0:36

Oh, hello again, my friend. How

0:39

Hello. Happy New Year.

0:42

Happy New Year. Are you

0:44

like a stay up all night kind of family or

0:46

are you like a we're going to bed

0:48

at normal time, kind of family

0:50

I, my kids this year really wanna stay

0:52

up really late. My daughter was like, I'm gonna

0:54

stay up till 5:00 AM and I'm like, that sounds awful.

0:57

Terrible.

0:58

I bet my older two will want

1:00

to stay up. When we lived

1:03

in on the West coast, it was really

1:05

awesome because we would do East Coast New Year's

1:08

and now we live on Eastern Standard Time.

1:10

So I don't know, like maybe

1:13

we can do Paris

1:15

New Year's or something like that. Like maybe

1:17

there, maybe there's some other

1:19

time zone that we could celebrate. Because

1:22

I just. I'm not super interested in,

1:25

I don't know, maybe I'm a Grinch when it comes

1:27

to New Year's, but I always feel

1:29

like there's like so

1:31

much hype about doing something cool

1:33

for New Year's. There's so much hype and

1:36

I've never really

1:39

felt like I've done anything that lived up to

1:41

the hype, and

1:43

I don't know if there is anything that can.

1:47

Like even if I've gone out and like done the big

1:49

party, always turns into

1:51

a shit show. It's like amateur night. Every

1:54

rookie drinker

1:56

in the world is out and no,

1:58

you're in good company. I grew up doing the,

2:01

I'm in on West Coast and I grew up doing Michigan Ball

2:03

Drop because that's where my family was.

2:05

Yeah.

2:05

So three hours earlier, and

2:07

then as an adult, since we've had

2:09

kids, I don't think Alex and I have made it

2:11

to midnight on purpose in at least

2:13

seven years. I. So, and

2:16

I am hosting this year a like

2:18

five o'clock ball drop and party

2:21

for some friends. And because

2:23

you guys spoiler, here's how the sausage is

2:25

made. We're recording this before New Year's, but we're

2:27

pretending like this is after

2:28

Afternoon

2:29

So we are hosting like

2:31

a five o'clock ball drop and one of my girlfriends was like,

2:33

okay, cool, so can we stay the night after? Like,

2:35

we'll party after the kids go to bed. And I was like. No,

2:39

No. we go to bed at a normal time. Like

2:41

the idea of five o'clock is so that at seven o'clock

2:44

I can be in my pajamas and we can just

2:46

be

2:46

Yeah. You need to put up one of those signs

2:48

that says, please leave by seven

2:52

Yeah, please leave by seven or my bra

2:54

will come off and you will just be.

2:56

That might make want them to stay. They might

2:59

wanna stay now, so I don't think you should tell.

3:01

Yeah, that's true. Everybody wants to

3:03

see those dips at my, at my belly button.

3:06

thRee kids, you know, keeping it real,

3:08

folks.

3:08

Keep it real. Okay, so we,

3:11

this episode we are gonna talk about

3:14

New year stuff, right? It feels like we

3:16

should at least address like goals,

3:19

resolutions, you

3:21

know, like how we're starting out the new year

3:23

strong. And I think we

3:25

want to talk about,

3:28

you know, like creating big goals, manifesting

3:31

big things for your future, but then also

3:34

like How

3:36

are you doing those things or how are we putting those

3:38

things into action? Right?

3:40

Yeah, I am huge on like.

3:44

One of the things Colleen and I really wanna offer to our

3:46

listeners, and like our retreat

3:48

guests coming up later this year, and

3:51

anyone that works with us in this entrepreneurial

3:53

space is like, okay, all these big ideas

3:55

are so fantastic, but how do we implement

3:58

them? Like, where's the action? How do we actually

4:00

like implement this into our life? So today

4:02

we wanna talk about the big resolutions, like,

4:04

did you make one? Did you like? I think

4:06

for Colleen and I, it's more like business planning.

4:09

Mhmm., it's not really a resolution, it's just like,

4:11

here's where my roadmap for this year.

4:13

here's what we're doing. Yeah.

4:15

yeah, and then like what steps are we gonna

4:17

take to get there? So we wanna make sure that we

4:19

are providing you with tools and resources

4:21

to help you achieve those. So

4:24

I think the first thing is

4:27

like having your vision. So are you vision boarding

4:29

this year, Colleen?

4:30

Absolutely. Absolutely. I did it last year.

4:33

I attended a workshop, with

4:36

a woman who like

4:38

helps you do the vision boards,

4:40

but it was like also like, it's

4:43

a little woo woo, you know, whatever. But it was like, you

4:45

know, like releasing the things that you are. That

4:48

you don't want or you feel like are holding you back

4:50

and then, creating a

4:53

vision for the new year and really setting

4:55

your intentions for the new year. So I did that

4:57

last year and I will say I

4:59

was super, like, skeptical.

5:01

I was like, okay, but I love to make a

5:03

collage, so I'm gonna do it. And

5:06

another agent invited me and

5:08

I really like her. So I was like, great, I'll, I'll do

5:10

it. I'll tell

5:12

you. I would say.

5:16

90% of the things that I put on my vision

5:19

board I

5:21

achieved this year. And

5:24

so I was like, oh, hell yeah,

5:26

I'm doing that again this year. Like, I've been waiting. I

5:29

wanted to do it again with this woman. Her

5:31

name is Sarah Armstrong, and she's like

5:34

a coach here who we should get

5:36

on this show. I, I'll see if I can reach

5:38

out to her. But she was Not doing them

5:40

at the end of the year, or maybe she was busy or something,

5:42

so I'm gonna have to do it myself. And I think you and

5:44

I talked about maybe doing them together,

5:48

like online, but

5:51

I definitely,

5:52

in

5:53

I'm gonna do that

5:54

from a relationship-based

5:56

business perspective I just have an idea and I'm always gonna

5:58

share 'em. You know, if you're trying

6:00

to build a network and a community around you, why

6:03

not host the vision board session yourself?

6:05

Yeah. Yeah, absolutely could do

6:06

You know? Yeah. And

6:09

then invite friends in and, and even

6:11

just like acquaintances or people you wanna

6:13

know and invite them to join your WOOWOO

6:16

party and create their vision board.

6:18

Yeah. And uh, maybe I probably

6:20

will do that, that I've been thinking about that, but

6:22

I feel like maybe I needed somebody

6:24

else to be like, do it. You know, sometimes you need that.

6:26

Right.

6:27

DO it.

6:28

host the party and, 'cause I've been waiting

6:31

to do one. I have a lot of big.

6:34

Goals this year. And I wanna make sure that like,

6:36

I'm doing the things that were successful

6:39

for me. And I think that that's something to pay attention

6:41

to as well, is like, what did you do last

6:43

year that was successful? Or

6:45

what did you do last year that wasn't, didn't

6:48

turn out the way you wanted? And how do you change that?

6:50

So definitely doing vision

6:52

boards. Are you gonna do one

6:55

No. So here's the alternate perspective. I hate all

6:57

things craft. And like that shit is

6:59

not for me,

7:00

Oh.

