Vincci Tsui, a mother of a three-year-old, balances her parenting knowledge from how she was raised with what she believes to be best for her daughter. We discuss what we’ve learned from our parents and what has been taught to us from living i

53. Our Shit: What Happens After A Break Up?

Oct 23rd, 2022 52m 21s

It’s official, Kristy is now single after a 6-year relationship. In this episode, we process the emotions after a breakup, recognize what is “overly independent”, and discuss fears of the future after losing a partner. Our Shit is a series wher

52. How Do We Define Cheating in a Relationship?

Oct 9th, 2022 1h 3m

Angie has been cheated on. Kristy has done the cheating. Inspired by the recent events in the Try Guys, we chat about our own experiences with infidelity including physical cheating, emotional cheating, micro-cheating, work crushes, and how to

51. The Joy and Grief of Adult Friendships

Sep 25th, 2022 49m 41s

Kristy and Angie sit down to talk about adult friendships during Kristy's road trip across Canada. Analogies are made, lyrics are quoted, and tears are (almost) shed."I'm gonna hedge my bets if I have a lot of friends that are within the close

50. How to Heal from Childhood Trauma as a Vietnamese-American Daughter going into Motherhood ft. Tam Tran

Sep 11th, 2022 1h 20m

Tam is in the “middle generation”. The balance between talking about mental health with her parents and learning how to teach her son to be in tune with his mental well-being. We discuss:her parents talking her out of using therapypeople-pleasi

49. Attachment Style…It Makes You Feel Some Type of Way

Aug 28th, 2022 47m 53s

What is your attachment style? Have you always wanted to do one but are not sure how it’ll go? We’ll do the quiz and narrate as we go and share some of our childhood memories and…well the answer may surprise you! Angie asked how understanding a

48. Dopamine, Distractions, and Depression (Re-release)

Aug 15th, 2022 59m 8s

We decided to share a popular episode from season 1 from the summer of 2020 about how we talked ourselves out of our depressive episodes. We share audio clips of our actual voice messages with each other to show our realistic experiences, thoug

47. To Have or Not to Have Babies... and Why

Jul 31st, 2022 50m 20s

Angie always imaged having babies. Kristy is on team no kids. But lately, they’ve both been having different thoughts. In this episode, we explore why we originally wanted/not wanted babies and why we are changing our minds. We also chat about

46. Unlearning Internalized Sexism in Your Family and Learning Self-Validation ft. Shirvin Lee

Jul 17th, 2022 49m 30s

**Content Warning: Death, Depression, Suicide**We are joined by psychotherapist Shirvin Lee who gets vulnerable and shares her childhood traumas of facing sexism and insurmountable pressures from her family. We also learn how to process and und

45. Our Shit: What I Learned from Breaking Up a 6 Year Relationship

Jul 3rd, 2022 51m 45s

This is an intimate story about my recent breakup with my partner of 6 years. I share my fear of judgment from friends, staying vs. leaving the relationship, the lessons learned, and how I plan to move forward. “I can’t just keep quitting every

44. Turning Red: Nostalgia and Intergenerational Trauma (Season 3 Finale)

Apr 3rd, 2022 44m 45s

Toronto. Teenhood. Puberty. Friendships. Filial Piety. Emotions! The movie Turning Red is about a 13-year-old girl who is torn between her duties to walk down the path paved by her ancestors and her desire to find her own path. Kristy and Angie

43. How to Give Less F***s About Dating and Marriage & Find Your Own Happiness ft. Justine Ang Fonte

Mar 20th, 2022 57m 16s

Justine shares stories of telling her Catholic Filipino parents about dating a black man, potentially not getting married, and potentially not having kids - even though she wants 4 of them. We explore why women tend to choose “fixer-uppers”, an

42. How Do We Know If We're Loveable?

Mar 6th, 2022 59m 10s

Are we loveable? Insecurities can stem from so many different sources but how do we manage them and prevent them from ruining our current and future relationships? We dive into our experiences with our past and figure out how to notice our trig

