In Episode 16, Zam is all fired up to talk about a common problem in our Brown communities: staring. Ruhi and Zam share their uncomfortable stories of being stared at from instances that were just plain ridiculous and laughable, to situations t

15 // I can't tell my mother anything without all of my aunties hearing about it.

Mar 5th, 2020 31m 4s

In Episode 15, Zam and Ruhi discuss their struggle to trust their mothers with the personal details of their lives, for fear that the information will be passed onto others. Then they talk about how they manage the relationship with their mums

14 // I'm still recovering from the way I was 'disciplined' as a child.

Feb 27th, 2020 32m 31s

In Episode 14, Zam and Ruhi talk about how they were 'disciplined' as children. Often, the lines were blurred between discipline and punishment. And unfortunately, such frequent and intense punishment has had lifelong effects. Ruhi and Zam then

13 // Sometimes, we suck at self-care. What then?

Feb 19th, 2020 28m 27s

Over the holidays, Zam attended a wellness retreat in New Zealand while Ruhi travelled to Bali for some time off. Both came back with some new self-care rituals they were keen to implement into their routines. But two weeks later, it all went o

End of year wrap up. Catch you in 2020!

Dec 14th, 2019 1m 4s

A big thank you to our dear listeners! We have some exciting episodes lined up for Season 2, coming out in 2020. We'd love your input. Head to our Facebook page - tell us your topic ideas and questions! If you have a minute, please rate this po

11 // How I'm Reclaiming my Creativity - Part One

Dec 1st, 2019 16m 31s

In Episode 11, Zam and Ruhi talk about how they were pushed to study Maths and Science related subjects in school, at the expense of being able to explore their more creative interests.Have your parents pushed you to study certain subjects that

12 // How I'm Reclaiming my Creativity - Part Two

Dec 1st, 2019 16m 29s

In Episode 12, Zam and Ruhi talk about how they are pushing through the barriers that were set up during their childhoods to push them into careers relating to Maths, Science or other paths their parents deemed appropriate. If this is something

10 // I'm trying to stop snapping at my mother.

Nov 20th, 2019 22m 25s

In Episode 10, Zam and Ruhi talk about how they can't help but be impatient and snappy with their mums. They are both trying to be kinder, after years of having extra short fuses when it comes to their dear mothers. They look at why this might

9 // How to approach a difficult discussion with your family.

Nov 13th, 2019 22m 47s

In Episode 9, Zam shares helpful tips that have worked for her on how to have a successful family meeting about an issue that matters to you. Ruhi loves her advice but also acknowledges that in some families, you can try as hard as you like and

8 // I need to stop parenting my sibling.

Nov 6th, 2019 23m 37s

In Episode 8, Zam and Ruhi talk about how they took on the role of parenting their younger siblings and how they are just trying to be big sisters instead of 'little mothers' now. Head to our Facebook page and let us know if you struggle with l

7 // I'm not supposed to breastfeed in public.

Oct 30th, 2019 16m 31s

In Episode 7, Ruhi talks about being frowned upon by her father when she breastfed her baby in front of his guests instead of going into a different room. Zam and Ruhi then discuss the wider cultural issue of hostility at worst and discomfort a

6 // My Mum threw a party when I got my first period.

Oct 23rd, 2019 26m 14s

In Episode 6, Zam & Ruhi share their 'getting my period for the first time' stories. They were unprepared and ill-informed to say the least. They then talk about how they each went about de-stigmatizing menstruation in their own families. If yo

5 // Superstitions are ruining my life.

Oct 16th, 2019 16m 43s

In Episode 5, Zam and Ruhi talk about some of the ridiculous superstitions they have been told to live by in their childhoods. They also take a look at the serious side of superstitions and how damaging they can be at times. Ever been told by y

4 // How I'm dealing with the pressure to get married.

Oct 9th, 2019 23m 1s

In Episode 4, we talk about where the pressure comes from to get married. Zam shares about how she has dealt with the immense pressure her parents have been putting on her to find a life partner for the past 8 years. Though there's no hurry, sh

3 // My mother is obsessed with the way I look.

Oct 9th, 2019 24m 3s

In Episode 3, we talk about our exasperation at the beauty standards imposed on brown women by our culture and in particular, our mothers. Ruhi tells us how she got her mother to stop obsessing over her appearance and how she is going to take a

2 // I'm tired of performing for the people around me.

Oct 9th, 2019 18m 15s

In Episode 2, Zam talks about how she recently started seeing a Psychologist when she noticed that she was feeling down more often than not. The first session was life-altering. It became clear that the reason for her emotions was a major disc

1 // Hello.

Oct 9th, 2019 5m 41s

In Episode 1, we introduce ourselves and invite you to join our Podcast Community on Facebook, Young, Brown and Not Entirely Free. Pop in to say hello. Can't wait to meet you!Co-hosts: Zam & Ruhi Music composed by: Aman DemblaProduced by: Ruhi

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