7:01

So, you know, I'm gonna probably build a spreadsheet

7:03

of some sort. I actually started like

7:05

the, the Maderis family 2024,

7:08

like kind of goal spreadsheet. You

7:10

know, you and I have one for doing this, right Todd

7:12

and all of our endeavors and got one for business

7:14

and. So I, I,

7:18

and I think you could also do this by journaling or

7:20

just like thinking, just like having

7:22

that think session of like, what

7:25

is my vision and vision

7:27

is different than goal. Like I want vision to

7:29

be, in my opinion, vision should

7:31

be like the big picture. It's not like the

7:34

small actionable things. It's like,

7:37

so doing this right pod, like. The retreat

7:39

is our vision, but the retreat is also

7:41

part of a bigger vision of like, Colleen

7:43

and I like creating this entrepreneurial space

7:46

with resources and information and like

7:48

really taking this business to the next level is

7:50

my business. Like I want you guys to see Colleen

7:53

and I on the TED Talk stage. I want

7:55

to be like a nationally known person

7:58

that is known for Motivating,

8:02

inspiring, and then providing

8:05

resources to help other people take

8:07

their motivation, their dreams, their visions, and

8:09

turning that into their successful life,

8:12

whatever that looks like. So that's like my

8:14

vision for doing this right pod or like my

8:16

vision for my real estate business here in San Luis

8:18

Obispo County is I wanna be

8:20

the like in the top two

8:22

names that comes off somebody's. Mouth

8:25

in the area of trusted,

8:28

reliable, great agents that you

8:30

would work with. so those are

8:32

like the visions. And then obviously the

8:34

next step then is break that into a goal.

8:37

And I'm sure everybody's heard the, the term smart

8:39

goal. So it's specific, measurable,

8:42

achievable, relevant, and time

8:44

sensitive or time bound. So that's,

8:46

that's how you break those visions now into goals.

8:49

So if.

8:50

Colleen and my vision for

8:52

doing this right is, you know, number

8:54

one podcast and TED

8:56

talk speakers and like creating

8:59

this beautiful community where

9:01

we share resources and help people achieve their

9:03

goals. Okay, now

9:06

how do we get that specific, measurable, achievable,

9:10

relevant, and time bound? We

9:13

can't bite off the whole vision all at once. So,

9:15

you know, this year we're doing the retreat.

9:18

And so that's a, now that is a goal, that

9:20

is a specific, measurable, achievable time-bound

9:23

relevant goal. And we can break that now down

9:26

even further. And then, you know, we

9:28

wanna be number one podcast. Okay. Well. YouTube

9:32

is apparently where it's at right now for podcasts

9:34

and all of that. So, you know, now

9:36

we begin setting those goals

9:38

around getting the podcasts on

9:41

YouTube and then growing our YouTube channel

9:43

and, and getting advertisers

9:45

and getting like just more national exposure.

9:48

So just take

9:51

the vision and then chew off what's

9:53

attainable in the time period that you're

9:55

setting your goal for.

9:57

But I also wanna say, and not, but in

9:59

addition to that I wanna say is like, don't

10:02

be scared of that. Don't

10:05

be scared of that. And then minimize what

10:07

your vision is, right? Like.

10:11

This is a really strange analogy,

10:13

but I think it'll make sense. I

10:17

was helping my son last night

10:19

build a Lego car.

10:22

Like what? It's like this massive, it was called

10:24

El Toro logo and it's

10:26

this massive car and it's one that like you pull it

10:28

back and go. So it's a big monster truck car

10:30

and it actually functions and I was looking

10:33

at it. and

10:35

this is not my forte,

10:38

right? To build

10:40

these things. buT the way Lego,

10:43

as a company and as a

10:46

brand has so smartly broken down

10:48

the steps. So simply, my husband was

10:50

even commenting like, there's not even

10:52

words. There's no words, it's

10:54

just pictures. And each page

10:56

is like a minor step, right?

10:59

It's like, put this piece with this

11:01

piece. That's step

11:03

one. And then at

11:05

the end you've built this giant

11:08

thing, like we built the El Toro Loco.

11:10

We built the Hogwarts castle, and

11:12

so the analogy is like dream

11:16

and vision, the Hogwarts castle. Right,

11:20

but each step to that Hogwarts

11:22

castle is one or two bricks that you are

11:24

putting together. And each step

11:26

can be very, very simple and

11:29

you just keep working. You keep

11:31

the vision right. You have the, you have

11:33

the Hogwarts castle box in front of

11:35

you. You keep the vision, but

11:37

each step is a tiny little

11:40

step. And those are the things that help you

11:42

get to the castle. And

11:44

oh my God, that's such a good analogy by the way.

11:47

Well done.

11:48

That's what this is, right? You and

11:50

I wanna be, we have these

11:52

goals, X, Y, and Z for our

11:54

podcast. We have goals X, Y,

11:56

and Z for our businesses,

11:59

right? But in order

12:01

to do that, it's these little

12:03

tiny things, and those things

12:06

are relationships. Those things

12:08

are checking the things off

12:11

the list. Those things are making

12:13

the list. Sometimes the step is just

12:16

Making the list, opening up

12:18

the, the spreadsheet, right? Making the

12:20

list and, and

12:23

not negating

12:25

those tiny steps as progress.

12:27

But also not looking at the

12:29

Hogwarts castle thinking, I can never get there.

12:31

It's too big. I'm gonna dream smaller. Like

12:33

you have to make sure that you are gi

12:35

giving yourself, you're

12:38

not limiting yourself what

12:41

you can do because you're scared.

12:44

right. It's gone. Oh,

12:46

I had this thought. I,

12:49

I keep thinking, you know, uh,

12:51

the reason that this podcast is in,

12:53

in life is because I.

12:56

I decided I'm gonna write a book and

12:58

I'm gonna write that book sometime in the next 10 years. I

13:01

don't know what that book's gonna be about yet, you guys,

13:03

I don't know, but I felt like having

13:06

a podcast platform would be

13:08

a good opportunity to kind of explore some of

13:10

the ideas and see what people are interested

13:13

and make sure the

13:15

messages that I wanna talk about are being received

13:18

so that this podcast was a step to

13:20

that. But what

13:22

that was really was just

13:25

starting. Just start. Just

13:27

do something. Just start. And the podcast is another

13:29

great example of just starting.

13:31

So I had this idea. Okay,

13:33

well, so now I'm gonna do a podcast. Okay.

13:36

Let's start. It was Google

13:38

search, like how do you make a podcast?

13:40

What do you do? You know, just start

13:43

collecting information, start compiling

13:45

that information, start reviewing that information.

13:48

Start seeing what other

13:50

tasks that finding that information provi

13:53

or, you know, makes for you to

13:56

do so. I

13:58

kind of have been thinking my book might be just start

14:00

Yeah.

14:01

like really just start.

14:03

So when I wanted to leave my corporate job. I

14:08

decided that that was something important to do. So I

14:10

made the spreadsheet of like, okay, here's

14:12

all our bills, here's all my income, here's all

14:14

my income, outside of my corporate income,

14:16

and like kind of just, I just

14:18

started. I just like, you have

14:20

to take that first step or you're

14:22

gonna stay exactly where you are. So just

14:26

start, just start. You guys have

14:28

your vision and then just start

14:30

Have you seen Mel Robbins talk

14:32

about the Nike slogan? Okay,

14:36

so she asked the question the Nike slogan

14:39

is, just Do it Right. And

14:41

she asked somebody, I forgot who it was, and she's

14:43

like, what's the most important word in that slogan?

