Vincci Tsui, a mother of a three-year-old, balances her parenting knowledge from how she was raised with what she believes to be best for her daughter. We discuss what we’ve learned from our parents and what has been taught to us from living in a western society. Which teachings to adopt and which to unlearn? What fea... more
It’s official, Kristy is now single after a 6-year relationship. In this episode, we process the emotions after a breakup, recognize what is “overly independent”, and discuss fears of the future after losing a partner. Our Shit is a series where we update our lives with each other and how we cope with its challenges.“I... more
Angie has been cheated on. Kristy has done the cheating. Inspired by the recent events in the Try Guys, we chat about our own experiences with infidelity including physical cheating, emotional cheating, micro-cheating, work crushes, and how to move on. “You're not a cheater, [...] you had cheated. But you’re not a che... more
Kristy and Angie sit down to talk about adult friendships during Kristy's road trip across Canada. Analogies are made, lyrics are quoted, and tears are (almost) shed."I'm gonna hedge my bets if I have a lot of friends that are within the close circle. If a few of them left, then I'd be fine. As long as I keep filling t... more
Tam is in the “middle generation”. The balance between talking about mental health with her parents and learning how to teach her son to be in tune with his mental well-being. We discuss:her parents talking her out of using therapypeople-pleasing tendencies as a survival tactichow to be there for other people but also ... more
What is your attachment style? Have you always wanted to do one but are not sure how it’ll go? We’ll do the quiz and narrate as we go and share some of our childhood memories and…well the answer may surprise you! Angie asked how understanding attachment helped in her current relationship and Kristy gave us a relationsh... more
We decided to share a popular episode from season 1 from the summer of 2020 about how we talked ourselves out of our depressive episodes. We share audio clips of our actual voice messages with each other to show our realistic experiences, thoughts, and feelings. We talk about potential coping methods and understanding ... more
Angie always imaged having babies. Kristy is on team no kids. But lately, they’ve both been having different thoughts. In this episode, we explore why we originally wanted/not wanted babies and why we are changing our minds. We also chat about endometriosis, discussing babies when dating, abandonment fears, trust issue... more
**Content Warning: Death, Depression, Suicide**We are joined by psychotherapist Shirvin Lee who gets vulnerable and shares her childhood traumas of facing sexism and insurmountable pressures from her family. We also learn how to process and understand emotions better.“Happiness is not the baseline.” - ShirvinResources/... more
This is an intimate story about my recent breakup with my partner of 6 years. I share my fear of judgment from friends, staying vs. leaving the relationship, the lessons learned, and how I plan to move forward. “I can’t just keep quitting every time something goes wrong in a relationship” - Kristy Resources/MentionsPai... more
Toronto. Teenhood. Puberty. Friendships. Filial Piety. Emotions! The movie Turning Red is about a 13-year-old girl who is torn between her duties to walk down the path paved by her ancestors and her desire to find her own path. Kristy and Angie, both of whom happen to have been 13-year-old girls in the early 2000’s, we... more
Justine shares stories of telling her Catholic Filipino parents about dating a black man, potentially not getting married, and potentially not having kids - even though she wants 4 of them. We explore why women tend to choose “fixer-uppers”, and why we are fixated on romantic relationships to bring us happiness. She's ... more
Are we loveable? Insecurities can stem from so many different sources but how do we manage them and prevent them from ruining our current and future relationships? We dive into our experiences with our past and figure out how to notice our triggers and re-work our thinking so we can have healthier relationships. **Con... more
Teacher by day, gogo dancer by night. We discuss (rant) how we deal with nagging mothers, life as a gogo-dancer, struggling with body image, and how to make hard life decisions. "No one is really looking at you. They're so concerned about their own lives. They have no time to judge you. And even if they do, it's such a... more
Inner child. Trauma. Reparenting. The Little Prince. In this episode, we sit down to talk about the first time that we confronted our inner child and how we rekindled that relationship. We dive into our definition of inner child and how we practice hanging out with our inner child. Angie also shares her experience with... more
Mimi Young is a spirit communicator. She left the corporate 9-5 world to invest in a relationship with the unseen. In this episode, we explore how Shamanism is a way to honor our ancestry, what is dream hygiene and how you can benefit, and how to get back in touch with your cultural roots that have been lost through mi... more
After being hospitalized for a week, Anuradha gets diagnosed with dysthymia. Then things got messy. Unintentionally triggering friends. Fighting with parents about using medication. And what self-care looks like right now. Anuradha is a fellow mental health advocate in the South Asian community. She shares her experien... more
Adult friendships. Confrontations. Empathy. Responsibilities. We confront our uncomfortable thoughts and compare our friendship and partnership to a romantic relationship. They talk about their mental health and how that has affected their time management and relationships.Takeaways:Having doubts about something does n... more
Self-shaming. Struggling relationship. Disappointing Chinese Christian parents. Lucas Ng, Canadian actor and co-host of “Have We Made It Yet” podcast, shares how he got fired from his job triggered a cascade of endless negative self-talk, thoughts of self-harm, and eventually going to therapy 5 years later. **Content W... more
IUDs. Sex during periods. Pain. Discomfort. The tampon tax and all the other costs associated with our menstruations. Kristy and Angie tackle some burning questions about the ever so enduring, unbelievably persistent, biological event we unwillingly go through - our periods. We hit up our male friends and asked them to... more
What is it like to date a narcissist? What happens when you get triggered by other people’s breakup? Living with depression and bipolar, we sometimes wonder if we are the “bad” person in a relationship. So when a narcissist who seems like the “perfect” person comes along and gaslights you, you might end up believing th... more
Xixi Wang, founder of Asians for Sex Positivity, discusses what sex positivity means for Xixi and her relationship with her immigrant parents as a queer Asian. We discuss mental health stigma and finding gratitude for our parents as we get older.**CONTENT WARNING: Suicidal thoughts** Takeaway:Sex positivity is not ab... more
Kristy discusses coping mechanisms for anxiety. What helps us vs. what makes it worse. Moving to a new city is not turning out to be the way she expected and she feels incredibly overwhelmed. She sits down with Angie to talk about her experience, and about coping mechanisms for anxiety and what helps us versus what pro... more
Kristy and Angie are back for a new season and they update everyone on what has been going on in their lives. Angie talks about (puppy) parenting guilt and Kristy talks about living her new life in another city. Angie reflects on a childhood incident that had impacted her deeply. Kristy reflects on pursuing an experien... more
Angie and Kristy go through the 36 Questions to Fall in Love questions to get to know each. Do they fall in love? Listen now to find out. Winky face. This episode was recorded on IG Live on the day of our 1 year podversary! **Content Warning: Child Abuse Highlights: Kristy’s experience running away from home Angie’... more