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welcome to happiness break happiness new theories
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on each episode will guide you through research back
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practices to develop more empathy kindness
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of happiness next week week
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we're going to try a practice to help
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us be more self more self
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compassion is simply kindness
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is inward think about when
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someone you care about is struggling in some
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way you listen to them you're
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there for them he do for for them
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we often believe that we need to be
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hard on ourselves to be motivated
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that self to is being soft
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and that if we're kind of ourselves that
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won't get things done but
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the opposite is true it he told
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the offense i hate easier for
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what are the result the you know the similar results
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as that with ourselves research
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firm psychologists chris the nest at the university
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of texas at austin shows when we practice
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being self compassion as we
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can feel less stressed less burn out
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and less anxiety and were more
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productive and so will
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it's the way of relating the suffering this
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why help today kristin
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kristin to lead us in a short version of the
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self compassionate break practice she's created
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and studied really from so many angles
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so sit back get comfortable and
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let's practice a little self kindness
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self compassion operates on
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our physiology it actually works at the
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nervous them so
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we're clear it ourself usually weren't
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sympathetic nervous system activity or court
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low rates are high we get inflamed
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and side of her body so when
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we give ourselves compassion we actually help
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calm ourselves we ourselves we sympathetic
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nervous system activity and increased
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parasympathetic activity and
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so what the research shows is a lower courts
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all for instance and it increases
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rate variability so
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it's not just an emotional response
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it actually helps calm and centre
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our bodies and because of that
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we know that is linked to better physical
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health and really importantly people
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have more self compassion sleep better
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and been able to sleep better is also
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linked to all sorts of health benefits
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actually we just did a study with college level athletes
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we taught in the self compassion and
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we found that after learning self compassion
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their athletic performance actually improved
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as weighted by their coaches because
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again when you have some way to deal with failure
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the way this not so overwhelming so overwhelming
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going and it helps you learn and really productive
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manner
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so do this practice think of
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something we'll in your license
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troubling new it , be
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something you're stressed about you've
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, a deadline coming up maybe
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it's and relationship issue you're struggling
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last or maybe
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just made some mistake or you
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distilling inadequate in some
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way
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the
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and the first thing you wanna do is bring in some
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mindfulness
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be mindful the fact it hard
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hey something to yourself to knowledge invalidate
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that like and this this
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difficult right now i'm
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really struggling to actually turn in
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your attention towards the pain
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the knowledge in it but also making
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space is
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hard
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there's nothing wrong
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with you by having this happen
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you certainly aren't the only one who feels
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this way you aren't alone
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this is actually part of being human being
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not
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just me nothing wrong with me for
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feeling this way
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and that we want to bring ourselves some kindness
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because it is a cop and
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one way to be nice of kindness review
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physical patch because actually works
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with a physiological ups are my
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body found he might call putting
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a hard the we're hurt or
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maybe cradling you say sir
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holding your hand some sort
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of siskel gesture of kindness
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said that helps you feel supported
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su cared for
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the feel little
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weird that sees as he can just let
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it be a little odd
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and then try seen some words
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of kindness yourself some words of kindness
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and support about this situation
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you're dealing with he made his
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considerable what considerable sad really the
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year friend go into the exact
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same situation i'm going to what
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would you say the a fan how would you
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say how would your tone of voice be
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they feel little awkward
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as okay elsa mayfield little sony
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member you aren't same thing the
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grey maybe they are great you just
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saying i'm here for you i
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care i want to help just
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like you into the
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to practice
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mindfulness
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when humanity kindness you can do
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it in one minute you can do it in five minutes
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it really can be done it really anytime
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you're suffering
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the will it's away be lady in the when
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it's much more helpful and
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it also makes us feel happier more
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able to cope with things
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that was psychologists kristin neff leading
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us in herself compassionate break if
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, want more tips on how to do the south
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compassionate break practice check out
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our show notes wherever you are listening to this podcast
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podcast also shared links to christians research
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as well as courses she courses i
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am decker keltner thanks for joining or for
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break will be back next week with
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