14:48

What do you think it, yeah, that's

14:50

what the guy said. And she said, no, it's

14:52

just.

14:55

Hmm.

14:55

Right, because just

14:58

do it. Right. If the slogan was just do

15:00

it, you'd be like, eh, you

15:03

know, but it's just like, just do

15:05

it. Like

15:06

Right.

15:07

do the thing. Just take the step. Just

15:10

get in the pool. Just, you know, pick

15:12

up a ball, whatever it is, right. But

15:16

like you're saying, it's just start, right?

15:19

Like, it's just that, just, just that. It's

15:21

just that word. Right? And I think so

15:23

many people are afraid.

15:27

I mean, and maybe that's something we should talk about as

15:29

far as, as creating these big

15:31

goals and then creating these

15:33

different steps is like, there

15:36

is a part of this that

15:40

is. We prevent ourselves

15:42

because of fear. Like it's, it's fear-based.

15:44

Right? And this

15:47

is something I've wanted to talk about on our podcast for

15:49

a long time. We talk about, we hear, especially

15:51

for women, they talk about being fearless. Like,

15:54

we're gonna be fearless and we're gonna go out there and be

15:56

fearless. And I do not agree

15:59

with that I'm

16:02

scared a lot. I'm

16:04

scared a lot, but

16:06

I don't allow the fear. To

16:09

stop me, right? Like,

16:11

You're scared and you're courageous.

16:13

yeah. And, and you can't be courageous

16:15

without being scared, right?

16:17

Like, that just doesn't, there

16:19

would be nothing to be courageous about unless it

16:22

was scary. Right? Does that make sense? So

16:25

Yeah.

16:25

I, I say don't, don't

16:28

worry about being fearless. It's

16:31

okay if you're afraid, but

16:34

you just do it anyway.

16:36

Right.

16:37

you just, you work through

16:39

it and acknowledge

16:42

like, yeah, this is fucking scary,

16:44

man. Like I moved my entire family

16:47

across the country to a state

16:49

that we had never lived in, and a place where we had very

16:51

little contacts,

16:55

no family. Right? I

16:57

had a couple friends here and I had like

16:59

a college alumni association. Right. But

17:03

you, we just did it because. While

17:05

it was scary, like

17:08

we knew that

17:11

if it didn't go the way we wanted, we

17:13

could just change. So

17:16

I think that there's, you know, like this,

17:19

this idea of addressing fear when it comes to

17:21

these big goals or it comes to entrepreneurship

17:23

like, or it comes to, like if you're

17:26

somebody who's listening and you're like, oh my God, I wish

17:28

I could start my own business, or I wish I could

17:30

start my own podcast, like. Well,

17:33

first of all, you can, you can do that And

17:37

if you are scared, like that is very

17:39

normal. Like I don't want people to think

17:41

that you and I are this fearless queens

17:44

that attack everything without

17:47

any fear or without

17:49

any skepticism or, or

17:52

self-consciousness or worry or

17:54

wonder like, like you said, like is

17:57

anybody gonna be interested in listening to us?

18:00

Yeah, I think we've proved that that

18:02

is true. People do wanna listen to us now,

18:04

but we didn't know when we first started. We're just like, hell

18:06

yeah. If no one listens, then

18:10

it's just you and I having a great chat and it's super fun.

18:12

Right. So I

18:14

think we should, you know, like I think addressing that in

18:17

the beginning of these big goals for

18:20

your year is like You

18:22

don't have to be fearless. Like please eradicate

18:25

that from your, from your mind. You

18:27

can be afraid and you can still do it anyway.

18:31

Well, and let's address too like, okay, so

18:33

Colleen and I are currently in a phase

18:35

of our lives where like our vision is like business

18:38

and growth, and so

18:40

our goals are all lined up with that. But I want

18:42

to go back and remember for a

18:44

long time my vision was family grow

18:47

a family, build the family. And

18:50

then the goals were like, keep the children all

18:52

alive until the end of the day when Alex got home,

18:55

and, and I've talked about this before, like we had

18:57

a period in our marriage where Alex was

18:59

so goal focused and so

19:02

like wanting to save money,

19:04

wanting to make more money, wanting to do all these house

19:06

projects. And I was like, I'm

19:09

trying to produce enough milk every day and

19:12

like stay awake and like

19:15

I was hanging on by a thread, so my goals looked so

19:17

different. So if your goals

19:19

aren't, do a TED Talk rule

19:22

the world as Colleen and I have

19:25

them right now, then

19:27

that's okay. And you just be

19:29

where you are.

19:29

Yeah.

19:30

The beauty of life is

19:32

like I get to do what I wanna get to do and you get

19:35

to do what you wanna do and they get to do what they

19:37

wanna do and like to each their

19:39

own and that's great. So just

19:42

Also, don't beat yourself up. If your ambitions

19:44

don't feel as big as what maybe Colleen and I are talking

19:46

about. That's okay. You're in a different season than

19:48

we are. You're a different person than we are. You have a different,

19:50

you've had different life experiences. We

19:53

all get to do what we wanna do. So you

19:55

do You boo

19:55

Yeah, and what we consider big

19:58

goals. Somebody else might be like, well,

20:00

those are measly. Right? And

20:02

so what you consider a big

20:04

goal for yourself, you

20:07

know, might be different

20:09

than what we consider a big goal for ourselves. When I

20:11

was 20, in my twenties, my

20:13

big goals were I

20:15

wanted to be the first, well

20:17

second female athletic trainer in

20:19

the NFL, and I wanted to get married.

20:22

Those are my goals. Those are my big goals. I

20:24

achieved one of those and

20:27

it wasn't the NFL, you know, and then

20:29

in my

20:30

When and married.

20:33

And then, you know, I had

20:35

a big goal was I, for whatever reason,

20:38

I wanted to have my first kid by the

20:40

time I was 30. That was my goal, right?

20:42

Those were the goals that I, that were

20:44

important to me at those times, and

20:46

they were really valid Beautiful,

20:49

big, wonderful goals, right?

20:52

And you know, as I stepped into

20:54

my forties, I

20:57

was able to, you know, we talked

20:59

about being untethered, right? I was able to

21:01

untether my myself physically from

21:04

my children and really

21:06

work on these big business goals. So

21:09

every season of your life is different. You might

21:11

be tackling your big business goals in your twenties. 'cause

21:15

you could care less about getting married. Right.

21:17

Or you know, tackling your, wanting

21:20

to get married in your forties. Like, these are

21:22

all so

21:25

personal. Like we don't have to worry about and

21:29

what. It's just, if you've got a

21:31

big dream, like we're gonna help you

21:33

figure out a way to get to that, whatever that

21:35

is.