41. Living a Secret Double Life ft. Special Guest

Feb 20th, 2022 1h 2m

Teacher by day, gogo dancer by night. We discuss (rant) how we deal with nagging mothers, life as a gogo-dancer, struggling with body image, and how to make hard life decisions. "No one is really looking at you. They're so concerned about their

40. Hanging Out With Your Inner Child

Feb 6th, 2022 53m 10s

Inner child. Trauma. Reparenting. The Little Prince. In this episode, we sit down to talk about the first time that we confronted our inner child and how we rekindled that relationship. We dive into our definition of inner child and how we prac

39. Using Witchcraft to Connect with Our Chinese Ancestry ft. Mimi Young

Jan 23rd, 2022 56m 31s

Mimi Young is a spirit communicator. She left the corporate 9-5 world to invest in a relationship with the unseen. In this episode, we explore how Shamanism is a way to honor our ancestry, what is dream hygiene and how you can benefit, and how

38. Experiences in the Psych Ward for Suicidal Ideations ft. Tanushree Sengupta

Jan 9th, 2022 48m 37s

After being hospitalized for a week, Tanushree gets diagnosed with dysthymia. Then things got messy. Unintentionally triggering friends. Fighting with parents about using medication. And what self-care looks like right now. Tanushree is a fello

37. Our Shit: Adult Friendships and How to Be a Better Friend

Dec 26th, 2021 1h

Adult friendships. Confrontations. Empathy. Responsibilities. We confront our uncomfortable thoughts and compare our friendship and partnership to a romantic relationship. They talk about their mental health and how that has affected their time

36. Negative Self-Talk and Equating Our Self-Worth with Productivity ft. Lucas Ng

Dec 12th, 2021 56m 23s

Self-shaming. Struggling relationship. Disappointing Chinese Christian parents. Lucas Ng, Canadian actor and co-host of “Have We Made It Yet” podcast, shares how he got fired from his job triggered a cascade of endless negative self-talk, thoug

35. The Financial, Physical, and Mental Costs of Our Periods

Nov 28th, 2021 53m 4s

IUDs. Sex during periods. Pain. Discomfort. The tampon tax and all the other costs associated with our menstruations. Kristy and Angie tackle some burning questions about the ever so enduring, unbelievably persistent, biological event we unwill

34. I Dated A Narcissist For 6 Years

Nov 14th, 2021 40m 41s

What is it like to date a narcissist? What happens when you get triggered by other people’s breakup? Living with depression and bipolar, we sometimes wonder if we are the “bad” person in a relationship. So when a narcissist who seems like the “

33. Forgiveness and Gratitude From a Queer Chinese Daughter ft. Xixi Wang

Oct 31st, 2021 43m 35s

Xixi Wang, founder of Asians for Sex Positivity, discusses what sex positivity means for Xixi and her relationship with her immigrant parents as a queer Asian. We discuss mental health stigma and finding gratitude for our parents as we get olde

32. Our Shit: How to Process and Manage Anxiety

Oct 17th, 2021 36m 19s

Kristy discusses coping mechanisms for anxiety. What helps us vs. what makes it worse. Moving to a new city is not turning out to be the way she expected and she feels incredibly overwhelmed. She sits down with Angie to talk about her experienc

31. Our Shit: Parenting Guilt and Living For Our Own Happiness

Oct 3rd, 2021 59m 54s

Kristy and Angie are back for a new season and they update everyone on what has been going on in their lives. Angie talks about (puppy) parenting guilt and Kristy talks about living her new life in another city. Angie reflects on a childhood in

30. Friendship, Forgiveness, and Childhood Trauma (Season 2 Finale)

Aug 8th, 2021 1h 12m

Angie and Kristy go through the 36 Questions to Fall in Love questions to get to know each. Do they fall in love? Listen now to find out. Winky face. This episode was recorded on IG Live on the day of our 1 year podversary! **Content Warning: