep doing things to get you a mental and mood boost.
- Sharing his story and anxieties helped the recovery process.
- The realisation that he couldn’t go through this by himself.  And how asking a neighbour to go for a walk was a chance to be simply taken out of your own head an thoughts.  
- Fight versus flight response to his situation
- The challenge presented by his difficult upbringing, going into survival mode and how it’s made it difficult to lean on others for help.
- The default characteristic of entrepreneurs and corporate culture to do everything themselves and not ask for help.
- Receiving compliments is as often harder than giving them. Yet this can be a start point for receiving help. 
- Share your vulnerability with those close to you, so they can offer help and be part of your journey.  So ultimately it can strengthen connections and relationships.

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