21:37

Okay, so, so far we've, we've set our visions

21:40

and then we've broken that down into smart specific,

21:43

measurable, attainable goals. Okay. So

21:45

then the next step is to take those goals

21:47

and prioritize them. So what

21:50

is the most important thing to do first

21:52

to, to, to

21:54

create this podcast? I

21:57

needed to buy a microphone first. You

21:59

know, there's like There is an order

22:01

to these things and like,

22:04

or let's say you have like, okay,

22:06

I have a goal of my real, I've got a goal for my

22:08

real estate business, my personal life, my podcast,

22:11

our entrepreneurial business. Okay,

22:13

which, where do I want to prioritize

22:16

my time? And that's important so

22:18

that you can really spend

22:20

your time wisely. You know,

22:22

everything we're doing, we're trading for time.

22:25

Time is our number one currency, so

22:28

make sure. This

22:30

brings me to kind of my word of

22:32

my word of the year, if you will. My intention for

22:35

the year is alignment, so I wanna make

22:37

sure everything I'm doing is in alignment with

22:39

my goals and my values and where I wanna be. And

22:42

so when I'm deciding how

22:44

I'm gonna spend my time, I need

22:46

to be in alignment with the priorities

22:49

that I have. So. You

22:52

need to actually like take those visions, take

22:54

those goals. Now set your priorities. Like

22:56

what are you willing to trade your time

22:58

for first to get to

23:00

where you wanna be. So setting those

23:02

priorities.

23:04

And, and this is like a layered system, right?

23:07

Like you set the, you

23:09

manifest the goal. Like I am, I

23:12

am a TED talker, right? Whatever

23:15

that is, right? So you set the

23:17

goal and then you do your smart goals and you work through

23:19

those things, but you're still. You're

23:22

still working on that intention of that

23:25

goal, like the, we

23:27

don't pass by, like we don't just check off

23:31

the things and, and keep going. Does that make sense?

23:33

You know what I'm saying? I think it, what I wanna talk

23:35

about is that they talk about

23:37

this a lot now, if you're in any kind of

23:39

world that talks about manifesting is

23:43

the reticular activating system that

23:45

part of your brain, that You

23:48

know, it's, it's the analogy of like, you

23:51

wanna buy a red Corvette and

23:54

then everywhere you go you

23:56

start seeing red Corvettes because that's

23:58

what's on your mind and that's what you're

24:00

thinking about when you weren't seeing any of

24:02

them before. And so we've

24:04

talked about this in a couple different episodes about that hyperfocus.

24:07

Well, this is kind of in

24:09

that same vein of like, if

24:11

I wanna be If we wanna

24:13

be on a TED talk, right, then

24:16

that's something we're thinking about all the time. And

24:19

then thing, you start to search for those

24:21

things, right? And then they start to come

24:23

up and you start to see different ways that

24:25

you can uh,

24:28

you know, achieve the minor, the, the

24:30

smaller steps to get to those goals.

24:33

So what I, so after set priorities,

24:35

it's exactly that. Like visualize your success,

24:37

like start to picture yourself living that life

24:39

that you have. That vision

24:41

you've set forward and like keep that in

24:43

the forefront of your mind. And I think why

24:46

manifestation and like affirmations

24:48

and stuff are so powerful

24:51

is because if that is what, if that's

24:53

what's on your mind every day, then

24:55

the actions that you're taking will

24:58

become in alignment with that because that is

25:00

what your focus is day in and day out. So

25:03

if I am I

25:05

mean, weight loss has always been a goal. You

25:07

know, that's like a, A one that I think a lot of

25:09

people chase. So if you are like

25:12

every day weighing yourself, if

25:14

you are every day, you know, looking

25:16

up healthy recipes and being and visualizing

25:19

yourself in that body, like the choices you make will

25:22

more likely be in alignment

25:24

with that, because that's what's on your mind, you

25:27

know, that's. So manifestation

25:29

is powerful in that you're visualizing, you're believing

25:31

it, you're sending the vibrations, all of that

25:33

woo woo stuff that Brittany Hoop stopped talked about

25:35

in her episode. But then it's also like

25:38

those thoughts are what is guiding your actions.

25:40

right.

25:41

So that is where that becomes

25:43

so powerful if this is like staying on the forefront

25:45

of your mind, each choice you make,

25:47

like it's running through that filter. Like

25:50

I want this, and

25:52

then. You're thinking about that all day long.

25:54

So like my choice X, Y, and Z that I'm

25:57

gonna make today, more than likely are gonna be

25:59

in alignment with that. 'cause that's what's on my mind. That's

26:01

my focus, that's my intention.

26:03

Right, and that's why vision boards are

26:05

part of that, right? Because it's something that you look at

26:07

every day, something that you see, so

26:09

that you're constantly keeping that vision

26:12

so that you're constantly looking at your goals.

26:14

Some people need the, the, the

26:18

visual of that, right? Or

26:21

like for you, you have your spreadsheet,

26:23

right? You're looking at your spreadsheet every single day.

26:25

What does that look like?

26:27

Right. So historically that's the

26:29

step I've missed. Like I set these goals, I'm

26:31

great visionary, and then I

26:34

create this spreadsheet and I'm doing good.

26:36

I've got step one, I've got step two, I've got step

26:38

three. Visualize success. Yeah,

26:41

I think I. Do that, but then

26:43

I'm, I've never like printed out the

26:45

goal list and had it like just sitting there. Like

26:47

I don't, it's not something I'm looking at every single day.

26:49

It's filed away in my Google Drive somewhere. That's

26:52

what really needs to change for me this year is like

26:54

keeping those goals in front of my eyes every single

26:56

day in maybe a vision bulletin

26:59

board where I've got three different. You know, checklists

27:01

standing there of the things I'm wanting to achieve in each

27:04

of these different areas of my life, so that

27:06

every day I'm looking at that and I'm reminding

27:08

myself so that then as I move through

27:10

my day, I'm running all of my

27:12

choices and decisions through that filter of

27:15

these are the, these are the things I wanna achieve this

27:17

year.

27:18

Yeah. I think that's why you have to, you don't have

27:20

to do anything. I hate people. You say that, but that's

27:22

why I think having something physical

27:24

in the physical universe to see

27:27

is really helpful because Shit's

27:32

not gonna go exactly how you want it to go.

27:35

you know, like, we can do all of these,

27:37

we can set our smart goals, we can do the things and we

27:39

blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Right? and

27:42

sometimes it doesn't work, so,

27:45

but you have to have that. You

27:47

know, it's having that, that visual in front of you to

27:50

be like, oh God, yeah, I do. I

27:52

do really wanna buy that house this year. I

27:54

do really wanna start investing this year. Okay,

27:57

so what I did before wasn't

28:00

working. What can I do again? And you're gonna have

28:02

to start pulling yourself up

28:04

by your own bootstraps. You're gonna have to start working

28:06

on resilience. You're gonna have to start realizing

28:09

that failure is not Bad.

28:12

Right. Failure is just the, just,

28:14

it's like a science experiment, right? It's

28:16

just the thing that helps you get to the next experiment,

28:21

I think that failure, honestly,

28:23

I think the only way that you fail. Is

28:25

if you quit and not, if you quit something

28:27

that no longer serves, you

28:29

Sure.

28:30

quit all day long. Quit the shit that you don't

28:32

wanna do anymore. Say on October

28:35

1st, you set a a goal of doing

28:37

X, Y, and Z, and now you're like, fuck, I

28:40

actually don't like X, Y, and Z. Like, I've done more research,

28:42

I have more information now. I don't wanna start a podcast

28:44

anymore. A podcast sounds stupid to me. Now quit.

28:47

That's fine, but don't

28:50

quit something you want.

28:53

Because then you're failing. But if

28:55

you keep going, I was just talking to my uncle about

28:57

this yesterday and I was talking about, you

28:59

know, like I, a big

29:02

vision or, and I'm, now

29:04

I'm breaking it down into goal for me is like, I

29:06

want to bring in enough streams

29:09

of revenue that if my husband no

29:11

longer wants to do his job, he doesn't have

29:13

to.

29:13

Yeah.

29:14

And you know, I'm working on it

29:16

here and I'm working on it there, and I'm working on it there. And.

29:20

I'm like, you know, I'm gonna succeed at this. I'm

29:23

gonna get there, and the reason I know I'm gonna get there is

29:25

'cause I'm no, I'm not gonna stop. And if

29:27

you don't stop, you're gonna eventually get there. So

29:30

failure is quitting something

29:32

that you want, in my opinion, which

29:34

is maybe why I always have felt like I

29:37

don't feel like I failed a lot in my life.

29:39

Yeah.

29:39

I, I make mistakes absolutely

29:42

all day long. Queen of mistakes I

29:44

falter. Things don't work out exactly how

29:46

I think or want them to. And

29:49

then I keep going. I

29:51

pivot, I adapt. I'm

29:54

flexible. And those are some of the, the other

29:56

steps that come down on my

29:58

list is review and adapt and stay committed

30:00

and stay flexible. Persistence is

30:02

the key. If you stay committed

30:04

to your goals and you're flexible and how

30:06

you're gonna achieve them, you eventually will achieve

30:08

them. You just can't quit.

30:11

Yeah. And you can't, uh, yes. Yes.

30:14

And I think one of the things that I think

30:17

may be challenging for people is that flexibility.

30:19

Like people, there are certain type

30:21

of people where, you

30:23

know, they want the systems to work

30:26

perfectly and they

30:28

don't always, hardly ever.

30:30

Which is really fucking frustrating. I

30:32

am one of those people. I want everything

30:34

to go according to plan. I have a plan, and I

30:36

want the plan to be executed perfectly. I

30:38

want it to go by the vision that I've set

30:40

up, the visualization that I've put into

30:43

place. That's what I want, and I get super frustrated

30:45

when things don't go to plan, but.

30:49

I can then, and I know that I have to then adapt

30:51

and be flexible and problem solve and

30:53

find another way through. I'm reading

30:55

those books right now by Rebecca Yarrow, the

30:59

the fourth Wing and the Iron Wing or the,

31:01

something like that. And I.

31:05

She, the main character's, like very

31:07

frail and like can't really do things in

31:09

the way that other pe it's like a kind of a war

31:11

story. She can't really do things in the way the other characters

31:14

can. And one of the guys told her like,

31:16

so do it different. You can still do it

31:18

different. So she's had to overcome like these

31:20

crazy obstacles by just looking at it.

31:23

Differently from how the rest of the, the

31:25

group has been doing it. So just being

31:28

creative and being flexible and being

31:30

persistent is gonna be key to then

31:32

achieving these goals.

31:34

Yeah.

31:35

So, okay, so we have had

31:37

our vision, we've set our goals, we've set our priorities, we're

31:39

visualizing our success, and we're doing that daily. Okay,

31:42

now we're creating an action plan. For

31:45

how to get there. So like this is like now we're

31:48

breaking those goals now into like manageable tasks.

31:51

So I was recently introduced to this

31:53

method of when you're planning, figure

31:57

out what you need to research, figure

31:59

out what you need to review, and then figure out

32:01

what your action items are for those things. And.

32:05

I have also heard this phrase

32:07

like, plan your day around your energy,

32:09

not your time. So we,

32:12

I'm speaking to the women here because we only have two,

32:14

two or three male listeners. So we

32:17

have a cycle. Each of us, it's a

32:19

month long cycle and at different

32:21

points in that cycle, we have different

32:23

strengths and we have different weaknesses, and we

32:26

have different abilities. So pay

32:28

attention to your body and

32:31

what part of the month. Or

32:33

week or day even that you.

32:36

That's an optimal time to spend time researching

32:39

or an optimal time to spend time reading. Like

32:41

if you hand me something to read after two o'clock

32:43

in the day, I will comprehend almost nothing.

32:46

If I read that at seven 30 in the morning,

32:49

clear, clear as glass, two

32:51

o'clock in the afternoon, clear as mud. It

32:53

is so crazy. I remember the first time

32:55

I noticed this, and maybe like our

32:57

young listeners haven't experienced this yet, maybe it

32:59

comes with age, but I remember being at work

33:01

one day and getting a long email from a client.

33:04

And I was like, I don't

33:06

know. I was, I'm reading it and I'm like, so

33:08

stumped. This doesn't make any sense to

33:10

me. I'm not even sure I follow his email. So I

33:12

slept on it. I just didn't respond,

33:15

you know, and I'm like, let me just

33:17

take some time to think on this. I reread the email the

33:19

next morning and I was like, oh, got it. This,

33:22

it was, it was just so crazy

33:25

how much my brain didn't work

33:27

at two o'clock in the afternoon and how much it

33:29

did work at seven o'clock in the morning and.

33:33

Your month is gonna be like that too. There's

33:35

gonna be times where like you're like, I

33:37

just can't make myself think, I

33:39

can't make myself get outta bed. So that's not the

33:42

time to task yourself with

33:44

doing massive research for a project. Maybe

33:46

that's the time to be quiet with

33:49

yourself and maybe visualize. What

33:51

you want. And then there's probably gonna be a

33:53

time where like yesterday Colleen and I are on the

33:55

phone. You guys, we had the biggest shit show, trying to have

33:58

like a 10 minute conversation because, oh, hold on. I gotta

34:00

put you right back. Oh, hold on. Life of a realtor.

34:02

But you know, like we needed to just start,

34:05

we just needed to start with this retreat planning

34:07

we're bringing to you guys. And

34:10

so we're, we're having this call and I'm

34:12

kind of thinking, I've been thinking all these things through, but

34:14

I just hadn't put anything on paper. And it was as

34:16

simple as like, Okay, so

34:18

we're talking about this now, let's just research. Research

34:20

is easy. I mean, getting

34:22

the, getting the resources to

34:25

review is easy. So like Google, search

34:27

this, Google search this Google search this. Now

34:29

I just need to organize these things so that

34:31

I can come back when my brain is in the right space

34:33

to actually review this information and

34:36

figure out how we're gonna implement it. So. I

34:39

was thinking so much shower thought because

34:41

it's the only time, like I don't have my phone and

34:43

I'm not, you know, I'm not distracted by all

34:45

of those other things. But Pinterest,

34:48

you guys, we need to go back to using Pinterest to

34:51

organize our thoughts and our ideas and our

34:53

goals and our research to achieve these

34:55

goals. So like Colleen

34:57

and I have a shared Pinterest board where we're just saving like

35:01

venues, you know, and here we're saving

35:03

like topics and we're saving like Swag

35:06

ideas or whatever it is, and then you can just

35:08

be collecting this information. And

35:10

then when your brain is in the right spot now

35:12

you go back and you review that, and then you figure

35:14

out what the implementation of

35:17

this information that you've now got.

35:19

So it's different steps. And you don't have to do it.

35:21

Doesn't have to be find the resource,

35:24

read the resource, make the.

35:26

Action item and do the action item all

35:28

at once. It can be as simple as like, I'm

35:30

gonna find five resources today and

35:33

that that's what my brain can handle

35:35

right

35:35

I wanna go back to the point of you talking about like

35:38

periods of the day where you're more active. I

35:40

like, this is something I realized not

35:42

until my late thirties, early forties, it,

35:45

it's that same idea of like wake

35:47

up and exercise, then you do

35:49

this, then you do that, then you do that. I

35:53

am super on fire early

35:55

in the morning, so if I exercise

35:58

during that time, I

36:00

feel like I'm wasting my

36:02

brain power.

36:05

Mm-Hmm.

36:06

But that's similar to you, like probably

36:08

that's because we're not so tired and we haven't

36:10

been like, beat down by

36:12

our children by the end of the day. But

36:16

also everybody's cycles

36:18

if this activity are different. My husband

36:21

will stay up all night working on stuff

36:23

and I'm like, do not talk to me about

36:25

anything once I am in

36:28

our bed. Like do not

36:30

show me a spreadsheet 'cause I will murder

36:33

you. Right. But that's when

36:35

his mind, that's when he has time to

36:37

relax. 'cause he goes to work super early and

36:40

I'm just like, when you're working

36:42

with a partner like you and I, we're also on a

36:44

time difference and we've got time zone, different, whatever.

36:46

It's understanding and recognizing those

36:48

partners and when those partners are

36:51

active and and giving each other

36:53

a little bit of grace on that as well, which is why.

36:56

You and I working together is really great because we just

36:58

throw everything. We can just throw the ideas

37:00

into the spreadsheet and then we can find

37:03

a time when we can talk about those things. But

37:05

sometimes for me, like yesterday, I

37:08

was able to quickly research a bunch of hotels

37:10

in the car, in the parking lot where

37:12

I was sitting right outside of going to

37:14

get my passport photo done, where they totally did

37:16

me dirty and I have to go get it redone, which

37:18

I was so pissed about by the way. But

37:21

I was like, okay, I've got 10

37:24

minutes, I'm gonna sit here and on

37:26

my phone, look up three or

37:28

four hotels and

37:30

use those times, like use those.

37:33

If you have those times, use those times. I,

37:36

I, I think we have to just find a, this is

37:38

the find a way, right? Because some people will

37:41

be like, I don't have, uh, two

37:43

or three hours to sit down in the morning and do research.

37:46

And this is the best and hardest part about our

37:48

life and our world is that

37:50

we. Have these

37:52

little pockets of times. Like

37:56

somebody once said, I do, I used to sell

37:58

like Stella and Dot and things

38:00

like that, that like multi-level marketing, like side

38:02

hustle kind of stuff. And they would

38:04

say, fit your business into the

38:07

pockets in windows of your life. Right.

38:10

And that sometime

38:11

Aon said nooks and crannies.

38:13

Yeah. Nooks and crannies.

38:14

nooks and crannies.

38:15

Exactly. They all say the same thing. Right.

38:17

But it's like. If

38:20

I'm sitting in the car while my son's at soccer,

38:22

right? I can do two things.

38:25

One, I can go out and talk to the parents and

38:27

create relationships, or I can

38:29

sit in the car and I can work, knock a

38:31

bunch of research out. You just have to make decisions on

38:33

what is the right thing to do at that time. But

38:35

those are.

38:36

Can be running that through your filter.

38:38

Like what? If

38:41

you're visualizing your success and

38:43

you're prioritizing it, what?

38:45

What is your priority today? And you're

38:47

keeping that in front of you every day. You've got your

38:49

goal list in front of you every day. You've got your vision board in front of

38:51

you every day. So everything's being run through that filter. So

38:53

if you're like, wow, I really need more connection

38:56

for this business right now, this is my priority,

38:58

then you're gonna get outta the car because

39:00

you've run it through this filter and now

39:02

that's the appropriate decision to make, or. You

39:06

are like, okay, we're on a, like I've set this

39:09

timeline on this goal. Like I have a specific,

39:11

actionable, measurable, time sensitive

39:14

goal, so this is

39:16

what I need to be spending my time on. 'cause you've

39:18

run that through that filter. 'cause you're keeping that visualization

39:20

in front of you. You're

39:23

manifesting it, you're keeping it at the forefront of your brain.

39:25

So you get to make those choices after

39:28

you run through that filter.

39:29

I guess I, I wanted to bring that

39:31

up because I am

39:34

somebody who really likes schedule and who

39:36

really likes routine. But

39:38

if the routine doesn't go, like

39:41

if the routine gets thrown off by one thing,

39:43

I get really thrown. So I've actually, I.

39:46

Stepped away from routine in,

39:49

in a, in like a backlash way of like,

39:52

if I don't have a routine, then it can't get messed up.

39:54

Does that make sense? And so I

39:58

have figured out and had to adjust and

40:00

had to adapt because once you have kids, like

40:03

you can set routines for your kids, but they

40:05

get fucked real quick, right? Like

40:07

somebody pss your routine's, done, like,

40:10

you know, somebody's, you're on

40:12

a time schedule like this, somebody's gotta go poop.

40:15

Right. Like you're

40:17

done. Right.

40:18

My nemesis.

40:20

Why are they always having to poop in like the most random

40:22

places?

40:24

You guys. My kids love to poop in public

40:26

places. It's like their passion, I think. So

40:28

I'll go to socialize with you. Sorry for

40:30

the sidebar, but I'll meet you somewhere.

40:33

We're going to a brewery. We're gonna have a nice beer, hang

40:36

out, relax, let the kids run around. No, we're not.

40:38

No, we're

40:38

I'm gonna spend 20 minutes in the bathroom while each

40:40

of my children take a turn. Pooping.

40:43

It's my.

40:44

It's so like, that's life. And so I

40:46

had to take this very like regulated

40:49

preference towards structure and

40:52

adapt to the fact that that is just not

40:54

happening for me right now. So,

40:57

so then it's like, okay, well I've got 20 minutes

41:00

in the car, I've got 10 minutes

41:02

while they do this. And sometimes

41:04

that is time

41:08

and that's fine. And sometimes that is work

41:10

time and sometimes that is Life

41:13

planning time. So I just wanna throw

41:15

that out. For people who, who feel like

41:17

having a really rigid schedule feels really

41:20

overwhelming, like. You

41:22

can do this, you can do it. You

41:24

can find little pockets of time. It

41:27

doesn't all have to be at one time. Like

41:30

do 15 minutes here, do 10 minutes

41:32

there, you know, whatever. And

41:34

find those little pockets to, to

41:37

do, find the nooks and crannies

41:39

in your life to do those

41:41

things and, and add, and

41:45

add. To your life so

41:47

that you can keep working on these goals. sO

41:50

I just, I think that that's important to, to talk

41:52

about because there

41:55

are so many of us who are really structured and

41:57

who love structure and then there are so many of

42:00

us who that is really, um, scary

42:02

for, you know, and, who

42:05

want structure, but their life doesn't facilitate

42:07

that right now because their children are pooping

42:09

every public place that they

42:11

go

42:12

Constantly. Constantly. Okay.

42:14

So we visualized, we're creating

42:17

our action plan. We're breaking all those

42:19

actions into tiny little tasks. So

42:21

there it, so it's manageable and it's not overwhelming,

42:23

and you've got a list. Okay. I

42:25

would be remiss, Susie, I'm gonna do this

42:27

for us. We need to have a task list and

42:29

we need to have that task list. In one place.

42:32

We don't need 17 task lists. We

42:34

need one place that we go to that

42:36

has all of the things that we're doing, and we

42:38

need to be looking at that every single day and checking things

42:40

off our task list and assigning reassigning.

42:43

If we, if you don't get through your task list today, fine,

42:45

just move that to tomorrow. But you need to have

42:47

a task list. You need to

42:49

have it in one place and you need to be able to find it. So like

42:52

17,000 sheets of paper, you guys probably

42:54

not the best system to stay

42:56

organized so that you can stay on track to achieve these

42:58

goals. My apologies for all you slips

43:00

of paper people. I understand. I like them too.

43:03

If you're a paper person, you need a notebook. One

43:05

single notebook, not 17 notebooks.

43:08

Jennifer Vick looking at you, one single

43:10

notebook, to keep

43:12

track of all of your tasks and all

43:14

of the things that

43:15

I don't know what you

43:18

are talking about.

43:20

So for our audio listeners,

43:22

what you're talking about,

43:24

1, 2, 3, 4 different

43:26

notebooks in her hands right now. Oh five. So

43:29

we are, she is this,

43:31

I'm like not just talking to Jennifer Vic,

43:33

No, I love a written notebook, but

43:35

I also keep everything on my phone so you

43:37

can be that person. I like

43:39

to write things down. And

43:41

sometimes I write them down in multiple places, but I, I

43:43

do keep everything on my phone and

43:46

I am

43:46

got like a master.

43:47

uhhuh, but sometimes I just need

43:49

to write it.

43:51

And some resources for this. You guys, if you need

43:53

a place where you can keep track of like all

43:55

these goals, Asana is a great

43:57

place and they've got a free version, and you

43:59

can organize by your different categories

44:01

of goals, you know, all your different visions

44:03

if you would, or Google has

44:05

task lists, um, could be using.

44:08

If you're a Compass agent like me, use

44:10

the Compass task list. You know, there's,

44:12

there's so many resources. Or use a spreadsheet

44:14

if you're gonna keep it open and you can check it off every single

44:17

day. Just find that place

44:19

and hopefully it's somewhere that you can have it

44:21

everywhere you go so that you can really stay

44:24

on top of it. And in those nooks and crannies, when you

44:26

find five minutes in your day, you can pull up that task

44:28

list and say, oh, I did that, I did that, I did that. Actually,

44:31

I'm not gonna have time for that. I'm moving that to tomorrow. You

44:33

know, change the due date on it and stuff. So. Do

44:37

that. Okay. So we've now we've

44:39

got the, we've got all our little tiny manageable

44:42

tasks. We are setting deadlines

44:44

and milestones for those tasks so

44:46

that we can stay on top of it. So if

44:48

I have the goal to, if,

44:50

if Colleen and I have the goal and the vision to

44:52

do this retreat this year, and we have

44:55

now set a deadline that like we need

44:57

to have pricing, lodging information

45:00

out to our What

45:03

are you guys Our friends, our

45:05

friends. Our friends by

45:07

March, April, like six months ahead. So

45:09

now we've set that deadline and now when

45:12

we are running things through our filter, our vision

45:14

board, like that's gonna

45:16

have to be a priority because we've set this deadline for ourselves

45:19

and

45:20

and we've made it.

45:21

little task is,

45:24

is on a sooner deadline so that we

45:26

can meet this big deadline for that

45:27

And here's a tip. If

45:29

you have a goal, like this is a big tip, I

45:31

think. You have to tell somebody because

45:35

then it makes it real, right? Like we've

45:37

been talking about this retreat, we've been talking about it, we've been talking

45:39

about it. We've been starting to put some plans

45:41

together. Then we announced it to

45:44

the world, and now

45:46

we're like, oh.

45:48

Here we

45:48

Here we go. Now we actually have to do this. This

45:50

is no longer a dream. This is a reality. You

45:53

have to do it. So tell somebody,

45:55

and it doesn't matter who it is. You

45:57

just tell somebody. It can be the lady who

45:59

waxes your eyebrows. It can be the

46:01

grocery checker,

46:03

it can be your mom or

46:05

dad. It literally can be anybody. But you have

46:08

to tell somebody so that

46:10

it's real, preferably somebody

46:12

who's gonna be supportive. Don't tell somebody who's gonna

46:14

be a hater, but, or maybe that

46:16

motivates you.

46:18

Yeah, get rid of the hater readers. Okay,

46:20

so now we are reviewing and adapting

46:23

and staying committed and flexible. That is throughout

46:25

that, that goes like throughout this whole

46:27

process. We're visualizing our success. We're

46:29

staying flexible. We're reviewing and

46:31

adapting as needed. We're staying committed. Persistence

46:34

is key. We talked about this already. If you

46:36

quit something you want to do, you failed. Otherwise

46:39

you didn't. It's just all steps along the path

46:41

and the path to where

46:44

you wanna go may not be linear. You

46:46

may go up and down and up and down and three steps backwards

46:48

and two steps forward and all of that. But if you

46:51

just stay committed and you are persistent,

46:53

then you will succeed. In

46:56

one shape or form. Okay. And

46:58

then seek support and feedback. So

47:00

this is my favorite thing to do. I

47:02

love, I love to crowdsource. But

47:04

you know, if I have a goal, I

47:07

was thinking about this yesterday, so I'm building out the budget for

47:09

the retreat and like what we need to

47:11

spend and. Susie,

47:13

Jennifer and Eliza are doing micro,

47:16

like two day retreats basically right

47:18

now. Every month. they

47:21

have a system for this. You better bet

47:23

your ass. I will be making the phone call to them and be

47:25

like, what does your budget look like? Here's what mine looks

47:27

like. What did I forget? Is there anything that you

47:29

know? And and use? Use resources

47:31

and use tools. So if you think I

47:34

don't go to chat. GPT. Three times

47:36

a day to be like, how should I be doing this? You're

47:38

crazy. GPT is really great at

47:40

like making you actionable, actionable

47:43

lists and like, okay, I

47:45

need, I need to create a budget for this thing

47:47

I'm doing. Get as specific as you can when you're putting information

47:50

into that thing. I'm creating a retreat

47:52

for women entrepreneurs. I want it to be a holistic

47:55

focus. Mind, body, soul, da da. I

47:58

Want it to be three nights. I'd like it to be in. Some are

48:00

beautiful in the fall and I

48:02

want there to be excursions, this and that, and all these

48:04

things. What items should

48:06

I plan for on my budget? And

48:09

it's going to then kick out things

48:11

that maybe you didn't think about or maybe you had already thought about 'em,

48:13

or maybe Maybe that maybe

48:16

you're at a block and you can't start, like

48:18

you just can't get started. Go there and

48:20

use that tool or that resource first

48:23

to get the juices flowing and get you going. I'm

48:26

also a huge component. This

48:28

probably should have come earlier, but like brain dump, like

48:31

sit down. I guess they used this, used to be called stream

48:33

of consciousness in school or whatever, but like just

48:36

sit down and dump everything

48:38

out of your brain somewhere and

48:40

then Look at it and

48:42

it will create more ideas and like it'll

48:44

help you decide like what direction you need to

48:46

go first. And it can help just put you

48:48

on the path. So maybe that's kind of vision boarding, brainstorming,

48:52

all of that. Like just dump your brain

48:55

and then show someone like, hey. Friend

48:58

over here. I know you have a really big

49:00

strength in marketing. Like, this

49:03

is what I'm doing this year. This are where my thoughts so far,

49:05

like what do you think? Use

49:07

that

49:08

Use your.

49:08

rise by lifting others and surround

49:11

Yeah, surround yourself with other people that are doing the

49:13

same. So really

49:15

on a, just on my soapbox

49:17

over here, feeling very passionately about these

49:20

I a hundred percent agree, and I am somebody

49:22

who and my husband, for

49:24

better or for worse, is like the person

49:26

for me. So if I am like,

49:29

I'm really upset about this, I just need to vomit

49:31

out all the things that are in my mind right

49:34

now for me, I have to say them, right?

49:36

And that means give saying them to another

49:38

person and usually means it's David, poor

49:40

guy. And I'll be like, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,

49:43

blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And

49:46

I, he has learned, he doesn't need to tell me

49:48

what to do with that. I just

49:50

needed to say those things

49:52

to somebody else to literally get

49:55

them out of my mind so

49:57

that I could think more clearly or more focused.

49:59

You know, very early on, he wanted to solve

50:01

those problems for me, and I'm like, I don't want you to.

50:05

yes, I, that was what I was gonna say. How great is

50:07

that? He, he's. Now been

50:09

conditioned to know like, I'm just talking and

50:11

I just need you to listen and just be supportive in

50:13

the background. But you guys, it's completely

50:16

okay to tell whoever you're talking to. Like, Hey,

50:18

I just need to brain dump right now. I'm not

50:21

looking for solutions. I'm just

50:23

looking for an ear. And please

50:25

preface those conversations. I find myself often,

50:27

one of the things that I do for

50:29

work is I support au pairs

50:31

and host families through their time together

50:34

and conflict arises. It's just reality and.

50:38

I sometimes the au pairs will reach out and

50:40

they're like, brain dumping or

50:42

emotion dumping, whatever you wanna call it. And

50:44

I immediately go into, well, have you tried this? Have you tried this? Have

50:46

you tried this? I, I need to

50:48

remember to ask them as the receiver of

50:50

this, are you looking for a

50:53

solution or are you looking to vent?

50:54

Yeah.

50:55

Let me know which hat you'd like me to put on.

50:58

I have both. My default

51:00

is to solve all your problems, but

51:02

if that is not what you want from me today,

51:04

I just need to know that that's not what you want from me today

51:07

and, and I need to do that for Alex, and

51:09

I need to do that for my friends and my mom. When

51:12

I'm calling to vent, I just need

51:14

to remind them like, this conversation is

51:16

a vent. This isn't a problem solving session.

51:18

Yeah, my friend bhavna is very good

51:20

at that. Like, we'll, I'll, we'll be text, I'll

51:22

text or something or whatever, and she, she will say,

51:24

do you need support or do you want feedback?

51:28

And a lot of times I'll say, I

51:31

want a little bit of both Like,

51:33

that's what I

51:34

Fir. Start with support and then we'll

51:36

transition into

51:37

And I think that's. So

51:40

imperative to the planning vision

51:42

process. You have to be able to

51:45

have a way to kind of dump

51:47

these things because there's gonna be a lot

51:49

that you're, and this also has a lot to

51:51

do with, especially for women, the mental load, right? Like all

51:53

the things that you're holding

51:56

onto in order to get really hyper-focused

51:58

on what you're trying to do. You might have to do that. You

52:01

probably do. You probably just have to dump all the

52:03

things out. I in

52:05

a way that is probably it. Like

52:07

don't be abusive to your spouse, don't

52:10

yell at your spouse, because I am very guilty

52:12

of just being like, oh, blah, blah, blah. There's

52:14

so much laundry and there's so much dishes and I can't handle

52:16

it all, and blah, blah blah, and just have a meltdown. And he's

52:18

like, Ugh. But

52:20

sometimes that's what I need to do in

52:23

order to be like, oh God, okay.

52:26

Okay. Now I can work on this project because

52:29

I just hold. We are all holding on to so

52:31

much

52:33

Right,

52:33

time.

52:35

right. Okay, so the last step

52:37

in all of this, you guys celebrate

52:39

your success, celebrate your accomplishments.

52:42

Like there's this book called The

52:44

Gap in the Game. I think it's by Dan Sullivan. I'll

52:46

put it in the show notes. The premise behind

52:48

it is imagine yourself climbing a

52:50

mountain. If you are always looking at the peak

52:53

at the summit. It's like, oh my

52:55

God, I have, I have so far to go. Like, you're

52:57

only ever looking up. How, how

52:59

much more work you have to do. But if you

53:01

stop and you turn around and

53:03

you look at how far you've come, that

53:05

is worth celebrating and that will,

53:07

that will help remotivate

53:10

you and that will

53:12

help you stay consistent and stay persistent

53:14

because you've, you're looking at how

53:16

far you've come and not just constantly

53:18

beating up. About how far you have

53:20

to go. So when you're climbing this

53:23

mountain towards these big visions, towards these

53:25

big goals, stop, turn

53:27

around and look at everything you've

53:29

done. And I bet you'll be really

53:31

impressed with yourself and that deserves celebrating.

53:34

absolutely. And we're here to celebrate

53:36

with you. We'll like cheer you

53:40

to bits

53:42

Yes. Thank you for listening. I

53:44

hope you guys walk away today feeling like super

53:46

motivated and inspired and with a

53:48

plan that you can put into place in your own life

53:50

so that you can turn your visions into your, into

53:53

your summit, and you can turn around and see how

53:55

far you've come and celebrate. So cheers.

53:58

Happy New Year.

53:59

Yeah, and share those things with us, like let

54:01

us champion your dreams. Like if

54:04

there's a way, and Cheryl and I will always say this

54:06

and I know we have to wrap up, but if you

54:08

have a big goal or you have a big dream and

54:10

you need help with that, that's

54:12

literally what we love to do, so, so please

54:14

let us know and let us know how we can be helpful

54:17

or let us know and maybe we have resources

54:19

that can help you with that. So please

54:21

reach out

54:22

Teamwork makes the dream work. Guys

54:23

happy.

54:24

happy New Year. Talk to you soon.